signs you're in a TOXIC FRIENDSHIP

[@milk_cookiesz]

some big red flags for friendships: 1. They get mad at you having other friends 2. They say rude things to you then say “oh well that’s how best friends work” 3. They tease you then can’t take a joke back 4. They don’t understand that NO means NO 5.they get mad at you for not responding to their text messages 6. They try to upstage you in everything 7. Spreading rumors or saying “it’s jsut a joke” after insulting you 8. If your feeling down they try to make you feel bad for them by blaming everything on a past tragedy

[@okaywhattheflipdude]

holy shit i know a girl that is the embodiment of this

[@acetakahashi3444]

I dont know why that everyone have this type of 'friend'. It's devastating cause it can be bad for someone mentally and physically. I hope they get away or help that they need. Thanks for the info.

[@AutumnSwift2]

​@@acetakahashi3444 I have a friend who has some of those traits, this is only because of our parents becoming friends. Even though I'm only a few months younger than her I always got along with her younger brother more, I have more in common with him than his sister.

[@_the_little_mermaid_]

So I've been talking to this girl for a couple of months and I think 6 might be happening...but also I'm trying to be neutral bc fucking hell why is it so damn hard to keep friendships sane!? I always feel like I'm giving more than what I'm receiving. if anyone cares to give me advice, here's a summary of the supposed red flags I've been seeing: So we both are taking classes at the same academy. She belongs to an "exclusive group" where they're making science practices and the "leader" of said exclusive group ignored my request of joining in for no reason at all. My supposed friend knows I'm interested in doing said practices and knows it would help me a lot but doesn't care to talk about it with her friend and the "leader" of said group to include me. They included another girl they supposedly don't like but my "friend" "forgot" to bring me up during one of their reunions. After all this, she changes the subject and goes on to tell me to give her shout outs on all my social medias to help her gain costumers for her job. Also, she brags a lot about the practices she's making in said exclusive group...am I'm being sensitive or something here? My neighbor said that the so-called "exclusive group" are probably jealous of me because our teacher is always congratulating me in front of people but I'm not sure if my "friend" is also somehow jealous...

[@milk_cookiesz]

@@_the_little_mermaid_ okay so I’m gonna guess that after she does something like that she completely ignores it and pretends it didn’t happen, so you feel like you missed your chance to talk to her about it? My advice is to tell her that you are DONE with her acting like this and that you can solve your own problems. Also you can let her know that you still want to be friends but that you don’t have to be jealous and you can work something out. If she still is being a jerk jsut dump her ass😊

[@nothing1214]

"Their name makes you stress" True

[@nothing1214]

@@vgdhfsy Yeah, same!

[@Pancake_Dragons]

Fr

[@lucyyy._.7359]

Same..

[@lilyjane1011]

I told her she stressed me. She would not apologize, I simply hurt her. I have a anxiety disorder, she calls and texts all the time. And pretends to say that she is worried about me, just to get contact....and proceeds to tell me all about her life and problems. She doesn't care, does she ?

[@MissPinker101]

Yeah

[@marierosedato3674]

Another one: always hangs out with other people, and only talks to u when their other friends aren’t there

[@robocavideos]

Yep thats me

[@hxevix]

Omggg thats my freind

[@heather6154]

Well hanging out with other people isn’t necessarily bad its just when they ignore you

[@irishcountrygirl78]

Facts.

[@slamfamilyy]

Yep. ❤️😊

[@magnaxish]

For me, my friendship went from the best to toxic real quick.

[@MoonlightMeer]

Same

[@sohe4726]

Did you block them?? I feel bad for blocking my toxic “friend”

[@itsduiuiuiuiug_]

I think its like that might be because I think im the problem

[@IvelinaNikolova-rr1po]

Same

[@-MerpAria_]

Omggg same!!

[@emmaadam-w7n]

sign you are in a toxic friendship: you stayed because you are unsure

[@TallboyM]

I had this friend on Fortnite who was mean and we always got into fights and he unfriended me many times and I always went back to him but now I’m free from him he said really bad stuff to me and I was uncomfortable around him so I unfriended him and I have other friends that care about me

[@vi4654]

​@@TallboyM That was the right thing to do. Hope you are happy with your other friends

[@Do_you_get_deja_vu]

Im staying cause she's my only friend.

[@blueren715]

Yeah

[@Soyaaaa_pikchuuiii]

Whos has been in a toxic friendship 👇

[@leighannhealey]

meeeeeeee

[@Soyaaaa_pikchuuiii]

Yeahhh it sucks I been too

[@SharonTang2013]

Me

[@Soy_Emily_oficial]

Me and it sucks when your just a 12 year old(yes im 12)

[@MissPinker101]

Im right now in one, help me

[@Aldccccccc]

Guys some more signs are 1. They make jokes about your loved ones or make jokes about people in your family leaving 2. They say there you best friend and then two weeks later go to another person and don’t include you and come back 3. They get mad or roll there eyes at you when you have other friends 4. They get jealous when you hang around people they are friends with

[@LucyRobinson-o3c]

Well I had a friend who copied everything I did. She was also very toxic. She was mean and made rude jokes about my biggest insecurities and said I couldn’t take a joke when I told her to knock it off. So basically I introduced her to my friends and they became friends. I was fine with it at first but she started to kind of turn the, against me and steal them. So I got upset and felt replaced. Does that make me toxic? (Just wondering)

[@Aldccccccc]

@@LucyRobinson-o3c I had a friend who was always rude and tried to make my other friends hate me and gave my bestie a bff bracelet to make me mad and upset so she could be friend with her and grabbed me bc I drew the powerpuff girls bc she thought I was drawing a friend of mine and hers and I was leaving her out

[@WildflowerGCUfan]

I had a friend once where we were very close and I heard a rumor about her other friend how she forced her to do things she didn't want to do, so I believed it and then when she hung out with someone else and said "well it's cuz we are in almost every class together" then in those classes she gets smart with me in those classes when I ask if shes ok, and now I feel like what she said abt her ex friend was a lie, so she manipulate me.

