Single Dads Dating/Co-parenting

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[@chrisparker6249]

A father is a father inside and outside of the home. He makes sure his children know that he's available all the time.

[@LadyAngela678]

If a man doesnt take care of his children I want nothing to do with him. He has poor character.

[@gratitude5740]

I feel like this too.

[@ladytosha15]

Period

[@LibertyMadison]

How do you verify this? Every man I know “does what he cans, takes care of them, and pays support “ non of those things are true lol when you ask the mother

[@erykahdavis7718]

I don’t see how some men think it’s ok to have many baby mamas it’s disgusting. I don’t think I could ever handle being a step mom. I want all my kids siblings to have the same mom and dad.

[@kakan3750]

So I'm a single dad of two boys not looking to date in any way in contrary to belief and being a single dad necessarily is it because the dad f***** up my ex cheated on me and did meth by the kids and being the parent that I am not having that around the kids too it wasn't the first time she cheated so the negative aspect of where the way you guys are talking cuz you got to understand the whole story some guys are playing assholes but some but some have loyalty it's a rare trait when sometimes become a single parent isn't by choice because I would rather the mom be in their life but the fact that she can barely abandon the children and cheat the do drugs near the kids which I won't have so instead of judging next time and assuming all dads are pieces of shit just ask yourself is it a shity situation or is it the fact that they didn't care

[@kakan3750]

In regards to your comment women do it too my ex cheated and abandoned the two kids some of us dads actually want to have power kids so don't be blind it goes both ways

[@shannonmonaallathat]

I cried on this one . Lol...and..I needed this...ty..My dad is in the hospital as we speak . Prayers please 🙂😇✝️ U remind me so much of him..(morally speaking ) he was a single father and I am his only baby girl..Can't no one out father him.

[@cardiac711]

🙏

[@turklatasha191]

Prayers!

[@missy3505]

Praying!

[@joiagenae]

🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@mariadaskalakis9317]

What is your dads name Shannon?

[@darvellwilson386]

Single dad here. Thank you for this message! My presence in my two beautiful sons lives is more important than anything else!

[@tstarr2399]

One thing a single father can mess up is not knowing how to balance his priority of his new woman in his life either. as long as your kids needs are met and you're taking care of them, you're present with them it's okay to prioritize your relationship so that it stays strong. Especially if you want to marry again, you have to know how to be a unit with the new woman in your life AND your kids, people have to stop promoting "either or" this is how people end up lonely and taking care of their kids alone for the rest of their life. That's a good way to lose a good woman.

[@LvinLikeLarry]

Me and my child’s mom get along sometimes she over steps and want to ask about my personal life or new relationship and it’s none of her business. I tell her that and she knows it. The problem is my new girlfriend don’t like that me and my daughter mom get along. I do for my daughter but me sending pizza and ice cream money is too much.

[@janisemills1]

@@LvinLikeLarry Please find woman who already has kids! It’s not fair to her! No woman without kids should have to deal with that and I don’t care how much money you have. If you are ever planning on marrying her the new wife should come first.

[@lizzylewis5793]

These men run away from their responsibility and they think that when the child gets 18 they dont have to take care of them, smh. Its a sin and a shame

[@lizzylewis5793]

I refuse to date a dad period! Too much baby mama/ex wife drama and I'm not equipped to handle that.

[@browneyenrs76noel34]

Totally agree! Pure headache! Not worth it!!

[@ashleybeverly7328]

SAME GIRL!!! If you had kids, it would make way more sense. But with how crazy and immature baby mamas can be, I don't blame you for wanting to deal with it. Its a turn off!!

[@MidnightMoon88]

Same here as well 💯

[@MelaniaRose]

I agree it’s too much to take on.

[@lgsecretes1292]

Girl please some of us 'baby mamas" stay in our lane & him & his new girl sometimes come out their lane so thristy for attention while we continue to stay in our lane.

