Single in your 30s: Advice from a 40 something

[@shevanoorda7252]

Being single is hard. A relationship is hard. Raising kids is hard. Having no kids is hard. At the end of the day, life is not always peaches and cream 🤷‍♀️ just pick youre battles

[@thetruetreasure1]

how can you say such a thing don't you find yourself mentally ill without a boy??!

[@thomasspann8678]

A retired, successful career woman wrote. I put my career and acquiring things above having a husband and children. My friends are married with children and grandchildren and I am alone in my big house surrounded by material things that now don't matter one bit. To me now, successful women have a loving husband and children. I succeeded in my career but it gave me a very lonely life. I find myself taking people to lunch and dinner just to have somebody to talk to. If I could do things over I would place a husband and children first and place my career last.

[@princellasmith7562]

​@@thomasspann8678I can tell that a man wrote this.

[@thomasspann8678]

@@princellasmith7562 I didn't write that verbatim.

[@basstheangelo]

@@princellasmith7562 Women's greatest achievement in life is having a complete family - husband and children. Not career and having material things. High value men don't care about those one bit.

[@SteveB88]

I’ve been married and divorced in my late 20s(No kids). I’m now 35 and have been single ever since and plan to stay that way. Trust me when I say this, you’re not missing anything. Find things in life that make you happy and bring you joy and live for you.

[@jenwhite]

Thank you for sharing 😊

[@djkizzo152]

but you are a man, thats dfferent

[@SteveB88]

@@djkizzo152 How is it different?

[@djkizzo152]

@@SteveB88 as a man you have another 20 years-and you can still find a wife and start a complete family. Women dont have that luxury. a woman has just before 40 to figure out whether she will have kids or not.

[@SteveB88]

@@djkizzo152 I do see your point, and you are right about that. But in my case, I have no desire for kids nor did my ex-wife, or want to be a parent so it does make things a little different for me. But coming from someone who has been married, people have been fed such a false narrative from Disney, the Internet, and many are places that “ so and so got married and lived happily ever after” That is the biggest load of BS. If you are not happy with yourself in your own life, no one person or thing is going to change that for you.

[@KikiNation1]

For those who are single and without kids in their 30s/40s… don’t be too sad. I’m 43, married, one child … and I have never felt so lonely or sad in my life as I do now. NOTHING is easy when it comes to relationships. We have to make ourselves happy, no one else will give that to us.

[@MissTooni]

I'm sorry you're so sad.

[@gussampson5029]

You should try actually fixing your marriage. Unless you just married the first guy who would impregnate you, you obviously loved each other in the beginning. If love existed once, it can again. Truth, love and courage. Stop lying to yourself and each other. Have the courage to speak the truth with love. Tell your spouse that you want to fix things and improve them. Nurture love instead of nurturing hatred and resentment. Stop blaming each other and start taking responsibility for your own actions. For the past 60 years, children have been endlessly harmed by the selfishness of their parents. Give your child the loving environment he or she deserves. That's the bare minimum you owe the child.

[@christopher5585]

Vain advice. Living for yourself is empty and same too goes for living for others.

[@DougIIGB]

Women these days are absolutely disgusting and selfish. Marriage isn’t about happiness. Constantly banging on about happiness. Shut the fuck up

[@747maran]

@KikiNation1 - advise like this, is what lead to many women like this woman. Do you think you’d be happier if you were single and childless yourself at your age or later..?

[@ValleyRogue.]

I have recently been feeling like a "leftover" woman at 35 and alone. Always was in long-term serious relationships, but those unfortunately ended. But I also see women who did the "right" thing in getting married and having kids. Now they are divorced, and the children grew up and moved away. They ended up alone afterall. I'm just trying to remember that starting a nuclear family holds no long-term promises of companionship or stability.

[@deejay7060]

That’s because women initiate 80% of all divorces. That number jumps to 90% if she has a college degree. And if I were a betting man, I’d bet that you ended all your relationships too. Enjoy your cats and boxed wine.

[@vklnew9824]

Poorly aged white♀️

[@deejay7060]

@@vklnew9824 more like happily married for 21.5 years white male, who’s wife is appreciative of the hard work he’s put in to provide for her and our 2 kids.

[@jasonbrown7258]

Same here I'm a 47 year old man been married twice. I feel like i'm not cut out for a relationship.

[@ValleyRogue.]

@vklnew9824 another bitter minority? Typical 🥱

[@MyForeverPerson]

39 a few days ago and single. Never married or engaged. But dealt with many toxic relationships. Dating sucks bc everyone is out playing games

[@jenwhite]

Happy birthday! Being single definitely has its perks

[@spiritofalaska]

Yeah and most women and feminist wanted this. They all wanted the tibder apps and hookup culture and now the punishment is here😅😅😅. You have seen nothing yet. By 2030 50% of all women between 25 and 40 will be childless and 80% of them will regret it. Brace for impact 😅😅 slay queens, you don't need a man, strong and independent woman sis. Slay

[@magallanesagustin4952]

@@spiritofalaska that's got nothing to do with what OP says. What's the "punishment"? You obviously don't like people being single and happy.

