Why Don't Guys Ask Me Out? | Christian Dating Advice

[@victoriafhicks]

I love that he’s just sitting there eating them drops random truth bombs and goes back to his bowl😂

[@CM-kr3rj]

Victoria Hicks Hicks lol

[@carrionbone6571]

My last brain cell tbh

[@yaelrar.4460]

So typical of guys😄

[@denergized7993]

Victoria Hicks Hicks 😆😆😆😆😆

[@db4419]

😂

[@madisonfloyd6795]

James has a perfect voice for radio or cartoons 👀

[@elizabethpritchard8908]

So true!

[@alanamarie7114]

He sounds like Steve from Blues Clues!

[@liamfr7918]

Ft

[@emmagreenland-broadsmith6841]

James has such a thoughtful face while he's eating.

[@TiffanyDawn]

LOL he really does!!😂

[@emmagreenland-broadsmith6841]

Are you talking to me or Tiffany?? I'm wearing a dress with a high neckline...

[@hephzibahmakhetha4371]

😂😂😂

[@raymundnucaza2176]

Hihi

[@mariea82]

They are both lovely people ❤️

[@PaulandMorgan]

Love your first tip of being approachable! I think that’s huge, a guy wants to feel like he won’t be shut down if he gets the courage to ask you out :) Your all’s insight is great!

[@yuliyalyube]

Paul and Morgan so true. Being friendly is helpful

[@PaulandMorgan]

Yuliya Lyube 😊😊

[@rebeccamclaren97]

Yuliya Lyube I feel like when I try to be friendly I come across as desperate? I never seem to be able to connect because I think I try too hard to be friendly.. and then I end up having a really formal conversation because I'm too forced when trying to socialise. You probably guessed, I don't have m(any)/men-ny friends. I need help :×

[@wowza935]

Who would've thought not looking like u had a stick implanted in ur ass would make someone more inclined to approach u

[@Ayyy-lmao]

If the girl likes you it shouldnt even be an effort to talk to them

[@maceyreed6668]

I needed to hear all of this. I definitely need to work on being more approachable and friendly, I tend to be cold stone faced and quiet until I get used to being around new guys. Thank you so much for this encouragement!!

[@TiffanyDawn]

I have definitely been that way too!!

[@hannahmurphy2894]

Same with me! 😊

[@kizarumelon2477]

YOUR GONNA BE SINGLE FOR LIFE LMAOOO

[@nickwilliamson6726]

Lol guys feel the same way you know.

[@davidstevens5808]

Why didn't you want to go out with me? 🤔 I want to approach you but there's a cold face glaring at me. 😞

[@ashlen8717]

“Still can’t play guitar.” 😂😂

[@davidstevens5808]

How about a date? 😊

[@chaimae4994]

1-Be friendly 2-Expand ur horizons 3-meet more people 4-u can ask him out And ur not alone

[@mikes.8120]

@xwinniez we’re equal now remember

[@BillClinton228]

Females think they are above asking out any man... unless he's extremely attractive.

[@Dman9fp]

@@BillClinton228 As someone who use to be very attractive in high school & college (around 08-2015), I've never been asked out. Know not to have expectations for these sorts of things, and when I was confident I could at least momentarily draw at least some women in (tho now my rationality & passions can be crippling, let alone so many women hate rationality and need to be in control nowadays).. tho there's this myth of "oh wow you are too hot to be single" but as a guy it's never "oh wow girls are cray, yeah you do you" but all "man you need to get your $**t in gear", least the vibes I got. I get what the research says, men who marry live longer yada yada, I despise this world overall, and the heights and energies I must spend/ go to be resilient and just stay afloat in this damn world is too much to stay here forever... But back on topic. I'm sure girls like that exist, tho maybe I intimidated some girls(?).. of course they feel entitled, also that there must be something seriously wrong with guys if they are that hot and single, even if subconsciously. Yet you hold a girls hand anywhere in school or make out, bam A Lot more women like ya. It's a weird subconscious phenomena, and one, especially being hardcore christian at the time, I couldn't just intentionally make girls envious... Not that I wish to go back to grade school days, I know they were overall hell/ juvenile prison. And I especially hated working retail. Still a blessing in disguise some keeper b#tch didn't claim me over the years, seriously a mystery, they had so many chances before I wisened up....

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

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[@kikitam8763]

That's me. Please pray for me. I want to date a godly guy. 😭

[@cosmicrider1751]

Praying won’t do anything, there is no god

[@tonijanelle4400]

I will pray for you, girl. God will place the right one into your life ❤

[@kikitam8763]

@@tonijanelle4400 Thank you 💗

[@CNM2326]

@@cosmicrider1751 lol please don't give advice if you are not in her shoes... let her decide who she wants she can definitely find one in that range but you have to step back and go about your merry way if you don't believe in God.

[@Prince_Oli]

Piss Off you must live a very sad life living without true love. The fact you force your sad Godless religion on her just shows how hypocritical and angry you are.

[@jesuschild07able]

I never could get guys at my church to date me. I was friendly and asked guys out but most Christian guys didn't like me. I was told later it was my very strong personality that Christian guys didn't like. I met the man I am with now and he was saved but not what I had in mind. He started to pursue God more and then we got closer and now we are married.

[@MAR24300]

Jessica Freda can you please share more? Did he even mind your strong personality?

[@mademoisellemsc]

Story of my life. But reading this encourages me.

[@steflondon88]

@cfm1181 nah

[@steflondon88]

You know what the guys who found your personality too strong were just not your type and you probably wouldn't have paired well with them, but that doesn't mean something is wrong with you! God made us as we are and we dont need to apologize for it. Glad you found the right person - Who loves God. which is the most important thing.

[@Agent1W]

Reductio ad Highlander: "There can be only one." Your strong personality and quirks would never be meant for "quantity" but instead reinforce the opposite: quality. You did exactly what I would expect a good woman to do.

[@etakaria]

This is so relevant to me at the moment. I've never had a proper boyfriend, guys just aren't really interested in me and I've never wanted to rush into a relationship or anything. My non christian friends are always saying I need a boyfriend and stuff. Even christian friends always ask about my love life. My family has started now too. I keep getting really stressed and lonely because of it. It makes me feel like there's something wrong with me.

[@rebeccasrandomness3045]

Etakaria I'm in the same situation so you're definitely not alone

[@Fulano.de.Tal.]

Etakaria yeah its tough, i think girls don't know how afraid guys are to approach girls. i was always dead afraid to approach girls, and i felt sad because i really felt attracted to them but i just felt overwhelmed with fear and i know almost all guys feel that way. Most of us guys don't have many female friends (or any at all), so to enter a girl's social circle and life without having common friends to ease the anxiety, is like being a stranger to a village and trying to belong. i know girls feel that guys aren't interested but that appears that way because guys don't approach girls, because guys are dead afraid. some guys are less afraid than others, im more afraid than most guys, but i have rarely met a guy that wasn't somewhat afraid. and i liked what Tiffany said about girls being friendly, that would help me and guys sooo much, whenever i tried talking to girls i could never figure out if they actually liked me or not. guys are really, really, really bad at noticing things. I have been watching Tiffany's videos for months before i realized she was making videos for girls, when i realized i was watching videos for girls i felt really embarrased, and i only realized it because in a video Tiffany said that these videos were for girls and her women's ministry. since guys are really bad at noticing things, and finding out if a girl actually likes us, a girl being friendly and upfront would really help a lot. friendliness helps guys feel like they can belong to the girl's social circle and life, and thats what guys really want. I often read and hear that guys only want dirty things, but thats not true, guys see girls as the gateway to a very different social world, and thats what guys want, to belong to the girl's world, because it intrigues guys on a deep psychological level. friendliness and helping guys feel accepted is what guys look for.

[@Fulano.de.Tal.]