[@LadyAngela678]

When my dad started dating his current girlfriend I told her she should leave my dad alone because he was abusive to my mother and his other girlfriends, and he was a bum that never worked a day in his life, and that he was on drugs. She went back and told my dad everything I said. He told me she said that I said that but be didnt believe her. I didnt deny it. Theyve been together for 15 years now. At that time I didnt know she was just like him!! He got the kind of women he deserved. Two peas in a pod that deserve eachother. 😂 .Long as he aint with MY momma. 😉

[@PeaceBeStill-]

Wow

[@zoraidacastro5403]

WOW

[@madisonandthespirits]

🤣🤣🤣

[@TheSunshinefee]

don't do it if you don't have children and you don't want to be burdened with someone else's luggage. as a woman, you will always come second to his children and it will cost you money because he has to pay alimony

[@ashleybeverly7328]

YEP! You are absolutely right! I have made a decision that I absolutely refuse to date any man with kids. It doesn't matter how amazing he may be, I won't. He will (and absolutely should!!!) Put his children first before you, everytime. I loved this video so much.

[@elizabethm44]

GoldLoveee I’ve recently had to go through this and it always depended on her and if she needed him to watch the son. There were no boundaries set and she was very vindictive. If he said he was busy Saturday or a Tuesday evening, the dss as y before or the day if she’d call and said she need him to watch his son. Smh, I finally had enough because he would let her run over him something bad. Tried to have him arrested for any old thing because he didn’t do what she wanted. It was bad! So much so that I looked at him sideways. I couldn’t respect it! He refused to set boundaries and didn’t want to go to court for a custody agreement. She controlled when, where and how long he got to see his son for.

[@elizabethm44]

GoldLoveee I’ve recently had to go through this and it always depended on her and if she needed him to watch the son. There were no boundaries set and she was very vindictive. If he said he was busy Saturday or a Tuesday evening, the dss as y before or the day if she’d call and said she need him to watch his son. Smh, I finally had enough because he would let her run over him something bad. Tried to have him arrested for any old thing because he didn’t do what she wanted. It was bad! So much so that I looked at him sideways. I couldn’t respect it! He refused to set boundaries and didn’t want to go to court for a custody agreement. She controlled when, where and how long he got to see his son for.

[@elizabethm44]

Would lie and threaten to take their son to her home country ( he a dual citizen) 6 years old, when he didn’t give her money for her drug addiction.

[@AEera_5]

Yeap My kids will always come before ANY FEMALE you correct

[@ebonyflowers7599]

Good Information...dating single dads is not for me because I do not have kids of my own. This is just a confirmation to my standards.

[@CaramelKissez]

Facts! Same here.

[@blessingshai]

I swear , I get so much heat from my male associates and my female family members whom I share to them I do not /will not date single dads. That’s just one of my dating standards.

[@sharicebryant8149]

Same. I’m still getting my life together so I’m good mentally and financially for my own kids. I don’t have the time of strength to be a step mom. And i want my first child to my husband’s first as well

[@MelaniaRose]

Fair enough. I’m the same, I don’t have kids and don’t want to deal with others in a dating situation. It’s too many people involved and I want to be first priority.

[@CaramelKissez]

@@MelaniaRose understood!

[@queenofthesouth4205]

Children should live just as comfortable as their Fathers who made them...... If you live in a "PALACE" then so should your children.

[@Anna-st5dm]

This video messed up all of my eye makeup. 🥺😭 We need more men to take pride in being husbands and fathers.

[@turklatasha191]

Yes, kids are very honest and they will hurt you with truth down to your very soul. Last night during prayer and family time with my two sons, I apologized to both my sons and told them that if I ever inadvertently made them feel like they're not important or not enough then I am sorry. The good news is they were honest and said no. Cause even though we as parents aren't perfect, it is imperative to speak life into our children everyday all day. Y'all be blessed.

[@Shayvideos1]

I love this!

[@MrsVanness0929]

💜

[@tarah8919]

I left a man that wouldn’t care for his kid, but wanted to take care of his ex wife kids. Heck No! I took my kids and ran.

[@mariadaskalakis9317]

My late husband was a dad of one son from a previous relationship and he had taken on her second child like his own (paid for her school supplies, braces etc) let’s just say their mom at that point in her life was a mess. I heard my late husband on many occasions - when the kids would say something even remotely negative (more like eye roll comments from them - kids will be kids) about their mom - his answer : ABSOLUTELY nothing but just that their mom was probably “doing the best she can.” Your mom is your mom and your dad is your dad” meaning it was separate and he kept it that way- he didn’t say one negative thing about her or played in to any drama . I knew when I watched him particularly in our dating time that he had integrity for days. He was consistent no matter what was happening with the kids’ mom, her actions or what he knew she said about him....it was definitely an insight into his character. Today his first son (we had a son together) is 37 and he is one of the best dad’s I know , a family man and I know it has a direct effect of the example my late husband set for him. It is true that a man’s children should come first it says a lot about him when they aren’t under his roof full time in a traditional home ....

