I have seen no downfall, I have seen a wonderful person go through a few tough years. I have watched you for years Renee and will watch ifvyou post a littlecor a lot. Hold onto this great man. You are grieving. Please allow yourself grace. It is not the best time to make any huge life decisions in the middke of grief
@iamsuperlious2 ай бұрын
It’s so difficult to watch you spiral and than try to pick yourself back up and continually apologize for not being yourself. It’s like watching a friend struggle through depression and you can’t do anything about it. I do hope you find a way through this. I think focusing on health is the best thing you can possibly do for yourself and mental health.
@danibostonburbs2 ай бұрын
Perhaps inpatient therapy? A retail/any mother hours job instead of content creating at this difficult segway of her life❣️
@Melissa-fz9tk2 ай бұрын
I agree, It really is difficult to see her going through this difficult time. Definitely agree that focusing on health and counseling is the right direction. Just hope she doesn't run away again by moving or by pulling away from Z...or from God. She tries to control her diet and exercise because that's the only thing she feels like she can control. At some point we all have to face the feelings of loss and grief instead of running or distracting ourselves from the work that needs to be done. Praying for her through this... wish we could do something to help.
@patriciaharding74682 ай бұрын
So agree with what you just said. Life can get messy sometimes and try as we might to fight our way out of the chaos of our emotions, hormones, stress and/or grief, I think we need to be able to accept where we are when we're in the midst of that and cut ourselves some slack. I think cutting herself some slack is really hard for Renee. Life isn't perfect and we are not perfect. I hope Renee's need to be that perfect girl/woman/influencer can ease up a bit right now. She doesn't need to apologize to us. I think we have the grace to know what she is going through and are glad she is taking care of herself physically and going to therapy with Zander. 2 years ago she had noone to think about except herself and then BOOM! Life for her has changed so dramatically both amazingly good and awfully sad since having Zander in her life, but it's all been enough to knock her for a loop! It's just been an awful lot of life changing events & drama in a short amount of time. I'm hoping they can get through this tough time together. Z seems like such a great guy and a good stabilizing force. . .hoping the best for them both!
@aldiva282 ай бұрын
I have never watched a video that had so many words but didn’t really tell me anything. I have watched you for a while and if you don’t want to share then don’t but then don’t get on here and be all vague. Don’t make a phoned in video…just my opinion. I will go away now. Thanks.
@Julez1282 ай бұрын
Yeah the vibe was that someone cheated or is in an open relationship, so just say that then or don’t say anything at all, it was just uncomfortable
@jacquie573022 күн бұрын
Agree !!
@jacquie573022 күн бұрын
Agree!
@christie42202 ай бұрын
Also, go to hormone specialist (not a regular doctor) and get your hormones checked. I was struggling to much with depression and anxiety after I had my son 4 years ago. I just got tested recently and my critical hormones were completely out of whack and that was one of the huge reasons I felt depressed and anxious and all over the place with no motivation, nothing I did otherwise helped. I started bio identical hormones and I’m feeling so much better. Having children can really cause hormones to stay unbalanced. Unfortunately it’s not talked about as it should be in this time, and women go their whole life thinking how they feel is how they are supposed to feel. I highly recommend just a blood test to see where u are(and maybe u have already, but I just wanted to let u know my story)
@HelloMoto_2 ай бұрын
With all due respect… why make a video and include Z who was giving great advice and spoke so fluently and clearly on the matter, and then say well I don’t want to talk about it? I don’t believe what he was saying shed any light in whatever you two are going through.. it just sounded mature and good.
@LALAE62 ай бұрын
You all don’t have to have transparency with anyone but each other. You both suffered a loss and deserve the time and space to heal. Shame on anyone commenting where you “should” be. Life has its ups and down, all this can make you both stronger as a couple and individually. Praying for you guys. ❤️🙏🏼
@kathywest10232 ай бұрын
Renee and Z it is so important to not only go to counseling together but separately. My husband and I lost our two month old son years ago. It’s important to know that men and woman grieve differently. You can not work together without working separately as well. As a woman going through the grief along with hormone changes and the fact as woman we feel like our child was supposed to be safe with us are usually different than the feelings that men have because they are so statical and protectors both need to be heard separately to go through that part of it. Because couples don’t always rationally see the other side which art both valid the drift apart. As a couple getting the guidance you need will allow you to make logical decisions when you are healthy enough to do so. Sending prayers and love surrounding you both. ❤
@user-gy6qo7pc5y2 ай бұрын
Zander seems like a good man Renee. As long as he is the same way behind the scenes as he is on camera you should fight to save the relationship. Good men are rare and the dating pool is horrible. You should be coming together and leaning into each other not pulling apart. Make God the center of your relationship and work it out no matter what, that’s what marriage is. Living separately part of the time is not ever going to work. I think if you stick it out and make God the center of your relationship things will improve. You have to be committed. Happiness comes and goes and is a fleeting emotion, you can’t base staying together on that, you just have to be committed. Contentment and meaning will come with that. Stand on commitment, not on feelings. Praying for you both, with God nothing is impossible
@Wordygirl19742 ай бұрын
Amen.
