Social Anxiety. Having no friends. Low self esteem.

Hi to all the beautiful people out there!
My name is Anitha Kannan and this is a video about my social anxiety and loneliness and a few of the things I am battling with. I hope that this will help any of you guys going through this in any way at all.
I love you all so much! It’s hard to cure social anxiety, but the more we share our struggles, the easier it could be to get through this.

[@luvbig41]

The fantasizing is a big problem. I told my High School Psychology teacher that I love to daydream ......his words still haunt me till today. He said: "Be careful because you will start to live in your head and not the real world."

[@SierraSl]

True. I use to daydream all the time but reality hit me after High school. I will never live like my fantasies world. I kinda over it.

[@kezimathew8149]

Like maladaptive daydreaming?

[@luvbig41]

@@kezimathew8149 I wasn't that extreme.

[@SuperSilverJay]

Daydreaming can be good if you channel it into something creative in the real world. Like writing a book or making art.

[@luvbig41]

@@SuperSilverJay Definitely. I could've written some great movies in my day but alas I didn't.

[@amanboora942]

Same here Social anxiety Eye contact problem Overthinking

[@anitha_kannan]

Sorry youre experiencing all this Aman, definitely affects our quality of lives. Im hoping that youve been able to find some healthy ways to cope....and you have some support!!! Praying for better days 🧡🙏🏽☀️

[@kevinduran9763]

I feel u on all that especially eye contact. It’s so hard to keep eye contact for me but even when I do make eye contact I’m not even listening to what the person is saying because I’m too busy thinking that they’re judging me or thinking about how I look

[@Illillliilli]

@Andrews cool its the porn lol

[@PaulTC97]

Andrews cool ive seen commenting on SkippyJessop videos

[@boostedkidproductions9719]

@@kevinduran9763 on some real shit

[@BlackySpeakz]

Anxiety ain’t fun, I frequently used to have uncontrollable/trembling attacks a few years back. shoutout to anyone who’s battling it, you will beat it

[@lIlIlIlIlIlIlIlIlIlIlIlI]

👍

[@owennbeats]

I read this in your voice, you make great videos 💚

[@lota13]

I can relate. I've been experiencing trembling while at social gatherings (like, family gatherings or at uni). Sadly, I think the only way to overcome social anxiety is socialising more and just pushing through it.

[@TheTruthContestt]

BlackySpeakz? wtf are you doing here bruh? 😭😭😭

[@boitshokonormanmabuse7472]

Lmao OH shit it's Becky?? Brah you have social anxiety too? Damn nice to see you here mate ☺

[@Weirdastronount]

I’m a 23 year old college student and I 100% know what you mean by fantasizing or day dreaming about friends/activities with friends

[@lando1224]

For reallllll I’ve done that all my life

[@cath0438]

Yup, imagining of having fun with friends or other people, but in real life you can't do it... I hate having social anxiety.

[@ujnas3757]

Maybe we all should create a place for ourselves? Like a small Group chat?

[@e.p.753]

We should do that like it's hard to make friends but I always wondered why isn't there a chat for people that are introverted and have social anxiety @@ujnas3757

[@ujnas3757]

@@e.p.753 after commenting here I realized I made a mistake. But I think it's a good suggestion for everyone lonely out there. The only problem is I won't be in that gc. I left all social media except WhatsApp where I'll get good morning msg every day from dad and won't be seeing any much friendship or love related posts. Last month I search about an app where ppl with hard time can open up and make friends, and I found true life and guess what, it's the worst situation there. Alot of fake ppl, Pedos popular people. I had to leave that app after using for only 3-4 days. I met one person there, we bcm pretty close and I legit thought I am saved. But later I got hurt by that person only, and as a last post it was too much for me and I said I'm doing something bad to myself to get that sadness out BCS I got it from that app and leave form once and for all, i got a new msg saying they will be there for me. But....last week I came to know that it was the same person who first hurt me texted me seeing the post saying I'm doing something bad BCS ofthat person, with a fake AC saying they will be there for me :(

[@carlisle6831]

When you started speaking about how you second guess your every word and how you battle to carry a “normal” conversation I really felt that.

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey hey! Im so glad you were able to relate to that, I hope youre doing okay and that things will get better for you sweetheart!! Sending you nothing but love 🧡🥰

[@calzone-snz]

@@anitha_kannan dont think you have to be able to have big converstations. at the end of the day, the soul is deeper with more thoughts and theres a beauty in not always feeling the need to socialize all the time. tthats how you have power in your life, and inner life.

[@etphonehome4511]

Spent plenty of time in bathroom stalls as well!

[@anitha_kannan]

Not a pleasant place to be ey!!!

[@Phionerulz]

Same

[@kaassaus4230]

Especially when people know you spent your time over there.

[@marcsanchezllopis4549]

It's also my case, and I do feel pretty ashamed of this

[@mysticalrose1414]

I thought I was the only one who spent lunch in the bathroom stall. Im glad to know that this is actually a thing.

[@sarahrobes4980]

That's interesting. Almost all of the people with social anxiety are most of the time beautiful and interesting human-beings. We should gather and have picnic, all the desperate lonely people!!!

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey Sarah 🥰 What you said was so beautiful, and I agree with you 100%!! The picnic idea actually sounds awesome, if only we all lived in the same place!!! You seem like such a lovely soul, I hope you are doing well girl! 🧡

[@sarahrobes4980]

@@anitha_kannan made my day:) thank you for your reply💕

[@kite6864]

it's not like that in real life. when people ask "why don't you have friends" or "why don't you do anything for fun" and you can't give an answer then they think you must be one of those crazy chicks and stop talking to you

[@sarahrobes4980]

@@kite6864 idk, maybe we all have a bit different experience.

[@iliveinsideyourhouse3943]

"interesting" Even people in online chat (where I can truly let out my true self) found me to be pretty boring lol.

[@chanellesonia5952]

I suffer with social anxiety. I've told like two of my peers in my class and I don't think they seem to understand. They try and get me to meet them at places in college but I literally can't. I have no friends either, I'm constantly watching people on snapchat having a good time, going out and stuff and I'm always just sat in the house. I literally don't have a nice group of friends and that's all I want. My social anxiety affects my daily life. I find it so hard to make conversation/carry it on. I feel like I don't know who I am anymore because I care about what everyone else thinks. I'm never myself and I just feel as if I have no personality because I'm constantly trying to say something cool to get a positive reaction. I literally don't know what I'm like as a human. Weird right? Anyways, you're absolutely stunning so don't think you're not pretty enough!

[@chanellesonia5952]

Yeah that's exactly how I feel! I mean, I tried to lessen my social anxiety before I left college but I still feel the same. People have even asked 'don't you speak' and that just makes me feel even worse! But it's the social anxiety getting in the way because if you know me like my immediate family and friends, they'd tell you that I'm loud, funny and outgoing because that is my true personality but I'm completely different at college bc in scared I'm gonna get a negative reaction. I don't even make eye contact with anyone I'm constantly just nervously smiling to the extent where you can tell I'm always nervous around people. I'm the most nervous around people my age group but not around older people it's so frustrating bc it prevents me from making friends. Everyday is a task for me honestly. I always feel like there's something stopping me from talking and socialising. I just need help man.

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey beautiful!! Firstly thankyou so much for expressing your story, it takes alot of courage just opening up about SA in any form of communication- so be proud 🧡 and both the comments you wrote I actually cannot even begin to describe how accurate your deseiption of your situation was to mine, its insane. Even the tiniest detail that you mentioned about feeling super anxious around people your age but not older people I FEEL EXACTLY THATS AS WELL OH MY GOODNESS! I swear i thought i was the only one wow, im so suprised. I know exactly what u mean with the whole trying to say something cool.... i used to always think what was wrong with me and why i wasnt fitting in... i thought i had to always say something cool or funny to keep people around me... which was way too exhausting and unnatural for my mind... just got sick of that. And holy wow, the part where u said like youre super loud and funny and YOURSELF at home but completely different the minute u step out of home, that is exactly what i go through. I feel like i have 2 different people living in me sometimes hahaha, like im so freaking loud and bubbly and crazy fun at home, and then im like this statue when im around people, and i hate when everyone is just chatting, like i want to escape but at the same time i die to be a part of the group and laughing with them. Its a battle. Im so so sorry you are going through this hun. But as they say things do get better with time, mine has improved alot since i posted the video but i still have bits and pieces left that may take years to improve.... its a complicated thing ey... and i know it sucks more that youre in college having to go through this because college is supposed to be that time were you create even more new friends and full of fun like they all say... but mine was literally just like high school... walking around alone, maybe 1 or 2 people i sit with in the classroom, but the minute we leave the classroom , im nothing to them and all alone until the next class. I feel like it will be a lot better if you try to accept and be kind to yourself during this battle, never blame yourself or doubt yourself . Just remember none of this and i mean NONE of this is your fault. So keep loving yourself, treating yourself, have fun with yourself, im not saying its easy, but thats what im doing right now, im being my own best friend and trying to be postive. At then end we are left alone with ourselves so why not just be our own best friend until opportunities come naturally... this may sound weird but it really is working... speak to me whenever u need to chantelle. I appreciate you telling me your story and i pray for you 🧡 Youre a beautiful soul! Lots of love!! 😇 Anitha

[@chanellesonia5952]

I'm so glad that I'm not alone and I love having people to talk to who are going through the same shit as me because you guys understand me! Yeah I agree with what you're saying, I think that I need to be my own best friend and focus on myself. I'm just too busy trying to fit in etc. I'm glad that your social anxiety has improved and I hope that you continue to stay strong. Hopefully, I will be following in your footsteps and my social anxiety will decrease too. You truly are an inspiration Anitha! Thank you so much for the support. Chanelle x

[@chanellesonia5952]

and yeah its such a shame that I don't have people like you around me because I think that you and Mel seem like really cool people! I think that it's important to keep in touch with each other xxx

[@sntsgio9131]

i relate :(

[@everybodydotheflop4342]

Getting off social media can really help, it took like 90% of my anxiety in only one night! I know it's weird

[@abhinavsirohi2197]

I had the same experience

[@everybodydotheflop4342]

i wished more people knew this... And if youre thinking about it do it for real there are NO disadvantages!

[@abhinavsirohi2197]

Yeah right social media is destroying people's brain its just leads them to depression that's all and everything on social media is fake

[@everybodydotheflop4342]

@@abhinavsirohi2197 i knoooow btch and only when u quit it u realize at what point its fucked up! These followers and this showing off smh

[@clara-df5km]

@@everybodydotheflop4342 iM GOING TO DO IT. STARTING NOW. I NEED THIS RN. I WILL GIVE YOU GUYS UPDATES!

