My Updated Wash N’ Go Routine, One Product, No Gel

[@chantelchavon]

Fren! Show us how you wear your hair to sleep! I’m so tired of waking up looking like a survivor! 🤣

[@SlimReshae]

lolol sissss! i did a week in my hair here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l4e1dYiCj6t5gsU

[@uniquexglamllc3022]

what has worked for my 4B/C hair is at nice using a little Camille rose and sleep with a sating bonnet. In the morning i spritz my hair with water and use my fingers to pick it up into a style.

[@reesycasi]

That was my exact question. So glad u asked. 🏆

[@leslielewis40]

😂😂😂

[@Lucy-ql7tt]

😂😂😂

When you first meet someone, you put your best foot forward...if that's his best foot...IMAGINE....his lack of initiative and nonchalant attitude is his character...🚩

[@UndertheNeedle282]

How did she put her best foot forward if she committed to letting him know when she was on the way and then didn't do that. This man was waiting for her call.

[@shirrelljackson6365]

Being in a long term relationship, I learned that communication is key and goes both ways. U said u would text him when u were on ur way, but u didn’t. So just like u felt stood up, so did he. And just like u felt he could’ve reached out if he was unsure, he probably felt the same.

[@aleshaknight2114]

Definitely

[@CreditCoachSteph]

Came here to say this. She didn't do what she said she would do on a 1st meeting. I would have been at home too. Yes, you were wrong.

[@spacebar6020]

Buddy was playing games, never entertain men like that. If he sets a date, is unsure you’re not going to show up, he should be grown enough to text to see if the date was still on at least. To not show up at all or explain the reason for not being there is disrespectful

[@callmechichi1711]

I second that!

[@Jayariee]

Yeah personally I'm now showing up unless you confirm you're still coming but I’d atleast ask

[@ramahh979]

Exactly!

[@SlimReshae]

that's what i was thinking lol. like it's not like i didn't show up. i said i was gone be there and i was. but i definitely couldve communicated better.

[@UndertheNeedle282]

Communication goes both ways. If he was obligated to call or text then so was she.

[@AngelaNWashington07]

If they want to, they will. Common curiosity to say drive safe good morning etc. You say that to strangers on the street. And honestly, if coffee shops aren't your thing don't start it off as a meet-up place. First impression are everything. Mean what you say and say what you mean. If you're looking for a serious long term relationship, be honest and upfront from the beginning. You don't want to fall for a facade, and neither should the other party.

[@SlimReshae]

yep! i feel you. i do love starbies even tho i dont drink coffee, that's why i chose it since we were working with a limited time frame

[@alyssajanvier6321]

I love The Doux mousses!!! My wash and go’s have so much definition and great hold 🥰❤️

[@atthismoment3006]

wow your hair is so pretty I have been watching you for years and your real natural hair is so Beautiful best look yet!

[@tabbyb3514]

Communication is key! He may have assumed he was being stood up by you simply because you didn't keep your word on sending the text you said you would send prior to arriving at the location Nevertheless he could have showed his interest in the date if he had any interest by sending a text to confirm if the date was still on.. So there is definitely alot of miscommunication in the mix🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Crystal_curls85]

I agree. Being a person of your word is very important in any type of relationship.

[@SlimReshae]

i hear that!

[@JessyBaby07]

I agree. I Def think it was miscommunication on both parts... but also #MercuryRetrograde 🫠🙃

[@beckabear2011]

Coffee dates are great for a 1st time meet up! 🤩

[@sheraw5308]

This is pretty one product is nice. I don’t have the patience to do all the coiling 😊 I may try sectioning apply and brush through 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@curlrockincrazy455]

AND, lol your hair looks perfect! I’m gonna get that stuff! Sometimes I just want something easy to set my hair and go

[@imcindyc]

Your hair is THRIVING and it turned out gorgeous with only one product. Unfortunately Reesa Teesa learned the hard way and ignored the red flags due to her lonliness for a spouse. I admire her courage to share her story to keep us from making the exact same mistake and overlook red flags. In a case like this game player you came across RUN DONT WALK in the opposite direction like most of us when we come across confusing communicators. Continue to Raise the bar Queen!!!