[@blindbags_19]

everyone of these

[@SonicSpeedfan23]

Experienced 2-4 before. And also to emphasize 2, said person they went to essentially stabbed them in the back called them faker. Also number 5: they try to push others away from you so they don’t lose you.

[@MrScrelli]

When they say they care about you, but don't care about what you have to say. When you can't share your interests, because they will talk sh#t about it, or mock you because of it. Run...

[@braineatingamoba]

I have this friend

[@lil.shaifa]

But they still follow me everywhere

[@abhart]

​@@lil.shaifa end that friendship or else talk with them formally, say them like u have work, studies, have to go somewhere with ur family, etc....

[@ItzMEdzy_everglowcbfinallyy]

That’s so true! I have this friend who’s kinda judgemental so I don’t rlly like sharing my thoughts and stuff with her or she’ll basically judge me for it lol😅 (also calling me stupid and saying it’s just a joke and that I can’t accept a joke..)i haven’t talked to her for a while but other than that I think she’s prettry funny and has been through a lot of stuff together so I don’t wanna end the friendship even with her behavoir...

[@mjsteward5508]

I had a toxic female friend who would call my phone almost every day talking about her problems which is why I don't pick up at all and had to cut her out of my life because I want to have peace into my life. I also cut off some toxic male friends the same way. I told her that we can't be hanging out too much because I have a girlfriend in my life and she asked me what she's white and I said why does it matter because she's apart of the human race and yes she's white but it doesn't matter because I want to be with a woman who gonna treated me right and support me doesn't matter what her race is but I don't put no human being on a pedestal, we both have that understanding that we don't like talking on the phone for long hours, we like 15 to 20 mins talking on the phone then we go on about our days because I don't like talking and texting too much and long times. I prefer to talk more in person face to face then on the phone.

[@PR_FailingFish]

The ''hanging out with them is draining'' isn't necessarily because of a toxic friendship. You might just be uncomfortable with the fact of hanging out, it could be because of the place, the activity or the amount of people around you

[@ハッピーひまわりデイジー]

Yea

[@braineatingamoba]

Yeah but if you have a toxic friend, just being around them mentally drains you. You could be in any type of environment and yet you feel drained just by hanging out with them

[@PR_FailingFish]

@@braineatingamoba I know, I didn't say it wouldn't happen in a toxic relationship, I just said it's not because it happens that it is a toxic friendship

[@braineatingamoba]

@@PR_FailingFish Ohhhh alr

[@PebbleBeachLife]

You are overthinking this. Anyone knows when they are drained because of environmental factors or actually being with certain company.

[@daintyrose.swiftie]

“Hanging out with them drains you” truer words have never been spoken 😅

[@froggy_simp]

I was in a toxic friendship for 5 years it was really bad my mental health was bad and I hated life

[@blakpinkjisoo8484]

Me to I ended it about a month ago

[@J7HAPPY]

Aren’t you like 5 tho

[@froggy_simp]

@@J7HAPPY bro what do you think Your look about 7 years old

[@froggy_simp]

@@J7HAPPY jk mate

[@froggy_simp]

@@blakpinkjisoo8484 good! I hope you are ok now and feeling better

[@lilithursin4844]

some more signs from someone who had a toxic friend for all of elementary school: * they demand things from you and blame you if you don't give them what they want * they threaten to end your friendship/call you a bad friend for every little thing * getting a text from them makes you dread reading it * they convince you they're entitled to everything they want because they're your "friend"

[@ImSoAwesome_Ro]

ima be real honest I thought this was apart of every friendship all my current friends do this 💀

[@amaaniqutb7818]

Why is this so trueeee😢😢

[@samikshadanave9793]

True 😢

[@julietremickofficial]

I know! They always want it their way

[@LucyRobinson-o3c]

Well I had a toxic friend so I did threaten to end the friendship. But it was cause it was getting really toxic. I told her it in a nice way. Does that mean I’m toxic?

[@yingo.shingo]

I was in a toxic friendship, but she was really controlling and manipulating, because she always blocked me over small things and tried manipulating me into thinking that I was the rude one, and I lost like half of my friends because of her. Stay safe and out of controlling relationships/friendships! Here are some more signs: -Competitive -Mad/jealous when you have other friends -Trying to take your stuff -Always asking for your stuff and never giving it back -Clearly lying (ex. like if they say they need money because they’re “poor” but have a ton of money) -Always playing the victim but never apologizing when they are rude -Being rude and playing the victim -You feel uncomfortable around them -Negativity comparing you to other people (ex. If they say oh, you’re really bad at this compared to me) -Laugh at your problems (ex. One time I was talking about how my dog died, and when I showed my “friend” a picture, she burst out laughing, saying “he’s… I guess cute?” Then kept laughing) -Agreeing with rude people when you didn’t do anything (ex. If someone calls you rude, they would say something like, “well, maybe you can try to be a little nicer then” when you weren’t rude) Let me know if there are any more!

