Signs you're scared of commitment

[@WrathOfGrapesN7]

"Get a life." "Make one with me, coward." Hilarious.

[@haileydurf1928]

I’m using that forever now on

[@suburbaneverest9838]

HAHAAHAH

[@missykami]

Lol

[@TheRojo387]

Anna is a funny lady, alright!

[@corkydukeII5898]

"Enjoying the pursuit of a relationship rather than actually being in one". Yep, that's me for sure...and probably alot of others too : D

[@pyro7257]

Yesss

[@_Bubblefly]

Me me me!

[@Sar_bear77]

Yupppo

[@veselinaveselinova3230]

Me lol

[@bestcommentuwilleverseeiny5220]

@Sarah, Chase me until I say no.

[@4289isOK]

Fun fact: Not all facts are fun.

[@andrewrose8535]

Say sike right now.

[@johanlindenhann254]

Oh yeah, we just call them facts

[@WingSlash]

Thank you, Mr. Bastion "Posh Sh*thead" Misawa. Truly, your insights are among the poshest & the sh*test out there. We salute you, sir.

[@4289isOK]

WingSlash I blame Martin for this. -_-

[@WingSlash]

@@4289isOK You are right to do so, good sir. :P

[@priyanujbordoloi9071]

Fun fact: Oranges are pre-sliced by nature

[@BlueBeardTheBlasphemous]

Priyanuj Bordoloi how considerate of it ❤️ 🍊

[@ahnrho]

Damn.

[@AyubuKK]

Priyanuj Bordoloi yup

[@xFlared]

Fun fact: I'm about to slap you.

[@AngelH]

Fun fact: Mandarins are oranges pre-sliced by nature

[@dangermenatwork]

this channel should be named Anna Attacka based on how much your recent content attacks me and forces me to face my issues thanks babe

[@joyturina3050]

LMAOOO TRUE.

[@isabelpozzo3656]

anna attacka SUIADHSUAYDSGFUYDSGFUYDSGFUSHFUIDSHFIS

[@macadamia668]

Reasons why I'm afraid of commitment? 1. Possessiveness/Controlling People 2. Afraid of hurting or being hurt 3. Despise disappointing people 4. Don't like being counted or dependent on 5. Don't believe in promises 6. Value personal freedom above anything else. Yeah, I think its safe to say I'll be single forever.

[@Anon18694]

Then you're not alone girl, same here

[@Spacegeezer]

I Don’t believe in promises.. and I wish all people could think that way

[@toodaloo484]

"get a life" " *make one with me coward* "

[@rosetahearts3212]

That's called being Tsundere

[@toodaloo484]

Roseta Hearts "fun facts"

[@tamarlambert6121]

"You still feel scared from a previous relationship, and you carry those beliefs into the now. You are convinced, most likely subconsciously, that any future partner will hurt you as your past one did, and as a result, you keep everyone at arms length" Fun fact:.......... that one wasn't fun

[@andrealewis2501]

I almost think a guy did this to me. We talked for hours on the phone, then he insisted we meet up after that I almost didn't want to see him a third time but he persuaded me. Then not to long after he made it clear he was uninterested but he still tried to get me to want him, he had been hurt in past relationships, I think the one woman left him and he was super attracted to me, but out of the 8 traits he was looking for i didn't have 3 and it seemed very nitpicky, to me anyway. We had everything in common, we could talk for hours and yet he was attracted to me, but he would find reasons that it wouldn't work and instead of trying to work through those had a that's the end all be all attitude.

[@teresa_meow]

I felt attacked by that one. 😓

[@Ntx_MrE]

Not fun, but definitely a fact

[@tamarlambert6121]

@Teddy James wat?

[@tamarlambert6121]

@Teddy James what do you mean a crime? Lol. "damn I hate being single. Lemme go commit tax fraud" lol

[@bugra9700]

Yeah, I guess my relationship goes good. 20secs later, Anna: YOU ARE AFRAID OF COMMITMENT

[@goldenknight1756]

Fun fact: We all are gonna die c: Anna: *Smiles in death* That makes me happy :)

[@trinitrojack]

The funnest of facts

[@Chronorust]

That's what makes everything totally less worrisome and serious. HOW is what I'm more worried of lol

[@giapratt1543]

"Commitment is not something that I fear, but something that I welcome. " That's my 2020 vision a.k.a goal right there. Thanks Anna 🖤

[@giapratt1543]

@Robert what

[@Geminias]

"I don't know if love is real" - I feel this in my soul.

