SIDS Can Happen to Anyone - A Pediatricians Story | American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP)

[@ClassieLadie3]

I lost my son. My first born son. He was a healthy beautiful 3 month old boy. I haven’t gotten my son’s autopsy but I know it was sids. Such a F*** cruel world we live in. A mother and Father should never lose a child. He passed away 7/30/21, a date that forever changed us. I miss you son. I love you so much mama’s boy 💔

[@pavaniveeranalla7211]

Why u haven't got autopsy report?

[@user-zi9gf9gc4t]

I’m so sorry for your loss 💔

[@ireneespinosa3476]

😔😥🙏

[@ClubstepMonsterOfficial]

❤❤❤

[@crystalsky1029]

I hope by now you have gotten a report. I lost my daughter on 7-8-20. Our only little girl. Just had another boy in September. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's been a year now. It took 14 weeks for my daughter's autopsy results.

[@sherrysearcy1409]

I lost my daughter 40 years ago to SIDS. This experience will change you forever.

[@andreaseay1060]

I'm so sorry for your precious daughter♥️

[@user-zi9gf9gc4t]

I’m so sorry for your loss 💔

[@bakedbeans9546]

My dear nana who was born in the 1920s had a daughter who died around 2 years old from what they used to call "cot death" and she never got over it until her death at age 92, she prayed for her daughter every day. I can't imagine the pain you ladies go through, you truly are the strongest women around ❤

[@jackies56tbird]

I lost a son to SIDS in 1982. In 1984 we had another son, he was born at 28 weeks and weighed just 2 pounds. He is 39 now. I wish he could have had his older brother.

[@delphinium5555]

Our baby died to Sudden Unexplained Infant Death some decades ago. No smoking, no drinking household. The baby was in it's own crib but a muslin was placed at the back of the crib to stop his oiled head sticking onto the plastic at the top of the carrycot. This was found bunched near to his face. Keep a clear cot. It's not worth the risk. Brave Dad for speaking out. Brave mother for supporting her husband. The loss is an agony you are never able to recover from.

[@superstar4020]

What age if you don’t mind me asking? Any needles taken around that time before? Sorry for your loss. ❤

[@crystalsky1029]

@@delphinium5555 then that should have been accidental asphyxiation if the blanket was found by his face. I’m so sorry. I am in the same club as you. It’s not one that should exist.

[@delphinium5555]

@@superstar4020 Fourteen and a half weeks. I have no memory as to whether he had vaccinations prior, it wasn't something discussed in the '80's.

[@delphinium5555]

@@crystalsky1029 So sorry you have suffered such a huge devastation in your life. It's heartbreaking.

[@delphinium5555]

@@crystalsky1029 If he had asphyxiated then that would have showed at autopsy. However, it doesn't stop one spending decades feeling guilty for every reason one can think of. He had another medical problem but they said he didn't die because of it and that his death was Sudden Unexplained Infant Death.

[@Serendipity86UK]

I am so so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby boy, thanks for honouring his memory by trying to protect other babies

[@crystalsky1029]

This sounds like accidental asphyxiation and not sids :( I lost my daughter, July 8th, 2020. Our first little girl after 3 boys. I nursed her at 4AM and at 930 woke up to her pale and did cpr for 30 mins, she was life flighted and they couldn’t get her heart to start beating. Her death was ruled SUIDS sudden undetermined infant death syndrome. Everything you said, prevent asphyxiation, smothering. I am so sorry for your loss. No parent should have to live this pain.

[@PrincessAfrica3]

I’m so sorry 😢

[@crystalsky1029]

@@PrincessAfrica3 thank you. It kills me. I feel so damn horrible for this family. I feel guilty, and it eats me alive. I can imagine what they’re feeling, and that’s the worst part. ;( you never expect it to happen to you. When it does? It’s like a tornado 🌪 inside your brain.

[@michelle8929]

Very sorry for your loss 🥺❤️ May your little baby angel watch over you

[@crystalsky1029]

@@michelle8929 thank you so much!

