Should Men Heal From Their Trauma Before Dating? | TEA-G-I-F

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[@dolcenina28]

Men and women should heal from trauma.

[@emanualcarr7408]

Exactly, why is it a gender based healing? Either sex should heal. This is problematic and careless shade going on with this show. So when members of the LGBT community have an issue, do they gender base discriminate against them too?

[@iluvbwx]

@@emanualcarr7408 Saying men should heal from their trauma doesn’t mean they’re saying women shouldn’t heal. Y’all just like to be mad.

[@lynesec532]

Yea everyone should

[@jba414]

@@emanualcarr7408 LGBT at the end of the day identify themselves with either gender so that comparison makes no sense since they already included lol

[@camilogomezkeep2324]

EXACTAMENTE!

[@YeahmynameKiara]

If you experience any type of trauma, I think you should focus more on healing that goes for a person wanting to be in a relationship also people who want to be parents.

[@camilogomezkeep2324]

Exactly.

[@poeticpoems1234]

Armon is absolutely right. You Go Armon.

[@miaprice3590]

Why is this even a question 🙃it’s common sense to heal before for bleed all over someone who didn’t hurt you

[@sweet-tee1196]

ItHaving common sense in relationships is important, but unfortunately, there are many people who carry unresolved childhood traumas into their adult lives and relationships. This often leads to disastrous outcomes for both parties involved, especially when both individuals have unaddressed trauma.

[@kandi668]

Thank you Al. Why criticize single mothers? Deadbeat fathers scar their children and the mother of their children.

[@sabrina21clark]

Al, some...some. They need both a healthy mother and a healthy father. There are some toxic single moms and some healthy single moms. Same with toxic dads and healthy dads.

[@kanyegang2810]

Thank u Al

[@kamillejohnson3293]

We all should

[@nataliabrizan]

I agree with AL, he is 100% right

[@CruzRosa-kk1nl]

Armon is on point.

[@Moneystayswithme]

Thank you Al 👏

[@allthingsmarva]

Kids are already born boy, girl, or intersexed. Parents, male or female, should teach children how to be good human beings. Stereotypical socialization practices are ruining society.

[@TT-xj3si]

EVERYONE should take tke between relationships to heal from.whatever trauma or emotional situation they have gone thru b4 moving on to the next bringing that excessive baggage with them.

[@ricardored207]

Experiencing adult therapy for a whole year helped me understand not only myself, but others as well to the point where I can sense energy or vibes more now, without any words even spoken I’ve learned what’s said most is the unsaid….. The generations of black men all had trauma that leaked over to the next, it’s your personal choice to break away from it all….

[@2centsfreelancer]

She right your first love it’s the opposite of sex. No one saying one parent is more important than other or the single parent didn’t try they best. No different for a woman who had an unhealthy relationship w/ her father in the life, it’s going to carry to her relationship men. If a man have an unhealthy relationship w/ his mother it’s going to carry to his relationship w/ women. What’s probably more common w/ sons and mothers are lack of boundaries.

[@jba414]

I think mothers treat their sons differently because of the absentee father, more than a father would treat his daughter differently because of the mother. The thing with this case is the son is most likely to get the most harm/trauma and untaught lessons. But we were taught to hide it in our communities. We have too many single parent homes in our communities and the mom rightfully so is most likely the guardian in that house. If you have a son with a mother that's not only unhealthy, but mixed with an absentee father or one that's hardly around, he's set up for failure way worse than that daughter. At least if the daughter has an unhealthy relationship with her father, that same mother actions the daughter can learn from positive or negative because she is there. Son has neither side to learn from but negative, so the streets teach him. Not making any excuses but this trauma shit goes deeper than ppl think regarding these young boys/men.

[@user-zi8qe6tf9f]