Rebecca's randomness its really tough, i mentioned to etakaria that its because guys are dead afraid, some less than others, but i rarely meet a guy that isnt afraid to approach girls. i would feel very bad and guilty meeting so many pretty girls and feel too overwhelmingly afraid to approach them, and i would see the girls feel disappointed that i didn't approach them and i would beat myself up because i felt it was my fault they felt unwanted and undesirable, but in reality i really felt attracted to them, but it was too hard for me to talk to them. Most guys aren't as afraid as i feel, which is good, most guys will probably approach at least a few girls in their lifetime. Being friendly to guys will help us talk to girls, almost every time i ever did talk to a girl was because they talked to me first, but they only felt comfortable enough to talk to me because they didn't feel attracted me. Talking to someone you're attracted to is really hard, friendliness would really help a lot.

[@etakaria]

Thank you. It's reassuring to know girls aren't the only ones who are scared about this sort of thing. I don't think theres anything wrong with guys watching these videos. Especially when they comment and give their own perspective. I will definitely be aware of being more friendly around guys in the future.

[@TiffanyDawn]

That does sound really stressful! When people always ask that definitely adds to the sense of stress/loneliness. You are definitely not alone!

[@rainydayz6429]

The short of it is that guys just gave up 😂 they don’t care too continue trying anymore.

[@himawarinone3661]

This is the same for a lot of girls, though.

[@otsutsukiindra2647]

@@himawarinone3661 And when did girls ever TRY to approach guys? How can you give up on something you never even tried?

[@MatandEst]

😂😂😂 That first tip was so me when I was younger! I was so cold toward guys...I was just so super shy! I think we have all probably felt like this at some point in our lives! Great tips guys! Loved it!! Also, your hair looks so healthy and bouncy! Loved it! Xxx

[@yuliyalyube]

Mat & Est - ChristianVloggers that was me too

[@godgirl34599]

This was sooo me😂😂 my secret exposed

[@amanday3103]

Mat & Est - ChristianVloggers If I like someone I automatically avoid them

[@marissabergeron6127]

I am 20 and I think I am still cold towards guys realizing that now.

[@amaamzat9913]

ASk hIM OUt?!!!! My heart is beating just thinking about it.

[@pradeep2662]

cause you have to pay?lol

[@xbbt7770]

LOL, please pin this comment. There's loads of guys in here saying "Girls should ask guys out!" I can't explain to them all why that simply won't work.

[@spark300c]

@@xbbt7770 you did know for some guys asking girls simply won't work ether. things get nasty for both parties. it better for right personality type to do the asking. my sister is esfp and she was able to play the game. I am intp and let just say I experience the grip of inferior function and made the girls feel uncomfortable. also make the men feel broken if they are wrong personality type to play the game.

[@spark300c]

and exactly who some guys feel.

[@xbbt7770]

@@spark300c It's not a problem of personality, but confidence. And the way a woman sees it: "If he'd scared of me, a tiny woman, how is he gonna handle the big problems in life?"

[@rebeccamclaren97]

James being there was sooo super helpful... I can finally kind of see the guys perspective now.. P.s you're so cute together 😁

[@ServingChrist]

Here, are some tips for women if they want to increase their odds of meeting more guys: 1. Smile at guys. We will assume you have interest or think we have food in between our teeth. 2. Occasionally, eat alone on the patio of a restaurant or cafe or drink your coffee out on the patio near the sidewalk where people walk by. Then, smile and say hello to guys as they come by. Guys are more inclined to approach you if you are by yourself. 3. Go to the park to walk or jog and post up at places where people tend to congregate to stretch, near the parking lot, outside of bathrooms and what not. And strike up conversations. It is hard to meet people while you are jogging but it is much easier to have these conversations in the places where people tend to congregate. 4. When in conversations with guys, show interest by complimenting guys. A lot of guys are shy and might even misread some of your body language as a lack of interest. Make it clear you are interested if you are and don't leave it to oh they should just know. Guys only just know from the experience of asking out a lot of women which shouldn't be the type of guys you are looking for anyway. Instead, help them and make it easy on them. 5. Put your phone away and take out your earbuds. And walk at a more casual pace. In other words, be approachable and provide more opportunities for guys to approach you. 6. Go to a real estate seminar. Lots of guys will be there and ask guys for help. Guys have an ego and will want to show off their knowledge. 7. Don't use online dating apps. They will become a distraction and a crutch and they don't have good payoff. Instead, put yourself in real life situations where you can meet men like meetup groups, language exchanges, co-ed softball or soccer teams. Online dating apps also give women a false sense of worth. I don't really want to get into that here but just point out that a man showing you interest in real life is worth 100 or 1,000 men doing the same on an online app. 8. If you like a guy just go up and ask him a question and keep the conversation going with some followup questions. Sprinkle in the occasional compliment and most guys will understand what is going on. Some guys will still be too shy because they weren't ready for the situation. But you could always just say to them towards the end "so are you going to ask me out or not?" with big smile. By that time in the conversation, it shouldn't be that big of a deal to ask.

[@samanthajoy3889]

This is AMAZING. Thank you.

[@missNCW]

‘False sense of worth’ not really the right word is it? Women have worth. False sense of something else maybe but men are constantly making women doubt their worth. Based on their age, looks, personality. So since you’ve given all these tips, it’s only fair that I give some: 1. Don’t believe that women have a false sense of ‘worth’. They should feel worthy. But they don’t. Because men’s ‘honesty’ is actually just cruelty disguised as honesty. The kind of men who tell women they are depreciating assets. 2. Just because you’ve encountered women who may be overconfident, that does not mean that the majority go in dating sites and have a false sense of ‘worth’. 3. There’s more types of women than the overconfident ones mentioned above and the shy ones who don’t smile. There’s a lot of women with a healthy confidence who know how to smile. More women like this than you think there are.

[@missNCW]

@@samanthajoy3889 actually they’re all obvious and based on the idea that women don’t *actually* struggle to meet guys. Because if people actually listened to women who say this, they would know that they already TRIED and try these things, and it doesn’t work . But people, especially women who have it easy, and men, don’t believe this do they give the same advice like the women are too naive to have thought of it already. But for the very few who haven’t already heard this 20 million times, yeah it would be helpful. But men need to stop assuming it’s so easy for women. It’s not. There are a lot of horrible men out there. Women do not just want a date, or someone to sleep with. They want a partner. And that is not easier for women, that’s easier for men.

[@johneason6540]

James is right it is hard for guys to ask girls out. And my wife ask me out 25 years ago after meeting at a gas station. All in God's plan

[@churchette96]

God is just taking His time writing me one heck of a love story. 🙌

[@pradeep2662]

hahaha typical woman

[@cowpoke02]

if he ant you had fun on journey .. it is what it is .. what will be will be beside s helping the odds with knowledge .

[@bettergood588]

All the best

[@katyakisele1897]

@Robert Jones That's rude. You shouldn't say that to people. Oh but who am I to talk? I'm just a woman.

[@lovelyana4003]

I love that you explain how rough at times it is for an introvert. I'm the same way. I wish the church family would embrace introverts more often. I'm in a place, that seems like you have to be an extrovert to be part of the group. There loss! I love them amyways.

[@nicatibayan6528]

1. Why am i still single? 2. Why doesnt anybody asked me out? 3. Why doesnt anybody liked me? Oh goodness gracious. Exactly my questions

[@SCRaetz]

1) Are you approachable? 2) Do you love yourself? 3) Are you respectable? Men communicate through respect. If someone's not respectable, they're not going to be approachable or lovable. Ephesians 5:33 gives the direct command for wives to respect their husband. Notice how in the earlier versus he commands men to love their wives. Men = Respect Women = Love

[@ThePred2009]

I feel ur pain im 38 and never had a gf. Id be happy with just some friends to hang out with but nobody even wants to do that.

[@recabitejehonadab2654]

Mark r your not missing anything except head games with psychos and getting dumped for another guy. Your better off keeping to yourself, most so called friends only want to use you and take your money anyways.

[@SCRaetz]

Bro hit up the gym.

