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[@DrJulie]

Hi I'm Dr. Julie | Clinical Psychologist subscribe & follow me for lots more videos on mental health and psychology. For more on this see my new no.1 bestselling book - Why has nobody told me this before? 👉 linktr.ee/drjuliesmith

[@malloryjones9903]

I am like this but have no insurance nor the time to see anyone. 😕

[@cloe.h84]

My mom tells me I don't need a psychologist, but im pretty sure I need...

[@nileshkadam4147]

It is good that you tell us about symptoms but what about solutions please give us solutions too

[@jackiehughes8913]

Sure wish i had someone like you when I was younger🙏💞🙏

[@Peri_pr]

@@nileshkadam4147 She won't, because that way she couldn't sell her "no. 1 bestseller book" lol Most of her shorts are made to promote her book...

[@amoiur_]

Me : relate to all of this My mom : stop lying you're perfectly fine

[@purnimaverma2490]

Typical indian parents:

[@beatboxpipudi2496]

Lol same

[@jnhkk]

Me: I do this everyday and every second of my life. My partner: there is nothing wrong with you, you are lazy and you exaggerate

[@ladybossheheh5055]

Same

[@Mikyda3]

@@jnhkk I would definitely find a different partner or just be on your own until you find someone worthy

[@oyun_doktoru1236]

for anyone who didn't realize: these are symptoms of depression

[@welshdragon7339]

Oh I relate to a lot of symptoms

[@awesometani8148]

And anxiety

[@thebetteryou8018]

That's right... Made me recall my struggle with depression a few years back.... Horrible disease though. Thankfully i found medical help and got better.

[@cxllmeyukki]

i have been having these ever since i was 10 but when i talk to my best friend it feels like all the past trauma and sadness in my life is just gone and when she isnt here its all dull

[@marveleditsbyme]

Ah shit🥲

[@sailorjupiterfan11]

It’s even worse when your own family just brushes it off.

[@MyMy-tv7fd]

because they are the cause

[@argeebargee]

​@@MyMy-tv7fd this is what I would do! But you're not me... (so then you end up in the "too hard" basket, and they don't want to know you until you're "better", when just a hug would make a world of difference)

[@EveMotorsportChannel]

Facts

[@lillyramirez2425]

Right and then when it gets worse they won't take you to get help. They just say "you're not that bad off."

[@user-bv3vr1bo1q]

Because they can not understand how it is, to be alone with your brain. When you don't have it, you can not understand. I also didn't understood it, bevor I had it.

[@user-oq4jx8mc6r]

The scary part is the feeling that there is really no one to talk to . When I’m out with friends or family, or interacting at work, I put on my “happy” mask. And yes, it is exhausting.

[@gaurangsolanki4386]

Yes it is. I don’t know how to get out of this situation.

[@bigbob6700]

Don't go out then

[@MilkyWayMarsBar]

You're lucky you have friends..

[@Starlight18976]

I understand you…

[@creativemindsonja]

Maybe you live with covert narcissist and That's why you feel exoustedm. read about these kind of people and if you can recognize someone in your family.

[@redribbon2]

"haha, no. your life is literally perfect." - my mom

[@Jessica988.]

The scars: "think again bit-"

[@Sanityless]

​@@Jessica988. WHY IS KZbin ALWAYS CALLING ME OUT, AND NOW THE COMMENTS😭✋

[@artdispenser]

@@Sanityless SAME BRO 😭😭

[@Lefty-1909]

A teacher & mentor referred me to the school nurse but I know my mum won't be OK with it so when I go back school I'm going to to get them to just forget about what i said and the referral (I have all of these symptoms from minor to strong + more.)

[@nottzo]

@@Jessica988. broo that was literally the only way i was able to convince my parents 😭😭 i hoped id be able to get the help i needed without having to tell them about the self harm, but i guess, to them, things have to be as serious as that to actually do something about it

[@randomness881]

Me: relates to all of these and should prob tell parents My brain: Just smile and pretend everything's okay.

[@BunnBunn0325]

Same

[@cherrycoconut3544]

Same

[@terryrobinson4484]

Same, all the way

[@blinkeuisaswiftie8397]

@@18itsme Dude you have to seek help. It's been 8 years, whole freaking 8 years.

[@user-rq9xt]

honestly I do think that there are people who do really have depression but all of the people that fake it ruin it for all the other people who really have depression...

[@melissagoodwin6146]

It’s so true. No one knows and you feel all alone even in a crowded room.

[@sweaterweatherx]

True. But you can’t do anything about it.

[@thegreypath1777]

Yes.

[@outrunrider3661]

I've got everything except I sleep too much. I don't even want to sleep that long but it feels like the only place I can just clear my mind and not think about anything. Getting out of the bed means starting a new day of anxiety.

[@BohemianPotanist]

What if you haven’t been out of the house and interacted with people in 3 years and now it feels like you can’t relate and don’t know how to people at all anymore?

[@Autopilot_]

Then I think you definitely need to seek out mental help

[@jazzy9282]

You should move around or go on vacation sometimes your mind grows outside your usual surroundings and it wants to see something different

[@shera5567]

same situation. i don’t know how to be around people anymore. people drain me for some reason .