[@curlrockincrazy455]

No you were not in the wrong! And you’re not asking for too much. Know your worth and that you deserve better. He should have been there no matter what! He should be excited to get any time with you. Raise your bar girl!

[@SlimReshae]

raising it HIGH now

[@curlrockincrazy455]

Omg! You have saved me! I was looking for something easy, with hold, and the shine was a huge bonus! But thank you! This product is amazing for me. Sooooo happy I tried this. I can do my hair in 5 mins lol

[@majormediaproductions]

Wow your hair looks great and that orange looks spectacular on you🤩

[@jaloneynorwood4306]

Love the natural curl , I’ve been on my journey for a few years now, I’m focusing on growth now. Now far as the guy, be mindful of what energy you come cross. He given you the first sign when he paused to be on FaceTime and sitting in the dark. Clear sign he chose to be hidden and not found by pic /places.

[@C.387]

I have this product I love the results I can’t wait to try this ❤ you make it so simply and beautiful follow your 💟 and intuition is everything and thanks sis.

[@ChandreJonkers]

Joh your hair is really growing.👏

[@monifa3605]

Your hair is growing so beautifully. I personally think that both of you are in the wrong. It was a misunderstanding on both sides. I would have texted or called him to confirm if we were still meeting up 💕

[@SlimReshae]

i hear that. i think i am also now desiring men who give initiative and pursuit. i normally am the one who shows initiative first so i think that's why i had this perspective in this instance. + thank you boo!!

[@brandimartin5140]

You expecting him to text you when you told him you’d text him when you were on the way and didn’t is hypocritical. As women if we want me who do what they say we need to hold ourselves to the same standard. Yes, he could have texted you but he shouldn’t have to when you told him you’d text. He didn’t play games and blocking men because you didn’t do what you said you were going to do will leave you single. Your hair is beautiful!

[@Snukumsz]

Listening to this, I don’t think anyone is “wrong” per se, I think it sounds like y’all not that interested in each other, especially him. You’re in his city and he wants to see you (even if the want is mutual), if he was unsure HE should have texted you that morning asking if you guys were still on. Not doing so shows he has no serious interest. YES you also could have/should have text him that you’re on the way; however, if you tell him you’re going text him when you’re on the way I just assume that is to let him know when he should leave out as well. I see everyone saying you’re in the wrong but really think about it. Unless the place is 5 minutes away from him and he could get ready really fast, what does an “I’m on the way” text going to do if he’s not already ready? (That is my assumption since he was still at his house, I’m assuming he just woke up washed his face and brushed his teeth). Anywho, it’s definitely miscommunication with BOTH of you. When someone is genuinely interested, the genuine excitement is going to make them text you first. And it sounds like he didn’t care and would’ve just went about his day uninterested. And the same could be said in your case since you didn’t text you were on the way (but again, I don’t think an “I’m on the way” text does much in this situation); but also, ehh because you did text him if he was there. More effort could have been given on both ends if you both were genuinely really interested in each other. Now lemmie get back to the video lol

[@BlackNRicanMarriage]

Babbbyyyyyyyyyyy this is it!!!!!! These were literally my thoughts. Everyone is blaming him but I see it like you. They both weren't that interested. You make time for what you want to. It only takes a second to text, so either of them could have. If I am into someone , and I am not in their city, and I am driving there I am verifying. I think they both should have communicated better.

[@kimc5321]

But you said you were gonna text him in the morning and you didn’t 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@SlimReshae]

im not saying i wasnt wrong for not texting him in the morning. i understand that aided into the miscommunication. i was not expecting him to no-show. we agreed to meet, if he had any doubt that i'd not show up then he could've asked instead of just not showing up.

[@GaDiva769]

Cute wash n go and I love that mousse!! Regarding the coffee date, a few things stood out, I wouldn't have made a date an hour before a gig, it would've been rushed. Second both parties should've confirmed etc.