[@GinevraStyle]

Apparently, depending on the baby's age, doctors cannot always be 100% sure a baby has died of suffocation etc.. so they call it SIDS. But the cause can be that, it is just not known 100%. We can assume that it was asphyxiation. I am so sorry for your loss. I just had a baby who will be 4 months and I am terrified of this.

[@Mommyof3xo]

I’m so sorry 😢 all 6 of our babies refused to sleep alone so I totally understand how this can happen 😥

[@jennymyers4144]

No you refused to let your babies sleep alone. Weirdo. Don’t blame your babies. You are the parent. You wanted your kids in bed with you. Obviously. You got lucky but if I was one of your kids, I wouldn’t let you watch any of my children alone. 🤷🏻‍♀️ you didn’t care about your own.

[@anovemberstar]

like he said - he didn't mean to fall asleep with his son. That's not always preventable, babies don't settle in their cots, they need held to settle. Add to that, overtired new parents, desperate for sleep, take the baby out of its cot to settle it. ... Its very very difficult to leave a crying baby to settle in its own cot when it cant settle on its own. Every parent does what he did :(

[@WZ-tp3jm]

Exactly, which is why the AAP needs to get on board with the Safe Sleep 7 and focus of mitigating the risk of cosleeping rather than abstinence- which does not work. New parents are overtired and safely sleeping on the same surface as a baby CAN happen, if you take the proper steps.

[@nazafghan3570]

Not to mention how it’s complete torture listening to your baby helplessly crying and you trying to figure out how to calm them down.

[@KidnapSix]

I cant imagine the guilt and pain he must carry. Its not your fault man.

[@samchub4253]

it's your fault for not raising taxes to provide free babysitting

[@mithila2009]

Oh this is so Sad! He never wanted this to happen. I always said how do people fall asleep with babies in their arms. I just did it last night as I fed her. I have a family member who's gonna stay for 6 weeks her and my husband are taking turns to stay awake. She woke me up. U must be careful and ask for help.

[@nonophat]

So hard cos you usually don't intentionally sleep with your baby on your chest but I have woken up from my sleep with my child on my chest after times and just panic cos I wouldn't remember how it happened... especially after being so sleep deprived 😥 Really scarry.

[@ashlypeeples]

My son just passed away beside me while i was nursing him i guess my breast fell out of his mouth and i suppose the way his neck was he wasn’t getting enough oxygen. He was 9 days old. I know your pain an i am so sorry. He was born on November 29th 2020. He passed away in the hospital they took out his breathing tube on December 11th. We buried him yesterday. Idk why I’m watching these videos i guess to feel connected with those who feel the same pain as i do.

[@destinycabryle]

omg, i’m so sorry for your loss. i’m pregnant with my first baby and this literally just broke my heart. i hate that you went thru this, i can’t even imagine the pain you feel. I wish things like this didn’t happen to people

[@stacygarrison7991]

I am so very sorry for your loss Ashly. I will say a prayer for you today

[@crystalsky1029]

This happened to me. Except after I quit nursing her I held her on my chest, face up. I looked down and she was pale. I did cpr for 30 mins waiting for the ambulance. She was life flighted and they never got her heart to start beating again. There were no signs of asphyxiation, nothing. I lost her July 8th 2020 and 6 days old. Her story is on my channel. We chose to cremate. I couldn’t bury her, but it’s a parents choice. We live in a very small town and don’t plan on staying here forever. I don’t know why I watch them either. :( I am so sorry for your loss.

[@haleyotwell5988]

My son was born November 25th 2020 and passed away December 7th. He was 12 days old. His accident happened at 9 days old and he was took off the ventilator 3 days later, I’m sorry for your loss.💔

[@crystalsky1029]

@@haleyotwell5988 I am so sorry for your loss. :(

[@DanielsHelpmeet]

Nanny by Jablotron, cheaper than an Owlet sock, not dependent on internet or apps, is a certified medical device, and can be used even when baby's a toddler or child. Very sorry for your loss.