[@steffnic13]

It’s been so hard being isolated during Covid. I think this is so common right now. 🙏🏻 What you note is definitely a real impact of it all.

[@srujanpetumpuri2900]

U know just talk however u want and stop thinking abt what they may be reacting. It will help a lot. Ppl who like the way u talk will stay. Fear of judgement from society is what made me from being myself. I hope u understand what's holding u back from just being urself.

[@sameeha6698]

the fact that I relate to all of these is scary but what's even scarier is telling my parents because they always think I'm lying

[@TaffNasty]

Just tell them, show them this vid, seek help. Do it for you.

[@psivy5942]

probably because this is just part of growing up... everyone will feel like this sometimes

[@rebekahsaeger6119]

same...

[@AngCJ-18444]

Tell them, tell a guidance counsellor at school or somebody you trust please 🙏

[@Mercury_l0ver_X3]

​@@TaffNasty doors?? I think you mean "send" i also have auto corector

[@-Stxr--]

Finally someone who understands that it's not just starving yourself, it can be over eating too.

[@thegreypath1777]

Exactly.

[@Simpleandslowliving]

Felt this way. Bought 7 ducks and started baking sour doigh bread. Having the responsibility to go outside to take care of them by feeding them and letting them out / in and by. starting the bread in the morning and letting it rest for a specific amount of time I was getting a rhythm I never had as a Mom of 2 toddlers and a night shift nurse. Changed my life for the better.

[@bwingbwinggwiyomi]

the problem is that therapy is a financial luxury in this day and age, and the people who actually need it the most can't afford it. It's fucking tragic.

[@makaniistorm8664]

Yea, I find it kinda screwy that you need to pay to help yourself mentally, which is like what life is majority based around. So I’ve decided to try helping myself, don’t know how it’ll go but I’ve just been avoiding it for years. Also contacted the one wellbeing place near me that’s free so I’ll see what they’ll do

[@idkkkk_000]

Yeah. Tbh schools should have a mental health class and therapy for kids with trauma or anyone who signs up for it.

[@kailinng1710]

Omg yes now people of the generation is literally needing to pay thousands of money just to talk to a person bruh therapy should be free except of the meds

[@Souls-at-zer0]

Exactly , and America is like “we need functional members of society” like ya I’d be one if I didn’t have a fucking metal disorder causing me to quit or loose my job cuz my illness kills me 😐 like from a government point of view seems like you would want “healthy “ workers even if u didn’t care about actual life but simply having workers ..need a healthy worker to work the day and come to work every week .

[@dontburstmybubble686]

On god, we should at least have required awareness classes for shit like drugs, depression, psychotic break downs, etc. In highschool. I will agree with people that anything before highschool or middle school is too early but seriously this country is so uneducated in practical things

[@hestikleynhans4926]

When you already have 5 different mental health disorders, these symptoms become daily habits.

[@HyunjinHaIrVaNd]

ikrr

[@FirstNameLastName-wt5to]

Do you know what mental health disorders are based on? Completely made up societal standards. If you fail to conform to the completely made up standards, they label you with a disorder and try to reprogram you. But who made these standards and who really benefits from them? It’s not any of us.

[@carpediem4413]

Problem is: it’s frustratingly hard to find a good Therapist for you. Most don’t take the right insurance… if they do, they’re booked months out, then you find out after the long wait, they suck. I have tried about six therapists over the past year and none have been good, reliable or helped me at all. At a certain point you give up because it’s too much work and nobody can help you. 😢

[@iamURHO]

I wanna help but I’m not a therapist. I’m a great listener and a trustworthy, discreet person though. But the Lord is always listening to your thoughts and knows your heart. He will never leave you nor forsake you. Trust Him. ❤

[@heezyforsheez]

I feel you on this and believe you. My first therapists were truly amazing. Then i moved states. Ive never been able to find that level of care anywhere else. But unlike you I can't even get to a therapist in the first place. There are simply none in this area, and certainly none accepting my insurance. All the good ones are taken up, and there's a pretty bad mental health crisis in my area. Personally I miss therapy so much, it really helped when the therapist is a good fit.. same with doctors as im currently going through medical hell too. Pure hell. And could use a therapist to help me with that too lol. Such a sad situation for so many of us. I really hope you find someone whos a good fit. But i can understand the giving up part. Its understandable you feel that way after so much trying and failure on their end. Im sorry you've had to go through this.

[@babbs128]

You said it. That's exactly where I'm at too. But, instead of moving on, I just stayed with the first one I found 7 months ago. It's a complete waste of time.