[@FF2Guy]

"You're very interested...until they are" sounds like every girl I've ever met

[@caseydavis2318]

Cactuaaaaaaaa

[@KALAPANAPOCHIHANALEI]

Me. Till I grew up

[@acharich]

💀💀💀💀💀

[@iforgotmynameagain9512]

Used to be me, then I realized I'm a lesbian lmao

[@maeve9615]

sorry

[@Jordan-vc4cn]

Okay, so we all know Anna is the queen of introspection here, but can we also talk about how amazing her comedic chops are? That "arm's length" callback alone was pacing, planning, and relevance to the main topic freaking perfected. It's a privilege to watch such top tier content.

[@ghadirabdullah5374]

Dude I’m AFRAID of being in a relationship

[@swatimavinkurve2305]

SAME DUDE.

[@breenewi6405]

me too.

[@Random_AnimeWatcher23]

Me 😭

[@sadikbeee]

same 😭

[@SwetaTanzil]

Mee too ..i feel all those thing that she mentioned here

[@AB_Archives]

Fun fact: Anna is smart because therapy is most likely business expense, better use it on therapy sessions rather than being taxed on

[@duchi882]

Sign you're scared of Commitment: 1. You're still Single

[@adalineoca5400]

Duchi Oof, why you gotta call me out like that

[@merrybright5732]

No?

[@NicoleTeacher]

You may be single because you're holding out for the RIGHT person to commit to.

[@cctorok4669]

me

[@jereicaaikoespinosa3660]

You didn't.

[@gurudra]

Life begins where fear ends

[@MiguelRPD]

And what if it kills you ?

[@theanikakyngshow]

It’s crazy how the signs told me how I’m pursuing commitment so hard that I’m actually not allowing myself to be committed because of this underlying fear of it?! Yk? Thanks for this Anna, hope that made sense cuz this made a lot of sense to me now.

[@LashanR]

2:07 When she started getting into the smaller, more subtle signs it felt like she was repeatedly bashing me over the head with the book she recommended.

[@Kasstato]

I already know this about myself. My first relationship wasnt good or healthy. So when i first started dating my boyfriend i really notices how nitpicky i was like "the right person should just feel *right*" but like. I have anxiety and trust issues face it its never going to feel right until you push yourself out of your comfort zone and give your partner that little bit of trust until one day it does feel right. It feels like i can trust them finally because i pushed myself to trust

[@johnathangulley9700]

You know how everyone has their own definition for love? I made one that combines a few; tell me what you think. Love: A pleasing desire of acceptance, regardless of flaws, to commit to care and/or help with a feeling of deep affection.

[@quillettt]

seems pretty accurate to me your definition.

[@fedoramcclaren4294]

...this sounds like how I would define unconditional love...

[@r011ing_thunder6]

Soon as I read desire I stopped reading

[@r011ing_thunder6]

@@johnathangulley9700 I think your attracted to disapproval if I’m the one comment you responded to

[@r011ing_thunder6]

@@johnathangulley9700 hmm okay 👍

[@foodsafetypragmatist]

Great book! 👍🏼 Used to be anxiously attached. Securely attached now. Took time & a lot of work. You’ll have setbacks so be gracious & forgiving to yourself. You’ll get there - I know it!

[@vedikakulkarni5094]

I recently started therapy for anxiety and low self-esteem because your videos are one of the reason that made me okay with it.

[@april-kn2vr]

i knew i was going to be called out but i wasn’t prepared to be so accurately called out

[@reyamathur2146]

Fun fact: I'm Chandler Bing in a relationship

[@vasilzhekov9245]

Fun fact: Only being Chandler Muriel Bing is fun enough.

[@madsmaryann5141]

Same tho😂

[@reyamathur2146]

@@vasilzhekov9245 lol

[@reyamathur2146]

@@madsmaryann5141 XD

[@HRHCaleb]

"Get a life!... make one with me coward..." what a great line

[@freyab5066]

attachment styles are so so so important for undoing that deep childhood trauma stuff i love/hate doing the necessary work that it uncovers.... schema therapy is a really fun and different perspective that helped me once i realised i’d learnt all i could from cognitive behavioural therapy and i still wasn’t healthy !!