[@ashleybeverly7328]

YEP! You are absolutely right! I have made a decision that I absolutely refuse to date any man with kids. It doesn't matter how amazing he may be, I won't. He will (and absolutely should!!!) Put his children first before you, everytime. I loved this video so much.

[@s22claudia]

Well said. A good man is a good father, but as he has the right and duty of put their kids first, I can put myself first too and I decide not to be in a relationship that's unfulfilling for me. That was my case.

[@damonw5926]

The is because it is hard for you to submit to loving someone else’s kids and not being #1. If the goal is to be a family then cool. Love him and his kids and help raise them. If you think ‘his’ kids and he must have time for me too then the energy is flowing in the wrong direction. Parenting is hard and if you make the man’s life easier, be selfless then he will give you the world with the new family you created.

[@janisemills1]

@@damonw5926 No he won’t because the child isn’t yours! No matter how good you are to the child you will eventually be reminded you are not their mom!

[@damonw5926]

@@janisemills1 you are not the Child’s Mom. Love them anyway.

[@janisemills1]

@@damonw5926 You should care about them but you aint replacing their mother. People need to get real with themselves and understand it's never going to happen.

[@Best-ThingYouNeverHad]

Thank you Tony! These men need to stop acting like they the victim when they put themselves in the predicament 🤦😩 & it's a lot of men who think it's not they responsibility to provide for their child if they not in the home. I have seen many men say if a certain amount of money every month ain't enough let they child live with them & it's like how much are you paying to live month to month? Men want to spend $120 on shoes, $300 on a PS4, but don't want to provide half the support for their child.

[@joiagenae]

Tony I think a lot of this just starts with the men loving and being a 100% faithful to the women they are with or being 100% respectful to their kids mom. The kids see that and it makes a difference

[@marcellusrobinson1465]

That works both ways

[@Glamrocs]

This message was great. As a single mother I cant date a man with out kids but he has to be a dad financially and emotionally to his children.

[@nattieboo9683]

💯💯💯👐😫

[@a1xluv]

My sons father is guilty as charged!!! He treats our son like an option!

[@christinewarren8134]

Say it again sis! Be treating their kids like a dating option. TF

[@freckledfacedbeauty151]

Right smh

[@Joshuarcade]

Been mostly lamb my first 30 years. 2 kids and 1 ex wife (who left us for another man in another country) been developing more Lion lately so I can properly care for these 2 beautiful princesses I've been raising for 7 and 5 years now. I am looking to move on and find me a good woman to serve/love who can reciprocate. Divorce laws here got us waiting till Nov this year to cut the "marriage cord" but till then I'm trying to work on myself. Thanks for you video Tony, keep up the great advices!

[@joeroot9142]

Find a quality women who DOESN’T WANT to get married

[@lediawhiteside9964]

“My Legacy is in my children “ I love this quote! Your message has so many meanings and healing. Blessings on you and your family 😊

[@womanofgod2948]

It becomes very awkward when you are dating a man and he doesn't take care of his children, nor checks in on them. There is also the issue of where these men tend to sleep with the mother of their children. In my opinion, its very rare to see a man doing right by his childrem unless he is sleeping with the mother

[@lizzylewis5793]

Yes sis preach!!!! You nailed it!

[@freckledfacedbeauty151]

And that’s the sad truth.

[@kingdomfirst4541]

Not always ... I dare white guys and most have good role models to show true fatherhood ...

[@geegar3825]

Kingdom First they said it was rare not extinct.

[@b.tabati911]

That’s a red flag right there... a man that cannot look after his own will most likely not be there for you in the long run. He is selfish. You’d be saving yourself a lot of trouble by getting out of that relationship. Too many times we think we can fix a man. It’s no party and I’m sure you know these things I’m saying Sis. Run Forrest Run...

