Sneaky Ways Narcissists Infiltrate Your Life

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In today's video Jill explains the sneaky ways that Narcissists infiltrate a person's life. These are manipulation tactics that everyone needs to know.
Jill Wise, otherwise known as The Enlightened Target, is a life long survivor of narcissistic abuse. She was raised by a malignant narcissist and married to a malignant narcissist, she has endured years of parental alienation, has repeatedly been targeted by narcissists throughout her life. She has an intimate understanding of all aspects of narcissistic abuse and Cptsd. She uses her experience and what she has learned to help educate others and bring awareness to narcissistic abuse. She is also a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and works with clients all over the world heal from the trauma of narcissistic abuse, parental alienation and Complex Ptsd.
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@DragonSOL8 4 ай бұрын

Devious creatures. Possessed by something unnatural

@IzabelaWaniek-i1x 4 ай бұрын

I had almost everyone in my social and professional circles infiltrated by the narcissist. And I have lost all those relationships within a couple of years. It’s absolutely overwhelming and the grief I have felt is heartbreaking. It’s indescribable.

@truthiseverything9511 4 ай бұрын

SAME

@christinetaylor8975 4 ай бұрын

I was the target at my workplace in a State agency in Alabama, and experienced most of these evils. The Narcissist used her Allies gained at my expense to climb up the ladder of professional success.

@meabeck 3 ай бұрын

It is. You are not alone.

@a3muller52 Ай бұрын

I had the the same sort of experience. Long story. They are just evil.

@Cindy-l1j 29 күн бұрын

So sad when it's family doing this and not just a person off the street! 😢 Thank you for this info.

@yly5991 4 ай бұрын

My covert malignant narc parent has done all of these things in my other parent's life and my life. Even though the narc is no longer in our lives, they have severely isolated us from people. My narc parent is still able to manipulate our social circles perceptions of us because they are considered so 'trustworthy and dependable' to our circles. It is shocking how calculated they are under the guise of kindness and helpfulness! And it is so difficult to get your life back after they've infiltrated and broken you down!

@LR-yu3mx 2 ай бұрын

Same with me. My dad and I were her targets

@MbraceTheRandom 4 ай бұрын

I just went down this list and checked off nearly every single one of these as how she acted. I was only with her for half of last year before I walked away. She was in the process of trying to isolate me from friends and family when I did finally see her for who she really was and get out of that relationship. It was really hard to do that, and on top of it, I had to see her every day at work (she was a coworker), which allowed her to try and manipulate me back into a relationship.. I'm still healing.

@Schmoityface 3 ай бұрын

Well done!

@dclarke1896 3 ай бұрын

It’s still hard for me to believe that this was done to me. Somehow I’m still standing. Thank you for educating survivors like myself so that we can protect ourselves.

@fifinafan6354 4 ай бұрын

These are all where the toxicity of a narcissistic relationship stems from. Thank you for helping us recognize theses patterns.

@inaina4535 4 ай бұрын

Oh my, do I recognise all this shit too well. I think this was one of the best videos you've ever made. Thank you so much!💖 You are gold!💛

@theenlightenedtarget 4 ай бұрын

Thank you! 🙏

@lorrainedevlin6409 2 ай бұрын

They act like they are the only person who has suffered in this life,with emotions/problems.

@vtwinpower1903 2 ай бұрын

Thank U for sharing Ur knowledge, DEAR! I'VE BEEN POISONED BY THE NARC BITE AS A CHILD RAISED FROM A NARC FATHER!! TODAY he's 88 N I'm turning 64 soon. Havint talked to him in ,15 YRS, I'm his only SON N I WILL WATCH FROM A DISTANCE WHEN HE GOES TO HIS GRAVE ALONE!! I DON'T HATE HIM, BUT FEEL VERY SORRY FOR HIS SAD BEHAVIOUR THAT CHASED HIS FAMILY AWAY

@fireupyourheartfortruth 4 ай бұрын

Thank you Jill and everyone here❤

@michaelgarrow3239 4 ай бұрын

What can you do when the damage is done? When your mind is damaged and you can’t think anymore. I don’t want to live anymore. In the end they think your ignorance is your fault. They are doing you a favor- teaching you a lesson. FTW

@spaceskipster4412 4 ай бұрын

Don't give up on yourself...👌🏼 There is a new life ahead of you.

@MsRapture10 4 ай бұрын

You pray for strength! I have been through these peeks and valleys myself. I’ve been stuck for over a year and can’t get out financially. The tactics I’ve had to withstand from him are horrible but I keep praying for strength and have educated myself into a powerful mindset. Knowing how pathetic he is and has to work to try to keep me in line makes me smile because I know my escape is coming one day I’ll be mentally free of him

@rascallyrabbit 4 ай бұрын

fear not. you can overcome this. look up and study neuro plasticity. you can rewrite your programming. all those suicidal thoughts are not yours. They were forced on you and into your mind. fight back. do not let evil win. probably, your parents and others hated you and wanted you dead. don't' agree with them.