[@hollow.skull.95]

I knew I am. Afraid of commitment. I relate more or less to some of these signs, but I wasn't aware it was so bad. At around 2:26 (also from 2:44 to 2:49)... Anna got me good, that's an "attack" on me because it's so true (no matter how much I deny it and try to lie to myself). Thanks for the book rec. I'll try to help myself with it until I finally get the nerve to go to an actual therapist.

[@Darryl_xtx]

“Some of you might feel attack” Me: yes but needed

[@sophia1851]

when they abandon you n you’re sad but also relieved...

[@rmdcade1717]

"Fun fact: you're 2.6 feet away from me" got me. The perfect timing on the callback

[@ErikaK]

letting go of the stories we tell ourselves, understand our limiting beliefs and understand ourselves better, building a relationship with ourselves first!!!

[@mwloos1]

This is a huge issue in the world right now. Thanks for sharing. I think another contributing factor is there is so much access to choice as well with social media, multiple dating apps, etc…

[@papernecklace]

This topic was really relatable for me, I always destroy the thing that just started and then proceed to blame the other party and eventually myself. And then start this cycle over. Thank you for sharing!

[@kdvwusm]

I am TERRIFIED to get hurt by someone I genuinely trust and love. It’s so bad I rather leave first because in my mind they will leave eventually. They will hurt me. That pain I felt before was horrible.

[@sandrapereiiira]

"You are very interestend...until they are" ouch that one really hurt

[@traciezou3768]

I have a dismissive attachment style working towards the secure attachment style. Self-love and open communication are the keys. Have the awareness that you are complete and enough, and be the person you want to attract to life. 2020 didn’t have an easy start, but that’s the year for a change and we will make it better!

[@goldenknight1756]

*I can’t forget seeing you in Ant-Man o-o*

[@pyro7257]

Oop-

[@karenwilliams5941]

I thought it was spiderman

[@spinmaster6995]

Where? Which scene?

[@pyro7257]

@@spinmaster6995 it's the after credit scene

[@acharich]

👀 👀 👀

[@leenanorms]

Anna this was fab, thank you!

[@cheyennewotherspoon1087]

I feel so attacked. 😂😂

[@3rdStExperiment]

She deserves so many more subs. Intelligent, gorgeous and entertaining.

[@riddlesandknowledge1]

I knew i had commitment issues since i stopped finishing any game or series

[@katyadade1041]

I have borderline personality disorder (BPD) in a mild variation. And all Anna’s content is so relatable for people with BPD: mood swings, fear of not being accepted, fear of being abandoned, deep desire to bond with people, unstable self image (from feeling OK to feeling completely unworthy), ruminating, hard recovery from criticism and depression. Like she is talking about BPD traits that helped my therapist to diagnose me and give me the proper treatment.

[@andreavalencie]

Anna be helping psychology students from her own findings That's me! Thanks Anna💕

[@anjuma.x]

Andrea Valencie that’s me too! But I’m doing it as an A Level

[@BrandNewMe93]

Love sneaks up on you when you least expect it. It appears like the sun in the morning peaking in with a blanket to keep you warm and soak up your tears. When it shows up it puts a light in you that will leave you wanting more of it. Love is real, it took me to self sabotage and being in a long relationship plus being so unhappy with myself to realize love isn’t gained by another persons affection. The journey doesn’t stop, we are here for love, it’s time to heal ourselves and start loving ourselves. Have a nice day everyone!

[@andiisaur]

I'm not afraid of relationships, I was in a commited relationship for 10 years... Now I miss being in one so much, having that special partner that you can tell everything and hang up and make love. Lol

[@theluckyone7189]

seriously have no idea why i've been dweliing on all of your videos for a week now. Those messages you gave in the videos are no joke. Thanks for making everyon better and life's easier, Anna.

[@alexa9364]

Since Anna uses clones. Does that mean she's dating herself? If so? How many clones are there?😂

[@chebaca8]

Sometimes and I mean ALL the time, I feel like Anna is speaking directly to me

[@micheller2368]

The mustard yellow has been lookin’ goooooooood btw, lol.

[@thebhagyashri]

i will stan anna till i die for teaching me the most appropriate response to 'get a life' i love you so much girl you have no idea

[@anulekhaprasad5307]

Oh my god this outlines my entire existence

[@artrockerispunkd]

A friend and I discovered we both watch you, and agreed that your videos are like free therapy sessions. Stay Awesome Anna! ♡

[@forbiddenyt9318]

“ We’re all gonna die” I’m excited 🤩🤩🤩...

