sir, have you ever spoken to a woman?

Try BEDucated for twenty-four hours FREE with code KIWI here: beducated.com/f/v/?...
patreon: / savvycat
second channel: / @itsqiwi
podcast: / @savvycatproductions9255
end screen song: open.spotify.com/track/6YMWp9...
my music: open.spotify.com/artist/7jEk4...
my music videos: / @savannahmusic
instagram: / thequeerkiwi
twitter: / thatqueerkiwi
tiktok: vm.tiktok.com/3fGWhT/
website (community forum, blog and more): www.thequeerkiwi.com
business inquiries: [e-mail]
#BEDucated
background:
stray kids art photo cards: linarriashi?utm...
skzoo stickers: etsy.me/3aVeUni
torso candle: mxmelts?...
oat milk sticker: www.carewears.co.uk
5L cold brew coffee: minorfigures.com/products/col...
cacti: barrythecactus.com/pages/barr...
earrings: variety of depop shops
hyunjin photocard: unofficial came with a depop purchase
** skzoo plushies were pre-ordered from the official website **

[@Clairelaferret]

I once read someone on Tumblr say "polyamorous triads are the REAL love triangles. What the straights call love triangles are just jealousy angles."

[@humanthing5709]

@@ville__ this was a comment about someone saying traditional “love triangles” are weird and filled with jealous people who make the person on the receiving end uncomfortable. how did we go from that to “do yoga, eat healthy, and maybe one day you’ll contribute to society without mental illness!” nothing about that comment made the person appear mentally ill

[@Envy_May]

@@ville__ did u send this reply to the wrong comment

[@iambored5585]

@@Envy_May Nah they like kids so they obviously don't have a working brain

[@spac3chicken918]

@@ville__ Given how many times you've commented and replied to random comments, you should follow your own advice.

[@fluffacep]

@@ville__ what flag is that. It reminds me of a gross one that has no place in the LGBT+ community, but I hope it's not that one.

[@echo_the_robot]

Now I'm tempted to write a spy character who had lesbian parents and is asexual and still a strong independent woman. Not because of trauma, but because of growing up in a loving, stable household. She also knows how to set boundaries for herself and doesn't use her body to get what she wants. Also, she should have a platonic girlfriend. Not for any particular reason, I just think it would be cute.

[@melissareohorn7436]

I would read that

[@batrieniel]

hit us up when the book has been written

[@isacocca3187]

This sounds so cute and intresting, i love it Btw love also your profile pic

[@matilda4204]

I would fund this novel. Or movie. Hell, even a video game. I just really want this.

[@anitanielsen1061]

Platonic girlfriend-are you mixing up asexual with aromantic???? Or is the spy also aroace???

[@geekgirl_luv4262]

The gross “How to creepily manipulate a woman into changing her entire personality to suit you” article did contain exactly three pieces of good advice(provided you ignore the horrifying context): “You can be a feminist and a girly-girl”, which is absolutely true; you can and should express yourself however you like, “Take your partner on dates relating to their hobbies”, which is a great way to try new things and show the person you’re dating that you care about their interests, and “Try to avoid phrases like bodacious ta-tas”, which is just solid life advice for every conceivable scenario.

[@feet77777]

@@ville__ cringe+ratio+bozo+🤓

[@Sojo214]

Nahh, bodacious ta-tas is a hilarious phrase, as long as you're not being mean to someone, especially "to their face" or in a way they can hear/read, 99 words for boobs is a ton of fun. The terms for boobs tend to just be fun to say. Honkers, badongas, the "homallamadodongas" meme, etc etc. Especially with a good group of friends that are just having fun with it. It's ok to be silly and immature at the expense of no-one else! =)

[@Andreaa_-_]

@@ville__ You like kids, it's not like your opinion matters.

[@littlemsterious991]

i actually fully disagree "bodacious ta-tas" is a great phrase and i will be using it at every possible interval for the rest of my life.

[@twiggledowntown3564]

@@littlemsterious991 Same.

[@Shindai]

That "innocence is sexier than you think" made me choke on my dinner. Such yikes

[@Preservestlandry]

That babyish look was weirdly very popular. It's not just the makeup but the way the pic is taken with the facial expression and everything, it was a whole "thing."

[@condorlegion231]

Infidelity is gross

[@guggelguggel7491]

@@condorlegion231 true, but not relevant to this comment. Did you reply to the wrong comment?

[@guggelguggel7491]

@@condorlegion231 ooohh, wait. You're talking about polyamoury? Yeah sorry man thats not infidelity, polyamourous relationships relies heavily on communication and consent, infidelity is when someone goes behind their partners back and is with someone else, not the same thing. May I recommend a dictionary or googling definitions of words instead?

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Also, the fact that Love Triangles can’t end in consensual polyamory like what’s up with that? The Queer Kiwi agrees with me THANK YOU!

[@hexonyou]

always my problem watching tropes of love triangles in media. lol

[@SketchUT]

I’ve started to solve my shipping plights this way and it’s so much easier and more fun ngl, like why fight about sashanne vs annarcy (or Marcanne but. anarchy) vs sasharcy when you can have sashannarcy? Best life hack, and you can make/engage with media based on the individual pairs without it being against the ship!

[@marianemalheiros3584]

May I suggest the book 'Iron Widow', it has an actual love triangle and is amazing! Just got picked up to become a movie too!

[@wordsarehard5297]

@@marianemalheiros3584 i was about to recommend it too!! I love how the author changes the trope

[@uncalamar]

@@marianemalheiros3584 i was about to comment this! love iron widow

[@RNS_Aurelius]

I've never understood the desire for naive, innocent inexperienced extremely young girls. It's always been predatory to me.

[@khill8645]

Leaving aside the underlying discussion about purity culture and the societal valuation of 'innocent' women, I've found a decent quick rule of thumb: if a man wants an experienced woman, the goal is sex; if he's looking for an inexperienced woman, the aim is control.

[@sofiabaquero1446]

@@ville__ || get lost dude.

[@fruitlikerw]

@@khill8645 ur so right

[@BahamutEx]

That's because it is. And I think they also believe that those kind of girls/young women are easier to manipulate and mold into the kind of women they want.

[@allisont.6878]

Pop Culture Detective has a video essay that covers pretty much this exact topic, using some examples from well known movies. It's called "Born Sexy Yesterday". Well worth a watch, IMO. kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZqXLoXivetycbpI

[@rellik6306]

With the strong female character I hate when it's like "I'll never trust a man again. They betrayed me so ill never trust them again" and then this strong female character would fall in love with some random dude who she just met and was friendly to her. Like bruh pls give me a strong aromantic female character. Pls. I need representation

[@condorlegion231]

No

[@wolvie1618]

You know what, yes. Even without her having to be traumatized first. Just a nice, strong female character that doesn't want or need a relationship but just kinda vibes and enjoys her own company.

