Having no friends and why its okay

[@mikefigure]

Being alone is better than being with people who don’t value you.

[@joesanchez9811]

or value themselves! Great point.

[@LittleLulubee]

True 👍

[@williamkeitel3994]

I agree with you

[@m.b.4164]

Very true.

[@jamesevans2507]

Ok but being alone is still pretty damn bad. "Having no arms is better than having no arms and no legs."

[@marinaabbasi1171]

I think that authentic people who are kind hearted often find it much harder to make genuine friends in life...

Yeah i agree

[@marinaabbasi1171]

@@Free411 I never suffered from social anxiety and I also know many others who did NOT but we still found it difficult to make genuine friends as we were immensely honest and transparent... A lot of superficial people cannot handle the truth!! 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@isabellaw3151]

@@marinaabbasi1171 yes I’m very sensitive and they dont really like the lgbtq community 😔

[@isabellaw3151]

@@marinaabbasi1171 my classmates...

[@KannaJay]

That’s a cop out. Truth is somewhat similar to that. The most sympathetic people are people who struggle the most.

[@nocturnal7345]

If there is one thing I’ve learned from Naruto, is that “The worst thing in the world isn’t being alone, it is being surrounded by people that makes you feel like you are alone”.

[@wlskk_22]

oh wow, i think i needed to hear that, thank u :)

[@TheErik1119]

Damn i felt this

[@phoenixreviews2836]

damn that’s deep

[@robtheservantof6257]

Bro ive been rewacthing naruto and ive been so empathic sith thd characters. Its got a log of good messages

[@Theemightguy]

I like the quote but how did you get that from Naruto?(not trying to be rude just genuinely very curious)

[@bramd5935]

This video makes me feel much more normal having no friends, i often feel like it’s my fault because I don’t reach out to people enough, but when i’m with a group off people i just feel lost and i get super quiet

[@denisesuarez9635]

we can be friends^_^

[@RedWay7]

me all day all night ;)

[@lakenwaters8704]

Bram we are kindred souls....let's hang out ⚘

[@kayla-qt9nb]

THISSS. i feel like it’s my fault for isolating. i’m glad i’m not alone

[@lakenwaters8704]

@@kayla-qt9nb I feel like it's my fault because I speak. Everyone wants you to listen but if you try to talk about your life you get shut down!

[@nuage6500]

Honestly, the pandemic has made me realize a lot

What did it make you realize? For me I could see the people that really cared about me vs the people that didn’t.

[@nuage6500]

@ to put it simply there is one quote that changed the game for me: stop texting first and see how many dead plants you've been watering. Done deal

@@nuage6500 Wow yes, that’s quote perfectly sums it up. Thank you for that I’m going to remember that quote

[@peroquetoiseau933]

Yes

[@ItsNicola]

Me too

[@paulcooper5748]

I can feel more alone around people.

Yeah I’ve felt that before

[@lovearttherapyalways]

same

[@beanhead7632]

Yeah, you see all these other people with their friends and chattering their heads off, and you’re here alone talking to no one...

@@beanhead7632 or talking to yourself 😅 that’s me

[@VrickzGamer]

exactly

[@valerialattanzio5956]

"You feel really lonely when you're in a group of people and no one really knows you." I can sooo much relate to this

[@taketheblackpillneo3940]

cry me a river. thats what happens when you females only go for chads who gonna pump and dump you lmao.

[@blahblah1438]

I agree. I love being alone. No one to judge me

[@rxvenxx]

@@taketheblackpillneo3940 bruh what

[@mnmaltayar]

Yeah me too i feel lonely when I’m in a group chat and no one know me like they laugh with each and they don’t reply on me.

[@emiliagiacco1887]

@@taketheblackpillneo3940 let's not forget you're watching this video too

[@The-Mad-Face]

"I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone” Robin Williams

[@danw6014]

The reason he felt that was because everyone around him sucked the life out of him. I was at a horsemanship clinic that was instructed by a man who became a close friend. He rode over to me during a break and said he knew 1000s of people but he only knew few he could trust and he was glad to have me as a friend. People sucked the life out of him too and he shot himself 5 years ago.

[@The-Mad-Face]

@@danw6014 People who you can trust are far few indeed. If I didn't go my own way 10 years go I probably would've harmed my self maybe dying in process.

[@gettingcalledoutontwitteri1882]

@@danw6014 Yup. He also started losing his memory, so he started feeling worse... i just feel bad, my depression,insomnia and overthinking cause me to lose some of my thoughts

[@gettingcalledoutontwitteri1882]

@@The-Mad-Face When i was younger,i chased people and felt very alone and socially anxious. But now people want to use me because i have no other choice. Everytime i talk to people,i start feeling so alone. If i was multi rich, i would care less for those people. I would have been able to do whatever i want on my own

[@The-Mad-Face]

@@gettingcalledoutontwitteri1882 I feel the same way. I'm just working my job and enjoy the peace that comes from solitude. I just live one day at a time. People are becoming pointless in my life.

[@bitcoinski]

All I have are fake friends...the ones who call me whenever they need a favor but not to hang out...

dang, its time to meet new people, good people

[@Lukasz.Kaa09]

Same bro...They are all good friends but when weekends come I got literally noone to hang out :/

[@Snovit00]

soooo true

[@bryantcoleman3586]

Or invite you to hang out to spend money on them at their events

[@truthseeker1234]

Mark Magill.....basically users. And if you stop giving as much then the reach ot less. If you completely stop giving then they are gone.

[@iamdyonte]

I feel like when you’re genuine, kind, and attentive it’s harder for you to find real friends because you might expect the same in return but not a lot of people are ready to give you back everything you give them

[@uf1978]

DITTO

[@MTRIDER69OFF]

100%

[@thelighthousez3718]

@Darrion Jefferson I get your point but when you first meet someone you cant see a teaser of who they will become maybe years later

[@thelighthousez3718]

I am great at reassurance. I am emphatic as well. It feels bad when I see people coming to me and being friends only when they need support and they feel bad.