[@marlikesun]

Fear of commitment, avoiding the grief of lost relationships, social anxiety, generalized anxiety, chronic pain that could be improved by a healthy routine that I cannot seem to achieve... Too many things wrong with me to even want to try at this point lol

[@spinthatmetalfreak]

Sign youre afraid of commitment: You watched this ugh I love being attacked by Anna

[@tallulahwonders2816]

i’m so grateful for self awareness tho cause it’s brought me to learn most of this without therapy. and thanks to my internet searches guided by self awareness of my needs!

[@veemai8115]

fun facts: anna loves to attack individuals like me with videos like these 😔🤲

[@corkydukeII5898]

Yeah, she nailed me too!

[@sokunthealy7619]

Same here. Lol.

[@Hoykoy24]

I love how you mention your therapy sessions

[@katcuzzi]

I was today years old when I learned that I’m scared of commitment.

[@DavisTibbz]

Dang! Her production quality is top class on KZbin

[@Memekyu]

Fun Fact: We're all gonna die. That needs to be a t-shirt!

[@erhantufekcoglu3193]

I Will make that tshirt. İn several colors! 😂😉

[@Memekyu]

@@erhantufekcoglu3193 There needs to be more people like you 😊👍👍

[@MelissaNgai]

Anna's constant creative and helpful videos really make me feel motivated to live life. It's just fun to see her always creating and trying to give and analyze and in turn, help herself by talking out all these thoughts.

[@mr.colemak404]

Love how when she started getting real her voice became more nasal. 😂

[@Dan0rioN]

I hope you find the perfect love Anna.. How lucky a person could be to have such a beautiful person in their life!!

[@primolla4609]

Not just a afraid of intimacy girl I'ma scared of commitment too

[@sweetunicorn6078]

I know I shouldn't judge people by their looks... BUT YOU'RE ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL.

[@solarmanhawaii]

Take it from a guy who's now in his 60's.... Who has a track record of relationships that never lasted more than three years... Make a commitment with that one who made you laugh more so than not.

[@map2001luvskitties]

this was really helpful actually. i didn’t think i was afraid of commitment because i was always the one wanting a relationship more.. but now that the other person is showing their feelings and wanting a relationship i’m freaking out and convincing myself of reasons i should run for the hills 💀 i definitely check all the signs. i think i’m afraid to commit and fall and then to be heart broken because i’ve always put up walls expecting it to not work out so i can get over it quickly. being truly vulnerable is actually very scary but i’m trying not to self sabotage lol

[@kenna163]

I'm not scared of commiting. I've commited to this channel.

[@lunaluna6474]

i swear your videos are always so relevant to what im currently going through its bizarre

[@selainx]

I wonder whether many people at all are happy in their long term relationships. And whether the happily in love tend to have certain traits. How much of the population is unmotivated, unhappy, flaky, addicted, unfeeling, anxious, and so on? I think maybe I'm just too isolated. I don't really know any examples in my personal life of healthy, loving relationships, while there are plenty of instances of unhealthy, unloving relationships. But it seems to me that some people will never find anyone they love in return. Yes, not one out of the 7 billion people on the planet. Esp those who are mentally or physically ill. I could have fallen in love once upon a time. But now, I'd have to find someone who not only could fall in love with someone as broken as me, but I could fall in love with as well. Could be worse. I could be someone who can't stand to be alone.

[@vivianxwei]

Going through something like this in my head but in the peak of a long term relationship. Thanks for this Anna, definitely need to do some more conscious work on my subconscious.

[@DreamBelive07]

okay.......but you didnt have to drag me this hard

[@mschrisfrank2420]

I already knew I was afraid of commitment. Not just in relationships, but also in my career and friendships. I’m working with my therapist on it.

[@no-one0425]

Fun fact: we're all going to die

[@amihere383]

@first last Than, not then

[@quillettt]

that's not a fun fact.

[@daverhoden445]

Ahhh, but if you die before me then how do you know I'll die? :D

[@Kadutrindad]

I love you because we share the same issues but you're a more developed version so you end up giving me a big hand in not screwing up my life

[@engineer15426378]

"Make one with me, coward." Just gold!