[@katt-katt2606]

@@wolvie1618 omg, what I'd give for a //nice// and strong female character. I think a lot of writers confuse strong with being an asshole or can't conceive how a female character can be strong without imposing on others in a very rude way. It's annoying and I'm tired of that trope so much djhdjd Kindness can be strong! Even some male characters are doing that now!

[@HungerGamesFan88]

esp a non-ace aro character. let the galz be sl8ts without it being weird

[@emeraldhummingbird7547]

@@katt-katt2606 my roommate and I have kind of create OCs that we write stories about. Mine is Echo and hers is Void. Void is aroace, not because of trauma. But she is also a Fae so not technically human. Echo on the other hand is a bisexual polyamorous woman. She is technically traumatized from her whole underground city burning down but that has nothing to do with her sexual orientation. She also at one point ends up having a kid without a man(it’s a long story) and Void helps her raise the kid. Sorry this isn’t super on topic but I just thought of it and wanted to share😄

[@TrollDecker]

Well, that "cure a feminist" mess was legit nauseating. 🤢

[@thymebutter2556]

I genuinely thought it was satire, and honestly right now I hope it is because the thought that anyone thinks like that is disgusting

[@gaia747]

@@ville__ ew not u again

[@commandercorl1544]

@@ville__ Ville is back, and hiding that disgusting flag under some shades!

[@TrollDecker]

@@ville__ You weren't asked.

[@botanicalitus4194]

@@ville__ the only base in your life is your moms basement

[@strawberryj3lly]

I once had an argument with a dude on my Instagram, he told me that real women are not meant to post on social media and that they should honor themselves for their future husbands because that’s what Jesus would have wanted. I asked him what he meant exactly and his response was, “Women we’re not meant to parade their bodies around for all the world to see, they are to be clean, neat, and expecting of their husbands in order to bare children.” I asked him about the women who cannot get pregnant, he proceeded to tell me that those women are traitors in the eyes of the lord. I never felt more disrespected in my life as I have endometriosis and it makes it hard to get pregnant.

[@Andreaa_-_]

@@ville__ so you do admit you're a troll

[@DarkFleurofIra]

I vote we throw that mofo into the trash. I'm sorry he was such a disgusting jerk; you are an awesome woman, don't let that hyper-religious dude try to tell you otherwise \(^w^)/

[@fredericksaxton9782]

That dude is vile. How can you be a "traitor" for being born a certain way or getting a disease?? God literally CREATED DISEASES AND DISABILITIES, NO?? He knows EVERY birth, apparently, so he knows exactly what you'll come out as, so how can any Christian claim it's traitorous to have something you can't help? That's just.. awful.

[@aikaameya3930]

Is he implying that infertile women choose to be infertile, or that it's their fault? I'd hardly believe he'd say something like that if he didn't blame them, how can you be a traitor for something you're born with or something out of your control? Wonder if he'd say the same thing to a guy. Would be surprised if he did or didn't tbh. What an AH. Hope you block him

[@alicine-sims8988]

@@aikaameya3930 I hope at the very least he is an idiot that doesn't know infertility is a real thing, and just thinks that women can't because they don't want to. (It doesn't make what he said any better, but still.) But I highly doubt it, there is a large number of Christians that believe that disabilities and diseases is God's way of punishing you for something you did and if you repent and pray you'll be cured.

[@Komi83]

That "how to cure a feminist" manual reminds me of one girl that was literally brainwashed this way into seeking an abusive relationships. Her ex was into "BDSM" (he called it that but it was nothing else than abusing a partner, he was just sexually aroused from beating women and called it BDSM) and over time taught her to just take it, told her he's doing it because he loves her. He was her first and her second was also an a*sehole like that, misogynist who wanted a woman that "knows her place" as a slave (not even a partner, but a slave). Then one of our mutual friends decided to help her get out of this relationship and she (already mentally f*cked up from her boyfriends) took him as her "knight in shinning armor." They weren't dating, tho she had seen it that way. She was constatly complaining about him, that he doesn't really care about her, because he's not shouting at her nor hitting her while he was just telling her daily that they're not a couple and that she has to go to a therapist. Since then she had a few other boyfriends who she either broke up with for not "loving her enough" (already wrote what that actually means) or who were abusing her. I remember her before all of that, she was this always positive tomboy who had more men as friends than women and now she's this broken, fragile punching bag that sees having male friends as cheating and looks like a drug addict (she even may be at this point, can't say that tho).

[@Sojo214]

Geezus, I hope she receives the help she so desperately needs, and wholeheartedly deserves... My heart goes out to her, whatever that's worth..

[@Tadfafty]

😭

[@MissCaraMint]

Thanks for putting «BDSM» in quotes and explaining that it wasn’t that at all. Real BDSM requires consent and mutual pleasure. All sex does. Unfortunately I think lack of sex education makes people develop veird ideas about sex, and then you have things like 50 Shades of Gray glorifying emotional abuse and «BDSM» as romantic. It’s dangerous. I’m afraid your friend won’t be the last to be victimized by people who exploit this lack of knowledge to abuse their partners. I hope she’ll be ok. Lets band together and get people educated to prevent further misery.

[@claratalbot7613]

I hope she gets better soon, finds a good person to be with & she's able to realize the abuse she's should have never had to go through

[@spicybeantofu]

Damn my ex was the same way.

[@nyxstyx388]

"What can women do to earn equal pay for equal work?" As if women are the ones underpaying women...

[@writerinprogress]

Notice how it's phrased though -- "What can women do to *EARN* equal pay for equal work?" As if part of the problem is that they're not already working hard enough to 'deserve' it -- "Well, if you try putting in as much effort and *sacrifice* as Us Menz do, maybe THEN we'll let you have the same money as us!"

[@condorlegion231]

@@writerinprogress yup its the point

[@condorlegion231]

Women have it easier in life and jobs, as a kid. My teachers always prioritized girl students first, people always help an abused girl while nobody bats an eye to abused men. Stop complaining

[@rossdelarosa792]

@@condorlegion231 As if men don't tell boys to toughen up and deal with it. I listen to my younger cousins when they feel like shit. Older dudes in the family tell them to stop being emotional.

[@Hvhvjbknllctcrfuogo]

Abuse as a whole is ignored

[@A_Rat_120]

As an equestrian who is an asexual lesbian. It is extremely uncomfortable to be sexualized. One time I was riding in a 4th of July parade so of course there was those redneck old country men. One like 50 year old man said, “you want to ride something of mine” I glared at him so hard. But the best part is that he got too close to my horse when saying that and my horse kicked and almost hit him in the face.

[@Thi-Sen]

Ewww wtf I'm so sorry! Why are people so freaking gross? Awesome horse though.

[@sandpiperr]

@@Thi-Sen Not to mention so stupid! Maybe it's just because the one and only time I tried horseback riding I was terrified of the horses themselves because they're so big, and terrfied the entire time I was on one because it seemed so high up, but I would never get close enough to be kicked just to make a lame joke! After all, he has to know that, even if the woman is straight, there's zero chance one is ever going to leap off and demand "take me right here, right now!" So he's just doing it to get a laugh out of his friends and...that's really worth getting your face busted by a 1000 lb animal? wtf?