[@shin-ishikiri-no]

lol Even Christian guys are becoming MGTOW.

[@cd4playa1245]

Yup basically lol. Na, I'm open to dating but I'm not holding my breath either in life.

[@Kodeeni]

My too, i live in the states and find women have to high of expectations for guys and especially Christian men. I love Jesus but that just doesn’t seem to be enough

[@thethinkingmansgame5050]

Truth!... Christian girls seem the same as non Christian

[@cd4playa1245]

The Thinking Mans Game there are some good Christian girls out there but they do seem very picky and particular about who they date. Kinda have to be a stud or have a six figure job to impress most of them. I mean, life is what it is. There have been a few decent girls I’ve turned down because I simply wasn’t that attracted to them. It goes both ways sometimes.

[@agirlwholovesgod1645]

@Pickel Sandwich they’re not all “ruined”. Just like how some Christian women find it very difficult to find a Christian man with good morals, not a sex demon, and respectful. Maybe it’s a case of looking for love in the wrong places? Idk but I do know that it’s way more challenging to find true real love (especially if you’re a follower of Christ) in today’s world. I see a lot of horrible men and women but I’m not going to shun half of the population and condemn them 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@mckenna_carlin9559]

James is just adorable.....very helpful, very sweet

[@Shanelie]

I just turned 30 and am still single and struggling lately. Appreciate your videos, Tiffany! 💗

[@vince7773]

Hello

[@valorandstrength2829]

Girl same!

[@Shanelie]

eQuariuz I’m not sure what you’re implying, but I’ve been on 2 dates in the last 3 years, have never had a boyfriend, and am saving sex for marriage. I go through phases of loneliness and was struggling at the time I originally commented.

[@philipreisler3323]

@eQuariuz exactly I was talking to this one girl and her definition of struggling was not having had been on a date or a fling in 3 days🤣🤣... all jokes aside everyone is different and applies discipline differently..but I totally get it most modern women nowadays have been brainwashed by feminism.... it's like the juice isn't worth the squeeze anymore .. I know that the juice isn't worth the squeeze anymore...

[@Shanelie]

Pickel Sandwich No, they wanted second dates! But the first dates were horrible and they were not quite who they depicted online. 😒

[@Candace-M-]

When I was in middle school and praying for my future husband (asking God to prepare him for our future marriage) I had the same things on my list: tall, musician, etc and God asked me "Is it okay if he's not a musician but involved in music?" And I thought really hard about it... said yes 😄 after I said yes I wondered if He was basically telling me that my future husband won't be exactly those things or if he really did have someone with those qualities 😄 but I thank God anyway that He knows what is best! 😁 I am married and my husband doesnt sing and isnt a musician but when we met I learned he raps 😂

[@daradarling]

Candace M I've seen some of your comments on Paul and Morgan's channel. You seem so sweet and always have something productive to add. As a single 17 year old girl, I really enjoy reading your insight!

[@nicholasrandall3507]

You chose height over musical involvement. Interesting priorities.

[@beediverse9086]

Awwww this is so awesome

[@Theimmure]

I wonder what that conversation looked like.

[@Candace-M-]

@@Theimmure between who?

[@sk3ffingtonai]

When did women ever buy into the myth they are somehow immune from rejection? It's part of life. Ask any guy.

[@brook5347]

I'm a home schooled highschooler so its a bit harder to meet people but I still love the advice you too have given in this video especially when its a thought that's almost constantly on girls mind

[@TiffanyDawn]

No way!! I was homeschooled too, and so was James! What a small world! :):):)

[@breakingthemasks]

We are everywhere, and we often are late bloomers.

[@cowpoke02]

wish i was home schooled . i would to control my kids education to life skills and talents . think about future jobs and hobbies ... if you work with horses be around women mostly all the time. i worked on farms so was spending lots times with cows and few guys .. haha. keeps you single tired and injured ..

[@graceguetschow4198]

It takes sooooo much courage for a guy to ask a girl out. It does. Because rejection sucks. I cant imagine getting the nerve up to do that. But you know what also sucks? Rejecting. Rejecting someone knowing they decided to be brave, and then having to hurt them. I've had it happen before, and I hated every minute of hurting that guy. I only wish more girls could be nice about it and make it as painless as possible instead of getting enjoyment out of hurting someone or embarrassing them. Spread love, not hate ❤

[@MrFLstyle]

Pretty much

[@dreamscape405]

But why do we have to coddle these men? Ok rejection sucks. I've been rejected many times by men and sometimes in the most nasty ways. If I'm able to let it go and move on, why can't they? It's not like we're asking them to make a life threatening decision, it's just initiating a conversation. Today's men really need to man up, and start acting like men again.

[@jaredhappy881]

Today's men don't need to do anything for today's women

[@breakingthemasks]

Grace Guetschow ... well done on recognizing both sides of the coin. The answer to this issue is to get better and sending (for girls) and receiving (for guys) non verbal signals. If girls could send well crafted non verbal signals to a guy that they are open to being approached, the guy will approach. And if the screws up and starts an unwanted approach, cold nonverbal signals can give his the clue he needs to abort the unwanted approach before going too far. Also, rejection can be super easy, simply "be busy" at the time of the proposed date... and don't offer an alternative. A guy with good social skills will take that hint. And to the commenter that was so uncaring about guys feelings... the power is a rejection scenario lies with the rejector, and for this reason they should endeavour to a often the blow. Just because guys didn't live up to this standard with you doesn't mean the standard isn't right. God bless all.

[@ryanphillips5591]

Grace Guetschow thanks for recognizing that. I remember rejections 10+ years ago. One was hilarious i had a friend he was a pick up artist. I don't believe in that, but we approached a group of girls. He tried a line he told me about for a week, ended up having sex with one. The rest left the table because "i wasn't as charismatic as my friend was"

[@oblivious108]

"Why don't guys ask me out?" I have a better question: why do girls reject me or flake on me when I DO ask them out?

[@noexitnoproblem6037]

Thumbs up 1000%

[@klel4334]

Answer: because at the touch of a button, we have a dozen other men waiting for us. Why would we stick to yo ass if we have better just around the corner? smh

[@oblivious108]

@@klel4334 I'm sorry, are you one of these girls asking "Why don't guys ask me out?"

[@blackogjesus]

@KLel you sound like a future single mother with all different baby daddys lmao smh

[@TasteMyStinkholeAndLikeIt]

Lol, hey dummies... "K Lel" is a dude, not a dudette. Look at his channel, it's all mens shit. Lesson #1 - Never assume anything about anyone on YouTard without a minimum amount of investigation. Lesson #2 - If you check out the persons channel, and they have ZERO content that reasonably proves anything about themselves, you can assume whatever you like as they are an anonymous chickenshit coward anyway.

[@ssus]

Don't be a stuck up. Look for character not what he has. Be femenine

[@joannalambright738]

'Still can't play guitar' 😂😂 thank you @paul& Morgan for showing me this video❤️🔥🔥

[@grezzer1427]

Joanna Lambright what other instruments do you play?

[@scottburson8289]

Seems like every girl I encounter is just in a bad mood and very unapproachable. A little encouragement goes a long way.

[@SCRaetz]

Right??? Very few women understand the necessity of feedback. The man typically gives/provides, while the woman typically takes/receives. Society is largely to blame, but very few women are aware of this dynamic.

[@bradstevens5012]

Plus, most women nowadays have very high unrealistic expectations.

[@joyeeverett6196]

@@bradstevens5012 Maybe, but here’s the thing. I’ve personally struggled with the same thing toward guys. I’m autistic (high functioning) and I’ve been turned down because I’m weird, I come across as oblivious, or I’m just not very smart in the social realm. I can’t control this and it’s how God made me. So I’d say it’s equally an issue of unrealistic standards on both sides. Plus, I don’t consider respecting women and expecting that to be a sign of disrespect or unrealistic expectations. Not sure if you’re one of those guys, but saying “I respect women” and then painting us all with a broad brush isn’t exactly promising. Forgive the necro post.