@michaelgarrow3239 4 ай бұрын

@@rascallyrabbit - Hello. The world is full of evil. This is all really hard. And didn’t need to happen.

@gregoryritchie7852 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for providing the DETAILED "why's" and "how's" of the narcissist's impact and aftermath of devestation.

@robeastwood2093 4 ай бұрын

Thanks again. Clear teaching for us all. You're a life changer. Yes the over the top sudden gifts/presents out of nowhere?? Usually means something else. When I was told I seemed ungrateful. I replied 'that's not sorry!' Or you taking responsibility or changing anything.

@jasonjones4492 4 ай бұрын

They are very sneaky manuplitave little creatures thats for sure. Great video Jill thank you so much for sharing😋🎯💞

@dontbelongherefromanother 4 ай бұрын

My narc neighbor manufactured a crisis (break-in) in my apartment by a homeless guy, after I cut off contact with him, stopped speaking and interacting with him due to his vicious and abhorrent behavior. His goal was that I reached out to him for help when the homeless guy was banging on my door trying to break-in my apartment. I didn't and handled it on my own. I threatened the homeless guy that I was going to call the police and called 911, and he left. My narc neighbor was witnessing this incident the entire time and lives less than 10 ft from me. However, I have no proof that my narc neighbor manufactured this incident, my gut instinct believes he did. It was like a scene out of the Twilight Zone. You can't make this up. Great Video!

@sage_forensics_2261 3 ай бұрын

I believe you. I've dealt with a narc neighbor in addition to the ones in my family/divorce. Neighbors aren't discussed as often, but WOW! They can really cause chaos in your life! Each narc will create their own personal brand of it, so I haven't had this exact experience, of course. I simply wanted to support you. It's SO unnerving knowing someone wishes you ill and lives so close. 🙏💜

@dontbelongherefromanother 3 ай бұрын

@@sage_forensics_2261 thanks, appreciate the suppprt

@dontbelongherefromanother 3 ай бұрын

@@sage_forensics_2261 thanks

@zandatee 4 ай бұрын

min 15:43 Infiltrating social circles - mother perfectly used this against my father. Primary with fathers RELATIVES - sisters and wide range of relatives. Dont let them do it - dominate relations with your people. Your spouse has their own relatives and friends - no need to sneak in and dominate contacts with all your friends and relatives. If it is not possible - get rid of such a dominating partner. I witnessed it and there is something repelling and abnormal in such behavior.

@kat-75 3 ай бұрын

They never made me feel appreciated or valued, so I do get a bit lost as to some of the way you explain things.

@hurricaneaquatics 4 ай бұрын

Yes, I've lost many, very high level, high paying, jobs because of my spouse demanding I do something for her that interferes with my work. It's so covert that you don't see it because you don't know you're married to a demon.

@Angel-bear-33 19 күн бұрын

Thank you.

@sharonyoung4386 4 ай бұрын

Spot on accuracy here. Great explanation all around.

@bonnieinthespirit6373 4 ай бұрын

Got me on all points !🎉 what real. Trusting person I am….. 🎉🎉wake up.. time to come back to living “LIFE” 🎉🎉. You are worthy!! 🎉🎉 1 peter2:8-9-10🎉🎉

@rascallyrabbit 4 ай бұрын

yes, we are genuinely good, and it takes so much to see them as the evil they are.

@happygritsnorris9156 3 ай бұрын

I never wanted to be a "Narc Survivor" . Yet here i am. 💔

@TheDevineFempress 4 ай бұрын

He told horror stories that when I spoke to the people who did these things they said it was a lie ….

@georyin872 4 ай бұрын

my wife does it all

@FarranLee 3 ай бұрын

So incredibly accurate. I often find myself questioning if my judgement has been correct or fair. But then I re-watch some videos and realse that yes, I am right, he is dangerous, he has been doing all these things to me since the very get-go. Thanks for putting these videos out, you are really doing a service to the world 🙏🙏🙏

@LR-yu3mx 2 ай бұрын

60 years of my life, the narc mother influenced my existence. So glad she is no more.

@jeannejubie1166 3 ай бұрын

This accurately describes how one of my siblings infiltrated my life, beginning with manufacturing a crisis in which she could appear to be the savior.

@LeannePetrie-wf6lg 4 ай бұрын

Gosh, I should write a book

@bradleylaford1526 4 ай бұрын

Depends upon whom the "Targets" are & whether they've not a history of Courtesies? Strangers whom are concerned about this are merely against the subjects communicating. Success Saboteurs are arguing that the victims are ambitious; this argument is no longer valid once the victims become content...

@arianasha 4 ай бұрын

EXACTLY 100% !!!!

@leeboo23 2 ай бұрын

I used to watch my mother "rescue" people in terrible crisis, then she would steal their lives from them. I watched her do this my entire life to several people. She loved people in crisis.

