SINGLENESS & DATING: Waiting on God, or Taking Initiative?

When it comes to dating, what is our role? Should we be waiting on God, and if so, what does that even mean? Or, should we be taking initiative, and if so, what does that look like? Do we "let go and let God"? Do we download Christian mingle? HOW SHOULD A CHRISTIAN GO ABOUT MEETING SOMEONE?!
In this video I'm sharing what I think the answer is, and it might not be what you think. 😉
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[@kacinicole]

It makes my heart SO happy to hear what you guys think of this 😊 my hope and prayer is that this perspective brings freedom and removes any guilt or pressure. Thanks so much for watching!

[@singlehomenafrican7960]

very b hay i love i am single black

[@AmberDennis001]

Thanks for the video. I’m thinking about taking initiative instead of just praying. I need to get skinny and Breast reduction surgery to find a man

[@emmanuelunyema1471]

Im been single my whole life feel loneley simetimes but i know the comfort God gives to me is greater than the comfort anyone will ever give, shalom

[@waitingfinding9848]

Our Podcast is dedicated to helping the single believer in their season of waiting! Please give us a listen. 😃

[@asifmuniruniverse7732]

Hi kaci

[@markmoore8399]

I have "least expected it" for at least 8 years. I never want to hear that phrase again because God's guidance on relationships is so much better than my own.

[@kacinicole]

Totally agree that it's not one of the best phrases to use on this topic

[@sofiasmith4083]

That “when you least expect it” is THE worse. The 2nd worse is “have you tried...... yet?”

[@markmoore8399]

@@sofiasmith4083 I guess that makes the 3rd worse, "Have you asked (name of person) out yet?". This has been done to me in the past whenever there is a picture with myself and a woman in a photo. That does not happen much these days in my life haha.

[@JB-kx9bx]

@@RachelNichols-writerNot sure if you’re a guy or woman (I guess woman based on your name). I totally get people being bitter, but have you set reasonable expectations?

[@selohcin]

"Love comes when you least expect it" is true ONLY for women. That doesn't ever work for men.

[@YT-yn9st]

Amen. I had to come out of a relationship with an unbeliever after 7 months. She was trying to lead me away from God without knowing. I tried to bring her to God, but missionary dating seldom works. I will trust on God to bring the right woman in my life. I pray that all the single people will fully trust on God to bring them their right Godly partner

[@kacinicole]

Amen, I love that prayer!

[@nehaelis8323]

God bless you

[@marjoriemoral378]

Amen. God will give us the best. I hope my future husband is in good health and happy ❤

[@natashaamber2664]

Amen

[@Zoe-World256]

Hi

[@Pacifica74]

From my own experience at seeing how God works - yes you do take the initiative but that's only after God first arranges the circumstances so that you are in the right place at the right time to have the opportunity to take the initiative in.

[@tishataray]

Love this Quote"God works differently in each one's life". Great vid

[@kacinicole]

Ah so glad you liked it. Thanks Tisha 😊

[@regancrowe5330]

I just heard this recently and I feel it fits in well with this issue. In a sermon I recently listened to the pastor said, “ don’t lower your standards, lengthen your patience.” I feel this is a good “in between”statement. If the person is not right keep waiting, if you feel this person meets biblical standards give it a shot. This does involve having your eyes open.

[@anakarennina8182]

I choose to wait on God; let's allow God to write our love story because it always has a happy ending. Let's be patient enough to wait for the man that God ordained for us because I always believe that God has never been intimidated by our age. He got a word over our lives. Always remember that shallow values produces empty victories.