@Tay-sd8ql2 ай бұрын
Block out a lot of the negativity around you if you can. That really can come in and affect an already challenging situation. I can tell that you may prefer not to let others know much about your “business” ahah, but surrounding yourself around other healthy couples who can mentor you and talk you through this can be way more healing than strictly pursing therapy. Help comes in different forms and sometimes relatability is what helps you the most. Sometimes doing the things by that you don’t want to do is the best thing for you. Lean on others and please try not to shut down. I agree Zander seems like a good man who is willing to put in the work and be patient with you from what I am sensing. It has a lot to do with the way you see conflict, and the way you choose to handle it. Avoiding, deflecting and shutting down will not get you any of the results you’re trying to reach. Be open and patient with both you and Z at this time. Yall can get through this.
@floridanativelh5682 ай бұрын
This is such wise and sound advice. Nothing and no one is perfect. It’s a relationship with ups and downs. Remember the big picture. Bryson will thrive with a cohesive family. ❤❤❤
@amandastewart3732 ай бұрын
I agree! Great men are hard to come by. I just lost the love of my life a month ago and he was an absolutely amazing, beautiful man 🙏❤️
@justme-xy3yy2 ай бұрын
I don’t know what exactly is going on in your relationship and it’s none of anyone else’s business. Getting help and therapy is great guy’s! BUT don’t forget to spend time with each other and just have fun together as a couple! Do things that you enjoy together so that you can both forget about the other things for a while just that can make a big difference! Just some advice from someone that’s been married for 20 years almost!❤
@brookeblair29172 ай бұрын
It’s really refreshing to see such transparency. Thank you for being so vulnerable and honest. Life is hard and it does no one good to pretend like everything is fine. I’m really rooting for you guys! The fact that you’re willing to put in the work is amazing ❤
@maireadwarner99862 ай бұрын
I really admire the transparency in this video Renee, but also please don't feel pressure to share things with us if you don't want to! From the outside it's clear you've had such a difficult time and been going through so much - when things feel low it's easy for everything to feel that way. In the context of your whole life I hope this is a small chapter and a tough bump in the road that leads you back onto the positive and happy path you deserve. Sending lots of love x
@sandrar45892 ай бұрын
I also wanted to add, that during grief and during the first 3 years of having a kid, relationships struggle. It is just not the same it was before no matter how much you try to make it look like before. Accept it and don't make any rush decisions during this difficult time! But don't ever think what others may think about your life or your decisions. At the end of the day, you have to be happy, and those who are happy with you are standing by you no matter what! Sending much love to your way 😘
@catherinen85472 ай бұрын
I had two big events this year, aside from getting pregnant for the first time after two years of trying to conceive. I had a miscarriage at the end of March and I was laid off at the beginning of May. My husband moved on after our pregnancy lost. I am still in it. It is incredibly lonely. No one is in charge of my happiness but me. I try to look at all the wonderful things I have and plan for things to look forward to.
@savanniek2 ай бұрын
I can sense the resentment inside Rene towards Z… deff been there. And hun please don’t compare. Social media is toxic and notorious for sharing the highlight moments of EVERYTHING. No one ever shows this side. It can be rough You both grieve differently. You communicate differently. You don’t have to agree to understand and support each other. You just have to listen and not dismiss or disregard. These seasons “snags” happen in marriages and relationships.
@mowgleeeee2 ай бұрын
what the two of you sat down and did was truly vulnerable and extremely brave. thanks for the realness, its really refreshing. sending you love, strength and healing ❤ results come when excuses leave.
@amberrsilva23502 ай бұрын
I LOVE YOU GUYS SO MUCH FOR THIS. Thank you. Social media doesn't show this until it's toxic and and ending. And you guys are a BEAUTIFUL example for all long term couples. I appreciate Zander in being participating in being open and vulnerable with us as Renee's youtube family. Thank you Thank you Thank you
@mowgleeeee2 ай бұрын
PLEASE talk more about your experience with the hypnosis! super curious how it went and what your downloads were
@KristenRivera2 ай бұрын
Couples counseling is seriously incredible! Every couple goes through hard times and loss can put a lot of pressure on everything. Continue to lean on each other ❤
@1HeathersJourney18 күн бұрын
Sending prayers for clarity and peace. Truth is things went fast and intense with y’all met; pregnant not too long later , car accident; bab6 in nicu, move twice. Give yourself space to heal, space for honesty within yourself you don’t have to have it all figured out. You keep mentioning wanting to feel at home. That’ll come from within when you align more. Take tine to heal and listen.