[@kennicia1]

I love this! Does this hold up in humidity though with no gel?? I’m trying to plan a hairstyle for a destination wedding 😭

[@ramahh979]

Girl block his lame azz! You’re way too beautiful to play them games! Your hair turned out gorgeous!

[@SlimReshae]

😊 thank you

[@curlsqueenofficial]

Love your hair videos!😍😍

[@MildredTurner-c8b]

Im obsess with your hair😍

[@SlimReshae]

Thank you!

[@HMTiffany-f2r]

my sister, if brother didn't text you in the morning or before coffee to see how your morning or photoshoot went, he is not worth your time. you are a diamond in the rough sister, keep true to you my sigma female, much love and aloha

[@SlimReshae]

thank you!

[@tiarenae1992]

Common sense isn’t common anymore. God’s saving you for someone uniquely made just for you… Who won’t stand you up and adore you like the Queen you are!♥️

[@josephinearmstrong8775]

your skin looks great what are you using. day/night routine will b great video shulks !! girl you look great in that orange and let us know your lip coloe gloss pencil whatever it was we love it keep doing you and we know you love yourself

[@kimmcfadden4679]

Do you know if this mousse works on low porosity hair. I avoid protein, coconut oil and silicones because they dry my hair out...

[@SlimReshae]

i have low porosity hair, but i also don't intensely pay attention to ingredients, i will say this can dry out your hair if you dont use a moisturizing leave in, so i would try the mousse def one from the doux, its more moisturizing

[@kimmcfadden4679]

@@SlimReshae Thanks for the tip! :)

[@Luckimee]

I literally was JUST thinking, what about a setting foam for wash n gos?? Now the algorithms can read your mind

[@SlimReshae]

hahaha chile they be tuned IN!

[@kennethiavail1719]

What do you use to fluff out your hair? The length was drastic. Also what did you sleep with to keep the bounce and length for tomorrow?

[@SlimReshae]

how i dry my hair - kzbin.info/www/bejne/rn_JloqHrNB_e7s | how i sleep - kzbin.info/www/bejne/l4e1dYiCj6t5gsU

[@ladarrickatalford8274]

Is it possible to achieve this look with a diffuser v/s a head dryer?

[@wealthiscommunity]

you are absolutely not in the wrong! that guy stood you up on confirmed plans.

[@nataliehoye9437]

This is such a cute style! 😍 I'm going to do this style for my hair. How long does it last and can you sweat it out?

[@SlimReshae]

It lasts 3-5 days before putting it in a puff b/c I didn’t use gel, it’ll sweat out quicker

[@clecle8153]

I’ll watch that challenge

[@KreativTouch]

Ahh, Slimm you probably should have been a woman of your word and called/texted; howeverrrr I also think guys don't show enough initiative that they are MEN and know how to pursue women. If he was interested, he should have reached out to confirm the meeting. Men be waiting for us to chase them when it's in our DNA to wish to be pursued❤

[@Nita_Key]

I wouldn't make any snap judgments about the app guy based on what you've shared here. Men also have feelings and can worry about rejection, appearing too thirsty, flaky women, etc. So when you didn't text to confirm or send an omw text, he might have assumed you weren't interested. There are also a lot of loud, toxic people giving loud, toxic advice on the internet as well, as evident by your comments. 😂 Good luck out here.

[@SlimReshae]

facts the comments on this video is wildddd 😂

[@Destructo_420]

😱 omg !!! She is literally so damn gorgeous

[@SlimReshae]

thank you!

[@andreaani4928]

Excellent tutorial!❤

[@saphirespirit7832]

One pump challenge sounds goods - sometimes less is more; no residue; are the products damaging to your hair/ scalp with excessive use? Are they effecting your insides? 🤔 humm?

[@macummings7818]

Thx for sharing Consider your communication style carefully - that way youre fairly assessing all the dynamics I think different people approach meetings and arrangements differently depending on communication - because you spoke abt communicating before meeting, this guy put priority on that - even though for you, the priority was on the meeting and not on the confirmation. 🤷‍♀️

[@callmechichi1711]

13:54 You are super gorgeous & you are definitely rocking that orange outfit.