[@alexadirmannrodriguez9198]

Seriously, best godly AND realistic advice ever! Not over-spiritualized, but still biblically accurate, and so, so true! My story in meeting my husband actually WAS a mixture of both waiting and pursuing, and all of it was beautifully orchestrated by the Lord! Love this, Kaci! Would definitely recommend this video to any single friends I have struggling with the same question. :)

[@kacinicole]

Wow this is SUCH an encouraging comment, thank you - and I'm so so glad you liked it! So cool that your story was a beautiful mixture of BOTH! That just continues to show that God can work in so many different ways 😊 I'm so glad this is something you'd share with single friends - thank you thank you!!! 💗

[@suzzuna13]

I'm confused should I pursue this guy that I like for 4 years or do I need to keep on waiting until he decides to ask me out. I had put up walls when we first met. we were coworkers so my focus is mainly about work not on building a romantic relationship with him. i felt bad because it took me years to finally admit to myself that i like him. i just hope it's not yet too late. we have simple conversation sometimes but it's more of a friendly one. maybe he became cautious or also built his walls. i just wish we can meet again so i can clarify what's this I'm feeling

[@alexissashanicolle8675]

@@suzzuna13 if you want an honest opinion, I would move on. If a guy is giving only friend vibes he probably isn’t interested. Please open your heart to meet someone who will pursue you and not make you second guess where you stand with him. You deserve it 🙂

[@jadajohnson7957]

Dear God, please give my future husband strength and wisdom today. Please give him the strength to face the temptations the world lays constantly before him. Help him in his battles and struggles, and please let him know you're beside him at all times. Help him grow stronger in you every day.

[@MsPassiontea]

I was meditating on the story of Isaac and Rebecca last month and I have never red it the way I red it before. I just feel in love with their story the entire time. I am 33 years old, my last relationship was 3 years ago. It really is a struggle specially when you know your ex is already in a happy relationship yet here I am still struggling with singleness. But reading the word and trusting God with everything that’s happening in my life is really giving me the strength I need. When I feel like questions are starting to build up on my mind about my singleness, I just pray to Him. I surrendering everything to Him is hard because too many temptations are around us but having a family in Christ who supports me thru constant fellowship, reading the word, being intentional with my prayers and realising my feelings thru journaling is very very helpful. Also watching videos like this motivates me even more. What I learned thru this process, I don’t want any ordinary relationship. I want a guy that God has ordained for me. Just like Rebecca to Isaac. Not Mr. right but His anointed for me...2 things that struck me with my learning thru my singleness. 1. God may want me to remain single because He wants me to be His alone and not too distracted with human relationship like I was before. After all He knows my heart. And being in a relationship makes me weak specially if its an unequally yoked one. 2. I will just constantly and continuously trust His process and timing. Because there is still hope in my heart that one day God will write my love story too hahaha. Thank you so much for sharing this video! Love love this so much! Full of truth. Also I am in love with your bed hahaha!!

[@kacinicole]

I love what you shared - and love what you are doing to practically choose surrender in the day to day. So important and so good! Believing God has amazing plans for you as well 😊 Thank you so much for watching!!! (Also, I wish I could say the bed was mine but I filmed this at my friend's house - so pretty, right? 😍)

[@gabriellecimon]

I’m in the same situation ❤️

[@Isis77176]

AMEN. I needed this..

[@iloveGod1105]

Praise God for your message and insight dear One! Your love and you sharing this has encouraged ME!!!!!! you are a blessing! You stay encouraged too! 💛

[@Fierclyfabulous]

Did you meet someone since then?

[@tiavance]

So glad I stumbled across this video. I've been so conflicted on whether I should be putting myself out there and actively dating OR just laying low, waiting on God. It's gotten to the point where I would cry every night because I was legit confused and didn't know what path to take. This has helped given me clarity on the matter and something I will definitely pray and seek guidance from God on to clarify which season he has me in! Thank you for the video!

[@iloveGod1105]

God bless you Tia! You have such a beautiful heart! Praying for you dear!!! 💛💛💛

[@sabrinapringle5776]

Amen. This was such a beautiful and encouraging word I needed to hear . God bless you 💞

[@nicoledennis-lawrence3326]

Sound! Solid! Excellent! Thanks immensely for making this presentation. It has Excellence all over it!

[@petrahany539]

Thank you so much for this! This video is sooo needed on Christian KZbin!!

