Skills for Helping Clients Get “Unstuck” during Times of Uncertainty with Joan Borysenko

[@aliceermlich1146]

What keeps me stuck are these things: 1. Overwhelming inappropriate guilt or shame that I am not accomplishing things others (and myself) are likely to judge me for. Like a filthy apartment. 2. Thinking I should have another goal ahead of one I am either thinking of working on or am. 3.Not wanting to take care of myself 4 Feeling overwhelmed 5. Distracting myself by doing something interactive with others because I am starting to isolate, feel bored, or want to escape my unkept environment. I know there are more things, like internalized stigma, fears of failure and keeping successes as continuing successes, fears if others see me do well some will attack me out of envy - so "too much success" isn't safe. Some truth. Hmmm. Makes me wonder - is it safe to publicly fail yet secretly succeed - and what the heck would that even be. Maybe my weight problem plus art oriented things. Weight gain I have sounds part of a bad recipe. I am diagnosed obese.

[@lizwinkelaar3613]

Alice Ermlich start by cleaning your room

[@kimlec3592]

accept you are human & need to do certain things to feel better. the feelings that take over our lives when we aren't able to be with others are very hard. try to write how you feel without blaming or shaming yourself. many people here in Australia are going nuts because of the extreme lock downs & behaviour of those in charge of nursing homes this situation causes many overwhelming feelings, as you wrote. keep writing to keep in touch with yourself.

[@CLEFT3000]

@@kimlec3592 that’s good advice 🙂

[@kirstieb8025]

sounds like you have trauma.

[@kirstieb8025]

sounds like you didn’t have nurturing parents

[@edtrafidlo1029]

how to maintain/cultivate/grow the return is important ... the return can unfortunately be brief - it can (easily) unravel and u have to start the whole process again (for the umpteenth time) :-(

[@klattalexis]

Do the Grief Work!

[@tamikaqueen1203]

I think that some of them feel they should be married with 2 plus kids & are feeling anxious about the future.

[@tonijones4268]

What are the "skills" that people need to be unstuck?

[@kirstieb8025]

find out if your parents sucked first