Should I prioritise myself in a relationship?

[@brendenpraise_]

Si La!!!

[@refilwemokone2329]

Vibe yakho 😂

[@buhlempungose552]

Re mo 😊!!

[@VivianKuvare11]

Location!

[@anothandomolosi7320]

Location 😄📍📍📍

[@amo_keebine]

Brenden’s honesty is so refreshing and freeing a lot of people right now. We need to stop trying to make our “productive” habits to mirror each other. Let’s try harder to learn what works for us and be true to that.

[@timbawangu3038]

What I was going to say😊or something similar. He's got good points too🙌

[@malebomametja2646]

Amen

[@amahlemakhaye3315]

“Babe, which concealer is this one” 😂😍

[@WissyChauke]

🤣🤣🤣

[@zamampungose832]

Lmao this was adorable 😍😊

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

@@zamampungose832 Adorable indeed I wonder what colour is that ❤️👌👌👌

[@daniellegatsi6529]

🤣🤣

[@keagileseemise5922]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@khumisojulianmompoloki4115]

Joyce Meyer once talked about it saying simply because I pray in the morning doesn't mean I should wake up my partner to do the same, and even the way I pray I shouldnt disturb the other person who wants to rest. I love u guys.

[@didihighly-favoured7163]

You don't want to make a routine that makes you unhappy. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Routines are seasonal.

[@benignanivckiie4873]

Love this 💕

[@tshepangmokwena8738]

I appreciate Brenden's honestly. I would like to believe he is one of the few people who are okay with being who they are and are okay with being transparent about who they are, which is beautiful, especially for some of use who are getting to that place

[@khanyisagura4377]

He is the most genuinely confident person I know on these social media streets. Its admirable to see.

[@thokongezile5259]

True

[@nomsa06]

I love that about him. He’s true to himself, all the time.

[@nandiandtshepo4960]

What Brendan said “You choose stocks based on Potential and a partner from their patterns” lovvveeee it! Loved this!

[@zubenathi_mkondo]

“babe which concealer is this?”🤣🤣🤣🤣❤️

[@elizabethletsoso2558]

I want to know either babe 💖💖👌👌👌

[@mbinaomukuambi2459]

This is gold and might I add not only for relationships but even for those who are in their singlehood journey. It’s a beautiful practice… 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@_just_nelisa]

True. I've been single for years and I always relate or take gems from their content

[@wanderingcucamber7082]

It’s so true love. I’m single too and this resonates x❤️

[@galaletsanglephogole8366]

"I pour into myself so that I can pour onto others" 👏

[@tshianzimadzivhandila167]

"I am so much happier when I am being honest with myself". I love how Brendan says its okay to not be what the Gurus say we should be. It's okay to be whoever works for YOU!!!!

[@benignanivckiie4873]

I have been struggling with 5am😜

[@tshianzimadzivhandila167]

@@benignanivckiie4873 I am not a 5am hun.. Like I'd rather sleep late than wake up at 5am..

[@duduzilematumba1919]

I love how Brenden notices and compliments Mpoomy and notices the small things

[@Nandipa83]

"If this person never changes would I be okay?" question was my saving grace.

[@naiyemaipelokgang3387]

Brenden Praise, thank you for the masculine transparency, for harnessing a man conversation, in all honesty. God sure means business with you my brother. Soar on. Many should just learn from you

[@tebogomolefe]

"Once you fall inlove with yourself there's very few things that can get you down in life"

[@tinotendamakova5563]

Prioritizing myself has been the best thing I did for myself. I used to suffer from depression and that’s because everyone else had to come before me. I was very resentful of others and generally a negative person to be around. My therapist said to me if someone asks you for a billion can you give them. I said to her no I don’t have that money and she said to me yeah you are giving people what you don’t have that’s why you are exhausted. You are not a super human. You are just as important as the people who you want to please

[@nokuthulatana5653]

Can I steal that? Love it

[@nqobilemkhize8110]

Oh my word so profound!!!😍💖❗

[@seegos]

Glad you went for therapy, it's the best thing one can do for themselves. People like you give me so much courage.

[@TheWinningNadz]

I saw this and shouted, "the Ledwabas have posted," my whole family knows my obsession😂

[@thegifteddr]

“I’m just not that guy” , so honest Brenden. And this gives me so much perspective cause I’ve always wanted my boyfriend to be like me🙆🏽‍♀️🤣

[@minkz002]

To the 21-year-old - please go back home and end that relationship. Just to keep it short and not to ramble too much. You will thank yourself at a later stage in life. It will hurt to let go especially because you are so invested , but babygirl please , you will truly thank yourself later. The right person for you will find you on your path and you will not have to hope they’ll change to be better for you. 🌸

[@nomfundozungu2859]

"You choose a partner based on patterns"...that is so profound and I needed to hear it❤🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@thuliswaklaas261]

Indeed the stigma of trying to get a routine has put a lot of us under unnecessary pressure😂... Thanks for sharing Brenden

[@naiyemaipelokgang3387]

Mrs Mom you're such a gentle reminder of so much for me and you're radiating Glory momma. Keep on gliding on those wings like eagles'. Rooting for you beautiful ❤️

[@osirohT]

"You don't want to have a routine that makes you unhappy" and "routines are seasonal" 👊🏾 so true guys

[@evanahkatsande3787]

Here for Brenden not wanting to make it gender specific in order to be inclusive of people who identify as non-binary 👏🏾👏🏾. This conversation was so refreshing!