[@kelischroeder6924]

I am SO glad i found your channel! you speak such light & motivate me in my walk with Christ!

[@watitduful]

Very good breakdown and God bless you! You hit the nail on the head in noting that no story is going to be the same and how we can often make the mistake of comparing and trusting in the blessing instead of the Blesser. Both stories you brought up communicate the fact that God is can operate any way He chooses. God is infinite and not finite in being and thought like we humans are.

[@jackieferrarimusic]

This was sooo helpful. I don’t see too many videos that address this topic from a balanced perspective, I battle with confusion habit this everyday, thank you for this!

[@corrindaforeman1698]

AMEN, There was just so much wisdom, in how you lied this out, I have been single for a long time and I kid you not I just started to realize so much of what you were saying recently. Wow! keep it up!

[@raphaellavantveer2711]

I love how you included Bible stories in your answer to relationship questions. All you said is very true and touched me deeply, thank you for sharing, please keep it up!!

[@socallawrence]

Nice video Kaci. For me it’s waiting on the Lords perfect timing to bring my Proverbs 31 woman. Until then may the Lord shape and mold me to be that godly husband and spiritual leader 😁

[@kkluvdancey51]

I just wanted to say I so appreciate the wisdom you share in all your videos. I am someone who often over-analyzes and asks others' opinion to the point of paralyzation. I'm so often begging God for the answers without hearing Him instead of first pursuing intimacy with Him in order to be able to discern what he's saying to me directly. Your wisdom has really opened my eyes to that, which has been most refreshing. Thank you for sharing what God puts on your heart - it makes a big difference!

[@EvinNazya]

This was one of the best vids I've seen on this topic

[@randyyoder4898]

I'm 42 and have never been married and ever since my early twenties I have had many people ask me why I'm not married or encourage me to get married etc. I'm fixing to buy a farm and focus on what I enjoy doing. I would still like to get married as much as anyone but I assume it's over for me. I'm basically just pursuing my little hobbies and things that have kept me very busy all my life. Thanks for sharing, nice young lady. Signed, Lonely and Single in Tennessee

[@nicholaschuma6304]

I’ll buy a farm too later😃😃

[@1014p]

Die alone, the musical piece nobody should have to endure. It only makes me angry and sad. I recently stopped building a home for her but only for me. Maybe I can buy happiness..

[@Lovelife-567]

This was so interesting thank you! Personally I’m in a relationship that feels wrong but once I get out of it I think I’m ready for a resting season 😊❤✝️

[@VIRUSINTERNACIONAL]

Exelente video y esperar en Dios no es el camino mas facil, pero en el trayecto del mismo crece la fe y la espera se hace mas liviana.... Dios contigo eternamente Nicole....

[@alexanderb5726]

Thank you for supporting the balanced approach. I believe this as well but I was often torn on how to act on the topic of finding "the one". And people were so divided on this matter I almost became frustrated like could *someone* just give me a decisive theology on this. If I sometimes felt like approaching I felt like I might be distrusting God and going in the flesh; If I simply surrendered it it sometimes felt like I was naive and expecting God to do everything for me.

[@leonaho6555]

Hi Kaci, I have also been confused by mixed messages from Christians about dating approaches. I like that you drew the answer from Bible stories. I appreciate your clear and concise articulation of your ideas. Your video certainly offers me a more balanced view. I thank God for the way this platform allows you to help others.

[@jesusiskingofmyheart]

i found this video so helpful! it makes so much sense when you break it down like this with examples. thank you ❤️

[@summerskies5581]

Kaci, thanks for posting the videos on dating (and your other video about online dating). I'm in my 50s, been divorced for 20 years, raising my child by myself. He's gown now so I'm wanting to start dating and it's a bit scary, not to mention living in a rural area, so online dating will probably be a must. Thanks again and God bless.

[@aheatherw88]

This is so great, thank you! I needed to hear this.

[@musicislife7464]

What does stepping out look like ?.😩 your right about the fear part I think that’s the season I am in .

