SIDE EFFECTS OF FORGIVENESS ▫️Small Doses Podcast

[@2zai207i]

Forgiveness does not always mean reconciliation.

[@jayraynido]

That part! 💯💯💯💯

[@ricardomayo8337]

Theres forgetfulness, which demands respect. And to those that are outright dishonest they should shelve their feelings as God and any higher power is real. Pay attention and make a path at least.

[@EvolvingMama_]

Yes I learned the hard way to extend forgiveness while standing firm on denying access 🗣️‼️

[@courtneygodsey7567]

"Forgiveness begins at accountability" - this blessed my whole soul. Thank you, Amanda

[@Lemorgg]

A timely and cathartic episode for me as I’m working through what forgiveness actually looks like for me and not what the religious background I came from portrays

[@taliaj2587]

"All Cancers believe in astrology"😂 Yessss Cancer venus here

[@sandrajoelle2482]

Solo episodes are my favorites. And this subject in particular is very important to me. I never forget. You hurt I forever remember. And I do not think I have to forgive those who hurt me in order to move on. Thank you for this episode.

[@awesomesauce8185]

I hope you keep having success with your podcast. Always support the truth. God bless Palestine and you.

[@e.mwenda6501]

Ms Seales, you are a champion for self awareness and yet, you courageously bear the costs of it.! I am in awe of what you are building. Keep doing, it big sis!

[@adriennemartin227]

Forgiveness is definitely a journey and I love the Sex and the City reference!

[@susanspaller61]

Friend… this is an amazing episode!! I just got in a fight with my sister over the weekend where she told me “I should forgive” another family member. I wish I would have watched this before the fight.

[@MaxineShaw_84]

22:02 Meg's agile knees truly have so many life applications. 😌 🎯

[@TalentsInNaturalArt]

YYAAAAASSSSSSS!!!! Queen, Preach!!! I can forgive you and know that you don't need to stay in my space! Amanda... You are one of my "besties" in my head!

[@samonecharisma3043]

This episode was everything. As a person that has lost friends for making bad choices the reality that it’s the other persons choice to either forgive and still remove you from there life is real. It’s painful still

[@gabby6080]

omg Amanda I just watched "Women Talking"after watching this and I am weeeping! so good

[@K4iMango]

“I Just gotta eat that” sacrifice is worth it as long as you trust the process.

[@yolandafintak2263]

Just watched this, and what you said about Cancers...is so true!! LOL!! "Its' A Gift." Love your Podcast Amanda!

[@audreyibezim3509]

As a Cancer sun , i am definitely off that train. Lol. Great video and definitely had my notepad writing down these gems! Thank you!

[@DipsetBabiizz]

LOVE you, Amanda! So happy to have found you 💕💕💕💕

[@Deji918]

Enjoyed your thoughtful take on forgiveness. Shout-out from London.

[@ricardomayo8337]

Theres a blessing in that, provided moving forward conpletes that soace &/or void.

[@ricardomayo8337]

That wasnt small!! ##atall

[@OmarOrtiz8613]

i got a lot out of this. i always enjoy your intellect & sense of humor. Happy to know about the healing that’s taken place between you & your Mom. Side note: Every time i watch your videos, i low-key always look for you to imitate your Mom. i get such a kick out of that LOL! GOD Bless You & Yours Amanda.

[@maeveHeyoka]

You already know authenticity is freedom. You mean a lot to so many. I’ve always felt like you’re able to see people. Mirroring them. Because what you want most is to show them the way. Knowledge. Intellectually evolving them and never getting recognition for your selfless gift. I see it. We’re in such an emotionally vibrant moment and lowkey we need to save tf world n I think u feel it too. Somehow if you read me, this might relate and peak your curiosity. Peep the indigenous spirit called “heyoka” 🙏

[@levyaitken]

I just started watching the video 0:34 but I hope that this teaches me a bit about why I find it hard to forgive. Or forget rather. I usually am one and done. Easy for a friend but harder when it comes to marriage with a child. Thank you, in advance Amanda. ❤

[@mrhoodiesnaps4901]

Totally on point for black folk in the white work space.

[@Rocioslane]

Whew! This is a lot to take in.. forgiving my past self and deciding who gets to stay as I move forward.

[@Daily_Peptalks]

Thank you for always being so open and honest. And always sharing your throwback stories. Because you are a true inspiration. Side note I love your hair. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Gedi3000]

Good episode. Two thoughts. 1. The best apology is changed behaviour. 2. Some people conflate forgiveness with reconciliation. You can forgive for your mental health and spirit, but still want nothing to do with the other person.