[@BerniceMB]

I always enjoy these chats. Always so relatable! “Choose your partner based on patterns!” Loved that!

[@elizabethmmapaseka7364]

Mphoomy hypes Bren ALLLL the time. Today Bren is out here trying to give her a compliment and she straight up brushed it off and diverted straight to the topic. 🤣🤣🤣😂 Noooo Mrs Mom. #UMUHLE _NTOMBO!!!🙆‍♀️🙆‍♀️💣💥

[@nomsa06]

Mpumi I’m like you - I’m so afraid of marriage because I feel like marriage will strip me away from “me time” because mornings are mine lol 😂. I pray to God for an understanding husband who’ll be happy to do his own thing otherwise I’m going to be unhappy.

[@timbawangu3038]

I pray you find that one🙏🙏

[@nomsa06]

@@timbawangu3038 Thank you 🙏🏿

[@kaonewillie4492]

Brenden s honesty is top tier. 👌

[@matshidisocatherinekomako9150]

My comment to the 21 year old. Choose you. Im 39 and if i was 21 id choose me and books. Trust yourself.

[@anointedchosen141]

Brenden is dropping nuggets , I love what he says about get to know yourself and do what makes you feel alive.

[@NothingNewHere777]

You choose stocks pased on potential, you choose a partner based on patterns!

[@bongiwekubheka2965]

Eish......... Patterns!! 🤒 My temperature just went high. We Jesu he makes me a better person. God please give us wisdom as women to not put ourselves last in relationships.

[@BuhleN20]

This has helped me so much with my studies, I’ve been pouring so much into my work, sacrificing time with myself, friends and family, that I’ve been miserable and starting to hate what I’m doing. So I’m going to start prioritising myself, my loved ones and get a routine going.

[@mela_tyibz]

All I'm getting from this is be you for the right reasons. Gravitate towards your truest form of self, fill up however so you can be the best to the next person!!! Urggggg thank you!

[@mpho8728]

This was beautiful, Brenden highlighted the important part about routine. “Do what works for you”🥺

[@tlholohelontlele5077]

"You don't want to build a routine that makes you unhappy" ....i felt that🙌🙌

[@SbahleMkhize]

This was so good!!!!🤌🏾🤌🏾😍😍 the power of loving yourself has truly changed my life.

[@nomsa06]

Not sure if you have a video that’s existing, but I’d love a “go shopping with Mpoomy” because I absolutely LOVE your outfits Hawemah 🙀😍.

[@Syndzz]

Oh yess!!! Brilliant idea!

[@seegos]

Mpoomy's fashion sense is my kinda style.

[@hlengiwepriscagasa4523]

When Brendan said 'At the end of the day you dont want to build a routine that makes you unhappy' I felt it

[@shupiwevakaira9470]

I just love how timely this came for me as an individual, thank you guys... Love you guys, too much Wisdom there! ♥️🇿🇲

[@didihighly-favoured7163]

I'm clapping for this couple 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 😍

[@karabomolobela7955]

Aiii this was interesting hey. Especially about routines. Lol I am soo not a morning person and been struggling with being a 5am club lol but ever since I left my 8 to 5 job. I have become such a morning person but I think it's like you guy say the stage of the life I'm at now. Because I've found it to be much more beneficial for me to wake up at 5 and pray 6am start cleaning the house. While the kids are still asleep. Haven't been consistent with it past few days and I see that it's struggle if I have to clean the house when the little ones are up. Thank you soo always sharing your stories with us. And @brenden I felt you brother when you said date nights haven't been happening in a while. Same here. We will fix this and @mpoomy I'm also not a nice person when I didn't start my day with Jesus😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@buyisilemohale2881]

This is so good! Because at times you become somewhat grumpy Because your spouse doesn't do what you deem couples should do together! My husband is NOT a morning person and just like Brenden,he prefers his coffee/jogging and good music then all other things can come...hearing Brenden say this has kind of opened my eyes that I should accept how making HIMSELF a priority looks like...thank you for this topic

[@tshifs]

#Marriage is not therapy. What did not work when you were dating only gets magnified in marriage.