[@vella8650]

Wow, I never thought about those stories as revealing those things.

[@Viviii914]

We need to trust God to do what he does- takes care and provides. He is very creative and will make it look different for everyone. We don’t know how but we do know it will be done. ❤️

[@blooms1543]

wow I just came across your channel! I've been trying to find life giving woman of God on youtube to watch. I am so happy I found your channel!

[@kacinicole]

Aw this makes my heart so happy!! I hope you enjoy my videos to come 😊

[@carmencruz1444]

AWESOME DEVOTIONAL, IT SPOKE TO MY HEART. GOD BLESS YOU YOUNG LADY!

[@kacinicole]

Ah this makes my heart so happy to hear! Praise God it spoke to your heart. Thanks for watching/reading! 😊

[@familycritchfield7376]

The first thing I noticed was the fancy bed in the background Oh and also thank you so much for this video! I've never struggled much with my singleness but I want to be prepared for when Satan may try to use it against me, so thank you!

[@agathalima1222]

What an amazing video! Thank you! I needed that!

[@allforyourglory440]

Amen 💯. Thank you Holy Spirit for the confirmation!!!

[@chandlercoates7637]

This was better advice then I expected :)

[@againstalloddshomesteading8101]

Thank you for sharing this sister!

[@aliciaray1272]

...loved that this was so palatable; not overspiritualized or minimized. well said.

[@kacinicole]

What an encouragement - thank you!

[@vassooramanjooloo6011]

Good stuffs My Friend .. Glory to God !! God is our match maker .. HE knows the right season for each and everyone 👍🙏🏽🔥

[@kacinicole]

Amen! This is so true 🙌🏼

[@Ruzeth]

Hi Kaci, I love your videos! Thanks for making them, I love people who talk about Christian topics!

[@kacinicole]

Aw thank you so much, Ruzeth! 😊

[@promero0405]

Love this, thank you for this explanation and for your vulnerability

[@kacinicole]

I'm so happy to hear that!

[@WayOfHaQodesh]

Thank you for sharing this Kaci ❤️🙏❤️ Been single for nearly 7 years now and though there are days I wonder if I'll ever love again (in an intimate partner that is) after a very toxic relationship leaving many life lessons good and bad, I trust that if I am worthy and ready to find true love God will ordain it so. God bless you ❤️🙏❤️

[@kacinicole]

Yes, you are SO worthy! I'm so glad God brought you from that toxic relationship and believing with you that He will bring you into something so much better!

[@latonyadampier9449]

This is so Good and so GOD 👏 🎉Thank you so very much for sharing ❤ 😊 GOD Bless you 💖 🙏

[@LinnsKorner]

Love this so much! This definitely showed me things I haven't seen before. Thank you!!

[@kacinicole]

Ah, praise God - that makes me so happy to hear 😊

[@chriscomeaux3354]

This is a blessing. I think people in general unnecessarily place a stigma on singleness. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with wanting to be in a relationship. I like how in your article you mention that there are pros and cons to each season. At the end, each season is ultimately what you make of it. Singleness can be an opportunity to maximize your efforts on helping others, learning more about yourself, and seeking God. You don't have all the obligations of a relationship. God has plans for everyone if we are willing to let him, and those plans are for good and not bad (Jeremiah 29:11). I am 20 years old and have never had a serious relationship, but am trying to grow and serve as much as possible before he presents the right woman to me. His plan for you can be compared to a GPS. We are presented with the best route but we don't have to take that route. He wants us to follow him by choice. The GPS ultimately isn't driving the car. God's will is a very complex and beautiful aspect that is beyond our understanding. Just give it all to him and the rest will follow!

[@kacinicole]

Such wise words here! It's about seeking Him to see where He has us and striving to be obedient and find contentment wherever that is!