انا اختكم من اليمن والله ماتكلمت الا من جوع ومن ضيق الحال انا وامي واخوتي نبكي من الجوع والظروف نحن في حاله لايعلم بها الا الله حسبنا الله ونعم الوكيل في من اوصلنا الى هاذا الحال 💔💔وًّالَلَهَ الَعَظَيَمَ مَا كتَبَتَ هَذا الَمَنَاشَدَهَ غَيَرَ مَنَ الَضَيَقَ وّالَفَقَر يَاعَالَمَ حَسَوّا فَيَنَا ارَجَوّكمَ وّالَلَهَ الَعَظَيَمَ رَبَ الَعَرَشَ الَعَظَيَمَ انَه الَاكلَ مَا فَيَ عَنَدَيَ بَالَبَيَتَ وًّالَلَهَ يَا اخَوّانَيَ انَهَ اخَوًّنَيَ بَقَعَدَوًّ بَالَيَوًّمَيَنَ مَافَى اكلَ وًّالَلَهَ وًّضَعَنَا كثَيَرَ صَعَبَ نَحَنَ 6 نَفَرَ دَاخَلَ الَبَيَتَ وًّابَيَ مَتَوًّفَيَ وًّلَا يَوًّجَدَ مَنَ يَعَوًّلَ عَلَيَنَا وًّسَاكنَيَنَ فَيَ بَيَتَ اجَارَ لَانَسَتَطَيَعَ دَفَعَ الَاجَارَ الَلَيَ بَاقَيَ عَلَيَنَا ''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''''' اخي اول كلامي انا اقسم بالله على كتاب الله اني لااكذب عليك ولا انصب ولا احتال اني بنت يمنيه نازحين من الحديده اني واسرتي بيننا ایت الشهرب 15 الف يمني والان علينا 60 الف حق 4شهور وصاحب البيت من الناس الي ماترحم والله يا اخي انه يجي كل يوم يبهدلنا ويتكلم علينا ويريد من البيت للشارع لانناماقدرنا ندفعله الأجار شافونا الجيران نبكي ورجعو تكلمو الجيران ومهلنالاخره الأسبوع معادفعنا له حلف يمين بالله هذا بيخرجنا إلى الشارع رحمه واحنا. بلادنا بسبب هذا الحرب ولانجد قوت يومنا وعايشين اناوامي واخوتي سفار والدنا متوفي الله يرحمه ومامعنا أحد في هذا الدنيا جاانبنا في هذه الظروف القاسيه اخوتي الصغار خرجو للشارع وشافو الجيران ياكلو واوقفو عند بابهم لجل يعطوهم ولو كسره خبز والله الذي له ملك السموات والارض انهم غلفو الباب وطردوهم ورجعو یبکو ایموتو من الجوع ما احد رحمهم وعطلة ردها لقمت عیش والان لوما احدنا ساعدنا في إيكيلو دقيق اقسم بالله انموت من الجوع فيا اخي انا دخيله على الله ثم عليك واريد منك المساعده لوجه الله انشدك بالله تحب الخير واتساعدني ولو ب 500 ريال يمني مع تراسلي واتساب على هذا الرقم 00967717354582 وتطلب اسم بطاقتي وترسلي ولاتتاخر وايعوضك الله بكل خير اخواني سغار شوف كيف حالتهم وساعدنا وأنقذنا قبل أن يطردونا في الشارع تتبهدل أو نموت من الجوع وانا واسرتي نسالك بالله لولك مقدره على مساعد لاتتاخر علينا وجزاك الله خيررا`//--~~«««~~♡~♡~♡~~•~•~♡~♡~♡~~♡~♡~♕~♡~♡♡♡~~~~: ~: ~! ~! ~! ~؛ ~'❤😢❤❤🎉❤🎉❤😢❤😢

[@jussou22]

Both men and women should focus on trauma. Why do we always blame women or mothers? Women may have issues as well as men with past traumas. It's not only single mothers. It may be a two parent household that brings trauma in the living space.

[@ralphangel561]

BOTH genders should heal. Men should teach boys how to be gentlemen and women should teach girls to be Ladies

[@Dawn1968]

I know someone who didn't have his father around, and they have trust issues ,but they're a good man,but just these issues

[@esppresentssudderth3901]

Yes it's extra when its your mom.because he doesn't know how to connect with a women because the mother is the first example of what a woman is, a women is always left with the children expect his mom to be mom

[@TheAlkebulanTrust]

Not everyone goes through trauma and even so, many heal by having dating experiences and relationships. Dont project what you want to do for yourself onto others.

[@esppresentssudderth3901]

I think k bot but especially their moms because they don't see their mom as a mom but pernicious the mother are the biggest influence rather father is their or not they go to mom

[@tammyjames9323]

The trauma may not be just from women, but overall trauma from their fathers and mothers or the family as a whole. A man's trauma is not always from the mom. Other factors play in the trauma.

[@jba414]

A would think especially in society now the trauma comes mostly from the other sex. Our ppl we always tackle the WHOLE without starting at the majority first. Us men we can have trauma from a man, but having it from your mama/wife/girl is different. Most our love and love we desire comes from them most. We live in a society where it's normal for KIDS sad to say but to expect their father not to be there, we are not taught by society as Kids mostly boys to have a bad mother so the trauma is deeper and more hurtful to us. Most of our drama is definitely not from anybody more than women, because we were NEVER taught to handle that as boys. Learning how to be respected is taught to girls, not boys.

[@roberthenryscott8176]

There’s no end date of healing

[@budlight6665]

Here y'all go bringing bossie in the mix smh

[@marlonharrison5511]

Please explain your stance?

[@budlight6665]

@@marlonharrison5511 they always bringing this man up,then when he fire back he the problem,

[@marlonharrison5511]

@budlight6665 Boosie is very problematic, essentially after he said, "A Grown Woman" gave his 13 year old son head.

[@19Shirl77]

🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@alexpress5375]

Before you get in a relationship and burden and ruin other's lives. Work on yourself PLEASE AND THANK YOU!

[@esppresentssudderth3901]

Yes men should heal but will we except them, a trauma man I don't think that we women can handle the healing process

[@sabrina21clark]

That's why they should heal first.

[@esppresentssudderth3901]

So sorry but will we as a black culture allow let alone us women, I think as women we have our girlfriends to talk with and we can heal that way. But are men safe around the brotherhood to be vulnerable

[@jba414]

@@esppresentssudderth3901 Brotherhood? Are men safe around women to be vulnerable is the question. Our circle of men don't treat us like crap more than a woman would being vulnerable, PERIOD. Men are not all over social media treating women badly because y'all are vulnerable to us about y'all deep feelings, that's WOMEN ignorant behavior. Women use that against us later, every damn time, our circle of men doesn't. Yeah women talk to other women to get by and then CLOWN men that act vulnerable ANYWHERE especially around them, to her same circle of women she gets terrible advice from. Society/Women don't even treat sexual assault, domestic violence or anything BOTH genders can endure the same, but always worrying about how men treat each other regarding TRAUMA absolutely sad. How can you watch women EVERYDAY treat our trauma differently and then ask that dumb question? Women are full of SELF awareness ONLY smh