A Survival Guide for Sensitive People

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thanks for watching! 🤗 Would you say that, on average, you’re more sensitive than most others, less sensitive, or the same? 👇👇 Let me know 😊

[@Robert-qm1ld]

More than most, less than many HSP’s but I had to work at changing that, creating a semi-permeable bubble.😕

[@annafoster6526]

I’m not sensitive but I don’t like having to defend my opinion when others insist I must agree with them.

[@anueerola9242]

Much more. I use many of techniques you talked about in this video, too. I have also learned to block out other’s energies. I’m such an oasis, and all these other energies, thoughts and moods started really exhaust me, especially negative ones. So I had to learn to shut them out. It wasn’t and isn’t easy. Still struggling sometimes!

[@faeriesmak]

@@anueerola9242 I need to work on doing that as well. Do you have any tips?

[@StamperWendy]

More sensitive! My 6 siblings are all very aggressive, abusive and cold. If I do meet someone who is sensitive, I tend to befriend that person. Thankfully, I like crowds! =)

[@suziqginger]

I am EXTREMELY highly sensitive. If someone snaps at me, says something the wrong way, looks at me wrong, I WILL tear up and shut down, and it can ruin my whole day. I avoid confrontation at all costs and even feel anxious if I feel I overshared something I wanted to keep to myself. It’s tough.

[@شذىهيثم-ط8ط]

That's exactly me

[@najmussaherOT7]

can you tell me the solution. I feel like I really need some solution. plz someone help me but don't tell me to open up to family, they made me uncomfortable to share just anything and friends there's no one ready to listen and also if there's anyone I'm just not able to share a single word, idk how to do this

[@oleksandrap1567]

@@najmussaherOT7 you can try talking to chat gpt first, to train your ability to share smth. Once you're confident, you can use anonymous chats with real ppl, and then maybe friends (if you want to)

[@Yasyyyyyyyyyy]

Omg… Literally me.

[@Yasyyyyyyyyyy]

@@najmussaherOT7Sou assim. O que eu fiz foi aprender comigo mesma e me aceitar a cada dia, mês, e ano que passa. Ir atrás de coisas que me fazem bem me deixaram mais familiarizada comigo mesma… e acabo buscando ajuda em minha própria companhia. Não é fácil, mas um dia conseguimos. Logo, aprendemos que depender de nós mesmos e desfrutar da beleza da vida que pessoas sensíveis como nós vê, é um remédio.

[@jennierollins8789]

I am highly sensitive and I have lots of empathy. People can be draining. I am not comfortable around loud noises and prefer to be in nature . Thank you Vera! ☮️

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thank you for sharing Jennie, I can relate 🤗🌿🍃

[@stevethomas74]

Ditto! I'm an INFP so I think y'all would relate to me and vice versa :)

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@stevethomas74 Do a few public speaking courses. Join group activities even if you feel uneasy. Dont compare yourself with others. Practice assertiveness. Never say"YES" when you want to say "NO'. Develop your mental muscles. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@shyaaammeneen63]

Jennie, Do a few public speaking courses. Join group activities even if you feel uneasy. Dont compare yourself with others. Practice assertiveness. Never say"YES" when you want to say "NO'. Develop your mental muscles. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@stevethomas74]

@@shyaaammeneen63 I try to do a few of those things (especially the group activities as I love walking so I'm in a few Meetup walking groups). Thanks for your input :)

[@VincentNoot]

Sensitivity is good for many things: Creativity, music, art, intelligence, analytical skills, empathy, caring, listening skills, lie detection, atmosphere creation, calming things down, choosing your words carefully, bonding, friendship... the list goes on.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

YES!! 💖

[@shipwrecker37]

I was venting about being sensitive with a friend, and they said something very wise, "Because you're sensitive you'll be able to bridge gaps that have never been crossed and see things that are invisible to others."

[@soph8164]

@@shipwrecker37 I agree however sometimes those bridge gaps can be challenging for those of us highly sensitive

[@shipwrecker37]

@@soph8164 It's like you're referencing the same research I was thinking about. I think the finding was that sensitive people are better at bridging the gaps, but they're susceptible to burn out when doing so. They may even report that they're bad at it despite being much better than the average.

[@machinedreamtv]

@@shipwrecker37 🌸🌸

[@intigniadickey2224]

I am 68 years old, and this is the first time I have heard positive things about being highly sensitive. All my life it has been, "You're too sensitive. Buck up" etc. Thank you for the tips. I feel certain they are going to help me. Big smile.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! I'm so happy you enjoyed the video and found the tips helpful 🤗🌷 Actually, I have an entire playlist about being highly sensitive, with lots of positivity 😊 The videos are quite old but I still like them myself and I think they could be helpful as well. So if you're interested, feel free to check it out: kzbin.info/aero/PLpDAC25h6PC8v5bhadp2pKQrK_0e4sd55

[@chickennuggets1990]

happy birthday

[@benniestanton2576]

Thanks for bringing this out in the open for others who have no idea that this is just one way that people are different. Some humans just cannot fathom what it is like to be different.

[@jl3646]

I get told to thicken up. Or" you too sensitive. "

[@mikemetague7973]

@@SimpleHappyZen Re. @intigniadickey2224: Thank you so much; this is so much me! I'm even older (75), and most of my life has been making excuses for my 'me' time, and excuses for being overwhelmed, and needing my sleep regularity, etc. ...Very helpful!

[@garykuovideos]

We musicians are profoundly grateful for sensitive people. Without your ears and hearts, what we do would be far less meaningful. Thank you!

[@guzaltalipova3846]

I am a musician 😊 And I am a sensitive person 😂 Most of the time, musicians are the most sensitive people in the world, I know a lot of such people!

[@Hernameis...]

Such a nice insight!!! And true 🙏🏾

[@chugelen]

Music is my safe place... I have been able to do live music pretty well, I feel the connection to the crowd energetically. It is getting a little more difficult , I am picking and choosing more carefully.