[@emash3361]

when I was in year 9 at an all girls religious school we had to make a musical in small groups in music class, one of the requirements was we have a love triangle, as is a feature of most musicals. my group (almost entirely cishet) unanimously decided that the two male interests of the triangle would end up together while the girl would be able to go about her life without the annoyance of pining men

[@Tadfafty]

Hahaha! Excellent.

[@averagemossenjoyer]

the other correct solution to a love triangle.

[@bentomai5071]

Makes perfect sense, they already have plenty in common

[@MissCaraMint]

I would be even funnier if the girl in question doesn’t notice at all. She’s compleatly oblivious to the fact that both are trying to hit on her, and then accidentally ends up setting them up with each other. Then at the end is supprised that the boys are even friends, let alone dating.

[@JDM-is-my-name]

@@MissCaraMint she keeps hearing these two dudes talk about each other in that, "I like them, but I hate them" way and she thought they had a mutual crush, but they thought it was one sided

[@trashotaku]

18:16 this reminds me how so many adults tell little kids that if another kid’s being mean to them, “that means they like you”. I absolutely hate that idea and it’s basically teaching children that loving someone=being mean to them. Please teach your kids that if they like someone to be nice to them

[@feralpossum2089]

YES. It sets them up for absuive relationships later on cause apparently love = pain

[@JasminMiettunen]

YES! This is so so so bad and I really hope most kids will realise that it doesn’t matter if *he* likes you, if *you* don’t like how he acts towards you. I really hope they have examples of actual healthy love. I'm so sorry for all girls that wind up in abusive relationships because of this, and I'm so grateful I didn’t start dating as a teenager

[@imajean5635]

One interesting thing I've realized is, do you remember all the dogs vs cats kids movies, specifically the older ones? It's interesting to me that dogs are seen as typically more masculine pets, and are always male and always the hero; because, man's best friend and all that. While cats on the other hand, are seen as more typically feminine pets, and almost always are female and always antagonistic. Just something I wanted to mention.

[@imajean5635]

@Ville Who are you, and why are you stalking this comment section

[@imajean5635]

Oh, and the dogs always win, and vanquish the evil girl cat of course.

[@alicine-sims8988]

@@riorio745 Yeah, I think they changed things, mostly, in the most recent cats vs dogs film. Where you find out the cats have a secret spy society as well, and are mostly good, looking for evil dogs. Dogs and cats had to work together, but I think the villain was still a cat? I don't quite remember.

[@condorlegion231]

Then what? It's just some cartoon/movie.

[@jessicaK_wolfspirit00]

I just think gendering animals in that way is ridiculous. Yeah animals have a biological sex and it's fine to use pronouns for them depending on their sex, but I don't think human concepts of gender apply to animals. "Masculine" and "feminine" aren't really applicable to animals regardless of sex, but especially not entire species. A cat or dog can be male or female, but they're not "men/boys" or "women/girls" in the same way humans are. The whole cats are women bullshit is also usually only applied to domestic housecats, but never applied to big cats such as lions, tigers, cougars, cheetahs, and mountain lions because those cats are considered more "masculine" because they're strong. It's all bullshit. Modern human concepts of gender are already ridiculous enough as it is and don't really apply to all humans, but it's even more ridiculous when you involved other species in it.

[@OkamiDesuGa]

I have a story where a man and a woman are deeply in love and they meet another man who they both develop affection for. At first it looks like a cishet love "triangle" because she goes through a crisis about having feelings for both men. It's a big thing for her. But both of the men she has feelings for understand and are willing to try a polyam relationship. Spoilers: they all wind up getting married, have three kids, and are ridiculously happy

[@OkamiDesuGa]

@@ville__ just curious how you think the story In writing is fake

[@DayDreamingWriters]

@@OkamiDesuGa Dont talk witht this guy. He has P3d0 flag on profile. Also Good Luck with your story ^^

[@OkamiDesuGa]

@@ville__ so, and let me make sure I have this right, you think the story I'm actively writing has to be fake because you think it sounds stupid? It can't possibly be real because YOU don't like it. Do I have that right?

[@OkamiDesuGa]

@@DayDreamingWriters thank you!! I'm hoping to get it finished in the next few months

[@Andreaa_-_]

@@OkamiDesuGa don't worry dude, his opinion doesn't matter, he's a pedophile.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

18:28 The ‘falling in love with the bully trope’ where a Cis Boy gets one convenient redemptive arc. It really affects future relationships.

[@andromeda_va39]

Tried that once. Went in with the expectation that we'd become friends or maybe more, came out the other side with trauma.

[@RaidenMustDie3594]

Problem is women love bullies, why do you think so many women claim to have an abusive relationship with “trauma” like BITCH you CHOSE that nigga

[@antoniogodinez6447]

It’s funny how the country music guy thinks all country music is about women and being conservative when a lot of original country songs were very socialist and about working class struggles.

[@jenna7437]

Nowadays a lot of male country singers do sing like he explained. The older ones from the 40s-60s sang about hard times & poverty. Now, it’s all beer, sex, and the boys nights.

[@arimars9565]

I can get behind country songs about working class struggles

[@dustiibunnii]

@@arimars9565 check out Muddy Waters!!

[@arimars9565]

@@dustiibunnii thanks

[@spacemansays9805]

Do it like Rick Riordan; make a girl that's in love with two boys and just merge them into one so she doesn't have to choose - problem solved

[@Plusboyserpremacy]

Lol

[@funpolishfox5410]

Iconic, just iconic.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

This is from a TedEd Video: Sylvia Plath had mentioned in one of her poems of a naked woman riding horseback which is a metaphor for freedom. You can like horses without believing in zoophilia.

[@supersnek5]

that sounds like a reference to Lady Godiva

[@writerinprogress]

I'm willing to bet then, that Sylvia Plath never rode a horse naked herself. Because you can be damn sure the *last* thing she'd be feeling is a sense of 'freedom!'

[@leonineKelter]

@@writerinprogress yeah like horse hair is very thick you wanna sit on that 😬 at least have like a saddle on jesus

[@guggelguggel7491]

@@leonineKelter tbf op didnt specify if she was riding bare backed? Though maybe you read the poem and she is, but unless confirmed otherwise I am assuming she is on a saddle.

[@leonineKelter]

@@guggelguggel7491 I would hope lmaooo

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Men writing Women or as I like to call it, a regular Tuesday in Mainstream Indian Media.

[@usoppfangirl8153]

I'm dead

[@NekoChanSenpai]

I was under the impression sexual tension was less "intimidate her until her undies drop" and more "these two people are in love but won't communicate so setting down a coffee cup becomes super hot"

[@visaman]

Try to find the Folger's brother sister commercial ❤

[@okayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy]

I love how in the “cure a feminist” thing only has “find something you have in common” on steps 4 or 5.