[@RubyRoxxie]

I’ve dated men with children and loved them as my own. My exe’s kids still keep in contact with me because we got so close. I absolutely love them, which made it harder when it didn’t work out. There was def “baby mama drama” but I made sure I was always respectful. A couple of the bm’s were so sweet though! Needless to say there were a few bm’s. Talk about ignoring red flags.. 🤣🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[@velazquez773]

Same here. I love my babies even though I didn't birth them they are always my babies. Even when ex husband and I didn't work out they still love me the same. Unfortunately he can't say they feel the same way toward him. His doing not anyone elses.

[@Thecairopractors]

Question: with all due respect, how do you think your new man would feel if you still had a relationship with your ex’s children?

[@XxEtHaN39xX]

I love this man, thank you for this and I definitely agree. We all as single dads need to take more responsibility for our kids and our own lives as well. We created them, we birthed them and they are part of us. Always take care of everything that we have created! You Rock 🔥 Not going to lie there was a part of me in the beginning of separating from my ex where I did not take responsibility but that part of me has died long ago.

[@XxEtHaN39xX]

Blue September Hey man! So that I can better answer your questions as it’s been quite some time what do you mean by “why at first you didn’t”. Want to get clear on that otherwise I’d just assume things.

[@XxEtHaN39xX]

Blue September Sweet man thanks for getting back to me. I think in the beginning it was because I had a whole different idea for how I wanted my life to be and that idea never really went away. I was competing on the national team and was one of the best in Canada and headed to being one of the best in the world. So when it came time to the separation and stuff a part of me wanted to live that life that I thought I was “missing out” on which involved me shirking responsibility of my son and my ex. At that time it seemed more like a burden... but I was holding onto so much fucking pain from my past, trauma and was honestly just a mess and I didn’t know it until looking back. A lot of these things don’t make sense until you experience them and when you experience them then you can look back and say ooooh wow I didn’t have to do that, or it could have been different... but I didn’t get there without taking that step to separate in the first place. I’m sorry to hear that you are going through something similar man and good on you for taking that responsibility! How old are your kids?

[@iloveangelmonroe4864]

Bless you!! Love to see good fathers😍

[@winniekaleche2608]

Wow, wish all men could just focus on their kids even after separation or divorce....big up bro

[@83ttaylor]

This is one of your best videos! This really hit home! Thank you Coach Tony!!!!

[@freckledfacedbeauty151]

Tony they really don’t make them like this anymore. Nowadays it seems as if you have to BEG a “man” to be a father to his kids.. then when you ask for the simplest things it’s like your asking too much😩. It’s exhausting

[@The7Marie]

My child’s father does the bare minimum. I just found out he’s dating again. Our baby isnt even 2 yet. I don’t mean to sound dramatic, but I feel like he abandoned his responsibilities - we had a shared household, until he basically put me out - I had to leave with the baby. I’m still living with family, not back independent after the break. How in the world can he be DATING. I’m so disgusted.

[@lovejones1897]

Sorry that happened to u and same happened to me and we were married. It’s been seven months separation and he already started the relationship not even a month after we separated and he kicked me out and moved in with her two months into the separation and now he wants our son who is to go down there for two weeks. I don’t know her and she has animosity towards me and I don’t feel comfortable having him take the baby, I told him to come down here and see him and spend time with him and want to

[@TiffanyFG]

Men need to really hear this. They just don't know!

[@kristijjones1087]

This touched me.....I just praising God right now because God blessed me with a great father. Some things are just priceless and you don't know how good you really got it. Tony you are making a huge impact in your son's lives. Keep doing a great job. Be blessed!

[@christineporter9914]

Bro Tony you hit a home run on this message on single dad dating and co parenting this message is much needed a soul searching a heart operation message. God bless you Bro Tony keeping on fighting the good fight of faith for your Big God.

[@RocSkater09]

"You aint no billionaire, if you is God bless send me a little something" 😂😂😂😂😂 IM dead. I felt that in my spirit lol. Wish I was so I could bless my man's.

[@bonnie16]

🤣 I love his humor.

[@sharlitawilson6503]

Be Blessed Tony!!! That was a beautiful well spoken video. I thank you for speaking from your heart. I hope billions of fathers hear your message.❤️💜❤️💜❤️

[@myuniqueweddings3847]

Appreciate this! Had me up here crying! And I ain’t got no children! 😂 in that order!! Definitely going to give my nieces and nephews this kind of life!

[@paigeelise3179]

I’m taking notes thank you tony this is something I needed to hear as a single mother!!

[@quanettaanderson3079]

Tony you're a man among men!! Point blank period!! May God continue to bless you!