[@grownfolksperspectives]

Hey Lil Sis ~ Sounds like a misunderstanding. If you said you would let him know when you were on your way, you should have let him know you were on your way. I would not have left my home to meet someone if they said they would text first. I don't think he was wrong.

[@shantehale3188]

Hey beautiful results❤

[@Michelle_with2Ls]

You told him you would let him know when you were on the way. You didn’t keep your word. We expect men to say what they mean and mean what they say. We should do the same. If you want the man to be a man then let him make the plans and do the confirming. In my observation you took that away from him. Best to fall back and stay in the feminine energy of receptivity allowing the man to lead, then there is much less confusion. You either like how he is leading, taking action and being clear of his interest or you don’t… then you can decide. Otherwise, you don’t have enough information to judge him or conclude to dismiss him. Wishing you the best on your relationship journey. Love the content. Love and Light. 💓

[@diaryofavirtuouswoman]

I know I’m late, but girl you did you say you was going to text him in the morning and then turnt around and said I did not message him.. it was a lack of communication. Also, be careful taking advice from single women, because those are always the loudest giving out terrible advice.. to keep you single just like them!! (Women really be on that type of time..don’t want you doing better than them/competitive/envy..especially when it comes to having a man) Love how your hair turned out in this video 😊

[@SlimReshae]

hahaahaa i feel you sis!! + thank you!

[@freewithnature]

It’s different if you made the plans like a week ago, then I could see texting to be like hey we still on? But if it was the night before that should be a given both parties will show 😂 Also I’m bouta try this tomorrow and see how my hair looks!!

[@TheBlackMadonna1]

What product did you use to put your twist in

[@ashantarose2140]

You handled the situation correctly. He was playing games. He didn't value your time. Since you had a coffee date planned, he could have checked in with you if he didn't hear from you. He had no intention of showing up.

[@kenishascott4874]

If he wanted to he would.. is my favorite line to combat anything

[@SlimReshae]

periodttt

[@kimberlywatkins928]

Celebrate your gifts and treat yourself the way you want to be treated…no one is going to treat you better than you. Not selfish but self care…reward yourself for being beautiful!

[@mzdbnell]

No! You weren't wrong. Dude was really weird 😂 And no you are not asking for too much.

[@tangiessubtleluxuries]

Absolutely Beautiful!❤

[@TheNenaBrown]

He’d absolutely be blocked. Period. I would say for you though, texting saying are you “there” instead of “here” is also playing games…

[@SlimReshae]

sis i aint know that man, so i was tryna think of my safety too lol if i knew him i wouldve communicated better for sure lol

[@revertedrf978]

Did you use leave in?

[@alanaalleyne-taylor1170]

Does anybody with type 4b/c hair use this and get a good result??!

[@timikaedwards4819]

Hmmm… I would say you told him you would do something you didn’t which was contact him on your way. He may have dealt with “late” people before and was waiting for your confirmation. If you hadn’t mentioned you would do that, I would say yes, it would be reasonable for either of you to check in.

[@kearstenw3855]

Are you doing this on wet or damp hair?

[@SlimReshae]

0:29 !

[@kearstenw3855]

@@SlimReshae Thank you

[@godsprecious6884]

Block him. Loved the chat ❤❤❤

[@Kichona23466]

You did say u was gonna text him in the morning and you didn’t. But at the same time, if he was really interested in you, he would’ve put in a little more effort to confirm if the date was still on. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@arielb.3066]

Hiiiiii new subscriber here! its 1:04am in Houston and im up watching all your videos im teary eyed because i feel as if i finally found someone with my exact same texture hair especially when wet 😫soooo tell me are you low or high porosity hair because im sooo confused on mines so whatever yours is thats what ill go with 🫢😁😁😁😁😁

[@PorschaWilson-sn6ul]

I like your hair...at least you showed up...I don't think you were wrong

[@sadie-delaney5534]

“Ion even like coffee”🤣

[@lovely.libra21]

Your 6 flawless. Love the hair, too.