[@spiritofalaska]

let me guess they were all narcisstic and nothing you did was wrong

[@akferren1]

I’ve been married in my 20’s and then in my 30’s again.. divorced both times.. now I’m 53 and I’d never get married or live with someone again.. I love love love being single

[@JM_Foodchannel]

I came here looking to double check if I'm doing something wrong in life. 33 Female, alone most days except when I need to go to work. I have some form of autism but functional. I ended a lot of close friendships when they found their own partners. All of a sudden I was a 'nuisance'. It takes hours to days before they could respond to a single hello. One didn't respond for a year! Heartbreaking but that's life and it's beautiful. One day at a time keeps me going... Walks, youtube, Library, beach... ❤

[@elsa_nyc]

I was single until 35 and it was a great period in my life

[@SC68170]

I bet it was Elizabeth

[@nomessnostress]

so your met your partner at 35?

[@elsa_nyc]

@@nomessnostress we actually met at 32. Dated exclusively. Then married at 35.

[@nomessnostress]

@@elsa_nyc That’s great! Congratssss

[@elsa_nyc]

@@nomessnostress and I have friends and or colleagues that met and married 35 and older. It is possible. Everyone gets crazy and obsessed with stats, which may or not be accurate. I just lived my life and didn't focus on finding the one. But spending time in face-to-face social setting is the best screening.

[@MrzBadaBing]

35 years old and single , I’ve been happy since I gave my life to Jesus christ . When you let go of the idea of finding Prince Charming , nothing matters anymore except your love and devotion to the lord . He’s my number one . Everything else will come if it’s Gods will . I came to terms if I’ll be unmarried I’ll still be grateful for the life God gave me . But in my heart , I know God has the perfect husband for me . But if not, I’ll still be happy to know I’m walking with Jesus through this life .

[@waltermrt9391]

God bless you!

[@Manglor824]

No husband is going to be perfect. Yeah, there is probably a good fit for you or there.

[@deadcell1]

If God has a husband for you he won't be perfect. He's going to come with flaws just like the rest of the 7 billion people who are alive in the earth.

[@Manglor824]

She meant a perfect husband for her. Meaning, someone just for her. At least I think that's what she meant.

[@deadcell1]

@@Manglor824 in other words someone who's compatible with her.

[@MistresstheMediator]

Single and living my best life, not arguing with anyone, I date when I want, It feels great not worrying about another grown person other than myself...Best of all I do what I want without having to answer to anyone. Life has been DRAMA FREE for once in My life

[@LuVaLlTrUStFeW]

Drama free life has nothing in store, the best thing that life holds dear can only be found in a partner, you'll miss a lot of life bullshit if you want a drama-free life, don't get this twisted dear I've been through that path and I miss lots of life bullshit👍🏼

[@porscheh7120]

Good for you! 👏🏾 Last time I checked, stress kills and ages you! I’m childfree, bank accounts looking good, nice home, I drive a beautiful foreign car, I travel, I’m a business owner and I date when I want to. Hell, I get hit on pretty much daily! 🤭 I’m definitely single by choice because finding a man and or getting one isn’t hard! 🤷🏽‍♀️🤣 Now finding one who won’t stress you is a different story! 🤣 🥂 Cheers to living in peace!

[@MistresstheMediator]

@@theGODfather746 You shouldn’t project your life on to others

[@utamu777]

@colerainswaggify6387 how do you know? Have you ever had genuine friendship with women?

[@iangutoskie2315]

I have noticed that women look at the now and men look down the road. This is working now... eventually the dating pool gets incredible difficult. After being through enough men women can no longer respect men because there is no such thing as casual sex especially for an emotional creature as a female. Its easy to talk like this now a quick search on youtube for this same topic will reveal something much darker.

[@dcbfan1231]

Currently 37 turning 38 in about a month. I’m still single and never been married. I’m still enjoying being single doing the things I want to do while still being vigilant finding my future honey.

[@jenwhite]

Happy early birthday! Keep living your best life 😃

[@dcbfan1231]

@@jenwhite thank you! 😁

[@scifluxaurora1806]

The problem with forever singles is that it’s all fun up until your mid to late thirties, but there’s going to come a time when you’re going to walk into a bar or club and people are going to look at you like “why is that person here, that person is too old” and you will notice it too. That’s when reality sets in. The party is over.

[@justinbeynon7980]

@@scifluxaurora1806 Very true..but bro you just gotta find new bars...LoL....I also think "singleness" is not just about the party.

[@86Kera]

@@scifluxaurora1806tf are you talking about 😂😂😂 projecting much and where did she say she was going into bars? People like you can’t fathom the fact some people are happily single . I’m sorry if you never had that feeling. Hope you find your future nurse , I meant wife .

[@matisyahup613]

im 36 and been single a long time now. Its lonely but if you have hobbies and goals in life the freedom is amazing.

[@A2Kaid]

Sad

[@matisyahup613]

@@A2Kaid How would you know if I am happy or sad?

[@alexv1190]

​@@matisyahup613he just going down the comments saying this probably because he hates his marriage.

[@matisyahup613]

@alexv1190 Lol so true you realize that after a while people hate you even more when they realize you beat the system 🤣

[@alexv1190]

@@matisyahup613 for sure lol and if you look at the many topics like this on ------ you see there's tons of us and people do the same thing there. Why get mad if you're so happy? The regretful parents sub is what's sad... Don't just have kids because the movies told you to. If you truly want it then go ahead.