[@iexist1300]

@@riorio745 aside from the messed up implications that feminists need to be cured, and it's horible understanding of how women and feminists are, it wouldn't be that bad.

[@condorlegion231]

@@iexist1300 feminism is a societal disease. Women need to be humbled by MEN

[@word_on_a_wing_]

at 8:22, you're right! that's an ad from around the (early) 1970s i believe. it was promoting "baby groupie" culture which was fairly prominent at the time in younger women's/teen fashion. a lot of girls would be almost taught in magazines that looking older yet innocent and childish was attractive to grab the attention of older men. it truly disgusts me to think that was a sort of beauty standard back in the day.

[@Andreaa_-_]

@@ville__ you like kids, you don't get to speak.

[@janel.8921]

Love Baby Soft had a tv commercial that featured a young blonde woman dressed in a frilly white dress. She is looking at the camera, while she is slowly licking a large lollipop. I saw this commercial in the 1970s and it made me feel queasy. I don’t know how to connect to KZbin, but it is on KZbin.

[@RaidenMustDie3594]

Just be grateful it’s not the standard (or appropriate) nowadays

[@imagiguard]

Ugh, baby groupie culture. The thorn on my side as someone who's interested in classic rock and its history. Many of the most iconic rock stars have participated in it, one way or another, and it's disgusting. I had once thought this ad was just a general 70s normalized terrible thing, but the way it's connected to groupies specifically made me realize it ran deeper than I had thought. It wasn't just about rock star fangirling, it had extended to marketing. Anyways, do you know any video essays specifically about the baby groupie culture? I really wanna watch a proper deep dive into it.

[@visaman]

​@@RaidenMustDie3594that's a shame.

[@claratalbot7613]

The one about "fixing a feminine" is disgusting. It has 3 good points: 1. U can be a feminist & dress like a girly girly which is true because u should be able to dress however u want without having someone trying to "fix" u. 2. Take ur date to places that they're interested based on their hobbies. 3. Don't use terms that ur date may find offensive. Otherwise it is manipulative trash that should never been seen as anything good because when ur date finds out that u have been pretend just to take them to bed & "fix" them they will dump u

[@jessicaK_wolfspirit00]

I find it creepy how so many men want to seek out strong willed, intelligent women who want to be treated as equals and try to "cure" them and manipulate them into being submissive to them. These men could simply just leave feminists the fuck alone. Men who give and take this sort of advice are probably creepy, manipulative abusers on the down low.

[@RevertedRashidah]

That 70’s ad campaign about “innocence is sexy” was a reference to how popular CP was at the time. It was LEGAL and shown in THEATERS(there were theaters just for porn back then) until the late 1980’s. Most younger people don’t know this and most older people don’t want to admit it.

[@The482075]

I like the idea of the fictional strong woman being super naive and sheltered. Had a pleasant childhood but is unprepared for the challenges. What makes her strong is the fact that she rises to the challenges and is prepared to learn and grow. Also kicks butt on the journey. You don't need exciting back stories. The most exciting things to happen to a character should be in the story itself.

[@asthajindal5275]

Like Wonder Woman

[@The482075]

@@asthajindal5275 Pretty much.

[@2garts379]

A love triangle ending in polyamory is actually part of a story I was planning to write a few years ago! Basically they all like each other, but can't choose who to ask out, but one of them realizes "Oh! Duh, maybe we don't HAVE to choose-"

[@theinsanelycooljaredkleinm1722]

@Ville that’s rich coming from a person with a MAP flag in their profile picture

[@mrcattoonist4766]

@@ville__ you're only interested in polyamory if its you and 3 little girls, right?

[@commandercorl1544]

@@ville__ Ah, you prefer it being kids instead of consenting adults.

[@Queen_Celia]

I (as a lesbian) always thought when I was younger that love triangles had a gay person and I was confused as why no one else saw it that way. I spent hours trying to understand out how it worked

[@jesterdays]

@@ville__ 300+ comments? Trolling this much can't possibly be healty.

[@keona5560]

Oh my god I thought I was the only one. I never understood the weird looks I got and just gave up trying to subtly ask questions

[@_.z33._]

okay yeah- as a kid i was always like, one of them has to like boys and girls, why isnt he liking boys and girls it isnt a triangle- my mind was freaking out lol

[@ChibiRandom13]

my mom sent me a tiktok recently that made me realize that the tradwives who used to be "feminists" weren't feminist but radfems which to me is legit not what a feminist is. But this chick realized she wanted to have kids and went full "omg i was so wrong men are hot and worth it actually which means ALL feminists must be wrong"

[@condorlegion231]

She saw the real world while yall are still delusional lol

[@raine_rainegoaway]

@@condorlegion231 ratio

[@haldanandpako2755]

@Condor Legion L+ratio+you lost the war+cry+no bitches + no drip

[@miaomiaochan]

​@@condorlegion231 you've been spending so much time in the manosphere that it's become your reality. Step outside your door, get some fresh air, and meet some actual women, Condor.

[@AlbinoBlackHole]

"If she has a Doodle, never let her touch her noodle" Me: a curly-haired woman with a schnoodle named Snickerdoodle: yeah I'm only interested in my doodle anyway, not your noodle.

[@iclynnx]

Oh boy, that thing about girls riding horses is really freaking weird. I have ridden horses for years and I can tell you, my part has never felt good in that way, EVER, from that. It can be comfortable in a normal way when you know how to not bounce during trot and canter, but otherwise, no. Just... no. They're innocent animals! Don't say that, jeez.

[@Saibellus]

i am of the unshakeable opinion that men feel that way because they exclusively see women through a sexual lens. they are either fuckable or not and all else stems from there. hence, the guys who think women want to fuck their dogs/horses, want to fuck every male friend they have, etc. they literally dont understand loving someone without wanting to fuck them - be that human or animal.

[@elfodelputoinfierno]

Random question but how do you not bounce? I love horseriding but its always such a ⬆️↪️↕️⬇️↕️↪️ and me almost falling off 😭😭

[@iclynnx]

@@elfodelputoinfierno Hmm, good question. It's hard to explain, but part of it is like, not getting stiff. There must be a balance between relaxed muscles and keeping straight. It also helps if your feet are not too far forward. Keep your heels under you. And try to follow the movements with your lower back and belly. You must move with the horse, in canter it's like your lower end rolls in a circle in the saddle. It can take some time to build up the strenght, but be patient. It took longer than average for me to learn how to post in trot, so if you feel like a slow learner, you're not alone =)

[@visaman]

I have heard that it's usually a girls first vibrator.

[@iclynnx]

@@visaman Hell no. It's nothing like that.

[@arcadiaberger9204]

I knew a girl who was 14 and had a body like a 20-year-old. Worse yet, emotionally, she was about a 9 year old. Really bad combination. Fortunately, her mother noticed what was going on, and kept an eye out for her. If she'd had an inattentive parent...that would be not good.