[@small_dropin_the_big_ocean995]

I am indeed sensitive, empath, an introvert and also an INFJ. How did I manage to stay alive (I do have anxiety issues) is nothing less than a wonder in my eyes.

[@aria-5867]

I’m also what you’ve described.currently not okay but i hope we find a cure some day

[@WithoutFear804]

Never change because people call you sensitive as an insult. Never be ashamed of caring.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

I agree! :)

[@Fern_Thaddeus]

Boom, yup!

[@mangot589]

I don’t know. My best girlfriend had real sympathy for me when she said aw, you’re just too sensitive. She wasn’t like me, , she was caring, but she felt bad for me.

[@NarutoUzumakiofficial]

Ik this comment is two years old. but i need to thank you for this

[@LovinDebsFit50s]

I’m 58 years old and I hear “you are too sensitive” I recently respond “God made me this way.” Loud noises gets under my skin and I can’t even think. I love being in nature. The news, sad, violent movies effects me for days and sometimes weeks. Subbed. Thank you for sharing.

[@Fern_Thaddeus]

Same! ❤

[@cherylc.7905]

Everything you said I can relate to. I have seen something on the news and went to bed and woke up the next day with tears in my eyes. I’ve read other stories and went to my son crying about a story I just read about an animal. I love nature as well. It’s so calming. I have recently been thinking something is wrong with me. Sometimes I cry so easy and I hate that. But Vera is such a help to explain all this. It really helps. Good luck to you. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@juniettareidhead8310]

I still remember how upset I was when I saw my first violent movie many years ago….Pork Chop Hill…at age 12. I always wondered why it upset me so much. Through the years I have learned to avoid all such things. Can’t do it!

[@passacookie]

I’m an empath with an anxiety disorder. I’ve been trying to learn how to keep myself grounded for years. My son is 6 and he’s exhibiting the same “overly" sensitive and anxious traits I did growing up. I’m hard on him sometimes because i don’t want him to be an anxious mess like me, but this video really helps change my perspective - that being sensitive isn’t a personal flaw. I think I need to sit down with him and talk about real coping mechanisms instead of getting upset when he’s being my mirror.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thank you for sharing your experiences! I think what you said about talking and discussing coping mechanisms sounds great. Also, Elaine Aron also has a book called The highly sensitive child. I haven't read it myself, but it might be helpful for you. Take care!

[@zeta0951]

I suggest that you fix your relationship with him first then you start teaching him about what can help him , you can't be punishing someone for something you do it yourself especially that he's a child of yours because children tend to to learn more from their parents and the environment they grow up in . Being anxious is already a load itself being hard on him WILL just ADD to his anxiety which is something you must know it yourself . also being hard on someone no matter what problem they might have is not a solution unless they decide it for their selves and that's a fact you cant deny if you're wondering why I'm speaking , I'm already suffering from anxiety and and a high sensitivity person with a condition called hyperhidrosis , my mother is a nervous person who can get mad on anything .i think that's enough for me to talk about this . and I really hope you fix what's between the two of you.

[@jennifermanzano2400]

Dear Passa Cookie…you are not alone! I am also a highly sensitive anxious mom raising a little boy who is my carbon copy! I am hard on him too sometimes. I know exactly how feel about not wanting him to be an anxious mess. I have taught him about being highly sensitive and how it’s not a flaw. I also try to balance out times when I may be too hard or critical with being extra kind and snuggly with him. He is a big time snuggler and getting lots of hugs or laying down next to him at bedtime seems to cancel out the times I’ve been too tough. And apologizing when you’ve hurt his feelings is a good thing too!

[@NinjaOutfitInTheWash]

I mean I'm sorry but how the fuck can you be an empath and be hard on your son for showing signs of anxiety? I mean wouldn't a supposed empath understand that treating a child with anxiety harshly because of their anxious traits isn't a very empathetic or helpful way to go about it? How did it ever help you for example?

[@passacookie]

​@@NinjaOutfitInTheWash Your comment is why I don't usually comment on videos. I'm an overwhelmed parent with two kids on the spectrum doing my best and recognizing that I can do better / actively working on doing better. Instead of acknowledging that or sounding concerned or offering advice, you jump down my throat for a situation you don't know anything about except for my overly simplified description. By "being hard on him" I mean constant nagging (not screaming or hurting my child). When he's exhibiting anxious tendencies, they don't always come across as "being anxious," so it's hard to identify. Lift people up instead of putting them down.

[@lutriula]

I'm a tough person, thus it's hard for me to understand my sensitive friends. Their reactions are often unintuitive for me. I came here to learn and understand the topic better. ^^'

[@dudj438]

Just the fact that you are taking the time to understand your sensitive friends better tells me you are a better friend than any of the people I have surrounded myself with in the past 7 years. Thank you for being a good person, I hope I meet someone like you one day.

[@madeleine1138]

Glad you did that for your friends. Wish my family would.

[@liltunturi1251]

Wow, growing up as a sensitive man in slavic country was very confusing, I would always think that there is something unacceptable about me when around people. Something that I need to change for good. Then I realized, that I just need to take different approach to life than most people.

[@ninak1976]

I know, man. Living in slavic country is brutal, unless you are macho,macho man, or a conventionally beautifull woman

[@SacredCrone]

My husband would often tell me to get out of my comfort zone. Usually it meant doing things that overwhelmed me. I asked one day why it was always me that had to do this, and not him. Now I know where to set boundaries

[@AliWade1971]

I am definitely Highly Sensitive. I have the complications of Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Psoriasis and Menopause too! In the past few months I have started to really prioritise rest, sleep, alone time and setting boundaries.

[@miriamkatze]

I believe you can recover from the chronic conditions (other than menopause) - look into the books and programs of Alan Gordon, Howard Schubiner, Jenn Man/Somia International. I recovered from 8 years of chronic pain and there thousands of people who have recovered from chronic fatigue using their approaches. You can heal

[@AliWade1971]

@@miriamkatze Thank you. I started in the ANS Rewire program in January, and recovered around 70%. I have now joined the Gupta Program community (I wanted to focus on meditation more) and working towards 100% recovery. I no longer identify as living with Fibromyalgia and ME/CFS.

