Number 1 reason I did hold on for long because of that “nanghihinayang sa pinagsamahan” where we were actually happy together even with all those challenges we faced. Pero ngayon na nagkaLDR kami, I realized na I was always looking up on him and I forgot to give myself time that’s why I felt he was pulling away bacause I became toxic na I always see his mistakes that causes our misunderstanding. I got tired of overthinking and anxiety that I can’t control my mind thinking things negatively so I decided to broke up with him. He said, I am plastic and I was the one who let go of our LDR relationship that hurts me even more. Breaking up with him is the hardest thing I ever did but hearing him say those words makes it even more painful.. I just wanted to love myself and feel my self-worth..
@jhaz04252 жыл бұрын
I feel you poh but still holding up to this situation while I'm obviously tied down,,were in ldr also,,and even when we met, he's still the same seeing the worst of worst in him and even when we're apart now,there nothing changed,,I'm always the one who pursued and keep this relationship going everytime we had arguments hoping that maybe someday he will change,,I can't totally broke up with him even his very toxic cause everytime I do so,,it's always bounce back to me as if I cheated him and i only used him which is not true,,but it's how he define me when I want to be free from his toxicity,,and right now,I'm still holding on but I can't imagine my future to be with him,,full of fear as of now,,
@domdom75782 жыл бұрын
@@jhaz0425 mine was I was the one being toxic and I care for him so much so I chose to go away because I can't control my mind at that time. Now it's almost 5 months since I broke up with him. I am still feeling guilty a little because I still love him when I broke up with him up until now. But what I can say at this point, there's no more pain and tears. No more overthinking. But I still think of him every now and then. I know you can do that also. Don't let yourself getting hurt.. At first you'll cry like theres no more tommorow but after a while, your body will get tired of crying. If you really want to set youself free do it and don't think of what he's going to say. Just let him say whatever he wants because that's what he feels. But before that, tell him what you feel. Ask him why he never pursue you. Ask him everything you want to ask because only him can answer what's in your mind.
@jhaz04252 жыл бұрын
@@domdom7578 yah,,I already talk to him when the situation is cold,,but after that,,it's always the same,,there are times when he used to point out that I cheated him whenever I can't answer his call right away,,I was in surveillance video call everyday,,and everytime I ask him that we should talk only once,he gaslight that maybe I'm talking to someone,, that's how toxic this relationship is but still,I always on the hold to pursue just so he couldn't put a blame on me,,I just waited for him to stopped by that I am not the one to blamed if this relationship fails,,,I can't go anywhere without his approval,even all my friends,I can't visit because he always think that I will meet with the guys,,all I can do is isolate myself from my social circles and I follow him cause I don't want to have argument,I want a Peaceful relationship but I can't broke up with him,,,
@domdom75782 жыл бұрын
@@jhaz0425 well, he doesn't trust you. It's up to you if you want stay and take the consequences of staying. If you are not happy with that I think that's bad for you. You only know what you really want so weigh what's the best thing to do and choose what's best for you. Don't think of what others may say about you, you know yourself and if you do that, that's what you call self worth. Tell him na nasasakal ka na and you feel Not worthy of his trust at nasasaktan ka dahil doon. Sa nakikita ko, mas nagmamatter yong sasabihin or iisipin nya sayo kesa sa nararamdaman mo. Sis, mas pahalagahan mo yong sarili mo. If he doesn't see your worth then atleast you do. We only live once so choose to be happy. If kayo talaga, kahit magkahiwalay pa kayo, there will come a time, if you really meant for each other, you will be together. Or you are meant to someone much better.
@patriciaisabel72162 жыл бұрын
Same as what happened to me,, naghold ako kahit binaba ko peide ko jautbto save the relationship inaccept ko na nagkaroon ng 3rd party i was expecting na hihiwlaayn nya un kasi ako nauna ako kasama at nagaw ako gusto nya,, but when we get ldr ako nalang pala nagholdon kasi mas pinili nya un and he told me to let him go..
@laughingman_confused2 жыл бұрын
Sign (for me): Pagod na pagod ka sa trabaho. Gusto mong magpahinga, gusto mong matulog pero ayaw mong umuwi kasi siya ang uuwian mo.