[@a_marshmallow_called_luka]

I feel bad for you about your dog and the fact you had to deal with someone like that :(

[@I.wanna.end.my.life.]

Yup happened to me today, blocked me in whatsapp cuz I made a mistake. Ofc what a cute nice friend 🙌❤ manipulates me. Yeah I found all that out now I'm willing to use her .

[@yingo.shingo]

@@I.wanna.end.my.life. I'm so sorry 😢

[@I.wanna.end.my.life.]

@@yingo.shingo it's okay! She started hating me and basically made me cry so much. I ignore her, I moved on in just 1 hour

[@yingo.shingo]

@@I.wanna.end.my.life. that's great! Since I wrote this comment I've had 2 more toxic friendships, and I'm friends with 1 of them again, but the other one bullies me

[@isla.x.]

honestly even questioning if they are toxic is a big sign. also don’t feel forced to stay with someone because they have no friends or you feel bad or anything, put you first and get some better friends

[@SABRINAS-LUVZ]

"having to compete with them" Hits hard for me..

[@ChadwickHudson]

Here’s some I have experienced, and these all came from the same “friendship” -they always get their way with you -you get replaced with other people when you want to hang out/call/text -you are constantly changing yourself in order not to loose them -they set boundaries that defeat the purpose of your boundaries -they don’t let you have certain hobbies and you be friends with them at the same time If any of this was describing a friendship(s) please end it it can be hard and scary but you are better off without them ❤❤❤

[@summervibesbeach]

Ty ending it as soon as I’m home from vacation she is my best friend but it’s js toxic

[@0lliesFreakShow]

But………… They’re the only person I have left… Edit: they also did A lot of other stuff that were said in comments and the vid.. 😞

[@ang5798]

Favours don't need to be "returned", they should flow naturally from their inner energy. Don't EXPECT to have something " In return", aim for the same energy

[@braineatingamoba]

Yeah but I don’t think a toxic friend would give you any favors to begin with, they act all nice just to gain something out of you

[@Someone-pb9ji]

idk how to explain it for u, It’s not about gaining in return literally but they take advantage on u for that they ask and ask but don’t do “some” for u (when their situation is good surely) as a friend:) lemme give u an example like my friend asks me some times for money that she will return back but till now she returned only TWICE of them even once i bought her an expensive course she asked me to and even FORGOT TO ATTEND and literally just said “oh sorry i forgot” :)) plus she sometimes when we’re in uni asks for me to pay for her with that look 🥺 and i always do when we go buy together even if she didn’t ask to but she never offers to so i go for it:) it was ok at the beginning but turned to feel very sos till one day we ordered a meal by her and while me calculating how much I’ll transfer her for my order it was like an integer number plus 0.5 riyal (in my currency) = 0.13$ literally, she kept asking me several times seriously “did u calculate the 0.5??” I went silent of shocking 😭😂 and yes i sure did but i felt like u’ve rarely pay back to me and it’s just a 0.5 that u refuse to let go for me while her family’s financial situation is WAY better than mine im not rich, girl! I just realized how much advantage she takes on me so now i rarely pay for her LMAOO sorry for the long talk it turned into venting at some point😭😂😂 but i hope this helped

[@ang5798]

@@Someone-pb9ji nah that's straight up taking advantage of you 😅

[@jennayoung99]

They make fun of their other friends with you. And you wonder why they are still hanging out with them, if they hate them so much. 🤦‍♀️

[@ElllaGrace]

Fr when I tell her why u still friends with her she replays I love her

[@Alittlebitofeverything76]

My friends do that or my ex friends rather. One guy blasted this other guy to me and then gets off being his friend again lol. Then they guy accused me of constantly complaining about him lol which I don’t or didn’t…both of them are not talking to me. Funny how that goes right?

[@MeTheMayo]

One girl in my ‘friend’ group even made a special group chat to complain and talk bad about one person, all because her ego got hurt. Now we are about one year later and suddenly they are best friends 😅 That one person doesn’t know about that group chat about her though and and it makes me feel sick.

[@yuhsumoseye]

FR!!! Like, I was her so called “bff” in third grade and then one day, for absolutely NO REASON AT ALL just says “I don’t wanna be your friend anymore” and then literally starts being really mean to me and starts hanging out with another girl and now there “besties” and the day after the new girl realized my “bestie” was rude and dumped her and “bestie” came back to me cuz she was so rude and had no other friends and said “I was just pretending to be her friend” like OMG 🙄🖕😫For SOME DUMB reason I forgave her,like what ?! And then we became “bffs” again cuz I felt bad that she had no other friends. In fifth grade there was this girl that I’ll call Mia and when ever “bff” was around her she acted like her bestie and when “bff” was around me she would say that Mia was a b|tch and that she spoiled and stuff. I finally dumped her when i was in sixth grade and FINALLY had the courage to do it and now she is SO rude to everyone.That was SUCH a toxic friendship (Sorry for the random rant I just needed to get it out)

[@ItzMEdzy_everglowcbfinallyy]