[@JaffaCakes-c7d]

I'm 34 and have been pretty much single my whole life. All my friends are married and live full lives. I wish I had my own place for comfort but still live at home with the same problematic people. 😢

[@backseateats9513]

Me too lol my parents are old and can’t find jobs so even tho I’ve made 500,000 in 10 years I have to pay my parents mortgage and expenses 😢 or else they would be on the streets 😮 But what about my life 😢 I’m 35 now lol and it looks like I’m pathetic 😊

[@kekamirza]

I'm in the same situation!

[@megnelli]

Same

[@ennvee1989]

Same but i live alone

[@JaffaCakes-c7d]

@@backseateats9513 you're not pathetic. You have done a huge honor looking after and providing for your parents. May you be blessed for that. There are many adult children who mistreat their beloved parents for no good reason. They are lucky to have you.

[@Invertmini1212]

Just remember if you haven't worked on yourself getting into a relationship will only make things worse... I have alot of friends who jump from relationship to relationship needing someone and it always fails because they never had time to be alone and figure it out or try too..

[@ghostoferlock]

Very nice to see. You seem calm, trying to find happiness and peace in your days, not arrogant, just understanding your own feelings and accepting yourself. You are a woman I would happily hand a flower to.

[@thetruetreasure1]

how can you say such a thing don't you find yourself mentally ill without a boy??!

[@ez-g3090]

don't be simping over an old used up damaged woman. it's not your responsibility to pick up the slack for her. go find a nice young fertile woman with less miles instead.

[@porscheh7120]

Being single in my 30’s has honestly been peaceful! Maybe it’s because I’ve seen a lot of dysfunctional relationships first hand by experiencing it myself and seeing it around me (family/friends/social media). I honestly felt more alone when in a relationship. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@american236]

Because you were with the wrong men.

[@VasiliZgRR]

You’re a red flag for every guy 😂 imagine 30 and still single as a woman. Walking red flag.

[@hummingbird4335]

​@ktryushi4744 You are a bigger red flag, projecting your failures & desperations on a young woman, and quite honestly showing you are super juvenile 😂

[@thetruetreasure1]

how can you say such a thing don't you find yourself mentally ill without a boy??!

[@PanteraRosa91]

porcheh7120 So true!!! I'm 32, being single since I was 28 and these have been my best years😢😢 I have come to realize that we humans, women nor men, don't need a "romantic relationship" to be happy and feel full filled!! I wish I had learned this before

[@Indian-er6li]

I think only the blessed ones get loving spouses and have happy married lives ..if you have that count your blessings

[@jasonashley4579]

Im a 43 year old man who's never been married or divorced never had children or paid child support, everything in my llife is paid for and I couldn't be happier.

[@Cunningstunts23]

I’m 31 and single for just over a year now. Was in a relationship(s) for my entire 20s and most of my teen years too. I don’t know if I could ever go back. I was a shell of a person bc all my time would be centered around my partner and my job. No time for myself or to learn about myself

[@taylorb4119]

I'll be 37 tomorrow and I've never had a girlfriend or been married. I was in the Navy traveling on ships around the world so there was never time to find a wife. Now I'm all alone. I don't really see a bright future.

[@katdon617]

Keep your head up, you had to do what you had to do!

[@belle4978]

I wish you all the best and be you, live your life and believe that your person will come to you! Trust in God

[@taylorb4119]

@@belle4978 thank you ❤️

[@crazypkm]

Go overseas and you’ll find your person with almost Zero effort. A lot of American men go to the Philippines or East Asia , heck I’m debating going back to Germany cause as soon as I landed I was getting checked out 😂

[@magallanesagustin4952]

Enjoy your freedom.

[@alexxbloomwork]

Love we all came with nothing and will go back with nothing , we were alone when we came and we have to go alone when we go back . It’s Indian ancient quote so know that’s your existence is a huge impact on the world we are thankful for yuh ❤

[@Ang36914]

I'm 33, single as a pringle but also enjoying this season in my life and trusting that if I'm meant to meet someone, I will. 💜

[@tansley67]

Just turned 32 recently and same here. 😀 I'm seeing it more as a blessing than some kind of curse. I try to focus on the positives. Not being stressed out from a relationship for one! 😀☺️

[@forat600]

In this era, it is difficult for you to find an ideal partner, because most people care about material things, formalities, and appearances. I searched for a long time for true love, for the pure essence, for tenderness, and I did not find it. And her child became my moon and he became her sun, but I did not find it, and yet I still believe that love exists and that it is a very great thing.

[@Davon-sx4zm]

Women you mean not men

[@dobedo1579]

​@@Davon-sx4zmas if men aren't so superficial when it comes to looks 😂🤣🤣

[@katemallory]

I’m married and lonely so there’s THAT. Girllllll you ain’t missing nothing ! I have no time , my husband harps I don’t have a “good job” when he IS my job, the household, the family drama…. Girl go enjoy your peace.

[@Wetterwet]

Dude, get out

[@jthono]

That's a recipe for a disastrous end. Seek the Lord and put your faith in Jesus.

[@magallanesagustin4952]

​@@Wetterwetfor speaking facts?

[@aminalisa_]

I just turned 30 and I would like to have more friends who are single and I'm more focused on having a career, and building a life I love ... I really enjoy my independence more than anything.

[@jenwhite]

Happy birthday! It took me some time to find friends and acquaintances who were similar - they are out there.

[@miragenesoi7026]

I needed to see this! Thank you SO MUCH!