[@marjoriemoral378]

I was scared to be alone maybe this is the reason why I keep falling into wrong and ungodly relationship. Praying that my future Godly husband is healthy and happy. Waiting for him to find me 😌

[@allthingsbrie924]

Wooowww!!! This is really good❤❤❤❤❤❤. I love this so much

[@netpal7818]

Thank you! Singleness is a gift. ❤️(new subscriber from 🇵🇭)

[@kacinicole]

Thank you - I'm so happy to have you here, Dona! 😊

[@dacia6247]

This is really helpful for me right now considering I am trying to find a job and its really applying to this too! Thanks Kaci.

[@SS-rh9ho]

Hey Dacia

[@kiddulemelam8017]

God bless you dear this is the exact question that i am confusing & asking people always but now i got the answer thanks. God is the guider for all individual we should ask him. But when i try to take initative i would be guilty.

[@candacechambers2003]

Perfect answer! Don't try to follow other people's mold but God's! 😊😊😊

[@kacinicole]

YES exactly! 💛 Thanks for watching!

[@michaelb388]

You know what, you actually got me to laugh and tear up at the same time when you said "you are not doing it wrong". Every day, I feel like I'm moving towards one step towards trying to take more control and another where I might be trying to take a step back. Maybe I'm in a season where I need to start testing my limits. I've been single for almost 10 years now and I honestly can't remember the last time I really tried to push myself out there. I also have mixed feelings about the love I feel for a long-time friend of mine so I'm just all over the place right now. I have been praying to figure out what is the best next step for me.

[@Shaara1]

I've been waiting for God so long that I started thinking maybe I'm supposed to die single.

[@geromegacrama284]

God is Good , it is not an accident why i came up in this video 😊😊😊

[@laurabowden760]

Love this Kaci! So much truth that brings us way back to the truth. You're totally right, we're human and will always experiences the ebbs and flows of life, feeling confident being single and trusting, and days where we want the relationship. It's inevitable to feel the highs & lows and your video is a encouragement in the midst of it! Thank you for sharing xx

[@kacinicole]

Ah, thank you so much and I'm SO glad it was an encouragement! Yes, I think accepting there will be ebbs and flows and not beating ourselves up for it brings so much FREEDOM. Thanks for watching 😊

[@davidpierce8469]

Hi Laura. I'm David Pierce from Madison, Wisconsin, 42, single(scared of dating apps), I'm a cyber security specialist for NASA (not a geek) . Looking to meet someone out here and I believe God directed me to you. . Are you single? Then you'd love to know me I assure you.

[@jasonharley7902]

This blessed me a lot

[@jenniferaugustin7544]

This really helped me! I don't know why as Christians we get so many confusing messages about dating. A lot of it leads to guilt and unnecessary pressure. I love what you said about God being relational. That is what He has shown me too. I love talking with Him about my struggles in this area. He does care about my feelings and I am truly trusting in His leading of my walk with Him.

[@airishviscara2326]

"I wait for the Lord my soul waits and in His word I out my hope"

[@RoniiiB]

This is the best video on this topic !!!!!!!!!!!!

[@AmessengerofChrist]

This was really good. Thank you.

[@brelynnbille1586]

#StillSingleDevotional @brelynn.bille this video is so amazing!! i showed it to all the middle school girls i work with at my youth group! love seeing how God continues to use you in this world Kaci!

[@davidpierce8469]

Hi Brelynn . I'm David Pierce from Madison, Wisconsin, 42, single(scared of dating apps), I'm a cyber security specialist for NASA (not a geek) . Looking to meet someone out here and I believe God directed me to you. . Are you single? Then you'd love to know me I assure you.

[@johnoldfield2805]

Duvet looks very voluminous 🙂

[@del10krejoicing9]

You should always wait on God and never really take initiative. Just be patient and wait, GOD says seek me first and I will give you your desires! Just wait🙏🏿

[@jesusiskingofmyheart]

AMEN!!

[@jeremiahsterling8652]

Thank. You. For. Both. Of. Your. Videos. On. Singleness. Your. Thoughts. Where. Added. I. Am. A. Full. Time. Street. Preacher. Here.