[@JiaFit]

I hear you and I am so sorry for everything you went through. You are hella strong and resilient. What I would say is if you want to live life of your terms and be happy/wealthy/ free etc) then you’ll need to process those painful memories. Here’s I process traumatic memories. I get into a comfortable, safe space (preferably at home) with cozy blanket, socks and a teddy bear. Then I journal about that event, what happened, how it made me feel, how I saw the world differently and how it impacted me. Then I acknowledge those emotions whilst allowing myself to cry/wail/ whatever. Then I write and say to myself “love you, I forgive you, I am proud of you” Then give myself time to just be, maybe sleep, maybe watch a movie, maybe meditate. Then the next day or a few days later I repeat. I’ve been processing 20 years of trauma for the last 2 years and it’s going to take atleast another 10 years to clear it all up. I haven’t spent a dime on therapy. I’ve helped myself through Meditation Journaling Somatic exercises Grounding Emotional intelligence Hope that helps x

[@FirstNameLastName-wt5to]

Because psychology is a field that is completely subjective. It’s based on completely made up societal standards and getting you to confirm to those standards. The vast majority of mental health “issues” are actually just normal human reactions to a really messed up world. And there are very low standards for becoming one.

[@drdsasterify]

I've been struggling with my mental health for the last 9 years. And there's nothing I am more grateful for than never having had an issue with sleep. It's the one source of comfort that always applied no matter how bad I felt

[@MorrissDeroos]

Insomnia almost killed me

[@maci7679]

I relate to all of these but it is so hard to talk to someone who will listen and take what you say into consideration

[@artistic_escape_ai]

Hey it's okay dear u can share here

[@therealkoolaidandkale]

You're right. Not everyone is a 'safe space'. You SHOULDN'T just open up to anyone. I pray that you find your way.

[@Zuza_Szumilowska_]

I have to keep it in me. I have No one to talk to about that. And when i behave other than i usually do, someone says me - why r u angry? - (in my head)because im lonely, sad, tired and exhausted.

[@emeraldmovies9349]

Same😢

[@Katsuki_eternal]

@@Zuza_Szumilowska_ I am so sorry but let me tell u you are not alone and NEVER think that u are not worthy of anything u do deserve the world .

[@localdruglord550]

Me: oh damn I relate to all of these Also me: I'll just push those feelings back into the abyss where they belong :)

[@Goldie_bear]

Same 😂

[@Ilikebananasouioui]

Same

[@Heatwavesonjune15th]

Yup

[@Clxire_882]

Yup

[@jordynsstuff9427]

Same

[@getyourwillhere]

As a lawyer who is working towards helping other lawyers with Wellness/mental health I find your pieces here absolutely incredible and useful. Thank You .

[@ishadey99]

"Its all in your mind. Do some work, when you're busy such things won't be there."...was told when i tried sharing my pain and nobody understood, i never share now

[@doanything-ux5mw]

"You are perfecrly fine... Go drink water and stop overreacting now" -my dad

[@karina-ph7kf]

exactly, until i lost 1 kg a week until i was so extremely underweight cause i lost my entire appetite did they gaf.

[@H.P.Blavatsky]

5L in and Im still sad plz advise

[@XarikleiaAvramidou]

Me who don't have a dad🫡

[@Onix_onpawz]

@@XarikleiaAvramidou same

[@YaBoiTrey]

When you relate to literally all of those but you can’t tell anyone because they’ll tell you to shut-up and stop being dramatic because “the world doesn’t revolve around you”

[@LetMeSayThis]

That sucks so much! BUT You don’t have to tell anyone else to seek help from professional ❤ my mom did this to me constantly and I just realized I don’t need anyone else to tell me that I’m worthy to get help and start my healing process 🥺

[@saimarahat7858]

I relate to all of this but I don't wanna tell anyone and my parents don't care at all about my mental health

[@nany_quinha]

Or not even believe you untill they catch you having a really bad episode and go "oh shit it was real huh..." Then proceed to ignore it again after a few days since the episode is over 🤡

[@a12i9]

I guess people who ignore this feel helpless about it and just hope it will go away by itself. What you need is someone who works in this field. If you don't have a therapist, go to a counsellor or something similar, they shouldn't ignore you.

[@Gods33Acres]

Every one of these. I point-blank told my wife my mental health is crumbling. Her response: "you need to seek help." No offers of help or asking how she could help. And she's a licensed mental health counselor. So much for seeking help from within your own marriage. It's far better to keep quiet and bottle it up than express my feelings.

[@cubaricanclari]

Talking to someone who is not in your circle, like a therapist, can be very helpful.

[@showlove4ali]

Girl just explained me life rn more than I could 😭

[@sugarcubes7320]

Sometimes I wish my parents understood me but they always tell me nothing’s wrong with me and tell me that I’m complaining and there’s nothing to be upset about.

[@Zemiaza]

Maybe it’s time to get in contact with other trusted adults for help or a guidance counselor at a school to help you sort your feelings and get you into therapy.

[@miss.chocolate1397]

Great job for telling them. If I told them I would be called Cinderella for being ‘dramatic’

[@novamation]

“when i go to sleep, i cant even fall asleep” matched perfectly omg😭

[@Misszebyrobloxvideos756]

same

[@ROCKSTAR-ct9d]

Same

[@rogerward3390]

Exercise helps and stop staring at your phone, get off social media...those 3 things are a massive start, good chance you'll do neither, but u may surprise us

[@Mia_Coconut]

Frr

[@ThatOneChocolateAddict]

Real

[@andyblasterdando295]

Im a stay at home parent and i struggle with all of these. Im lonely and dont have anyone really to talk to about how life can feel so empty sometimes. The kids are fine but i wish people understood how sacrifices for family can really effect your anxiety towards a normal life.