[@stevesilver7437]

Most men walk around like we are invisable. Women find this out when they hit the Wall.

[@philipreisler3323]

Yup and strong young independent women complain about dating down and refuse to date anyone under 6ft.... if that isn't a double standard I don't know what is..

[@philipreisler3323]

@xwinniez 😂

[@nogoat23]

From the guy's perspective. These are great tips.

[@nogoat23]

Also, these all apply to guys too. It's not like only girls have these issues.

[@GraceRykaczewski]

Thank you for this actual Christian dating advice! I feel like a lot of Christian dating advice is just telling girls to wait, which is partially true... but they also need to seem approachable and some of the other stuff you said!

[@phorewhoresman1897]

We men have gotten tired if all the demands and expectations of women before a relationship even gets started. Add in the risk that comes with a relationship and it becomes a no brainier.

[@SR-zp4je]

1) I’m approachable, I’m often told this by others 2) I have no particular preferences, physical or otherwise, except that I have to be attracted to him and him to me. Personality makes people attractive, tbh, I’ve definitely swiped past people who are conventionally attractive and been attracted to guys who are not what everyone would call ‘hot.’ 3) In a pandemic, it’s hard, but I have tried a few socially distanced dates and going on dating apps - no joy. 4) Been there, done that in pre-pandemic times. Went on those dates, nothing doing. I also dislike having to do that, I want a man who’s not afraid to ask for what he wants. Thank you both, but tbh, I have done all these things and it’s not working :/ I am encouraged by your last point though of making the best of where you’re at, I suppose I will have to continue with that.

[@99amgj1]

We don’t ask you out because we don’t like getting rejected

[@SCRaetz]

Right?? It takes time and dedication to really assess if she's into you. And then you go in to ask her and she's like "nah, we're just friends." Like what the actual f***.

[@yogibubu4442]

@@SCRaetz that sucks bad...

[@logantyndall989]

“Yep. Still can’t play guitar” 😂

[@grezzer1427]

Logan Tyndall what's your favourite instrument 😂 aha and how are you

[@kailinpolk728]

Seen this comment right when he said it 😂

[@gentilechristian220]

What a cute couple just adorable 😄❤️🤗

[@soccerchick9841]

I asked a great guy out a couple weeks ago. We went out on a date, and had a great time. We decided to be friends, but I’m so glad I asked him out. I’d definitely ask a guy out again, ladies DONT BE AFRAID. Most guys will be genuinely happy to be asked out.

[@UnityFromDiversity]

Men look to meet their socio sexual needs when their housing needs are met. Housing needs take a long time to meet in 2018... As a 37 year old virgin, I work all the time, which means the only girls I meet is at work, which means I can get fired for sexual harassment if I ask them out. Which means the last 15-20 years of work on my housing needs would collapse. Support your brothers, sisters.

[@SomethingBeautifulHandcrafts]

Honesty there! It's just not as easy to afford a family, and families can't support their daughters hanging around the house till get get married, so women go off to work too, and we are all searching for financial stability. Unfortunately, as I was discussing with a group of FB friends, financial stability is not always a predictable and stable goal, so that can leave you 40 and childless with your biological clock half pat 11 (women) or under the weight of financial burden with mouths to feed (men). i worked in a school for the last 12 years, definitely not a place to try to date. And that was the end of that...

[@UnityFromDiversity]

FourSquareMicroFarm Part of the problem is that the incoming hordes of immigrants do have a lot of families with multiple incomes where everybody worked and this pushes up housing prices to the point that the "first leave the house when then turn 18" model isn't working anymore. The baby boomers let in all these tribalist immigrants and are shocked to find out that there kids want and need a tribe in order to have the things they did.

[@annebonnyssister]

@@UnityFromDiversity Welcome the foreigner. It's in the Bible.

[@ebonysmith9564]

It depends on how you approach them. Making appropriate small talk won't hurt. Making derogatory comments might get you caught up in sexual harassment. You won't get fired for small talk.

[@winniewa37]

😭😭I am not alone.. Thank you 😭😭

[@Ben-fq1lj]

Good list of points, but you forgot the one I think that girls too often have a double standard for (as well as men, but it seem lately much more with women). There's a popular thing in christian women circles that teach that you shouldn't have to dress up nicely or put on make-up because he should just love you for who you are. But like you said with the horizons point; the reality is that while we know what God wants for us, often on both genders, looks come first. We know that we wouldn't date someone who isn't gospel centered or believes in false doctrines, but the initial desire to talk to each other is 90% of the time based on looks (sorry but that's the world we live in, and there's no such thing as a Christian version of Prince Charming who likes you for who you are without thinking about looks). I personally believe that some women need to put in a little more effort. I've seen girls including my girlfriend, not dress nice or put any makeup on, and yet with not much thought put into it, they expect guys just to desire them right off the bat. The only reason I dated my girlfriend was because my family/brother and his gf tried to set me up. I personally thought she wasn't attractive at all at first and didn't expect us to go past the first two dates (yes...God was and still is exposing my idolatry with looks). But if they hadn't done that, I would never have dated her. I get that for some women that sounds shallow, but I know plenty of christian women including gospel centered ones who wouldn't pursue a guy they had zero attraction to unless he really pushed them or had friends push them. With so many options out there, it's easy to think you can do better, so why not aim for the hottest gospel centered mate you can find? Thankfully God has shown me attraction that goes past looks and by the third date I was really exited to be dating her. While I don't believe women should be dressing ungodly, and that they should guard the idolatry of looks, I do believe women who believe this bad teaching need to put more effort in to their looks and not have double standards.

[@dreamscape405]

Agreed... taking care of yourself is attractive. I wouldn't date a guy who looks like a slob all of the time. If you don't take care of yourself, that spreads throughout your life and it's going to affect the relationship in the long run. There's nothing wrong with wanting a woman who cares about looking her best.

[@SCRaetz]

#PREACH

[@javiersanabria7513]

I stopped going to church turns out girls were asking about me after a little bit. The same girls that were cold towards me😔.

[@davidbolha]

Of course they did. Because their "other options" had expired. Don't be a backburner doormat. 🙄

[@orion5397]

I just realized what is wrong with me all these times...I am always walking around with a stone cold face and never properly answered any guy whom I am not close to...And my crush is just like the way I am,we are both super introverted,he is a friend of my friends,so that means we kind of belong to the same circle,he has been throwing hints that he likes me too(I don't know if he ever knows I like him) despite his shy,introverted nature,and his inexperiences with women....so I would say I'm pretty sure he likes me...but I realized I am just not approachable,and to be honest again,I find it so so hard to flash a smile even on my friends😂😂😥.......Thank you for this eye opening video .... and you have such a great chemistry,hope you continue to be happily married😊

[@dsetgetatme]

Both of you made good points in this video. 1. Broaden your horizons... Get out to meet other ppl outside of your circle... I personally done this myself and had success 2. You can be attracted to different types of women..personality wise, body type wise, certain features... Be open to date/get to know different types of women. I'm still single (31 years old) but I like the path I am on regarding my confidence and personal growth.. I am sure marriage is in the future for me

[@rebeccasrandomness3045]

Why do I feel like I know you guys? I noticed that I've started to think of you two as my spiritual parents if that makes any sense at all. You guys are so sweet and I can truly feel the passion you have for the Lord and each other. Much love

[@TiffanyDawn]

Awwww!! Much love back to you Rebecca!! :):)

[@ThatBrowser]