@jee79312 жыл бұрын
🥺 yung feeling na ako nalang ang kuma kapit , kahit na ffeel at nkikita ko na lahat ng sign, binigay n lahat ni universe lahat ng sign para itigil ko na, cheating na paulit2 nalang 😢 sobrang sakit, for 8 yrs of relationship napagod at napuno na ako. ☹️ Sobrang sakit then Wala kang mapag sabihan ng nararamdaman mo. Sobrang hirap
@montejojhonjhonOfficial2 жыл бұрын
After ako ibreak ng boyfriend ko. Tuluyan ko ng pinalaya ang pinakamamahal kung bf😭. Ayaw ko ng masaktang muli. 1year and 5months na kami. Pero habang tumatagal, sinasaktan na niya ako physically, emotionally, minumura. Pero Kahit na mahirap makisama sa kaniya eh hindi ko nagawang iwan siya. Pero siya na itong napagod at iniwan na niya ako. 😭😭 ayaw ko na maghanap ng iba eh😭 I chose him but the god rejected. this year is very emotional pagdating sa mga relasyon. Maraming naghihiwalay at isa na sina moira and jason😭. Sana makahanap ng peace of mine. Ipagkaloob kay jesus ang lahat para makalaya at makalimot sa nasugutang puso😭😭
@normarosales2880 Жыл бұрын
Ang galing naman ng mga advice mo...TAMA naman ang mga sinasabi mo...Congrats marami ang magigising sa katotohanan.More power to your vlog..😌🙂💓👏👏👏
@ezekielvaldez7222 Жыл бұрын
A few young marriages got through kasi alam na nila yung purpose nila sa buhay. (P.S. Single po ako, and I tell this batay sa mga naoobserbahan ko.)
@mikeelilingcardenas84252 жыл бұрын
Damn!!! Accurate! Thank you! Very helpful to. Balik ako kapag okay na ako. 😅
@maryantonettetaytayon52892 жыл бұрын
Thanks kuya darbs..the last one hit me hard..hahahahaha..yung ako na lang pala ung nagwowork and lumalaban para sa relationship namin at sya prente lang..napakawala nyang kwenta talaga..kakalungkot..i wasted my time sa maling tao talaga..
@betheullaran36702 жыл бұрын
parang ako yata to gnawa ko na ang lahat full support para lng ma high morale xa pero waley pa run hirap tlga ang LDR yong snbi nia na “BKA PAGOD KANA”yon pala xa yong NAPAPAGOD..ang msakit yong sinaksak ka patalikod na indi mo alam kong maganfti kba o natuloyan kana .💔💔💔Yong proud na proud ka kc snbi nia sa mga ksamahan nua na asawa ka tpos unknowingly may iba na pala 💔💔💔😭😭😭😭 #LDRRELATIONSHIP
@eleonorsantos2422 жыл бұрын
Very inspiring...made me realize so many things... Thank you and more vlogs like this... A kind of vlog like this shouldn't be missed...😍
@RedRepublicanArmy Жыл бұрын
"ANG MALI AY MALI KAHIT GAANO PA NATIN ITO IPAGTANGGOL SA SARILI NATING OPINYON..." Ang tao ngayon ay nakatuon nalang sa bagay na nagdudulot ng pagiging makasarili at pagka-inggit dahil sa pagmamahal sa mga bagay ng di naman magtatagal. Dahil dito ang tao ay nakakalimot sa DIYOS at dahil din dito nagkakaroon ng stress at mga depression ang mga tao sa mga bagay na wala sila at pilit na nagsisik ap o minsan gumagawa na ng mali para makuha ito. Pinupuri ang ibang tao kahit na yung pinapakita di na kaaya-aya at pagmamahal nalang sa sarili imbis na sa DIYOS at sa Kapwa. Minsan sisisihin pa ang DIYOS sa mga nangyayari sa buhay o sa paligid niya. Ito ang nakakalungkot na katotohananan ngayon at tanda na malapit ng pagbabalik ni Hesus kung saan ang tao ay nagiging makasarili at pagmamahal sa kamunduan at kasamaan, sa sanlibutan at kadilimang ginawa ni Satanas upang dayain at iligaw ang mga tao patungo sa kapahamakan sa impyerno. Pagkakaisa, kapayapaan, pagbabago at pag-unlad... #Disiplina sa daan at pangangalaga sa kalikasan. #JESUS SAVES! BAPTIST PH. #Human rights and climate change. #Smoking cigar and alcoholic beverages kills. #End corruption and crimes.