[@haileyl6678]

I swear on my life this felt like hearing myself talk. I feel like my low self esteem and social anxiety are linked to be honest and every little negative comment, I’ll over analyze it and think it means I’m ugly. You are not alone. I swear I know how you feel. I’ve never related to someone like this. Btw, you’re pretty.

[@knucklehoagies]

I've had social anxiety my entire life. I'm 33 and still have no friends other than my significant other. I'm just not very good at conversation and come off as awkward all the time. Encountered too many fake friends in my life. Gave up.... even on the internet, nobody is ever interested in building a relationship.... i'm learning to be content with my loneliness.

[@jenluvzya]

Do you have any social media? I’ll be your friend :) I need new friends

[@knucklehoagies]

@@jenluvzya Yes I'm on twitter @JP1186 :)

[@sandyh967]

heey im the same... i had friends before but i stopped communicating with them after my social anxiety had worsened!!! dont give up though!

[@EbsteinJoel]

jay p research pyroluria. It's a genetic condition that causes lifelong, severe social anxiety. And, it's treatable with vitamin supplements and detox. It could be life changing for you!

[@boyboy-ru3gx]

I'll follow ya!

[@josephanthony9641]

I have dealt with social anxiety and low self esteem for a long time and I feel like I've missed out on so many opportunities in life and I hope and pray that you and I will break free from this in JESUS name! Amen!

[@anitha_kannan]

I know exactly what youre saying, all those missed opportunities... thankyou so much, i appreciate that, i also prayyy for you to get through this and for you future! God bless you bro 🧡

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey Joseph!! Im sorry about my late reply, i just saw your comment but i think youve deleted it? I REALLY appreciate what you wrote to me!!! Im so sorry that you had to feel like that in your first relationship, i actually went through exactly the same thing and it was so nerve racking!! I really hope youre alright!! Sorry if i offended you by not replying sooner... and thanks so much, that means a heck of a lot to me☀️☺️

[@josephanthony9641]

Yeah i think i just got a little embarrassed.Om really not the type of person to share my feelings with the public and no you did not offend me in anyway.im just a really shy person.

[@anitha_kannan]

I completely understand Joseph, when i had social media back in the day i used to comment and feel so weird (dont know the perfect word) but then delete it! So i feel you! You seem like an amazing and kind person, i appreciate that you shared such a personal thing with me! Youre super brave 🧡

[@estebancorrea3855]

It’s scary how many of us feel like this and yet we feel so lonely but there’s millions of us who suffer this shit bro it’s horrible

[@beanhead7632]

Because here, we’ve all come together, but in real life we’re all spread out in the world I wish I could meet at least 1 person just like me. My case of social anxiety (I have selective mutism, BUT also social anxiety - both similar) is so hard to understand sometimes...

[@paolasoriano2867]

Exactly. It's heartbreaking. I'm so much like her.

[@sakshamnagpal9948]

I just created this channel on discord with the name Anxious Peeps, if anyone is interested, lets come in contact with each other and create a friendly community for ourselves. You can search the name of the channel on discord, or join using this link discord.gg/Yd6UH7qS although idk how long this link lasts.

[@msjacqboo472]

It got so bad in Highschool that I would sit in the bathroom during lunch and every time we were allowed breaks ... I felt so lonely

[@Ali_delightful]

Same here. Luckily I had a teacher who would let me sit in their classroom during lunch.

[@trahadbad]

@@Ali_delightful that’s sweet

[@Ali_delightful]

@@trahadbad It really was. It was such a huge help then.

[@MontamZoo]

Bro I swear I thought that was only me, it’s such a painful feeling

[@belle3055]

Same

[@Joseph-wv6gt]

She has no idea that so many people don’t look at her because they think she is too attractive. When she is not looking they are staring.

[@christopherjosef5164]

Joseph Chaney that’s exactly me. I don’t bother looking at pretty girls because 1. Many complain that guys that look at them are creepy. 2. I don’t wanna boost anyone’s ego because girls are complimented like a thousand times during the day and so they’re used to being stared at and complimented.

[@kirinnaicker8871]

Christopher Josef fr man

[@J4YAH777]

@@christopherjosef5164 amen bro, some real shit

[@juns3741]

facts

[@anitha_kannan]

@Christopher Josef Wow, what you wrote is what you call beautiful! If only everyone was like you! Thankyou for saying that! I have so much respect for you Chris 🙏🏽💖

[@abdul-rahmanajem2991]

This made me cry, I’ve been suffering from extreme loneliness for as long as I can remember and I’ve kinda just lost hope of finding love or a connection and it’s just so hard

[@zixzizia1066]

May Allah grant you ease

[@losloser1511]

Oh nooo:( If you lived in Prague I’d give you a hug

[@Bob-lr5fy]

Honestly try tinder. You will be surptised

[@visual_chris]

lowkey relatable

[@florentinaduquin8256]

I’m a maladaptive dreamer too. It’s normal when you feel disconnected from reality. :) There’s a lot of people like us. We need to help each other out, we just need to connect but that’s so scary. Your low self esteem comes from your negative thoughts being validated in life because you believe them...it’s your thoughts that are driving you crazy. I’m in the same boat.

[@florentinaduquin8256]

@@extrashotofespresso_ I think maladaptive dreaming is helping us because we feel powerless creating the world we want in 'real life' so we go into our own head. It makes complete sense why people would stay in their dream world if they are not getting their needs met in real life. I think the next step is for people like us to figure out how to get (or create) what we need in the real world, which will take courage, trial and error, and connecting with other people that have needs we can both meet (mutally beneficial emotional connection). We are doing the best we can from where we are at for the time being. :)

[@hannap8052]

I'm scared of eye contact too, whenever I look into someone else's eyes I feel like they're picking apart my flaws and are disgusted with me +they see how scared I am and how I'm struggling with the situation and see me as pathetic. I try to tell myself it's just a projection of my own thoughts but I can't keep that mindset for a long time, I slip right into the negative thoughts when I'm stressed

[@myaaisha3147]

Me when I had acne

[@lando1224]

I 100% get what you mean. I’m constantly having to tell myself it’s the lies we tell ourselves. Bc I have had close friends who in a moment of strength, I would ask them if they noticed something ab me whether my anxiety or whatever and they’d look at me so surprised and confused as they hadn’t realized anything. I truly believe that we are our worst enemies. My own negative thoughts want to bring me down and everytime I tell myself that, and even on hard days tell myself to push through it, it’s not as bad

[@lando1224]

@@myaaisha3147 same but even with my acne basically gone, and only a few pimples here and there that aren’t that bad, I somehow mentally treat them as this big deal and still feel like they’re judging me. The mind doesn’t make any sense😂 I know my negative thoughts aren’t real but they don’t seem to leave

[@itsmequeenbee235]

Yeah that's my problem. I ask people if I look scared and they say yeah it's not even that they don't tend to notice anything.

[@Viscount_Castlereagh]

I've been trying to improve my eye contact with people as I work in a shop. When I look into others eyes usually the only thing I'm thinking is that they have nice eyes.

[@riverrat0154]

I dont like being around people. I can't be in a crowd. I analyze everything. I dont talk to many people and when I do its short and then I'm done. I go out to eat i sit away from people and my back to the wall facing the door.

[@stoopidnametag]

How do you feel being around people who are exactly like you?

[@riverrat0154]

@@stoopidnametag pretty much the same. I’m just don’t like being around people. It bothers me pretty bad

[@riverrat0154]

@Return of The Green Elephant I was. But she cheated and I left

[@itsmequeenbee235]

You're not alone. I don't like being in crowds either especially since my symptoms are noticeable. I get mistakened for being scared and I mean scared I guess because anxiety has a look you look like normal that they can't guess so no body expects me having anxiety. I can't even imagine walking past a group of " friends or people familiar with another". I would freeze up.

[@TakiGamesOfficial]

KZbin algorithm is bombarding me with all these “no friends” videos. One of the videos I watched regarding this topic pointed towards being grateful for what you don’t have. The sad truth is that I actually really don’t have friends and I have no siblings or anyone my age in my family. But on the bright side I guess I’m spoiled af and I don’t have to work as hard as everyone else.

[@sarevokanchev3616]

Can you share the wealth I'm about to be homeless because of this condition.

[@sebastiandarko901]

Yea you and the rest of these dumb ass fake loner videos

[@futuristiccat5636]

Same.......... are you me? Because literally same

[@futuristiccat5636]

Sebastian Darko shut up you’re probably depressed and hate life

[@nosmirc7222]

I'll be your friend😥

[@thereal800]

Girl your so fkn gorgeous😭😍😍😍 I used to have sever social anxiety that I even took a break of uni to “work and discover myself” which ended up of me staying in my room the whole time. I could literally count the amount of times I left the house BUT THANKS TO GOD I NO LONGER SUFFER CAUSE I NOW KNOW THAT I HAVE THE POWER TO CONTROL MY THOUGHTS. WHAT I ADVICE YOU TO DO IS TO ALWAYS QUESTION THE THOUGHTS THAT POP IN YOUR HEAD BECAUSE THEY ARE USUALLY DISORTED eg “OMG THAT WAS SO AWKWARD THEY THINK IM A LOSERR WHO DOESNT KNOW HOW TO TALK” ( which was what I used to think about myself) to “ IT WASNT THAT BAD, IM HUMAN THEY WILL UNDERSTAND AND EVERYONE SAY DUMB STUFF AND I NEVER REMEMBER AND THEY REMEMBER SO WHAT, DO THEY PAY MY BILLS? WHO CARES” but YOU REALLY HAVE TO CATCH YOURSELF EVERYTIME YOU GET THESE THOUGHTS WHICH COULD BE LIKE EVERY 10 min IF YOU WERE ME. ALSO REMEMBER TO BE NICE TO YOURSELF I RECOMMEND LOOKING AT OLD PHOTOS AND ASK YOURSELF WOULD YOU BE COMFORTABLE BEING RUDE TO THIS PERSON. PLUS REMEMBER EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN INSECURITIES JUST BECAUSE THEY DONT FEEL SHY DOESNT MEAN THEY HAVE HIGH SELF ESETEEM. ONCE YOU START LOOKING AT PEOPLE FROM THE PERSPECTIVE THAT YOUR ALL EQUAL AND ALL DEALING WITH PERSONAL SHIT YOU WILL STOP FEELING INFERIOR AND START FEELING MORE COMFORTABLE BECAUSE THERES NO BARIER YALL ARE EQUAL. THIS WILL HELP YOU ACT MORE CONFIDENT AND YOU WILL START NOTICING PEOPLES FAULTS AND INSECURITIES INSTEAD OF FEELING LIKE YOUR THE BURDEN. THIS WILL THEN MAKE SOCIALISING ABOUT CONNECTION AND NOT A PERFORMANCE OF YOUR SELF WORTH. YOU GOT THIS GIRL AND GOD LOVES YOU❤️❤️

[@thereal800]

Sorry about the grammatical and spelling errors I was in my feelings and I just typed it fast

[@anitha_kannan]

OMG THIS WAS SO AMAZING TO READ especially first thing in the morning!! 🧡 this was seriously such awesome advice, and i feel so freaking HAPPY to know that you have overcome your social anxiety- youre probably the first person to say that- so proud of you ☺️ i love the part about how you said to look an old photo, thats actually such a beautiful way to help me to stop torturing my mind. You are seriously an inspiration, god bless you ❤️ Hahahahh it all made sense at the end, stuff grammar haha! This was some real stuff, can tell its from the heart! Appreciate it so much 😘 hope nothing but happiness for you!!!!!