[@cubaricanclari]

I'm a sahm too and I totally agree with you.

[@Puppylove82-gv3gm]

Yes. I have no social life anymore. I've tried but I feel like a burden to the maybe 2 friends I have when I ask them to go get lunch every 4 months or so. I basically have human interaction with my husband, my toddler, my parents and my mother inlaw. Sometimes with the parents, I'd rather just not speak at all. I've lost all interest in everything I used to like. I feel like hell and not to mention, I had a therapist and she even dumped me. Like. Damn! Am I that boring????!!!

[@cubaricanclari]

@@Puppylove82-gv3gm I'm in the same boat. All my "friends" work, my husband doesn't want to be bothered when he's working, my Mom passed away. I have no motivation to do anything. If it wasn't for having to take the kids to school, I probably wouldn't go out.

[@Puppylove82-gv3gm]

@cubaricanclari I got some exercise equipment. It's helped a little. A little trampoline and a stair stepper. Maybe that would help for you too.

[@cubaricanclari]

@@Puppylove82-gv3gm thanks. 🙂

[@akumar1889]

It feels more heartbreaking when your own family ingnore it.😢😢

[@matty1214]

Me: Relating to all of these Asian parents: Shut up and go to school School: *Will 2x the assignments help your man-tall illness?*

[@mokshithakarnati6158]

Exactly!

[@Maryam_Sadoon]

Man tall lmao

[@ineedanormalusernamesoidon4553]

2x more like 10x

[@hairystyles...]

@@ineedanormalusernamesoidon4553 oi oi directioner!!

[@darlingnemesis]

plsss fr ikr same

[@breathe.1478]

While going through this makes me realize that it's a hard time I'm going through, but what more harder is parents believe that these are all excuses to avoid work, all they want is results 🥺

[@AAABatteries.]

Yea that's why I gave up on talking to my mom about that and it gets worse by day especially when she acts like a deranged power monster over me and my dad so I end up getting in trouble for the smallest of things 😢. And I can't get therapy the school therapist is told they have to tell my parents if I tell them anything so I just don't talk to the any theripist bc they are gonna tell my parents and last time my mom heard what was happening with me she denied all of it my phone was taken for 2 weeks and I was told to not spread gossip. !?

[@powderpink9019]

​@@AAABatteries. Poor baby, I am sending you hugs

[@AAABatteries.]

@@powderpink9019 ty :)

[@r.e.a.l.s.h.a.o]

​@@AAABatteries.ur parent also went tru this, but back then ppl dot cry bout everything 😂

[@AAABatteries.]

@@r.e.a.l.s.h.a.o I don't cry about everything I was taught not to cry or I would get in trouble for it but I have also realized that is bad because then you just bottle your emotions. I still do it though.. and my birth mom lives in Idaho and my step mom lives here both of them were the stereotypes of teenagers. I will never end up like that because I refuse. And my step mom blames her deppression on her work and probably her past husband's she still has it but that doesn't mean that I am suddenly okay just because she has deppression too. My mom and dad and everyone in my family gets in fights so much I uselly try to leave before I get dragged in. I was moved from a fiscally abusive house to a mentally abusive one. I pretty much just online vent at this point and then I get comments like you so ig I should stop doing that.

[@Itz._.Ar1a-Zaw2.0]

Thank you for this I really needed it, i’ve been having a lot of problems with my mental health lately and I have no idea how to fix it. This really helped me in the stuff that is happening to me.thanks again

[@elisajimenez8738]

Your vids reveal to me that I am truly depressed-its such a foreign feeling that I didn't realize what was "wrong with me " because all the things you listed in this vid has slowly been creeping into me like a mold during a serious of health challenges including long covid (which I was gas lit by med profs for about 11 months saying "it was in my head" , yeah and my lungs , diffiucly breathing and peripheral neuropathy from the varient of covid I got) thankyou for this-this is my fav song-afyer I saw this I began calling therapists to see who rakes my insurance!! Thankyou!!!

[@TraumatizedButterBiscuit]

I just hit every single checkpoint on that list but I shall continue to live in suffering :)

[@me_idk0]

Same

[@-User.-]

That is the way to go ✋

[@Gods33Acres]

Life's alot easier than to share issues with a spouse that turns everything back on me.

[@karenr411]

Same here! No anti depressants help. I can't make myself eat until I am sick. Living on protein drinks is getting so boring too. 😢 I keep fighting for my cats ❤

[@Daughter_of_God21]

It's a tough place to live in, I'm sorry. I remember being there, but God delivered me, and I believe He can deliver you from this, too. May I pray for you? Lord, please lift this person up; You came to bring us life and life abundantly (John 10:10). God, please move Your hand in this person's life. You see where they are at; God of mercy, please lavish your love on them in Jesus' name. May their bonds be loosed now in the name of Jesus I pray, Amen. Bless you 🤍

[@Julia-mc6ng]

Me: Oop, can relate. Also me: *fear of telling my parents cuz I don't want to make them dissappointed in me 🥵*

[@thedancelearner7721]

They are not good parents if they make you feel that they are disappointed with you .