[@iamdyonte]

@@thelighthousez3718 thank you for comprehending 🙂🙃

[@furnitureassemblyservices8239]

If you make friends with yourself you will never be alone.

[@duncan3998]

Yup, Just me,myself and i

[@blackflag5148]

100% true

[@kc4276]

Thank you, wise cabinet.

[@cz5487]

Exactly, ourselves should be our main happiness

[@everettweddle5106]

@@duncan3998Solo ride until I die 'Cause I got me for life (got me for life, yeah) Woooh, I don't need a hand to hold Even when the night is cold I got that fire in my soul.

[@honnylore181]

I honestly feel some people are too empathetic and compassionate to have many friends for the simple fact that most friendships nowadays are extremely shallow. Very introverted or deep and empathetic people NEED deep and meaningful relationships.

[@maryssa8593]

That’s so true. I’ve always craved very deep and understanding friendships and romantic relationships. Learned that’s really hard nowadays because people just want to go out and drink and party. And when you have kids that’s the only kind of friendship you can have so it’s very limited when they even think to invite you around. I’m just an awkward and shy person so I have a hard time finding people who are willing to go through that phase of a friendship with me.

[@grrrohmy665]

that’s me

[@SeIfishmachines]

I’m very nice to people and barley have friends only one.. I tried get friends but each time they just ghost me even tho I give them my heart.

[@GeniusJewels]

It's actually a spiritual problem. kzbin.info/aero/PLCmm0rfhsouxX59lbD43VMHhNwyTcbBsW

[@grrrohmy665]

@@SeIfishmachines i am so sorry m’y love :(( i relate to this so so much. I give people my heart and true love, it’s so hard not getting it back.

[@444truthteller]

I’m just an introvert. And thats okay. Most ppl aren’t life long friends anyways. Ppl come and go.

[@johnames6430]

yes but it doesn't mean you should be friendless all the time! You need friends, saying "I'm an introvert" is a pathetic excuse people use for why they suck so much that no one will be their friend.

[@ShyMplsMale]

She didn't say she's friendless all the time. From my experience, a lot of introverts who are sensitive and old souls get taken advantage of by those who are vibrating lower than them. Its hard to find people who look at the world differently than most since those people tend to just keep to themselves and walk their own path.

[@444truthteller]

@@ShyMplsMale theres introverts and extroverts in our society. Nobody is the same. Such a dumbass comment above ☝️

[@ShyMplsMale]

@Savannah Will I agree 😉

[@nickpropst4938]

Some people like myself just really suck at talking and they are open about that. Talking less or when called upon to do so is better than opening my mouth and letting toilet sounds exit.

[@e.a.herman2104]

Being alone, especially in nature, helps with anxiety. The alone time recharges us

[@clint1285]

Right. I do a lot of walking and riding my bike outside alone. Feels great

[@duncan3998]

Distract myself with laughter and joy is a great medicine.

[@lindseyshupee]

I think you're right. Sometimes people talk to me or my friend suggested I get medical help. The medical people kind of helped but now I am thinking that I don't really need to see a counselor if I can listen to music or walk in nature. Walking in nature doesn't cost me money money, lol. Sometimes I really do need an actual person to talk to.

[@remist]

Not for me when im alone just with my thoughts i came home with extreme anxiety and had to turn my brain off by watching youtube for hours

[@하디-k6r]

End of this year I'm going to go Te araroa which talking 4months long distance-thru Hike cheer me up

[@lilymay7855]

I feel like sometimes I have friends and then sometimes I feel like I have really no one.

[@startrekgirl4245]

I feel the same way

[@atqraxiia8610]

Same

[@atqraxiia8610]

@@suziesmith8288 exactly

[@fraserl843]

@@suziesmith8288 I have a few friends but I just feel alone because I get bullied and stuff but because In the uk it’s the summer holidays now and my mom keeps saying like go out with your friends you will look back on this and I just sit in my room and I’m just alone I don’t know how to tell her I barely have any friends and stuff

[@fraserl843]

@@suziesmith8288 I haven’t even told her i get bullied aswell im just so alone

[@crazybabuskaman3923]

I love how we are all like a big family, and we all relate to each other. Sometimes, people you meet on the Internet, can be more welcome and understanding than people you meet in real life.

[@ellasolqvist1050]

A big virtual hug to you Internet family

[@talaaa2897]

I will remember you bcuz of what u said, Crazito~

[@gregorycyr9272]

What you said is very true,no doubt about it.😀

[@DR-nh6oo]

and it helps....if we don't spend too much time here, lol.

[@97AshleyRose]

Ikr

[@reeleyezmusic222]

“Those times that you feel alone, those are the times when you learn who you really are and who you want to be”

Agree 🙏🏼💙

[@reeleyezmusic222]

@ I got it from you 😉🙏

[@kannonbaldino8056]

Real talk

[@Snovit00]

this is gold words

[@freshliving4199]

It’s in the stillness that you get to know who you truly are. Is your nature of anger?...or is your nature of Love? If you of anger then having friends or no friends will matter. If you of Love then having friends or no friends makes absolutely no difference whatsoever. Use the quite time to know who you are. When you realize who you are you will find life. Life will draw life unto you. Friends then great, no friends then that’s great too. Live YOUR life.

[@unikovida6645]

Sometimes its better being alone,,, Nobody can hurt u that way

Yeah I agree sometimes being alone can be better

[@Probroz.]

I am agree too

[@feferosette]

Yes very true!

[@michaelconsuegra7316]

I agree. I prefere to be alone as well. Face it: People don't want to be bothered.

[@sergei0t]

:(

[@Mkitoo]

Being alone can make you realize a lot

yeah it does

[@rrrwwwooo]

"Betrayal never comes from your enemies." Think about that.

[@MelanatednNature]

Say that again

[@giveandsake7785]

So true.