[@Esther2333]

The Real you couldn’t be any more correct , I love this thank you. I always get that negative second voice in my head ... but I don’t catch myself quick enough to question those thoughts .

[@silhouettes55]

Best comment ever! God bless you too.

[@Balling4Jesus]

Good advice

[@paulinasims7961]

At this point of my life, I’ve had anxiety for such a long time that I don’t really remember what having friends is like. It sucks because I can never contribute to a conversation, I always live in my head, I never make eye contact. People think I’m rude, or uninteresting, or weird since I can never fill the gaps in a conversation. I tried therapy but it didn’t work, I ended up feeling more hopeless and trapped

[@anitha_kannan]

Oh my goodness, I UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING YOUR WROTE ! I feel your pain so much 😓 those exact words “rude, weird, uninteresting....” always run through my mind when interacting! It drives me nuts! I hope there are atleast other things in your life that bring positivity and happiness, i really do hope love 🧡🧡 i am so grateful that you shared your situation with me 🦋

[@mysticalrose1414]

I'm the same way. First start to build your confidence.

[@vic7623]

I feel the exact same way sometimes! Hang in there, if you ever need a friend I’m here. 🤚🏻

[@Ines-pk1xc]

Same story here

[@fazlisubhan7688]

start reciting this word " Ya Baiso" meaning "O the giver of life" you will become confident, further contacts me on fazli [e-mail]

[@andrewliftsweights6644]

I can’t order food, I can’t talk to people without sounding dumb, I can’t talk to people without weirding them out, I just feel like nothings going to get better

[@johndouglas7213]

All you need is more practice. Get comfortable being uncomfortable for awhile and you will gain confidence. Don't hide from it

[@joshy2joshy]

Everyone else is also preoccupied with themselves, they won't remember that moment of tiny embarrassment that you believed to be detrimental. We're humans, don't worry about it. Most people are more accepting of others than you probably think. Most people also forget the nuances like when you pronounced a word slightly weird, I pay attention and remember the flaws in other people but I don't let that change my view of them, I just find it fascinating that try so hard to be perfect, let the energy flow freely and you will feel so much better. :D

[@estellekim6638]

Same...it’s hard esp during job interviews.

[@andrewliftsweights6644]

@@joshy2joshy thank you a lot thats really good advice bro much love

[@andrewliftsweights6644]

@@johndouglas7213 youre right no more hiding thanks for the advice much appreciated

[@karami8844]

Just turned 33 and I swear, every birthday has become harder and harder for me. Instead of being happy and making plans to celebrate, I’ve become super depressed and on the verge of tears and actually crying the whole birthday month. I’ve had no real friends since high school, no significant other (ever) and my co-workers are just that...co-workers. They’ve all squad up, every new hire gets added to their group and I’m just that person who has worked there longest and has all the answers but sits away from the rest of them. I have no idea how to connect to them, we have nothing in common. Like you said, it takes a lot of strength to live like this. Some people don’t know how to live alone or know what it’s like to have no friends in life. For me, it’s made me become self-reliant and independent. But the older I get, the scarer and more upset I become because I feel I’m just going to grow old alone with a cat or two, which is what I didn’t want in life and don’t know how to break out of it 😖

[@BEEyonced]

Feeling you up until last sentence. Animals are the best companion... cats the best spirit. Thou personal taste differs. Really share your couch with a soul in need. Shelters are full. They'll give you 100% back with no ugly deeds. Compared to sucky humans they are best of real friends. Only problem they die way to soon.

[@Anon13100]

Don't worry, you will find a great companion for life. Just send out love and positive energy and you will receive the same tenfold. Thirty three is still a very youthful age. Just volunteer wherever you can and give to others whatever you can. The Universe will reward you in return multifold and in abundance. Don't overthink and imagine unnecessary stuff. Just smile a lot. Do the Ho'oponopono meditation (available in the internet) and see miracles unwind. You are a beautiful woman and an extremely lovely soul.

[@fleadoggreen9062]

Same here so don’t feel so bad , I’ll tell you what helps me is, I hurt my knee so I started basic calisthenics, they have program or regimen here on KZbin, and I noticed the exercise made me feel so much better, I started doing them right after work, then during my break at work, now I exercise as soon as I get to work, some time at break n after work 3 times a day different exercises, it helps with me feeling like crap , and excepting of being a lone wolf , and I’m friendlier, and the opposite sex is starting to look at me more so that is really cool , but yea maybe you can try exercising, it’s the only thing that helped me! Nothing else came close, but I am still depressed every day so that’s why I do it

[@beanhead7632]

Nobody, NOBODY, wished me a happy birthday last year. Nobody... literally.. except my home room teacher who had a record of all our birthdays at the front of the classroom Made my self esteem even worse... I know it’s just something small, but what if I were to say.. ALL my school life nobody has ever wished me a happy birthday? I also remember my 5th birthday, nobody was there except for my mom, younger sister (who was still 1 at the time), and my auntie, and grandma. Oh well..

[@fleadoggreen9062]

@@beanhead7632 happy birthday but consider urself lucky , see how much ur family loves you !!! Now you be good to you’re little sister

[@victoriabiskup4113]

I didn't realise how bad my social anxiety was till watching this because I relate so much, I'm sick of cancelling plans and people thinking I'm a crappy friend (well that's me thinking that) but it makes me feel so bad about myself. I don't have friends as it is and when someone tries I just push them away because I'm too anxious and worried about what will happen. Thankyou so much for sharing this.

[@anitha_kannan]

Heyyy hun!! I completely understand what youre saying!!!! I hope youre okay, i really appreciate that you shared this! Im glad u were able to relate to my video, i personally felt a heap lot better when i watch videos of other people sharing their story!! I really hope youre alright though, social anxiety is a serious thing and i would suggest telling someone you trust and how its impacting your life. It makes it a tiny bit easier! Sending lots of love your way ❤️☀️

[@eliska4970]

Exactlyyy, and when I try to make friends and talk to people, I'm nervous cuz I'm afraid of saying stupid things, so I'm quiet most of the time and everyone think I'm weird

[@fazlisubhan7688]

start reciting this word " Ya Baiso" meaning "O the giver of life" you will become confident, further contacts me on fazli [e-mail]

[@AC-kp8sp]

I can relate. Social anxiety has ruined my life as well as low/no self esteem.

[@animeplusftw1355]

Keep fighting

[@luccafernandez5276]

you will get through it

[@Grungefan2018]

Ditto. No idea how to change this. I feel like something awful is going to happen all the time. I'm scared ALL the time . Nothing has helped, meds, counseling, alternative therapy . This is NO LIFE

[@AdrianA-yo8jd]

We can all get through this together. Let’s just encourage each other and give everyone hope.

[@AdrianA-yo8jd]

@@Grungefan2018 I feel the same way. It’s died down a bit as time has gone on and I find it’s helped to remind myself that I do have friends who care about me, and to pay more attention to how good the world seems to naturally be. There’s been so many situations I’ve been in in public where someone could’ve taken advantage, stolen my stuff, been angry at me for something I did, etc and 9 times out of 10 they were nice and respectful instead. Reminding me I dropped my wallet/returning my phone, letting me know I left my gas tank open when filling up, not honking like a mad man for a small mistake made while driving.

[@JR-kb1ve]

You’re not alone.

[@anitha_kannan]

Are you okay? I hope youre doing alright!! Its new year over here, I hope 2019 will be an amazing year for you 🧡

[@JR-kb1ve]

Anitha Kannan Yes I’m fine, one day at a time 😊💗 happy new year too you, hope this year is your best one yet, just keep going you got this 👏🏽

[@KatrinaAglipay]

3:43 the toilet situation, I can totally relate girl!

[@xFlared]

At my job when I go to male restroom during breaks I frequently hear sobbing from stalls. There are so many people going through this.

[@steveo6408]

It’s crazy to see such beautiful people with social anxiety

[@liamhowgate4022]

Why should beauty necessarily correlate with having confidence/high self esteem or other positive values? Beauty is at the end of the day just genetic luck

[@khydo]

@@liamhowgate4022 often approached or spoken to more often thus leading to more social interaction and likely to form friendships. That is the usual reason why people think like that, which is not always the case.

[@salexmatei]

@@liamhowgate4022 It's not luck to be honest it highly depends on the parents, if you've noticed. Luck would be if two ugly people have a beautiful child. Beauty definitely gives you a better advantage at gaining social acceptance, which could be developed into confidence/self esteem.

[@alessiasiva4061]

Girl, can i just say, as soon as I saw you I thought "wow! this girl is so pretty! like she's so beautiful". And from hearing all the things you've said i just think u have the sweetest heart, u just sound like a beautiful person, I want to be friends with u! I really hope everything's well right now...

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey beautiful ❤️ Omg, you are soooo lovely & so kind girl, thankyouuuu so much! You seriously made my day! I would love to be friends with you too, you seem so geniune and warm hun, wow, need more people like you around! Things are definitely better than the time I posted this, I hope you are okayyyy, i dont know what your situation is like but I just hope youre coping okay with any struggles you may have love! Sending you so much love and an ENORMOUS HUG xoxo 🤗🤗🤗

[@Isabel-hf5du]

I found my tribe in the comments💕🔮

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey Isabel! 💕 Thats awesome girl! The love and support of everyone here is INCREDIBLE and just something else! We're a family!

[@Isabel-hf5du]

You and everyone here are so relatable. I makes me feel better :)

[@covkeeper291]

Hi, Anitha. I'm glad that you were able to open up. I've been suffering from social anxiety since 10yrs old along with low self esteem. It's definitely lonely. I even have a job where I'm alone all day as to accommodate my anxiety. It's bad. I hardly speak unless spoken to. Its crazy because I'm married and still I feel alone. I can't even be as expressive with her. I feel like the real me is dead inside or imprisoned. I'm 38yrs old now and I wonder if I'm just set in this way. I want to be different. Behind this smile is a guy who's really sad and depressed. It fools everyone but I can't fool myself. Like you, I have my tricks to encourage myself but they're so temporary. I wonder if things have gotten better for you.