[@carriejayne6400]

This was helpful and was wondering if you could post some scriptures that might be helpful. Thank you! God bless

[@corbinwilliams8814]

I'm going to wait on God's timing

[@moffeecup5474]

Kaci!! This is literally wisdom from heaven! Thank you so much for explaining this soo clearly! It is so important what you mentioned about the seasons and how God has a different way for every single person! Thank youuu this is such a good advice!💕✨ Always loving what you share, girlie :)

[@kacinicole]

Ah thank you so much - I'm SO glad you liked it! 😊

[@justlillian__]

So so soooo good! Thank you!

[@janeg1575]

Needed this thank you 🙏🏻

[@annabevilacqua8192]

This is great ! Thank you !

[@aliceoluyitan9372]

This was soooo good, it really does get confusing, but I love that you said it’s about the individual of what God is saying to each person!! I feel so much more free to it my way!! ❤️

[@kacinicole]

Yes! Obviously within established biblical principles, I think God works uniquely in each of our lives in this area. I'm glad you liked the video 😊

[@samsmusichub]

Good message! These records are very different circumstantially, but something that each record has in common is that those involved had *faithfulness* to God! Historically I've thought that it was more my responsibility to go out an diligently seek my future wife, but I have male friends who are more passive (for lack of a better word) and believe it'll happen when God puts someone in their lives; I've always seen conflict between these ideas but I've never compared these two records like you have, and it's comforting to know that the latter idea isn't giving up, and that God is looking after us all in this area of life because even though we have seen things differently, we still trust Him.

[@kacinicole]

YES - I love that faithfulness to God was a part of both to, and love the freedom in knowing He can work through BOTH! Thanks so much for watching!!

[@samsmusichub]

You're welcome! I love that you started a channel! It makes me excited when friends start new creative projects like this - especially when it's for The Lord

[@maddygutierrez7985]

I'm 65 divorced for 10 years now (scriptural divorce). I'm sm waiting on my Boaz and I do get pressure from well meaning friends to just go online and I just don't feel led to do that at this time. I guess I'm old school LOL. Thank you for all the words of wisdom. It was quite encouraging.

[@junekram]

Inspiring and enlightening as always. Thanks, Kaci. Our good Lord's wisdom continue to flow through you to help others.

[@kaylahood1000]

I have had people tell me to put myself out there. I have gotten rejected like that. I have been single for 6 years yep. I have had people tell me to go out more. Or to go to places where guys are at. I’m not wasting gas. I enjoy going to coffee shops I like to run errands in target. No one has ever approached me. Plus I am a black woman 🙍🏾‍♀️I just wish someone wouldn’t judge me for the color of my skin. To look at my heart instead of the outside all the time. I’m nothing like how society shows us.

[@sarahabe1221]

I don’t think you being a black woman stops you from meeting men . Black is beautiful!!

[@yzma6142]

Many black women are getting approached and married. Just make an effort to be your best self and your TRUE self, and it will happen for you

[@corbinwilliams8814]

Amen. She was right. I was in a relationship. I wanted it so badly. I realized that i need god. Im going to trust god to guide to the right godly partner in his timing.

[@ju5tine]

needed this

[@meganbarrett1169]

Such good advice! I love the use of the 2 stories as well, they’re such beautiful examples! I know this video is gonna bless and help soooo many people so thank you for sharing Kaci, it blessed me! 💕 also your hair is so dreamy!! 💁🏼‍♀️ xxx

[@kacinicole]

Ah that's such an encouragement to me, thank you Megan!! And it's a style I learned from Amber Fillerup - she does the dreamiest tutorials! 😍

[@riturajkalita4828]

Hey Kaci , I love watching your videos, you are doing a wonderful job and keep up the good work... and please I have one request to you that you please make one video on the topic " why does God remove people from your life " just to know your interpretation from the Bible on this topic...Thank you, God bless you

[@tjlewis2462]

Being in my late 30s, I've been proactive and keeping my faith in the Lord. It seems when I pray for Lord for his assistance in this area, It seems I get his voice mail and its full.