@denal40112 ай бұрын
the fact that the two of you came on here together to talk about the "rough" times speaks volumes. There is CLEARLY love between the two of you. You both are mature adults who aren't afraid to admit when things aren't perfect. All of these things are 1/2 the battle. I'm not gonna pretend to know how this all ends up, but if you ask me, you two have way more chance of relationship success than plenty of other "perfect relationships" I've seen. Keep God at the center - He will help you through everything. Read the poem "Footprints". Hugs to both of you!
@jamierenae38332 ай бұрын
You should feel so proud of yourself because you’ve been through so much & I’m sure there is much more that you haven’t been able to share but you are so strong! Truly, impressively strong & brave for sharing as much as you do❤
@DLG242 ай бұрын
Deep down inside you know what's the best for you.
@lr2ldn15 күн бұрын
He acts like he doesn't like her at all.
@ciiiwaaa2 ай бұрын
Girlie, you’re one of my favourites! I love all your content, and really feel for you. Put up whatever you feel like, whenever. And I think you’ll for sure come out great at the end. If it’s not good yet, it’s not the end - as cheesy as it sounds I totally believe it 🫶🏻🤍
@Francesca-yd1xw2 ай бұрын
a sponsored video about your relationship struggles is wild
@KourttneyLАй бұрын
She has to get the sponsored videos out somehow 😮
@jacquie573022 күн бұрын
Agree!
@kellyjohnston29772 ай бұрын
I really admire the transparency & honesty in this video. Renee and Z it is so important to not only go to counseling together but separately as well. Every couple goes through hard times & loss can put a lot of pressure on everything but leaning into one another as well as friends & family can make so much difference. From what I observe Z seems like a wonderful partner, Dad and person. For him to come on to the video and discuss something so personal with your followers I have to give him kudo's for. You dont owe your followers anything, we will be here. Make sure you take care of yourselves, Bryson & each other. Love to you both! 💜
@reyanne12237 күн бұрын
Girl, run.
@michelle755042 ай бұрын
Kind of thinking this video might be her way of prepping us for another moving vlog...
@Z.782 күн бұрын
How spot on! Lol
@michelle755042 күн бұрын
@@Z.78 her pattern is kind of predictable at this point. Lol
@SoccerDuaАй бұрын
It sounds like he wants out. He's pushing her to discuss it on camera because then he can leave her sooner- I feel like she's holding him hostage by not talking about it publicly, and he's just waiting for her to announce their rift. He's a little Patrick Bateman cold.
@libbysworld764919 күн бұрын
I think she moved back to Florida. Wonder why? Sad, I really thought she loved NC. It's a beautiful place to raise her son.. And I think her mom even moved there?
@ShaynaFerullo-ty2yc2 ай бұрын
I have a similarish timeline with my partner to you and Zander. We found out we were pregnant after 4 months of dating and he is 12 months old now. The amount of growth we have seen from each other is profound. We have hard times as well and gone through losses together. We are doing counseling now too to try to be preventative but there are hard days in every relationship. We both have past trauma as well so we are trying to address that so it doesn't affect relationship/parenting. Having so many life changes at once can make you grow and evolve, and we have to keep getting to know ourselves and our partners as this happens. You have changed people's lives for the better by showing your vulnerability, it is a gift to be able to do that!
@CatSpade3652 ай бұрын
The fact that you both are willing to go to therapy and ask for help from your support system is a GREAT sign ❤️. You two are significant others, parents, friends, and teammates. You don’t owe anyone any explanation other than each other and it sounds like you both are putting in the work!! Sending you some good vibes ❤
@christie42202 ай бұрын
Hi Renee, idk if u will see this, but I wanted to say you and z are not alone. I have been through the worst of my relationship(a 9 year relationship) this past year. We both couldn’t be on the same page in any conversation, we felt like we lost everything in our relationship, we both couldn’t understand what was going on and why we couldn’t work through the issues. It took ALOT of time APART and each of us focusing on ourselves to bring us back together emotionally. We also have a 4 year old, so I understand how it can feel as a parent going through that. A piece of advice I wish I could have wrapped my brain around in the beginning of our issues, was to do me, love me(truly) and I as finally started to understand that and do it, the love I gave myself actually extended outwards and then back to me from him(like law of attraction). I didn’t know how to do that at all, but I dedicated my time to figure it out(I’m still not perfect about it). It’s been around a year since my foundation in our relationship crumbled, but I’ll say it’s strengthening everyday now. Don’t lose hope about your relationship if that’s what u truly want, u guys can get through this! As horrible as it feels now. I thought we were over at one point, and it killed me, but here we are together still and loving each other more. Sometimes these hard times actually are the catalyst to the better times. I know I have grown SOOOOO much since my world was rocked, things I never would have grown in, other wise. ❤
@chuelsbeck2 ай бұрын
Thanks for sharing. I feel bad you feel the need to apologize to us. Take care of yourselves and I’ll be praying you guys get through this difficult time ❤❤
@everydayfun182 ай бұрын
I think the foundation of the relationship change that Z kept referring to is probably Renee not wanting to have any more children. Renee you are still grieving and recovering from trauma, give yourself time to heal. We know you like to set goals and make changes and start working towards them but try to take it one day at a time. You have a great support system and I hope you are getting advice that helps you.