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey Rennell!! 🥰 First of all I just wanted to say thankyou so much for writing a bit about your struggles/story.. I really appreciate it!! And Im so sorry youve been experincing SA since you were 10 years old- 28 years of feeling like this is heartbreaking! I actually understand every single word you wrote here, especially when you said you feel "dead" inside! It hurts me so much to know you feel this way, especially when you still feel alone even with a partner- i completely understand!! Things have gotten better for me, my SA hasnt just magically disappeared, but through gradual exposure and meeting genuine people it has gotten better!! I think meeting people who have a very similar mindset and who are truly "good" and genuine and kind hearted just helps so much- its so rare to come across people like that but when you do you can talk about actual things/life, deep topics and somehow SA is not in the picture! Im still working on it, but at the same time the feeling you described of feeling "dead" inside did really get to me, and its a type of apathy, so Ive been trying to always do something different every day and get out of my bubble or else I will go back to feeling like that- so Im keeping myself busy, even if im on my own! You have such a beautiful smile (seeing your picture) I PRAY that your situation does get better, YOU ARE SUCH A STRONG PERSON, youre a real warrior Rennell!! 💛 Sending you lots of love!!

[@Alovedhuman]

Therapy ?

[@1StepForwardToday]

@@anitha_kannan I feel your pain Anitha and Rennell. Imo, taking ownership of your flaws is key. Whatever you fear that people will know or think about you (like being awkward and socially inept, fragile and nervous), you must learn to "humbly" take ownership of that, and accept that about yourself. When you can accept it, you will no longer fear people discovering it about you, and eventually you won't fear awkward social interactions much because you learn to fully accept that awkward social interactions are truly [ok]. You don't need to say the right things, or to have a smooth social interaction. It's ok if you're the only one around that's socially awkward. They are ok, because they are something real that you experience, and you deserve to honor yourself with the dignity and respect of accepting yourself, of whom has those experiences. Anxiety is a part of who you are. That's ok. Own it. It's likely to be a long journey to reach complete social liberation, but when you begin owning that which you fear.. the fear begins to lose its grip over you. It's one step forward at a time. Just begin to move forward, (at your rate), and you'll get to whereever you get. You'll be moving out of fear, in the right direction as you put one step at a time out of comfort and through the firewalls of your fears. Willingly, walk into the fire to melt those chains. Humility, dignity and taking ownership of that which is feared, are the essential tools that I find most helpful. Learn to accept about yourself, that which you fear others will discover. It's ok to be socially awkward and different. Just, in gentle steps, stop trying to hide it, or avoid it. Don't focus on what other people think about it; but rather, focus on you accepting it. Do [you] accept [you] with anxiety? The more that you do, the less it will hold any grip over you.

[@ESport211]

I feel for you, man!

[@covkeeper291]

@@Alovedhuman Therapy is always on the table but sadly its just bad timing especially when working 6 days a week and building a business in between.

[@annikenwold6644]

Sometimes I wonder if I ever will beat my social anxiety😩

[@sukuyomi1979]

have you tried any new hobbies or traveling, those things help you I bet

[@anttt13]

Crazy. I thought I was the only one who had these thoughts. I’m very self-conscious about how I look and sound, I’m quiet and hesitant to speak to different people. I’ve been this way since I was little. I thought being socially anxious was my own unique problem because everyone else was doing fine with interaction. But it’s nice knowing that it’s not just me. Thank you for relating!

[@Callebravo]

Wow for someone who has social anxiety & making a KZbin video for the public to see must took a lot of courage. I respect you so much for this & I can relate to you in MANY ways. I hope I can overcome this too.

[@lelainerduh]

The experiences, the way she speaks, her body language is all too real and familiar it was scary how much you described me

[@anitha_kannan]

We must be twins if everything in this video reminded you of you! Im so sorry you had to also experience these feelings, youre so strong love! YOURE A FIGHTER! I hope youre doing okay! Sending you an incredible amount of love and a big hug 💜💜

[@Ez3s]

@@anitha_kannan Hello Anitha, your experience is touching and I commend you for sharing. How could I contact you? I'd love to converse and share some experiences with you.

[@microblading.ghana1]

Guess we all speak like that due to the sadness in our heart and the lack of frequent conversations

[@VesseyGaming]

I don't think I've ever related to something so much as what you said, when you mentioned that a 60 second conversation that goes well with no awkwardness stays with you all day. It really does make your day! I'm the same with my work aswell, at Dinner time i'll go sit in my car to hide away from conversing with colleagues. I go to the gym everyday to make myself feel better about myself, but only 11pm own wards so it's empty haha. I'm 24 and live alone in my flat, where my highlight of the week will be washing my car XD getting excited about buying a pressure washer really puts things in to perspective. I don't think i'll ever date again after being in a relationship for 6 years for the person to meet someone else, it's just an awful feeling. 1 year on from that and i genuinely do believe some people are supposed to be alone. It's a horrible thought but the strongest people in life can do it alone. We all need someone, but it's finding that person that relates with you. But it's impossible to find that person where your potential partner is indoors on a weekend the same as you. It's a strange and lonely life we live. You seem very self aware which is amazing and i hope this year has been going better for you! I think this is my first time ever commenting on something like this and i've watched hundreds of similar videos, so thank you for that! If anyone needs to chat i'm on instagram @jt_vessey or send me a message on here. Much love. Vessey

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey Vessey! I am so glad that you were able to relate to parts of my video ! And i cant believe that you also sit in the car during work break, i completely understand the struggles! And i used to go to the gym but at 3-4 am 😂 but same reason as you, to use the gym when no one would be there, but there always would be someone who would come in half way through, so i would pretend like i finished and leave.... And a 6 year relationship, now thats long. Im hoping that youre okay, i know its not easy, you seem like a very genuine and kind soul, i feel like when it comes to dating- it all happens when we least expect it, so dont give up and continue to be that warior that you are ☀️ I really appreciate you sharing a piece of your story, it means alot to me, and makes me feel less alone knowing there are people with similar struggles so thankYOU ☺️

[@finthehuman3649]

Wow thank you so much for sharing this. But I have to disagree, I think everyone deserves people to be with and hang out with. Everyone, no matter how shitty they are, deserves love. And you're not even a terrible person so you definitely do!

[@Southforthewinter]

FinTheHuman I think your mentality is what makes people weak. Why do we deserve anything? You’re alive, you out of a million sperm got to the egg and made it out ALIVE everything else in this world is a bonus, people’s worst assumption is thinking we all deserve happiness. How entitled of humans. How about working and pursuing the things we want

[@finthehuman3649]

@@Southforthewinter not ready to have an online fight in this nice comment section so I'm just going to say that I respectfully disagree :)

[@dhegadheer2600]

I can't go to Instagram because of my social anxiety plus my English is horrible 😂😭

[@UserName-br5zu]

I’ve never experienced social anxiety but I have experienced depression and having no friends. It can suck at times. Being an introvert doesn’t help either. Although sometimes the space to find yourself is useful and can help you grow. Time is only wasted if you don’t use it to your advantage. Good luck with the job and you’ve now got 12,500 friends and earned yourself a new sub!

[@txspacemom765]

I have had anxiety since I was kid. As I am now in my 40's, I have learned that I am just a loner and I am ok with that. I don't mind people but it uses up a lot of my energy. We are so taught to be social, even if it goes against our natural abilities. It took me 20 years to find a career where I have a balance of people and alone time. You are ok! Keep at it girl!

[@Lorrenz]

I just want to say that you are definitely the most beautiful girl I have ever seen, I couldn't stop staring at your face. You are a solid 10 out of 10. When you said that don't feel pretty, I almost fell out my seat. I also go through this. People always tell me that I'm cute and could "be a model," but I feel like they're lying to me just to make me feel good. When people glance at me in public, I feel like they're thinking about how ugly I am, or judging my ugly features. But listen, our perception is faulty. I'm glad I watched this video because now I know what other people are talking about. We have some sort of appearance dysphoria, and it's completely irrational. This stems from our tendency to misperceive other's actions towards us, which is a result of our paranoia and immense anxiety. Always remember that you're just in your head, your perception does not equate to reality --- I relate to everything 110%, and watching this made me feel less alone. I'm gay and I have extreme social anxiety because I constantly feel like I'm being condemned by the public, and my self-esteem is also at the bottom of the pit. I relate so much to the fantasizing thing, and in high school I always sat alone in the library because of social anxiety. I can't even apply for a job due to the fear of doing something wrong/being yelled at. You are strong. You will get through it with time, but it takes effort. Start reading some psychology books, once you learn how your mind, you are able to better fight social anxiety. Thank you for making this video, please make more!!! ❤❤❤

[@Lorrenz]

*once you learn how your mind works

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey hun! OH MY GOODNESS! This comment honestly made me happy cry (when I was reading it in the bathroom during my work break) YOU have NO idea how much this means to me! You made my day ❤️ Thankyou so so much for your freaking amazingly kind words! You definitely boosted my self esteem today☺️ and I cannot believe you go through the same thing, you’re the first person I know who has this horrible self esteem thing, I’m so sorry you have to go through such a shitty thing 😞 I know that it’s mostly in my head, but I just find it so difficult to stop all those negative thoughts about the way I look... if u don’t mind me asking was there a particular thing that happened to you when you were younger to constantly think that everyone thinks you’re ugly? I went onto your account, tried to see if you had any videos, but you don’t !!! I’ve subscribed to you! It’d be awesome to see videos of you, I can barely see you in your picture! And you always have my support with anything, I’m so glad you found my video, I feel like if we lived in the same city we would be such close friends because of the same thing we are going through! Hope you are okay ! Hope to hear from you soon! You’re an amazing person just know that! 🧡🧡☀️☺️

[@Lorrenz]

+Anitha Kannan Awww it fills me with joy knowing that you happy cried 😭😭💙💙 I really do see a lot of strength in you. And I know that one day your intense anxiety will dissipate. And all of those fantasies you play out in your head will one day become reality. Patience is key, never lose hope. ❤ I do think there were some events in my childhood that could have contributed to my low self-esteem. In 6th grade, a girl called me "retarded looking" and I never forgot about that. And in 9th grade, my dad straight up told me I'm ugly. I know these should be insignificant comments, but it could have contributed greatly to my horrible self-esteem. What about you?? You are literally a goddess, I can't understand why you wouldn't feel pretty!!! And I also think that if we lived in the same town, we would definitely be good friends!!