[@tutsbrasilio]

love triangles should either end with everyone getting into a poly relationship or with at least one character realizing they're aro and/or ace, you CANNOT change my mind

[@mikaelste-marie1275]

Not aro/ace automaticaly (but could be a good story), but one side should just realise that they don't want a romantic relationship with the center character.

[@bombraccoon8899]

I’m writing a book with a love triangle that ends in polyamory! An empress, a princess, and a bodyguard all fall in love with each other and end up being poly. It was actually inspired by the very post you showed haha.

[@Andreaa_-_]

@@ville__ I am, it's already one person you your point doesn't stand.

[@BananaGalaxy]

@@ville__ why are you so obsessed with being contrary?

[@bombraccoon8899]

@@ville__ Well obviously you won’t be able to with your 4th grade level reading ability, but plenty of others will.

[@DarkFleurofIra]

Woooo!! That sounds great, looking forward to reading it! :D

[@ladylark10884]

omg do you have an ig or twitter so i can follow your progress?

[@LoneWulf278]

@11:20 This usually happens when the author doesn’t have much for the female character to do in the plot, yet they don’t want to just k1ll her off. Traditionally, male characters are active and female characters are more passive. Now that there’s a demand for more interesting female characters, authors still don’t know what to do to make them inspiring. Unless they’re the main character, she won’t get that much dialogue or character development. So the authors just emphasize a tragic past or traumatic event to show the audience how “strong” she is when they don’t have any tasks for her to over-come onscreen. 😂 Basically, what other people do to them is more interesting than what they actually do.

[@aikaameya3930]

Never actually thought of the whole "stereotypical traumatic past" that way, that's really interesting, and depressingly accurate unfortunately

[@LoneWulf278]

@@aikaameya3930 Yep.

[@Pensive_Scarlet]

"...she won't object to your opening the occasional door or picking up a check." The fact that they see feminism as a thing that is against expecting a man to pay for someone else's food is like a tacit admission that said feminism does, in fact, help men as well.

[@nefelibatayumeno2568]

In Media Studdies we studied 1960's an add for soap that portrayed children's skin as desirable ("you want skin that feels soft... soft as and child's" + "To keep your skin as soft as a child's"). It managed to portray children, or their qualities "desirable" (which, eww), idealise youth and demonise ageing for women (because if women weren't beautiful for a cis male gaze what worth could you have?) which must have been a terrifying amount of pressure... and allowed men to tell women in the most condescending way what they want / should want. The first point about children is subtilely re-inferred though the choice and placement of colour. The mother is warning red lipstick (a symbol of sexuality still used in modern media) while the very young child is wrapped in a red blanket. Red's connotations are of love, sexuality and violence so making a link though the colour is an interesting choice yo say the least.

[@visaman]

That's how Brooke Shields became a star.

[@kami0njnegjfkd]

You may be proud to know that I have never given my characters a traumatic past based on men.

[@Hvhvjbknllctcrfuogo]

Well done

[@saskiakraft]

In the Iron Window *SPOILER there is a polyamorous love triangle, and it‘s also a great book in general

[@rebekahbrickett2008]

Adding to the too read list

[@bertmobile]

i have some issues with the book's pacing but the relationship does go hard and i feel like the sequels will be really good so i would recommend it

[@claratalbot7613]

The bring her Malibu barbie side out triggered me because as a kid I was allowed to play with whatever toys I wanted although I did have some family members who would try to get me to play with gender specific toys & it's annoying to see an "article" that not only tells people to manipulate people they want to date but also to feed into gender stereotypes

[@MissCaraMint]

I mean Barbie is the doll with the most varried collection of careers ever. She’s a badass. So you know what? Yes, I will be Barbie. I will learn to sword fight, and become a working professional in the medical field. Oh I love using their poor logic against them.

[@claratalbot7613]

@@MissCaraMint This is true. While I never cared for playing with dolls I could see a child loving the variety to Barbie & seeing themselves in various careers. This "article" sadly is focusing on one specifically & trying to feed into the stereotype that a woman needs to be fixed & made into a girly girl against her will to fit into outdated "socal norms" instead of allowing her to be whoever she choices to be

[@alyssapinon9670]

@@claratalbot7613 right?! people seem to forget that Barbie’s catch phrase is “be who you want to be”.

[@KittyKatalina]

I like stories that initially look like they have a love "corner", but it turns out the common interest is an asshole, so the other two both dump them and get together with each other instead. I just think it's a fun subversion of the trope, even if its been done enough that it has probably become a trope of its own by now.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

10:56 The paradox is that mothers being abusive is hardly ever shown and you can be from a secure background as well as a strong person.

[@adrianpetyt9167]

Of course, sometimes the "love corner" is presented to young girls as a fantasy of "I have two hot guys to choose from!" It's really lucky that the girl in Twilight, for instance, is really into both moody, sparkly vampires old enough to be her great-grandfather and also sweaty, shirtless native-American werewolves. If she weren't the way those guys follow her, spy on her and fight over her would be really creepy!

[@noname-ur4gr]

12:07 I'm slowly starting to like the idea that most men I've met in my life who seemed to think that they could do to me whatever they want would now probably be disgusted by the amount of hair I've grown by now... which I, as a woman who likes women, really don't understand

[@Sojo214]

It's not about the amount, it's that you drag it through everything, Rapunzel! Gotta braid it or something, please, we care about you!

[@JayBeMeee]

@@Sojo214 What

[@lilSaphyStylinson]

Men like hairless women because it makes you look more like a child and the media has pushed the image of child like essence and literal children to be “sexy” all the women Ik irl don’t have a problem with body hair it’s always the men.

[@yuh_yuhmy8919]

@@Sojo214 what.

[@Sojo214]

@@JayBeMeee "disgusted by amount of hair they've grown", joking it's not the amount but that scene in Tangled where Rapunzel is running everywhere and there's just... leaves and twigs EVERYWHERE.

[@thatonetransguy8216]

14:58 People really see corruption kinks in wattpad fanfiction and say "I can do that in real life too!"

[@fandomsunited7236]

Honestly the only time that should happen is in a se×y time rp scene that both parties are of legal age and agree on doing. Other than that GET IT THE FUCK AWAY FROM PEOPLE! I'm so sick of gross people

[@bruna7534]

this horse thing REALLY bothers me because most girls I knew who liked horses were actually from 5 to 12 y/o who basically was into My Little Pony, Spirit, Toy Story or movies like Flicka

[@carlgrimeseyepatch27]

What is with men being so obsessed with youth and innocence… because women typically are NOT ????? Like what is dementing the brain to be attracted to the youngest look they can find… or the youngest person EW

[@OhioDetroitNewOrleans]

@@ville__ this is why nobody likes you.

