Single, Lonely and Frustrated | Responding to Comments | Is Singleness Content the Problem?

Don’t get it twisted, you can enjoy your season of singleness and still feel lonely and hopeless at many points in the journey. That journey is then made worse when you feel like the content directed to you is stating the obvious and condescending under the guise of being ‘advice’. So let’s talk about it sis.
✨ Order my debut book here:
🇬🇧 UK Link - amzn.to/3T071RC
🇺🇸 USA Link - www.amazon.com...
🇿🇦 South Africa - www.panmacmill...
🤍 Keep up with me on socials:
/ cdboateng
/ cdboateng
/ courtneydaniellaboateng
/ cdboateng
🎙️ Listen to my podcast:
Apple: www.shorturl.a...
Spotify: www.shorturl.a...
💌 Join a sisterhood with real conversations and community:
/ tomysisterhood
www.tomysister...
/ tomysisterhood
🤍 For affordable and accessible online therapy visit: www.betterhelp...
www.faithfulco...
💻 For business enquiries email [e-mail]
*some of these links are affiliated so I may receive a small commission that goes toward supporting my channel and content.

[@faylasmith5578]

I’m surprised at the anger in those comments! I’ve always found your videos to be encouraging and balanced. I don’t understand why you would be expected to speak on a married women’s experience when that is not a faze of life you’ve gone through yourself. I very much enjoy you and the podcast. Thank you!

[@Rania-px5pg]

Exactly my thoughts.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Aww thank you so much ❤️ this is very encouraging

[@jainejane107]

It’s funny because even though people sent negative comments, Courtney has been able to turn it into something really positive. I loved this video ❤

[@CourtneyDaniella]

❤️❤️ thank you

[@mariah8400]

Every stage of life brings a variety of emotions. More than one things can be true at the same time. Some people don't seem to understand nuances.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

As in! ❤️

[@cherie.camille]

"Be better people for being better people's sake. Heal for healing's sake." Love this and love your content, Courtney. You're a bright light in a world of negativity. Thank you for sharing yourself with us and for remaining true to who you are 💖

[@CourtneyDaniella]

❤️ this means a lot. Thank you so much

[@sumring12]

Courtney, pls never stop all that you do. It makes my day each time you post. Lots of love my dear sister ❤

[@CourtneyDaniella]

❤️❤️ this means a lot to me

[@virtuouzgirl8328]

I think there's a lot of frustration single women in church are feeling because they're constantly targeted and being told they need to be perfect for marriage. I think it's good your acknowledging that it exists, it's a shame cause I've seen this a lot in Nigerian churches

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Trust me, I hear and i've felt. This is one of the reasons I've made the content I do for single women, we need the balance of content that doesn't tell us the solution to being single is preparing for a relationship

[@iamchanel_b]

you are just so classy. i really admire the way you responded to these comments. you shedded light with respect to others feelings while still maintaining your grounds. I love that for you! Keep doing what you're doing girl, us girls really appreciate your singleness content.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

❤️ I appreciate this

[@jaywatson6261]

Thank you for this insightful and very balanced content. I've just turned 67, I'm a single Christian woman, retired and running my own tutoring business. I have a variety of interests/hobbies, that I do enjoy, but I do feel the pressures of not being married, not having that special someone to share my life with. I received two proposals during my life's journey, but both men were not right for me. I'm glad that I found your KZbin platform. I appreciate your frank and very honest views, particularly pertaining to the fact that it's not always rosy in the garden of singleness, as, like the rose, it has many thorns that can be very painful. I still have the desire to meet the right person for me and hopefully, one day, get married if it's God's will

[@nathanieldortch399]

But TRULY and honestly, no one really wants to be alone, we are designed and born to be with someone and being Single actually runs it's course really Fast and having a lot of friends still doesn't fill that void of having someone of your own, it's not the same as being in a relationship with someone, frustrated emotions just comes with hand in hand being Alone.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

I agree but this doesn't take away from the fact that the single SEASON can be enjoyed.

[@sumring12]

I appreciate that you are not apologizing for seeing the brighter side and adding positivity to such a negative space. Its not easy to do , but its always encouraging! I would love for you to do another video on the "ways" in which you put God first in your life in ALL aspects. Favorite bible plans, or books or scriptures etc.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

❤️❤️ thank you so much and what an amazing video suggestion. I'll get on that x

[@WordsPictures997]

Thank you so much for how you've so graciously addressed this. This was so so good! Also ... " I also expect said community to take care of me " THIS!!!! Loved this statement. Thank you for saying that so honestly. I hear you. You are loved. You are appreciated ❤

[@CourtneyDaniella]

❤️ this means a lot to me. Thank you

[@lynnk.0]

Thank goodness I'm not a bitter single woman😂😂😂 ew they can have that

[@CourtneyDaniella]

As in EWWWWWW 😂

[@snowym7188]

All this singleness content has personally helped me.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