Omg this reminded me of a friend! So she’s a new student and I’m one of the first person she talked to in this school and she seemed very nice and timid and shy. So I tried to introduce her to my friend group which they got along well within a month. We even hang out together multiple times. But this girl also became close to the popular girl gang in the class(I personally don’t have any problem with them but I rarely talk to them in general) but like suddenly she started sitting with them for like chem class and stuff. And I was wondering why one day my friends didn’t sit with her anymore but I later found out she talked bad about them behind their backs. But I feel bad that my friends just ifnore her like that (but I don’t wanna talk about it cause I don’t rlly like gossiping stuff) so I still acted normal and nice to her. She even talked bad about my friend group saying they “left” her or whatever and I see the awkward silence between them when like 2 months ago they were still talking with each other😅 I’m glad now she’s leaving the school but still kinda misses her. I feel like she’ll be the best friend ever if she didn’t talk bad abt others cause she’s so support kind and gave great advice to me(eventhough Ik she talked bad about me to the popular girls before)😅

[@Cameron-j4d]

They keep crossing your boundaries even when you already told them you dislike something they do, they just keep doing it

[@thesweetestpie]

I had a friend like this in third grade. I was really young and it broke my mental health and confidence. But I'm healed now, and I have better friends that make me feel good about myself.

[@1Cassandra]

I needed this I've been friends with her for years, and she tells everyone secrets about me and rumors and everyone believes her, because she cries. She would work good in the Mafia because she seems to stab so many peoples backs

[@Addstero]

Same thing happening here.

[@Lovicart]

Same here

[@swiftie1.3]

Also, my COMEPLETELY toxic “best friend” gets REALLY ANGRY when I hang out with other people and acts so dramatic and the drama lasts for hours. Edit: Guys! I stopped being friends with her! If ur going through something like this, don’t be scared to just end the friendship, it’ll be better for you :(

[@summervibesbeach]

Same :(

[@Crys7777]

I'm on that boat too... I try my hardest to be a good friend to her and even talk about how I wouldn't leave her, but she still acts this way

[@Zurab_Rob]

Same here

[@notkiwivr225]

Bro i am jealous when my bestie hangs out with another person and ignores me completely, Am i toxic?

[@Zurab_Rob]

@@notkiwivr225 its sad that they are ignoring you but you should not be jealous Now you will see if they are really your friends

[@Your.local.Pickle]

I remember I was in a toxic relationship. It was fun for a bit, but then I started actually paying attention to what was happening to me. Luckily, I left that friend a long time ago and now I have a better friend replacing her

[@fatherjune]

I have a 'friend' who's highkey possessive over me, and here are some things I've noticed in his behavior around me. 1. He demands 100% of my attention 2. He used to blackmail me into hanging out with him (he doesn't do that as much, but still does it occasionally) 3. He ignores my boundaries and doesn't take no as an answer because he thinks it shouldn't apply to him 4. He takes it personally when I set boundaries with him 5. He claims I owe him my time when I don't hang out with him for my own mental health 6. He gaslights me so I'll hang out with him 7. He guilt trips me into staying with him 8. The mention of his name stresses me out 9. The sight of him in a crowd stresses me out 10. He always puts the blame on me 11. He's over-controlling 12. He acts like he's my boyfriend (I'm a fucking lesbian) 13. He makes insulting "jokes" about my sexuality, knowing I don't like it 14. He'll lie to me if it means he gets what he wants out of me 15. Hanging out with him burns me out 16. He throws a tantrum when I can't hang out with him exactly when he wants me to The worst part is I can't tell anyone (apart from my family) about how he behaves around me. Everyone at school is convinced he's just some nice kid. I feel like my teachers won't believe me. I just want it to end.

[@Foxglove-yz9sl]

Tell him U don't wamt to be friends anymore and not to talk To U anymore.....nd don't be afraid to leave alone at school if he is just as U mentioned Avoid him or it is that bad that I can't leave?

[@fatherjune]

@@Foxglove-yz9sl thanks for the advice

[@kattykato290]

Can someone tell me if this is a toxic friendship? -cant take the joke back -cant accept not being 1st -brags about what they accomplished -make you feel bad -insults you when they aren’t part of a conversation - doesn’t talk to you and crys and runs away when you confront them - insults your appearance ALOT - Makes a lot of excuses -my friends are aware of it but whenever we try to confront her she runs off and comes back and acts like nothing happened I’ve been her friend for 7 years so I don’t know

[@Lavande-z9s]

I think it is, especially if all of these things makes you feel bad😕

[@kattykato290]

@user-td5cj2vo7y its been a year and I'm still friends with her, she has been nicer but still carries theses traits :(

[@Lavande-z9s]

@@kattykato290 You deserve better than that😞

[@kattykato290]

@@Lavande-z9s Thank you for the help, I’ll try to talk to her about it this year. ❤️

[@rando_internet]

@@kattykato290also even if she’s nicer that doesn’t matter bc she still does all of them things and (I’m assuming) she hasn’t apologised or anything yet

[@floflop444]

Lol you just described my friend in every way possible,gave her expensive things on her birthdays and she never gave me anything.She also gets super mad when i talk like 1min with other ppl

[@LanaHadid-e9y]

leave that girl now. shes a walking red flag i swear

[@adventurez24]

I had a friend like that in middle school and she would get mad the instant I talked to one of my other friends and she said that I didn't like her even though I invited her to sit with me

[@Laughable-Umbrella]

Bro this is how I feel around everyone even my best friends lmao Doesn't matter who they are I'm a massive introvert, it will always be draining 💀💀

[@Balladmason0]

I have two friends named Violet and Lily. They always look uncomfortable when I speak to them, and I stress when I hear their name. I feel like I should walk away from them.