[@miguelshabaev4315]

Right on time right on time amanda

[@2kybuttercake]

Good content Amanda!!

[@noturnunstoned]

This is so on time. 💫

[@crystal-pupa]

so grateful for your podcasts Amanda! thank you for sharing your thoughts and stories

[@tula_tracey]

Its hard to forgive, i try to work towards it

[@mdove3727]

I loved it !!! Double knee and shoulder tap! Great walk Amanda! That lifted my spirit to see y’all do that for each other ❤

[@jrg6284]

This is excellent!! On point! Thank you Amanda🙌🏽

[@keshalynne1487]

I had to come back after watching Side Effects of Growth , you are touching on some triggers and frustrations, basically trauma bonding from generational unhealed traumas. I can't be the only one addressing the harmful actions. I watched the film as well THANK YOU!

[@DONT0HATE0110]

@Amanda, Gurrrrlllllll You hit the nail on the head. "Narccisst do be drinking those damn teas! I had one and fleeted his ass out of my life. Thank you for this.

[@Sirrahs]

Welp, I didn't come across this video by accident. About to go take a ride and listen.

[@rubynovel]

That Cancer ♋️ thing is so True 😂

[@HappyHealthyHair]

Agreed !Every Cancer is an astrologist by birth😂❤❤

[@hollycolon9136]

This hit in soo many ways!! Definitely sharing!

[@beachlover9705]

Thank you for this episode

[@Rocioslane]

I’ve been mulling over for a while now whether or not to watch that movie and after you recommended it I finally did this morning.

[@rosadita1100]

Damn Amanda!! Thank you for this! ❤

[@mimimolina9351]

Amazing episode 🥹👏🏽

[@1love847]

Im still learning how to forgive. Just when i think i let go of certain pains, resentments there they are triggering me out f the blue.

[@cocodonatella]

Oh yeah, first comment and I know I need this. Especially as it relates to several in my own family. I think Im a very forgiving person but...I think I'm currently harboring some stuff iinternally y'all...le sigh. 😔 God bless the reader. ✌🏽🙌🏽

[@tkoart7562]

This is a great topic and I couldn’t agree with you more.

[@MaxineShaw_84]

Finally got around to the Patreon questions for this one and if y'all aren't already locked in...........🥴 WHOLE lotta gem droppin' 💎💎💎 Precious stones!

[@Rocioslane]

That Sex and the City reference is everything 😭

[@RussellDabney]

Amanda Seals ❤yes

[@symonesmyth]

I’m known as the friend that will hold a grudge. I’ll miss the good times, but I cannot and will not circle the block because I don’t believe that ppl genuinely change. Only a few will make a conscious effort to do better, and I don’t have time to determine if you will. Who tf I look like? Raven Baxter?

[@slimtrain]

forgiveness is for acknowledging the wrong that was done. It's also being held accountable and responsible for why asking for forgiveness was neccessary. it also means to see some behavioral changes within that person. That it's daily practiced. I so do like your explanation and definition of forgiveness.

[@icecreamtipsyllc4362]

See!!!! When you KNOW you KNOW

[@gabby6080]

how you so wise Amanda?! smart pickney dem!

[@NatashaB228]

I definitely made the mistake of forgiving to easily without people earning it or acknowledging that they were not ready for forgiveness because they still exhibited the same behaviors repeatedly!!!

[@iantheellison4635]

Their behaviors will continue, you just do not have to accept it. Forgiveness isn’t something that is earned from the transgressor, it’s something you work towards in spite of their behavior. It’s something that I’m also working through and what I’m realizing is that I deserve peace in my spirit, my body deserves to feel safe and I am willing to do whatever it takes for my own sanity. Their apologies will come when God awakens them to themselves. 🤍

[@NatashaB228]

@@iantheellison4635 Thank you for your reply! I needed to read these words. One of my college professors gave our class some good advice. Learn to accept the apology you may never hear.

[@MindEmancipationist]

Early childhood maladaptive schema and ACE. Two good books: lisa nichols no matter what and post Traumatic slave Syndrome by dr joy degruy (help understand generational trauma)

[@OverKillJill]

ahhhh, forgiveness....such a tricky little bugger. sometimes I feel like forgiveness should be cut and dry, you either do or you don't. other times, I feel like finding forgiveness is so hard that maybe its because i'm overthinking, rushing, or forcing it. maybe forgiveness just has to come in its own time.