[@jenwhite]

You are so welcome ❤️

[@RomeoMensah-k5r]

Am single can I

[@spiritofalaska]

Cope 😊

[@Glam_bambino]

34 and this is so true.. I’m definitely in an era of just enjoying my life and trying not to put that pressure on myself. Thanks for sharing so I don’t feel so alone in this lol 💕

[@jenwhite]

Yes 🙌 this is the best mindset!! And you are definitely not alone.

[@OlgaSmirnova1]

Oh darling the probabilities are that you will wind up lonely and miserable. Enjoying your life?! What does that even mean?

[@Glam_bambino]

@@OlgaSmirnova1 seems like you’re the one that’s miserable and clearly don’t have your own identity. Seeing that you had a negative comment to multiple people on this video …

[@shawnlove4502]

​@@OlgaSmirnova1 Why are you upset thay they are happy and you are not? Is it because youre unattractive and cant get anyone to commit to you?

[@Nursegirlalexandra]

@@OlgaSmirnova1 do you feel validated by bringing somebody else down? You’re obviously insecure and need it.

[@Enchanteralle]

Thank you for making this video. In my 30’s and seeing others getting married and starting families make me feel like I am not walking in the right path sometimes, but I am happy with being single because I don’t see myself with a kid or with someone just for the sake of meeting a milestone. In fact, I know ppl who got married and had kids only to learn that they are not exactly happy about it. Or end up in divorce. There are so many things I get to do being single now that I am financially stable.

[@Kaz.2719]

This is a great perspective, thank you.

[@jenwhite]

You’re welcome ☺️

[@Marcian_Bat]

Thanks a lot for your advice. I'm 31 and I've been single from 2017. The solution seems to be pretty simple and I wasnot seeing it. Sometimes I guess my negative thoughts about it don't let me see the big picture. Thanks again and greetings from 🇦🇷❤️

[@fideokojima4968]

Me gusta tu gato,me recuerda a Salem jejeje

[@thenaturalyogi5934]

Turning 33 in a few months and I keep telling people to stop bothering me with finding anyone. I'm simply not interested. Getting married or having children is not my priority so please let me live my life in peace. Not everyone is meant to repopulate an already over populated earth.

[@jenwhite]

Happy early birthday! I love that you are listening to you and what you want. It’s sometimes hard for me to block out the noise. Keep doing you!

[@giorgiapatrizi3871]

38 and just ended my 7 years relationship: I feel free and happy like never before😂 i love being lonely with my cats! Not everyone is made to live with a partner..

[@GaiaNeh1013]

Agreed about the social life! I feel like even when you're in a romantic relationship, you still need other relationships. Your life partner isn't going to be everything for you so regardless this is needed. I started dating again recently but I don't feel lonely or that I'm missing our because I connected to different people in my immediate community. I know married and divorced people, some will say don't do it! Some don't have great relationships with their kids or they have bad marriages. I personally want a family and know I can do better than those I know, but I'm not always sure I want to change my life now that I'm in a place of complete contentment. I know life changes anyway, but I'm not motivated at all to continue dating.

[@mattames6756]

My wife is the exact opposite of the person I was looking for. I love her with all my heart. She's the furthest thing from the woman I was looking for. Don't let your standards and wants in a person, ruin what could be a wonderful relationship. Honesty and Kindness are the only 2 must haves you shouldn't compromise. I see people everyday dating and marrying people that aren't kind or honest but them check all the other boxes. Those people are miserable. Date someone that isn't your type. See what happens.

[@janetholmes]

This was a breath of fresh air.

[@Lav_amb]

You can’t maintain too many friends as you get old. Acquaintance is the way to go when you feel the necessity of a company.

[@ricardajames5769]

Self-love is important . Blessings to you and everyone on this channel ❤️ 🙏

[@katiaantonova6949]

Girl, you’re beautiful and you will meet the right person eventually. Let’s keep having fun and enjoying life!

[@mob2081]

​​@colerainswaggify6387xactly but they keep telling themselves and other women this crap and believe it till they start making videos like this. Its like a man in his 60s saying I will be a millionaire while he did nothing in his life before. Women tend to rely on manifesting witchcraft signs blabla cuz they dont have much power to bend reality especially in those cases. You can not demand or wishing for prince charmin to show up.. because you feel so or want that..that prince also wishing for someone.. and that will not be a 40 years old women who had multiple Ds in her 20 and 30.. what makes him special to want you.. and want makes you special for him to choose you. But reality is to hard to accept for women thats why they tell themselves this bs. And it doesn't matter how many times men tell them this they keep denying it and then say men aren't ish and start to cry about it. But hey another life wasted.. nothing special. You go girls.

[@Sona77.]

@colerainswaggify6387 No woman wants a guy who is not financially successful eithier. 😉

[@utamu777]

@colerainswaggify6387 how do you actually know this? All of my female friends and family members who are 40+ have men who are pursuing them. Even my aunt in her 60s stays having boyfriends and men who want to marry her. You'll get older too and you'll see how it is. Men need women, that never changes. And only a small minority of young women are really available for much older men. You'll learn that as well. That's why there's so many middle-aged bitter men ranting all over the Internet.