[@creilly3728]

I’m happy to see more being said these days about highly sensitive people because I am one. All my life I’ve been led to believe it’s a character flaw and that there is something wrong with me. When people told me I was too sensitive, I was hurt and angry at the same time. I wondered what was wrong with me because I couldn’t be as outgoing and relaxed as others around me. I wish it had been better understood and accepted years ago so I wouldn’t have felt so awkward and out of step. I was surprised when you mentioned exercise and how it affected you because that’s the way it affects me but no one seems to understand, they say it’s laziness. Thank you for sharing these techniques for coping. ❤️

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts Carolyn, it's things like what you mentioned that make me think it's so important to talk about this more. :) Take care and have a lovely day!

[@Leto85]

To me your comment makes a whole lot of sense. I am not highly sensitive at all, but it's only obvious that excersizing can drain you mentally; there is a lot of movement going on in the gym plus there is music, and people talking. One might drop a dumbell or whatever which only adds to the overall sound overdose. I do workout regularily, and all these things I've described above don't bother me at all, but it's only logical that it does this to you, and that is no laziness at all. It can only be said as laziness by people who want to tease you, who only see the negative, or who simply don't understand you, which often happens if these people are way different than you are. If you ask me, there's nothing wrong with being sensitive or highly sensitive. But because it is an extreme trait (hence the word 'highly') it is only obvious that these things affects you equally extreme. No wonder you're hurt by what these people say to you. On the other hand I can only imagine the benefits of being highly sensitive: I bet you can love much deeper and feel those positive emotions way more than people who are not as sensitive as you are. And that is something I hope you treasure in yourself. :) And even people who are not highly sensitive - such as myself - can still understand you by at least taking you serious. I hope this message helps you somehow.

[@MdeMaja]

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[@creilly3728]

@@Leto85 Thank you so much for your comment. It does help.

[@hyggegirlstefx988]

@@Leto85 What a kind, empathetic comment! Even though your comment wasn't directed toward me, I appreciate your kindness. There are such lovely people in the world such as yourself!💚

[@user-nm6dr4uy3d]

I've learned to hide how I feel. Growing up, I was always treated as a drama queen for being so sensitive. Nowadays, however bad I feel, I look calm and composed on the outside. I don't even care to show how I feel anymore. Why talk in a world where no-one listens? I can't wait to have kids of my own. I will shower them with all the love and kindness that I can give. At least someone will benefit from my sensitivity.

[@juniettareidhead8310]

Good for you…..When my sons were born I finally had someone to love who would take me as I am and not make me feel put down all the time. I did everything I could to raise them the opposite of what I went through as a child. Both of my sons have done very well in their adult lives. What a blessing they have been to me.

[@ronda176]

I have struggled with low self esteem most of my life, and I believe much of it stemmed from feeling out of place and different. I’ve been told to toughen up since I was a kid. Only recently have I begun to understand who I am and more importantly be ok with it. Thank you so much for videos like this! They are little confidence boosters.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

🤗💕🌷

[@ChristysChannelYall]

Yep, this is me. Can’t stand people, social situations, noise, having to rush, too many tasks to do, even clutter or extra stuff lying around. I am a nurse and had to switch to working nights with one patient in home care to get away from all the chaos. I was constantly anxious and having difficulty remembering things. We are all different. Some thrive on fast paced activities and constant busyness and some of us just can’t handle all that.

[@wt4451]

I'm a hsp as well, and what drives me crazy is loud noises, fast and intense talkers, fast paced lifestyle that is surrounding me in a City, modern mainstream garbage music, traffic, strong smells, bad news, violent movies, when people rush me, and the list goes on... What helps me though, is trying to live a simple and minimal life, sleeping at least 8 hours a night, going on walks regularly in nature to recharge, where "few" people go. Trying to eat more healthy, even though that can be super challenging since the bad stuff is comforting and tastes yummy, lol... I try to be organized, prepared and tidy, but i'm still working on that and have a long way to go... I take earplugs with me everywhere I go, so if it gets too noisy I put them in, especially when I'm shopping. Even though I try to go shopping during less busy times, like evenings when most people start getting ready for bed, lol... I even put ear plugs in sometimes when my loud and intense speaking neighbours babble or when my family get together... They make joking remarks and give me the look, like I'm not ok upstairs, lol... I find oldies, classic, soft jazz & spa music soothing... Being around positive, soft spoken and down-to- earth people is a plus for me when I am around people... But the majority of people don't understand me, and I find it difficult to make deep friendships, because I just don't click with most people, and Vice Versa. I can tell that according to them there's something wrong with me, but at least now I'm learning to accept myself as I am. And a few deep friendships that I can count on one hand is more than enough for me anyway...We hsp do have many positives too, so it's not all bad! 😊🌿

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Absolutely love what you shared, thanks for sharing your experiences!! :) Have a lovely day

[@wt4451]

@@SimpleHappyZen Thank you so much Vera!😊💚

[@vendula4791]

Hello, can I ask for my research, are you vegan?

[@barbaracarr17]

I agree that arriving early and traveling the less hectic route are so helpful. I have always known this works better for me. I hate being rushed. I love meeting with one or two people but not a large, noisy group. I've always felt I build strong friendships because I am fully present with the people close to me. Your video is validating that there are pluses to having these characteristics. Thank you!

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts Barbara! I'm happy to hear you enjoyed the video :) Take care!

[@marypiano3346]

It feels like you're reading my mind... It's like wow I'm actually not the only person that takes water, a chapstick and noise cancelling headphones whenever going out. Thank you so much!