@kadiyahsjournal2 ай бұрын
Always rooting for you and your family, Renee. I admire your vulnerability and honesty about real life situations. Wishing you the best on your healing journey. Will be here to watch your videos. Blessings to you.
@user-po2my2rg2c2 ай бұрын
My husband and I have gone through 2 miscarriages before our daughter was born and we even had terrible complications that almost took my life when giving birth to her 7 months ago. Remember you are a team though loosing a baby is such a deep deep lose for the woman we feel it on another level your husband went through the loss too. When we lost our son at just 9 weeks in my belly I thought my husband wasn't as hurt by it that it wasn't as big of a loss to him because he wasn't carrying the baby. Come to find out my husband was beyond devastated but he stayed strong and didn't let me see him crying because he knew one of us had to be strong or we would never make it through and he decided to be strong so I could be weak and feel these deep, terrible, heart wrenching emotions, and he could be my rock. Loss can tear people apart. Don't let it roughen a beautiful relationship and take your best friend away. Because at the end of the day that's what your husband is a best friend Look up Laura Doyle, she has saved thousands of relationships, she has a podcast and a book called the empowered wife. I wish I had this book sooner in our marriage.
@TiaWeston2 ай бұрын
Proud of you for pushing through and finding out what works for you! Always rooting for you! 🙏🏼
@Maya-lb7vg2 ай бұрын
To see a couple trying to understand each other better,understand we change as time moves and allow it, hold space for the other’s needs and emotions and look into your own wants and faults, is incredible. I am so moved to see two people so willing to bravely navigate this openly, instead of closing up and giving up on closeness. You are brave Renee, your heart and values guide you, and I feel you allow yourself to find the place you want to be in through these hardships. You are going through this so gracefully.❤
@AckGirl2 ай бұрын
You are so lucky to have such a calm, measured and supportive partner - I really like Z!
@sarahsasani2 ай бұрын
This was nice to see you both together your lucky to have him Renee and he’s obviously as well but we don’t see a lot of him so this was special ❤
@ylvandamme2 ай бұрын
I’m coming in late here but Huberman is kind of a quack. I am just going to tel you straight that you will probably never get rid of the depression that has plagued you for years until you consider medication I wasted years of my life when my daughter was young trying ways to alleviate my depression that never worked until I broke down and tried meds. They literally changed my life, along with DBT therapy. Holistic things can help still but without the proper meds, it’s not really going to work I say this with love. I’ve been watching you since Qkids and I love your channel. It’s just frustrating to watch you struggle for so long and not try them
@esmeedenters1012 ай бұрын
Yeah he misinterprets half the studies he discusses and he knows his audience doesn’t know statistics enough to tell! Not to mention the news article out about all his lies to colleagues and women.
@Amber_23C2 ай бұрын
Agreed. If creatine, tumeric and vitamin D (which you can take too much of, by the way) worked as well as SSRIs everyone would be taking them. From experience, there is nothing that works as well as medication but I understand that taking it is a personal choice.
@atresearch4 күн бұрын
I have anxiety and depression but for me, anxiety is more dominant, and meds have been a lifesaver. I have gone off medication a few times because I thought I could do without, and I did for periods of time, but inevitably I have had to go back on it. It’s not like it should be the only thing to be relied upon, but it is an important part of the resources to getting back to living life fully.
@ririrodriguez33952 ай бұрын
Oh Renee💜 you’ve been through so much. We love you and I pray healing over your life, your marriage as Z put it and your family. I don’t think I’ve ever rooted for someone on the internet as I am rooting for you! You deserve the best and you deserve to heal. Take your time and keep being you. Your channel brings so much life to others, don’t underestimate that or yourself. Hugs💜
@brittneyclements61512 ай бұрын
Praying for your family Renee ❤️ I truly hope you guys can make it through this difficult time and come out stronger, but regardless of the outcome I pray that you find healing through all of this.