@johnpatrickarnoco64572 жыл бұрын
Thank you kuya Darbs. More power po sa inyu. This really helps me get back to my senses. ☺️
@arlenesuay17632 жыл бұрын
continue on what you are doing because you are a blessing to a lot of us. Thank you! More power and God bless!
@mhelan63132 жыл бұрын
Ito na po yata yun sign.. after ko makipag hiwalay... napanuod ko to. nakaka relate tlga ako dahil lhat po ng sinbi nyo na dahilan. yun din lhat ng dahilan ko. Ang hirap lng kasi yun kung kelan nakaka move on nako ska nya gus2ng bumalik. sna marealize na nya na mas ok nako ngayon kesa nun kami pa.
@jelraagas74892 жыл бұрын
Wow 😣 nakakarelate Ako salamat Kuya Darbs your so genius about into relationship situations and how to handle it
@alyssayuson20422 жыл бұрын
I had to go back here because I had a relationship before when my ex-bf asks to marry me, not proposal pero asking me to have the civil wedding para daw mas mabilis. But I told him I have to think of it pa. 1 year pa lang kami nun. Aside sa may ugali talaga sya, I really have the feeling na this is not the type of husband I want to be with. We stayed together for 4 years but ended the relationship after because guess what, toxic na. Good thing I made up a best decision not to marry early because what if nagpakasal talaga ako and seeing all those behavior and attitude. I just can't.
@SHMcovers2 жыл бұрын
I agree sa sinabi ng divorce lawyer. 30s alam mo na ang mga bagay na gusto mo talaga at hindi :) most of the time kilala mo na ang sarili mo sa edad na ito
@gellycrazy51172 жыл бұрын
To be honest... Alam ko. Kase his a foreigner with different culture.. Dapat local din ang mapapangasawa nya.. Atsaka he cannot live here lse nandun ang source of income nya.. Sa 7 years. Sinupportahan nya ako financially, mapalaki o maliit man.... He change a lot. Gusto ko. Ng magmove on.. Kaso, for 2 years wala akong mahanap na gaya nya.. Not comparing.. But his the man i want in my life coz his a productive, disciplined and goal getter person. He always push me to my limit and help me to become a better person. Alam ko wala ako mapapala pero wala talaga preho nya.. 😭
@igssamson55092 жыл бұрын
Kuya darbs, is it worth it to continue on a relationship if you’re not happy but you know you still love the person? Is it a sign of being weak if you give up on that kind of relationship?
@jay69812 жыл бұрын
Ahhhhhhh eto ung *realizations* that she's talking about. Sad thing is she didn't gave me a chance to prove to her that i can change.
@ninaCyaRenzFabEli2 жыл бұрын
@RealTalkDarbs Kuya darbssssssss!!!! Thank you, thank you para sa mga ganitong videos mo..... I've been always excited to watch your uploads... And it never fail me.. Your videos are always giving a wake-up call para sa mga taong may pinagdadaanan.... Pawer lods☝️
@andrewnoro93042 жыл бұрын
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@andrewnoro93042 жыл бұрын
TN
@darlenealfaro19852 жыл бұрын
Thanks kuya darbs. It came to my realizations. dami ko natutunan po sau kuya darbs❤️
@gloriacalica4729 Жыл бұрын
kapag realtalk mo talaga kuya darbs ang dami ko natututunan
@liezeldagatan66182 жыл бұрын
Thanks Kuya Darbs.🥺♥️
@leearcangel37272 жыл бұрын
What if kung mahal n mahal po talaga ang partner mo but paulit ulit niyang cnasabe sau n hindi ikaw ang priority niya kahit matagal n yung relasyon nio. Need n bang bumitaw kahit mahirap
@yohan4332 жыл бұрын
bitaw na iyan. dapat balanse pa din sa career at sa love. if walang time talaga, sabi nga nila kung mahal ka, bbigyan ka ng time and siya ang mgsset niyan..
