THE UNFORGIVING WOMAN | The Slumflower Hour podcast

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@JessicaBarreraGinGin 7 ай бұрын

I immediately blocked and unmatched with a man who decided to wait until I was driving to the location we agreed to meet to tell me that he wants to change up the location. We agreed on a time, and he had all day to tell me that the agreed upon location was too far and to change it up. Then, he had the audacity to ask why I waited to call until I was already on the road....uhhhh I didn't realize that I had to call you when we've already solidified plans the night before. He made no effort to contact me before. I couldn't believe what he was doing. I didn't play his game so I canceled the plans. He just said "okay" and hung up. No apology, no explanation, not even a goodbye. I don't know what he's used to, but I'm not desperate enough to be okay with how that whole thing was handled. Bye boo!

@swiitdoll 7 ай бұрын

I’m unforgiving too. I believe people are aware of their intentions. I revenge and treat people exactly how they treat me. I do it to friends, family, coworkers everybody

@zipitzizzy2442 5 ай бұрын

this is honestly my favorite comment because if i can't afford to go to a rage room multiple times a week, my anger quite literally poisons me from *inside out if it's left to fester where it shouldn't. my anger belongs on the outside of me. i need to release it or it manifests itself as anxiety or compartmentalization of other people's behaviors that eventually wears down my ability to not tolerate abuse and mistreatment. i will not die from having my mental health destroyed by shoving down my need for justice and revenge.

@zipitzizzy2442 5 ай бұрын

what i get from being silent doesn't counterbalance the sense of integrity I lose from being mistreated. it's all about transaction when it comes to survival in a patriarchal capitalist society and my interest is in what best benefits me. that's why revenge is crucial. i love being unforgiving, it's my vitality.

@the_sunshinesunflower 2 күн бұрын

People know when they are doing something wrong, even children. I have seen children force a greeting on me desperately. I have seen a child spit into my mopping bucket because I refused to let it into my house. I have seen a children make a lot of annoying noises so I can look, I did. I have seen kleptomaniac children want to come into my house with intention to pick small things up. People know what the hell they are doing. Be unforgiving by taking away access but let it go.

@beewest5704 8 ай бұрын

Men don't care about the forgive part they just want to jump sr8 to the forget part.

@BlackFairy-zk7wl 6 ай бұрын

They'll hit you wit the " I said I was sorry 🥲"😂

@mommafoxxdiaries6509 3 ай бұрын

Yessssss when you catch on to that you gotta be ok with being the bad guy

@xoxosisihere 8 ай бұрын

Not just men but women alike. Family members, friends and even coworkers.

@shanicelasha8495 8 ай бұрын

I am so grateful to have found this podcast. Truly.

@the_sunshinesunflower 2 күн бұрын

People do you wrong knowingly. I also agree that women who are quick to leave at the slightest disrespect and those who are quick to cut off, live so happily. It's also important to show immediately in your demeanor and speak up when someone wrongs you. I owe myself the best boundaries and if someone will be around me, they better bring respect and accountability.

@rialee9789 3 ай бұрын

I feel absolutely supported in my beliefs here in this space. Thank you SlumFlower 🌸🌺🌼

@LS-ry5ey 8 ай бұрын

I swear, men really say the quiet part out loud...but you have to really listen to what they say

@elsugga3736 7 ай бұрын

TIMMING!! They had ALL the space and time to treat you right when they needed to and still refused to, there's no point in forgiving people

@cherryb5244 8 ай бұрын

I don't forgive NOTHING. I'm still mad at my brother for turning over the channel while I was watching it when I was 12 😐 so a random nobody has zero chance of trying to play with me twice. BLOCKED!

@BlackFairy-zk7wl 6 ай бұрын

I'm sorry period 😂

@olikah4667 7 ай бұрын

8:56 😂 I used to explain and explain and explain…men don’t give a fuck about none of that!

@kaysmellsgood 7 ай бұрын

Same

@yasaman5283 2 ай бұрын

same

@Chiron952 7 ай бұрын

Sounds like you were describing Shera. She's smart as hell

@niathomas184 8 ай бұрын

Great convo!!! 👏🏾👏🏾 you can’t teach self love tho, some will get this but most won’t. The “unforgiving” women will always be deemed the problem because of how desperate society is.

@keanukim2198 8 ай бұрын

I forgive a lot of people. The only person you are obligated and will actually set you free is forgiving yourself! Take ownership for only your part in the situation and walk away!

@BlackFairy-zk7wl 6 ай бұрын

I forgive , I jut revoke access to myself afterwards . Lesson learned ❤

@VenusinPluto Ай бұрын

same

@thek.i.m.experience8046 3 ай бұрын

Ma’am. Link the patreon in the show notes for the episodes moving forward! 🫶🏾

@skamgodt964 8 ай бұрын

I cannot get over the fact that this man heard you talk about a woman who is with a man 26 years her senior and got good provision and a house in her name out of it.....and he thinks the man was fleeced? How greedy&misogynistic can you actually be? He is 26 years (!!!) older, that is a sacrifice, too. She deserves everything she gets for being with such an old man. It's like a business deal, nobody got fleeced.

@LS-ry5ey 8 ай бұрын

literally exactly THIS

@ashleykimberly4012 7 ай бұрын

I dont forgive i just look back and hate

@PastelsHaven-channel 4 ай бұрын

I feel so called out 😂😂

@lunar3n 8 ай бұрын

chidi, could you make an episode sometime about how to maintain what you call “sexy friends”? lol i loooove this concept and everything i’ve heard you talk about before of flirty friendships, but hearing more about the details of those dynamics and the boundary-holding required would be lovely 🧚‍♀️❤️‍🔥

@Davienna96 8 ай бұрын

The research equipment bit 😂🎯

@joyceg7859 8 ай бұрын

15:00 yoooooo that flashes me right back to when I was pregnant at 19 n my brother who was 14 year older than me still living at home gonna tell me “ he ain’t gonna be taking care of no baby with no baby “ about my child’s fatherrrrrrr😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮 The father took care of his son 😂😂😂 The brother is still living at home and his 3 kids can barely visit because of the size of his room

@kayshaericks7015 8 ай бұрын

👏🏼 I Felt Every Word.

@krupapop97 8 ай бұрын

I can see through mens BS because of this podcast

@yasaman5283 2 ай бұрын

exactly

@mysticdyme74 8 ай бұрын

It’s called absolution. It’s actually a catholic concept. It works too.

@feels1510 3 ай бұрын

1000% unforgiving. Of course. But maybe unforgiving is the incorrect word. Maybe it's just seeing someone is not aligned with who I am and therefore they must go. The quicker, the better.

@the_sunshinesunflower 2 күн бұрын

Well said! 😁

@swift3070 Ай бұрын

4:12 It has nothing to do with religion. I'm a Christian and forgive and forget does not mean going back. Even the Bible says do not return to foolishness as a dog returns to eat it's own vomit. Proverbs 26:11. Yes, there are Christian "pick-me's" and that's a whole other story.