[@bryceong7948]

Lorenz aj everything you said, it’s too relatable to an extent I see the mirror in you in myself, I’m gay, people says I’m good looking, i went to the gym 7 times a week every time loneliness creeps me up. I have extreme low self esteem, I wake up everyday staring at a mirror wanting to change everything about my face, I have high expectations to have my strict gains. I am so done using social media as I have a 50 year old fashioned thinking like what Anitha said, for this account’s sake but please text me @tengyoong

[@valeriesweekofwonders1067]

Samee I hate being in public cuz I feel like everyone’s eyes are on me, judging me and thinking I’m disgustingly ugly 😢

[@TheAutumnWind_RN4L]

My wife is the most beautiful woman alive, and she also struggles with social anxiety issues. She's very strong, very brave, and has developed coping mechanisms, such as breathing exercises, chewing gum, and the most uncomfortable...you have to force yourself to talk to people. If you don't, it'll be all too easy to stay inside, shut yourself off, and shrink into depression. I believe that social anxiety is perhaps a gift of extreme empathy, or some cognizant awareness that human beings like yourself can not control. You're far too lovely a woman to rob the world from your presence. Peace and blessings on your journey of self discovery.

[@Luthoran]

Very positive comment, bless you man

[@grey027]

I feel like people with social anxiety are really kind people

[@TheAutumnWind_RN4L]

@@Luthoran peace and blessings to you, as well.

[@TheAutumnWind_RN4L]

@@grey027 I agree.

[@Boudi-ca]

Great perspective of social anxiety. Chewing gum really does help when going into a situation that increases your anxiety. I read somewhere that When you’re eating, your brain thinks there is no immediate danger, otherwise you wouldn’t be eating, tricking it helps. Sometimes I even have to chew gum when taking a walk or going grocery shopping. Man, anxiety can be hard to live with.

[@pernelltaylor1819]

This resonates with me so deeply. Being so lonely that you start to fantasize about being friends with ppl or being social feels like rock bottom. It’s hard to connect with everyone around you when you are genuinely afraid of connecting with everyone.

[@perseusofmacedon6918]

All i know is that my social anxiety is actually destroying my life. I have no friends and school hurts me being lonely. Social anxiety has only gave me knowledge because i dont go outside i study about many things.history to astronomy. But i am really bad at school because i dont speak

[@babianna5609]

I can relate, but mines a bit different. I’ve had social anxiety my whole life. I’ve always have friends because people seem to like me for some reason, but I don’t know why because I never want to hangout because I get too anxious and I never feel connected to people because I constantly feel like everyone in the world is way more worthy of everything than I am.

[@aquilaresper7222]

Omg I feel the same way! I don't have any friends. I am an introvert. When people look at me I get anxiety because they probably saying I am ugly. I never considerate myself "pretty" since I was bully all the time. 💯 You are strong.

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey girl! The fact you got bullied makes me so freaking upset, i dont know how people can be so evil! im so sorry you had to experience this! YOU are beautiful and SO STRONG- you look like a queen in your picture 💕 I hope youre coping okay love!

[@aquilaresper7222]

@@anitha_kannan Thank you so much!! I don't have any friends. The one friend I have is myself. You are a beautiful person. I need more people like you in my life. ♥️

[@taybball30]

The eye contact thing is literally me!!!! When I notice a guy looking at another girl, I instantly think it’s because I’m ugly. I’m so self conscious when I walk around on campus. I don’t have any friends. I understand exactly how you feel. Wow. I constantly feel like there is something wrong with me. You are beautiful! I’m 21 years old and I expected my life to be so much more fulfilling. I don’t go out. I sit in my dorm room all day if I’m not in class. I constantly look in mirrors to see how I look, and most times, I don’t like what I see.

[@anitha_kannan]

Ahhhhh you sound exactly like me !! Damn, the part where u said you expected life to be more fulfilling 😩 i so get you, i feel so trapped! I hope youre okayyyyy! It sounds awful just sitting in the room, i know how hard it is! Just remember that you are a warrior, and i really REALLLLY PRAY AND HOPE YOUR SITUATION WILL get better 🤞🏽🧡 sending huge amount of love xxx

[@brunettezprettyr4296]

Girl my anxiety so bad that college is not an option

[@MostHighDwelling]

I'm sitting here crying my eyes out watching this video

[@anitha_kannan]

OMGGG! :'( ARE U OK? u must be in so much pain, knowing u cried makes me so upset! i used to watch videos on social anxiety (not much out there) but when i connected with someones story i would just cry uncontrollably, so i completely understand what you are feeling hun! just know YOU ARE SO PRECIOUS AND AN ABSOLUTE WARRIOR! I PRAY FOR YOU, and your healing AND NOTHING BUT LOVE AND GOOD PEOPLE in your life

[@fazlisubhan7688]

start reciting this word " Ya Baiso" meaning "O the giver of life" you will become confident, further contacts me on fazli [e-mail]

[@jenniferbagwell8177]

I can totally relate!! I’ve been this way for a very long time. It’s hard for me to work because I struggle so much with being around people. I also have quit jobs due to this. It’s very difficult.

[@DayDay360]

Don’t force friendly relationships, you just have let things be and unforced so that it can be comfortable for you

[@anitha_kannan]

I agree, friendships can't be forced. Thank you for sharing this with me! 🤗

[@miatawah6902]

goooddd advice!

[@sarahnguyen7672]

i feel like i can’t handle living life. i’m glad this popped up on my recs but i just don’t know what to do about my anxiety. i started to struggle with xanax addiction, but i don’t want to spend the rest of my days addicted and a zombie. btw ur beautiful as hellll and such a strong person.

[@anitha_kannan]

Life is very tough in so many ways, I know what you mean when you say you feel like you cant handle it...and ive seen alot of people on xanax, i definitely also dont want you to be addicted to this drug, do you have any support from family Sarah? I feel terrible knowing you are in so much pain 😥 are you seeing a counsellor? anyone you trust love? I know you are a strong woman, and I know you will come out of this! I think the best step would be to talk to someone and start creating steps/ a plan so you can start making gradual progress!!! You look so beautiful love from your picture, such a kind face, it breaks me to know youre suffering, I PRAY FOR YOU sweetheart ❤️

[@sarahnguyen7672]

@@anitha_kannan tbh i feel like i dont have friends, or at least anyone i can conect with and be that comfortable with, and my family dont understand cuz theyre all pretty outgoing and cuz theyre religious theyre like u have all these problems cuz u dont have enough faith in god and i hate it. ive really been leaning on the decision to seek professional help tho :) Ty for replying to me ur so kind n have a big heart.

[@banaNA9]

I’ve been feeling the same way it’s suffocating to me. If you need someone to talk to let me know :)

[@brunettezprettyr4296]

This is exactly how I feel

[@fazlisubhan7688]

start reciting this word " Ya Baiso" meaning "O the giver of life" you will become confident, further contacts me on fazli [e-mail]

[@fxckdarrow]

She's gorgeous and I relate heavily

[@stayrosy1852]

Omg I've gone through the same stuff. I have been introverted and somewhat shy my whole life. Gurl your so pretty and I appreciate u sharing this. I'm 23 and feel like a loser for not having anyone. And gurrll you are so dang pretty!

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey hey😊 omg first of all thankyou so much for the compliments, that means a lot to me, no joke- you made my day 💎 and you are ABSOLUTELY NOT a loser at all for having no one, you are so freaking special, trust me when I say this. And I just want to say hats off to you for being able to get through life in general without having anyone/ feeling shy- cuz it takes a lot of strength xx let me know if u ever need to talk, I’m here ☀️

[@sppsports2449]

I'm just going to throw this out there: you're very attractive. Trust me lol. It's pretty shocking to hear you say you don't think you're attractive. That's the first thing I thought when I started watching the video. Good on you for being honest and vulnerable, a lot of people appreciate this video. Thank you.

[@merve0902]

How can someone be exactly like me!? The worst part for me is that no one understands that I’m shy or anxious so they think I’m arrogant which is very hard for me and makes me feel more anxious! 😩 I've started to stop thinking so much and planning every detail in my head and I tryyy at least to be more spontaneous it helps sometimes.. hope you’re ok ♥️ I understand you and you’re not alone ☺️

[@Eksxx]

I’m crying so hard as I’m watching this...this is EXACTLY how I feel. It so hard not being able to find ppl who understand...but u explained it so perfectly with ur situation. I wish we were friends.

[@anitha_kannan]

Heyy hun! OMG DONT CRYYYYY! That seriously breaks my heart 😞 you must be in a really difficult situation, and yes i know exactly what u mean, its even harder when theres no one who understands!!!! Aww i would love to be friends with u as well, you seem like such a sweetheart ❤️ if u need to talk to me, you can message me any time and ill give u my email ☀️🧡 i really hope youre OKAY. I feel terrible knowing that you cried :/

[@victorbaca1687]

Me too 😭😭 I think mine is from cptsd I hate my life

[@victorbaca1687]

I don’t know who I am

[@victorbaca1687]

I’m a 25 year old man and still fell like a scared little boy 😢

[@ketsial5669]

Ekene Anamanya I so relate to you guys

[@babysummer7207]

I get it, especially the crying bits. I've woken up in my bed crying, sleep isn't good anymore. I'm 22 and I've had your struggles for about as long as I can remember. I think people like us must have just had too much negative association with socializing. Like I want to be more outgoing but then remember that interacting with people is so very stressful. My best advice for the time being is not to let this make you feel any shame or guilt. Being lonely doesn't mean you're a bad person or something is wrong with you.

[@MT-zy7oe]

I can hear the tiredness in your voice of coping with this sickly disease. Social anxiety is a complete life destroyer. I feel your pain. It's hard to make a change too because of all the energy your mind and body is depleted of due to anxiety and low self esteem.

[@madonnauchehara7755]

Sometimes, I just feel life isn't fair to us struggling with one psychological illness or another😔

[@leannesmith5818]

Hang in there

[@rahzobabii6161]

i just get that weird feeling like people just think i’m not human whenever i walk around in a social environment , its like i feel more out of my body not knowing where i am fr and whenever someone asks me a question or try to have a conversation with me i get stuck like i don’t know what to say

[@samb2814]

same 🥺

[@A.I_MONEY]

I thought I was simply not the verge of going crazy, thanks for sharing this

[@darkndark9521]

Nan it just means your defent so stop crying and move on

[@DigitalLoom]

i know what you mean about not feeling human around aot of people!!! i become hyper aware of my strange human form!!! and operating it feels like im a fake person!!! its hell!!!!! and being overly optimistic and cocky is very tiering and fake!!! walking around confident makes me feel foolish because ultimately i really have no real control in this galaxy!!!! im just apart of it!!!a slave!!! a cog in the machine and pretending to have achiop on my shoulder because im a master at a few things isnt enough to truley mean it!!!!

