THERAPY SESSIONS | EP 357 | ShxtsNGigs Podcast

[@ocloudsexol586]

Appreciation comment for Ellis. I’m really glad Ellis is opening up about his stuff. In previous episodes you can see he doesn’t really talk, but now we are getting to know him and appreciation to the gang for making him comfortable enough to talk…. I’m rooting for you Ellis.

[@Str8TalkNoCh8r]

😊😊😊😊😊

[@sarahboothe1755]

James is going to therapy, Ellis is working on his confidence, everyone is working on taking care of themselves, I love this look for y'all

[@FS-nq2yc]

Okay, but if James is less toxic because of therapy does that not reduce the quality of the podcast? I’m worried!

[@Kaaaman]

@@FS-nq2ycum

[@snowsinoxolo2961]

@@FS-nq2yc😂😭

[@Bumchats]

😂😂😂😂 great comment lol​@@FS-nq2yc

[@elsabe897]

Not Ellis saying "you've been folding clothes again"😂

[@OalamNk]

😂😂😂Slowly coming out of his shell.

[@SadityLJ]

@@OalamNkwe love to see it

[@rssstrz]

get this to top comment

[@JC-nt1ym]

I was dead 😂😂😂😂😂

[@MrsMockerman1011]

That was not given the recognition it deserved 😂

[@LVLifePrestige]

Who else wants to see a Monster blind test from James? All the drinks in unmarked, opaque flasks. I feel like he would get a 12/12. Make it happen.

[@helenes01]

Could be a video for their reacts chanel actually!

[@abdulstillcookin]

I upvote this!! Guys blow this up!

[@wtfrlly]

I just love how James laughs. When he’s really dying from laughter he always covers his eyes. He’s so anime coded.

[@vespera9115]

RIGHTTTTT like its giving shonen character

[@SheytoonSomy]

Lmfao I love how James in every episode tries to put Fuhad in a sexual scenario in which he has life or death choices if he doesn't do it.

[@danielepoubel]

and my man still picks DEATH! todays episode made james GLOW

[@Matt-sn3lo]

This man said get on top of me or get off 😂😂😂

[@LifeOfMohamed]

Fuad is so bad at at those scenarios 😂

[@bryanumarukauma6128]

Our boy James is dying in the closet...getting hard

[@Sarah.f524]

This is the comment i was looking for😂😂😂😂😂😂 its SOOO true - i thought EXACTLY this - the minute he made the scenario

[@SookieThreads]

I love this for Ellis…he’s like a little caterpillar finally growing into a beautiful butterfly 🥹

[@rssstrz]

wouldn't say beautiful🤣

[@entropy3615]

"I'm a beautiful butterfly" 😂🤣

[@emilynormakudze5501]

Right this has been his coming over age story his character development has been amazing 🥹🥹

[@kstorm9954]

I love Ellis ❤

[@shonacardwell9672]

Yesss, he deserves some lime light 😢

[@tee2fr3sh]

Them holding hands like proud parents when Ellis is speaking about being more confident is super cute to me. I absolutely love them

[@heyyitszey]

They held hands like proud parents listening to Elis 😂 like “look at our boy growing up ao fast” 💀

[@abes2758]

More like mates who are self aware. Not sure what the fuck you were seeing lol

[@shlalalaa]

why did i get teary eyed when Ellis started talking about wanting to be more confident and they were holding hands 🥺

[@talzp]

James' excited face when Fuhad agreed to the position on the door 😂😂 he was lowkey surprised he agreed 😂

[@shazz286]

Because it's the first time Fuhad has saved him😂😂😂

[@avaholloway32]

He had the nerve to say "what if you felt a little tummy stick" 👀😂

[@JeremyMYG]

What had me dying is James won and then tried to take it too far. 🤣

[@lilyevans256]

Fuhad muttering "Oh God" before James comes with the hypothetical situation just shows how well he knows James and he knew it would get weirdly sexual in a way that makes people question his sexuality 🤣

[@chishakabinga9954]

For real 😭😭😭😭

[@BleuWaveyQueen]

James does it on purpose 😂😂😂

[@fadineles4471]

