Single and Childless Not By Choice: RECLAIM The Holidays. DO THESE THINGS

[@karenlaterf8088]

Thank you so much for your videos. I came across your channel over the last few months, whilst facing up to my own situation and regrets. Its been difficult but your videos are helpful. Hearing someone express comments and experiences which I relate to has helped a bit. I was recently thinking about upcoming and future Christmas and family events, and what to do. I do not feel like I want to put myself in situations which will just leave me feeling like the odd one out, even if no one makes un unhelpful comments this time like, "you don't want any kids yourself then?" or "[the baby] its better than a cat, eye?" ... but then everyone will think its my problem and its me being difficult, jealous, mean spirited, etc.. The flip side is I don't like the idea of Christmas alone, so its loose loose either way. :( Best wishes to you and I hope you have a good festive period whatever you do! :) - xx from the UK Edit - Sorry, those quotes were said to me last year at a family event, and still rankle.

[@sondersisterhood]

hi there, I'm so glad you find the videos helpful. I relate to feeling like being around others doesn't feel fun and being alone feeds the beast a bit as well. I'm sorry those things were said to you, I understand why they "still" sting. They would for me too. I hope you have a lovely holiday as well. Thanks for sharing and for stopping by the channel.

[@JohnDoe-pg9oq]

Love your videos are you a therapist? You have a very good bedside manner and are very nurturing. I love how you care for your dog! 🐕 ❤ Neither single nor childless. Was both for the first 30 years of my life. Getting married made me happier. Having a child did not and I’m just going to be honest. Maybe it’ll get better as he gets older but I’m grieving my childless life and the independence I used to have. The holidays are a nightmare and my family members are a nightmare. They treated me like shit when I was childless and they treat me like shit now that I have a child. Honestly, I’ve noticed that the way people talk to you when you’re childless can give you a pretty good insight into their character. It’s not difficult to be a decent human being to other people. I use to excuse rudeness way too much. Like you said it’s time to start setting boundaries and/or cut those rude people out of our lives.

[@sondersisterhood]

Hi, yes, I am a therapist in real life. :). I really think the holidays have so many expectations around them that they are just hard for most people. I'm sorry to hear your family is a problem. Odd how we treat the people we say we love sometimes. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It is ok to grieve anything, doesn't mean two things can't be true at the same time. Thanks for stopping by the channel.

[@JohnDoe-pg9oq]

⁠@@sondersisterhood​​⁠​⁠ Glad you are a therapist I can tell you’re a great one! Thank you for the kind words and thanks for another great video! 😃

[@CraftyClosetCreative]

Absolutely love these tips, thank you!

[@sondersisterhood]

Thank you. Thanks for being some encouraging and supportive of the channel.

[@rupalishankerarthub]

This is so sad and it's how the holiday season looks in most countries. Too much Instagram ready social media posts, too much buying, too many useless and pointless gifts that don't get used and people who don't join the bandwagon are made to feel guilty, stressed and miserly. Plus the huge hole in the pocket. Families and friends speaking of you and to you in the most insensitive and obnoxious way. My vote is that it's social media pressure and the impact it's had on retailers and advertising. Holiday season is universally the stress season. It may be a great time to plan a vacation to an affordable destination with better weather, take your kids if u have them, and get out of the whole shebang entirely.

[@sondersisterhood]

Lots of stressors get tweaked around the holidays that is for sure. So much pressure surrounding them for so many people. Thanks for stopping by the channel.

[@caronnest4939]

Thank u so much ...I am very boundaries at xmas but can't get out of work xmas lunch...hate listening to people saying.... I have 10 people for xmas dinner....

[@sondersisterhood]

Yea, work stuff can be tricky.

[@kristineh4803]

❤

[@sondersisterhood]

Thanks for stopping by the channel.

[@thoenyhills217]

The single part is by choice. You just passed on hundreds of guys when you were younger. Your pride put you where you are today.

[@sondersisterhood]

lol. Single part is more by choice, I agree. Just not for the reasons you stated. Single part can also change.

[@donwavington3726]

No eggs, empty egg carton. You don't have any eggs

[@goldenparachute392]

And you don’t have a life if you feel like making such a rude remark

[@TechWest200]

Always the victim....