[@killherqueen]

same, well kinda... im not scared of them being disappointed,im just scared of them being so worried and having to pay hundreds of dollars in the hospital for me, so i just stay quiet

[@idontreallyknow7928]

Same it just i said to them years ago and they said you are dramatic it will go over time tho i still have all these

[@killherqueen]

@Ayla Abbasova 👍

[@skzbuttcheeks]

They just say nothing is wrong and just study and study and who can I tell huh even my friends don't have eyes to see what I am going through

[@Sofia-vi3qf]

Thanks this video helped me realise how bad my anxiety was getting. I never wanted to see a therapist as my old therapist would always judge me and just brush me off and tell me my feelings were invalid. But u convinced me to go again. She told me that if I hadn’t come in she believes I may have committed suicide eventually. Thank u so much you may have just saved my life

[@lucineradovic2163]

The way I have been feeling this for at least two years

[@kupiina]

My country, Ukraine, is at war with russia, and I ve been experiencing all those things (except the last one), for a week now... This is truly terrible, I wish all of this to end sooner

[@F_MahaletchumyArbram]

Hope for the best....stay safe....

[@Mikyda3]

So sorry you have to go through that. Hope it ends soon so you can have peace.

[@chaoticallyweird.]

Stay strong❤ i can only imagine what you're going through rn but i really hope everything gets well soon

[@user-wl8ip6vc2q]

Hey, I understand how you feel. Armenia and Turkey have a lot of wars. It hurts me to think how many people died when it was war. I really hope you'll be okay.♥️ 🇺🇦🇦🇲

[@LisiaLusia]

Be safe, be strong. I experience all of this for about four years now (in May I have 20years) and I live in Poland. And still don't have enough time to go to NORMAL doctor when I'm sick, so I don't even know what with mental health. .... WARNING. BLACK HUMOR. I just think I need to wait a little more. Maybe3 meters underground I will rest. 😅

[@Weirdo_Human8462]

When you relate to all of them but it’s been like that for years and you’re still fine: *”guess i’m just too powerful for you.”*

[@E.C.617]

Broooo sameeee

[@cloud4394]

It's been FOUR years and still going stronk bAbY

[@roelilano145]

Now this actually made me feel better

[@Weirdo_Human8462]

@@roelilano145 lmao ^^ good to hear!

[@Weirdo_Human8462]

@@cloud4394 with a bOnK in ’dem hands

[@UniqueCuriousMakeupArtist]

I have all of the above. In therapy when I realized all this. Especially when it came to not just neglecting my needs but also not being fully present with my child 😢 on the healing path. Better than yesterday ❤

[@user-xo6zs3qi3s]

Dr. Julie, can totally relate . Lost total joy in things that I Loved . Even life is slowly losing its meaning . But in the end it all should turn out ok. Thanks for your post . You have follower

[@ShootwAuthority]

I wish Dr Julie was my doctor. She genuinely cares. And I'd feel safe with her.

[@survivalwisdom.]

My vibes completely ❤

[@GMJ7320]

That's the idea with all of them tho right? I wouldn't know I haven't had to deal with that stuff but I hope you feel safe with your current one.

[@gse7639]

Yeah, every time I talk to anybody but myself about my mental health, they tell me I’m fine or worry too much. She seems like she would understand❤️

[@ShootwAuthority]

@@gse7639 she has a kind spirit. She definitely cares.

[@ShootwAuthority]

@@gse7639 100% Youre not alone, buddy. And you fkn got this.

[@happypiano4810]

I finally looked at this list and said “I’m good”.

[@pranavdube6720]

Happy for you my friend! 😀👌

[@tomatogoose4426]

It hits me in waves, it comes and goes. The mood swings really get to me sometimes

[@XxHeArTs4JeWeLxX]

This is most relatable she practically just told the story of my whole life I have lost appetite and when I say im not hungry I still get served food anyway... And I dont have motivation to do the things I use to love anymore and my parents think its just h0rm#nes but its not...

[@jenniferwilson9579]

Unfortunately, there is a shortage right now in the US of mental health counselors, there are waiting lists at every practice to see someone. ☹️

[@AnnaRajasekharan]

If ever need a person to talk to just feel free to text me.. Hope everything will be okay ❤

[@swankytable84]

The therapist I was supposed to be seeing every week/two weeks hasn't been able to schedule me for two *months*

[@Aitomy]

Seriously considering booking an appointment to the United Kingdom... I've been through 5 psychologists already and I have got no help. Last one simply told me I was fine and I needed no help after my doctor said the whole opposite. I needed it the most. "But you only complain and don't look for help" It is not that I am not looking for help but at this point it is so frustrating and helpless knowing I can't come to any good professional when it takes me soo much time and effort to simply take the lead.

[@goaway3506]

Most psychotherapists offer a free consultation, treat it like a job interview. Counselling directory or the bacp website have a good tool for finding therapists. Some of it's just chemistry but their cv can help

[@RowanWolf22]

Try therapists etc online; phone call ones. There’s loads all over the world that will video chat with you etc and it may help you a bit ): I know tiktok has a lot of people who mention actual therapists (not the betterhelp stuff ick.) so doing some research and finding the right therapist that way may help! If someone talks about a good therapist, look them up and see if they do online calls / etc. Distance doesn’t always have to be an issue.