[@merlejune]

Noise cancelling headphones are a real lifesaver 💌

[@Lena-by1xp]

My boyfriend is always telling me I need to be more tough and that the world is not as shiny and beautiful as I think… I have to say I believed him and I started watching loud movies with war scenes in it. I’ve been getting more tough but I’m also feeling more and more depressive because of all the stimulie around me I have to handle.

[@mph1ish]

Maybe reconsider this relationship. Watching "loud movies with war scenes" will never make you a better person, but it will only upset and desensitize you. Why would a good boyfriend want to do that to you?

[@itzjusme]

If everyone is tough and made for war, who will be there to clean up after the war?

[@JacobStein1960]

I’m 62. When I was 22 I would say that I was very sensitive. Now it’s more like “Just bug off. I really don’t care if you don’t like me.”

[@unionunicorn6776]

As someone who has had my own mother in law tell me I’m “too sensitive,” I really needed to hear this. Thank you.

[@brindha52]

Boundaries are often underestimated, but I've come to realise that they're a real boon to up your confidence and self respect in situations that make you uncomfortable.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Yes! :)

[@ms.schnapp7415]

Thank you for encouraging us to be ourselves and to not feel guilty for who we are

[@SimpleHappyZen]

You're so welcome and there's absolutely no need for guilt or shame! 🤗🍵🌾 We have very unique gifts to bring to the world. Enjoy your day!!

[@rishabramaswamy5761]

Thank you for the tips! As a sensitive guy, I certainly feel things deeper. It can be exhausting but on the other side, being sensitive means that I am not afraid to be vulnerable and can make long lasting friendships :)

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Love that, thanks for sharing Rishab!

[@PriyankaYadav-lt5ml]

I too feel I am hyper sensitive..I feel things deeply

[@jeraldbaxter3532]

One of the things that i have learned, over many decades, is that people who too readily accuse others of being "too sensitive" are very often bullies. Their pronouncements are their cowardly attempt to deflect responsibility for their cruelty.

[@poetjames]

Good advice. I’m an introvert. Being in loud social situations with lots of talking wears me out.I have to decompress afterwards. Thanks for the helpful tips!

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and I can relate to needing to decompress afterwards :)

[@lalisa488]

Yes, decompress! That's the word I'm trying to say but couldn't find it. Thank you for sharing. 😂 If I attend a party or an intense discussion or meeting, it would take even days to decompress 😢

[@nadiarambles]

Such wonderful tips, I especially love the second about acceptance. It reminds me of a time I was recovering from heartbreak, and telling a friend that "I am so sensitive and take a while to process... I need to get better/faster at processing." My friend told me that no, I processed perfectly and uniquely how I should. That conversation stuck with me, and has helped me better appreciate and care for my sensitive lil self haha. *Much love to all my fellow sensitive souls* 💜😊

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Loved reading your story, thanks so much for sharing it Nadia! :)

[@bthoma35]

I am an engineer and I love using car analogies to describe things in life. Son just like we value the sensitive sensors in a car, as they are important for the machine overall, so we must value highly sensitive people, we are an important part of the world

[@quackquack-fy3jm]

I'm glad I'm not alone who is very sensitive person...I hate when my family tell me how much sensitive I am... Whenever I get angry I always try distance myself from other so I won't cry in front of them... Sometimes I even tried to hold my tears and at the end..i did crying in front of them... So thank you doing this video zen...

[@rhobot75]

Hello! I'm the gal who tackled her 30 years-basement of life by removing 1 grocery bag of stuff a week. I'm way more sensitive than most people, on the inside too. I get motion sick, car and boat sick, I can't look down and then up sometimes without serious dizziness; I can get hives; I have senstivity to light, and also get migraines; smells can get to me, solutions and hand santizers and surface wipes makes me feel like the Marianne Moore character in the movie SAFE (like I have Environmental Illness). Yah, so all this and loving the tips. Release our fear and pack that tote bag!

[@candyhr4152]

Highly sensitive. But we make good mom's. I avoid too many people. I've been heart hurt by random strangers many times. I try to help my kids be emotionally stronger than I am.

[@tuanoini]

The survival kit really resonated with me! ❤️ It's been a journey for me to accept that I need to have a snack at hand whenever I go out. I simply cannot function if my blood sugar is low, and it can drop quite suddenly. The same goes for accepting that I'm a slow eater. I need to chew my food well. I still have some shame around it, but it has gotten better. It's just that the world is not built for people like me, and there are days when every little inconvenience reminds me of that. I continue to assure myself that I'm not the problem and there are people who love me as I am 🙏 It's so weird that I have carried this shame my whole life, needing food and being slow is literally just HUMAN.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and I agree about accepting yourself as you are, and doing the things that you need to feel good :) There's absolutely no problem there. Take care my friend!

[@madelynsmith8281]

I found out I was an empath by accident on social media. Scrolling through Facebook. I was in my early 60's. I am 65 now. It was definitely an eye opener. The answer to a lot of questions. We are very special people and it can take a toll on me everyday. Thanks for the tips. I really appreciate it. This was a great video. Welcome to the family of sensitives.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

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[@jmfs3497]

This is the first time I've heard positive comments about being sensitive. "Antisocial, does not participate, thinks too much, no fun, etc". Funnily, it usually comes from people who don't like my honesty, my boundaries, my autonomy, or my positive relationships that exclude the person giving the negative feedback. I have unknowingly adopted all the techniques in this video EXCEPT the idea that it is perfectly fine to be sensitive. My favorite experiences are with people who are sensitive enough to be intensely creative. I want to pivot my attention away from the brute force complainers, and towards the folks that recharge my life by appreciating my sensitive approach to creating value.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! :) I want to spread the word about the positive sides to being sensitive, so there's more coming :)

[@judithrussell9162]

Thanks so much Vera. I am an INFP and HSP and am in the middle of some horrible discussions with a company I’m dealing with, so very depleted. It is good to be reminded of our community of separate people 🙂

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Hi Judith, thank you for sharing your thoughts. I'm sorry to hear you're going through a tough time with your work, I can imagine it must be a lot to deal with. Take care and take lots of self care breaks!