[@Staticky1000]

You famous

[@SlimReshae]

not even lol

[@robinfoster415]

Beautiful ❤

[@IAmyourbeautyguide]

Wonderful video ❤

[@SlimReshae]

Thank you 🤗

[@johnsonjam77]

You said earlier in your story you would let him know when you're leaving, and you didn't. You had time to call a friend on the way. You should've texted him to say your on your way.

[@SlimReshae]

i definitely couldve!

[@carleneclark1702]

Sad 😔. But you did right. When they don’t show any interest, don’t push it. Because they aren’t worth it. Just watch yourself out here around some of these guys. And always remember to let your people or friends know where you are going even if it’s in the daytime. Just saying, please be safe.💖💘💝✝️💟☮️

[@estherjean1362]

He would've never done that to someone he's genuinely interested in.

[@Cherishcharmkay]

Hair is fire as always. Definitely a miss communication on both sides. Neither one of y'all confirmed the day of the date. You didn't let him know you were on the way, and he didn't check to confirm if you were on the way. It doesn't seem like either one of you was really interested.

[@Beauty4ashes80]

Possibly your commitment to text him that morning was what he considered your confirmation to the date. However, I think both of you all could have done damage control considering you all misunderstood each other once you all finally connected via text.

[@SlimReshae]

agreed!

[@SoMarley13]

If he really wanted to... he would have checked in at least. Issa sassy men pandemic

[@SlimReshae]

hahaha right!

[@cindyanacleto1205]

Your not wrong

[@kenelia98]

He thought he was getting stood up. He said “oh she didn’t text me so I’m not gonna look desperate and text her.” But to me, that’s that sassy man stuff.

[@brittaneecook7853]

Friend, never tell a man you will text time first to confirm anything. When a man wants you he will take full initiative, you will never have to put yourself out there. It does sounds like miscommunication you should of stuck with your word but he should of still called or texted you that morning prior to the coffee date.

[@deborahcoutinho1399]

Don’t talk to the dude anymore. You’re to beautiful for that sh..❤

[@SlimReshae]

haha yeah i got outta there asap.

[@vallong8475]

It threw me off when you starter by saying when you talked to him at the end of the call you said you would text him when you're on your war. Girl you did that! If I was meeting someone for the first time in person and they made a point of saying we're meeting at 11 but I'll text you when I'm leaving depending on how far i live from the location I'm waiting for you to what you said.

[@AnimeBullboy]

Bruh, this is wild... wild! Her: i have plans in the city, so I'll let you know when im on my way to the date. Him: ok Her: Hey, im at the coffee shop for our date. Him: i thought you were going to text me when you're on your way. Her: Never mind, it's all good. Also, her: i feel like he could have said something about it. Is that not simple. Me: Why would he do that? You guys covered everything in the nights conversation. Why not do what you said you were going to do and text him when you were on your way. Women in the comments: yeah girl, you did nothing wrong! Yeah you need to up those standards! Know your worth girl. Me: i now see that the cy -op has worked and women respect men so little that its his fault for even listening to you and thinking he could trust your word. Also me: this video has convinced me that its over. I thought men and women had a disconnect that needed to be fixed. But no, modern women dont respect men and at the same time dont respect themselves. Lastly: your hair is nice. Great job, i actually came for the wash n go.

[@bigheadlonghair246]

Idk if I would consider this being stood up. It seems like the communication wasn't solid to begin with. Seems like you were waiting on him and he was waiting on you. I'm almost 40 so the men tend to be a lot more forward than the 20 somethings. I think he was waiting on you before it was confirmed that y'all were meeting. And you were under the assumption that it was already confirmed. Definitely just seems like miscommunication

[@SlimReshae]

lol i agree, im dramatically counting it as my first time being stood up lol + we confirmed we were meeting the night prior. i was just going to tell him when i was otw because i was driving from out of town. but nonetheless is was definitely just miscommunication lol

[@beckabear2011]

Naw sis you in the wrong. If you said you were going to text him to confirm then you should have done so. People flake all the time. Follow through is very important.