[@daneharris2242]

@@utamu777men might pursue to get sex but not to be in a committed relationship with the intention of marriage . That’s the delusion a lot of older women have .. not because you have alot of men hollerin at you means they’re all valid dating options. Most just want sex..And I think that’s straight cap 🧢 .. not many 60+ year old men that have been thru the mill are looking for women that age to marry them..

[@ez-g3090]

yeah. let's keep encouraging her to go out on date and accumulate more damage so she becomes less and less attractive to men. great advice m0r0n!

[@rachel183321]

Being alone can be depressing but I learned to cry and then workout and sometimes workout while I cry

[@360cormier]

"stay busy so you don't think about your regrets as much" nice nice lol

[@Greg_Chase]

A long term relationship is a WANT, not a NEED. Things you NEED: food, water, clothing, shelter, an income. You might WANT a Ferrari or a $10 million dollar home but you can survive without them. WANTS vs. NEEDS. A LTR is not a NEED. It's a want. It's 100% rational to say "I don't need it" because it's true.

[@Nonyah123]

it's only tough if you care or choose to care.

[@thetruetreasure1]

how can you say such a thing don't you find yourself mentally ill without a boy??!

[@thetruetreasure1]

how can you say such a thing don't you find yourself mentally ill without a boy??!

[@nyxnightlinger7719]

I didn't mind it, but I would get lonely sometimes.

[@kawalangdalawahan]

@@thetruetreasure1maybe she doesn’t require external validation to be happy

[@magallanesagustin4952]

​@colerainswaggify6387what does this have to do with biology? This is about personal life choices.

[@susan7374]

I love your message. The lonely feeling does come and go but it gets easier by the day. We all got this ❤ love to have friends like you

[@ceciliamorales5302]

I'm 39 and people think I'm 25😂 .. if they only knew how tired I am 😫 . It's hard

[@eddieanthony6886]

Jen what were you doing in your 20s?🤷🏾‍♂️

[@Christianmorgan12]

Its hard to women who think marriage is a fairytale nd kids r possessions. Paul in the Bible encouraged singleness. So if ur a Christian jst embrace it for God. 1cor.7 It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

[@purplemonsoon8376]

This is perfect! Being single is a blessing 😊

[@86Kera]

Good advice . Beautiful and an uplifting attitude. Enjoy your life with well intentions while treating yourself and others good.

[@INFINITELOVE.01]

This is something else, so many beautiful women just giving up because they want this man they dream about, to the point that they rather be alone forever instead of just coming to GOD and ask him for a husband,not before renewing their minds to accept this husband, its really sad, i feel for this woman, she is so beautiful and she seems like a good person but she is lost, come to GOD, he have somebody for everybody, pray to him and also let him show you that man he has for you.. also, GOD can give you all you missed out here in heaven if you come to him.

[@ipercalisse579]

Dude. See a doctor asap.

[@INFINITELOVE.01]

@@ipercalisse579 GOD bless you too,repent, ask GOD for forgiveness,ask for the renewal of your mind,to give you the holy spirit,get a bible,read and learn it, specially the new testament,and i pray you and your loved ones do the same and be well, in JESUS name.

[@user-tx7rr7xe4m]

How in the world is she lost because she is single? The apostle Paul was single and he certainly wasn’t lost. What a stupid thing to say.

[@Dixie2945]

Most nuns are single and childless I don’t see anyone complaining about nuns

[@Indian-er6li]

Was married at 30 .. abusive marriage led to separation at 32, divorced at 35, no kids..37 female now and finding tough to get a spouse.. loneliness is hard

[@JosephThomas1105]

Over occupying yourself only does so much. Reason is becasue soon it becomes routine to the point where you run out of things to do and you constantly find yourself looking for "distractions" to keep your mind occupied.

[@ChamakC-vf9ow]

Those with partners are the ones who are busy looking for distractions from their relationships that were supposed to "complete" them but instead left a painful void. 😅

[@ganis9679]

Thank you for that advice, those insights, and sharing your own experience. These things are not always easy to talk about. Glad to hear you found various healthy and productive ways to deal with that! As a guy who has been single for a while, amd now opting to be single and emphasize the main areas of my life with self-growth/healing/being fully involved in the things that matter to me, I can also say it pays off so much. Going off of what you said, when you do a lot of things that make YOU happy and invest in YOURSELF in various ways, it makes a profound difference and the "being single still" thing may not bother you as much. Stay blessed and be well. 👍🏼

[@jenwhite]

Yes! Have a wonderful day 😀

[@ganis9679]

@@jenwhite Thank you! Hope you had a great Memorial Day weekend! 😃👍🏼

[@dc2355]

I see red flags. She’s pretty and women can EASILY get dates etc especially through apps. I’m not not buying the loneliness but “I do things that make me happy” part. Ladies, she’s giving you advice and she’s 40s and childless. It’s something else.

[@HeyitsTaylorXOXO]

Whoa you always look great but especially today with that shade of blue. It really makes your eyes pop 🤩

[@jenwhite]

Thank you!

[@ez-g3090]

how does she look without make up when she wakes up? ah ha ha ha!

[@o_kinzie390]

Am a lady and at 39 am still single, I wouldn't have made it through if not for Jesus Christ. He held my hands all through the difficult times, my sadness and despression. Jesus is my comfort through all the storms and I still believe by God's grace, I will still marry.