I relate with Ellis soo much.... His social anxiety and always having to think so much before you speak. Thank you guys so letting him open up

[@diehardhardyfan]

It sounds like Ellis was constantly misunderstood because he seems to have a flat affect when he says things. And most people assume flat affect to be negative. I’m glad he opened up about it

[@youmakemehappy7]

Yes!! And bc of that, sometimes I stutter a little bit bc I can't get it out😂😂 😂

[@yunodonnyg]

This is actually the very first time Fuhad actually was willing to save James😹😹😹😹😹😹😹

[@n.sue-ann5527]

Im obsessed with Fuhad and James. God really knew what he was doing when he made these two friends : the duo the world needed 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@Kmaryd2]

The whole Titanic discussion had me in TEARS 😂😂 From James' initial reaction, to Fuhad flipping the door 😂

[@KamisKisses]

This is an appreciation post for Ellis. You got this. 🤗 and the Back to School segment is my fave, feeling validated as a know-it-all all😁🤣

[@elenawilliams32]

Yes! He comes across as a man who will be the most awesome loving and loyal husband and father one day.

[@FiercestAngel]

Let’s be clear, give him a year, max 2, Ellis is gonna be THEEE most eligible bachelor! The influence from these guys is gonna just give him such a vibe, he’s gonna be unstoppable. James is gonna be so vexed, but with a strong flavour of pride! 😂

[@WaeretiMarshall]

Agreed. Like every episode Ellis body is bodying his confidence is confidenceing 😂😂 here for it !!

[@FiercestAngel]

@@WaeretiMarshallRiiiighhhttt??!! I’m sticking around for the ride. Soon as he peaks, I’m going on the prowl in search for him, to give him his first REEEEALL woman experience! 😉😂

[@sonnykundi]

Ayoooooo whaaaat😂😂😂😂😂​@@FiercestAngel

[@kanijahkennedy1701]

@@FiercestAngelYou’re so real for this😭😭😭

[@bethmcewan3084]

The guys talking about mental health and therapy was the best bit - so nice to see guys have a positive conversation about mental wellbeing as the stigma can make it so hard for men to open up 😊

[@dogantl]

I feel like this was one of few episodes where I feel like I learned more about who you all are. Not as jokesters entertainers, or content creators, but as the men you all are. For you all to feel safe with each other and safe with us to tell your truth, is amazing and it's beautiful that you all can support each other like this.

[@hollyharris5939]

Best part -three male friends clapping for another male friend starting therapy. We all need to check in once I'm awhile to check our mental health. Way to go men for cheering each other on! Great goals for ALL of you!!

[@redsunflower87]

Love men talking openly about mental health and person struggles. It is great to see community support. You all will continue to accomplish so much and encourage others.

[@YonasA]

James drinking 3 monsters a day talking about he can’t recover 😭

[@entropy3615]

Lmao 🤣 I was wondering if he drinks one instead of coffee but now that you're saying 3, sounds like way too much 😅

[@AjZ530]

tbf he said it as a comparison, you COULD drink 3 of these without getting bored, not that he WAS drinking 3 a day

[@taylurskye]

For real 😂😂😂

[@ninamugabe]

It's really beautiful and heartwarming to hear men talk about therapy and wanting to better themselves 🥺 if no one told you this, you matter, you're enough, you're loved 🥺💓💓 and from the bottom of my heart, I'm sorry people hurt you in the past and didn't respect your boundaries and just took advantage of your kindness 🥺

[@christenreed2947]

Your amazing and I wish you nothing but love and happiness 🥺🥺❤️

[@MsTaLaiah]

🤎🤎🤎I hope we all see our value this year.

[@salliegal8932]

James, what you were describing with Monster is ADDICTION!!!

[@TheodoreBakes]

😂😂

[@KB_187]

You guys should reach out to the company that makes the activity bands you’re wearing for a sponsorship because y’all just made me want to get one

[@unit03]

I wanna know what it is so I can get one too😂

[@daveharrisonjnr]

@@unit03 It’s called a whoop band

[@bfgboy2]

​@daveharrisonjnr Thanks! I was looking for someone in the comment section to tell me.😂

[@KB_187]

@@daveharrisonjnr shh we don’t want to give them free promo because these guys need the sponsorship 🤣 but thanks

[@ayamempress1579]

Me too. I want to join their challenge... also wanted to know if it really is waterproof

[@marymills2849]

I love that James is going to therapy, more people should go! Watching someone in the public eye talking so positively about therapy can help remove the stigma of it - especially for men.