[@linglingspacewhales1977]

I just got my first tattoo last month. Now I can finally keep all the cringe men away

[@RaidenMustDie3594]

Oh nooo…a tattoo…my weakness…I’m so scared

[@BlackOrderAlchemist]

Aw, but now you're missing out on a lot of noodle-touching :'y lmao, hope it looks great

[@linglingspacewhales1977]

@@BlackOrderAlchemist oh no! Not the noodle touching!! And it turned out great... now I can't wait for my next one.

[@linglingspacewhales1977]

@@RaidenMustDie3594 lmao, it's my weakness too... I need more 🤣.

[@nonexistingvoid]

Proper love triangle? Like in Three Will Be Free? Where all three ACTUALLY END UP TOGETHER! It's one of my favourite series, even though I'm usually not one to enjoy series about organised crime with this much death and violence. (it's about three young people on the run from a triad boss, after one of them slept with triad boss' wife, another shot one of triad boss' henchmen to save her life, and the last one accidentally got involved and is actually the triad boss' son)

[@lyricsmind]

But they didn't end up together. I was a bit disappointed because Tays character ended up with Toptap and Joss with Milds.

[@nonexistingvoid]

@@lyricsmind They're not living together, but that doesn't mean the entire relationship is over. They actually made it very clear that they kept the relationship open to accept anyone. So Tay's character taking over the family business and being in a relationship with Toptap's character doesn't mean he's no longer with the others. Mild's character even tells him he's always welcome to move in with them if he wants to (and hints at bringing Toptap's character as well) Living together isn't what makes a relationship, and they did talk about a lot of this on and after that night with the "special" brownies. There is no closed ending to the series, and a lot of things, including the relationship, are left up to viewers' interpretations.

[@lyricsmind]

@@nonexistingvoid Hm, maybe I have to watch it again🤭.

[@charlieandhisantics9954]

17:50 if you hate this trope I highly recommend The Obsession by Jesse Sutanto. It's about a guy who develops an obsession with a girl at his school and is fully convinced she's in love with him, but she's not takin any of his bullshit and is completely done with men controlling her.

[@charlieandhisantics9954]

@@remy9621 we stan Delilah Wong in this house

[@lostshadows768]

Love's Baby Soft was a cheap perfume that smelled like baby powder. Even creepier when you realize the age range those kinda things are primarily aimed at. (And yes, it worked. It was the 80s. The 80s get creepier the more I look back at my childhood.)

[@loki_is_tired]

8:22 me, a minor, watching this video while cuddling the teddy bear I’ve had since birth: o_O

[@genericname2747]

@@ville__ no

[@andromeda_va39]

@@ville__ Don't think we don't see your pfp background. Get off the internet.

[@Andreaa_-_]

@@ville__ gross.

[@mvlligrvbs]

@@ville__ hey why the FUCK does this have ANY likes😐

[@loki_is_tired]

Y’all, stop replying, just report. It’s not worth a moment more of your time.

[@unscmistressgaming1132]

I’m reading a book right now with a strong female character. She embraces her sexuality, has a good career, and….. comes from a realistic home life! She wasn’t abused, she has two loving parents (one was technically a step parent but is treated as a parent) and a decent relationship with her brother. She doesn’t have a past of abuse and is such a strong character. She does have trauma and is attacked by a man but he was the villain and it was a fight scene. Plus she kills him on camera while the corrupt government watches.

[@_Definitely_Not_A_RobloxFan]

Book name plss

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Quote of the Day: “What is this? ‘Pretty Little Liars’?” HAHAHAHAHA I CAN’T --- and yes, we want a detailed breakdown of it and condolences to your brain cells that yeeted after watching the show.

[@trash_child1091]

Komi can't communicate had a subtle background relationship chart of an elementary school group, where instead of a triangle, it was the letter Z and suggested lgbt crushes

[@mikaelste-marie1275]

Which one ? I watch the anime and I don't remember one.

[@condorlegion231]

You libs made everything gay now istg

[@condorlegion231]

YOU ALL RUINED ENTERTAINMENT AND HUMOR FUCK

[@trash_child1091]

@@mikaelste-marie1275 Episode 17 "it's just a snowman" at about 9:07 has a brief card. That's how I understood it, unless the translation I was watching was wrong.

[@maellel8057]

7:50 Iron Widow ! I don't want to get into spoilers, but you should like this book if this is what you're searching for

[@blueJAYbirdie]

Good childhoods lead to well-adjusted adults, which tends to make them less interesting characters. So, trauma builds character and gives them some sort of story-relevant motivation. Although sometimes it is interesting to have a character with a good childhood slowly gain trauma over the course of the story, as an adult.

[@GThe-su9kl]

8:02 I don't know if it's because I tend to read books where the focus is more on adventure, but on the rare occasions where I do find a "love triangle", it's usually the kind where a male protagonist hesitates for 3 books between 2 female characters. Though, now that I think about it, maybe it's because those kind of "love triangle" with a male at the center were replaced with harem fantasies? Also, yeah, I'm sick of authors being creeps with (too young) female characters. I just finished reading "Fafhrd and the Grey Mouser", and while the first 3-4 books were ok, the last ones lost points for this exact reason.

[@jungkookssecretaccount6421]

hi savannah, hi others! you’re valid and loved 💘💜 edit: your eyeshadow>>>

[@moradoesvideos]

As are you! (((: Also right?! It’s so pretty 0:

[@aspartame13]

bts!! ❤❤

[@poultergeist]

I'm pretty sure the Dark Artifices series by Cassandra Clare has a love triangle that ends in polyamory. Her books honestly have a lot of really good LGBTQ representation in them from what I remember (I read most of them a few years ago and need to get caught up).

[@darkfirefox3251]

Yes it does! It's between Mark, Kerian, and Crista (that's not how you spell that I don't think), and it's beautiful!!

[@poultergeist]

@@darkfirefox3251 Yes! I read the first 2 books a while b4 the last 1 came out, and haven't gotten around to reading it. I definitely want to just see how their relationship played out

[@darkfirefox3251]

@@poultergeist read it! It's so cute! I love Queen of Air and Darkness for a couple different reasons, but that's one of them!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

The title had no business making me chuckle but it’s an important question. P.S. I Stan the earrings!

[@sineadcarty7256]

I swear these guys need to touch grass

[@genericname2747]

@@ville__ you'd get turned on by that huh? Reminds you of babies?

[@Andreaa_-_]

@@ville__ go touch grass

[@kellycowley3535]

If I took a shot for every gross or stupid thing in that 'cure a feminist' article I would be blackout drunk by now.

[@MrQuantumInc]

I feel called out. There was a time where I thought it was hilarious that a horse girl would like a huge, muscular animal between her legs, but in retrospect the comparison to a man is extremely abstract. It doesn't help that when most people want to emphasize the size of a penis by comparing him to an animal, that animal is almost always a horse. Double called out: I did come up with a character idea of a badass woman who had rape in her backstory. Though I never imagined it would have made her strong, but it was supposed to be the straw that turned the camel from pro-establishment to violently anti-establishment. I felt so clever to imagine that she could get over the rape itself, but the fact that THE SYSTEM (well specifically her commanding officer) sided with the rapist and didn't really help her was what made her want to leave the military and enter the criminal underground. I'm really starting to get the impression that most women or people from marginalized groups would prefer to see science fiction and fantasy worlds where bigotry is just plain absent. Where even the most psychopathic bad guy is incapable of partner abuse. Even an escapist fantasy where you can defeat bigotry isn't as attractive as an escapist fantasy where it is ignored apparently.