[@kearstenw3855]

Take this from an "Auntie".... Number one, you should never be concerned about who's going to pay for your coffee. If a man cannot pay for your coffee then he's not worth your time ESPECIALLY CONSIDERING THE FACT that he didn't even show up 😶 Please understand this lesson, if a man wants you and is into you he will make the arrangements, he will call, text or do whatever he needs to do to make sure that you all are on the same page ‼️ He will not play games with you and will be upfront and direct. Please do not accept anything less than what you deserve because you are a beautiful young woman. He should have made the initiative to call you, NOT TEXT, but call. Grown men call you they don't text on the first date. Also, I think you answered your own question, NO you're not asking for too much. Everything that you said is what he should have done. So it's NOT you it's him. You have to demand respect from the get-go and that comes from how you allow a man to treat you in the beginning. REMEMBER, you are the PRIZE. 💞

[@SlimReshae]

factsssss! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Simsims2329]

He sounds like he was not that interested. Yes u should have called him. But he could have called to double check. And not just assume.

[@erheaflower4318]

You ordered your coffee ahead of time but couldn't call or text him to let him know you were on the way? Effort goes both ways. He probably thought you weren't interested too

[@Rebellocs]

To be honest you both could have communicated better. Usually I would over communicate whether professional or personal . Definitely checking in in the morning would have been a good idea. Guys get stood up too.

[@kelzah]

He should have called or texted that morning. Ugh. These dudes really.. never mind. Must be something in the water

[@fromsilver5]

He should have texted you to confirm as the person who asked for the date in the first place. The fact that he didn’t means he’s not following his plan AND thinks you’ll pick up and go or not go on a drop of a dime on his time. And if he invited you for coffee which is so low effort anyway… the fact that he couldn’t even make that is so lazy and unattractive… and it’s the least he could do to offer to pay for your coffee. It’s like 4 dollars. 🧐 *also if you don’t even like coffee please let them know that. They can think of something else you would like 😤. Doesn’t take much effort at all for them to be considerate.

[@leslielewis40]

He would have been straight to the block list. Forgotten and on to the next one. Ain’t got no time for that childish bull 💩.

[@laskiaelder304]

I'm coming to you as an auntie, I pray to God that you have not given him another opportunity to be in your presence. Red flags are shown to us for a reason. When he FaceTimed you in the dark, my antenna went up. Then to leave you at the coffeeshop and he didn't show. Block him. You're too beautiful to be playing reindeer games. You are the prize!!!

[@4806lency]

Girl I'm tired of these men of today not taking initiatives and being careless in nature. Like what happened to straight upright gentlemen. All these men wanna be princess I don't get it. It's hard

[@tameashajanaye3200]

I don’t think you were in the wrong I’m like that too baby we said we was meeting what you mean and I didn’t tell you I can’t make it he coulda texted though “hey I didn’t get your text we still on for the date?” How hard was that lol 😂 I see a lot of people saying other wise but I said what I said and I know you mentioned you would text in the morning but you were busy I don’t fault you on that I don’t think he really wanted to link with you honestly

[@xpnn]

first of all, men on apps are 99% creeps and complete time-wasters. And if he doesn't say anything on the day of the date, or at least 4 hours before the date, there is no date. I also suggest dating other races (if u aren't already), because increasing your dating pool increases your chances of getting in a relationship/married

[@callmechichi1711]

Please block that dude. Please & thank ya ✌🏽.

[@lnyawilliamsmoore]

Rev 21:3-6

[@kimberlywatkins928]

Bus down..boom boom😂

[@mirellathompson5562]

You were not in the wrong, he’s just a lackadaisical man who shows no initiative smh

[@diamondsblackroses2549]

All 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Run

[@aquafina6544]

No you were not wrong he was just playing. I hate simpletons. He should of texted you mornin are we still on or im looking forward to the meet up. Next, for him to say was up... like he has 4 gotten y'all had a date gtfoh dude is a dusty..