[@tarawilliams5204]

Mrs. Gaskins A HIGHLY BLESSED WOMAN!!!! "Good King Be Blessed"👑👑

[@Dr.Elaine1]

Men: “The one thing as a man that should make you grow, grow up, is your child.” TG

[@CO-jb8wj]

We need more like you! That was real! Got a little teary-eyed on the end.

[@tjelks]

Please post this on FB so I can share!! The world needs to hear this.

[@tjelks]

WHOOOOO. WEEEE!! TG you sho nuff dropped it off with this one!!! The Holy Spirit took you over!! You have said EVERYTHING I’ve always felt, but couldn’t put into words! Thank you for walking in your purpose and letting God use you. ALL BLACK LIVES MATTER, starting with us taking responsibility for our children and creating positive change for our future generations!! I want to do what you do TG, what you do is where my passion lies! ❤️❤️❤️

[@elliebarbour4870]

For being such a young man you have wisdom beyond your years!! May GOD continue to lead you because you are speaking nothing but the truth.!!!! GOD bless you !!

[@hanishamarshall3341]

You, your wife and and your children are so incredibly blessed!!! I love it. We need to see more of families like yours Toni.

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

Men dont like to take women who have kids seriously ....but guess what, I dont date men who have kids either ....I do not have kids and do not see why I should put up with that babymama drama....naaaa

[@nattieboo9683]

I Have Three Boy’s And sometimes I Feel like I Will not Meet Anybody For Us , It’s hard to find a man to love your kids , And it’s funny I say I don’t want to date a man with kids either because of The Bm Drama , And I’m not The Type I’d women To start drama with anybody

[@zoraidacastro5403]

Single dads ars are the best. Your loss.

[@austind4301]

@@zoraidacastro5403 That is a damn lie.

[@Mandy4JC]

Hey Tony! Looking forward to you and Sheri putting together a 💯% Authentic & Raw PARENTING COURSE in TG Academy! I don’t have children right now but if God calls me to be a wife and minister to my future kids one day, I want to be ready. Praying you see this, I am 29 and in preparation. God Bless! 🙏🏾✨💙

[@itsyvonnekelly4151]

Beautiful video Tony! We need to appreciate our good fathers, uplift our future fathers, and encourage the absent ones to do better! For our children. A present and active father is priceless

[@coachstephaniedionnegreen1053]

You gave really great guidelines. Some people really don't know how to handle this situation. A whole lot of people can benefit from this video. Thank you Nephew Tony. God bless you and your family. SDG

[@tierradavis2756]

Amazing content. Would love this entire video in a book from you. So relevant and wisdom filled. Many blessings, sir. 🙏🏽

[@kikinyte6806]

Here for this.. I'm dating a dad who's Co parenting

[@lwhite474]

How is it going so far??

[@kenishalperkins]

Amazing !! Glad that you have this video 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

[@robertbonner8074]

I really needed this. Thank you sir

[@taga8006]

Thank you, it was a profound talk. We need a book called "A father`s influence" too!

[@samanthaadkins5551]

My older 2 kids Dad missed their entire life. He had his own set of childhood issues, that went on into his adulthood. I never spoke ill of him, but just encouraged my kids to try to forgive & live for now if they wanted a relationship with him. My son doesn't seem to care for one, but my daughter does/however she does go back & fourth with a grudge against him because he missed her life. My son is exactly like him & they don't even know each other really. Neither of them are persistent or seem to care about that relationship. They did come together once, before he was grown though. We did have a fairytale young love story, which I share with them so that they know they were 100% made from love. We were married, but we were young & I needed to grow. He sadly still is standing still, very damaged from several kinds of abuse, from his stepfather. It's like he's stuck at this childlike mindset at 40. I told my daughter now that she has a daughter don't keep the baby from him if you get upset because you knew it was what it was, when you walked in. Don't hurt your child though, it's a very hard thing to have understanding on both parts, but indeed I have and tried to encourage the relationship she wanted, but understand he's not going to be who you imagined. He is who he is and that's just facts! I know that he loves them, but our children are more mature mentally than him & had lots more/raised different than he was because I chose to leave him & grow. I also grew up without my father, it feels like girls/women yearn for that father/daughter relationship & all children at one point reach out to look for that missing parent, regardless of the situation in my case!