[@kyotofinn3797]

Read the Quran trust me

[@stevebradley7721]

My record is 12 days without leaving my house or showering. Something in my brain takes over and says f-you, it’s almost impossible to take back control. I’ve been dealing with it for around 12 years.

[@user-fm4cq8rd3r]

I am literally going through all of this but it is getting better a little bit, I am trying and I believe it will get better

[@cloudybread6168]

When u relate to all these: *should I be worried-*

[@Ghostshat]

I can relate to some of them to a certain extent but im fine, I think I could have anxiety but probably not, but then again idk :/ Anxiety is a confusing one for me

[@gachacados]

Same lol

[@viol_e]

Same but like my parents won't belive me so it useless ಥ‿ಥ

[@blackythebordercollie6971]

@@viol_e Sameeeee😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@Sakura-fm4bs]

Me too

[@dheevyn8866]

The fact that I can relate to all this is so sad. It was especially bad last year as I had no strength to do things. At first all I did was sleep then I began to have sleep deprivation as I somehow feared that if I went to sleep I wouldn't wake up( still don't know where that thought came from) and even when I managed to go to sleep, I would wake up gasping for air. I'm in a better place now and I'm grateful that you spread awareness about this. Thank you for your work

[@astitchintime929]

Damn it was the same for me only I thought I wouldn’t wake up cuz I almost lost my bestie I thought she’d never wake up I got btr but honestly can’t see the road I’m on anymore 😂 And yes the awareness is what we need lots of nowadays ❤️

[@andreiasilva166]

@Dheevyn what did you do to get better?

[@Charlottes-BS]

All of these apply to me, but i feel extremely selfish asking for help, like i don’t deserve it because no one has to care if i am alive or not.

[@bhavyagoel4222]

Although i relate to all of this and blame my phone a bit too I tried talking about it And no one takes it seriously anf just say im overreacting or that my life isnt that hard as theirs and they always say " Everything is coz of that damn phone " which breaks my heart they always have the same excuse rather than hearing me out and understanding for once

[@alexandersalazar1647]

Uhmmm all of the things listed in the video is what is happening to me right now. But i don't have money to pay for psychiatrist.

[@fruittree1670]

You don’t need one. Just spend time with friends and try to enjoy yourself. Also, and as much as this pains me to say because I was in your position, you need to talk to your family about it. They might not understand but they can support you

[@fabiansaerve]

@@fruittree1670 ha just think about how Someone without friends and family feels now after your comment..

[@fruittree1670]

@@fabiansaerve I don’t know what to say other than I’m just trying to help? You have very solid ground to stand on, but also, I can’t adjust myself to have advice for literally everyone’s state of being. I’m just sharing what worked for me and if you wanna nitpick and criticise that, I’m not going to stop you from having nothing better to do with your life

[@pragya1833]

You can try journaling and just simply reading about what you're going through and what helped other people overcome those same issues. You can read books, watch videos or articles. It's a slower process but it helps a lot, you just need to be patient with it. Slowly and steadily you'll get out of that phase.

[@thevaliantbutcoward9195]

@@fruittree1670 bro it is easy for you to say that. But yes I agree for what you're saying but some family are not friendly so i recommend to not to talk about your problem but not all okay? Maybe just a little if it's keep bothering you. But then don't missunderstood bout me i mean you're not wrong 😅 but thanks for the advise

[@Zemiaza]

If you are unable to get therapy because your parents say “No your fine.” Even when you very clearly state why you think you need it it may be time to start contacting other trusted adults. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, teachers. They can really help you, so remember to do it for yourself. It will help you get better!

[@Music_studios26]

What if they don't have any trusted adults?

[@Omnisexual_potato]

I don’t because I only have my mom near me, and she would say “your fine” even though all of these are true except for the last kne

[@aim6879]

School gives me depression

[@TheFlurfyPantss124]

It's the opposite for me. I know I'm not fine and I guess a lot of people guess it, but I won't tell anyone. They want me to get better but there's no point, y'know. It's why I try to help others instead, because might as well help others while I'm here.

[@tokoyor89]

did this and they all said i was faking :) even told a therapist (mother of my friend) and she said that i was faking it and shouldn't deprive others of privileges they need

[@Hollywiththeflowers]

Dr Julie , your videos are spurring me on to get some help. I have anxiety , PTSD from childhood & depression. I’ve been trying to pootle along thinking that life’s going to get easier. I lost a parent to h**roin 18 months ago and I’ve been in a hole ever since. I don’t sleep till 4/5 am . I’m not ok, I am going to take that step and arrange some therapy and support. Maybe trying to handle these things alone isn’t a good idea.

[@mulfie4749]

The best thing about mental health especially for me is i try to hide the fact that i am struggling and act normal.. but deep down all my family, friends, work colleagues know i have had issue's and conatantly mock me for the privilege even after i had help from professionals, its a constant loop daily!! 6 years encounting!