[@nazafghan3570]

This is so sad 😭 but sids can happen anywhere anytime. Even in their cribs with nothing else around them

[@jennifergraham1230]

True, but sadly, 72% of SUIDs (sudden unexpected infant deaths) occurred in unsafe sleep environments, meaning many of them may have been preventable.

[@melissabowell3426]

Exactly! True SIDS cannot be "prevented". I hate how they lump everything together. There have been babies that stop breathing while they're being held. Some have even been hooked up to monitors in the hospital. Until they figure out what's happening in the brain stem that causes this, true SIDS will always be a threat. In memory of our sweet Zane. 12 years today from SIDS.

[@johnpuleo3176]

I think vaccines may hold the answer to SIDS. It doesn't just happen the way they tell us.

[@maisie1120]

@@johnpuleo3176 then there would be way more sids cases if vaccines were involved surely.

[@maisie1120]

@@jennifergraham1230exactly. the rest are likely the other risk factors for sids - smoking, bottle feeding, etc. sids is largely preventable

[@gisellesanchez2161]

i am so sorry.. i just had my rainbow baby girl she is 2wks old and losing my baby is my biggest fear

[@hollyfisher8811]

Congratulations on your Beautiful Rainbow Daughter, Giselle💖👸~ My Daughter also just had her Rainbow Baby Boy, Micah Alexander, on February 27th👶💙!! I know she totally understands your concern about keeping your Precious Babies safe and sound🌠... I am PRAYing for both of you tonight to have the "Peace That Passes Understanding" is given by God above, knowing that HE sent both Little Ones to be loved by their Mommies here on Earth🙏:)

[@gisellesanchez2161]

@@hollyfisher8811 thank you so much 🥺🙏🏼🤍 and congratulations to your daughter 😍😍😍

[@nerdiisage6032]

Sids is usually used to describe a death while cannot be explained.....they know exactly what happened though so how is it sids and not accidentally suffocation?

[@natedogg4035]

I believe it's sleep paralys babies and the elderly are to weak to fight it and it takes them, aka the Witch ridding the back

[@ytytyyu]

It is an abbreviation of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome .. so some of it's causes are known and some are not .. Anyways It's a horrible experience I hope that parents get healing from it's psychological impact ..

[@User84030]

Autopsy’s can tell you if it was affixation that was the cause of death. I know someone who went through this exact thing - baby asleep on dads chest and when he woke up they were gone. They did an autopsy, found no evidence of suffocation being cause of death so it was labeled sids.

[@FezCaliph]

I'm so happy this didn't split them apart

[@multikatee555]

I can’t imagine this pain

[@angeloocson7165]

I know your child Charlie is proud of u God bless

[@nonophat]

Please help... if SIDS is not accidental suffocation then what does co-sleeping or having objects in the crib have to do with it? From what I can see in many comments, parents have lost their babies to sids in various circumstances and even when they have followed all the guidelines to prevent it. I'm anxious cos I have a 12 week old and now don't really know what actually is best for him. My heartfelt condolences to those who lost their precious ones💔

[@nonophat]

@@brandixoxo15 Thank you. I guess we just do our best and hope for the best.

[@melissabowell3426]

Noni T They give these guidelines to help prevent suffocation and asphyxiation (and you should follow them). I don't know why they lump it all in with SIDS. The cause of true SIDS is unknown. They think it has something to do with the brain stem. There is no way to "prevent SIDS" If they knew how to prevent it, it wouldn't still be happening. All you can do is your best. If you do everything right and still happens, you can't blame yourself. It happened to our son Zane on 1/23/2010. We even got his heart started again, but his brain stopped working. It's like a light switch. It just shuts off. He was taken off of life support on 1/25/2010. I blamed myself, wondering what I did wrong. Now I know that it was something not developed correctly in his brain. We still don't know why it happens though. Try your best to have peace and just enjoy your children.i have faith in Jesus and I know we'll see Zane again, so there is no longer fear for me. I wish you the best!