@mariaversoza91152 жыл бұрын
Try to speak to your partner kung bakit nya paulit ulit na sinasabi. Baka kasi sinabi lng sayo na hindi ka priority when in fact may mas malalim pa palang rason.
@cg23232 жыл бұрын
Thank you Kuya Darbs.
@roseannpugales032 жыл бұрын
Blessed evening po sir Darbs.
@enitx Жыл бұрын
Dapat may session na kmi sau rate per hr ang galing mo lalo na sa nag move on at no label res issue.gumawa ka na ng vcall session theraphy po
@saudiana97022 жыл бұрын
Now I know Tama Pala desicion ko. May mga times kc if naiisip ko yUng big decision ko.mejo nagiguilty ako.pero while watching this nalilinawagan ako n Wala Pala akOng dpt pagsisihan kc lht ng 5 signs n ito eh nakikita ko dti sa taOng pinili ko👎👎👎khit sa maikling panahOn lng lht ng 5 signs na ito eh pinakita nya.buti n lng habang maaga pa eehh kusa akOng lumayo.hahhahahahah
@haydeecastillo6662 Жыл бұрын
learning a lot of things from you..thank you❤
@marivicmanalo8183 Жыл бұрын
i luv u real talk darbs sobra gumaaan ang feeling ko sobra😭😢
@kaeayah92182 жыл бұрын
mahal ka naman pero parang hindi ka masyado priority 🥺 hirap na hirap ako bitawan kasi mahal ko na talaga 🥺 natatakot ako na baka magfail nanaman ako 🥺
@marjharo67312 жыл бұрын
Thank you kuya Darb's
@Nayn-ow4vr2 жыл бұрын
Kuya darbs paano po if inieencourage m syang mag grow as individual especially sa career pero ayw nya. Need p bng ituloy? Please i need ur advice
@psalms_inspired7512 жыл бұрын
Very well-said ❤️❤️❤️ I love this content kuya Dharbs🥰🥰.
@alabngpuso48352 жыл бұрын
What if your partner is something very slow in terms of IQ so there's a huge effect in decision making,planning our married life,i always feel broke with him im not happy anymore. what to do...can you pls enlighten me...
@anadynazana92472 жыл бұрын
Number 3,relate po ako kuya Darbs.Super galing mo naman talaga👍
@willow8592 жыл бұрын
Relate much 😢😢😢
@ojg61682 жыл бұрын
Hello,,,I am your new Subscriber,,, love your channel so much,,,😊,,,from 🇺🇸
@globaytuna5352 жыл бұрын
What if personality ko na na negative yung mas nakikita ko? Siguro, ako yung not meant for the relationship diba? HAHAHAH.
@emersonplangca50192 жыл бұрын
gusto ko ung #4..relate aq
@alabngpuso48352 жыл бұрын
Its very clear im doing the tango alone,ako lahat ng plans,financial obligation,problems etc parang may asawa na wala because of his situation.very slow (IQ) What should i do? Ako lng ata ang may ganitong asawa😔
@sphinx95542 жыл бұрын
move on po... kung wala syang pakialam sayo,maybe your in a toxic relationship. kaya nyu po ba makara ganyang klaseng tao, dont assume na he/she will be good if you get married. baka jan po kayo ma depress lalo.advicing as a friend.
@ninaCyaRenzFabEli2 жыл бұрын
@alab ng puso... Be strong... Lakasan mo Lang loob mo. And don't ever think na ikaw Lang ang nasa ganyang sitwasyon. Meron ding iba na ganyan ang sitwasyon, yung iba nga may anak pa sila Ng ganyang partner niya.. 🙂 basta seek God before you make a step in all of your decisions 🙂
@alabngpuso48352 жыл бұрын
Sphinx we're already married for years na and still im doing the tango alone,it seems im someone that is a special child,i feel so depressed which cause me to be unproductive in everyday life,supposedly he can help me and lift me up but it's not...he pull me down sa halip na umusad kami being a partner we end up stagnant at walang accomplishment sa paglipas ng nga panahon nakakalungkot.How can i get out from this kind of life with him.😔😔😥😢
@haroldv87682 жыл бұрын
Try to communicate first mam talk to him. About sa problem niyo or mo sa kanya baka hindi siya aware try niyo rin po mag unwind ng mga memories niyo before nung bago pa kayo baka sobrang burned out niyo na po talaga mag usap po kayo pag mahinahon na kayo at clear na ang iyong mind.