[@jeannespratley]

i told my mom i wanted therapy from something i was scared of. she said “no, you’re fine.” some things that young kids say parents overlook because they think they’re just being funny or lying. i really need to talk abt that to my mother

[@Zemiaza]

Maybe it’s time to talk to a school guidance counselor, they can help you sort out your feelings and maybe even tell your parents that you NEED some help.

[@Bpfleet324]

The looking distressed while doing laundry really got me. That was me a couple days ago. Just regular everyday things like doing dishes, laundry, garbage, seemed so overwhelming and I felt there was no way I could possibly get it all done, even though I do them all the time. I'm in the middle of a very uncertain period in my life. Things are mostly good but I'm having to make a lot of decisions about where to work, where to live, what I should do with my life, etc. It's nice to know the overwhelm is a real symptom and not just me going insane. Thank you Dr. Julie- I did your course on Calm and it was so incredibly helpful. Happy mental health trails to everyone 😊

[@FirstNameLastName-wt5to]

A symptom of what though?

[@ice12984]

I went to a psychologist nervous and a bit skeptical but they were rlly nice and now I am very excited for my next appointment

[@Nuggets810]

Thanks dr you have made me realise how much help I truly need

[@chaoticghostwashere]

My mental health isn't draining, it is already drained.

[@MsLolaTaylor]

🥲

[@anik0701]

I get u

[@essperrion]

I relate to most of these things, but my brain tells me "you're fine, other people have it much worse, you're just pretending in order to get attention."

[@keyisme1356]

Your inner critic usually comes from the voice of a parent, from childhood.

[@ldarrow]

Feeling the same way these days. I keep telling myself that I don’t actually feel these ways and I just want something to be “wrong” with me when I’m actually fine. Been suppressing emotions for awhile and my brain is still trying to fight the fact that I might need help.

[@SteveRussell-yp3mv]

I'm highly empathetic and I'm learning that the energies within my environment can have an effect on my mood. They say misery loves company. I wonder if anyone has done a study on the spiritual/emotional effects of negative energy from other people's vibes? 🤔 I'm sure I'm not the only one to consider this but I am not a medical professional, just a compassionate, caring person.

[@asoimsong7127]

Bang on..thankfully am doing so much better...

[@ot_serinea8914]

My Mom says that both my sister and I need therapy, and I agree. However, both of my parents have had bad experiences with therapists. So, they have a hard time trusting them. This is why we have yet to have therapy.

[@Gaeshiete]

My friend had a horrible experience with a school therapist/counsellor (idk what it's called), they fear talking to someone about their trauma and so I'm basically the only one who knows ABT it. The worst part is the fact that due to my own negative experiences, I don't have the ability to comfort people anymore. Infact, I've developed different personalities for each scenario. Both me and my friend are doomed with social life-

[@Savannah-qb4bb]

@@Gaeshiete Wait are you referring to DID disorder?

[@lorrainerae9289]

Join a support group if you can't afford therapy. Be around positive people with positive solutions. Not everyday will be the same, it gets better then we slide back. It's part of life and others can't help us if they're selfish. Be kind to yourself first. Xoxo

[@crazy_Jester.-.]

i'm not allowed to join support groups my town is filled with assholes who do not give a single damn about mental health

[@kassidyparmley109]

The way that this used to be me just a year ago, 4months ago, always reoccurring, and I just bear-knuckle fight my way out of it every time.

[@andreasmaugg7717]

Thanks for this short. I can confirm exactly what you described and this on different levels. In case of a deeper kind of depression one must engage professional help to avoid falling deeper into the hole. If there "only" is lack of energy due to a known temporary and foredeeable overload, may be excercises like the different kinds of Yoga and Meditation can help. But al of this needs time and patience with oneself. All of the ones being affected: take care of yourself and don't be ashamed to call for (profesdional) help In occupational health mental disorders make about 20% of alls medical disorders (value in Germany, but in other countries values are similar). You are not alone. You are not particularly weak, lazy or stupid.

[@ARIESTIIIC]

its so hard to get therapy nowadays. it took me ages to admit to needing to get help and even longer to actually ask. ive been waiting for a call back but haven't heard anything and its been months now. i hope i get a call back soon :(

[@kittycatface6536]

To those that relate to any of these things I know how hard it can be I've been there I actually just came home from a mental hospital 1 month ago because I pushed these to the abyss where I thought they belonged for 15 years. I know where you all are I've been there and I hope you all take care of yourself and don't let anyone else bring you down. Have an amazing day/night everyone!!

[@adria5322]

But how do I do that without help, i just want to look at myself and not hate myself, and see what everyone else sees but I cant and idk what to do anymore

[@Cactusflower2000]

All of these are me. I am 60 years old and suffering from the fallout of childhood trauma and that it caused serious illness in my later years. Not sure if I'm going to see tomorrow due to illness and being all alone too.

[@neerajsadiq8378]

Read Quran in your language

[@rachelsuegoodman]

Yeah ive been ignoring it for years and it gets really bad. So take care of it as soon as possible.

[@natthesilly]

I feel like these signs were very relevant for me earlier on, but at this point I feel like I’m so deep into whatever this is that I don’t know how to get out

[@mommae295]

Right , now we need video to let us know since things that can't be done !!!