[@winniekaleche2608]

Childhood issues end up affecting adults in marriages cz of the un delt hurt n bitterness....my story too .

[@Dollface141]

Thanks for talking about this. Blessings

[@jenniferelmasry7717]

Oh I love love love this one Tony!!!! Sending it to my kids dad

[@traceyreynolds2138]

I laughed; I cried, thank you Tony G for this message

[@linaledesma107]

Just ordered your book A Womans Influence from Target hoping it will help assist me through my issues!!!🙏

[@raquelv.4243]

This was a beautiful message! Be blessed!

[@ShalamZaYan777]

Appreciate it man . I needed that . I finally found your channel again I forgot your name I use to listen to you couple years back

[@ettarobinson2162]

I think men should be following you even if its in private or in relation to the one they love. You are a prime example for sure.

[@KrystleLaughter]

Another much needed video. Thanks.

[@kenishalperkins]

If I date a man with kids I’m making it my business to make sure he continues provides for his children 🙅🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️🙅🏾‍♀️

[@sunnatural1272]

If you need to make sure a man provides for his children, then you are the man in the relationship. Too masculine behavior. A man knows how to care for his seed. If he doesn't, then you don't need him, because you will have to do the same thing if you get a baby from him. You doing the most. Stop!

[@brandypeay5350]

Hebrew Sistar exactly❤️. The kids are going to be his priority before during and after a relationship. You don’t have to make sure of that. Also when you have to tell a guy that, he is usually not genuinely taking care of them it’s just because someone forced him.

[@womanofgod2948]

@@brandypeay5350 And the worst is when they are forced to take care of their children. Personally, I think something is wrong with that. The Bible speaks about cheerfully giving vs giving grudgingly. The sad truth is many of these men give child support grudgingly. My son's father paid money through Family Court and I constantly heard his reproach and his disdain at how I was taking his money. Guess what? For peace of mind and obedience to Almighty God I dropped that matter and I told that man I will not be asking you for a single cent for the upkeep of my son. Take your money and God be with you. I will not be taking an angry man's money for my son, God owns all the gold and silver and my son is heading straight to the top.

[@kenishalperkins]

Hebrew Sistar You took this some place it didn’t need to go. Have a great weekend.

[@kenishalperkins]

Lmbo to these responses. Now I see what Tony is talking about. Yall be well. Take it left if you want to 😂😂😂😱

[@monet1463]

I don't have kids yet, but this was a good message, well said, Coach Tony!

[@jfashaw1030]

I love the part when Tony said you not going to out father me. I think it’s so beautiful that him and his wife have created this piece of heaven for their boys to grow and feel so loved

[@annapendleton9500]

Yes Yes Yes Tony G. Say it, say it you’re definitely definitely telling the truth and nothing but the truth. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY

[@lisaamani4441]

BE BLESSED!!I MADE IT!!

[@Best-ThingYouNeverHad]

Preach preacher! It's a lot of this going on 💪💯🤦😩

[@coachnatishamommatish185]

Happy Fabulous Friday Blessed Tribe.💃🌏🙌

[@coachingwithp]

Heeeyy !!!

[@mzchocolitt4091]

Exactly and the irresponsible ones will try to bring your kids around anyone he lays down with. And if you not having that try to convince everyone that you are trying to hold onto him.

[@samanthaadkins5551]

I tell my husband this. He had a child after his divorce, we've been together 14 years. He also had 3 from his 1st marriage & I had 2 of my own, then we had 2 together. That's 8 children! We've surpassed alot & years were tough, but in his wild season he got mixed up with the WRONG ONE! I'm too open & raw about it. She is absolutely not an easy person to deal with! Infact, if I'm honest she's my worst nightmare that I feared dealing with & now their son will be 18 in Feb. I've been around him, since he barely turned 3. My husband always said she trapped him, that he didn't want a child with her exc... I told him & still will today. You laid down with her, ignored the red flags & well this was your end result. She didnt do it by herself! If you think she's a trash Mom you chose her I didn't! It is what it is, if you didn't want it, like you say you didn't you had a choice. (She was supposed to be taking birth control he says) my reply: idc, you didn't know her long enough to trust her, this was a very short relationship that ended in pregnancy from their irresponsibility & then they despised each other. Point #1 that's like saying you want a drink of water & thirsting to death waiting on someone to get it for you. No! You protect yourself, or better yet keep your pants zipped and the end results would be in your favor. I don't candy coat it. #2 don't go sleeping with someone you don't even know, then end up having to share a child together and you two then have to parent & it's a mess! I just tell him like it is, and for years he's argued the fact that it's her fault. I still hold him accountable & tell him these very same things! Stay off your back, don't be having sex out of marriage/making kids point blank period. In your words Tony! You get back what you put out & we don't all get the same thing, but there's consequences for our actions! Sorry for the book/comments this just hit home in a couple ways for me. Thanks for your videos & time. Be blessed everyone!