@alabngpuso48352 жыл бұрын
Harold V natry na po namin lahat but it doesn't work di na sya timatanggap ng kahit anong salita ko pinagbigyan ko na sya but the main problem is he is just like a special child who doesnt mind everything para na nga ako nanay nya,so what more can i expect to him as a man wala! Now after election i need to move out di ko na kaya pati ako natatanga being with him.
@divinalazaro59192 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@yuzu37462 жыл бұрын
Namiss kita kuya darbs. Ingat palagi ❤❤
@janetnacalaban2258 Жыл бұрын
I Love you Darbs ❤️🙏
@kiaheart092 жыл бұрын
Hi po pa advice nmn sbe ng longtime bf ko tht we should be ready if ever na mag break kme. For me kse I don't want to be ready because for me I know na di na tlga kme mag break up for me sya na tlga
@francismiguelmagdusa24072 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY🙂👍
@renato7stars2782 жыл бұрын
Ganyan d2 s italia. 30+ bgo mg kasalan
@exmrsnowwomanscorned83692 жыл бұрын
Ito talaga yun eh.. kaya pala hindi nagwowork yung marriage namin. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
@avley19972 жыл бұрын
it takes two to freaking tango 😊
@innaperalta45792 жыл бұрын
sir baka pde naman ang Option and priority ang topic😊
@josephinepelegrino5702 жыл бұрын
#3 it’s make me lose to full inlove him again 😢😢😢kn kailan May tatlo na kamin anak 😭😭😭
@jeannaslycabotaje53602 жыл бұрын
Kuya darbs😭 iba ka talaga🥺
@MatsuJah2 жыл бұрын
Sh*********T ang accuraaaaaate. Been moving on for 2 months na from an 8 year relationship.
@angelgracepalma29382 жыл бұрын
Can relate really...
@simplygi_pinaysaeurope2 жыл бұрын
Kuya bards pwde po mag request pwde po palagyan ng English subtitles hehe Kasi gusto ko share vids mo sa Afam ko na jowa hahaha Dali na po. Thanks 🙏 love your vids kasi
@aubreyamor54912 жыл бұрын
Lahat sapul na sapul hahhhaaahha thanks kuya darbs muklat na mata ko hahaha
@Trollianna2 жыл бұрын
Gwapo ni Koya dito. Light colors suit him.
@akoTophixTV2 жыл бұрын
OMG. 🥺🥺🥺
@marrymetv2632 жыл бұрын
Lol I thought naiyak kona lahat. Parang tinarakan Lalo ng kutsilyo puso ko 💔
@clashofclanbetatest625 Жыл бұрын
Pano po yung nagpapakamarter ka sa isang babae na halos ipagtabuyan kana nya pero ako andun padin sa tabi nya
@pcperalta23677 ай бұрын
5:37 😔
@user-tr6ty1pj6n2 жыл бұрын
Bakit ang sakit ng number 3? Haha. Perfect score yata ako dito, di ko pa tapos panuorin. 😅
@jakejec17232 жыл бұрын
So I completely wasting my time. But we are married and have 3 kids . What should I do 😭
@geraldinecabagtong94562 жыл бұрын
😂🤣Nakakatuwa nman to c kuya darbs 😂
@RealTalkDarbs2 жыл бұрын
tingin nga ng mukhang natuwa!