[@johnnyboi290]

"It comes from your allies"

[@jungshookiekoo954]

a wise women once said *i dont need friends they disappoint me*

[@whatzittooyah]

😂😂😂 I love that clip

[@BrunoR97]

Ah yes, Carla Shaw, our inspiration

[@briton3851]

she got the wrong friends

[@ralph0808z]

Reminds me of what a wise man once said... "Disappointed a few people When friendship reared its ugly head Disappointed a few people Well, isn't that what friends are for?" J.Rotten PIL

[@papillon5998]

DID SHE LIEEE THOOOO

[@rubyyesenia9255]

No lie, I have 0 friends. It wasnt by choice it just happened that way. When I was in a group of friends I was extremely lonely and sad cause apparently being myself was not good enough for anyone, being alone without them gave me power to my true self and I value my self worth way more.

[@AsteroSloth]

Again, just like I told everyone else in this comment section. Try and connect with people and you’ll find them eventually. If you don’t feel appreciated in a group, then don’t stay. But if you do find a place to belong, put in the effort. Send the first text, make plans, give in to requests.

[@rarebreed345]

They were never your friend trust me

[@angelaatwood46]

Ruby Yesenia yeah, I got ignored a lot too. Screw them. You need yourself and your own self love❤️

[@plazmikpond]

@@AsteroSloth appreicite your words

[@arieseni4107]

I think that too. Can we be friends? :)

[@hermesnoelthefourthway]

"everybody likes you when you're fake, Nobody likes you when you're real". Bob Marley. I've just uploaded a film about this quote. Which people seem to be laughing their heads off over 😂😂😂

[@giannis_tar]

the 2nd part is a big fat lie

[@hermesnoelthefourthway]

@@giannis_tar I absolutely totally agree with you. Couldn't agree more. Becoming "Real" and "true" is, so I've discovered, connecting with one's "soul" and "essence". When this is done, then one can meet others who are the same. A kind of sorting the wheat from the chaff takes place (externally and internally) I've worked on the teachings of Gurdjieff and Ouspensky for many years, even made films about it, and would like to think I've made progress of some kind. Thank you for your comment. Noel

[@scsclassics]

I think what Marley is saying here is people don't like the truth . Especially when it's hurtful.

[@hermesnoelthefourthway]

@@scsclassics a painful truth is of far more worth than a consoling lie. On a lighter note... How did Bob Marley like his donuts?..... With jam in

[@lloyd2929]

Why can't I verify this on Google??? I can't find this at all.

[@anthonygiove7127]

This honestly really resonates with me. I have these on and off moments where I want friends, and then I don’t. But then when I’m with a group of people, my social battery just drains and then I wanna go home lmao I personally find more peace and have more fun by myself. I crave depth, and a lot of relationships just seem superficial to me. I don’t like to party or anything like that, which I feel like society pushes people to do in their early 20s.

[@stfu6009]

Same

[@theodosia9983]

Same

[@LaniBeanz]

Lol hey Anthony 😭

[@anthonygiove7127]

@@LaniBeanz oh woww, hey Alahni 😭

[@97AshleyRose]

Same

[@joshuac5074]

I read this quote once "The strongest people are those who don't fear being alone.' and ever since I've been watching cinemas and eating outside alone and it doesn't feel weak like how other people think it is I felt strong and alive

[@TheSnoozeFox]

Went to the cinema by myself awhile ago and it was the best experience I've had at the movies

[@Oscar_239]

More power to ya Joshua! When you say eating outside do you mean outside the school cafeteria?

[@joshuac5074]

@@Oscar_239 no lmao i'm out of high school

[@bxtchesmia_3842]

I really needed this...thankyou. I lost touch with almost all of my friends and the ones I still talk to have changed so much and not the good kind. I sometimes still talk to them but I’m learning to be alone and happy with myself because I randomly get anxiety about it. Seeing all these people have fun with friends in the summer and always hanging out makes me feel like I’m wasting my life.

[@amaterasublackflames8067]

Outside in the dark at night? I would have died of fear

[@nevermore7373]

Solitude is has always been demonized within society and cultures. It often paints a dark picture of insanity and disturbance within people, but when alone, that's when you truly appreciate yourself, your entire being. I prefer my solitude, because people throughout my life have always in one fashion of another, has turned their back on me when I became vulnerable to them, I'd rather not gamble my heart with another person. I love solitude and being by myself.

What you said is very true and it is beautifully written. Being alone is when you learn most about yourself and what you really want. I’m sorry many people have betrayed you and I understand the feeling. I’m glad you are so happy with your solitude and found the good in it as many people are scared to be alone.

[@eucalyptusman8118]

@ @Nevermore Solitude is demonized because it can be dangerous for most peoples psychology, but there is a lot of evidence showing that people who can face those demons in a psychology sense(Friedrich Nietzsche speaks of this) can grow stronger internally and really blossom from it kinda like how a beautiful flower, lotus flower, grows from the mud. It's really a beautiful process.

[@JB.zero.zero.1]

@@eucalyptusman8118 To be fair though Nietzsche ended up broken & alone & clearly wasn't a happy man. Whether we like it or not, we need people around us and we need that connection. I am a hermit by the way - so I know the path of solitude intimately, but I have also suffered hard in isolation at times.

[@faithpacheco9047]

This is why I also prefer to stay single

[@eucalyptusman8118]

@Egawa C yea, in their religious books, but religious people don't even realize what their books say word for word.

[@thefab4859]

you just helped me so much. i’m 15 and have no friends and have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety. you made my day. thank you so much

no thank you I'm glad I could help and I wish you the best on your journey 😊

[@sapphire-rainshimmer6489]

TheFab4, I don’t really have friends either. I’ve been diagnosed with depression too and PTSD. I feel less alone because of this video and because you said what you said so thank you and good luck on your journey.

