The only shame I had is who my parents were...and the place of my birth.

Why do I keep seeing this?

Magnificent insightful

Thanks

the hug made me feel instantly safe and sad at the same time. i remembered what i once had and then lost at an early age.

This is Bessel van Der Kolk. He wrote the book The Body Keeps The Score. It has changed my life for the better and I can safely say millions for the better, fellow trauma survivors. Please give it a read and do not rush through it even if the topic may not apply to you. This man is a wonderful source of knowledge on how the mind and events in our lifetime (good and bad) can affect our very physiology. The blue book with the figure of a person on it, thats the one. All the best!

This mans so right

I recently bought a body pillow to help me to learn to sleep on my side. I find it comforting and soothing and helping me to sleep better. Now i understand I'm soothing my trauma. ❤ Thank you. Also explained why i felt sexual feelings for a guy who gave me a great hug even tho i didn't know him well. I really loved the hug at the time. However, afyer i attached to him in an unhealthy way.😮

As a BPD diagnosed person, Marsha did sell me the idea of "lets do this, it will hurt but when you finally get to the top of the ladder, the horrible pain finally will end." ❤ Lets focus on effectiveness and wise mind. ❤

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I've been rejected by women all my life. I'm now 75. Rejection saps confidence, induces resentment, jealousy, bitterness, low self esteem - and loneliness. It affects every aspect of one's life including working life - as it did in my case. I feel worthless. For me it's been the worst thing in my life - and I've had cancer!

I found a way to fall asleep with a self hug and my legs intertwined. Very comforting.

Did this exercise for the first time briefly. Am on the edge of terror, despair, frozenness. Will continue to try this exercise off and on, today and tomorrow especially.(Summer Solstice today 20/06/24; Full moon tomorrow; triggering happening on the property I live on)

She seems so angry...😔🙏

oh man! exactly😮

i was in the military and i dont remember my 6 weeks of basic training. the bad thing is that no one believes me.

Such simple things and I realise I do these all the time spontaneously myself. When we are in our body we do this naturally ourselves because we are attuned and our body always communicates about what we need. Holding self and letting the emotions flow is one of the best Inner child work/healing work you can do. Not running away but holding yourself through them and giving yourself love and reassurance and the words that you always needed. You do this often and your grown body will start to feel different. More present and alive. May everyone who reads this find their inner support to help them heal themselves and find the deeper meaning to their life experiences and find utter peace about their past. ❤️

I have a question about NARM. I have cptsd, abuse amnesia/dissociation, anxiety, and depression. I've been in sessions for 2 months. My therapist starts out by asking what I want for myself, then has me talk about what I'm going through, with the pauses to sit with the feelings. Just when I am the most emotional and upset and at the topmost branch of the trauma tree, the session ends, he recaps what happened and it's over. I'm left with all the feelings and flooding and no way to get back down, no direction or guidance. Then I take a shower and nap, and am very sensitive and extra reliant on my service dog for a few days. Is that how NARM is supposed to go?

Very interesting, thank you! Engaging with others....well, it does make a lot of sense now that I used to enjoy Aikido and still love horseback riding. Plus interacting with horses in general.

Thank you for this information❤ I don't have it as severely as others in coments but I am always in a lot of pain because of this.Can you help with sleepwalking? I notice if I take care of what I'm worried about and take care of it I don't do it as often. Any tips would be greatly appreciated ❤

I'm 61 had this problem for years cacked teeth ear ache for years thinking ear infection very painful thank you❤ I can work with this😊

Thank you ❤ I can't believe how easy that was to fix. How about sleep walking do you have any tips for me?

2.1k likes over 4 years isn’t nearly enough. THESE are the type of videos I deem worthy of going viral. Thank you 🙏🏼

Seeing Peter skip was exactly what I needed this morning

Thankyou bessel 😊 I'm reading your book, body keeps the score, collapsing into silence pg 293, this as been occurring to me fir last 20 years, I thought I had a fear of silence. Now I understand

Other specified, use to be called "Dissociative disorder not other wise specified".(ddNOS) We were dx with this at first, and it was so invalidating as many of the younger alters were so confused. How could they not be specified? did that mean we were an oddball that just didnt' fit into any other category? They were upset that no one was being specific. I mean we had to be either one thing, or another. We couldn't just be some non specific thing! You're correct that dissociating has a bad name, but even more so, more than one personality/identity has a really bad name! and some therapists dont' even believe that it's a real thing. so we were told that DID wasn't a valid diagnosis at all. so what did that make us? invalid? we didn't exist? because a therapist said that calling us by our names would "cement" us in and make our condition worse? how? He just made our condition worse by saying that alters weren't even real! It did so much damage. In his opinion, alters were created by a former therapist putting the idea into our head, and to "people please" we took on the symptoms to appease the therapist. What in the actual..... ? You've got to be kidding me right? this therapist seriously thought that they had that much power over people that they could put some notion into their head and suddenly the person takes on the symptoms? If the above is true... then why can't another therapist, such as themselves, put the idea into our head that it's all made up and we are really just one person. Guess what? despite what they said, we are still multiple people. Therapists, need to be very mindful of what they say to their patients. And how they label them.

Why would movement help me if im in shutdown? Im exhausted and exercise gives me more symptoms and PEM