[@mrsblahblah92]

Wholeheartedly agree

[@rawuncut6890]

“We’re trying to survive here and you’re getting hard?! For what ? For WHO?!” 😂😂😂😂

[@aic0809]

I was cackling at that part! “Subside that boner!” 😂😂😂

[@thirteenwolfies]

This was James’ opportunity to yell “For you!” Hahaha 😂😂

[@khomotsomashego7473]

This seeeeeeeeent me! 'Subside that boner' boyeeeee! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😅😂😅😂😅😂😅😂

[@msbrenda7104]

Funniest part

[@janaeguillaume4105]

I love how Fuhad is mad about the boner because of the situation instead of the implication. “We’re trying to survive why are you hard?!”

[@joand3502]

So proud of James and Fuhad! That takes balls to admit about therapy. And I hope Ellis and REM also hit there goals!! Praise for all you man.

[@TC-lk5hu]

With the Stevie Wonder thing, I think what people fail to realize is that blindness is rarely 100%.

[@murasakinomorado7210]

Also, other senses are so heightened such as hearing… That was a mic that he sings into. He can tell when he’s too far from the mic and the direction of the mic. So from the way the mic was moving, and the sound feedback, he knew it was falling.

[@FiftyCircles]

@@murasakinomorado7210 and it's likely that he heard Paul knock into it and stuck his hand out in the direction that Paul was moving towards

[@Beautiful_Sound_1995]

​@@murasakinomorado7210 Apparently they're not heightened. Blind people just pay attention to the other senses more because the main one is gone.

[@redrhi]

Also he did turn his head like you would for an automatic reaction, and we didn't see what he did after, did he catch it on his arm, so many questions but let's not question other people's disabilities 😅❤

[@jahnaejones-haywood2948]

Daddies are in therapy now. They just keep getting better and better. I hope you all have a wonderful 2024 and achieve all your resolutions.

[@Claudia-yc8xk]

Im here for Rem to be honest ... he has such a calming presence. Also loved the therapy session, its refreshing hearing men talk about how they feel.

[@vanessasaucedo3537]

Love seeing Ellis look so confident. Can’t wait until he starts making his own content ❤

[@roseblk1010]

I love how James speaks about opening up in therapy. I pray it goes well for you ❤ praying for the success of Fuhad, Ellis, and Remy in their journey as well ❤

[@alexwilks2848]

If James doesn't win this challenge he is going to be unbearable 😂😂

[@chantesimone5492]

Also, if James wins this challenge, he's going to be unbearable 😂😂😂

[@alexwilks2848]

@@chantesimone5492 😂😂😂 faaaacts

[@theeoracle2341]

😂😂😂😂

[@jodeemapoe9032]

​@@chantesimone5492either way we never hearing the end of it 😂

[@chantesimone5492]

@@jodeemapoe9032 😂😂😂NEVERRRRRRR!!

[@stephpowell7648]

57:08 Fuhad's 'swear you had a dream' comment deserved FAR more laughs 😅😂😂😂😂

[@the_elyphant]

James is wiiiild! "Get ontop of me or get off"?? Omg 😂😂 You think you've heard it all from James but he is always one scenario away from saying the braziest sh*t

[@rssstrz]

was not one bit surprised

[@josephantoncich7786]

Been following you guys for a while now but this episode was amazing!! Went out and got myself my first ultra white and just enjoyed how open you were about your goals for 2024 and about doing therapy!! Its amazing that you talk about stuff so openly because you will surely influence others (especially men) to talk about their feelings and be real with themselves and others. If i worked anywhere near you guys I swear I would have offered you all free therapy just to have the privilege.