I'll tell you why many of us Christian guys are not asking you out. 1. If it is church, we are going to be petrified. Esp if we have been going to that church for a while and call it home. Have known a few guys who have loved the church, asked a woman out, have it not work out, and not return to the church cause of how awkward and the feeling of home being gone. Better safe than sorry. 2. In tandem with #1, we are scared for a number of reasons. Rejection is certainly one as affirmed in Exp #1. But also, if we are going to engage, we are not going to engage for the same reasons the rest of the world does. Not to have fun or go though people (Exp, "Oh, I'll just get another bf/gf"), but to genuinely get to know the person for the possibility of courtship. Means we are not looking for anything shallow. This leads to the possibility of marriage which also leads to the possibility of divorce and guess what is involved in marriage these days? Government. Many men have been pillaged by the system and men know it is against them. Many of us have been educated by our fathers, lack of a father, or other men. We fear the ever living crap out of divorce. Cause it is the ticket to free money (for you) thanks to government intervention, and if you throw a child in the mix, its even worse. Government has created and enabled the culture of single motherhood as a result. Ya, we are more cautious than ever and IF we do ask you out, don't take it lightly. 3. Women these days are more focused on a career and not committed to the motherly duties of the past such as talking care of the house, children, and cooking, etc. (most of you don't even know how to cook) Many of us who had good parents, know. Genuine femininity is rare and there are a lot of fakes in the church. 4. Many of us are saving ourselves for marriage, and we expect the same out of the other, which is beyond freaking rare. Churches are filled with single mothers who are looking for a guy to "settle down with" (hashtag, had a supper crazy party and sex filled youth and now I want you to take care of my problems with your money). Yes we are discriminating and we are using the Word of God to do it. 5. Many other reasons, just look into the recent creation and surge of the mens rights movement. PS, something that really pisses me off about churches these days is how they are adding more women's groups and retreats and have removed all of the men's groups. -_- Overall, yes were scared and are unlikely to move, especially if no solid indications are given. Author- Some random Christian guy you will probably disregard

[@tymayasims198]

Wow...

[@mengoingjesuswaytv7319]

ThatBrowser Sadly I agree with you.

[@dopemybrotha]

Agreed bro.

[@melc8388]

youre right

[@destinybailey5537]

You guys are so cute. I like this from a Christian perspective. We need more channels like this

[@catholicfemininity2126]

No, I can't ask a guy out, I know guys are very visual and if they aren't attracted to a woman they won't bother pursuing them.... it would hurt so bad if I asked a man out, and he only decided to date me cause I was there and not cause he was attracted to or interested in me.... guys taking the lead is what boosts my attraction in a man. I'm a girl btw.

[@yaelrar.4460]

In almost 40 years of being a Christian, not one church Ive attended had single men to date. There were plenty of married people, single women, teenagers, widows, toddlers. The one group missing was single men. None. No one. Zero. And strangely, not one pastor seemed to notice or care.

[@annakarina8417]

Same. I'm almost 29 and I see the same problem. Only single men I see in churches or catholic communities are teenagers and in their early 20.

[@yaelrar.4460]

@@annakarina8417 Its of epidemic proportions yet no pastors nor ministries are intentionally reaching men.

[@breakingthemasks]

31. Single. Man. Christian. Church goer. We exist.

[@chengliu872]

Idk where you are, but most Chinese-American churches have the exact opposite problem, at least up until around age 40. From youth group past my young adult fellowship up to the regular adult fellowship there has always been way more single men than women. I remember one of my friends going to 4 different proms when I was in youth group because she was the only girl (compaired to like 5 or 6 guys) that was not a lot younger. In the young families group at my church, there are several single men even though they are fairly good looking, successful in their careers and own homes (which is saying something considering we live in the SF Bay area). There is only one single girl there and I have a feeling that she is either asexual or in the closet. She is beautiful, musically talented and loves anime. Pretty much every guy in my church has asked her out at some point and she has turned them all down.

[@xbbt7770]

Man. Where's that church? I'm a single young Christian man, and I'm living in a single-Christian-woman desert.

[@sharleenparrino2297]

Great advice but I'm 59 & most guys at my age neglect their appearance & claim they're too set in their ways! I feel often times God forgot me, that I need that God fearing gentleman! If I'm seeking, surely his seeking me as well??

[@judy9521]

I’m in the same boat.

[@sxhipper11bravo]

Notice how she took ZERO accountability for being single at 59. Girl you missed the boat, are you that clueless? 59 and you act like a child

[@KayNovember26]

I feel sorry for guys most days. Women can be SO mean towards guys. I'm a woman myself. Do you know how much courage it takes to approach a decent looking girl? Especially if the guy is kinda shy? Girl, don't be mean! There are nice ways to get the "I'm not intetested" message across. Stay humble, stay sweet and always be respectful. This works well for me! And yes, a girl is allowed to show interest and make a move first. Although I'm an outgoing and approachable person I love chatting up the shy guys. Even short guys. Those are the hidden gems!

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

What the??! I have had the OPPOSITE experience! I've been abused and insulted and ASSAULTED by a lot of guys! And I'm not even ugly! And no my personality doesn't suck either!

[@gildatorres7505]

This video is sooo good. Thanks for the tips, specially your last words about trying to fill the void. It is amazing to know God like the only person who can fulfill you. Love you guys!

[@GODSlove1358]

Gilda Torres It is a good video!

[@wanheda4994]

No guy is asking you out because that's no what guys do. Guys don't just go "ask out" girls and the ones that do are pursuing girls who are much much prettier than they are. You can literally dominate the dating sphere if you, as a girl, ask a guy out instead. This is coming from a guy.

[@xbbt7770]

Let me tell you, if you're waiting for a girl to ask you out, you're gonna be waiting a very long time. In fact, in the time you spend waiting for the girl to ask you out, she's being asked out by guys who aren't afraid.

[@nicholasrandall3507]

They won't, because they don't want the guys that they have to ask out. It hurts their pride not being treated like a prize to be fought for.

[@enniswhalen2428]

@@xbbt7770 - Let me tell you,there are guys who just wait, and they are happy to wait because they are not going to let themselves be treated like that. Not "fear" , just being practical.

[@randyg22152]

I would like to add that no one wants to ask out someone who seems gossipy and judgmental. Most people are going to be nervous doing anything that might be likely to be easily misunderstood, like asking a stranger out for a cup of coffee, getting rejected, and then getting his reputation at church ruined by a vindictive, judgmental, gossipy woman who got upset at him simply because she thought that his approach was “lame” (I.E.: he’s not a pick-up artist, he’s just a normal person, so he is not going to be as smooth as an actor in a romantic comedy, so cut him some slack for being socially awkward.). Besides, why would anyone want to get into a relationship with an overly critical person who trash-talks about her friends behind their back, instead of practicing the mature and biblical conflict resolution approach of actually telling someone to their face, preferably in private, what is upsetting you, and then talking it out as Jesus commanded (Matthew 18:15)? If you are bad with your relationships with your friends, then no one wants to get into a romantic relationship with you, as most men probably assume that if you treat your friends badly, then that’s how you are going to treat him. Your character, and the way that you treat the people around you (including the ugly and “uncool”, unpopular people), is a reflection of who you are, and other people notice. PS: constantly talking about how “sinful” other people are does not make you seem pure; most people will assume that if you are always belittling other people then you are either: (a) trying to live down a bad reputation; or, (b) you are just an insecure slanderer who claws down people who you are jealous of (instead of trying to improve yourself), and that sooner or later you will be talking down to him like that. No one likes a person with a critical spirit. PPS: if a guy DOES ask you out, and you are not interested, just give him a polite, “Sorry, but I don’t see you that way. Let’s just be friends”. Don’t try to be subtle or indirect, as a “maybe” is going to be interpreted as him as “you should come back later and try harder”, and giving him false hope and leading him on means that he is going to keep persisting until he frustrates you to the point that you blow up at him and publicly embarrass the both of you (now no one wants to ask you out, as you seem like he mean one). Guys do NOT understand “hints”, so if you don’t like him in that way, be a woman of your word and just calmly let him know that you are not interested. Men prefer directness and honesty over trying to save their feelings (as long as you are not brutally honest - don’t say that you are not interested because he is hideous.).