[@janetholmes]

Why not? :D Keep dreaming big! God is able and if you're still here, you've still got time. You're just as lovely as you ever were, don't let anyone tell you otherwise :)

[@juhyunkim3898]

Guys investing your money into wine and pet industry! Ya see lots of single women in 5years😂

[@ingramr88]

PLANTS! indoor plants. women also like plants. at least i do because i dont have to pick up their poop or change the litter box lol

[@alwaysyouramanda]

I’m so scared of being one of those “my first husband” women. I don’t want it. I want a FAMILY

[@timothygumenik726]

The fact a beautiful woman like you was single for a certain period of time while in your 30’s makes me feel so much better.

[@lukastojic6870]

“You are gonna be just happy” his face, and his eyes, say otherwise HAHAHAH

[@DodoToutDoux]

His?

[@ipercalisse579]

"HAHAHA?" what are u a psychopath?

[@blissbased]

​@@ipercalisse579 It's their cue to laugh, like in a 90s sitcom. ;)

[@goldenboyproductions2740]

Relationships: You’re damned if you do, you’re damned if you don’t. Our lives are what our thoughts make it-Marcus Aurelius

[@Bellywoodstudios_diadance]

Thank you Jen for this realistic video❤

[@jenwhite]

You’re welcome ☺️

[@Delrin3030]

Would you recommend a Persian or Siamese? Which is the best brand of cat food? Cat litter? What about cat toys?

[@lauraknightart]

But you look younger because you have no one to make you frown 😂

[@Clleonie]

It's called botox

[@ipercalisse579]

Thank you. This is one intelligent message. Instead of saying you have to love yourself first, but searching for something active to do, that make you happy, it IS LIFE. IT IS FOUNDATION.

[@delankeli8542]

Thats true if you choose happiness happiness chooses you

[@jenwhite]

💯

[@Rae.Jac-Knowledge]

Great advice. You can single for a while now and I'm 34. It's going on 3 years. And it's very tough but it's also good to know that I'm not alone and that there are others that also feel the same burden

[@ericwheat9540]

I am 50 now and single. I’m not single by choice, my wife died in 2018 of a bad heart condition. The way I hear women speak now, I don’t want a woman that is going to talk to me like that. I’d rather be alone.

[@tiahnarodriguez3809]

That’s you’re choice, but I doubt woman are the sole issue. You’re mindset and failure to actively look for one you’re compatible with are. You should see how men to women if you think women are bad these days.

[@bunny_0288]

@@tiahnarodriguez3809 Nope sorry, as a woman who has been happily married for 12 years and a proud non-feminist, the way women speak about men and to men nowadays is truly appalling. Show me a single woman in her 30's and 40's and can tell you why she's still single. And it's truly sad. Generations of women have been sold a lie, and are now dealing with the consequences of believing that lie. I don't blame this man for one second for bowing out. He obviously had a wonderful and respectful wife and doesn't want to deal with the modern feminist "independent boss babes" that are currently the norm on the dating market. At the current rate, by 2030 over 50% of women will be single. This is unprecedented. Men don't want toxic, entitled, ungrateful, jaded feminists, and I don't blame them.

[@OlgaSmirnova1]

@@bunny_0288 ask all these “strong queens” why are they lonely and miserable and making videos to cope with their reality?

[@Andre-py9ry]

@@bunny_0288 Preach girl! Divorced after 10 years, she thought grass is greener on the other side and now she falls asleep with bottle and crying a river. On the other hand I went to see dating market and Im in europe but what I see is huge amount single or worse single mothers in late twenties and thirties, completely delusional and narcissistic. an average/below average manly woman in her thirties and still believe she has time and deserve better. Im late X generation and woman of mine generation in that age would be happy that someone is still interested in them. But most Im bothered on men that are not men anymore, so much simps with only sexual agenda on their mind, a disgrace.

[@misterm5325]

Don't listen to those old broads. They are just defeated that another man has wised up and won't give them a crack at the nest egg they worked decades for. You are on the right path sir. You are free to enjoy your golden years.

[@kili8459]

Thank you for being so honest. I am single too and in my 40’s and it can be lonely sometimes.

[@jenwhite]

I hear ya. It can be.

[@WestShoreMan]

Marriage sucks! I know 5 couples getting divorced right now!

[@A2Kaid]

Marriage is great if 2 people are mature and right for each other.

[@ez-g3090]

yeah women have no real value to offer a man. stay single men. women have lost the value they had 100 years ago.

[@vindyo]

Almost 50 percent of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation. Children could have 3 different parents in their lives. Whatta sick american society 😅😅

[@WestShoreMan]

@@vindyo Higher rate in LA. Sad really!

[@86Kera]

I think it sucks when people stop doing the work . I know a handful of couples always remind me how much work it is . I’m always rooting for them . They’re all great parents as well .

[@recklessmynd]

Love ya girl. Thank you and preach. Let us women be strong for and with each other ❤

[@jenwhite]

💚

[@SwissNight]

I feel for you being single is a sad thing. I can sense your energy. It's not like that for everyone. Some people are genuinely happy that just like some that are miserable in a relationship. I don't think single people need videos on this as if it's a big deal and they need mental support to get through this. If you're not happy with yourself then no point being in a relationship.