[@nonophat]

@@melissabowell3426 So sorry about the passing of your son💔 I'm so glad that you are comforted in knowing that he's in the loving arms of Jesus and you will see him again. Thank you for your reply and encouragement.

[@ytytyyu]

Suffocation is the most common known cause for sids .. I once was near to get my 2 weeks baby suffocated when I was very tired and slept while breastfeeding him .. my breast was closing his nose and mouth for a minute or so .. thanks Allah I woke up in shock because I knew that might happen .. this is why my mother would woke up from her sleep with me all the time to wake me and prevent me from sleeping while breast feeding .. babies get hungry all the time in their first 3 months and this is exhausting thing .. even if you know sids you can not prevent it but you should be aware and have a very light sleep and check over your baby every now and then to ensure he is ok especially when you breastfeed him or when baby reach the age of rolling over 😑.. I feel sorry for the parents who lost their child to sids ..and I hope they will stop blaming themselves because it's a really hard thing to prevent.

[@simonesimone1101]

I am sure you can buy something you put on babies foot and it alarms you if anything is going wrong

[@ancizarcamposcano4837]

" Children exposed to SECONDHAND SMOKE are at risk of asthma, pneumonia, ear aches, development delays..." American Academy of Pediatrics

[@br00klynnative58]

Ok

[@misspowers3857]

I’ve had three babies all co slept all exclusively breastfed . Most other cultures live this way YET the United States has one of the highest rates of SIDS... confusing to me.

[@lmt6672]

Lots of factors for that

[@englinofamily2323]

SIDS and suffocating a baby are completely different but unfortunately they write down death by suffocation down as SIDS. Also bed sharing is a form or co sleeping. bed sharing is completely safe! co sleeping ie falling asleep on the sofa can be fatal :'(

[@charleneopara2321]

Other countries will label infant deaths differently whereas in the US most infant deaths are labelled SIDS (it’s an umbrella term) that is why is it so high. True SIDS is actually extremely rare.

[@charleneopara2321]

@@englinofamily2323 bedsharing is not safe

[@porkchoppeaches]

Maybe because we don’t teach people how to safely sleep with babies we don’t end up doing it safely but on accident because parents are exhausted and have high expectations of being able to breastfeed and keep getting up through the night which just isn’t possible. So they accidentally fall asleep on armchairs and sofas w babies while fighting sleep. I don’t think that putting baby in their own room in a crib and letting them bawl their heads off is good sleep hygiene either and I don’t believe that that is safe for them.

[@yvettegrant3335]

My girlfriend lost 2 unborn and 1 at birth and the last at 6months,that =4 all together. Dr.not ever accused the parents'of child abuse at all",They did find out that moms babies were blood type 0+ I believe a rare type that was not compatible so they tried or should say faught her blood cells and could not survive.took4 babies to finally realize what was going on. Point is not fair to point fingers on the mom and /or dad devestating as it is they dealt with it all!!they only loved and were convicted!!!so unfair justice!!!!!!......

[@Godstrumpethetraffickorder1111]

I am 0+. It's a common blood type. Maybe the Moms blood type, didn't match babies blood type

[@angelgarlinger6370]

You’re dumb. O+ isn’t a rare blood type and + blood types are compatible with any blood type. It’s O- that’s rare and a mom has to have a negative blood type and the baby a positive blood type for to have issues with their blood types being incompatible

[@voutoo7899]

@@angelgarlinger6370 don’t call him dumb, he clearly has been through a lot! Your mom clearly didn’t raise you to respect others. Shame on you.

[@melissabowell3426]

Does she have protein S deficiency?

[@melodiefrances3898]

Sometimes an infant just stops breathing. The automatic breathing that most of us do just sometimes stops, especially within the first trimester. An infant body isn't used to using lungs. 😢

[@kristenadorno]

Newest studies that were just released in the last month show there's a specific enzyme some babies lack enough of that helps the communication between the brain and breathing. Those babies that lack that enzyme, they died from SIDS.