[@wanderingcucamber7082]

✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽

[@thembiesiyy]

True

[@michellenhove2244]

This is so insightful. Prioritising myself is also having a morning and night routine, skincare, cleaning, meal preps etc

[@moses782]

Brenden being open and honest, love your character Man!!!

[@tapiwachimwaida4175]

I totally agree with you Brenden on the stigma around those daily routines. There's really no 'one size fits all'! We are different and yes - ROUTINES ARE SEASONAL!! I like it..

[@mela_tyibz]

I died when Brenden asked, "babe which concealer is this one?" love you guys ♥ 😂

[@tejaanmusic8357]

I hope I can have podcast like this with the one I love.

[@celinethomas3168]

When someone shows you who they are,believe them!✨

[@michaelalyn4265]

my brother recommended this channel to me and meeeeehn I am loving both of you. 🇺🇬

[@mbalenhlehlongwane855]

Completely agree and enjoyed this topic. It’s important to prioritise yourself, especially in marriage.❤️❤️

[@veebee0115]

Mpoomy and Brenden you're both amazing souls.

[@Mbali_Rocks]

Just discovered you guys at the right time. Been losing myself lately and this podcast is just the best for me right now. You guys are just amazing ❤️😢 thank you

[@faithyyyMoreroa]

It’s gonna be okay ❤️

[@amandagentles8994]

"yall heard it here first" Brenden with the spice 😂 This is such an important conversation. A great reminder to prioritize one self. It's so easy not to do it.

[@Sindisile]

Very important this topic, routine, self discipline, balanced lifestyle

[@nkosinathinkosi949]

This topic has landed yazin, it just became so loud and it hit home. Thank you for the awesome show

[@lesegoyv]

Its crazy how professional you guys are, complementing one another like strangers meeting for the first time and being lovers at the same time. Lo bantle ibile lwa ratega. We appreciate you Boora Ledwaba. Love Lesego

[@malethaboskhosana2001]

Brenden's honesty 🔥 Thank you 🙌🏽

[@_nceba__]

Mpoomy and Brenden are Godsent 🙌🏿🙌🏿♥️.

[@PheladiNewman]

They are hle.

[@phililekalekometsa7614]

I am that church member who has been here for a long time and has just been absorbing and sorting lessons that resonates with me. This has been one that definitely warrant a comment for me. Day made

[@wanderingcucamber7082]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@pksimom2429]

You guys are literally what makes me feel like my high self. Prioritizing myself is waking up in the morning and consuming your positive wisdom. Podcast or KZbin video. I literally become so self aware in the most beautiful light! Simo (my partner can advocate to this) ! One of the things that’s makes my cup full is you guys❤️. I love your union. ❤️

[@pksimom2429]

Absolutely loved this podcast/ KZbin video 🥺❤️🙏🏽

[@wanderingcucamber7082]

🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@andreashitaa7926]

I'm so much like Brenden. For so long, I felt terrible (and felt it was wong) for not being able to pray in the mornings like most people do. It is so relieving to have listened to both perspectives. Love you guys!

[@portia309]

You guys are so amazing and are God sent! Thank you Mpoomy for highlighting being lost and not knowing your "thing" or passion rather. I am turning 33 years and i am just moving with life and till today i do not know what is my passion. Grateful for my job as it has good benefits and i can pay for my bills. I will pray about it and ask God for guidance as i always feel miserable and purposeless. I need to feel fulfilled (it is never too late).

[@mphotoniamosotho3545]

This conversation was meant for me!!! I feel like it's the added push I needed.

[@thomotshipinyane7980]

'At the end of the day you don't want to build a routine that makes you unhappy ' 🔥🔥🤞🏾

[@matshabellomonageng3841]

'God help me discover what my thing is'

[@keneilwemarwane]

I don't think it's wrong, it boils down to understand that you live for an audience of one, that is God, many a times, we get married and loose ourselves on who God wants us to be, yes there's a need to still understand that my position in the marriage as a man or woman is unique and a special place God anointed for me and important to embrace.

[@moagabosatekge6734]

Brenden came in with wisdom, wow that "even if u don't change " AMEN

[@luchulumancomani1009]

Sibonge🙏 I HAD to hear this. I have been doing sooo much and wearing sooo many hats that I lost me. Only now that I calm myself down and say "look make time for you". Coz I lost that after the birth of my 2nd born and the new level at work. Now I am okay with my failures. I am okay with knowing that at times I fall short. I will reboot and startover

[@nyashamakura8743]

You choose stocks based on potential but you choose a partner based on patterns !!

[@PurpleAngel1550]

A minute in and I hear Brenden just full on appreciate how snacky Mrs Mom looks ♥️ love to see it 🙌🏾🥰

[@mrspboledi]

I am a huge believer in prioritising yourself in marriage. I learned over the first few years in marriage that when I began prioritising myself, it spilled over so positively into my husband and kids without leaving me feeling drained. No matter how loving the marriage or relationship is, no external factor can fill what self love and paying attention to yourself has to fill.