[@utamu777]

I actually agree, I think this woman definitely wants a partner and should work towards that end. Not that she hasn't been trying in the past, but she may need to move to another city or some thing. Too many women spend years and years in places like LA or New York where marriage rates are low and men don't want to commit. She may need to move to the south or Midwest

[@theloversdreamersandme]

🥰 ..Sometimes being 'Single' is an absolute CHOICE..! There is no lonliness if you're whole within. SO many of my friends and family members married and divorced (even after children) because they were desperate to FILL that ROLE....that Societal 'expected' Norm that says,"..it has to happen NOW in your 30's. They were doing because they felt it was the right time or the clock was ticking.....when in essence they were settlingfor whomever made them happy at that time (..but not for the long-haul...). I hope you choose happiness as a Single, beautiful, resilient, independent, strong, fun-loving, adventurous Woman before you chase a MARRIAGE .....simply for the sake of marriage (or relationship). 💖 YOU ROCK!!

[@chrisrayburn]

I'm single to and 38. But I am happier than ever. But u don't have to be single. it's really hard to find men like me.

[@chrisrayburn]

Thank you 💕 for real . Life is wonderful if u know how where and when to look. God bless you .

[@phiosopher8712]

It’s so strange that you never once suggested People to seek relationship, actively position themselves to be relationship material. Your advice is “here’s what to do to ensure you will be single in your 40s.”

[@supriya9000]

Hmm . I think all men out there are Unchivalrous these days. So staying single..

[@Yourbody_MYCHOICE]

Hmmmm.. I think all women out there are 304s these days. So stay single and pump n dump

[@knuclestheechidna5406]

Expecting men to be chivalrous is sexist. Nobody owes you anything.

[@waqasshah684]

I am 31 from KPK, PAKISTAN, and still single, and it really hurts facing people in our society

[@gerrimiller3491]

I learned to observe, pay close attention, let the guy talk more so i can see if God wants us to enter into a healthy relationship that will lead to marriage. God hears our prayers

[@oldLady512]

I'm single and old. And I've never even dated before. So I really am the leftover woman no one wants. So any of y'all singles who have at least dated someone, you're doing better than me! Congrats!

[@janetholmes]

My grandpa has a Dutch saying "Every pot has a lid". If you're still here, you've still got time.

[@t-point7569]

It’s only the beginning women across America 🇺🇸 will all be single by 2035

[@ez-g3090]

yeah they have no real value to offer a man.

[@Queenofpentacles1]

Single at 40 and I sleep like baby every single night lol … I’ll only be in a relationship if there is zero drama … the moment sniff drama I’m out !

[@jenwhite]

I totally agree with you!

[@A2Kaid]

Totally unrealistic

[@Queenofpentacles1]

@@A2Kaid for who ? It’s okay be single, needing a relationship to be happy is a sign you need therapy

[@A2Kaid]

@@Queenofpentacles1 you seem mentally ill and trying to find ways to cope. I was referring to ‘zero drama’ being unrealistic, but you got easily triggered.

[@Queenofpentacles1]

@@A2Kaid stop projecting … what woman hurt you ? Only unbalance person seeks relationship just to have it rather than relationship based in truth and love … weirdo

[@rachel183321]

I’ve been single since 2019 now I’m a single mom so that missing peace of my life I’m trying to let it go but it still hurts being ugly and single is very difficult

[@INFINITELOVE.01]

Single people,keep other people single!

[@Ronydoo-yv2hs]

Misery loves company. Single people.

[@Clleonie]

​@@Ronydoo-yv2hsyou're married and hating it aren't you.

[@paulwmue]

This woman is a classic example of single for life. I'm dating in my 50s and I run across A LOT of these women, waiting around for some super high value guy, hitting all the checkboxes that no longer exists. After 40, those guys are a rare rare unicorn and you are competing with the top .01% of women for them. The pool of guys is massively tilted towards guys who are narcisists, single forever with commitment issues, attachment issues, sexual issues who you'd never want to date. The more you build a life you're happy with, the more you are convincing yourself dating is unneccesary and the more you get comfortable and normalized to the loneliness of not having a partner. Single for life people are a total waste of time.

[@laremabella]

I personally hate the comments that say "if its Gods will". Its always Gods will for women to bring life into the world, hence why we have wombs and periods. It's just that we stay in wrong relationships, waste time, life can be unfair etc. Im 34 and im not gonna lie, i regret staying in wrong relationships and all the other traumatic things i went through. I grieve every day over having no children and feeling helpless to make it happen. Its not that easy to meet someone and its tiring. I dont enjoy being single and havig no family of ny own. If i dont have my own family by 40, i think I'll find the nearest cliff edge. My life will have been pointless.

[@Dixie2945]

Girl are you okay?

[@css1998]

Trust me fellas I'm 25 and being single gets easier and easier everyday. Just live life take care of your health go out and do stuff that you enjoy doin and you'll finally realize that a women isn't even in the top 10 things that you want in life.

[@softsouthernknight]

MGTOW is FREEDOM. Single since 1993.

[@Vv-fl2rm]

😂😂😂🤡🎪

[@chadcadsonvii5258]

They don't know about mgtow yet, wait until the JP MORGAN analysis makes its way into the femosphere and the passport bro movement keeps on growing. Then you'll see some real panic.

[@afroaesthete3701]

Failure

[@lipstickytoffee]

And you're announcing this in the comment section of KZbin video, that doesn't apply to you, thirty years on, because you're so free.