[@thelizedit]

Men encouraging men to open up is so beautiful to see as we don’t see enough of this. Such a beautiful episode, so real, so humble

[@LauraValenz-bn3cw]

Fuhad and james holding hands being proud of ellis growth. They seem like proud parents lol 😂

[@JustUdoro]

This segment about #Monster just secured your contract/sponsorship/brand deal with them. MARK THESE WORDS!! 🙌🏾❤️🙌🏾 James’ descriptive persuasion paired with Fuhad’s curious questions and taste-test…GOLDEN FOR #MONSTER!!

[@amaya2938]

This is the only thing keeping me from going insane on Mondays 😭

[@tamsynbrett2096]

Init

[@hananal-johani741]

same

[@Fun_377]

Facts

[@oliviadavidson8608]

Realll

[@IceyLee-yi2ud]

I woke up waiting for another episode as well

[@littlebrowngirl4]

James & Fuhad are so proud of Ellis' confidence resolution, its giving big brother vibes and i love it 🥰

[@cindydube9937]

So proud of James for remembering to do the intro this week. 😂

[@crystalh1619]

I actually think Fuhad subtly reminded him.

[@SadityLJ]

1:07:32 when james reached for fuhad’s hand 😭😭😭 they’re so proud

[@khloerexxx9569]

Proud Daddy moment if ever I saw one 😍😍😍

[@nickp3265]

“Bio-mechanically, I feel like being the bottom.”🤣 James and fuhad have the most ayo moments between bros and they never get weird about it. That’s a bromance

[@stephpowell7648]

I LOVE Ellis so much in this Ep man. Loved him before but wow! He's just SKYROCKETED in my estimation ❤

[@Namuggah]

Ellis, you seem like such an amazing guy and even though we just get bits and pieces of you here and there, I am rooting for you. You go boy 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@90dahveed09]

That ending discussing NY resos, was so wholesome. "Chase that Creative Bag" is definitely something I am going to adopt

[@Thedancingtherapist]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 I am a psychotherapist and love seeing this side to you, men encouraging and holding space for each other, keep it up. So much power comes from sharing our vulnerabilities.

[@in.art.hiiiii]

“Swear you had a dream” had me in stitches 😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jeremiahmityero7501]

Turning that titantic door scene into a case study is top tier stuff 🤣

[@camilledieudonnepierre39]

Ellis speaking about being confident James and Fuhad are giving Dr. McCalister vibes 😂😂🙆🏾‍♂️

[@JeremyMYG]

Mad respect to Fuhad and James for going to therapy. It definitely changed my mind and helps me out every time I talk to my therapist, especially since I got my degree in psychology. I also have a psychiatrist for my medication management. Edit: I talk to my therapist twice a month and psychiatrist once a month.

[@kirstennyirongo9298]

The therapy sessions..?? Best part of today’s episode ❤️🔥 round of applause for all of you. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@fuckel98]

“No one’s doin connections like that” shots fired at Philly and Chunkz 😂😂 James was hurt by that episode 😂

[@S_HL04]

They redeemed themselves on Philly and Chunkz pod 😂❤

[@fuckel98]

@@S_HL04 indeed they did, but we all know James can’t let shit slide when it comes to his relationship with Big Daddy Fuakes

[@S_HL04]

@fuckel98 truuuuue, he's gotta make sure everyone knows they're daddies

[@glitterbaby00]

*Filly 😏 he’s not named after soft cheese

[@Laney0601]

True friendships: being competitive, making jokes, laughing your butts off, and still hyping each other up and giving all the support. Good job guys!

[@lilypowder1]

This was such a wholesome episode. I LOVED the OG Therapy Sesh episode those years back. Seeing the SNG fam work in themselves is so inspiring! I can’t wait for the flashback to this episode in the last December episode for the year to see how everyone evolved! 🤍

[@jacindamoad284]

Is it just me or do these guys get funnier & sexier every episode?!?!❤😂

[@ReallifeissueswithJay]

I low key stopped watching them cos they be messing with my head

[@hayleyskladanek5717]

The more often I watch you guys on other podcasts, and listen to those entertainers ask you for best practices, and try to understand your unique formula for the lightning in a bottle you have with this show; I realize so COMPLETELY That you guys are ABSOLUTELY AND WITHOUT QUESTION just so naturally gifted at this and MEANT FOR THIS! You make it look effortless, but also It's clear there is not even a close second! Any of these other shows (fairly successful in their own rights) don't even come close to touching the Magic that is ShxtsnGigs, and all the spin-off channels. You all are the best thing on the internet, You bring so much laughter and positivity! I wish you all continued success and prosperity into 2024 and beyond!!