[@randyg22152]

One other thing that I have noticed is that many girls seem to get nervous around guys, and don’t seem to know what to say (some ever run away when a guy tries to introduce himself!). Obviously if you cannot hold a conversation with someone, then you cannot have a relationship with that person (and silence can be misinterpreted as a lack of interest, or just being rude).

[@breakingthemasks]

Strongly disagree with the idea that a girl should drop a truth bomb like "I don't see you like that, let's just be friends".... maybe that would be a good option in private, but certainly not in ant social situation. Some guys can't take Hints.... Some can. Start with a hint, and escalate the rejection if it doesn't work. Beat case scenario.., simply "be busy" the night if the proposed date... and don't suggest an alternative date. A guy with any social sense will pick up on your lack of enthusiasm back off. If that doesn't work, then would be the time to drop the " I'm not attracted to you bomb".

[@user-yr3uj6go8i]

True. Asking someone out who is always judgmental is like asking to be a doormat for her/him.

[@jesserochon3103]

I spent 6 years asking girls out between 2007 and 2013 and I got rejected every. single. time. That's why I don't ask girls out anymore.

[@starlight1514]

Don't lose hope. Maybe God was protecting you from really getting hurt. I know how you feel.

[@jaimerosero7457]

I feel so bad for you, they do all the time! They are miserable creatures unfortunately, now guys have other option go hay, because ladies are so cruel!!! Is that a plan of your God, of course not, evil plan to destroy God's families all over the world, making ladies feel like we were fishing in the toilet!!!

[@jaimerosero7457]

Go gay!!!

[@ReasonAboveEverything]

Shit dude. That's hard on psyche.

[@steflondon88]

@Bronze LOL

[@edenbreckhouse]

Being single could mean precisely that there's something YOU need to work on. If you're overweight, for example, denying that there's a problem is hardly a good strategy.

[@jdelacruz1022]

James is so funny! Loved the tips. Thank you!

[@grezzer1427]

Jessica De La Cruz are you Spanish? 😇

[@katelyndryer8533]

don't the girls need to let the guy ask them out bc guys are the initiators, and if the girls do all of the initiating won't that carry into marriage? won't that display whether or not he is ready to be a leader? there are different levels of readiness for dating and if the guy can't even ask you out.....

[@laylalayla6630]

Then you haven’t read the story of Ruth in the bible and many other women in the bible who took initiative and scored a good husband. Of course its more comfortable for us to just sit there and leave everything for the guy while we enjoy the free ride.

[@amanday3103]

“We don’t do subtle. I definitely speak for the male race there.”

[@MelindaRodriguez-cs1kn]

Nope. It’s what I look like. I had no issue when I was thinner and prettier and younger. Plus I was told this by someone. Probably there are lots of things I could do to improve my looks. Need to wait until these things are DOABLE.

[@skratchinator]

Women who wants a 6ft or taller man? Ha, less than 7% of men in the world are over 6ft. Then factor in those 6ft men that are married, in jail and etc., at the end there's not a god chance you'll find 6ft men available to date. Women then say good men aren't available, serious reevaluation needs to be done with women.

[@klel4334]

Short men are just plain unattractive, simple as that. As a woman, we have preferences. Short men are a genetic defect

[@DaddyAZTL]

@@klel4334 we not talking about 5'3 we talking about 5'8ish we cant control height

[@DaddyAZTL]

@Repent and Believe because theres more short men

[@skratchinator]

If men were to say that about women metoo would be all up on the case. If that's true 93% of men in the world are genetic defects, #himtoo.

[@DaddyAZTL]

@Repent and Believe yeah confidence and personality goes a long way

[@MelindaRodriguez-cs1kn]

Btw. Before making fun of a woman for how she looks and dresses, her hair, etc. Maybe find out if she’s a victim of abuse. It makes the already completely disgusting comments even more disturbing in my opinion. What kind of person would do this??

[@maryswenson5357]

Guys ask me to hangout but don't actually say can I take you out. Ugh I need this!

[@TiffanyDawn]

Yes, I think that happens a ton today! I think there can be a lot of fear of putting ourselves out there and possibly being rejected.

[@maryswenson5357]

Tiffany Dawn ya I think it's fine to ask a guy to hangout but it's not like I would say want to go on a date? Frustrating! Wish more men would do so because it shows good leadership. If a guy pursues me after I'm the first to talk to them that's great too. Seems like guys are so fearful of rejection. They just need to understand not everyone's cup of tea. Find your people and they love you

[@maryswenson5357]

Men want to feel wanted and women don't want to feel like an option they want a man to get to know them and make them priority and women have been told sense they were little don't chase a man you look desperate so we don't anytime I've asked a guy to hangout thinking it would be nice to get to know them he gets weird so I'll wait until they ask me.

[@maryswenson5357]

@Repent and Believe lol ya well if they didn't turn out to for the most part be turds I'd have a man most boys are trying to be men and most real men are much less easy to find

[@alexalexftw]

@@maryswenson5357 chasing a woman is the worst a guy can do , and if he does he will end up friendzoned or rejected.

[@vinewood8295]

If guys are not asking you out the answer is simple, the guys your around don't find you to be very attractive be it physically or mentally. When I was in High School, there were girls who were fine as hell just beautiful but they all had attitudes from hell, always had nasty looks on their faces but guys were still asking them out because they were all really good looking. I worked with a woman who had an attitude & alot of kids but she was really pretty sooo guys were still asking her out despite that. Walking around with bitch face is not going to stop a guy from trying to get with you, now walking around with bitch face & not being that pretty WILL deter a guy from trying to talk to you. On the other hand though, if your not that pretty but your always cheerful or just a genuinely nice & or good person who always appears to be in a decent mood then yes guys will ask you out cause you know as guys we're looking at more than just the face, is she well built, nice hair, smells good, smart etc etc same things women look at guys for that they don't find physically attractive in the face. When your a guy and you tell women that you can't get a date the first thing most of them think even if they don't say it is that you must not be that cute or handsome then, the same go's for women...

[@robertsolano5429]

This guy reminds me of the dude from Two and a half men.

[@GeorgePenton-np9rh]

If the guys won't ask you out ask them out. Who says the guy has to do the asking? If you don't feel comfortable doing that, give huge hints that he can't ignore. Tell his friends you like him and want to go out with him. With the extreme shortage of good Christian women out there these days you shouldn't have much of a problem finding a good Christian man.

[@SomethingBeautifulHandcrafts]

I love your comment about finding your worth in God. From my experiences, I believe you are right, women believe they aren't complete, that marriage is when their grown up life actually starts. If you don't find that purpose and fill that void with God from the beginning, then you can set yourself up for stress in marriage. Explore God and the world around you while you are in the season of singleness.

[@LivAlexa32]

I am a really nice person and guys tell me that all the time, I just don't meet good guys who are interested in dating because men these days are not socialized to be good

[@grezzer1427]

There are good people around is that God is saving you from bad people there's a man out there that's going to appreciate you just keep being that genuine person.

[@PeaceBeStill39]

Great tips!! Better than I was expecting haha always love your videos :)

[@captngravity]

Hi, ive been single for 8 years after a divorce. I joined match dot com last week. I've sent 75 msgs to women since 10/1. And ive gotten very little return. Ive chatted with a few ppl but nobody really is interested. This is a good video bc women really ARE this picky. If a guy doesnt meet every requirement they have, he is dismissed. Its really frustrating, because ive opened up a bit too and gone for ppl i normally wouldnt go for, and still nothing. Im to the point in my life though where i dont care anymore if I meet someone, and I don't care what women think of me.

[@captngravity]

Im taking at least a week break frm match. It's really alot of work.