[@centref0lds1]

i wish you the best in your journey! hope you are doing well

[@evelyn-ig8od]

Don’t take having no friends personally. You have no friends because no one fits in. Your special. When around the right person it comes natural.

[@maitegalba]

hi there, just an exteenager (23 now) who was bullied and an outcast during highschool, only for being true to myself and the things i loved. seven years before that i can assure you that that was the way to live, because now i'm sorrounded by lovely friends, a generous boyfriend and people who love me for who i am because i didn't gave up on being myself despite all the hard times (not going to the playground at lunchtime cause kids shouted and laughed at me, staying at the library reading and crying, begging my mom to stay home cause i didn't want to go to school cause everybody, mainly those who were my friends at school, bullied me so hard in highschool....) so this is a message for u, you gave me so much tenderness and reminded me so much of my younger self that i needed to tell you this to give you hope. if you can find a good therapist who understands you, and gives you space to talk about all the things you need, and doesn't use lots of drugs to "cure" your depression and tries to heal you from the inside and teaches you how to deal with life and become stronger...that be really nice. listen to the music you love, watch movies in other languages so in a few years you can be fluent at other language apart from yours, try to discover new things through the internet and nature, be around animals a lot, focus on yourself, make friends on the internet (be careful with this, please).... those things helped me back then. hope you feel a bit better now (you wrote this 4 months ago). a big hug from madrid, spain

[@user-eu3sg1rg4j]

I always get insecure sometimes about not having friends. I've been trying to realize that you don't have to have so many people in your life to be happy or confident in yourself. Like girl it's alright if you want to go eat out and no-ones with you. Just live your own life and if you're content and happy by yourself that's perfectly normal and okay. Thank you for posting this video.

[@tom4412]

23 likes, and no one commented

[@davidberry8747]

Remember that on many occasions we tend to use the word friend or love kind of lightly. The truth is that a true friend is hard to find, almost like a good healthy relationship with the opposite sex. Why? Because we tend to rush into things or cross boundaries to early in the relationship. My point is that you shouldn't feel insecure about not having friends, and believe me your going to attract whatever you put out. So as long as you're kind, respectful, and loving, the right people will cross your path. I hope and pray 🙏 you're encourage. So many beautiful people in this comment community and it's crazy how loneliness can emotionally cripple so many people including myself. God bless you....

[@dhanishasethupathy2964]

@@davidberry8747 can we be friends lol

[@davidberry8747]

@@dhanishasethupathy2964 absolutely, always looking for cool, productive people who can support and encourage one another.

[@davidberry8747]

@ Dhanisha, we're your from? I'm from NYC, it's kind of crowded over hear, but if you like the vibe, NYC can be a really cool fun place, but every once in a while, I enjoy going to the country side on weekends.🙏...

[@BullyMaguir3]

As a dude who's been through so much bullshit with people, I can definitely tell you not to waste your time on them. They're always the same no matter how different they may seem. You think "Oh, this person is so great and different!" then you're ghosted in a snap. Learn to be content with being alone. I had to. Looking to people for my happiness was literally driving me insane. Knowing the stone cold truth about how people really are, and not the fake personas they hide behind on social media really makes you a lot more happy and confident on your own.

[@planetcaravan4040]

same

[@VivianaSilverback]

100%. Such a wise comment! Couldn't have said this better myself.

[@FireFoxGaming56]

Love your username xDD

[@leavemealone7108]

Period and I agree as a girl

[@Ta3Nu]

i found it the hard way!! my best friend just broke our 14 year old friendship over some some guy she met 14 days ago…. now i dont know what to do!!!! your comment made me realise I need to stop depending on other people for my happiness..

[@irinaivanovic9792]

It's ironic how people will automatically label you a narcissist if you have no friends. This could not be further from the TRUTH! Most narcissists I've known have always had a lot of friends or were very popular and well-liked on the surface.

[@sugar_cube_tootsies1136]

Righttt‼

[@amourtoujours779]

I feel like people overuse the term "narcissist" and have no idea what it truly means.

[@elenabirer6471]

@@amourtoujours779 THISSSSS!!!!

[@00Mali00]

Because they have no trouble being fake 😕

[@cocoluvkoko9743]

Wat Wat Personally I don't think so (some might be), And therefore It's a common thing. For example (half unrelated)-It's okay to have no friends and to be alone, As long it's because you learn how to make yourself happy without the need of somebody else. (That's healthy) You learn how to enjoy things without being forced to please others. When you are alone, you set boundaries of protection. You don't have to think it's wrong for anyone to have no friends, call it selfish but, some people are just...comfortable that way. From what I experience... And if you think it's not possible to have life without friends well...it doesn't at least in my opinion. it's possible to live without friends because we live in an increasingly individualistic society. Yes, it's perfectly possible to live without friends. ... They discovered that, indeed, friendships help us to experience happiness. However, this factor isn't the most important for people as a whole.

[@Alastair_]

There are a lot of fake "I have no friends" people out there as well which is weird. You know, those people that say they have none but are also out every weekend having fun with people. I have no Facebook, no Twitter, my KZbin is mostly used for my gaming channel (Other account) and the only phone numbers I have on my phone are my 2 brothers and my parents. I have 0 friends. No one in the world I can count on and you know what, that's ok. I am a whole person, I do not need a relationship to feel complete, I do not need friends to count on. I have struggled through things that would cripple others and came out the other end stronger than when I went in. Don't get me wrong, I'd love to meet more people like me but I'm 33 now and never in my life met anyone quite like me.

[@OrganizationXIII]

You are stronger than you know.

[@lavie8707]

This is exactly how I feel. I just turned 18 and feel especially alone. I think it's mostly because people my age are expected to be social with many friends and I don't really fit into that standard. Throughout the past two years I have done a lot of introspection, honestly I've spent more time alone and thinking than socializing, and came to your same conclusion. Your comment really resonated with me because it's so hard to find people who think being alone is impressive and strong instead of being sad. I've never met anyone quite like myself either yet I really hope somehow, and someday, I do. Company of those like you surely has to be better than of those who don't appreciate you.