[@williamshaw8106]

INFP/HSP here..

[@emilypumpkinseller]

For years I have done the planning ahead strategy and people shamed me for it, since, essentially, ''the need for it is a flaw I need to fix.'' Similarly, I'm incredibly sensitive to violence/pain/sadness so I avoid media with it, and people tell me it's not healthy to avoid, and that I need to work on getting over it. But you reiterating that all of this is okay is really helpful. Thank you for this video

[@SimpleHappyZen]

You're very welcome Emily, I'm sorry people have told you these things. If you haven't already and you're able to get it somewhere (or borrow it), I recommend reading The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron, if you want to understand high sensitivity better and feel more empowered :) I thought it was absolutely wonderful.

[@vathsalavt8050]

Same, i like to plan things ahead even the route as I don't want to panic or get flustered at last minute

[@bethreis8982]

Excellent video....very helpful! I'm 62 years old, highly sensitive and just watching this has me crying! How many times I heard over the years that I am "overly" sensitive. I even yelled at my mom as an adult....why are you always trying to change me? I also get ....you are so defensive....now I know why! It's exhausting!

[@sscs99]

Thank you so much for bringing more attention to highly sensitive people. I just discovered that book a year ago and found it life changing. I'm much more able to accept myself now. About time, huh? I'm 65! lol

[@SimpleHappyZen]

It's never too late 😄🌷🌱 So happy you also enjoyed that book! It definitely was life changing for me as well 😊

[@Mary-pg1rf]

I'm sooo sensitive that I have to be careful about which KZbinrs I watch, because I can't tolerate people who talk too loud, too fast and too much 😆 Also videos full of colours, lights and 50 different angles stress me out. That's why your channel is my safe place because I feel really comfortable and even I recharge my energy 🤗

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Aw that's wonderful, thank you! I try not to do those things you mentioned, I also don't like videos that are all over the place. :)

[@tinalemna7998]

Vera, this was such a good video. I identified with all your points. It’s good to know what we can tolerate and what upsets us. Crowds, scary films, animal cruelty, not enough alone time all drain me. Thanks for another great video!

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Yay, glad to hear you enjoyed it Tina! 😄🌺✨

[@Eowyn3Pride]

Animal recovery/rescue stories are sad at first then so uplifting! 🥰🐶🐱

[@clairbear1234]

I will say as a life long sensitive person, when I was horribly burnt out at my hospital job as a nurse, I could not tolerate intense exercise, it would trigger migraines and nausea and ruin a whole day, I tried to “push through” and I came to realize it never worked, no amount of will power could overcome the intense physically ill feeling it would induce. Now that I have been a year out from switching to a lower stress job I have incorporated more intensity and weight training which can help with stamina and guard us from fatigue. My personal experience is that it depends a lot on my current life circumstances how I will tolerate exercise.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Yes great point Clair, it does depend on how you're feeling with everything else as well. Sometimes my body can handle more than other times :)

[@nmariekuu]

What do you do now? Are you still in the nursing field? I am an aspiring nurse but often worry that I will quickly be overwhelmed as I am also very sensitive.

[@shyaaammeneen63]

@@nmariekuu Do a few public speaking courses. Join group activities even if you feel uneasy. Dont compare yourself with others. Practice assertiveness. Never say"YES" when you want to say "NO'. Develop your mental muscles. Reduce negative thoughts with a simple practice. Your breath and mind [brain] are closely related causing stress-anxiety. For a better life sit on a chair, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. Change happens from within by itself. Day or night, when taking a walk, sitting in a park, when reading, before sleep etc sit or lie down and observe your breath. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

[@Claudiaf93]

Are your migraines gone?

[@Leto85]

And to add to this guide: the best thing we less sensitive people can do to help is to take those who are sensitive simply serious.

[@TC-rv6sz]

Thank you for the loving care and kindness in this video. It's very easy to forget how unproductive pretending to be non-sensitive can be in a world where grind/hustle culture is worshipped. This video was filled with sweet and affirming reminders that my life/time/effort isn't worthless just because I need more rest and accommodations in between bursts of activity/productivity.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Absolutely love what you said, thank you Tia! :)

[@d18zephyr]

I have grown to avoid and sometimes detest people who speak down on me for being sensitive. It goes beyond lack of understanding. They can be hurtful, which only makes me more sensitive.

[@renee7567]

Wow! This really spoke to me. It all makes sense now. Been sensitive person since I've been little and now into my sixties. Every bit of that rang true for me. Now I know what I can do to help with my energy.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

So happy you could relate to the points in the video :) Definitely lots of things we can do to feel better! :)

[@jessie9653]

I've been the same way since I was little. I'm now 40 I always wished I could be like other people. I feel like I'm on an island all alone

[@jessrinker9549]

Thank you 💕 I’ve been down on myself lately for carrying so much in my bag, thinking I’m too materialistic. Now I realize all the items I pack help me to feel comfortable and stay in a positive head space when I’m out of the house.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

You're very welcome Jess, it's absolutely not a problem if you bring the things with you that help you feel your best :)

[@shawnaford5540]

Thanks, I did not find out until someone recommended “The Highly Sensitive Person”. It was such a relief to know I was not defective and planning ahead does really help.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Exactly! :) Happy to hear you also enjoyed that book :)

[@tracygolwitzer9978]

Omg!!! You have hit the nail on the head. Today....52 years old...have the understanding of myself. I've been a mess for years,; feeling guilty or out-of-place for years... Just bought the book for my Kindle. Looking forward to reading it. Ty

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thanks so much for sharing Tracy, I'm so happy my video gave you some understanding and clarity. I hope you'll enjoy the book as much as I did, but I'm pretty sure you will :) Take care and have a nice day!