[@abhart]

You should!

[@sabinanyberg9025]

one thing i’ve also noticed is when a friend always finds a way to disagree with you on EVERYTHING!

[@Nyxthetheri4n-love]

PLEASE READ ALL! Another reason could be: if you think they are doing something wrong to make you feel upset and go to talk to them they will tell you your overreacting or being dramatic, they won’t listen to you and continue saying mean things. Stressing out near them, feeling anxious to even play with them, and them continuing to do mean thing or say mean things to you without you telling them to stop because you know the answer, and it’s not going to stop. This has been happening to me for 3 years and yet I can’t tell her to stop. These are reasons I’m depressed and never want to play with her, i don’t have a choice cause that would be mean. Also having them talk sh!tty about things you like. Do you guys have any suggestions to help this. I just want this friendship to end.

[@Foxglove-yz9sl]

Just do this!!! I also Have this kind of so called friends nd I m clearly and repectful gonna tell her to end all this at once - 3days later when we will again meet( as I have tried many time but not person to person) It best to be alone then get drained I have left many ppl but this is kinda difficult but not more imp than me so just like me if U feel that bad just get over this tell her to not contact U anymore!!

[@vi4654]

If she doesn't respect you that's not a friend, you shouldn't sacrifice yourself for someone who treats you like a toy and not like a person. It is not rude to cut contact or give her an ultimatum, it is a sign of self respect and courage. You can't grow if you keep staying with someone who only tries to tear you down

[@AudreyTheArtist321]

Story time: I was originally in a big group with like 9 girls. We had met in 6 th grade and now we were in 8 th grade. One day half of them left our group. It was (abbreviated just bc) Ch, Ce, M, and me. Ce and Ch didn’t like M and at lunch they wouldn’t talk to her, but guess who was sitting next to her… me. Ch and Ce would whisper and giggle to each other the entire lunch period, barely looking at me and M. Every time I would mention smth to them they’d always say “we just don’t trust M” and leave it at that. It made me so sad since Ch had been my best friend since 6th grade and now it felt like she had forgotten about me. We hung out sometimes after school but it still felt like there was a divide (especially when we hung out with her friends). Every day I would just come home sad either from lunch or after school hangouts. Eventually I left the group(still proud of myself for that). That day Ch called me and was like “I thought we were best friends I saw no warning. Why did you leave?” This was pretty recent so please leave Input on situation. Should I give Ch another chance? Do u think she’s toxic or not? Anyways thanks for reading whole thing! Have a great day :)

[@jeesjuice8863]

I wouldn’t really give Ch a second chance unless she puts more effort into wanting to hangout with u. Seems like she’s found other people to be her main attention and left u behind

[@I_live_inside_your_walls]

You should walk up to her and say that things need to change. I’ve had experience with this sort of stuff and trust me, it only gets worse. Some effects it had on me were trauma, depression, anxiety, social anxiety and su1c1dal thoughts. It is incredibly bad for your mental health to be friends with a person like this. So my advice would be that you demand she changes or that it won’t work anymore. This is just based of my experiences. Hope you can still be friends and I wish you the best of luck ❤️

[@LanaHadid-e9y]

girl shes a walking red flag. im proud of u for what u did, and keep it up

[@adorednatalia3763]

Yep she’s definitely exactly what you described, I’ve known her for 2 years so it’s hard to let go. She has always been my bestfriend but I wanna end things with her but I’m in a friend group of 3 so if I do she will probably take my bestfriend away from me and tell lies so I can’t do it.

[@LIVis2cool4U]

Same

[@clover_plays_games]

I did it it has been 1 year but They both are toxic u should tell ur other friend that u r gonna do it in case she did say rumors

[@clover_plays_games]

1 year sense I’ve know them btw

[@adorednatalia3763]

@@clover_plays_games my friend Nat isn’t toxic she never believes lies

[@gw.delulu]

Me too

[@moonoftheblood]

Their name doesn't make me distress, but seeing their notification pop up is like a damn jumpscare Update: I got rid of them :) took me a lot of strength, time and effort to get them off my back, but we are officially not friends anymore. I'm free!

[@juicypelmen]

Saaaaame, what's even sadder that once those notifications made you smile

[@summervibesbeach]

REAL

[@Itz.aurora06]

BAHHAA FR MY BSF (abt to be ex bc I rlly don’t like her) SCARES ME SM BC SOMETIMES SHE GOES ‘ima yell your father’ MAH FATHER IS TERRIFYING

[@sohe4726]

@@Itz.aurora06 my “friend” said she’d show up to my house if I block her. I told my parents and they said “She can face the wrath of me”.

[@Itz.aurora06]

@@sohe4726 😭😭😭

[@li4e_with_m3]

How I knew I was in a toxic friendship 1. They started being friends with people who hated me 2. They dated every guy I liked 3. They made me always feel left out 4.they stopped being friends with me because there new friends didn’t like 5. They always took everyone else’s side And the things they would of been a nobody is I wasn’t mates with them 😂 (True btw)

[@kalondamack339]

Anybody ever have the type of friends where everytime you're excited about something they'll act uninterested but then later they're more hyped about it then you were? That's annoying as fuck.