@teresawalker71332 ай бұрын
Navigating grief, loss and trauma isn’t easy and you’ve had more than your fair share over the past few years. Do whatever it is that you need to do for you and your family. Although it’s nice for those of us that follow you and genuinely care about your wellbeing to know how you’re doing, please know that you don’t owe anyone the transparency that you have been selflessly sharing. We will be here either way. As far as the hypnosis goes… I was just at my surgical oncologist office for my 6 month follow up for breast cancer, and I saw information posted on the wall in his office about hypnosis treatment for dealing with cancer trauma. I was already considering it, and after watching you video I’m feeling like maybe the universe is trying to point me in that direction. If you’re comfortable with making a video with more information about your experience, I’d love to learn more. Take care of yourself🥰
@paigedehaan2 ай бұрын
renee you absolutely do not have to talk about what you and Z are going through. You both deserve privacy and cant imagine how hard it must be after everything you both have gone through. Even though your job is online and you have an audience, i hope you know you dont need to explain everything you are currently struggling with if you are not ready to share. Protect your mental health as well as your family’s. The internet is a weird place where we sometimes feel entitled to someone else’s personal life. Its truly wild. Please protect your own peace. Your transparency and vulnerability is always so touching and meaningful but not at the expense of you and your family’s mental health. Praying for you and Z ❤
@WhiteTrashKatie2 ай бұрын
Hey Renee…. I’ve been watching you for a very long time and my unsolicited thoughts on this are as follows…. I have never thought you and Z were a good match. It very much looked like you created a family around an unexpected pregnancy and that you were just so excited to have a family and a “partner” and be in this kind of fairy tale land of home buying and family making….. But the reality is… you’re not married and Z never proposed. For a reason. You guys were going through all the motions that you weren’t even ready for. I do think Z seems to be a great guy, but he’s very analytical and you’re very emotional. I never thought this was going to end well because I’ve lived it not once but twice…. I want to see you happy Renee. You know if you feel passionately happy to be that man’s partner or not. And if the answer is no… then run, don’t walk out that door. There’s someone on this earth perfectly made for you and only you know if Z is that person. Sending so much love Renee!!!! Everything happens for a reason, even the terrible stuff you think you’ll never recover from. Growth is good, even as discomforting as it feels. But YOUVE GOT THIS! keep going. Keep fighting.
@mandyluna2 ай бұрын
Healing energy to you and your family✨️. Thank you for always being honest and real.
@trovandomimoon2202 ай бұрын
Love it hasn’t been long since the horrible incident happen. Take a break from KZbin please. When loss happens usually takes a whole year to feel somewhat centered again. Get a therapist, work on mental health without camera. Just focus on you and take a break. Wishing you the best love
@trovandomimoon2202 ай бұрын
Sorry I meant keep seeing your therapist and just focus on healing
@trovandomimoon2202 ай бұрын
You guys can get through this I believe in both of you. Much love ❤
@denisea54292 ай бұрын
Thank you for encouraging your community to seek help if they find themselves in a difficult situation. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable shows such strength, you both are stronger than you feel and guess what? You have an army fighting right along with you, you are not alone and the Lord will never leave you or forsake you. My heart and prayers go out to you all, I'm believing for a turn around. You will find peace, your love will grow stronger and complete healing is taking place. Just reading the comments is encouraging, look at all the prayers going up. The enemy will NOT win, this battle is over and done. Victory is already yours! 🙏🏽❤️🙌🏽🛐
@sarahbrandon71072 ай бұрын
Love you both. I lost my mom, my best friend right after finding out I was pregnant and everyone around me was amazed at how I handled it. It was tough don’t get me wrong. The worst thing I’ve ever gone through in my life. My pregnancy was the best time and worst time of my life and the only way I got through all of it was leaning on God. Not myself. So lean on Him. Cling to Him. Spend time in His amazing healing, comforting Word (together!) and you both will be better than ok. Love you both and sending prayers 🙏🏻😘
@Punksimmons2 ай бұрын
Z is so sweet and supportive and he obviously loves you dearly. We love you too!! Sending you so much love and support.
@Jdoll5202 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing the ups and the downs of life, Renee ❤ I’m praying for you and Z. You two WILL navigate this difficult “snag” in your relationship. Sending so much love to you both
@noraj59832 ай бұрын
I will pray for you two as well! You are a beautiful and blessed family! Don't forget that! ❤
@hannahpetracca73122 ай бұрын
You owe your followers nothing. Take care of you & your family, whatever that looks like. We will be here when you get back, if you want to come back. Sending you love!!
@TheGetawaygirl0072 ай бұрын
Yes wish you both the best. Life will really throw us a rollercoaster to get through all at once and very fast!! I surrounded my husband and I with couples from church and family who have been married 50+years. Seeking advice and wisdom along the years has really helped. Always a supporter of your channel and all the hard work and time you put behind it. Best to you both!!