[@Jelsaya]

I often remind myself "We can't even agree on how to prepare our breakfast or tie our shoes... So why would there be the one perfect lifestyle for everybody?" It helped me to accept who I am instead pf comparing myself to others I am sensitive, I get overstimulated easily... So what? Who said, that this is not normal? Maybe we are the normal ones and the others are the weird ones? This video gave me confirmation and more help to just... be me Work with who I am and not who I seemingly have to be

[@BallisticTomato]

I stumbled upon this video and related to it, hard. I'm a guy, and in my family I was known as the sensitive one. My parents just didn't understand why I was so scared of the dark or why I would have breakdowns. It continued to affect my relationships, platonic and romantic. As I've gotten older and matured, I've managed to do what you said; made things more comfortable for myself. Thank you so much for this video. And a shoutout to all the sensitive men out there who don't quite feel like they belong!

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Loved your story, thanks so much for sharing it! :) Have a nice day

[@danielganciar7193]

It's just like born for the second time when you finally understand why you think so differently and deeply from most people!😊

[@Nightchriss873]

Thank you for your videos. I am 31 years old man and I still do have really hard time in accepting myself as I am. My natural introversion, singledom and sensitivity. Your videos are really helpful for me and I always do learn a lot from them. Keep them coming :D. Thanks and have nice day.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts! I can imagine being a highly sensitive man can have its own challenges. Actually, the male/female ratio in HSPs is 50/50, so you're definitely not the only one :) Take care!

[@timinou6764]

When you talked about lighter exercise feels better than the high caloric burning kind, it really hit me as to why things never worked out long term unless I did my easy does it types ( especially nature exercise and even regular home chores, yoga, 20 min exercise bike and all outdoor fun activities) I wish , like many I'm sure, knew this all my life ! I always thought it was my willpower. Thank you as always, for making these videos. You are helping so many and I hope that it helps you with your own self-care knowing we all understand 🦋🌺

[@alanahjade27]

Thankfully for me I'm only fifteen and discovered this year that I'm a HSP.. I used to have awful anxiety but I am so much better now! There's still much to work through but now I actually understand myself! EDIT: I literally feel so DRAINED after school each day that all I want to do is sleep and it takes a couple hours to feel myself again

[@Izz740]

Try to do a bubble or energy meditation before. Scents help me too if you could keep an essential oil roller in your bag.

[@PraveenSrJ01]

I’m 39 and same thing here

[@Enigmaticharm]

I dedicate an hour a day just to wrap myself up in a blanket in the dark and listen to comforting songs (or just use sound blocking headphones ). It helps me cope

[@asosisos659]

I swear, something small just happened and I got very upset, then I got angry at myself for getting upset, I made a big deal out of it and started crying asking why am I like this? Two minutes later, I came across this video.

[@tohrurikku]

A few years ago I would have been nodding my head agreeing with everything. Now though, I know that a lot of those symptoms that I exhibit that are similar to the ones you listed happens because I am autistic. That diagnosis changed my outlook of all the things that made me look weird to others and now makes me look normal and explainable.

[@eugetesta5847]

Yes, but i 've heard autistic people would show less empathy, though some trades are similar

[@magicpillowmp]

@@eugetesta5847 higher empathy is just as likely a trait for autistic people to have

[@janejana333]

I am not fully HS but what is interesting for me, I started to be much more sensitive and introvert in my 34. Crowded events, sleeping over out of my home, small talks..started to be so much draining! I definitely need and enjoy time alone...

[@chane11ee7]

It sounds small but another thing to avoid for us sensitive souls is comment sections. (Ironic saying this in a yt comment section) but I find that going into the common sections of tiktoks or reels and posts on instagram can be extremely toxic and full of hate, people argue over anything on there so reading all of that can be extremely emotionally draining.

[@MKTutorials4u]

Thank you for letting this know. I never realised why I always feel uncomfortable among people?

[@SimpleHappyZen]

You're very welcome, definitely a topic you could study up about if you wanted to :) Lots of info out there!

[@daphne2549]

Infj here, we tend to take small things very seriously, but won’t tell you. Instead we keep to ourself 😞

[@rozl6178]

I’m 65 years old and have struggled with the judgement of others for my sensitivity and also for the strategies required to cope well. It’s a trap because when those strategies aren’t in play, my ability to function optimally is hampered and the negative cycle of judgment and reaction is perpetuated. Your information is invaluable and I thank you for it.

[@pameehanson3866]

When I figured out that I am a sensitive person it helped me to get over the anxiety and I lived with for long time. What you shared is spot on for sensitive people and helps other to have an awareness. Journaling and drawing doodles in my journals helps me to let go of the things that bother me. Thanks for sharing

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thank you so much Pamee, loved your comment! :) Take care!

[@maviszer]

i did not find this video, this video found me. by coincidence, i'm also an infj. i've always thought that i am *too* sensitive, so coming across this video is really comforting.

[@mikioni]

Since I reduced my contacts with people to only basic things, my life has taken an upward trajectory.

[@rehabilitacionencasa]

I found many of the things you said I've been doing them all along, many not even aware it was because of this. I would also add to your video that "recharging" doesn't mean watching Netflix, which I agree with 100%, because recharging for us means doing something that allows us to stop receiving inputs from outside. For example painting, writing, meditating, having a bath with slow music or none, anything creative from DIY to building furniture, etc. where the inputs come from within and so our self can either rest or express itself without pressure.

[@NoraZiehr-ei3gn]

I always thought there was something wrong with me because I was highly sensitive and empathetic. I have gotten a lot of unwanted advice and criticism, told to toughen up, to not be so sensitive,etc. It is only now, at 64 years old, after seeing this video, that I realized for the first time, that my sensitivity is not something I need to change or fix. I thank you so much for this understanding, supportive and helpful video. This is exactly what I have needed for a very long time. Although I may be seen as weak by others, I have incredible inner strength. In short, your video inspires me to be myself and accept myself as I am.