[@spac3chicken918]

You can still write your character, its just frustrating when so many female characters have a cookie-cutter abuse background to be strong while men are just strong by default. Are you surprised marginalised people don't want to read about bigotry in a fictional/escapist setting? It sucks to deal with in real life so I doubt many people are excited to go through it when it's supposed to be an escapist fantasy. Even so, its not that we want all fictional bigotry to disappear and want all villains to not be abusive, its that so many female characters have their entire personality tied to being a victim rather than them being a person first as well as a victim second.

[@JasminMiettunen]

A rape story does limit your audience, as some people don’t want to read about it. I don’t. I do find the idea behind yours interesting, focusing on the system and rape culture that allowed it to happen. Just avoid the cliches, like rape=strong connection, strong woman hates men, and getting over it TOO easily. Even if you’re strong, it’s still traumatic. You could have her be raised in a good, stable household and grow into a strong, independent woman. She had a good upbringing, raised by a good mother and father, she's white and wealthy, obviously she's pro-establishment. Really focus on the fact she is a strong woman already, that’s why she goes to the military, because she’s strong mentally and physically to do well there, and wants to protect her country that’s been so good to her. Then when it happens, it doesn’t make her stronger, it doesn’t make her hate men because she knows there’s good men like her father, but starts hating the system that pushed her aside when she needed it. Then she goes to her family, female friends, gets therapy, etc. I hate when in stories strong independent women never have female friends. If you have to make all other women brainless, catty bitches to make your “not like other girls” character stand out, you’re a bad writer. (Side-eyeing Hollywood rn) Independent doesn’t mean lonely. She probably has to change her friends after going from the suburbs to criminal underground lmao, but it should be easy to insert other strong women into that setting. Maybe she could even radicalise a close childhood friend that tried to help her get justice. That would be amazing, actually. She goes to her best friend after it happens, her friend is infuriated, helps her seek justice, goes to every military court hearing or whatever with her, writes letters to the higher-ups after the case is dismissed, she's equally disillusioned by what happened. They go down the same rabbit hole, and remain friends throughout the story. No cattiness or jealousy a la Hollywood, or getting together sexually, just genuine friendship between two women. If you want the main character to be gay, no problem, but two women being genuine friends is just so sorely missing from media. Damn, if you don’t write the story I will lmao This could be such a good story. Just avoid the cliches, don’t describe the rape scene in detail and obviously have a trigger warning for it.

[@Saibellus]

there is just such a plethora of media that portrays racism, sexism, and abuse. fiction of all kinds is absolutely saturated with suffering meant to make the stories relatable, but it can often serve only to alienate or depress for (in my opinion!) three main reasons: 1. our modern world is fucking miserable, and consuming media where all the same struggles we are actively burdened by today are present can be a drag. even a thousand years in the future or in a world of magic, women and minorities are being raped and enslaved. it makes it feel like everyone just assumes that kind of suffering is inevitable to the point they cant fathom a story without it. 2. the suffering often renders women into inactive tools for men. you may be familiar with the term 'manpain'. male leads are often treated like they cannot be emasculated or weak for any reason - but how do you make him interesting without giving up any vulnerability? just kill or rape a woman he cares about! wives, sisters, moms...whoever. a womans sorrows all stem from such violence...but so do a mans. it creates the feeling that women are just objects who receive, never actors who, well, *act*. 3. the people who write about such events are often men who have never been on the receiving end of them, and they end up being completely misinterpreted or outright ghastly. i cannot and will not ever relate to the romantic "charm" of being hounded by a relentless suitor until i give in, because that happened to me and it was scary. not cute, not romantic, just scary and miserable. and it only gets worse when touching on topics of rape, assault, abuse, sexualization, etc. i cannot count how many times ive read phrases along the lines of "she was sexy, and she knew it" - in reference to not just grown women but teenagers! this idea that any woman you find attractive is aware of and using her womanly wiles to seduce all men around her is nasty and gross. and yet it is all over fiction. the femme fatale who, from the very flowering of her womanhood, has been enjoying and manipulating men with her tits. meanwhile, every friend i had who got breasts at a young age wore exclusively baggy clothes and was terrified of going home alone, because men took their physical maturity as a sign of consent. obviously she WANTS to be catcalled and groped - she wouldnt be making me horny on purpose with that huge rack she intentionally grew herself otherwise! im sure there are exceptions or other reasons female readers would not enjoy these tropes, but thems my two cents.

[@MareeHassallsArt]

Love triangle-not triangle - You must pick one of us! Woman/girl - I choose NEITHER! *picks up loaf and duck then jumps into a pond*

[@Thi-Sen]

I love how Kurtis and Danny actually got the poly love triangle correct in their song "I'm In Love With a Creeper".

[@rorygiambalvo2955]

Pro Tip: Lesbian country singers don't write songs about maiming their partners. My Mind's A Ship by Katie Pruitt and Caroline by Brandi Carlile fill my heart with love

[@rorygiambalvo2955]

@@ville__ Eh, I don't need to be a lesbian to appreciate a wholesome sapphic love song. Better than spreading themes of hate or violence! Enjoy your bitterness, Imma jam to some good tunes

[@drwhomstvede]

If you’re tired of boring hetero love corners may I recommend the book ‘Iron widow’ which has a bisexual, poly answer to a love triangle! Also it’s just generally a really good book

[@screamingbegins4688]

YES i love them so much

[@Hatsune-Miku_Fan]

The *how to cure a feminist* bothers me so much... Jee, are men annoying!

[@condorlegion231]

JEEZ ARE WAHMEN SICK

[@condorlegion231]

Wahmen☕

[@Hatsune-Miku_Fan]

@@condorlegion231 Yeah, women can be annoying too. I don't disagree!

[@angelsarereal4902]

@@condorlegion231 Men 🤣🤢🤮

[@condorlegion231]

@@angelsarereal4902 wahmen☕

[@tiredcatman7381]

About the spy thing, there's an anime called Patalliro, where there's a seductive spy who turned out like that after being abused, but he is a man, and almost all characters are gay men, and it's quite refreshing to see men being shitty to only men

[@icewitchisla1981]

As a writer I've actually thought a lot about how to write female character's backstories in a way that isn't just "I suffered at the hands of a man and have grown into a strong, confident, and sexy woman because of it." Like I am a girl, but since backsories like that are so prevelant, sometimes I end up letting elements of that slip in without me really noticing. The current character I'm working on has suffered in the past mostly because of her mom and her society's expectations of women (specifically noble woman). It's kind of complicated and I don't want to get into specifics now but I'm trying to have the main suffering being caused by her mother forcing societal standards onto her. It's set in a future, post appocalypse, sci-fi setting (it's a mecha setting and was inspired by things like 86, Gundam, etc) so the society is different and that's also something I've done a lot of work trying to develop in a non-male centric way. It's still a work in progress but I'm happy with the direction it's going.