[@amberfrancis5863]

James’ blood pressure is what had his recovery at that level 😂

[@thenaturalqueen]

This!! It’s why I’m here every week 😂😂😂

[@Makumbi]

Awesome episode especially the ending. Elis, embrace who you are. Understand that black people lean into discomfort. So the jokes are not because you are less or an outsider, rather, they (we) are trying to come to terms with who you are and normalising it through humour. Each and everyone on your team have their thing. James points it out because he's an empath follow James' lead and lean into those things he calls out. Fuhad is daddy (hyper masculine) for a reason, Rem is argumentative (intellectual) for a reason and James is effeminate (over exaggeration) for a reason. Those are the quirks you can make fun of. There are things you can lean into that aren't race or upbringing. And, lastly, you can make fun of yourself, race or upbringing (it's alright if you do it) and is hilarious if you jump down someone's throat if they pile on.

[@Prosper927]

Spot on 👌🏿

[@trinitywheeler8439]

It’s so awesome to hear that James and Fuhad are going to therapy! Especially when a little ways back they mentioned they’d never even try it.. so happy to get to watch the journey in real time

[@MrsMockerman1011]

Ugh REM is THAT guy. 😍Whenever he speaks I drool 🤤 I think it’s the way he squints his eyes and his smile. Plus he’s so soft spoken but in a strong way. Oh! He reminds me of my husband! I figured it out.

[@veryfitting]

Therapy! I am so proud of James and Fuhad for talking about this. Very big of them to admit what they did and this is what healthy masculinity looks like. Big love! Very big love!

[@lynpendlebury2804]

Ellis, the lyricist editing menace nice plaque change 😂

[@camerona3523]

I’ve learned from the Oura ring that recovery is tied to heart rate. And where Ellis mentions food affects your recovery, it’s because if you eat late at night and go to bed, your heart rate stays elevated to help digest your food which messes with your sleep.

[@louisebrown3460]

So proud of James for sharing he is in therapy, great role model for anyone considering it 👏🏽

[@rosagachia7960]

Therapy session was my absolute favorite, I started tearing up because I’m so proud of all of you!! The daddies are taking 2024 and doing it up like never before in every aspect; physically, mentally, and emotionally and I’m here for it❤️

[@mgnfrrs]

James recovery low because of all the Monster 😂😂

[@ks-he3gk]

20:45 James getting hyped about Elderflower juice and then LA orange juice kills me 😂

[@byBrieMoore]

VERY proud of James, and Fuhad, for not only starting therapy, but also being open to talk about it!!! Loving the new segments guys. Y'all have me thinking hard while listening now. And leave it to change to sneak in a sexual position while trying not to freeze to death. LOLOLOL. Very important ending!! Loved everyone's transparency.

[@nataliesutherland1518]

I had anxiety, parents old school and I'm probably undiagnosed after going through stuff with my babies. I did CBT after postnatal nearly 12yrs ago. I literally had to remind myself why can't I answer a question or speak my mind when I have 1 life to live. I have grown since. That fear from yrs ago the fears from childhood which I wanted to address from teen yrs is messing with me right now. I know I'm surviving dealing with my babies stuff but i'm ignoring my past stuff.

[@ConversationsWithFungai]

Im a therapist and have been in therapy myself for a year. I thought i was an open book until i got an hour a week to just talk about me. My life changed ! Therapy is for everyone.

[@hilenihaupindi1730]

James is that one competitive sibling

[@ZahraPhotay]

Ellis laugh in the background was the highlight for sure 30:08

[@cocofive6747]

My favourite episode so far. Laughter, challenges, self accountability & how to.make yourselves the best version of you. Embrace the support guys. Thank you to the 4 of you giving me something to think about.

[@fibafolubalogun3057]

I just love Ellis. This is your year man and we are all here for it. We are all supporting you and rooting for you 🥰🥰🥰.