[@jessicawojcik336]

And also the mothers sometime manipulate the kids Becasue they angry the guy is with someone else every human has the right to be with someone else as long as they still help and see they kids

[@angiedee5124]

Great message Tony!!

[@nonikaallen2030]

Thanks Tony! "If you needed an hour watch it twice".😂😂😂. That word was on time, thanks for being obedient to the spirit because it spoke to me!

[@chrisparker6249]

Great message!

[@rayshell_sells_atlanta]

Great message‼️ THANK YOU

[@soul832006]

Good video! Good tips. I've just gotten out of an abusive marriage with a 3.5 year old son. She was arrested and can't come near us. Long road ahead but my son is my world. I will always be there for him. My soon to be ex is paying all the daycare fees so I'm thankful for that. Hopefully we can come to an amicable agreement with our property portfolio for each of our futures and that of our son! I most definitely don't trust others!! No one can stay alone with my child - I only trust my parents.

[@Haydns1stborn]

This was a right on time message! My ex didn’t get much from his dad. He gives more than what he got to our son, but it’s not enough. We get along, but I’m praying that God opens his eyes and his heart to secure his legacy (our son). We have a great son, but at 14, he needs things I can’t give him. I’m thankful my dad and other men in my church etc pour into him, but praying for God to send what he needs. Keep spreading the message of the Kingdom and love.

[@jaesweet]

I literally cried watching this video. My son father was in a relationship with a young lady before me which I only knew about one , but he decided to get me pregnant instead of the person he’s with now. I Pacifically asked him to not bring our child around any woman until our baby is old enough to talk . But instead he did the total opposite that same day at two months old. He stalks my house name calling such as whore I’m washed up & wishing I died . Brought the gf to my house to fight me . But if I brought another man around our baby it’ll be a problem! He steals thousands of dollars to support this young lady and buy designer clothes for her . But stands me up when I ask for milk for the baby ... smh I am so hurt by the disrespect! If you moved on why can’t you just respect me for the sake of our baby

[@hanishamarshall3341]

That's horrible. Sorry to hear. I hope things have gotten better by now since the last time you wrote this.

[@misselevate5442]

Wow, I appreciate the transparency Tony, you are a great Dad. Parenting has no playbook all we can do is try our best and make corrections where we can do better and you doing just that.

[@paigeelise3179]

Me two tony Yes holding ourselves accountable including myself

[@reinaquisha9418]

Another blessed message. Thank you 💜

[@zenla1032]

I feel you telling Me also, to be Accountable. Be a Better Spirit, a Better Human. This is Awesome. The Creator is Pleased. Thank You. 😊✨🙏

[@antiflg530]

Amazing video. Seriously, sometimes you need to hear this from different perspectives. This has helped me out tremendously on a really blurry day.

[@coachalexiseanes5505]

Wow Tony this video really hit home. I am currently a single mom and my daughters dad has never met his child. I am currently doing everything I gotta do to make sure my child is good. I plan on letting God handle him.

[@brendajones9110]

REAL TALK.....BE BLESSED

[@stephanie3506]

Good Message! Keep talking to your brothas!

[@ulricka2131]

I believe that real, healed men still exist on this world. If not , i am doing everything i can for my sons to be on the right path. Thank you Tony. Stay blessed brother🙏🏾

[@jessicagiles2941]

Tony is right I found my daddy on Facebook when I was 20 he passed when I was 28. Life is short men

[@NicoleC007]

I've actually dated a couple dads who coparent and I've never had a bad experience or had to deal with baby mama drama. I think it just depends on the guy, I usually attract older guys (5+ years older than me) and some have kids, some dont. I think I prefer men with a kid or two, they usually can relate to single mothers and have more understanding. . .in my experience. Good video though Tony!