[@blackogjesus]

Dating sites are pointless for Men, women hold all the power in dating sites and the fact that they're picky and hypergamous it makes things worse. Dating sites basically stroke womens egos and make them into huge cunts because women Crave Attention and Validation. Which they can easily get on instagram, slutchat (snap chat lol) Fb, & Dating sites and get up to 10s or100s of guys overnight hitting them up meanwhile for us guys its like being in a desert looking for water to drink. Why else do you think women are so addicted to their phones? And Why else do you think women throw tantrums or are sad sometimes even cry even fucking suicidal ffs when they dont have their phones? Its because they cant see how many men are liking their pics or how many guys are tryna hit them up. The smart phone and internet was one of humans greatest inventions but combine that with an attention/ validation seeking bitch PLUS with the brainwashing of Feminism making women think they're Only Entitled the top 1% of guys because they're all supposed '' strong, equal, independant, goddesses''... Dating sites or better yet dating in general would be so much better for men if Feminism never existed and we probably wouldnt have a country full of Single Mothers too. The only thing Feminism ever did for Men was make it much easier to get some pussy without having to put a ring on it first, now the only problem is coming by Legal Virgins or just virgins in general cause nowdays women are having sex around the ages of 12 & 16 possibly younger meanwhile in the 50s this was unheard of. I bet Dating sites would've been great in the 50s but in todays time combined with feminism and the Rigged divorce courts that are in womens favor Plus the new #MeToo movement that has gotten several innocent mens lives ruined ona false rape accusation Dating in General is pointless. Sucks but this is the world we live in now and this is the environment women have created for all of us. im 20 and i guess i will never exp a relationship at all... A.I. Sexbots are looking better by the day once the West produce them Western women are so Fucked its too funny.

[@lonewander6772]

I messaged a woman and she asked for my interests so I told her and I got blocked. The weirdest and most off putting thing that confused the hell out of me. I don't even want to touch a dating app anymore after that.

[@bellag2864]

Aaron I'm a single Christian woman but I'm a single mom of 2 that got out of an abusive situation. I love Jesus and am devoted to serving God whether single or married but i have the desire for a godly husband. No one knows I'm a mom until i tell them and they're all interested but when they find that out it makes alot of them disappear. I feel like Christian men automatically disregard single mothers. And i would personally not touch online dating it scares me. I had one guy at my church show interest in me and make every effort to talk to and get to know me and i thought he was interested but come to find out he's been dating someone and brought her to church today. 😄 it's rough out there. I'm praying and trusting God to bring me someone who won't take advantage of me because i fall in love too easily. But from some of these comments I'm glad to be single. But you seem nice and genuine. Don't give up. There are good genuine women, but idk about online dating. Are you a believer? Apply God's word KZbin channel had alot of good advice for Christian singles.

[@MW-qv5ox]

MGTOW

[@hannahfoster13]

I just found your channel & I love you guys!! You have such real honest advice. :)) thank you for shedding some light on issues like this. You guys are the cutest💕

[@benthurber5363]

Top reasons for not asking a girl out: - I overheard you saying you don't want or don't know if you want children. - I can't afford your debt. -You're never single or date non-Christians. - Not interested enough to carry a conversation. Example: "Hey, (female), how are you doing?" "I'm fine-"*walks off* -You're not really mature or are self-absorbed: God does not appear to be the center of your life. -Older and other Christians have actually told me to avoid you because of your reputation. -I asked you out once and was turned down or saw you turn down others for superfluous reasons. And now, having been called to missions, I can't accept anything less than a woman who is also called. Dating got a whole lot easier for me... there's just no one who fits at the moment. There are church-going women, but few Godly women. There are attractive women, but "wife material" is rare. There are no "good" women, but the closest you can find is one who is accountable... which is still rare. Trust me. Male or female, your life, your children's lives, and your eternities will be better off if you hold out for a Godly spouse. Never married, but definitely found out this truth the hard way.

[@raymundnucaza2176]

I absolutely agreed with you Brother!

[@Ali-ld6lv]

What the actual fuck

[@advstation2003]

My trust issues are so messed up that I wouldn’t know if a guy is serious or if they are playing

[@CiciSu]

Hi Tiffany, I like your tips so much!! You and James speak in such an encouraging way. Thank you for the video!! You are amazing

[@rednab2001]

When I first became a believer, way back in the late 1980's, I had a troubling first experience with single women in the church. I was attending a large church with a big singles ministry for young adults. When attending Sunday school and church, I immediately noticed something strange. There were lots of single men and women, but absolutely none of them were dating each other. The men were coming to church alone, and the women were dragging in unbelievers from off the streets. I had been a believer long enough that I knew this just wasn't right. I actually confronted several of the women about this issue and was told that "We love our fellow believing men like brothers, and are not interested in them romantically!" This certainly left a bad taste in my mouth for women in the church. It's no wonder they have relationship issues.....for some reason, they are continuing to fish in the toilet and are wondering why they are catching turds! It is unfortunate that even Christian women can't overcome their female nature. All men need to know that at the end of the day, a woman's female nature will override their Christian faith. I have seen it first hand in my own life.

[@tomz1daful]

I have noticed that as well. Church women want those "bad boys" sometimes even more so than the heathen women! Perhaps it's to later "depart from the unbeliever in peace" when the good Christian women no longer want heathen, unrestrained animal sex, "within the confines of marriage", don'tcha know. Then find the good, Christian beta bucks dude, and be, not only a wife, but his friend. I've seen so many "Christian" women pull this stunt, it's become a stereotype.

[@Agent1W]

+rednab2001 Interesting that the men are not dragging unbelieving women off the streets but are continuing to be faithful in their attendance besides. Could it be the case that the men know that you can't just change a woman just like that? The same is true for an unbelieving man; you're not going to just change a man because you have the magic vagina(which such purity would be controversial in itself). Nowhere in the New Testament does it teach us that's how the Church in the 1st Century grew. It ought to surprise us that Christian women do not want to marry someone who's of the same mind, same spirit, and trying to go to the same eternal destination as they are. Wouldn't we think that marriage would be a lot easier and more enjoyable if it was more of an "army of two" instead of "one vs. one"? But there's a certain desire of women that we read about in Genesis 3:16.

[@Glorfinniel]

Don't generalize!! Not all Christian church-going women are like that. I have gone on dates with guys at church who were believers and once they learned I wouldn't have premarital sex with them, they wanted nothing to do with me. Unfortunately, its said that 70% of people in church have premarital sex, and "some" Christian guys want to be part of those statistics. So it goes both ways. Also, the bitterness I'm reading in these comments are not very "Christian-like" behavior and rather insulting. Maybe its not the women that are the problem.

[@rednab2001]

Glorfinniel you are correct that there is a lot of “the world” in the Church when it comes to sexual morality or lack there of. But the evidence I have seen shows me that women are much more willing to be unequally yoked than men are in the church. Currently, there is zero incentive for a man to marry anyone, and faith does not change that...and yes, women and their enablers are the problem. I champion male chastity if not married, and I no longer believe any man of faith should be marrying.

[@rambogoham1]

@@Agent1W Do you think this desire for women, leads them too want to have different ideals or ideas than there partner has?

[@jessicarainsford7609]

I think my standards are too low, like really low. Due to my intensely horrible self esteem that I’m working through with Christ daily. I’ve been in abusive relationships and had my heartbroken so many times. I’ve put myself out there every time and I know God is here with me and appreciate your wonderful wisdom Tiff thank you!! Xox

[@ganeshnalawade7439]

There's no such thing called standards it's all about want you want and what you don't want. so don't think that you're lesser than anyone.

[@cryslaw100]

Loved the part of finding your fulfillment in God and not in your spouse. I was so insecure when I met me now husband and yes it is lovely being married but it is not a cure-all! This video was amazing and I loved every point!

[@hillsongirl1]

Gosh she really was narrow in her focus, even down to the skin tone and height. Girls can make it so much harder for guys. Attraction is important but it doesnt come in a neat little box with specific instructions. So glad she changed her perspective!👏

[@vaxev]

Well, any other good guy that i met out there is not christian... 😢

[@grezzer1427]

There is someone out there that will appreciate you just keep being you ☺

[@alexandriageiler687]

There is a possibility that you can try and introduce him to your faith. As long as he isn’t judgmental about it and respects your beliefs, I don’t see a problem with having different religious beliefs :))

[@grezzer1427]

Alexandria Geiler exactly

[@vaxev]

Alexandria Geiler you're not wrong. I just prefer to stay clear from a potential problem 😬

[@rednab2001]

The Bible makes it clear that Christians are not to be "unequally yoked." No Christian should be dating or marrying a non-Christian. Christians also should not be going into business with non-believers. Being friends with non-believers is not a problem, but any relationship more intimate than that is a no go.