[@katlegohlongwane8068]

You’ll are a powerhouse, so much wisdom for your age, God at work🙌🏿

[@kundaipatson1771]

Thank you guys for sharing yourselves with us, your content has made me a better person❤️❤️

[@delphineiracyadukunda4608]

You guys are 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Am so grateful to God for finding you .....this can only be grace and outpouring of God's love ...am 23 and listening to your stories and wisdom and knowledge with everything happening around me and in this season of my life is a pure blessing🙏🙏🙏 thank you thank you so much...😅 literally can't wait to share with my friends the treasure ( you people) that I just found so that we can all learn and grow together..once again thank you so much. May God bless you and continue to increase you in all areas of your life. Lots of love all the way from Zambia ❤️

[@lindakhanyile3252]

This was for me 🥺🥺 I am moved. The last advise, that was definitely for me. Advice taken ✔️. Thanks Mpoomy and Brenden. ❤️

[@khanyisagura4377]

Yho uBrenden, is the real Baba of the nation bethuna. Yho!

[@mariakokela2268]

Shuuuuu🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥too much Wisdom💯🙌Thank you❤️

[@mrsdokotela]

Wonderful podcast 👏I am all about the self love affair but also high light that there is nothing wrong with needing some covering from ur partner...u can pour into ur partner n vice versa its not all about working on ur urself to be better for another person...u as partners can work on each other for the better of ur marriage or relationship

[@leratontw]

"You choose stocks based on their potential. You choose a partner based on the patterns." 🔥🔥🔥 I felt that! It also reminds me of the quote by Maya Angelou: "When people show you who they are, believe them the first time". She has seen who he is and needs to leave asap!

[@biancacave3898]

I was really encouraged by the Routines part. I've been battling to find my own, because I'm constantly comparing it to the norm! Routines are seasonal👏 that will really help me find my balance in routines.

[@gracehlatshwayo2789]

Brenden's honesty👌👌

[@tebogomolefe]

" You choose a partner according to their patterns" Wheeeeeeew!!!!That hit hard😅🌈🧡

[@katlegon_]

Mpoomy is so beautiful 😍😍😍😍

[@sibonisiwemgweba2213]

"Let's not make it gender specific because we exclude certain people from the conversation" ☑️☑️. Thoroughly enjoyed this episode

[@nelzg5819]

This podcast is such a pleasure to watch. The transparency and sharing of helpful info. Wish there could be another 1. Thanks fam😇

[@mologadihazellegodi8626]

Love this podcast because it's not only for married people, as a single person I feel so much catered for❤️ This podcast is what I needed.

[@aloisiaamavila21]

I love her look today and much needed topic :))

[@pettie_]

I am just like Brenden, In the morning I just want praise music that wakes me up, I say a prayer though. Evenings are my time, Thats when I can journal, bible study and read a book. I even work best at night. I am such a night owl.

[@mbalizakwe3107]

Thank you so much guys we learn a lot from you .❤❤

[@asemahlekose8980]

I'm always looking forward to watching you guys so much because I know I'll take something constructive or learn a thing or two. What you said "I am a better servant to you when I'm fulfilled". That for me was everything.... Brandens response to the letter👊👏👏👑🔥🔥

[@TheNachos]

💯 agree with breaking the stigma around routine. Again it goes back to your personality type “introvert vs extrovert”. Honestly do what works best for you as an individual as you have nothing to prove to man. As long as what you do is honouring and glorifying God - that’s all that matters. He knows our hearts, He knows our intentions. Niyangichaza, ngiyanithanda. 🥂 to prioritising self in order to becoming best partners for our spouses and those around us. #livingauthentically Love, Mrs Nacho

[@pumzamlondi8538]

Brenden's advise is spot on! Hoping someone will change leads to disappointment and resentment.

[@bongi2626]

In couples therapy I learnt that when I brush off my partners compliments or explain why I’m looking pretty, it discourages him. Still learning to just say thank you and receive the compliment. Seeing you brush off his Compliment reminded me of that. Argh you guys ❤️

[@seipatistomberg1091]

Such wisdom in both Mpoomy and Brenden. Shuu!!❤❤

[@celinethomas3168]

Girl,You deserve to be filled the same way you pour❤

[@mrspboledi]

I love that point about knowing what centres you, I’m an extroverted introvert, I enjoy so much time alone, I have to have my workout too or I don’t become nice🥴.

[@qhamasangqu683]

Mpoomy is soo beautiful ♥️

[@nnatalie50nn]

You both are so cute 🥰 together, I first learn about this couple when I heard them singing” Blessing “ Love their accent.. just beautiful I can tell this is true love ❤️ God is good..