@CynthiaVicario2 ай бұрын
Immediately felt Gods presence as you both closed the video and was prompted to pray for your relationship. GOD will get you through this and it speaks volumes that Z is willing to come on , open his heart and explain what you’ve been going through . It’s obvious he is hurting as well and loves you deeply. It can be so much harder for men who feel they are the watchman of their family , but please know this is a time to cling to each other and have faith God will minister to both your hearts and bring unity and passion for your relationship and your family . Keep talking to God and praying together. Good deserves good .🙏❤️🙌🏽
@VooDooSue2 ай бұрын
Hi Renee. ❤ Would love to hear of your experience with hypnosis. I lost my first husband after two weeks of marriage. My thinking at the time was "this isn't supposed to happen"...yet...there I was. I realized that life is lived in those small moments...like holding hands or sharing a tender moment. It's now 25 years later and I'm happily married 20 years and understand now how one path led me to right now. Sometimes our expectations of what life "should" be can make us unhappy with what just "is". I've learned to go with the daily flow and enjoy those quiet times. If you don't have them, create them together. Sending you and your family my prayers as you grieve your loss. Day by day is how we need to live for that is all we truly have.
@tonibarger4842 ай бұрын
Lots of love and prayers for all of you! You’re always on my mind ❤
@dontdieaacopy2 ай бұрын
Yes!!! Tell us about your past life regression and therapy session !!
@stephanielake112 ай бұрын
My heart goes out to Zander & you. I will chant/pray for your happiness as a couple/family/individually. A close friend of mine has done hypnotherapy too & she said it has helped her so much. I would love to hear your experience too, and of past lives…so interesting to me. I applaud you guys for getting therapy…I honesty think we all need therapy as life is hard. I truly hope it helps you heal & be happy again. What has helped me in the past has been therapy, journaling, focusing on my health/fitness, meditation…and most of all remembering to “have fun.” My mom passed away from cancer this past April…and having fun with my friends have kept me going. Perhaps Z & you can have 1 or 2 date nights per week just to have fun together…and then also carve out other days/time for more serious conversations over coffee at a cafe or something. I know it’s hard to do when you have a child, but I really think it’s necessary. Sometimes in life even when traumatic things happen we have to remember that it’s a gift to just be alive & breathing…do the things that make you happy…and happy as a couple & as a family. Anyhow I am sending so much love & positive energy your way. Things will get better, don’t worry be happy!💕💕💕
@sandrar45892 ай бұрын
I hope you go through your struggles together and come back stronger than ever. But just so you know - it is okay to break up. I know you are perfectionist and you want everything you envisioned, especially for your son. But sometimes it's best to go different ways and it is still a good life for your son, as long as you are both there for him! Fight for what you can fight, but know that it is okay to let go and you can still build your perfect life❤ supporting you forever!
@michelle755042 ай бұрын
That's part of the problem, she's a perfectionist. It's hard to live with someone who has such unrealistic expectations on everything. She could date a million people and it would still never be perfect.
@HeatherSaenz2 ай бұрын
Wow! The love that is shared in this comment thread for yourself and Z is beautifully. Such great advice and words of encouragement. When more than one come together and pray miracles happen. 💖 I too am praying for you both. Actually for your entire family. I can imagine it must be tough for all around. But without these moments of hardships we can not grow. Its so odd to me lol because I feel so invested and connected to you. Maybe because I have been watching you since almost day 1. But today when my phone notified me of your video and I saw your faces and the title I teared up. After watching your video I feel so much better. I just feel deep in my heart the two of you are partners. And if you can just remember it is not the two of you against each other. But the two of you bring team loving your differences and taking on the world. I would love so much to hear about your QHHT. I am actually getting certification in QHHT soon. Sending sooooo much love, peace, ease and comfort. And if you are ever feeling off balance just close your eyes take in a deep in hale picture a beautiful loving light coming in to ever cell of your body. Then as you exhale through your mouth make sure it longer than your inhale this will help to soothe your nervous system. Picture you exhaling all that no longer serves you. Then picture a beautiful warm loving light of God dripping down your forhead relax your brow. Your cheeks uncleanch your jaw and so on until you reach your toes. And finishing with telling yourself I love you. ❤️ 🫂
@joellevergeer2 ай бұрын
Renee, I admire you so much. Don’t feel the pressure to share things you’re not comfortable with. It’s amazing to see you be so transparent. I think your mental health is so much more important than this app 🤍 Sending so much love to you and your family 🤍
@johanna44562 ай бұрын
I wish you both the best. I hope you can work this out. It’s great that you guys are in therapy and are trying to solve this.