[@sylvrstone]

i needed this. thank you

[@NiyreMerriweather]

This is the best one

[@LetsBeClear87]

We. Just. Had. Church. … you guys!!!! lol

[@taronica71]

Scriptures says "if they repent" THEN you forgive. It's transactional. A two way street.

[@natasha_mhango]

I think your perspective would have been a valuable input in these reconciliation commissions where victims of heinous crimes were expected to move on with their lives with a basic "I'm sorry "

[@Gillianbless4587]

What if you ask for forgiveness and was denied?

[@vee7588]

You have to forgive yourself and be okay, because you tried. But the ask must come with coarse correction. Actions speak louder than words.

[@psychodellicFaubio]

Forgiveness is overrated but letting go is always needed fsho

[@vee7588]

Don't forget to 👍the videos.

[@trinigrl09]

.If you can't set your ego aside long enough to give a meaningful apology, don't try to pressure or guilt trip me into forgiving you........A meaningful apology involves the perpetrator engaging in introspection to determine why they did what they did so that it won't happen again.........A meaningful apology requires a change in behavior.....but for narcissistic people, everything is YOUR responsibility nothing is theirs......they did what they did and now they feel u should just get over it and stop inconveniencing them with your hurt feelings and subsequently distant behavior

[@vee7588]

To me, forgiveness is letting go of the grudge and having peace about an individual (or group) and not wanting revenge. Forgiveness is necessary for health, because when we don't forgive we hold resentment and bitterness, that contribute to a multitude of health problems. Forgiveness is not a pass, and I don't think ppl should TELL ppl they forgive them. Forgive yes, do not broadcast forgiveness. Them knowing whether they've been forgiven is between, them and God.

[@vee7588]

You can gain peace about a situation by knowing God and karma will avenge you. Knowing you are not responsible to fix the other person lifts a burden. Just focus on making yourself better. Also, forgiveness is the place where boundaries are placed.

[@vee7588]

Forgiveness should not be a bargaining chip, or withheld as a punishment because now you're being manipulative. To say, I'm not forgiving you until I see behavior changes is not forgiveness. That's an attempt to control. You can disengage if behavior doesn't change, but forgiveness is really for yourself in letting go of the grudge. You can change your behavior towards a person, but to want someone else to change because of your forgiveness is not real forgiveness.

[@Carolina-zo9io]

@11:53 That needs to be a full song, Lol

[@larimaramethyst5414]

💯

[@tevionna]

oh it is a song🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@aunty-magogo]

on point with sex and the city scene narration...appreciate the topic.

[@SereniTee99]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 ❤️🇹🇹💪🏽

[@kindahere4this]

People definitely get the biblical definition wrong in my opinion. Jesus as an example, did not blindly forgive anyone they had to repent. People like to skip that part. I used to be a peace keeper and that’s brought me nothing but disrespect and ungrateful people. I have developed major trust issues and I find people to naturally want to test how much they can push your buttons. As someone who has been called overly sensitive all my life, I do not understand this behavior. I just had to realize there are very few people who have a healthy relationship with even themselves so I can’t expect too much and I am glad I no longer feel the need to want to control someone else’s lack of self awareness. It is a privilege to know me and that’s my attitude after too long suffering from my lack of self worth.

[@thedrtreasure]

That Christianity have Black folks out here calling revictimization forgiveness

[@Anthony11494]

You can forgive, but don't be blind to a person's poor character. If their character proves to be a liability, you gotta bound up with enforced boundaries and limitations of access.

[@RoxxirandomMe]

Lol just a note: you’re mixing two of the SATC episodes together. The episode where she lost the dog was bc she was talking to BIG. The episode where they got back together was when the dog had diarrhea and she pulled up to aiden at the bar and he was talking to the girl

[@elishaminor2900]

Ava

[@trinigrl09]

Amanda im sorry but the problem with your friend was that he didn't want to stick his neck out to support u....he didn't want to risk being criticized by his peers(other black men) for defending u or trying to bring clarity to your views as your friend.... but he was perfectly fine using ur professional clout to serve his own agenda......He was just trying to make you wrong with that smacking a table at me nonsense because in that moment he recognized he wasn't willing to reciprocate the positivity u had shown him

[@OniTan22]

You have my enail. Galle

[@OniTan22]

Happy Thanksgiving from my family to yours. You have any leftovers you have my number, address and email. Love and hugs. Tei

[@OfficialJalenHemphill]

The FIRST 20 Seconds Amanda. WHEW!!!! I Felt Like This ENTIRE Episode Was Created & Made JUST. FOR. ME!!! Thanks Amanda. 30:45 Is My Favorite Part. #TEAMAMANDA #AMANDA4PREZ 🤍