[@shaymanplays3468]

You know maybe us guys dont want to be in a relationship with you for a few reasons: 1. MeToo movement 2. Marital courts are against men 3. If u keep asking her out you get called a creep 4. Girls say that they dont want boring guys but thats who the nice guys are. TY for reading this

[@Agent1W]

I'm not looking for sex; that's the only reason I'm not going to ask a woman out. There is no such thing as not-in-it-for-sex dating. God's word is very clear about fornication which is what it's ultimately going to be because I know how the world really works. Back when I was younger, I tried to look for a way to just court a woman "hassle free" but it NEVER works that way. Many would argue it was never intended to work that way. And I had nobody teach me that wasn't the true purpose of dating someone; I had to learn it on my own. She's ultimately going to give her time, that is her "business", to a man of a completely different mindset than I who's going to do more, pay more, and give more to expedite more intimate arrangements. I simply refuse to get intimate with a woman I do not intend to marry. In other words, I'm not a fully cooked, ready-to-go meal any lady can pick up at the grocery store to have for dinner the same night or perhaps the day after, but a cold piece of raw fresh meat: you have to put in all the time and prep all from scratch to ultimately get in the end a far superior supper than what the inferior STORE cranks out en masse. From the times I have dated, women move too fast for my tastes, and that might be that I move too slow for their tastes. But think of it this way: if any given woman wouldn't wait one entire month for me to make a decision, what makes me think she'll put up with me 'N' years after the knot is tied? My advice is: you better know what you're trying to buy, ladies, which can't be too hard since you do more consumer spending than men(chuckles).

[@jefferyronson8950]

If a girl ask a guy out on a date, should the girl be willing to pay for the date?

[@victoriaullrich]

Thank you for this video! This is something I have struggled with for a while. The first point really applies to me. My friends have told me I walk around with RBF, and so that is for sure something I need to work on.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Hahahaha I have DEFINITELY done that too 😂👌

[@blaykelane9444]

I already felt called out after 2 minutes 😂. Quite sure any guy I've liked probably thought that I hated them 😂. Still single, but I'll definately watch for this stuff.

[@justtiersa]

He totally reminds me of Duckie on the movie “Pretty In Pink” ❤️❤️

[@janderson947]

Wow I never thought of that he does have his smile😂

[@leahs1569]

Hi Tiffany, I was wondering could you do a video regarding attraction? I don't fully understand how to know when you feel attracted, and this makes me nervous to date anyone because I am afraid that I could be setting simply because I don't understand what I am supposed to feel.Thanks, have a blessed day.

[@TiffanyDawn]

Oh that's such a great question!! I think the feeling will be different for different people. I think, at least for me, it's this idea of being drawn to the person, to who they are as a whole person, and wanting to spend time with them. It's like this extra desire to spend a ton of time with this person. But that's just what it's like for me, it can feel differently for different people! :) And I think sometimes it's okay to start dating someone even if you're not sure if what you're feeling is attraction or not. I think it becomes clear with time.

[@atlasenglishteaching50]

Most men fear to approach women not because of the possibility of failure but because of the possibility of being hummiliated in public.Some women love doing that.If you do not correspont to a guy's feeling, try to tell that in a more respectfull manner.Thus the guy will learn from the experience and go for somebody else.It's simple.

[@rowancarr4375]

My best advice is to marry an older man. My husband is 20 years older than me and I highly recommend it. He is mature, kind, patient, secure in his identity, has a real job, and doesn't chase other women.

[@nofybn7794]

Sorry, that is just way too gross for me. No, I won't date someone 20 years old. I won't date someone 5 years older then me. That isn't always gonna work. Just because it worked for you, doesn't mean it works for all.

[@flyingdandelion6945]

It is so different from person to person. If your husband is mature, kind and doesn't follow other women it might be because of his own personality and also it depends on so many other factors. I think it has little to do with age. There are old men like men in their 50s and 60s who betray their wives.

[@babie4299]

Where did you meet?

[@paulbarnes9490]

@@nofybn7794 Sorry but you're gonna be old one day and everyone will think you're gross.

[@shadowgovernment3000]

@@nofybn7794 You won't date a guy 5 years older but you will date a guy younger than you even if it more than 5 years. Praise God that an economic collapse is coming and women will marry whatever they can get their hands on to survive.

[@SOSA1beast]

Don’t play games , show interest . We aren’t mind readers .

[@SCRaetz]

#PREACH

[@Lilyeh-OMJ]

Christians are not to date. The Lord-God Jesus Christ does not do boyfriends, girlfriends nor dating. The Lord does husbands and wives. Dating, boyfriends & girlfriends lead to sex, which is formication, which is sin. The sin of fornication leads to hell. Stop looking for a boyfriend & girlfriend & do Matt. 6:33. The Lord will lead you & show you who He's chosen for you to marry. Christians stop encouraging dating. That's how children get born out of wedlock. Look for Jesus. Learn sanctification & holiness. That's what Christians are to be doing. Not looking for a boyfriend or girlfriend.

[@benstr8156]

2020 hello? Right there in Genesis, God brought, introduce Eve to Adam. God the matchmaker.

[@reneefries1894]

I so needed this video today! Thank you so much!! I struggle a lot with these thoughts and feelings being in my early 20's and never having had a boyfriend. I think it's because I do the opposite of these tips. These have helped me a lot and changed my mindset especially the last one. I tend to believe that the guy has to be the one to ask me out first otherwise it doesn't mean as much. I need to be more open-minded as well because I may be missing out on a great guy because he doesn't look or have a certain quality. So happy to have found your channel ❤

[@mexicanbigboy852]

Renee Fries Mexican and Latino men love white women. White women are our queens and we love them like a bee loves honey. Any white women can get any Mexican and Latino men they want. For this reason I encourage our white women to get your Mexican /Latin lover. I also encourage our Mexican / Latin men to get your gorgeous white women together = forever love. ❤

[@nicholasrandall3507]

If you haven't had a boyfriend by your 20's, then that's your choice. You've got a couple years left before your options shrink dramatically.

[@account10558]

@@nicholasrandall3507 wdym

[@nicholasrandall3507]

@@account10558 It means men are attracted to youth and fertility. The highest tier men will commit to only tattooless, debt-free virgins between 18-24. Most women just choose to sleep around and get into debt for part of their life, and wonder why the men they want won't commit to them.

[@account10558]

@@nicholasrandall3507 you sound salty

[@kattrinawindvogel4624]

Wow! Such a good video. And I love how you said that girls so often limit themselves to one type of guy and forget that theres so much more about a guy than just his looks. What point is there in dating someone and marrying someone who has all the looks on our checklist but a boring personality? For a single almost 19 year old girl, who has never had a boyfriend, this video was on point! So much truth! Love you guys🥰🙏😚❤

[@duvipearson6251]

Female nicegirls/incels? what? i have never heard of such a thing!

[@ggarza714]

Why does it have to be a date or not. How about just being friendly and see how their personality is

[@GuitarLen75]

Some people just don't attract others. They may be good looking, successful, or whatever but vibes are all it is.

[@john78tv]

This might seem random, but one of the traps I keep falling into is falling for women who are attractive, but far from godly. I keep praying to God to change my heart to pursue a godly women - even if they're not attractive, a good godly woman is to be praised!!

[@simply-living8523]

I’m 20 and feel hopeless but I do want to stop being shy and be more open. Thanks for the tips ❤️

[@Goodwillwinoverevil1984]

You're 20 not 40. Not even 60. Don't give up.