[@manasvegulyani]

I have a friend of 6 years who only texts me when she needs any kind of notes or help from me in her home work and if i dont reply to her calls or messages she starts to send me crying emojis and all. She always says that everyone in my class cannot be trusted and makes me believe that they all are bad . Whenever i make a new friend she keeps on saying bad things about the person . She keeps on pointing out at my insecurities . If i get frustrated from her she fights with me even more .....I help her with her studies but i think she takes it for granted . Im tired of her . Is it a toxic friendship?

[@summervibesbeach]

Yes.

[@Tsjoosie]

Yes! Leave her alone, protect yourself.

[@manasvegulyani]

@@Tsjoosie but she has improved a lot now

[@lxcyofcx]

Here is some other things: 1. They get mad at you over something small 2. They wouldn’t leave someone for you but they would leave you for someone 3. They stoped being as nice 4: they don’t return and favours 5. Playing with them is draining 6. Mental health starts to worsen after them

[@Nenah-s]

When i was 10 y/o i had an toxic frendgroup. They used to tease me, make me feel very stressed, then saing 'Ugh, you cant take anything..'. And everytime i got blamed for this. Also, the 'best' frend in the group from me was using me. When she was sad, i gave her attention, i defended her, but when i got insulted she was standing on the side of someone else. When I wanted to play with her then, she mostly ignored and insulted me. PS: please aware of these friendships. I got in one, and i just broke the friendship. It made me really lonely for a long time, but now I have an real bestie who really is there for me. Hope this warning was clear enough, sorry if I typed something wrong. ❤

[@julietremickofficial]

I know! I always go on my friends side because I’m scared of her. I’m scared she will have a burst of outrage and take it out on me. My friends got in a fight the other day and I was in the middle… I always am. And I didn’t want my friend to be sad but I didn’t want to be yelled at. So…

[@jacqueline.0.0]

having to compete with them is such a mood omg g

[@ElizabethTaurielMendiola]

My trio - feeling left out - yesterday was bad - favourites - jealousy for first time - new bestie - fun quadruple - falling apart - hating myself - overthinking - quadruple - jealousy - hate - sad - ignore - teasing - jokes that r too far I NEED HELP WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?!

[@llifewsienna]

Idk why I’m asking for advice on the internet but basically here’s my issue. I started going to a new school and didn’t know a single person. The first day I made friends with this girl we’ll call her V. We had some stuff in common and she seems cool. Now a few months later I’ve realized we don’t have as much in common as it seemed but that’s not really my problem. Basically it’s my nature to be very focused on school and getting good grades. I work really hard and it’s important to me. V on the other hand is failing most of her classes so disorganized and doesn’t seem to care at all. In addition she always wants my answers to school work and wants me to do projects for her. I’ve stopped doing this but still having that sort of energy around me makes me really anxious and doesn’t help me at all. Our friendship is pretty good otherwise though so I don’t know if I’m over reacting or not. I understand that doing well in school isn’t for everyone and I totally respect that but it’s just not the kind of people I want to surround myself with. If you made it this far thanks for reading lol

[@lovefordanielmatthews]

My advice; tell her what’s bothering you, if she’s making you feel stressed sometimes you need to communicate that to her, hopefully she will try to change. Best of luck ! :)

[@llifewsienna]

@@lovefordanielmatthews tysm!!

[@parmesan_11]

Yes, i totally agree with that. If she’s really a true friend she will understand and stop.

[@bw147]

AHHH EARLYY...I might be in a toxic friendship... Edit: MOoOm I'm famous Edit: yall impress me

[@miabrown7790]

Same

[@bw147]

It's tough 😭

[@AveryPreppy]

SAMEEE 😢

[@bw147]

@@AveryPreppy :(

[@maxnotabot]

same ngl

[@Piper_McLean180]

My old best friend in middle school said "i didnt hang with you for a month because i get bored of my friends afyer a while" Girl thought that friends are her dolls to play with

[@Shwetasingh-e2f]

thank you. needed this.

[@Juniper_Pawzz]

Not my friend being the definition of this video

[@yamumgay]

oh i know im in a toxic friendship, their grasp is just so tight i cant let go

[@Not1Sugar_Cookie]

Hey you okay..?

[@lol-ge9bh]

Gimme your toxic freind then since im friendless😊

[@faeriie_.]

when toxic friends are the only friends you have..

[@braineatingamoba]

Trust me, you are much better off alone rather than having fake friends

[@Caseohs2ndKittyuuhh]

That's true my only 2 friends threatened me and tried killing me and they use and are fake they said they love devil

[@_.s3v3.n_]

my friends arent toxic but they’re just fake af. if theres nobody to hangout with they pick me. lately i have been saying no cause idgaf about them anymore. the only thing that sucks id when you need a partner in school

[@Jacob_M6]

True like me and my friend used to hangout all the time now she changed and at this point we ignore eachother

[@Bellaa270]

The fact I’ve been in a toxic friendship for four years and I’m just now realizing it

[@Ciphertologist]

I dumped my toxic bestfriend a few weeks ago and I’ve honestly never been happier. They were a user and an attention seeker,I’m glad they aren’t my problem anymore

[@sonaahmady1762]

THE THREE END LEVELS OF “FRIENDS” 1 They only talk to you when they need something 2 they never come up to you you come up to them 3 they tell your secrets

[@I_Forgor_Everything]

"You feel different around them" Me who is sad mostly at home and happy around my friends because they are the best: 👁👄👁

[@Galaxy_GAMER018]

"HAVING TO COMPETE WITH THEM" true.