[@michaela7576]

@@lavie8707 you’re so right and I’m a bit younger than you but I understand u so much. I love this quote “the strongest people are those who don’t fear being alone” I think being alone shows how you are mentally strong, resilient, independent and have self respect for yourself. How you’re not fake and are authentic. That you don’t need validation from other people :)

[@maryssa8593]

I’m kind of in that boat. My husband is very social so I am too now that I know his friends but no one really knows the real ME, just the outgoing version of myself which is only a small part of me. They don’t talk to me outside of when we hang out hardly. That’s a lonely existence too. But I commend you for your strength to pull through your tough times. I hope you find your group one day!!

[@Cocochantelle]

Wow, this is the place I’d love to get to and not feel crushed with loneliness and yearning for connection.

[@noodles8951]

I relate so much. This year, i realised most of my so called "friends" are really toxic. They always took advantage of my kindness and insecurities and always knew me when they needed me. I was also always treated like a " leftover" by them. I had this group of 3 bestfriends including me. They always treated each other very nicely, give gifts to each other but never me, always ignored my messages, made plans behind my back etc... Idk how to explain man but they were just really toxic. I just felt so lonely and like a leftout or thirdwheeler or something with them. I just estranged myself from them. I legit don't have anyfriends with whom i am comfortable sharing my problems, talking to etc...now and i feel way bette. I rather be alone that be with people who makes me feel bad and lonely. I no longer plan to make friends again now. I rather be alone. Anyway,i just want to add that you are really pretty.

[@jeremiahscott3128]

Sorry I’m replying late but like I’m in the same boat I have fake friends and sometimes it feels like really lonely so yeah

[@noodles8951]

@@jeremiahscott3128 if someone is hurting, makes you feel insecure and worthless whether knowingly or unknowingly, don't be afraid to estranged yourself from them or leave them. Learn to do things by yourself,learn to be happy by yourself. I'm technically friendless now but i feel way better. Everything in temporary in life. Friends come and go. What matters is you. Learn to find happiness in your solitude and do not be afraid to do things on your own.

[@jeremiahscott3128]

Thanks so much

[@Nora-qb7op]

I'm in the exact situation haha 3 best friends including me. It hurts. I'm glad you've gotten over it!

[@jeremiahscott3128]

@@Nora-qb7op you need someone to talk too?

[@AcidGlow]

I just want to be with 1 right person. But that's not possible. I don't like crowds. But most of the time it's just me cause I have no choice. 😕

[@tewkesburybury8375]

Yess😟

[@GrigorisDeoudis]

You do have a choice mate.

[@startrekgirl4245]

Yeah I don't like crowds either. I would rather just have one or two close friends instead of dozens of casual ones

[@shelleyjack1579]

Same

[@lakenwaters8704]

Ditto

[@janhavikulkarni3440]

I always have fear of missing out because I'm introvert and not as fun loving as other people

Im really introverted too. Don’t fear missing out, you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing to have a good time. When I feel fear of missing out I tell myself it’s my time for self care 😅

[@janhavikulkarni3440]

Yes❤️

[@MR-nl8xr]

FOMO struggle is real.

@Charniii Violins Im really glad you could get something out of this video 😊 I wish you the best 💕💕

[@myabrandi5858]

@ love this

[@angelalomeli8620]

I feel like such an outsider i dont relate to anyone in this generation, it feels like they’re just soulless zombies

[@LittleKittyCat]

Exactly.

[@GeniusJewels]

Actually, they are.... It's actually a spiritual problem. kzbin.info/aero/PLCmm0rfhsouxX59lbD43VMHhNwyTcbBsW

[@111JenA]

Same here. I have no local friends. They’ve moved due to life. At 47 it’s very hard to make friends.

[@Alicia-lp5zf]

SAME

[@Spencerjones_music3]

👋

[@joylindadichamounix]

I have been to so many concerts, operas & trips BY MYSELF because I did not wait around for anybody else. I have known people who turned down trips because their best friend could not come with them. Talk about dependency!

[@theesteward9150]

@P C start now

[@x97s]

I will start doing this !! Many people can't only do things themselves

[@joylindadichamounix]

@P C You don't how much that means!

[@maram3216]

I go to the cinemas by myself and it's such a great feeling. Now that I'm married, i either go places myself or with my husband. No need anyone else.

[@raven-kn6lv]

Im the type who wouldn't mind going on trips alone, but if I made plans with my best friend to go somewhere and they couldn't go I would cancel and then spend the money on something else.😂. I don't want to make memories alone when I plan to make them with someone else. I'd rather go to another place and then when they don't have money and once they do we can go together 😂.

[@collinproductions9617]

I feel happy to know that I'm not the only one feeling this way

Me too 💕

[@tomfoolery342]

When my son turn about 15yrs old he asked me "Hey pops, why is it that I've never ever seen any of your friends, or you go out with anyone, or no one calls you and you don't call anyone?" I told him that once I started losing friends I never replaced them, and I'm much happier.

[@angry-white-men]

Yeah you know you're old as dirt when your lifelong friends are dying off not to be replaced. I've been keeping in touch with my 3 best friends for over 30 years but we still have a while before we start dying off.

[@kingreece903]

Your the dad we all deserve I wish I had a dad that would have a bond with his son more than anything! I know for my future children I’m going to make their life awesome and I would t want them to go through the struggles I have been through

[@aigleroyal3941]

@ Tom Foolery You started losing friends because, I presume, they did not like your avatar image (sickle and hammer) and the fact that you belong in the trotskyist fraction of the fourth international! If I would be your friend I wouldn't leave you but I would try to convince you to stay away of that shit!