[@sampangedeliza9291]

I lost my baby Athea of SIDS on September 11 2021 😭😭😭

[@BloodSweatandFears]

I am holding my 3 month old daughter scared to death right now.

[@karlaparker7988]

Please don't be scared. My baby died in 1990 age 8 weeks, a time in the UK when 7 babies a day died of SID. Following a massive campaign of babies must sleep in their own cot and most importantly on their backs the rate plummeted to almost zero

[@andreapenafiel8283]

My baby died from sids too...but we are not sure about what happend...he was on my arms he drink almost nothing of milk i was very sleepy it was 30 minutes after my induction in the mount sinai when the baby start to make wear things on his face i thought that he was burping and then he was dead it was so fast in only couple of minutes they told me that was suden death

[@ashlieleavelle]

So sad. However, they can't prove babies on their tummy cause SIDS. SiDS can happen on their back also. Many babies will not sleep on their back well.

[@briarturvey9334]

How is this sids? He rolled over and suffocated his baby. Its a accident based on his error.

[@kaylaschregardus4062]

I hate to be that person....but SIDS is almost unheard of in other parts of the WOrld and they sleep with babies IN BED with them. We are also very confused about the defintions of co sleeping. Breastfeeding rates in those parts of the WOrld are also very high and there is now MUCH research that even a month of exlusive BFing cuts SIDS way down. Suffocation is not SIDS, its a cause. Babies need skin to skin and bonding wth parents. I wonder if she breastfed

[@taygyrl]

so the baby died of positional asphyxiation rather than SIDS? i feel horribly for these parents and i completely empathize with their deep loss, but this is SUID not SIDS.

[@maisie1120]

nope. babies die suddenly when they fall asleep on a sofa or on a parent who is also asleep. there's no explanation for it, snd not necessarily asphyxiation, just sudden.

[@veeherreraJanecka]

So tragic but his baby could of passed away in the crib too. I hope he doesn’t blame himself. Prayers for all the angels we’ve lost. Morgan 2024-2024 💫👼🏼🙏🏽✝️🕯🕊♾🌹

[@PeterProf7777]

It is so important to not blame yourself. The spirit entered the body at birth. The spirit then decided to transition which is what we all do eventually. The spirit just wanted to get his or her "toe wet" in physical life and then leave. It is a profound experience for the family. Find the positive in the experience. You will see this soul again.

[@gemmaskinner5380]

This is not sids, the dad fell asleep with the baby on his chest! That is so dangerous

[@Wheatoast]

Its an umbrella term. Yes, this is still sids.

[@taygyrl]

@@WheatoastSUID is the umbrella term. Deaths like this one (most likely positional asphyxiation) shouldn’t be lumped in with SIDS.

[@veeherreraJanecka]

Sids can happen no matter what I read having a house wirh noise keeps them more safe : they don’t go out not too deep of a sleep. Lost my grandson to SIDs. Forever loved , Morgan Timothy 💙✝️🕊🕯🙏🏽

[@alisolkanu4763]

what does SIDS even mean. it makes no scientific sense.

[@rosyc9250]

Is this SIDS which is vaccine induced or suffocation by other means? Those are two different things.

[@maisie1120]

if sids was caused by a vaccine surely there would be wayyyyyy more deaths since most kids are vaccinated. in countries where sids is much smaller than america, they vaccinate the same e.g japan.

[@candacelfuller]

I cosleeped both my girls. It is proven that there are other things that cause this. I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss, but people have been cosleeping for thousands of years. That's not why you lost your baby.

[@karlaparker7988]

Whe can only go by statistics of the babies that have very died ALL were on there tummy or co sleeping not every baby dies yours included, and in many countries where co sleeping is common yes they too have SIDS deaths and many of these countries do not even do post motems let alone research and statistics. Please accept that you have been very lucky.