[@xFlared]

This is 3 years late but I'm turning 28. Never had a relationship and last time I had friends was when I was 13. Since then nada. Nothing. I'm working and living with mom. I'm still not giving up and fighting each day. I lost weight, gained muscle, and have girls asking me out, complimenting me and always giving me looks. The thing is they probably think I'm confident, cool, and carefree, but in reality in my head I'm insecure, inferior, and absolutely terrified of any type of contact. I struggle just maintaining a few minutes worth of conversation with my manager each day. If not due to my inferiority complex, it's due to irritation at something. It's a combination of fear, anxiety and irritation of me being near others who I think are superior. I know they're not, but when I'm near them my body gives in and falls under this spell of intimidation. Like what the hell am I doing near these "gods"? Then I go home at the end of a shift thinking about suicide. I'm not gonna lie these past 4 years of change and self improvement have put me against the biggest obstacles. Every new type of interaction and established contact and its unique chemistry seems to open up more demons inside me. Especially a desire to attach to others, and knowingly killing any type of intimacy or friendliness to avoid the pain of loss, rejection or disappointment. This is why whenever I like someone as a friend or as a "female" I instantly start pushing them away and sometimes intentionally act like an asshole so they know to stay away from me. Because I know if I pursue such a precious bond that I dream of and get rejected that it will be so painful that it'll tear me up for weeks, months, or even a year. I've been through this pattern so I know how it goes. Regardless I am still fighting. Nobody in my life knows this about me and whenever I tell family members or coworkers that I have social anxiety they think I'm exaggerating or just casually saying a self depreciating joke. If I tell them all of this they'd probably never want to speak or be around me due to my "negative energy". Almost all people who used to be my classmates or friends have families, homes and are independent. And I'm still here struggling just to maintain briefest and the most basic types of contacts, falling apart, shaking, and being torn apart while lifting words out of my mouth like they weight a ton responding to a cashier when paying for my purchases as I stutter and my hands shake uncontrollably. At times I feel like I'm in a living hell slowly being suffocated, trapped with no way to escape. It's the worst feeling I have ever felt.

[@nicm.7382]

Oh man, Im typically a lurker but I just felt like I had to comment cuz I hundred percent feel every word you just typed. Especially viewing others as "gods". This comparison we do with others is toxic I just don't know how to break it. I'm turning 28 too and feel like I haven't lived. Big time inferiority complex. In social situations I just turn into a mannequin. I feel like I can't add anything of value to a conversation. Do you feel the same? I wish you the best and hope you continue making progress. We are valuable in ways we may never understand or believe but somebody out there needs us.

[@christianlyricalsongs9023]

Sameer problemen here tnk god people r like me are there i always thought I'm the only one in this world living like thisssss😢😢😢😢😢😢😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@mr.r2362]

27 and in a similar situation, but do not lose hope. Focus on getting out for walks in places with a fair amount of people. Find hobbies you enjoy, whether or not they involve people. I would recommend at least forcing yourself to go out to a park or a walking path in your town or city where you can pass by folks and just get used to the energies of crowds, then work your way up to conversation. Exposure therapy is what I'm currently doing and it's helping, so long as I don't flake on my goals. Find a craft or career skill that tickles your fancy and do whatever you can to practice that skill at home. Then look into the trades or in forest ranger jobs. Do creative and practical physical things on top of your exercise regimen. Just some random suggestions, take it or leave it. Your not alone. I sincerely pray everything gets better for you soon.🙏😊

[@fishinginindiana1904]

I’m 52 year old man. The way I deal with the problem is working jobs most people won’t do. I worked at a chemical company for twenty three years. Everyone around me was messed up just like me. I’m currently at a gas company been here ten years, pretty much work by myself all day. I’m just like you no friends and disconnect but won’t give up.

[@anitha_kannan]

Thank-you so much for sharing this with me love! 💙 I appreciate it! And I understand what you mean with work, Im at a job where Im able to keep SA at the most minimal! I love how you said you wont give up even though you dont have friends and feel disconnected! I also admire the fact that youve stayed at these jobs for so long, so much respect for you- i cant imagine working at a place for 23 years that's mentally destroying, youre a warrior in my eyes! God bless you love!

[@pawkyyy]

what do you do at the chemical company? i would like to work alone too.

[@ninacujic3001]

This really made me cry!! I can relate in many ways. One rude comment stays with me for months and sometimes even years 😢 You are not alone... All I want to say is many thanks, I had a bad day and this helped me feel a bit better.

[@anitha_kannan]

OMGGG GIRL knowing you cried makes me so sad, you must be going through a really tough time, im so sorry you had to experience a bad day and going through this 😢 im so glad I was able to make you feel a little better, you are SUPER STRONG Nina, you got this.... THINGS WILL GET BETTER I promise you love ❤️ i pray for you, keep going xx

[@LotusBom]

It’s a sobering fact to know I’m not the only pretty girl with these kinda issues. Hang in there girl we all gotta work through our issues and your strong for making this video and being honest. 💕 ✨

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey Andrea! Thankyou so much lovely ❤️ Yes, we all got to get through our hard times, and I pray that you will be able to get through your struggles girl! Keep staying the strong & beautiful woman that you are 🤗

[@mastaplan3645]

You are so strong just for sharing this. You're not alone by any measure. So many people go thru this myself included. This is probably the most painful thing mentally to go thru, wanting so badly to connect with people but feeling like you have nothing of value to offer, and dwelling and being overly self critical of interactions. But one of the greatest things about people like us is that we're amazing listeners, we have such a compassionate, empathetic hearts and others really value just having our presence around. Sometimes our attentive nature is what gets other people through their tough situations. You are uniquely made and so very special. Beautiful inside and out. Just because you're not an extroverted life of the party type does not diminish your worth in any way! We are who we are as individuals and that is what makes us special.

[@purplestuffs5237]

My girlfriend is Indian, she has social anxiety also. Its crazy that so many attractive girls have social anxiety (including you). Hopefully you get through it!

[@marina-yq4sq]

I think you’re absolutely gorgeous

[@anitha_kannan]

WOW thankyou soooo much! 💛 You are so kind, I hope you are doing well sweetheart, sending you a big hug 🤗

[@Healody]

@livey oone bruh

[@danr2652]

I think I see that same comment on every single youtube video out there with a female in it.

[@danr2652]

@Alan If she was ugly there would still be some lonely KZbinr talking about how pretty she is and using words like "Stunning", "Marry Me" and "You're so beautiful and talented"

[@Markwinsige]

all this time Ive thought that I'm the only one who goes through all these feelings or emotions but after watching this video ive realized that this is normal and people actually go trough all this

[@jesusisking3814]

For anyone scrolling through the comments going through a really hard time I truly hope things get better for you no matter who you are. Please don't give up trying. There is a reason you are here reading this message, to remind you that YOU are so important to God and His Son Jesus Christ. I can only imagine what you are going through but God knows. I also know how difficult life can be and I may not understand your exact experience but I am truly sorry that things have been so tough for you. I care and want you to know that you are not alone, you have a purpose, you are worthy of so much. Please take it one day at a time, one step at a time. I am praying that God will send His angels to each and everyone of you to comfort you, surround you with His love, give you peace beyond measure, and to change things for the better. Please know that you are here for a reason and that sometimes we don't always know why we go through things, maybe to help someone else going through the same thing because you understand such pain that someone else may not. All the pain and suffering is caused by sin which we are given death as a wage for but we have a Savior Jesus Christ who loved us first and He died for you, He loves you more than you could ever know. Please repent by asking Him for forgiveness of wrongs and ask Him into your heart believing with sincerity. (Please see the book the Holy Bible for more information) He can guide you in all things. I speak from experience it doesn't matter what we have done or that we think we don't measure up He will meet us where we are, even in our lowest low. He can give you peace beyond measure, I speak from experience. I can only imagine how hard it has been for you but I truly hope the best is yet to come for all of you. Please never give up, because He won't give up on us. Please remember this when things are hard and you feel at the end of your rope. Jesus Christ has done everything for us and He wants us to be healed. Put your faith in Christ today! To give your life to Jesus Christ here is a sample prayer: Dear Lord Father in Heaven I admit I am a sinner. I have done many things that don't please you. I have lived my life for myself only. I am sorry and I repent. I ask you to forgive me. I believe that you died for me to save me. You did what I could not do for myself. I come to you now and ask you to take control of my life; I give it to you. From this day forward, help me to live every day for you in a way that pleases you. I love you Lord, and I thank you that I will spend eternity with you, In Jesus name I pray, amen...........

[@dashyzznat89]

thanks for putting this out there.... social anxiety is rough, even writing this i cant help but erase and start the text all over.... anyways i appreciate your video and it helps to know that im not the only dealing with this.... god bless you fam

[@anitha_kannan]

Im so so happy to hear this helped you ☺️ made my day! Im sorry to hear you have SA as well, just remember you are a warrior 👊🏽 god bless u too 🧡

[@MissCherielicious]

The whole thing about feeling ugly/pretty depending on the eye contact and stuff - girl, I relate to every single word you've said. I've never come across a video where someone would talk about it, I'd love to chat with you cause it seems like we have exactly the same issues..

[@stickpop1586]

I am so grateful that this video exist. I’ve had social anxiety to some extend my entire life and during the last 2 years it has gotten worse. However, I’ve been learning to love myself more in the past year and I’ve came such a long way. This video has given me the reminder that I am NOT alone in this journey and it honestly means so much to me because of how the new school year is starting and i need to embark on a uncertain path again. Knowing that in this world, people that is like me are also fighting, losing, winning, and repeating all over again... it makes me feel less alone and kind of warm inside. So thank you, for making this video. I used to have this unconscious belief that people that don’t look like me won’t have the same issue as me, but I relate to you SO MUCH and it has really opened my eyes and made me much more compassionate and less self-centered. Sending the best for you in your journey ❤️

[@mommolmishra9321]

I also feel very alone, i'm 14 and i don't have any friend at school besause i'm very introvert, and weird, i don't know how to talk with peoples i have lost my self confidence and no one likes me, i don't know what to do😩

[@anitha_kannan]

Oh my goodness hun, reading this broke my heart 😞 i cant believe you are suffering at this age, thats when i started going through loneliness and everything (9 years ago)... you are not weird, never think that, you are so beautiful and unique okay? And please dont think no one likes you, i remember thinking the same thing when i was younger... i know you are feeling so down, are you close with your family? Any siblings?

[@James-zp4ce]

kongvinter33 everything is temporary

[@iliveinsideyourhouse3943]

@@kongvinter33 I'm still waiting for it to gets better...

[@heinzketchup264]

It just hit me recently and the daily tears dont stop. I turned 25 in september and cant get over thinking about how I missed out on my early 20s and feeling like its too late now

[@anitha_kannan]

hey love!, when you said daily tears and missing out on early adulthood, i get you so much! i just always tell myself maybe we are the people who are gonna have the best time being in our 30s... the opposite to the "norm"

[@heinzketchup264]

@@anitha_kannan I appreciate the kind words. You could be right about that. But Im also hoping to do at least just a few of the things I missed out on before my 20s are up. I just dont know where to start.