@thaisoliveira.s2 ай бұрын
casamento é saber dizer: "eu estou aqui, independente de qualquer coisa". se o casal nao consegue ficar juntos, em meio as coisas boas e, principalmente, as ruins, realmente, não dá certo.
@sarahsvrjcek19662 ай бұрын
I wanna hear all about your past life regression!!!
@vickyabrahams60412 ай бұрын
I do see it a lot I think people are so excited in the beginning thinking of fairytales and the perfect family life and then I don’t think it really lives up to the dream life people think it is and that’s when it doing abit downhill I see quite often ❤
@EventualKnits2 ай бұрын
Couples therapy can be SO SO helpful. I’m glad you’re working on your struggles together. ❤
@martynka8082 ай бұрын
You have been through a lot, first you Renee and they you both together. It is completely natural that now you are going through a difficult time trying to figure out how to cope and where to go from now. But nobody can judge and it is nobody's business how you deal with it. No one knows what goes on behind closed doors. All the love to you
@laurarobbins51552 ай бұрын
You have both been through so much, there is no need to explain anything. All relationships are very hard. Please keep your hurts and private issues safe! People will always find a way to use them against you if they can! Been with you since the very first day. Sending much love to you both xo.
@chantellevanderwalt77202 ай бұрын
Praying for you always ❤
@chrissyobermeyer11392 ай бұрын
You guys had a lot happened in the first few months of your relationship, and the outcome was a beautiful baby boy. Just from being a subscriber, I see so much love between you guys. And the fact that you shared your faith in God is even better. I know you guys aren’t married yet, but you have so much to fight for so that you can get to that point. Praying for you both. ❤
@Blessed12832 ай бұрын
Renee, for what it's worth I've liked every one of your videos. I like that you are honest and authentic and we all go through struggles and I can relate to you a lot since I've had my fair share of trauma in the past few years and your videos have helped me not to feel alone. Every day has been different like you said and just pure struggle some days. I wish you both the best, but just know you are not alone in the hardship these days. Sending good vibes! I know you will find the right path for yourself.
@dorienzieverink16002 ай бұрын
Deep respect to both of you for your transparency and vulnerability. Sadly, life is far from perfect, although we all want it to be. Thank you for your openness, sharing stories like this, makes me feel less alone during hard times. I know there's nothing I can do for you, but sending you a warm hug 🤍
@katiezehnder9832 ай бұрын
Praying for you! Much love!
@tinasjourney26422 ай бұрын
Just take your time deal with your family and your grief we will be here for you when you need us we are here don’t rush
@Serene_Calm2 ай бұрын
I was the one who talked about QHHT. I'm so happy you did it! I knew it would help. :) Please share your experience with the session, I can't wait to hear it! ❤ Much love from europe
@mariajo80Ай бұрын
Z looks like a great man and you are a good person too. I hope you overcome whatever you’re going through and stay together and grow stronger.
@melodybroome62032 ай бұрын
Life is hard. And beautiful. Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. I would love a video about regression therapy. I've had one myself and found it rather powerful. ❤
@jessicawren93782 ай бұрын
Grief is something that just knocks you down. Im currently in the depths of grief and i know it's forever changed me as a person. After 2 miscarriages i was pregnant with my double rainbow baby. She was born at 24 weeks and lived for 4 days before passing. It has been an absolute nightmare. It's been a month since my baby became my angel and i will never be the same. And its going to take a lot of work to move through my grief. The pain will never go away. I have been told that the pain and grief stays the same but your life grows around it.
@gayathriganesh69172 ай бұрын
I'm really sorry for your loss. May God give you strength to bear this. I am manifesting here today that you will have a family you always wished for. 🙏
@BlueButterfly372 ай бұрын
So very sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine your pain. Sending lots of love, hugs, and prayers ❤️
@asiaclayton85022 ай бұрын
I’m pretty interested in your hypnosis experience
@imahappycat2 ай бұрын
I really liked hearing what Zander had to say. Don’t get what the foundation is he spoke about. I know grief. We all react differently. I’ve been married 37 years, 2 miscarriages and put 3 pets down. Patience is needed. Love you both.
@estheradriana19922 ай бұрын
Obviously this is speculation, but from reading between the lines based on the videos renee has posted, renee has mentioned that's she not sure if she wants to try for another baby down the track, due to the trauma, while they originally had talked about having multiple. I feel like that is part of that foundation he is talking about and something they might not be aligning on now and trying to figure out. After a miscarriage there are people who want to try again straight away, and people who might not even consider trying again, and if those people are in a relationship together that can obviously cause conflict, and if you're still grieving as well, that just complicates things more because people grieve differently. I had 2 miscarriages last year, luckily my partner and I were on the same page, but I can imagine how difficult it would be if you weren't. Hopefully they can figure out whatever it is and both get their needs met, either together or separate.