[@mandyrichmond3989]

At 58, I'm finally not ashamed or embarrassed to be called "sensitive". I embrace my HSP traits today. Thank you for the reminder and for all your content. Much love 💘

[@jessie9653]

I'm going to try to do the same, age 40 🙋

[@SimpleHappyZen]

🤗💖

[@Cecibug1]

As a sensitive person Iv also found myself as a people pleaser, so much to the point I will inconvenience myself to help someone through a hard time regardless of it making myself happy. I just feel a duty to help. My mom has been helpful with this as she is the same. She's told me how I need to pull back a bit and make sure I'm taking care of myself before I help others, so I don't drain myself in the process. You can compare it to putting your own oxygen mask on when the plain is going down, before you help your neighbor with theirs. I also struggle with crowds.because of this shopping gives me anxiety 😝 and I love alone time, I'm a big one body ❤️

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thanks for sharing your experiences Cecily! I think it's great you want to help others, and that you found out that you sometimes cross your own boundaries when doing so. Recognizing is the first step :) It's really nice that your mom is helping you out with this as well. :) Take care!

[@sorenkierkegaard3344]

Your presence and smile are so soothing and comforting. Watching your videos and hearing you speak is therapeutic in its own right. Thank you for being who you are.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Aw thank you so much 🤗✨🍵

[@anasantiago8201]

I enjoyed your video very much. I am a very sensitive person and this video was very helpful.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thank you Ana, happy to hear you enjoyed the video! 🤗🍂🍁 Take care and have a great day

[@nemranaseem9536]

I love the point you made about exercise. It seems like such a common trend to work out for hours and to do the things that will burn the most calories. When in reality, I have also tried to do these super intense workouts just to feel burnt out afterward. I am also more likely to stay CONSISTENT with a gentle yet effective workout.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Exactly! :) Much better to be consistent with gentle yet effective workouts, than to go all out every once in a while and then needing a week to recover from it :)

[@MyName-kq7hg]

Thank you for sharing this! As a highly sensitive person who is experiencing burnout, this is incredibly helpful. I've always known I was sensitive, but this gave me some grace to move forward with the plan I have made for myself to get back to health and recreate who I want to be with my health as top priority.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Hi my friend, so happy you enjoyed the video! Take care and I hope you'll feel better and recover from your burnout with time. Sending healing vibes your way

[@AnaPaula-dd3in]

Please 🙏 share your plan 🥰

[@MyName-kq7hg]

@@AnaPaula-dd3in I started focusing on me first. I've been a serial people pleaser and have put my needs last so I started working on putting my needs first. I also looked into my diet and lifestyle habits and took note of the self destructive habits (started reading Atomic Habits by James Clear) and began taking small steps to eliminate the bad habits and replace them with good habits. I experimented with my diet and figured out I am gluten intolerant so I went gf and set a goal of 30 days. It was a bit of stop and go but I'm finally at 35 days which my next goal is to hit 60 days and assess how I feel (so far I feel much better, very little anxiety, lost 8 lbs, less inflammation) I started meditating 10 mins every morning, began exercising 20 mins a day, and began creating and stating my boundaries with those around me. None of this happened overnight and each person is different but I'd say start small and allow for mistakes (give yourself compassion and love while you're beginning your path to health) and give yourself praise everday for being brave enough to begin the journey. You may be amazed by the changes you see when you start with one small habit change and how it snowballs into more changes. I also started sticking to a routine (up at 6:15am, dinner at 6pm, bed by 9pm) this helped reset my circadian rhythm. I'm a planner/organizer so having a set schedule really helped my peace of mind. I also started preemptive striking for when stressful or busy times begin (I'm a college student) so I made a master grocery list, restocked my cupboards with gf friendly components to make meal prep a breeze. Now I can just run through my master meal list (20 simple dinners, lunch staples, breakfast staples, and healthy snack options) and have rotating meals ready in no time and without over thinking. All these positive changes came from me asking myself this one simple question for about a year. I asked myself how much better will my life be if I just take care of myself. Best of luck - you've got this!

[@AnaPaula-dd3in]

@@MyName-kq7hg wonderful and very helpful. Very much appreciated. Thank you 🙏

[@MyName-kq7hg]

@@AnaPaula-dd3in you're welcome! I hope you find peace within yourself and find what works for you. Take care!

[@zoe_mayaa]

this is such a good help for me because i have hypersensitivity and sometimes it can be hard to deal with it because you have a lot of emotions and stress and prefer to not have loud noises around me and be drained by people

[@bobbysmith8095]

Wow I just saw this video randomly and it is life changing. Thank you so much for this video. All my life, I always wonder what wrong with me. I tend to overthink everything, I have an over active conscience, and I am always so easily depress and stress from everyday thing. I was always trying to fix myself. Didn;t realize I was just HSP and it ok to take thing personally. All the thing you mention really touch me. I think I realize I was HSP when I was 11 but I never knew. I was crying when my teacher yell at me cuz I didn;t get the step. I was like why am I such a cry baby? Always crying at everything. I am so weak, I need to be stronger etc and over the years I try not to cry so much, be stronger etc. Nice to know now at 30 I am a normal person. I need to stop fixing myself. Take time for myself. Make myself comfortable.

[@lesliemcfarlane783]

I'm very sensitive and at a very challenging time in my life someone close to me said I was weak. Once again my self esteem was hit. Turns out I was very strong and just a sensitive person. I didn't have the understanding of this to explain myself. Sometimes if you are considered to have a weakness people take advantage of this in not a very nice way. I'm much older now and have learned how to set boundaries and understand there are gifts that come with being sensitive.