[@awesomebearaudiobooks]

@@aigleroyal3941 In Russia, many people would love having him as a friend with a hammer and sickle on his avatar. A lot of people here might hate Trotskyists (because of Stalinist propaganda), but at least a hammer and sickle would mean he is a communist, and for many Russians, a communist means a person who would do anything for his friend, comrades, and family, without asking anything in return. In the Soviet Union, communists were considered the best, most honest people. Unfortunately, a lot of communists turned out to be fakes who joined the party dreaming of bringing capitalism back and using their party connections to become rich... But those communists who stayed communists even after our government turned capitalist, proved to be the most honest human beings there are.

[@blususpect]

Respect

[@tankthepitbull520]

I cut off several friendships that lasted over 10 years because they became toxic, literally no regrets. Be dominant and self dependent that’s true ultimate power 💥

[@elmarealtor]

When my friends starts to distance from me after giving my all for 10 years I was kind of bumped out but I quickly realized I’m glad it happened that way because it’s a win win situation in my part and it’s their loss. Now I’m happier than ever doing my thing without worrying anything about how to make my friends happy etc.

[@owenrockenbach139]

Want to stop feeling lonely, join your local Martial arts gym, jiu jitsu specifically. I don’t have friends but I have a family at jiu jitsu. I got into martial arts because after high school my girlfriend and I broke up and I found myself walking alone. I was forced to follow my true interest and hobbies. I walk with god now as well. I love everyone and I love life , i hope this year will be full of blessings

owen rockenbach thank you for the suggestion. That’s very true how you can find friends and family through sports. Im not the most active person but I might give it a try 😊

[@kamemagic2976]

Yo stop promoting useless gym of yours god dayum do you have any respect you sell out

[@marieconstantia4441]

@@kamemagic2976 You are particularly cruel to say such a comment to people who are struggling with loneliness. I will stick up for them. You need to develop some compassion for others.

[@Anna-bd9le]

@@kamemagic2976 they are not promoting their gym. They suggested that lonely people join their own local gym in hopes to find contacts there.

[@firedude1Productions]

Fax bro, mma is the way to go

[@joehinojosa24]

The word " friend" has no meaning in the modern world. Civilized polite society teaches you to ACT " FRIENDLY" but only to get what you need and want. Use people as a temporary stepping stone to be upwardly mobile. That's why we all lonely

[@GrigorisDeoudis]

So much relate on the first part Joe. As to why people are lonely I feel the reasons differ from person to person. But everything in life is acceptance and evolution ~

[@joehinojosa24]

@@GrigorisDeoudis I bless you with love ,peace and joy sister. Become Love and peace and you will create it. Give out joy and you receive joy. Good luck

[@mesalouis8976]

True.

[@alexarentsch7370]

I was always extroverted, and this year I realized that I really wasn't. I have gone through so many groups of friends, and I think it's because I knew them and they didn't know me. I felt so lonely, and I realized it was because I wasn't hanging out with ME enough. I love spending time with me. I was there for everyone all the time, and so I neglected my own needs. I still love being with people, but I've learned to become detached to the idea that people are in our lives forever. People are in our lives for a season, and we get to cherish it, and then let it go. Never stop being kind to others, but never expect anything in return, so you can never be disappointed.

[@tahamm5156]

I kinda had the same experience except that i didn't neglect my need that much. But just knowing that you dont matter that much in a group or that you know them more that they know you really hurts

[@elizcringle6505]

You might be a heighten sensitivity person. You should check out Elain Aaron's work, she pioneered the study of people with the sensory processing sensitivity trait. Which I call my superpower. HSP make up only 20% of the population and being friends with an HSP is very different than being friends with a non-HSP. I'm acquainted with a lot of people, but I don't have any friends, by choice. People's energy can be overwhelming.

[@MusicMike512]

It's heartwarming to see that most people here in the comment section could probably be good, genuine friends with each other. The heartbreaking thing about it is that we'd probably never be able to meet and thus our friendship can only go so far.

[@XboxgamerZ]

But don't, we can hurt each other again, see us more as a club and if you see someone alone and your also alone, smile and say a hello and respect each other :p

[@Airgirl881]

Is it weird I can easily talk to anyone but for them staying in my life permanently it never happens . :(

[@Margybarkies]

That’s how I feel. I’m very extroverted yet somehow can’t seem to tangle full connections with people.

[@johnames6430]

@@Margybarkies people are only your friend because of what you can do for them, you find this out very quickly if you get rich...oh and if you lose your money you lose your friends and even your wife. There are very few "true" friends.

[@eloise-mariebamford1737]

That’s me

[@theesteward9150]

I understand

[@SUGAR-mc4em]

Lonely extroverts exist, and we are valid. ☺️

[@6ixlxrd]

"And one day you're gonna look around and you're gonna realize that everybody loves you, but nobody likes you. And that is the loneliest feeling in the world." -Bojack.

[@nash2274]

LMFAOOOO

[@ejachildofgod6644]

So true 😂 they might not like me but God loves and likes me and bless me everyday 🙏🙌😇💯

[@yaso2222]

We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love and friendship can we create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone - Orson Welles

[@NinjaGodIvan]

Friends come and go due to moving out, changing interests, etc. That’s why I don’t really bother making friends. It’s actually hard to maintain friendships, and I’m fine being alone. As long as you know that loneliness is peaceful, then you don’t need friends.

[@Je11keng]

I agree with you ❤

[@joshuabuchanan1141]

That's why friendships are pointless

[@hollycatee]

i just had to end a 3 year friendship bc i realised, that i couldnt be myself around them, so i really needed this, thank you

[@amayawright4083]

Dude same! But it was like a 6 year friendship

[@jamieslacks]

Reading the comments I only have a small sentiment to offer; people often drift apart. When you are being made to feel lonely in a group, it’s okay to leave, but don’t forget the connections that were there before, if any. You will feel less lonely remembering that you’ve had connections, and practice recognizing what was good and bad about those past relationships. Be careful not to dismiss others as “disappointing” or “not as honest as you”, this is a misnomer. They are simply growing in a different direction than you are, and maybe your paths will cross again for the better.