[@neurodivergentlily]

Also if they refuse to let you return favors bc then they always have that over you/you then feel indebted to them. Usually not intentional but it's not usually coming from a healthy place and it's important to be aware of power imbalances ♡ -someone who has been that toxic person accidentally as well as been unintentionally manipulated by another person

[@the.strawberry.edits.]

oh wow ig i’m in a toxic friendship oh 😕💔

[@luvforjadeyn378]

I ended it last week :>

[@aelbayoumi77]

I have a friend that's exactly like that but I don't wanna tell her or it'll ruin the entire gc and the worst thing is she sits DIRECTLY next to me

[@Lisa.IlikefnafOk.]

Pov having to compete everyday with my only friend be like : 💀

[@josiestruttmann8261]

Time to tell a why I think and KNOW I’m in a toxic relationship SOO GET READY 😅 So first my best friend yaz has a crush on me which at first doesn’t sound to bad but the thing is she hates me being around other people she’ll get really jealous and then spread fake rumors about them saying that they have bullied people and she is a victim but with my OTHER friend I can’t EVER play with her due to yaz, if I try she spreads rumors or worse but my my other friend we will call her melly is not a good friend for me she doesn’t give back anything I give her when I’m not at school she takes my things and doesn’t tell me and I have REALLY BAD ANXIETY.. and probably the worst anger issues EVER… so she is also annoying LIKE REALLY ANNOYING and when she doesn’t get her way she ignores me for a few weeks until I get what she wants.But this one day I was sick of yaz being the cry baby and drama maker she is.. I cursed and screamed and hit her. Had to apologize sadly we’re still friends but anyways.. Lemme tell y’all all the drama she has caused and almost ruined my friendships (she already did.) well it was about in 3rd grade (this was awhile ago) she liked me and was jealous of my friend melly so she spread rumors with her jerk friend Alyssa and said me and melly bullied them. 4th grade was worse she did the same but this time I was bullied severely which caused depression (things at home also caused it) and yeah. Hope y’all enjoyed😅

[@AutumnDanceBomb]

I used to have a friend Like this before I moved to school I’m in now Good Thing I moved😢😊❤ ❤~Yoenjun~❤

[@nageeyaawil5476]

WARNING THIS SHALL ONLY BE USED FOR REVENGE PURPOSE!* 1.Gain the person's trust and make sure they dont see IT coming 2.Make sure u get them to let u meet their bff or friend 3.Now gain their friends trust enourmously and be very kind for about 2 days 4.Do small things to make them hate each other for example:Say "In Da hood-MM2 ect.She/He kept on aiming for me 5.Now u need to do something big but u have to be kind to both of them for a little while.After u tell ur friend's bff that ur friend wants to private chat 6.(Optional) You can now tell ur friend that u dont wanna be friends anymore or u can just tell them a hint of u 7.Priv chat ur friends bff and tell her/him that she/he said death threats and insults to you.Then tell them that ur friend AKA ex-friend that they said bad things behind ur back for example "They said that they would do anything to unfriend u but they just wanted u because they were bored" or "They said that it was a dare to be ur friend and they had pity on u so they decided to keep u on their friends list" 8.Now ur friends bff should probably think to unfriend them and if not read the "back up plan b" and once they unfriend them u can now stay their friend or if u want to tell them the truth and unfriend them for being a fake friend along side with u *Back up plan b* Unfriend the target and tell their bff they unfriended u and said if i didnt unfriend u she would make up lies saying I unfriended her And now easy u ruined ur friends friendship and happiness I hope this helped but only for revenge if the person is terribly MEAN and TOTTALY deserves IT❤ Dont let this reach more than 15k or everyone will try to back stab on u This took 5 seconds now but 5 hours earlier as I wrote it out but now I copied it so copy this and spread the news but make sure to give credits to me or ill find u and track u down UwU hehe

[@Someone-x9m1t]

Ty bc sometimes it feels like they r lying to me

[@Aiimi_tereza.]

I love the fact that I knew I was in a toxic friendship but ignored it and now it hurts

[@K0ol_ka1]

People like u make the world a better place!

[@Arctic2010]

Bro just described my relationship with my sister 👍

[@ImSoLonely-]

I’VE WATCHED SO MANY OF THESE AND IM LIKE “that can’t be true” BECAUSE THEY ALL DESCRIBE MY BEST FRIEND AND I FINALLY WENT “oh.”

[@Its-me-dani_1-1]

For me, I’m friends with this person that I recently met like a year ago or a few months ago and basically they’ve been really clean to me hearing their name makes me stressed out and they keep getting in my personal space when I don’t like it even though I’m comfortable with other people hugging me and it just feels weird when they hug me. It just feels like I’m forced to do it, feel uncomfortable to worry that person always get in trouble and it’s not in a joking way it is and then when they do nice stuff for me, it makes me feel bad and guilty because knowing that I’m trying to learn that person as a friend makes me feel uncomfortable, though like my gut is telling me not to Feel weird whenever I’m near them because they always do these weird jokes that make me uncomfortable but anytime I tell them to stop being in my personal space sometimes they always get mad and saying that we’re best friends. I’m telling her that she’s a good FRIEND. Still working out.

[@Katelyn.c4]

Yea I’m definitely in a toxic friendship with my bestie😢

[@wild-val]

Jokes on you, i already knew from the beginning of our “friendship”! She’s aggressive, makes me uncomfortable, embarrassed, and she just doesn’t read the room on what’s happening around her! Me and her walk to classes together and she pulls my backpack and i almost fell, none of the teachers have even said anything that made her stop! But if i try to stop her, she just doesn’t go away! And she favorites my other friends! I don’t like this! I’m sick of everything she does!