[@ChurlzVA]

Damn, why'd you wait that long? I'd say forget God in your late 20's if you're still single.

[@LaughtersMelody]

I'm in my early 30s, I've been single all my life, and I know what you mean. It can feel that way. At this point, I'm not sure if I'm only waiting, or if it's the Lord's way of saying, "No." (It's been seeming more and more like "No," lately, but I'm honestly not sure if that's God's voice or simply my own discouragement.) When I have those days, I try to remember that Jesus, while being perfectly God, was also human - he knows the hurts and loneliness in our hearts, and we can lean on Him. He understands. I also try to remember that sometimes, what God wants is for us is to say to Him, "Not my will, but yours," the way Jesus did in the Garden. My future is in His hands. It's certainly not easy - and not to say that I don't still struggle, because I certainly, certainly, do - but I've found when I can do that, when I can surrender my own will, and just trust that He is leading me wherever life takes me, that's when feel God's peace most strongly. I hope that helps you, at least a little.

[@abooga8]

​@@ChurlzVA are you saying he should forsake his faith if he does not have a partner by a certain age?

[@sheeshneesh]

Love your bedroom !

[@chantalpaquette1019]

I know someone who said that when she met her husband, one of the things they said in a conversation is that she is very godly. She eventually asked him if he’s godly and he said yes. Then she taught more about herself being godly and he learned more good things about it. Now I’m keeping that in mind because I need to remember that for whenever I find someone. Especially if I don’t know him from church, or anything related to that

[@thewhisperingtheologianasmr]

Such good advice ♥️♥️♥️

[@StraitanNarrow]

Ty so much for this! Can ya'll please pray that God opens the door to my future wife for me? Ty ❤

[@Marie_Garwood]

Wow! I don’t know if I’ve EVER found a more perfect video addressing this topic!! Thank you so much for making this-you completely nailed it! It is going to be different for everyone, and I love how the Bible addresses that (you chose great examples!)! Also, you’re so right about hearing stories about how people met and the incentives behind us asking those questions! Guilty as charged: I usually am asking myself if there’s some formula I can derive from their stories. 😅 And you were so beautifully encouraging at the end! I know you understand what you’re talking about: all the quotes of mixed advice you receive as a Christian were spot-on. And I think, ultimately, you always KNOW which season you’re in. For example, I really WANT to try to make things happen and set things up like Ruth. But I know for now, God has called me to waiting and trusting in Him. There’s always a season and there’s always a purpose in that season. Again, thank you so much for this! I’m praying for you today! 💕

[@kacinicole]

Wow this comment is SO incredibly encouraging, thank you so much! It's so true the things you're saying. And thank you so much for the prayer, it means a lot 😊

[@davidpierce8469]

Hi Marie. I'm David Pierce from Madison, Wisconsin, 42, single(scared of dating apps), I'm a cyber security specialist for NASA (not a geek) . Looking to meet someone out here and I believe God directed me to you. . Are you single? Then you'd love to know me I assure you.

[@ellesartelcontar153]

I think all things work as togethers work, between God and Man/Woman. We have to move towards our goals, and God will put people on our path. At least, that is what I learned through out my life. If you do not expose yourself to others, those potential partners will not walk into your apartment and knock on the door asking you for a date. God is all about openness, courage and determination and those things greatly help out finding someone we want to fall in love into!

[@titi.s1592]

Amen, thank you so much

[@erininessim1787]

How do you know what season you are in in 'God's eyes'? how do I know that God wants me to take initiative or wait?

[@td8786]

Quality Stuff!

[@kacinicole]

Thank you so much!