[@diamondedevil]

yes thiss

[@aimeerafael5907]

Thank u

[@HIXHAM]

Many relationships are stuck on the surface level. We all can have many of that but there’s no point. It’s time for the world to change for all of us to focus on our deeper relationships. Well all be much happier. ❤️

Yeah I completely agree, time to have real talk with people

[@koalafromtomorrow5656]

Yeah haveung one or two true friend is better than a 100 friends

[@christarichardson8336]

I see you comment on half the videos I watch lol

[@ryanjoseph9335]

I know I am with a true friend is when I feel comfortable being silent with each other with nothing to talk about. When you are in a group of people, you feel pressured to impress and always be interesting.

[@ButterflyRoses-]

It’s hard to find good genuine people, a lot act like they’re your friend but then they start to talk back behind your back, and you have to cut them off. Sometimes feel like I have to be friends with people I don’t like, and I stay with them because I don’t wanna be lonely

[@fined2130]

Sometimes I get to know people who seem genuine but they are not interested in a friendship, they just wanna hang out and smoke and don‘t want to really talk. I always end up to be the one who askes questions and listens but it‘s not a friendship. It just stays boring. :0

[@AnjaliBhomia]

I can genuinely relate to this comment. I always feel as if I'm the only one who puts in all the effort into a friendship and nobody ever reciprocates my energy.

[@thehapagirl92]

I can relate. That’s why I cut off my fake ass friends and am now alone

[@blackflag5148]

@@thehapagirl92 Ur not alone. U got me and I'm as REAL as it gets (NEVER backchat ext ext) lol 😉👌. I'm with u until the end of time (spiritually) Never forget that 😉

[@Deliciousation]

All my life I’ve been pretending I’m okay with feeling alone, because I felt it was easier than facing the pain. I’m in my mid-twenties now and this little imaginary world of mine has really started to fall apart. I think it’s true what you say about just doing activities on your own, it’s certainly better than crying at home. Thanks for the video!

I’m glad I could help and I wish you the best 😊💕

[@gracey7166]

i feel you... i have been living in my bubble for so long and now being in uni is an everyday struggle. Everyone is just moving forward with their lives and bettering themselves day by day while my life kinda stopped in my teenage years and now i am slowly withering away in my supposedly best years of my life.

[@user-rq6pl2og5i]

felt this.. hope you’re doing better, sending you lots of love & hugs

[@karaa7595]

I'm 43 and lost a close friend when I was 28 and he was 30. He had a wife and a toddler when he died from cancer. My favorite uncle was dead by age 39. In high school I lost a close friend in a car wreck when we were 15. These people loved life. They were well liked. Intelligent. Just amazing souls. In their honor I try to appreciate life, even though I've been ready to leave earth since a teenager. But I'm still here. God had a purpose for me - to raise my son. He has a purpose for you, too. What is that? Ask and it will be revealed to you.

[@karaa7595]

@@gracey7166 there are no best years of our life. There are only best moments in every year. Look for the best moments and cherish them while they are happening. When they fade away, remind yourself there will be more best moments in the future.

[@kobzster06]

I've been a "lone wolf" all my life. I was never one that had a lot of friends in any setting, whether it be school or work. I'm much older now but I never felt any regret or sadness being that way. I know with social media these days, it's easy for people to get depressed when they see their 'friends' posting pictures of their lively social life. Never bothered me, I don't base my happiness on what others are doing. I enjoy the solitude.

[@rika8285]

i love when u said “i dont base my happiness on what others are doing” that rly stuck out to me, ty for the reminder !

[@travis6694]

@@rika8285 it’s easier when your realize it’s a created image a lot of the time. The social media status is not very healthy.

[@LxneWxlf702]

I can relate with you. Idc what others says "hes a loner" AND? atleast im not caught up in peoples dramas and problems lol .

[@luciusaureliuscommodus6520]

Same 💯

[@kingkongchief1177]

Loneliness is better than fake friends.

[@zPoP_]

no it’s not

[@johnnyboi290]

@@zPoP_ How?

[@johnnyboi290]

@@zPoP_ Yeah but haven't fake friend is worse because they just use u and mentally drain u down and then toss u away like nothing at least when you're lonely u can focus on yourself and nobody else and improve on your skilld

[@johnnyboi290]

@@zPoP_ I do understand I've been in online school for 2 years and a half and last year me and my family moved somewhere else so that means I had to say good bye to my close friends. It's my first year back to school and I'm a new kid It was hard trying to find a friend. Every recess my classmates would go play basketball and since sports aren't my thing I usually hang out by myself. Being lonely is not fun but having fake friends is worse imo

[@johnnyboi290]

@@zPoP_ Also fake friends can manipulate u into doing things that are bad for u and can force the shit and peer pressure u into doing things u don't want

[@birdy617]

The energy you get being by yourself is like no other.

[@ed199]

Me alone in my room, high as hell with my music, just chilling be like...

[@Србомбоница86]

@@ed199 why do you need to be high ,I never use it ,I only need my music

[@ed199]

@@Србомбоница86 I don't need to be. Ive always vowed to not be dependent on it, as doing so will cause more harm than good. But music gives me more sensation when I'm high, I feel one with the music..if that makes sense. I can even hear things I've never heard before in songs I listen to. It's a beautiful thing for me, it gives me peace.

[@Startleftendright]

I spend everyday alone and have done my whole 30 years. The days I see people or 'friends' is really exhausting for me mentally.

[@timothybrown6565]

I can relate to that.

[@theesteward9150]

@@timothybrown6565 Me 3

[@moonie0813]

Literally same.

[@elyeyi369]

Me as well.

[@lw4294]

I had lots of friends when I was stupid and didn’t care about my life that much.. doing foolish stuff, then I woke up and am alone 😭

[@Ezequiel55vf]

Same with me then l realised😭😭😭

[@Gambit2483]

What are friends really? Listen to the song "Friends" by Whodini...