[@adriankerry737]

This baby didn’t die of sids ! He died because dad squished him or something because of dad , I sleep with my child and I can do it because I don’t move when I sleep and when he wakes up I wake up too I have camera on us so I know how safe we sleep ! If you know you are deep sleeper don’t sleep with baby

[@MLD99]

Vaccines

[@Noo795]

Very Agonizing Culture Culling In New Enfants

[@amandafois4097]

You could of provent your child's SIDS death but I couldn't how can you say it's just about safe sleeping when it isn't! My daughter was in a empty crib and died at 8months and 1 day old, just because you made a mistake dosent mean all of us did!

[@MrsCarlisleCullen6]

Hardly think that's fair! You're blaming him? I can assure you that parents who lose child's to SIDS in this manner will blame themselves their whole life. They don't need people judging. As someone whose lost a child to SIDS, I would have though you would have understood that and sympathised.

[@amandagonzales4410]

@@MrsCarlisleCullen6 I think what she is trying to say is that his specific case was not a SIDS case. SIDS is an unexplained death, hence the name. They cannot find a reason for it. This doctor’s baby unfortunately passed due to lack of safe sleep. It’s still gut wrenching of course, but it is not a SIDS case, by definition.

[@angelgarlinger6370]

@@amandagonzales4410 you don’t know why his baby died. I’m sure he wouldn’t be on here saying it was SIDS if it wasn’t determined to be SIDS and they won’t determine a death as SIDS if they can find a reason for the death.

[@angelgarlinger6370]

Shut up. You’re dumb

[@j.p.4315]

@@angelgarlinger6370 Yea, it most definitely was SIDS but unlike other SIDS deaths, this death was easily preventable. The baby died likely died due to inadequate sleeping conditions.

[@nellywolf8908]

no, it cannot happen to anyone. it happens to people who are ignorant and don't inform themselves. how can this be a pediatrician? shocking.

[@julieta5376]

You're so ignorant

[@karincash8357]

This comment is cruel and not true. Research shows that most SIDS deaths occur between 2 and 5 months, are often boys, and are babies that have not been breastfed and do not like pacifiers. You can put your baby on their back, alone and in their crib. But one day, they will begin to roll over onto their stomach. Sometimes, and no one is sure why, they forget to breath or lift their head. My perfectly healthy, well-loved grandson died at 4.5 months. His parents obeyed all the SIDS rules, which also included not overheating him. There are also statistics it is more likely to occur in winter and early spring. The dad in this video is trying to help others, and it can happen to anyone. You uncompassionate, ignorant person. It can and it does happen to the best of parents, and it is the most heartbreaking thing anyone can ever experience.

[@denise1831]

I survived sids, i was awake durin the day, pretty sure thats how i survived

[@whocares269]

You did not survive SIDS. SIDS is a 'cause' of death given only when an extensive autopsy comes back with no tangible reason that would send a healthy child to a morgue with no warning. SIDS is given as a cause of death when a pathologist can hold your child's brain in their hands and know that the only thing wrong with that child is the fact they are in a morgue. Fuck outta here with your bullshit.

[@lisademeo2756]

who cares why r u so rude abt it damn

[@jessestam]

Gee, that's a shame...

[@MrsCarlisleCullen6]

@@whocares269 Theres actually a condition called "aborted SIDS". Look it up.

[@emilylouiseannmorris423]

@@MrsCarlisleCullen6 Exactly, my daughter was a case of aborted SIDS at 6 weeks old.

[@mrmiata223]

haha baby's life goes brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

[@shavenanadarajan2301]

Wtf. you're heartless

[@crystalsky1029]

Fuck you! Heartless prick!

[@tchannel9354]

Jerk.

[@br00klynnative58]

Hey in a few more years..hope it won't happen to you..edgy punk 11 year old

[@kinzakhan1434]

I also lost my first baby at age of 4 and half month in january 2020