[@Communist512]

I relate to all of this but our moms think we are fine! They want us to know that we shouldn’t put pressure on ourselves. But I am going to an psychologist/therapist.

[@azuiqiiii]

Started going to the guidance officer recently, really proud of myself!!

[@KikiDRose]

Yep. All of them feel accurate for me. 😢 Everything is overwhelming and isolating is killing me.....

[@habeebahamza-st9ot]

exactly 💔

[@wildcitygirl44]

I’m glad that I’m finally seeing a therapist about my mental health. I got a bachelors in public health it changed my world where i learned so much that helped me heal and be strong. I want to work in mental health field where I do research and provide tools for others. Also, I’m learning how to take care of myself, not letting mental health take over me anymore, and not being ashamed or sorry for being me. I’m learning that I matter. To anyone out there struggling, I get it it’s hard everyday to get the motivation to do something or finding things aren’t as fun as it used to be, feeling down all the time and eating too much or too little and lack of sleep remember you are always loved, supported and you matter. Have a great day or night peeps!

[@NoxAtlas]

The nightmares were the worst. There were times where I couldn't sleep for days and when I finally could get some rest, I'd always have the same nightmares of an invisible monster chasing me through liminal spaces and then killing me. I had the same nightmares for months and it stayed with me even after waking up. I became so paranoid and restless that I thought that I was actually losing my sanity.

[@amyburnside6229]

Yes I’m like this at the moment. I have to do little and often else I just feel overwhelmed

[@AmyJean-cr3nw]

remember all these symptoms could be linked to gut health (which is directly correlated to mood) or even mold exposure/allergies/etc there are so many things and if antidepressants arent working its worth looking into

[@FirstNameLastName-wt5to]

Antidepressants never work. They mask symptoms. They don’t treat them. And it’s not gut health. It’s that we live in a really messed up world. These are normal reactions to that world.

[@Ba_na_na_nan]

“She’s good at everything nothings wrong with her,” said most people. That one person “Are you okay you seem tired and you always overwork yourself?” Me: starts to cry. Having all of the things she said is fun

[@TheArtisticLizard]

I wouldn't say I relate to all of these but I do know I need some help calming down, I'm more stressed about my health, over thinking every single symptom, and having physical issues with my health, being more emotional than usual, trouble sleeping, been dealing with a huge loss, but my mother just can't afford any form of therapist so I just don't know what to do, it's like every time I finally accept reality and live my life I get greeted with more problems.

[@ebossnz6838]

Been like this a few years now. So deep its hard to change patterns. Then my failures of not changing make its worse. So annoying

[@Starjouzz]

As a person who has complete illusions when I close my eyes, leading to I cannot sleep early...I dont know what to do about it anymore. But thank you ma'am!

[@artyomborsch3729]

I like watching these shorts because it feels like a personal attack and the conflict is the closest thing I get to human interaction these days ... thanks agoraphobia, panic attacks, anxiety

[@kimstoliker2111]

Hi Doctor. This hits really close to home for me. Earlier this year my wife was hospitalized with clinical depression and paranoia. She had much of these you speak of. Doug Stoliker.

[@salliexx7631]

I have anxiety about going out with family and want to avoid going but get forced to go every time and still have an anxious and a bad day 😢😢😢

[@n1k0659]

This was quite an eye opener for me, since I've been hindered by these symptoms and more for half a decade..

[@Khhaos]

I definitely have no right in saying this because it's hypocrisy, but please... please get professional help. Because you deserve to be happy and feel free.

[@blossommroblox]

I’ve just started going to therapy and it truly helps. I love my therapist and I always have so thing to talk about and she always helps. Your videos help me too. I am just so happy that there are people in the world who understand and that can help. ❤️

[@loopperson8836]

Omg yes!!!! The live version is the best! You're the best haha

[@mazasan]

That’s me through all my life, but still working on it. Now I’m doing meditation and it’s helping me incredibly well.

[@tammylee6141]

I’m so thankful I found your channel. I can’t afford therapy at the moment and you have helped so much. Thank you.

[@jackieweaver3884]

You're doing a great job, Dr Julie. Never stop!

[@vcrafts8191]

I just wish I found your channel when I needed it most

[@-_Avuuvuu_-]

Man i feel this , I cant sleep alone otherwise i get nightmare , i no longer find pleasure in doing my favourite things , etc

[@kirkchristopher8826]

This is the story of my life! I know that I need to go back to a therapist but I procrastinate. My insomnia is really bad.

[@karenthemightyunicorn4119]

My problem is that I've been going through this as far back as I can remember (47 now) and I've just given up trying to hide it anymore. I feel like I've failed at everything and my youngest daughter (16) and grandkids (6 yrs & 4 months) suffer the most because of it.

[@mania.piesek.anonim7943]

Lately i was like super tored of everything, my colligs from new school, tests and all the school stuff and i felt lonely but when i talked with my dad and described him how i felt he understood and told me a few good things, I’m lucky to have parents like that

[@daydreamingaboutbooks]

I feel like everyone should check in with a therapist every once in a while because sometimes we don’t see it but we’re overwhelmed or stuck in a rut or just need someone who’s not involved in your life to take a look at everything. It just helps your mental health so much to talk to someone like this.