[@noheroheretryagain837]

This is like a breath of fresh air from the video I just came from. It was amazing story about a mother standing up to the school her child goes to because her child was being bullied for being non binary. Yet the comment section was full of comments like "no mom YOU are the problem" "There are only two genders, can't believe this mom would support such nonsense" I hadn't seen such things in a while so I thought we had finally moved on as a society. Guess I was wrong :/

[@adrianpetyt9167]

Oddly, the phrase "Bodaceous tatas" is used by a sympathetic lesbian character to the lesbian protagonist in the novel Rotary Spokes by Fiona Cooper.

[@heckylmylove]

The Queer Kiwi: "Give me better love triangles" Me: *Looking at Stephanie Meyer* "Yeah. Do it!"

[@dogtaghope3982]

Off the love triangle thing, there is a PHENOMENAL book called In the Ravenous Dark that does in fact end its love triangle with polyamory and also it's a kickass fantasy I cannot recommend this book enough

[@randompotato7391]

Ooo Imma have to check it out! I read Iron Widow a while ago and really liked it!

[@CHARCOAL8495]

how is your makeup on point literally every time?

[@charlieandhisantics9954]

Magic

[@966aAad]

There was a love triangle at legend of Korra . Main girl (Korra) had a crush on whatever-his-name but before she could confess he started dating a girl (Asami) . After the guy dated and broke with both of them for a few times series ended with Korra and Asami dating

[@PokhrajRoy.]

11:17 The question is rhetorical but the answer is lazy writing. They think triggering people is equal to realistic cinema rather than subtext.

[@quinnilin]

17:57 I think I can explain this one. It's something I had to think about when I myself wound up exploring cnc. Our society both demands teenage girls cater to male appetites in dress and horrifically shames them for ever experiencing or acting on sexuality. Young girls are expected to be utterly mature and enticing while also being innocent and uninterested in sex. Because of this, it's really difficult for a lot of teenage girls to allow themselves to process their awakening sexuality. Books that have dub-con and non-con elements allow the girl to live vicariously through the MC and experience the excitement and adventure of a romance while never having to cross the boundary of 'wanting it' when wanting sex is considered so utterly stigmatizing and can ruin your social life. The man does all the work but "has a heart of gold" while the girl can say she "tried" to be good and blame him for anything shameful. Of course, this translates to young girls being more vulnerable to predation and abuse, because the things their partner is doing to them aren't ''that bad'' and he truly loves them deep down. The fairy-tale romance they envisioned was cultivated by a society that wants to glorify abuse. It's honestly just sad.

[@sammjaisais7135]

9:45 it gets worse once you realise Sasha Pieterse was 13 when she got the role, making her the youngest in the whole cast, as she wasn't even the same age as her character. Lucy Hale and Ashley Benson were 20, Shay Mitchell was 23 and Troian Bellisario was 24. I can't get out of my head that they actually had a 13 year old kiss a 23 year old. Creeps me out. Edit: additional information, correction of data and corrected Sasha's surname.

[@thegreatserene]

a lot of strong woman characters suffered at the hands of other women too. usually their mothers...just point it out since I looked through a list of my favourite characters to see if that was true lol

[@8ClockworkPurple8]

It’s guys like this that make me love my tattoos even more. Not only are they beautiful and tell great stories, they are also creep repellent

[@martianpudding9522]

No but actually the misconception in the statement that women who like horses like sex is the assumption that most women don't like sex. Women who like horses do like sex because women do like sex

[@lillakiss760]

Women very much like sex but not the hetero male tipe of sex, so in their eyes it equals with women don't like sex

[@dcornect53]

A really good live triangle: Enby entranced with sapphic desire for this woman, woman falling in love with this man because he was so kind and respectful of her as a human during a traumatic event later to find that he only wants to be cared about, that man enchanted by the enigma of this lovesick enby.

[@maggiefelisberto5281]

"Give me better love triangles" may I please introduce you to the impeccable and iconic film Cabaret?

[@keelycommando2192]

Yes! Polyamory as the solution for love triangles! I love it! There is actually one really good book that does that called "Iron widow" it is so amazing!

[@mizixy9624]

My dogs have a proper triangle, but it’s more of a love/hate type of thing. Our middle dog, a three year old female Australian Cattle Dog is obsessed with our oldest dog. He is 13 and a Border Collie and Australian Shepherd mix, he tolerates her but really likes to mess with youngest dog. The youngest dog is a 2 year old Miniature Goldendoodle but he wants the middle dog’s attention but she can’t stand him.

[@FeministCatLadySpinster]

My takeaway from this is that I should get a tattoo. 🐈‍⬛️

[@aly_0.1]

7:55 shoutout to iron widow for resolving the love triangle with polyamoury, something i'd previously only seen in fanfic, lol

[@regularly_priced]

Read the Shadowhunters Chronicles!! Every single love triangle in there ends up differently. One of them ends up in polyamory too

[@chrisiscool]

oh i haven't seen your videos in a while and i saw your notif so i wanted to check it out and i see you have skzoo plushies in the background. very good style 10/10 stan stray kids

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Beducated sounds awesome! 👏🏽

[@dcornect53]

Your sponsorship was the first one on any channel that I haven't skipped through in at least a year.

[@Coom42069]

Alsoooo I drew a Kiwi with the gay flag😦

[@aspartame13]

slayyyy

[@Coom42069]

@@aspartame13 ikr

[@kosmicwaffle]

15:35 Being from Quebec is a fate worse than death

[@mildlycornfield]

Idk, I quite like the phrase 'sparkling pebbles' lmao. I might start describing mine like that from now on 🤣

[@TobiasFangorIsntCis]

Bro, the whole “women only like riding horses because it’s sexually stimulating” argument has been around a looooong time. A similar complaint was made by men during the rise of bicycle availability. It boils down to “I hate the idea of women being capable of traveling on their own and getting jobs with a commute, so I’m going to attach it to something our society considers shameful. That’ll teach those women liberationists >:)”

[@bloomshift]

7:44 if you are looking for a book like that, I can’t recommend Iron Widow enough! It’s all around excellent but also fulfills this specific need

[@ParanormalEncyclopedia]

Crazy idea for a super hero story: Woman gets super powers because she accidentally gets stuck in a plot hole (why not it's as good as any other reason people get super powers) and then goes out to fight crime... because it's the right thing to do. No deep seated trauma, no being a rape victim and heck both parents alive and completely healthy loving parents she just feels that she has a moral obligation to use the abilities she gained to make the world a better place... crazy isn't it?