@erlindarobis59582 жыл бұрын
hello kuya darbs 😁
@filbrit37852 жыл бұрын
Lahat yan nararanasan ko ngayon
@me-anngeruela29192 жыл бұрын
💯
@flecelallauigan62432 жыл бұрын
Maaga pa ba? Mag 4 years na kami 😮💨
@skavira372 жыл бұрын
Can a 'pocketing' relationship also counts as a reason not to stay? Been in it for 3 years, giving him benefit of the doubt cause he is a very private and conservative type of person. But it just.. tires me out.
@jeffersonwilliams27172 жыл бұрын
i mean if they really love us why is it so hard for them to be open right? why would they make us doubt everytime. It is very tiring na they won't voice out what's on their mind
@skavira372 жыл бұрын
Yes and I'm not even asking to be flexed all the time. All I want is assurance. That's all.
@cassandralouisedelosreyes65112 жыл бұрын
3 yrs?? tsk... let go na sis.. 😔
@bemaytaperla12402 жыл бұрын
10 years with 2 kids, hindi p huli ang lhat sau sis, know ur worth..
@mjyumul-qp9ht Жыл бұрын
balik ako kapag wala na
@vhonreyes5132 жыл бұрын
Sapul agad s #1 😅😅😅
@josephinetadlip37342 жыл бұрын
😢💔
@singkit42422 жыл бұрын
😍
@Quotesoftheday0912 Жыл бұрын
😔😔
@leniesocajil89692 жыл бұрын
🥰🥰🥰
@annepaloma Жыл бұрын
😢
@mariatheresaguzman64102 жыл бұрын
M a politicized woman with political belief so I just wasted my time sa mga apolitical men or men with different political belief with me.
@jemmestoesta29082 жыл бұрын
Pov: andito ka kahit wala kang jowa.
@MY-if2uq2 жыл бұрын
🥺🥺💔💔
@rafaelandrada18672 жыл бұрын
r u single? ur so wise
@lizacalamojoy29902 жыл бұрын
be the first to click the like button 😂
@alracnaejairamangeles54422 жыл бұрын
14 yrs wasting my time
@1988-c1z2 жыл бұрын
🙂 _🖤
@hazelannvillacorta74582 жыл бұрын
❤️🥰
@mariatheresaguzman64102 жыл бұрын
You are not improving. Pumapanget at tumataba ka. 😁
@wlceunice16482 жыл бұрын
@ABIGAILPINKIHAN-or5gz3 ай бұрын
🥹
@denzbarzs71502 жыл бұрын
In the first place bilang lalaki hindi ka naman dapat mag aksaya ng oras sa babae.boring cila masyado wlang kwenta mga ideya nila.piliin mo nlang yun babae na gagawin lhat para sayo hyaan mo sya humabol sau.pero NEVER ka magpakasal big mistake.freedom is ur priority should be.
@RedRepublicanArmy Жыл бұрын
"ANG MALI AY MALI KAHIT GAANO PA NATIN ITO IPAGTANGGOL SA SARILI NATING OPINYON..." Ang tao ngayon ay nakatuon nalang sa bagay na nagdudulot ng pagiging makasarili at pagka-inggit dahil sa pagmamahal sa mga bagay ng di naman magtatagal. Dahil dito ang tao ay nakakalimot sa DIYOS at dahil din dito nagkakaroon ng stress at mga depression ang mga tao sa mga bagay na wala sila at pilit na nagsisik ap o minsan gumagawa na ng mali para makuha ito. Pinupuri ang ibang tao kahit na yung pinapakita di na kaaya-aya at pagmamahal nalang sa sarili imbis na sa DIYOS at sa Kapwa. Minsan sisisihin pa ang DIYOS sa mga nangyayari sa buhay o sa paligid niya. Ito ang nakakalungkot na katotohananan ngayon at tanda na malapit ng pagbabalik ni Hesus kung saan ang tao ay nagiging makasarili at pagmamahal sa kamunduan at kasamaan, sa sanlibutan at kadilimang ginawa ni Satanas upang dayain at iligaw ang mga tao patungo sa kapahamakan sa impyerno. Pagkakaisa, kapayapaan, pagbabago at pag-unlad... #Disiplina sa daan at pangangalaga sa kalikasan. #JESUS SAVES! BAPTIST PH. #Human rights and climate change. #Smoking cigar and alcoholic beverages kills. #End corruption and crimes.