[@devdollazz]

@@heinzketchup264 maybe take a dance class? Or start a yt channel

[@maggiewhite971]

Hi Anitha, I really hope you see this first of all. I purposely searched in the youtube search bar " No friends and social Anxiety", and your video was the first one I saw and the first I wanted to click on. I am 20 years old and I'm in college. I am going through this exact same thing. I have always been introverted. I am naturally a very shy and reserved person and have slowly become the loneliest person on the planet it feels like. I spend my days alone, eat alone, spend my weekends alone, have nothing to do, no social interaction what so ever. This is pretty tough for someone who is in a social environment all the time and don't get me started with checking social media its the worst! But I relate to your video so much! its like someone out there really understands me and what I'm going through. Everything you said I have done or experienced. Especially being suicidal and playing little conversations in your head at night. Or having the lowest self esteem. I always feel like someone is secretly thinking something negative about me. I also feel like such a hopeless loser sometimes since I have no one to be around or do things with. And its not like I choose to be like this, Ive had so many friends in middle school and my early years of high school as well. But over the years I've slowly lost connection and lost friends.Now I'm lost and alone completely just because I'm too afraid to put myself out there and meet people since I think I'm such a loner and awkward and boring. This video really helps me immensely. Currently I'm in my room doing laundry and finding this video weirdly enough made my night. I feel not so alone right now. Thank you for that xo

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey hun! Wow, if i was to put my video into a paragraph of some sort, everything you wrote is exactly what i would have written!! Im so so so sorry that youre feeling this alone, and when u said you spend pretty much doing everything alone really gave me a tear... its not an easy situation to fix ey... ive tried a bunch of things but havent changed my situation but i guess ive accepted it for now and tried to make it a positive thing( which i can do for a certain amount of days and then i sort of think WHAT THE HELL am i doing) so even trying to fix it is not easy... i really pray things get better for you or even gradually!! When you said this video helped you (even if it was in a small way) it made me feel so happy knowing i made u feel a little less alone 🧡 thats exactly why i made this- to find people like you. God bless you hun and i HOPE things will get better- you deserve only happiness for what you are going through xx

[@MsGIGGLEsM]

I'm a 27yo woman and My goodness. The fantasizing. Years of fantasizing and replaying things in my head. The all consuming hopeless loneliness. The hiding inside from everyone to avoid being perceived because my self esteem is cripplingly low. I decline opportunities because I don't want people to see me. The powerfully overwhelming desire for suicide and self harm. This video was like watching myself on the other side of the screen. This is mind boggling. It's shockingly relatable. Scary even. I wasn't looking for this video. it just showed up in my suggestions.

[@mountainman6172]

Please DO NOT merely give up and succumb to despair and ennui. You WILL MAKE IT THROUGH THIS SHORT AND UNPLEASANT PACE. :)

[@marcoslightspeed5517]

I'm 18 and I Fantasise so much 😩😩

[@bickyyboo]

it upsets me that there are SO MANY people feeling this way and dealing with social anxiety (myself included, also a loner w/ no friends for 3+ years) if only we could get everyone in the comments together to mingle. because we can all relate to eachother in SOME way, that would help a lot of us find a friend, who also needed a friend.

[@anushka3528]

Omg i was thinking the same thing. Are u on twitter?

[@hluna9938]

I over analyze everyone’s Eye contact too it’s so annoying and difficult to deal with I fight so hard with myself to change that but I can’t. It has mad me have a drinking problem that started when I was 16ish bc I couldn’t be around a lot of people at once bc I would just get so in my head and over think everything that I would just be standing there in the corner trying to get as drunk as possible so I didn’t feel my social anxiety . I also struggle with very low self esteem that started when I was around 12 and I’m now 21 and it has gotten so much worse I still am in touch with my high school friends but they all have made new friend groups sometimes one of them will reach out I’m so bad at keeping relationships. In January I was assaulted and felt like I had no one to go to and it was the scariest darkest time in my life so far. It’s so hard being lonely. To anyone out there going through anything like this you are not alone. Never give up on yourself you are special and loved.

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey Sarah 🤗❤️️ Firstly I just want to say I really appreciate that you shared a bit of your story with us all! You have such a beautiful heart! You have gone through so much pain, I can understand everything you have wrote to me. When you told me you got assaulted and you had no one to talk to, I cant imagine how painful that wouldve been! OMG you are a strong woman, please never forget the warrior that you are SARAH! Wow, you are an inspiration for not giving up girl, KEEP GOING LOVE! Sending you so much love and a massive hug precious girl! 💜💜

[@hokulaninalani6975]

It’s crazy how we always say the words to others that we need to hear. I hope you’re in a better place .

[@juststatinfactssv4989]

My son is 16 and he’s been having these issues for years, it breaks my heart. My wife and I are very supportive but it’s really hard to help him in the way he needs help. He’s a great kid very smart but we can tell he’s not happy with himself. Any help or tips would be greatly appreciated. Thank you

[@Eksxx]

Juststatinfacts SV the fact that u have ventured out to do research and watch videos about his similar experiences speaks volumes to me....I wish my parents had done the same for me.

[@Lamby495]

All you can do is be there for him and let him know you love to be around him. Don’t tell him that though because he will think you don’t mean it, show it with actions. Like genuinely enjoying your time

[@leannesmith5818]

Show him this video

[@simonbauer2438]

You're a great parent! I struggle with anxiety for years and practicing meditation is extremely helpful, especially in the long term. Even 5-10 minutes daily are great. beginning

[@Oleanderpearl]

You can start small, maybe encourage him to talk to someone for 5 minutes each week. The goal would need to be slightly difficult, but not so much that he couldn't attain it. It also has to be consistent. If he can't do 5 minutes, maybe he can try 3 minutes. Something like that, just at least a little tiny step forward in the right direction is better than no step at all.

[@Markwinsige]

I find this video to be so relatable, I suffer from social anxiety too. I have a hard time getting along with people, making friends, making conversation face to face and speaking in front of an audience of people. Some people think I'm anti social or just being rude because I talk less and don't interact much and some people think I'm messed up in my head because of my awkward behavior and some people at college give me wired looks and sometimes talk about me behind my back. I feel more anxious at college because that's where I spend most of my time and that's where things happen, at other places I only get anxious while interacting with people who I don't know. A few times I had girls at college hitting on me and people trying to be friends with me and I tend to mess things up with my wired body language and extremely nervous tone of voice and I regret it and keep thinking about it a lot of times. I spend most of my time at college trying to stay calm and sometimes I cry. I keep worrying about getting teased at, getting into a conversation and making it awkward and failing college because most of the work involved doing presentations. I had only one close friend that understands me and tries to support me, he gave me a few tips to help me improve my condition which is: not having any social expectations. keeping in mind that its not necessary to get along with everyone I meet and make an impression wherever I go. Stop thinking about college or certain memories when I'm at home and enjoy the comfort of my home. think that I'm better than everyone and nobody means anything to me. After listening to his advice I do feel less anxious at college but I still feel anxious talking to people and being in certain social situations.

[@rajakhan-yi4ei]

Your a man why are you crying for man up.

[@Markwinsige]

@@rajakhan-yi4ei man up?😂😂 this is 2020 there's no room for toxic masculinity. Men have feeling and emotions too you know.

[@Markwinsige]

@@videoscool21 thanks 😁

[@Yezboi]

You’re soo pretty!! I hope your anxiety has improved... I feel your pain

[@Yezboi]

P.S this was incredibly brave of you, well done!

[@zg3671]

I prefer the dream world over my waking life. The real world is tough. 😢😢😢

[@dannyr2976]

I can relate to that!

[@razvanchisiu]

i understand the scenario creating part, sometimes its all im thinking about. however, i really like listening to music, and it helps quiet out those thoughts. maybe it will help you too! have a great day!

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey Razvan 🤗 thankyou so much for sharing this with me, when I posted this I seriously thought I was crazy for creating scenarios in my head about having a group of friends/ having fun! But im so glad im not the only one! Thankyou for sharing, makes me feel understood! Yess I agree music does help (but funny back then even with music I would create scenarios hahaha) but i get you! Hope youre doing okay love, god bless you and hope youre having a great day too 💜

[@razvanchisiu]

also, stop thinking that youre not pretty enough, for me and for many others too im sure you are beautiful! and the australian accent is to die for, its so cute 😂

[@cr8tive401]

I have severe social anxiety as well and everything you said is what I struggle with I can barely leave my house because of it I can barely go to family events meet up with friends or even immediate family it’s gotten that bad I’ve also isolated especially in school from my peers by waiting in the bathroom stalls until he next class or ditching. So I missed out on most of my school experiences. Even at work I can barely function and take many bathroom breaks to get away from it I’m very socially awkward anxious and I feel like a bird in a cage, even with the cage door open I am too afraid to fly. Please take a look video about the experience of it You are beautiful by the way! I’m sure people say you are so beautiful you shouldn’t have social anxiety but let us remind them social anxiety doesn’t discriminate, doesn’t car how pretty you are or how wealthy.

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey georgous girl! ☺️🧡 Thankyou so much for taking the time to tell me a bit of your story! It honestly hurts me to know that you’re going through exactly what I’m going through... I can tell yours is severe, because I can’t go to family events as well, and that kinda means that the social anxiety is so bad that we can’t even face our family, it sucks! I hope you’re okay, like seriously, be proud of yourself every MINUTE! and omg with school I always ditched al my classes and I had to drop out in the last year cause it got so bad. I hope you’re coping okay... You’re a strong woman 🦋 I had a look at your video, absolutely 100% accurate. Each word you said, I agreed with! Also, you are absolutely georgous (just saying) !!! I’ve subscribed to you, I can’t wait to see more of your videos... it makes me feel less lonely when I see that there are people out there going through the same thing... if you ever need to talk, please just message me!! 🧡 you’re amazing babe! Xx

[@cr8tive401]

Anitha Kannan thanks so much ! And I hope you upload more videos as well ! I’ll subscribe to you too ! Are you part of any support groups on Facebook there are a bunch of them ?

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey hun! Sorry if this is weird, but i tried to go back to your channel to check out your videos but i noticed they were all again and made me worried... are you okay? Is everything alright? You were one of the few people whose videos i could really relate to, i just hopr youre okay!! Hope to hear from you soon xx❤️

[@etphonehome4511]

@@anitha_kannan I enjoyed her videos too! I don't know what happened to them, I hope she is alright as well.

[@cjaquilino]

Cr8tive I hope Cr8tive is doing well too. Her videos played a big part of my life.