[@hanishamarshall3341]

I too have dates a few single father's and dating one now and he has one son. All the single dad's I dated all are fantastic father's. And I never had baby mama drama from none. But I don't have any children yet and so now I'm getting that itch of having my own but all my current relationship partner says is "one day". And so now I don't know how to feel about this now. He said something totally different when we first started dating.

[@NicoleC007]

@@hanishamarshall3341 Aww! There's nothing wrong with wanting your own and I have the opposite situation, he said he didn't want anymore kids in the beginning but now that's all he stresses and Im ok with it just being his 2 and my 2 😭. I hope it works out for you to have your own though, maybe he'll get on board with it one day but don't waste too much of your time if that's something you truly want.

[@hanishamarshall3341]

@@NicoleC007 oh I see. And we'll sounds like y'all have enough kids there. Lol And yeah I hear you. In this process as we speak. I think he will get on board, but I don't want it to be him doing it so I will shut up or not leave him and then he will end up resenting me because he truly didn't want to. But yeah I gota figure something out. Decisions decisions lol.

[@NicoleC007]

@@hanishamarshall3341 Exactly how I feel, we have enough between the two of us. Lol, but I definitely understand you on not wanting him to resent you later. It will all work out in God's timing

[@Myareah]

Yes they definitely need to here this 💯💯because is very hard being a single parent while their out there living life not even think about the kids 😓

[@kikinyte6806]

Yes Tony....The Queen is Called Elizabeth here in London

[@FutureAttyInTheMaking]

Confirmation, Confirmation, Confirmation! Even though I don’t have any child(ren) at this time, hopefully in the future, But I am a fur mom to a beautiful Sherman Shepherd mix 🤗. I do sincerely applaud all mothers and fathers in general, because I understand it’s not an easy job, but they do it to the best of their abilities. Salute to all mothers/fathers 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@chelseafilgo8700]

Great video!

[@RUNWAYBEAUTY]

That’s a fact(men only care about what their children think). My dad still brings up me being a little girl telling him I didn’t want to go home with him. He was hurt. Other ppl don’t get him like that not even a little bit.

[@b.tabati911]

Thanks for this Tony. The saddest thing is when you as a married couple have planned on having your child together and once the baby is born, the grown boy shows up in your husband, which ends up becoming your ex-husband cause he doesn’t show up about the responsibilities towards his family and he just wants wings all the time. Once divorced and you’re both single, he makes the woman’s life difficult by being little to no support for the child cause he hates on the momma for leaving cause he just got worse and worse being a grown boy. These men are hurting their children more because of hatred. Their actions are evil and the kids really have it hard. With myself, I find over the years, I have to bring my heart before The Lord and forgive myself for the choices I had made and forgive him and keep moving forward in doing the best I can for my son. What you and your wife are doing is awesome, because you are empowering our generation and generations to come to walk in Kingdom order. His will. Thank you and God Bless you and your family and continually protect you guys as a unit. Praise to The Lord for the change He has brought in your lives. Blesya🙌🏽... Bren

[@JALC38]

Brenda Tabati this is my situation. Married. Pregnant. Grown boy showed up, wants no responsibility. Now going through separation to determine if this relationship is worth salvaging. Our daughter will be the one who suffers the most if he doesn't grow up. I will be fine as a single mother, but I don't want her searching for the love of her daddy when she grows up. Just sad!

[@marandawatanabe6250]

Um, if you remarry your wife is first. The two of you, raise your/her children well so that they find their own spouses. God, wife, then children.

[@wendykiim]

When will you be coming to Montreal or Toronto?

[@gingerwells2665]

Yes, black father's are an important influence on their child's life. I remember I tried out for tennis, because I wanted to be like Serena Williams. Oh gosh, l had no clue what I was doing on the tennis court & it showed lol.. However, my dad was there to encourage & guide me through tryouts. Anyway, yall I didn't make the team. My dad had to wipe my tears & embrace me in his arms. He taught me a valuable lesson that day. "You never know what you're capable of until you try." His words pierced my soul. I picked my head up, tried out for the next sport, and dominated track & field collecting ribbons/medals. No matter what, my father was there for his little girl.. Especially when I needed him the most. Whew, I love my daddy 🥰

[@zinaa3450]

Thank you Tony💯❤️🤲🏽

[@nelvaflores672]

Be blessed