SO YOU'RE NOT LEARNING YOUR LESSON... | The Slumflower Hour podcast

[@lalix321]

Can you talk about “beautiful” people who were bullied for being fat/ugly in their childhood and started experiencing pretty privilege in adulthood for the first time? Compared to being born with pretty privilege and how that affects women’s dating life?

[@HelenaBada-hr5og]

should i add fannita :D

[@ashleyd7447]

Anytime I catch myself thinking that I may be happier in a relationship, I run to watch your videos. It takes me back to reality. My life is amazing the way it is

[@miccheck6478]

She’s demonic but you can’t see it

[@tinachristine4573]

My last self sabotage is more than a year ago. I FINALLY learned my lesson.

[@abillifree]

Bless that security team for ensuring your safety while you experience a moment of joy

[@humanityandme]

I am one of those women who developed a chronic illness during a time I was having troubles with men. It is theorised that stressful situations can cause these illnesses and I remember very well what was happening during that time among some other issues like the pandemic. Sisters take me as the example and listen to her.

[@mieskaarendorf8247]

Wow, your wisdom and observation of human behavior are just astonishing. The whole 'aunty' thing is spot on! Growing up, I felt like I was constantly being harassed by aunties in my community (both family and neighbors). They would watch everything I did, comment on my body (even though I was thin, weighing only 55 kg), and still call me fat because I was developing curves, despite still being skinny. I knew they were bitter and miserable, but I definitely lacked compassion toward them and their behavior until now.

[@PixiePollen-z2w]

This hit so close to home, my mom has so many autoimmune disorders because she stayed with my abusive dad - and does to this day 😢 I’ve seen her wither away & the stress destroy the person she used to be. It’s so true.

[@GrungeGalactica]

I’m 28 and the thing that p1sses me off still is the fact that I lost 2-3 years of my mistakes era to lockdown and it’s not cute for me to be catching up on those mistakes now 🙈. I’m listening regardless, but I still feel like that stunted my growth a lot 🥲 good thing the slumflower is bringing me up to speed real quick!

[@lllemm]

😭😭😩 chewing us up and spitting us out but this is NEEDED!

[@estherbee7879]

I went against my better judgment and I paid the prize. This episode is for me

[@tube0307]

You're prettiest when you're happy

[@dch3934]

so many re/minders✨️✨️✨️✨️the grip of patriarchy is WILD when i consider the amount of time I've spent in relationships with men ...yiiiikes

[@Subika13]

I literally see her look and just need to hear the first word 'So.' And I immediately pause the video and tell this mediocre man I'm speaking with and worried about hurting, to just DO ONE!! We just NEED you Slumflower!!

[@catarinaprudencio7594]

I had to be cheated on to realise where my self worth was! I was so dependent on an idea of a man in my life (since the age of 16 up to 27 I never been without a man- casual/dating) and ever since breaking up with my ex I had such a reset of self respect (I was already on some of your teachings). Not only I realised my lack of respect and love for myself, I realised that I was surrounding myself constantly with people I wanted to ‘save/help’. For little over a year I been finally showering myself with love and respect that was long due. My energy is focused on me now. Thank you Chidera! Your work has been so important to me ❤

[@wildmystic8454]

Please do a video on pink tax and how this relates to patriarchy. Love your work!! Keep it up girl!!

[@teethenugget]

God I love this channel😭 been saving me all year

[@meganvhhbbigvj9399]

I think self concept is such an important thing for people to develop and that requires working on themselves because the main points in my early 20's when I was taken advantage of by narcissistic abusive men was when I hadn't processed the social conditioning from my covert narcissist mother and threat of violence from my father. Once I learnt and got into acceptance and processing it psychologically how narcissists operate and view me and how I needed to regulate my emotions to not be controlled by the aftermath of abuse and went no contact, that is when I got into spirituality and femdom and for the first time in my life realised how it was through other people projecting and gaslighting me and inducing emotional reactions that my power had been stripped by not realising how I do and always did deserve more out of life and never deserved the abuse to begin with. That my self respect, self discipline and my own self concept was the only thing in this life that can get me to my desired outcomes and future.

[@afkannie]

THIS episode! Favorite, favorite, favorite. 🔨

[@FutoXar]

I love my mistakes they are just so beutiful and makes me grow as human

[@InnocentiaMoreriane]

" I dance because i know how to dance, not because i'm arching for attention from men." Thank you.

[@laoisefitz1934]

A well needed slap in the face for me today, I shall set a reminder to rewatch this once a month.... Why do I have to learn the hard and VERY long way....🙃

[@ebonieelainea999]

Dark skin women don’t age and I love it

[@kaysmellsgood]

26:47 not the human race doesn't actually need to continue 😂 tbh it doesn't

[@Infintekweyol]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@zipitzizzy2442]

word, literally it don't need to continue

[@wtve1228]

I need the last 20 seconds of this video to be my morning alarm and night time reminder! 1:07:53

[@mahletadamu2602]

Keep these coming!!

[@tootsiee_roll]

39:25 literally same Love your channel

[@meganvhhbbigvj9399]

[@ebonieelainea999]

Thankyou for this video

[@prod.murmur]

Tough love right there haha . Very helpful thanks !

[@Amaziyubururu]

This is 🪷!

[@jenn6274]

i need more friends like you

[@nicole.andrea.10]

Thank you for that boost of real talk, Slumflower! You always get me realigned and refocused on how to be a bad bitch :D

[@cellogarcia4266]

Bitter auntie 😂👌

[@staceyambergelderbloem3403]

I agreed to the video til the "pretty girls mental disability" when it comes to men part however I do also see and agree with what you said to some degree.

[@staceyambergelderbloem3403]

So why did you decide to confront me today infront of everyone?

[@anagarciadiaz8549]

You r the best hahaha❤

[@Infintekweyol]

Send the flood 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@fridamahalo608]

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@staceyambergelderbloem3403]

and even resort to physical abuse.

[@C4RYB34R]

Oh I have learned my lesson babe. i walked TF away. I cut my hair off short *for me* and I threw away makeup *for me* Naturally me. Anyone can't love me cuz i dont have long hair and wear makeup or whatever they are not for me. Im still very attractive. A bit Androgynous but still cute

[@yasminwalker4966]

🙌

[@ashleyd7447]

🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@yasminwalker4966]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@colonelgraff9198]

INFJ

[@tube0307]

This show shouldve been fuckin called "Mansplaining".... Unblock ME!!! CHIDERA!!!

[@goodnessb.4808]

Like❤

[@SA-su7kq]

WE 🎀Women🩷 are the ones that got away ✨ always bby✨

[@dameluz5228]

Let’s not blame the Human Species for what European colonialism has done to the earth. As a descendant of the Caribbean Tainos, i can say that we have fought, bled, died and continue to do so in order to preserve our mother, Bibi Atabey..🧿👋🏾🪬👁️🏝️👁️🪬🫶🏽🧿

[@MsLunachu]

I sure hope that’s not a cop out for the way men behave globally…