[@VusiTheOne]

Was I the only one screaming "Kakaroooooot" Vegeta style😂😂

[@vivienneo466]

Lmao James' stress level is why his recovery has been suffering 😅😂

[@sandiewestie]

He be stressing about being last on the challenge 😅😅

[@thenightingale580]

Ellis & Rem sweep them under the rug. I’m watching this for you too now!

[@rssstrz]

rems face when everyone else is talking about their gym work is hilarious.

[@christinablakey1523]

My 15 year old son has been struggling with his mental health the last year being bullied making to feel like a ( in his words ) freak he’s has several heart surgeries and has learning difficulties iv been trying to get him to if not talk to me talk to a therapist but it’s not a “manly” thing to do he says iv let him listen to you both talking about therapy and he’s agreed to go I love these podcasts but now I’m so so so grateful thank you x

[@diaaamxnd]

as SOON as i heard James say "I have a question"...I knew exactly what was about to happen 😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@kenetrice]

Knowing that James was building up to Fuhad being on top of him on the door had me cackling. 😂😂 I was waiting on Fuhad to say, “no I’m gonna let you freeze to death” like he normally does. 😢😂 love to see Fuhad growing in his love for James 😊

[@zxhra.13]

An episode longer than an hour, redeemed yourselves after patreon last week daddies 💀

[@jajuan_brown]

Why u say it like that man 😭😭😭 Ion have the patreon tho, what happened

[@lovemannen6176]

@@jajuan_brownthey played football. The white team vs the red and blue team. James and Fuhad on the white team and Rem and Ellis on the red team. James dropped a masterclass scoring a hattrick and the white team won 4-1 and lifted the SNG Cup 🎉

[@jajuan_brown]

@@lovemannen6176 ah I see, sounded fun

[@zxhra.13]

@@jajuan_brown the guy who replied to you is trolling you 😭😭 lmao but, the patreon ep last week was only 39 mins and we were all outraged lol

[@YTChapp0104]

I knew I sensed bs lol

[@servingcant]

During the Therapy part I could relate to Ellis, being more confident is one of my resolutions too. Also putting myself out there as a creative.

[@IamJordan0023]

“We’ve all been tired since we were 13” Felt bro. Shout out to the guys for that therapy session🫡

[@hollyseigle2007]

As an only daughter of a single mom who had regularly disappointing or fearful encounters with men, it is so soothing to enjoy you all talking together 💝 I’m a happy homebody so I’m not even available to find men in the wild to observe, to learn more. Your camaraderie is palpable, genuine. And it’s nice to not have to leave the house Lol

[@stephpowell7648]

They're BEAMING after winning the 2nd friend quiz 😅😂😂😂

[@the_comfy_pa3da150]

I think that glow is coming from them being in relationships 😊

[@ks-he3gk]

26:45 James finally got the answer he’s been longing for 😂

[@alexismum]

Boys, your new format is cooking. Let's go! Keep the longer video please😊

[@evanlynlio8885]

the little therapy sesh at the end was so good i think it’s so important for guys to be able to talk about their feeling openly

[@RaeDSJ8512]

Tell Ellis we’re noticing the changes in him already!! Idk if it’s the 75 Hard or just speaking on the pod more, but he’s holding his head up higher, and he just has a stronger aura around him. Good on you Ellis!

[@sibushoniwa7083]

This episode is a reminder that we all need the right people around to bring out the best, so proud of the lads, Ellis thank you for being so vulnerable, James so proud of your therapy journey, knock those walls down Rem! And daddy we ready for you, this year is going to be amazing 🧘🏾‍♀️

[@Little-Sal-Pal]

You guys should add links for Rem and Ellis's streaming and other content creation! I'd love to support them as well. Also I like the idea of switching the boards, I think it would be more entertaining if they still read the answers on the boards passed to them, I could see good discussion coming from that lol

[@sassysaffron123]

Rem links his on his insta! Idk about Ellis though 😅

[@tarrahb]

This Back to School segment is fantastic!

[@littlemouse1927]

I swear James could sell me tap water haha How does he make everything look and sound so good

[@merp9211]

I’m so proud of the guys for setting important goals for themselves.