[@제린-q4o]

"You're very interested until they are" Wow, I didn't need to get attacked like that.

[@AlexandraBarbin]

2:04, genius, I laughed so hard.

[@melaniekay6745]

Giiiiirrrrl! I just saw you on A Million Little Things!!! Already one of my favorite shows, now with one of my favorite KZbin Influencers! You rock, hon! So happy for you! 😊❤

[@mykittiespuppy1972]

Fun fact: "If I measured pants using my neck I'd never get them over my thighs."

[@luuk-m8b]

Fun fact: that smile in unbelieve at 3:30. Keep up the good work Anna!

[@elliyo4286]

I'm in a long-term relationship w a man and have never been with a woman. So I haven't come out in years. Any tips on how to deal with people not believing your sexuality?

[@corkydukeII5898]

Move to California. You'll run into many sympathetic people in the same boat : D

[@renatamarques8610]

I get it can be frustrating, but does it really matter if they believe it or not? It's not even something they should have doubts about lol, if you say you're a certain way, the least people can do is respect it. PS: sorry if I sound rude, I just get mad in situations like these, even if it doesn't envolve me...

[@julzamidala2865]

Agree with Renata Margues that true friends will believe you because they recognize your agency as a human being. Coming out is scary (amhik), one of the biggest fears is that your friends and family will abandon you but if you flip that over your being your authentic self is a test of the other's relationship with you. If they truly value you and their connection to you they will accept you and affirm you... though it can be a bumpy ride for all involved. Patience is a virtue however frustrating or painful but the most important thing that the people allowed to be in your life accept, support and love you as you. The good news is that as an out person there's another whole world of people waiting to welcome you and celebrate you!

[@kdonline119]

Embody Geralt of Rivia: hit them with a hard stare and a “Hmmm”. In all seriousness, you don’t have to prove your sexuality. If people don’t believe you, that’s their problem. You know who you are and who you love. I’ve now gotten to the point where I actively enjoy correcting people who assume I’m straight. I just stare them out and enjoy their discomfort, make of that what you will!

[@greengurlg7]

Worth while to examine why you feel the need to make sure people believe your sexuality and if the same people consistently invalidate your sexuality have a candid talk about it with them. You may find that you need to cut some folks out of your life and set boundaries with people.

[@GlaizaJournals]

You’re amazing Anna!! ❤️

[@Princ3lei]

“You think your married friends settled” lmao no I know this for a fact SO BOOM. 💀😂 I’ll commit when I feel like I’ve gotten my best option ☺️

[@sophiemay9645]

but what if that's never 🤔

[@Princ3lei]

Sophie May lol! I don’t have those issues/concerns. But hypothetically, I would just never commit.

[@mr.mckinnon5680]

Love stands that fine line between Obsession and depression. It's a brain thing. Same with faith and fear. You really have no control. That's why you also have a heart. You're supposed to listen to that as well.

[@AlizzaBliss]

When it comes to relationships I'm full-on avoidant lol I literally have a doormat that says "Go away" with a pic of a cat throwing up double middle fingers lol *Person shows interest in me Me: I bite.

[@sophiemay9645]

😂 I got 50/50 avoidant and secure from a test. When ppl try to hit on me I just freeze and suddenly act super cold while internally I just wanna run and hide 😅

[@nitipriyasingh1387]

One positive relation can change everything. Start with self relation. 😊

[@blueraine8705]

"Get a life." "Make one with me, you coward." 👌👀👅👌👌👀💯

[@francescacolby6513]

I feel like adding a label always changes things

[@santox_digitalx1981]

Damn, the only time I felt attacked about commitment.

[@Nbengil]

I seriously love your sense of humor mixed with your honestly and feel like I can relate so much. Thank you

[@itsdeonlol]

Fun fact: Being single makes you a stronger person.

[@deanna6742]

Well being in relationships and learning abt other ppl and how to handle situations is what actually makes you stronger. You need experiences to grow and as a result u remain single.

[@raygin6581]

Oh bullshit

[@fannybett9167]

I don't know how your videos always suit my current situation, but I love it

[@Wiseman3001]

*raises hand* Me, I know 1700s sea shanties :>

[@uWuqt]

You and everyone working to build this channel are awesome.

[@minku4483]

Dating coach time

[@bdstudios6088]

I actually love Anna’s videos