[@charleenhudson4746]

The thing with the eye- contact: I always thought I was the only person tracking and analyzing eye contact!! Thanks for sharing. And don't give up! You're amazing

[@gametime7842]

This video has a special place in my heart. I've been dealing with social anxiety since I was 14 ( Now being 19). When I started getting bullied and teased a lot for being so quiet and awkward in conversations, it really amped up the anxiety levels to another level. It's hard for me to put this into words cause honestly anxiety is such a difficult subject to talk about for me. Thank you for making this video, you pretty much explained the social anxiety I currently have. PS I was surprised someone with your looks had social anxiety. Not to be creepy or anything.

[@sachinjadhav7098]

I CAN UNDERSTAND YOU BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN GOVING THROUGH THIS CONDITION YOU ARE TOO BRAVE BECAUSE YOU SHOWS COURAGE TO MAKE THIS VIDEO

[@sophiesmith2660]

Hey! I created a throwaway account just to make this comment (I didn't want to use the one with my real name). I actually started crying watching this video. I feel exactly the same way you do in so many ways. Firstly, in the conversations - one on one, I'm sort of ok (still anxious though), and it's just me asking questions the whole time as well - I can usually keep the conversation going on for long enough doing this. I don't know how to share things about myself. But in groups, I go completely mute. I too, have spent many lunchtimes in the bathroom, trying to distract myself with my phone etc. And also, what you said about needing to be looked at - I feel this all the time! I have literally never heard anyone else speak about something like it, I thought it was only me. If a guy is staring at another girl, I will go into this spiral of self-hatred and think myself to be the ugliest person alive. I need to be the focus of a guy's attention to feel any worth about my looks, which is really sad. At least we're self-aware I guess. I've never commented on a youtube video before, but EVERY single thing you said resonated with me so much, I felt I needed to. I hope things get better for us.

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey beautiful! 💎 First of alll Thankyou so much for sharing your side of things with me, it’s so personal and for u to be so open is freaking amazing! And holy wow I can’t believe you are legit going through most of what I said, I’m so sorry you’re going through this !! And the whole self esteem thing, ITS SO ANNOYING RIGHT? like I seriously wonder how we got into this crazy thing... I hope you’re coping with it all alright, even though it’s mentally really hard. are u currently working or studying?? And do u have support from family and friends? Cuz it’s so important, like I tried to deal with it on my own and then literally my body couldn’t take it anymore, I had to ask for help and also make this video

[@vinuzo9548]

I can't say I've ever suffered from this, but I think extroverts are failing on this planet if we're not able to reach out to shy people. That sounds really tough, as an Irish person, most people here are chatty and most shy people can feel at home in work, school, ect.

[@anitha_kannan]

I actually admire what you just wrote about extroverts failing by not reaching out to shy people, i think that was beautifully said! 🤗 I think extroverts should definitely be more aware of the signs of people with SA and definitely help them out! I hope you are doing okay love, thankyou for sharing this with me❤️

[@vinuzo9548]

@@anitha_kannan You're videos have really helped me to be aware of the more quiet people around me. I'll be sure to do whatever I can to help people who might have SA from now on

[@Eksxx]

Yes it would help us so much honestly....I appreciate this comment.

[@samuelappiah8395]

I’m not an extrovert by any means but I’m comfortable with people and when I used to talk with people who weren’t really socially active I thought they found me annoying or just didn’t like people. But I looked at how I was years ago and realized I was like that because I didn’t have the skills. Maybe I never got to your situation but please just start by saying hi hello how are you doing to random people and strangers in stores it helps a lot and you re really pretty btw.

[@blackexcellence8761]

I’m 15 years old and I believe I have social anxiety also. School is the worst. I was ok like in middle school but when I switched to high school I was a loner . I used to walk in the hallways and my whole body would heat up cuz I would be nervous . When people talk to me I don’t feel like it’s a genuine conversation I feel like they are just talking to me out of pity . I used to hide in the bathroom until 1st period started because I was SOOO scared of people . I hope it will get better eventually though 🥺

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey love! ❤️ High school and having social anxiety is a NIGHTMARE! I know its so rough so painful, you sound exactly like me, hiding in the bathroom during classes and feeling heated walking past people etc... i had to drop out in my last year! BUT I really recommend you speak to someone you trust (counsellor, family member) and seek help! Just know it does get better but it takes alot of effort and hard work! Do you have an friends outside of school or siblings? Im so sorry you are experiencing this, this whole social anxiety journey and being a loner does make you a million times stronger and teaches you so much about life (there are a few positives that I would have never learnt if i didnt have it)! But right now, i know its HARD but KEEP GOING, HAVE FAITH! Im grateful you shared your story with us all, just know you arent alone hun! Thinking of you lovely ❤️❤️

[@blackexcellence8761]

Anitha Kannan Yes I have a lot of family that are around my age but as far as friends I just have associates mainly because i look really mean but I’m actually nice. But Thankyou I really hope your situation gets better also .

[@Beth676]

I can’t believe it took me two years to find this video. You described social anxiety really well imo. Things I relate to are: Expressing myself- I judge how I speak and the way I say things to the point I don’t want to talk to avoid embarrassing myself. Telling stories is one of them. Fantansizing- I fantasize a lot of the ideal person I wish I could be and look like. The person looks nothing like me and I find comfort in the fantasy. Replay past: I’ve been doing this for a long time. I fixate on how awkward I was after social exchanges. Low self esteem: I, also, depend on ppl esp men to validate me. I’m not confident at all. I talk down to myself a lot. Projection: I try to mind read what people are thinking of me. A lot of “I probably made her think that I think” Little to no friends: From middle school to High School I was unable to find who I was as a person. I still don’t know how to be myself. Because of that it’s hard to connect to ppl and make friends. Now that I’m an adult, its even harder to find friends. Self harm thoughts: I do have thoughts of self harm but I would never do it. Largely cause I hate pain lol. I hope I helped someone also by being a bit open about the struggle. I left somethings out because ppl are brutal after u show vulnerability. Anitha, It seems like you have gotten better from the look of your other videos. At least your a walking testimony of how you can get better.

[@hafsasalman2489]

I relate with all of these, for two years, I've always been searching for a video that relates to me and this video described me in every detail.

[@peicesofthepuzzle]

I am watching this for the first time. I go through the same thing. The things you think I think too. You aren’t alone for sure. I just got out of an abusive relationship on top of my social anxiety. I am taking the steps to remember what my personality is even like, and be ok with my own company. Thank you for sharing. You are welcome to talk to me as well.

[@bellefairydust]

This was me I have come through this, self love, self care don’t worry what anyone will think. People are mostly thinking about themselves than if someone did something silly they probably didn’t notice. You got this!! It can feel scary it takes time but you got this! Do volunteering abroad, travel or join groups for ppl you like the same things as you! Live the life you want you are worthy believe it!! ❤️

[@povijestpovijest9569]

I'm probably a bad person for feeling this, but it feels nice to know that even someone as seemingly perfect as she is can have social anxiety.

[@Luthoran]

Just remember everyone has things they are dealing with. Not everybody is perfect no matter how perfect they may seem.

[@liamhowgate4022]

That is a shitty comment to make. Why would her outward appearance mean that she thinks/behaves in a certain way?

[@lillysyoga]

yoga and meditation really helped me heal and find peace within solitude, as well as finding community! you are beautiful and worthy of everything you desire.

[@valentineoreilly975]

Wow, What a very powerful and sad video, you sound like you have so much friendship to offer and your social anxiety is crippling you, I would be so glad to call you a friend, it must be amazingly hard to get through this, you are also very pretty, very beautiful and don't need to fantasize about others like that, you seem so full of friendship and good, even work is effected, you don't need to hide away, you'll build up confidence in time being face to face with others and they'll like you for who you are, believe in yourself, be kind as well.

[@Haileyrodriguez288]

Your one of the beautiful girls

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey Hailey! 🌷 Awww girl, thankyou so much, youre way too kind! Means alot to me sweetheart! Hope youre doing well xx 💕

[@georgedenisiurici6697]

Sometimes, when by mistake I make eye contact with someone when talking, I just lose it. I can't focus anymore on the conversation and I start feeling awkward and overthinking about the other person seeing me being awkward which makes it even more awkward and I end up having a panic attack... I also can't make small conversation in a grocery store. I sometimes feel ashamed and awkward when somebody I'm with speaks too loud. I get anxious when I have to meet with relatives I haven't seen in a long time, like cousins or aunts and uncles. I also find it hard speaking with officials like police officers or people having a higher "social rank". I can't seem to date girls because of my low self-esteem. I often wonder why would any girl go out with someone like me? I don't own a car, my job is average, I'm not wild nor spontaneous , I even feel intimidated if there are other males around. So, in the end I just want you to know that you're not alone, but I guess you knew it... You should always feel pretty beucase as someone below my comment said "You're extremely gorgeous"! Big hug brothers and sisters! xD

[@laurenkate6844]

Girl, I'm in exactly the same position as you. You're beautiful and seem like a lovely girl ♥️

[@anitha_kannan]

Hey hun!🥰 Thankyou so much for saying that, really means alot! I really hope youre okay, and i pray everything gets better for you ❤️

[@saidonepudi4150]

Okay when you said towards the end of the video "when I have a 30 sec to 1 minute convo with somebody, it means the world to me," I can relate so hard to that. I've tried so hard since elementary school to talk to people, but would always hesitate to reach out to him/her. When I did run across with them at school, and they would just say "hi" to me, I literally felt on top of the world, not anything more. Much love ❤

[@sugabud]

I’m 21 and I really relate to this so much. Being south asian as well, I see myself in you. Trying so hard and yet not being able to just talk to people is so difficult for me too. And being nervous and self conscious just makes it worse. I’m scared of looking for a job and normal things like going to the store etc because I just hate social situations and don’t feel confident just being out there. I have friends in my head as well, memories and conversations that have never happened. It sucks. My life feels bleak. I hate socialising and yet all I crave is a connection.

[@travelerdude]

1 min of truth and compassion... better than a life of lies .... I'm 55 and only woke @50... There is alot of us out here and the only good thing is people being genuine and making a change so we can follow...ur generation is the change young lady...believe .. and Anitha ....my friend You are so beautiful it hurts to know that women such as U should have to wonder this.... but true beauty is not of the outside and U know this I'm sure.. but know this ....You as beautiful as any on this earth ... You are not alone I've only one eye and struggle with peoples stares... Why I started judo and exercise...too be excepted....and if I only looked a certain way then they would like me....did not work... As U are doing,,, the more I excepted Jim and work with my attributes so to speak... I feel more whole ...still no close friends but I'm thinking as U said there is strength in being able too be alone... If I believe then the group I belong too will show up... I often wish I lived as in a monetary in Tibet...not sure why I told U that but this is how seperate I'm from most of society..not sure I want too fit in...?? I seek now answers that society can not give.... Bless... J