[@poeticposturing3850]

Thank you for validating these activities as necessary for those of us who are sensitive. It was helpful.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Glad to hear it, take care and have a lovely day! :)

[@anngray398]

So nice to hear from someone who feels like me - I hate when I stand up for myself and the person says oh you are too sensitive😩

[@lynby2108]

You just perfectly described me, thank you so much for these extremely helpful tips.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

You're very welcome Lynby, comments like yours make me happy I made this video :)

[@NicolleMelanson.Powell]

Definitely more sensitive than others. All the things you mention - sound, light, textures, wind, traffic, crowds, but also internal sensations of of pain, digestion, blood sugar levels. Sensitive to events in the news, the moods and concerns of those around me, the comfort or discomfort of those I am with including animals. When I read Elaine Aron's book it was a huge lightbulb moment for me too. But I am still working hard to accept myself and not try to hide or disguise my real feelings. It is a long journey. Your videos help me feel more courageous, honest and self-accepting. Thank you!

[@kiki_163]

I am also a hsp! I used to see it as a negative trait, but I decided to accept the fact I am sensitive and learn how to live with sensitivity. I know it could be hard especially when you have to face a lot of stressful situations. But here’s some tips for you all! 1. Make a simple to-do list. (This helps me not to freak out even when I have a ton of things to do. But I recommend you to keep it less than 5 tasks per day.) 2. Try yoga! (I personally think people at yoga class are super nice and gentle😌✨) 3. Forest bathing. (If you’re living in a city like me, you could probably go to a park or even zoo!) 4. Live in a routine. 5. Take supplements. Some nutrition helps us to maintain our mental health. If you are having trouble with sleep, take melatonin. If you feel stressed, probably you can try gaba or vitamin D/B!! I understand how hard it is to live with sensitivity nowadays, but it got much easier when I accepted and sifted how I think about it. Now I believe god gave me the sensitivity to let me actually feel emotions and appreciate what I have. A lot of people don’t even see the beauty in this world, but we do! Just appreciate what we have got and live with it 😌💖 you’re not alone!! Sensitivity is a special gift 💝

[@KAZTube5]

Feels wonderful to be understanding. You made me smile at life today. Even i already know all taht you said it reminds me that i'm not alone ... Thanks

[@kimberlyd7091]

It felt like a lightbulb moment for me as well to find out that I am an HSP and that there is nothing wrong with me. This video is so relatable. Thank you for talking about this and for the great tips. ♥️

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thank you Kimberly, comments like yours make me happy I made this video :) Take care!!

[@ArefEsi]

I don't leave comments on videos often; but this video helped me so much. I've been feeling down quite a bit in the last few weeks and now I see the problem with my routine. Thank you so much for these tips. Hope you feel amazing every moment of everyday.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thank you so much for leaving this comment. Hope you feel better, take care!

[@suryacoapy5129]

This is a great presentation. I have learnt all these things about myself over the years. However this information wasn't available when I was younger. I really wish it had been, and I'm glad it is now for people learning about them selves. I'm also sensitive to noise and I realised this is true for acoustics in public places. Cafés with hard flat surfaces, especially the floor (no carpet), are acoustically 'live' with lots of echo. This means the voice of the person you are talking to is overpowered by reflected noise from all directions. This makes people speak louder to be heard and that makes the problem worse. So finding spaces with soft furnishings and carpets really makes me feel more relaxed while conversing.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Ah I totally get that :) It can be very tiring to be in an environment like that.

[@MissBeeMarie]

I absolutely LOVE the Fall colors (my favorite season). Your videos are well thought out. Some people do not know how much work and time it takes to create content. I understand, because my son is a KZbinr. Thank you so much for these beautiful images and insightful information. 😊

[@SimpleHappyZen]

Thank you so much, that's so nice to hear! 🤗🌾 Yes it does take a lot of work haha. Happy you enjoyed the autumn scenery!

[@anaaraujo7907]

Than you so much for this video. Only today I've heard the "you have to though it up" 4 times. Glad to know I'm not the only one

[@SimpleHappyZen]

You're definitely not the only one Ana, and there's no need for you to toughen up! :) Take care

[@clairedebbs9972]

Also doing seemingly dull things as a serious hobby, like doing the same jigsaws over and over again calms me down, helps me relax and brightens my mood. It is a sort of way if making sense on a very low scale of all the scattered bits of information floating around in my head.

[@hxhdfjifzirstc894]

When my personality developed in grade school, I had to block my intuition because I was overly sensitive. It has been a lifelong problem, with untold cost. I sincerely thank God that a very special person recently began teaching me to hear, to speak, and to dance.

[@khunpingpong]

I was once hyper sensitive. Now i know that some people not gonna change or heal. thank you.

[@deborahroper3694]

Thank you so much Vera. I have been told several times that I’m too sensitive. I was also told that I need to be more “hard nosed “.

[@SimpleHappyZen]

You're very welcome Deborah, and if you ever want to read more about it, I recommend The highly sensitive person by Elaine Aron. It's a very comforting and reassuring read, and of course informative :)

[@julia4393]

Thank you very much for the video. I understood recently that I can not change my highly sensitivity does not matter how hard I try. Your video let me know one more time that I am not alone.

[@alexandraalmeida3661]

Absolutely great tips. I always go shopping early in the morning when very few people are there, I avoid loud and crowded places and I always go to sleep and wake up at the same hours. Sometimes this is seen as weird, but I learnt how not to pay attention to other people’s opinion, although sometimes I still feel like I am a bit strange 😕😊❤️❤️

[@janellerowe609]

“It takes a strong person… to tend to their needs”❤❤❤

[@lindatempleton8258]

Hi I was amazed at how many of your suggestions I already do, but unconsciously. Thank you because you make me feel so much more reasonable and rational.

[@rj-reads]

I never thought about why I prefer to arrive early for things until you articulated it in this video. Makes so much sense, and I feel the same way in terms of centering myself and getting used to my surroundings.

[@marleneedmunds4588]

I've spent much of my 74 years putting together knowledge that helped me deal with the world as a sensitive. This runs in my famly matrilineally but not exclusively. Your video speaks to many of the issues I've dealt with over the years so thank. I would say I'm more sensitive than others. People gravitate toward me who are sensitives so that has helped;

[@maja-kehn9130]

I can´t go out without headphones. The being 30 min. early helps me a lot too. Thank you for sharing your experiences.