[@Sashiesasha]

Love this! :)

[@kacinicole]

I'm so glad you liked it! Thanks for watching 😊

[@adventureinlife7700]

Thank you Kaci for the advice you gave. Some of your advice I already do. Some I need to get better at doing. If I may ask/request advice on how or where to meet a single woman? Got to meet and interact with a woman first before any dating advice can be applied. Can't take the initiative if I have no one to take the initiative with. This is my current situation: 1. For the past five years I have worked second shift. (4pm to 12:30am sometimes 2:30am Mon-Fri, sometimes Sat as well) Working those kinds of hours I have found make it extremely difficult to be apart of a Bible Study/Singles Church Group. The few groups I have found that happen on Saturday and Sunday have been for women, or married couples only. 2. I have tried online dating sites. Over the years I have spent around $1,500 on those site. To no avail. The sites are flooded with fake profiles and very fickle people. Or just women that I don't find attractive. and 3. I'm not 6 foot tall or taller. I'm 5'8" and I have found that, for the most part, it is socially acceptable for women to have AND express their desire for a tall man... 6' or taller. But it is not socially acceptable for a man to have and express their desire for a woman that's flattering and attractive. Honestly I'm just blowing off some steam here. This is just one of those things that can't be changed. Better to put our efforts on things we can change. Anyway I would be grateful for any ideas or feedback. Thanks again! Cheers and God bless to you and your fiancé! 😀

[@leratomatalasi3904]

The struggle is real. I totally feel you. I hope you find what you are looking for soon. Be blessed😊

[@kaylahood1000]

@Adventureinlife the struggle is real I have had the experience of spending money on online dating sites where the men on there are very superficial where they want someone who looks like Kim kardashian. Sorry I am black I’m not mixed or anything else. I am short height I don’t care to much about because not everybody is going to be 6feet or making the 6 figures either. I desire someone who has a good heart. That online dating isn’t for me at all. You keep your head up there is someone for you. 😊

[@KatieAJ]

This was edifying, thank you!I feel released. Everyone has an opinion but u know, Sometimes with people we have to have a bit of grit and be tough towards well-meaning but wrong outside voices, especially if we know what God is saying to us. Here's what God shiwed me today: Romans 8: 24-26 For we were saved in this hope, but hope that is seen is not hope; for why does one still hope for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, we eagerly wait for it with perseverance. Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. In other words, let's keep hope alive for the manifestation of the blessing of marriage which is the desire of our hearts...let's wait eagerly, with perseverance and when we are weak, lets remember that Gid helps us in our weaknesses who is praying for our greater good and loves, comforts and guides us.

[@Scranton0]

Sure love you talking about this subject. It is a very controversial subject. The 127th Psalm in verse one says. Unless the Lord builds the house those that labor labor in vain. Think about God's Will in the matter for you.

[@vivianamora7505]

I wish we could think of another way to say “putting yourself out there “. I’m so sick and tired of people telling me that. I want to smack the next person who tells me “it’ll happen when you least expect it “. If someone says it to me one more time I swear😡

[@davidpierce8469]

Hi Viviana . I'm David Pierce from Madison, Wisconsin, 42, single(scared of dating apps), I'm a cyber security specialist for NASA (not a geek) . Looking to meet someone out here and I believe God directed me to you. . Are you single? Then you'd love to know me I assure you.

[@shellbell8062]

The comedy part of my brain loves to entertain the notion of sneaking in to my crushes window and bed and sleeping at his feet. Hilarious. I imagine that his reaction would include jumping out of the window and running away - fast!

[@abooga8]

I dont think most men can sit idle. We must take action at some point or simply remain single. Its something unfortunately most women cannot understand, even when they mean all the best

[@Shaara1]

I think there is such thing that God intends someone to stay alone. This way or another. Whether he sent someone in my way before, in the form of a bad guy and I was too stupid /impatient to unpack him and find there is a good person inside, or He never intended anyone for me... I guess some time we just have to accept that it's not going to happen. Instead of asking for something that's not for us, that's not our path, keep hoping and praying, we should just move on. Maybe, after losing half of our life waiting and hoping, we can free up that energy and make ourselves useful in another way before it's too late.

[@Babycece013]

i love this

[@michaelkaprail8086]

Hello, let's begin.

[@Neema-Go88]

It is not easy .May God help us