@437Colie 4 ай бұрын

All of it 💯% he did ALL of this & more. He's also a cop so he's great at this manipulation

@theenlightenedtarget 4 ай бұрын

So many of these people go into law enforcement. It’s scary.

@437Colie 4 ай бұрын

@theenlightenedtarget thank you for the comment. This is how he meet unassuming people when on duty..its how we met & my guard was down. The discard was one of the most terrifying times I've ever experienced. He drives around looking for girls while on duty that are vulnerable to infiltrate.

@TracyNewton-q3b 4 ай бұрын

Yeah the new acquaintance who likes their own voice ,trys to invite you to stuff,trys to give you stuff,and not even asking you,boringly obvious when you know 👍 thanks though,one of your best .

@ScottPfeister-r1o 4 ай бұрын

Pure hell my ex-wife a covert narcissist found out my phone number after I had changed she's text message me header children leave voicemails I'm changing my number again hopefully this will do it I know what they're a covert narcissist don't ever try to expose them

@3mindgame 4 ай бұрын

This video is Great Jill !! Thankyou!! Much needed!

@Sublette217 4 ай бұрын

My ex-fiancée was constantly creating manufactured crises, which I realized fairly straight away. It sucked up time and resources that needed to be applied elsewhere. When I cut ties with her the artificial drama ceased.

@m.f.richardson1602 4 ай бұрын

Thank you, Jill❤

@JKDVIPER 3 ай бұрын

4:03 That made me think about this differently. You know those circumstances where the obvious just gets missed? You know when, you see one character going all out for everybody, being the solid advisor for people, lending money, giving help, time, almost bending over backwards to help them. But when a problem pops up in the family/marriage/union, we sometimes see the very cheap gas light narrative come into play. So now, a situation where family/friends are supposed to be supportive in every sense of the word, but instead all you get is doubt, stress, confusion, and panic. All because nobody noticed all the good qualities of the victim. So as the abuser attempts to make the victim look insane, nobody fixes it or supports the person, because they only noticed your flaws n fears. They know what gets to you. 🤢🧠💯so I see that as being positively disturbing.” 😬🙏💯”of course on the bright side bad feelings aren’t a state of being, but they do stink. I really relate to that kind of story. Meaning, the instant real time cues from the abuser hurt, but the bad attitude from people you thought you could trust is worse in a way.” 😌

@zandatee 4 ай бұрын

Min.9 chaos. - Could it also be demand to sell co-owned properties? Several at the same time. Mother has no need for money she is soon 80. But as a co-owner she feels troubled that I use f.ex. families summerhouse. So I literarly have to sell the existing and buy another nearby instead so I hope to win peace. But there are other properties where she tries to cultivate the same feeling. She is 80 but she still tries to play the captain of a ship, where she is a guest same as me. Dad earned them. I have a feeling that it is a never ending principal - just not to let live in peace. So I hope such acts of separation - sell and buy a new one - will help.

@a3muller52 Ай бұрын

Completely true!!

@TheDevineFempress 4 ай бұрын

Their eyes turn black - the evil comes out….

@bettydeil9032 4 ай бұрын

Very accurate Thank you ❤

@Nick-cs5yc 4 ай бұрын

My narc parent constantly complains to me how they are embarrassed by me!! They cycle through their long list of predictable personal attacks, anything from hair to clothes, etc….

@Brenda-t5r 2 ай бұрын

One thing they do is to move in next door to you at your apartment complex. Sigh! 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Nick-cs5yc 4 ай бұрын

One could teach for weeks, months, yrs on end everything to know about the narc creature, but what is needed, is knowledge of how to deal with these monsters, effective countermeasures!!!

@KSpeaks1024 2 ай бұрын

How do you deal with them? You set boundaries, and if they don't comply, you walk away. Don't allow anyone to treat you less than.

@raidenewalden4354 3 ай бұрын

He did that to me .

@dazpearce2096 4 ай бұрын

nice one Jill - you'll make a bad video one day but it's a while off...😃 I had to laugh earlier this year when I found that thousands of e-mails had been trawled through by a resident narcopath in my life - the aim was actually to manufacture a 'trouble situation' they could then 'rescue' me from. Unfortunately for him they found nothing incriminating - and then the guy he got to do the trawl coughed when we ran into each other in a bar (guilty conscience I suspect). These ghouls will literally engineer a crisis they can then 'help you out of' to induce gratitude. Sinister is not the word...

@NarcissistFreealmost 4 ай бұрын

💯👍

@meabeck 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much, Jill Wise.

@TheDevineFempress 4 ай бұрын

I did that for three years till I realized that was a game …. That phucker wasted my time. … and then tried to get me not to return to Los Angeles where my life was… the day he found out I was trying to leave he nearly beat me to death strangled me and smothered me with a pillow…coverts are very very very dangerous… I was “his”