I'm so so glad ❤️

[@AbioWinfred]

i just wanna tell you that your content is good.i think people who are not happy with you encouraging other single women to continue living their best lives and to never settle for a man just for the sake of dating should look for their own people.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Thank you so so much x

[@joyceadewumi1365]

Loving this hair oh👌🏾

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Thank you ❤️

[@shamisodzumbira]

As someone who God has confirmed that I will get married I genuinely was wondering where the man was and maybe I wasn't in a space to be in a relationship because I felt like I was going backwards .I realized that I'm not doing the work to get a ring or to be with someone. This video was everything I needed thank you Courtney for sharing with usssssss. 😊

[@CourtneyDaniella]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@sharonmbaegbu6169]

Love your content always ❤

[@CourtneyDaniella]

❤️ thank you so much

[@Tiffs80sdream]

Exactly. I think people miss the point of singleness videos. Like you said, I believe most of these KZbinrs are just helping single women feel comfortable and enjoy their single lives, not telling them they need to be single and this is how you stay that way. Also, I am currently feeling the singleness blues. I am 31, no kids, and super introverted so it's been hard for me to find a man who will someday become my husband and get out there and date. It's become so bad I've started getting envious of every woman I know that has someone. I know that's a sign I'm needing a lot of work on myself, and your video helped me to see that I need to be comfortable with me first, and accept my current situation, so I can reduce those feelings of envy.

[@shopwithleslie]

Great commentary! And on balance, if single women feel lonely and hopeless at various points in their lives, they are prepared for marriage. People seems to act like marriage is an end all of some kind, and I have witnessed over decades that it is not. I have seen more tragedy and despair among married and divorced women than single women. I am NOT saying that marriage can't be great as I have seen that too. Unfortunately though not as much happiness compared to misery and despair.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Ohhh wow! Man it's true, we have to have balanced representation of the truth - not matter what the experience is in any given status.

[@life-is-here]

This video is an important reminder that being single is nothing to be ashamed of and can be a time of growth and joy. Thanks, @life-is-here

[@CourtneyDaniella]

❤️❤️

[@nhmdlamini3138]

I've always found your content grounding. The reality that marriage is not without problems is important and ensures we don't idolize marriage as single women.

[@risenhope8286]

Courtney- you are so incredibly helpful. Like without a doubt. And that’s period.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

❤️ Thank you so much

[@sha-maisworld7515]

Your Hair and Make up😍

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Thank you!

[@J_aech94]

Well spoken words, Courtney

[@CourtneyDaniella]

Thank you so much ❤️

[@naeb9486]

I love this! Everything was spot on.

[@Dee___..]

Those ladies definitely misunderstood you. The whole point of the video flew over their heads. I think it is because of their mental state. They view life based on a part of them that is frustrated/hasn’t healed and so they see everything through that lens and get easily triggered.

[@jbanson7030]

You are spitting the whole darn truth 👏

[@CourtneyDaniella]

I'm trying ❤️

[@JewelPressedRecord]

This was an awesome take, I appreciate it!

[@CourtneyDaniella]

You are more than welcome ❤️

[@deesott5123]

Love you Courtney ❤🎉 your content is everything . Also please more storytime videos

[@CourtneyDaniella]

❤️❤️ thank you!

[@adepa_00]

Jenny Jenny Jenny, how many times have I called your name?! I remember you ladies mentioning her on your podcast and the comments she has been leaving under your videos, she still hasn't stopped? Wow.😂 Anyways, loved the video, thank you always for your wise and encouraging words.❤

[@CourtneyDaniella]

LOOOOOL ❤️ thank you sis

[@newid10]

I’m coming from the perspective of being worried about singleness when I was 25 to being married a few laters then single again after a divorce. I’ve not watched enough of your videos to say if those commenters had valid points about your particular videos but they did make some valid points. In hindsight, it was ridiculous for me to have been as anxious as I was about single when I was 25. HOWEVER being single in your 30s is a completely different experience. The friends that you would have been able to enjoy time with have mostly all married and have children and don’t have time for you. If you haven’t had a child by then, you also have the pressure/worry about your biological clock ticking and this alone is an extremely difficult thing to grapple with. Women who are married are put on a pedastool like they have “won” at life. In Christian circles, a single woman is viewed as an outcast who should be used for all her time to do all the jobs in the church that the married women don’t have time to do. So I can understand where the commentators were coming from, especially the one who said she is older.

[@CourtneyDaniella]

I completely hear you and not putting married women on a pedestal is one of the main reasons why I make some my content. I create content to speak to my audience which is mostly women in my age group. I can only share from my experience which is being single in your early twenties and I try to make that clear through my content - that is is my experience and lesson I have learnt. Thank you so much for your comment!

[@newid10]

@@CourtneyDaniella thanks for your reply. I think then that the criticism of your videos is unfair. As an older woman myself I wouldn’t place certain viewing/listening expectations on someone who is a lot younger. You seem to be doing a good job, so keep it up!

[@reviewersmith3549]

Lol it’s the toxic girls getting wifed