@sheebie842 ай бұрын
@@estheradriana1992 This is exactly how I understood it, too. She's had traumatic experiences with both pregnancies, so I have been understanding this whole time period exactly as you are. Also, when Z said that people who are together don't have to do everything together, it sounded a lot like Renee said, 'We're not together, that's going into too much detail', or something very similar. They're both obviously really going through it. So sorry for your own losses. I've never experienced it so don't really know what to say to you to be honest. I hope in time that both you, Renee and everyone else suffering like this, are able to come to some semblance of peace with what's happened. Much love to you all xxx
@everydayfun182 ай бұрын
@@estheradriana1992 exactly how I understood it as well
@KC-wr3xk2 ай бұрын
All relationships have good times and not so good times. True unconditional love is never giving up on each other and doing the hard work to get through the tough times. Love grows more when you make it through. I’m sorry for your loss. Good luck to you both.
@linkinparkcky882 ай бұрын
Aw renee😢 you two are going to come out on top you’ll see you been through a lot the last couple years. And I hope you find peace and happiness with whatever comes next.
@Practice_Kindness-1st2 ай бұрын
Love & respect to you and your family. I know it's not easy sharing such intimate information, but just know we love you no matter what! ❤
@Lo-jh3so2 ай бұрын
I do couples therapy as well and I think it’s so valuable to do both individual for each partner and then also a couples therapy 🙏🏼
@lizzyosborne53132 ай бұрын
Praying for you both. I usually don’t make comments, but just felt strong about sharing something. There’s this really amazing marriage (for any relationship status) conference that Family Life, puts on called “A Weekend To Remember”, and it’s so so good. Not only is it a nice getaway for a couple, but an incredibly eye opening and life changing experience. You could probably Google it if interested and I think they may have a conference in NC or nearby :) Love ya both.
@aboromand96172 ай бұрын
It is normal to blame oneself and one another when you are grieving. To hurl at something or someone to soften the pain. The grief can also bring up the unresolved underlying pain/issue so look at it as a sign for both of you to address the real issue.
@louisaguechoum8892 ай бұрын
I love you Ney, thank you to both of you for your beautiful honesty. You always give me hope
@nayana_44832 ай бұрын
Sending so much love and strength to you Renee❤️Anytime I go through a painful and confusing period, I try to calm myself down with an affirmation by Louise Hay. It goes something like this " Out of this situation only good will come for me. Everything is happening for my highest good. All is well in my world". Believe me this affirmation is so powerful!! It just instantly calms you down.
@alexmiller5622 ай бұрын
I may just be lost or a little silly but I can’t find the name of the podcast? does anyone know which one she’s talking about??
@rj43562 ай бұрын
Oh Renee, I'm crying 😢right now. I feel your pain! Please understand that you don't owe us anything. This is your life. I want the best for you & Bryson. As long as you're getting the love & support that you need from Z, carry on. I do hope that you are getting "individual " therapy for yourself too❣️ Hope your Mom is doing well. 🎉🥰🐕🙏Thank you for sharing your life.
@sabrinamartin47Ай бұрын
definitely would love to see a video about your QHHT experience!
@glorianavives21582 ай бұрын
Wish you the best Renee, you honestly don’t need to feel forced to explain what’s happening in your life. Like you said you deserve privacy on the situation and from our side we can only pray for you and your family and send you the best vibes!
@lorettajennings10632 ай бұрын
Bryson is so proud of you two! You can see all the family love within his eyes! Breathe and love and rest 💕
@PinkGiraffe2 ай бұрын
You really are the most honest, hardworking and just inspiring creator I have come across. And I watch a LOT of content’ May God really make your journey easier and happy!
@invinciblefeelings14392 ай бұрын
I really hope you guys work it all out, no relationship is perfect and those who say so are Liars. Having a healthy relationship is about working through issues and problems 'TOGETHER'.
@vanessaadams14522 ай бұрын
Do what’s best for you and your family and that’s all that needs to be said. We will be here when you get back to being. All love ❤
@ainara9562 ай бұрын
Ney, we love you. I wish you sweet and gentle days ahead, connection with your family, and continuous moments of light and laughter 🤍
@sheanacook9402 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤ hope each week is getting better & better! We are all either coming out of something, going into something, or in the middle of it. 2 Cor - in our weakness He is strong & His grace is sufficient❤
@magicalfairyambience2 ай бұрын
I'd love to hear about your hypnosis! Hope things get better for your little family! I'm going through a lot of struggles too, we will overcome these difficult times! Sending love
@Patty_11022 ай бұрын
You can really see the love between the two of you. Stick to this. Continue to pray. Work therapy-magic but most importantly: take time for yourselves. As a family. As a couple. ❤️ I am more than convinced that you will make it!