[@softsouthernknight]

Yes.@@lipstickytoffee

[@devikrishnan9688]

Thanks lady ! ❤🙏🏽

[@apophis9192]

Women have no idea what loneliness is. Must be nice to be able to get invited out by acquaintances.

[@PanteraRosa91]

You mean romantically right? I'm a woman and I've being single since 2019. I spent these years building my career, having quality time with my family and friends, trying new sports, traveling... I haven't feel loneliness in all these years I must say. What I believe is, because of recent history, humans in general give too much relevance to marrying and romantic relationships, when we suddenly live in an era where children aren't that much needed anymore, as the world is full populated 🫤 so we should evolve ourselves to understand that marrying only to "build a family" shouldn't be the main reason to be in a romantic relationship. Just my opinion!

[@lipstickytoffee]

that attitude is what's keeping you lonely

[@crystinamarie1]

Thank you babe! I needed to hear this ❤

[@joemart6887]

You seem like such a lovely lady. If the circumstances and distance were more suitable, I would have loved to take you out for a cup of coffee! :)

[@misterm5325]

Really bro?

[@knuclestheechidna5406]

She's not going to do anything with you bro.

[@ipercalisse579]

Can i... date you instead? But im Italian and live in Italy😅 anyway I hope you appreciate! I'm a hostess, 39, brunette.

[@joemart6887]

@@ipercalisse579 Aw, dear. You're so sweet for reaching out to me, but I don't know how to even direct message you through KZbin.

[@rollin100s9]

The more you sleep with other people the harder it will be to find that special 1

[@winstonliang9710]

I’m a single 27 year old man who experiences symptoms of loneliness, anxiety and depression from years of isolation. I’m at least a 8.5/10 on the look scale and tower at a height of 6’1. Not sure what to make of the situation at hand but I’m open to advice.

[@MediumKeyChannel]

therapy

[@janetholmes]

You're super young! Don't let your mental stuff slow you down; the right person will make you feel comfortable just as you are. The biggest thing isn't so much looks, it's more about how you look after yourself. Self love glows and it's really attractive. You deserve to feel good about you! And you're worth that investment. Any processed sugar, low Vitamin D, and low magnesium greatly impact mood. I strongly recommend cutting out processed foods and sugars as much as possible. If your budget is tight, cabbage, carrots, onions, and potatoes are super cheap and nutrient dense. Fish and coconut oil will help your brain form new connections, magnesium from cocoa powder reduces anxiety and jittery-ness. Who knows, maybe you're already on your way :P All the best!

[@georginakourtis4735]

Go on some dating services...church...just..go around make a card with your name and number..ask around..leave it with people..someone will know someone..

[@elizabeetle13-k4z]

No handsome, tall man is isolated unless they do it to themselves.

[@MrEliasdl]

She should be giving advice to late teen early 20s girls to avoid this life and seek a family. I guess that advice comes when she is 50.

[@jenwhite]

Who is she?

[@alexv1190]

Kids suck

[@MhaizAnnie]

I’m 32 years and in my 25 I told God that at my 25yrs I will get married unfortunately I saw a man then I was still a virgin immediately he got me disvirgin I began to hate him and going out with friends we broke up and ever since then I have never loved someone 😢finally last last year I fell inlove with a guy I’m 2yrs older than but the depression he put me through made me so strong that I promised myself I will never stay under a man that’s a cage I’m not settling for I’m happy for anyone who choose to marry but as for me money first I’m broke training my child so I don’t need any man to separate me from my daughter she has gone through a lot with me thanks for sharing this

[@leosthrivwithautism]

I gave up on finding love. Instead I chose to live my life. Do what makes me happy and really make the most of it. For me personally it was the best decision of my life no having to worry lifted heavy weight off my shoulder. To to a similar extent I can agree with this video. Find what makes you happy. It works!

[@TheAbundanceVibration]

Thanks so much. Haven’t dated in 4 years and it’s catching up to me.

[@jenwhite]

You’re welcome 😊

[@bigcheech1937]

It’s awesome for men 👍🏾👏🏾

[@devinc9]

34 and dated for one period between 28-30 which was enough to know I am happier single, made some good friends out of it though. It definitely doesn't suck.

[@bigcheech1937]

@@devinc9 My man 🙏🏾

[@alexandercoll4863]

Short term “happiness” vs long term fulfillment very different

[@ellabella7071]

You look amazing! You look like your in your 20s!!

[@jenwhite]

You are very kind. Thank you ☺️

[@Straightarrow7777]

I'm 27 and single. Your gorgeous. I loveee your eyes. You got this btw!

[@spinner5079]

You definetly cry at night

[@user-tx7rr7xe4m]

Victim of the “male loneliness epidemic” projecting I see

[@CrimzinEclipse2010]

When single women get into their 30s and 40s, they start to experience a small inkling of what dating is like for 18-29 year old men.

[@ez-g3090]

women are like cars they lose their value with age and require more maintenance.

[@blissbased]

Um, no.... there's more demand for me now in my late 30s than ever before in my Life. I am also stronger and healthier than ever before and I Like myself more than ever before. The thing is I don't settle for crap anymore and while sexist and age-ist perspectives may seem comforting or funny, they're really not universally true. They're also self-defeating because everyone ages and has a sex or at least pretends to have one. All the best.

[@blissbased]

Plus, you can only really have an opinion about that once you've been a female all your Life and unwanted attention by men for decades and from an early age is much, much worse than getting no attention.