[@markiechatchawalkijkul1009]

"NEVER RETURN FAVOR!" that what I use to face everyday

[@2pacEEz]

There’s this friend that’s extremely problematic, EXTREMELY sensitive, and EXTREMELY hypocritical, I feel forced to be friends with them so I don’t hurt their feelings. And trust me, it’s a toxic friendship. Btw, if I suppose why we are still friends they’ll just say excuses and stuff to make me stop thinking abt thay

[@vi4654]

Just leave, if you are only friends because you are scared to hurt them it is probably not a friendship anyomore. If you need excuses and convincing to be in a relathionship with someone it's because you don't actually need that person and their negativity in your life. Trust your gut, not your heart

[@aksa_official]

This made me some spark from low energy❤

[@ultimatecrystal9646]

Yeah I had a "friend", she'll make jokes about me, but when I make jokes back, she'll get mad 😂

[@Pink_blossom321]

"You feel different around them" yeah maybe cause i LIKE HIM😭😭

[@Claudia-u9k]

The person i thought of as my best friend used to call me “friend number 2” I soon realized how mean she was being and how much sadness she caused me.

[@itsjustmyopinionbut1671]

When they just constantly talk about themselves & want to get off the phone if you have any change of subject that isn’t about them. Or they act like you’re their best friend ever and they think so much of you only to blatantly avoid you when you reach out. Here’s a good way to find out if someone cares or respects you: Send them a message asking them to call you asap as it’s an sos moment and you really need them. If they aren’t responsive within 12 hours at the most- move on.

[@kat_ragg]

"You fell different around them" Me with my bestie: -_- Rest of the friends :b

[@KASE_Mapping]

Tip: well, even tho you have a backup friend, atleast u have a friend have and someone to talk. Friends are not forever and it’s a temporary

[@Arcade_Is_A_Youtuber]

Homie: 🗿

[@Therian_Ray]

This really helped me figure out who is a good friend and who is the toxic friend.

[@LoneRager90]

Hit the nail on the coffin.. guess I have some life adjustments to make 😅

[@thine_wit_me]

Single me just casually watching it😅

[@Cows_slay]

My best friend of 7 years just randomly start being toxic this year. It sucks

[@JaydenDean-jq8dx]

This opens a whole new chapter for me I have so many toxic friendships

[@sam_g2]

Naw, my friends just talk toxic but they're pretty nice and funny😂

[@japleenkaur1138]

Mine are 1. They constantly tell you about a past misunderstanding and make you at blame for everything Not accepting their fault 2. They always manipulate you to do what they want basically turning down your choice 3. They will get angry on the stupidest thing which is Alr but if it’s u I reverse they’ll say you are overreacting 4. They’ll never apologise for something they had done ,they’ll manipulate you to that extent that you’ll feel it was your fault 5. You’ll apologise for the smallest thing , things were you never were wrong but will never apologise to you They’ll either ignore you 6. They’ll tell you to not talk to certain people but when angry then will completely ignore you and talk to the people with joy whom they stoped you to. 7. They’ll make other people there priority then if you are being comfortable with others they’ll start showing tantrum Basically there is never a uno reverse in our situation

[@Arleenah4everkevinfan]

Literally my whole friend group😭😭 I always feel drained and hurt after being around them.. And whenever they criticize me they’re just like” oh it’s just a joke”. They constantly snoop through my diary when I’m not looking.. I always feel left out.. I feel like I’m talking to a brick wall! Like.. why me?! 😭

[@AddieDaddy]

It destroyed my metal health for years, we were only friends for a few months.

[@leighannhealey]

[@suviivus]

You literally described my friend omg 😭

[@LylaGarnett]

I was in such a toxic friendship 😢 I still can't get over what I went threw

[@Snowman5077]

I have been in a toxic friendship I left them after they took my chance to say in a microphone in front of thousands of people 😭

[@Sick_at_Sea_Wolf]

thank u for the help i needed it❤

[@ilovebuckybarnestoomuch]

I was in a toxic friendship for 2 years. I'm still recovering, but I've been changed

[@LylaMartin506]

THE SONG TITLE ISNT THE ACTUAL SONG AND THATS KILLING

[@coffeefurr]

this is true, because my “bff” thinks I don’t care about her, (which i obviously do) and she makes EVERYTHING about her. when I said I was feeling left out, she was like, “BUT YOU NEVER NOTICED I WAS LEFT OUT, FOR 2 MONTHS” and I actually did, I tried my best to help her but she didn’t want my help. 😭💔

[@B_T12345]

I had a friend for over 6 years, but we were sooo competitive with each other to the point where we just stopped hanging out. There were other issues as well in the friendship but i am glad that i ended it. Stay safe :)

[@leighannhealey]

proud of you!!

[@Parmess]

Dependency should also be on there. Latching onto you when you’re busy or making you feel guilty for not wanting to hang out or do favors out of your reach. Especially when their emotional needs are thrown on you.

[@NaomiOare]

It’s not toxic to feel drained around them. I’m just a complete introvert who’s not going to let go of my friend since kindergarten.

[@Igorloverr]

Another one: they always point out flaws you can't fix

[@abinomnom]

is them letting me drown and laughing one? ☺️