[@itsbebelexi]

Dame, I relate on many levels bro

[@ahaok6245]

Fucc friends. People are snakes. If you just have one friend its okay, rather 1 good friend than 10 fake friends.

[@D.A.DreamArt]

Wow, so true. Since most people are foolish, they find many other foolish people to hang out with. When you want to do intelligent, creative things in life, or just raise the level of vibration, you realise that you don't have much to choose from. So you begin to stand on your own.

[@charc4814]

As a kid, I was pretty much a loner and got picked on because I was an easy target. It made me uncomfortable being on my own in public places. The best thing I did was becoming comfortable with traveling on my own. I got a lot of push back from people who know me and asked me why I would do that. Its hard to coordinate trips with friends and it becomes more of hassle when trying to figure out what to do when your at your destination. Everyone wants to do their own thing. Now I don't have any discomfort eating at a restaurant, watching movies, shopping, or traveling on my own and its great!

[@JavierGarcia-xz5yr]

Imma keep it real, I only have one true friend who I came up with from the “hood”, we been through sooo much as kids and till this day we hang out whenever we can cause of work, we tell each other our problems and help each other with little things, I would take a bullet for my childhood friend, he’s been keeping it real with me and I’ll always appreciate him for that. The group of friends who I recently have meet, have been my “bros” the sad reality is that they only hit you up to go spend money or go to parties but are never there to say what’s up or there when u feel down in life. Idc if ppl talk behind my back Bc sometimes it’s your own “friends” who do it. I’m good with having only one true friend than a group cause at the end you know who’s really there for you when u need them the most

[@aqsa7631]

I decided to "go friendless" in university and it has saved me so much grades and time! I used to be very social during my first two years (when I was 17-19 yrs old ) now that i'm almost 22 I prefer being by myself and focusing on personal, career and financial growth. It's amazing how just staying focused and aligned with yourself can actually make you feel so whole.

[@NoRockinMansLand]

You can still do that while being social, being social doesnt hurt your goals unless you make the wrong choices. No disrespect

[@aqsa7631]

@@NoRockinMansLand I totally understand your point of view, but guess it depends on how seriously one takes their goals. I do think that having a social life is essential because it makes life overall better but it should be with people who also want to grow and do better, not. mediocre or people who are "still figuring themselves out" I do think that everyone grows at their own rate. This is just how I see it, so far this mindset has been working well for me.

[@NoRockinMansLand]

@@aqsa7631 oh yeah for sure, you definitely want to be actual friends with people that want to grow and self improve themselves, or at least have the desire to self improve. But the people you party with, or hang out with for some fun, I would call them acquantances, they're not actual friends.

[@aqsa7631]

@hi that is also true! its a mixture of both, good friends can help you excel nut in my case it wasn't like that, its always important to remind yourself that everyones experience is different, for me it helped me a lot to stay solo until I get established in my career.

[@VivianaSilverback]

@@aqsa7631 Not really. Social life isn't necessary. I have no friends. I not crazy, I have a perfectly normal life, a stable future, and am perfectly happy by myself. I don't need others to feel happy. I once did, and they drained my self esteem so much I started insulting myself and believing my toxic "friends" were the only ones being able to make me happy. It reduced me into a loser with no life. I've come a lot farther without friends than with friends.

[@sunnc]

I notice the only time I really ponder on me having no friends is when I think ab how others will view me. Like now because my birthday’s coming up. “People around me like what are you doing, your friends coming?” Really I just wanna chill n relax. Being w endless mfs on my bday is the last thing I wanna do. I’m learning to be myself n not care how I’ll be viewed

The world makes it seem like it’s a sad thing to be alone on a birthday but it can feel amazing to just chill alone. Not sure where the pressure to be with people on birthdays started.

[@bitcoinski]

My b-day is coming up this month...uggh...nothing special planned...becuz I have zero friends to celebrate with...and I am nice to everyone...I just don't get it...I must be an NPC...

[@EagleEyez44]

That’s awesome.

[@landofchristina7380]

This is so true! Couldn't have said it better 💛

[@bitcoinski]

@Wooo BaccWednesday Fake people tend to stick to Fake ppl...aww man...you speak the Truth! Thanks for sharing your story Wooo BaccWdnesday.

[@sprrr3090]

Yess! Being alone also teaches you how to love yourself so much more. Being surrounded by fake people is super exhausting, no thanks 🙅🏻‍♀️ Quality > quantity.

[@Hiraimomoooo]

Can we be friends?

[@sprrr3090]

@@Hiraimomoooo Tabii ki 😌

[@Hiraimomoooo]

@@sprrr3090 OMG thx ı've no friends for 2 years:( do u have any insta account?

[@sprrr3090]

@@Hiraimomoooo Aw reallyy :/ I have private one, what’s yours? 😊

[@Hiraimomoooo]

@@sprrr3090 I closed my account because I'm studying for the university exam. It's keeping me a little distracted😁 but I can give you my number from my mom's so we can talk over what's up

[@TheMysticAngel]

I haven't found meaningful friends. My only friend was my ex but now he's gone too.

[@mattdecker1482]

Yeah I know what that is like.

[@kezianatassia6091]

rt . can relate

[@mattdecker1482]

@@kezianatassia6091 what's going on with you

[@ave3468]

Same. Losing him did a lot to my life and made me realize how little I had without him and it really sucks knowing he doesn’t care about that anymore and having to moving on from it so quickly really hurts and does a lot to a person and their mental health.

[@TheMysticAngel]

@@ave3468 well if anything we're proving to be strong during these hard times. Very little people can be this alone and keep going. So give yourself some credit xx

[@sadgrlhour3405]

I can honestly say that having no friends the past 3-4 years, it was hard at first but now im happier than i have ever been or thought i would be. And brought me closer to my parents, and learned to love the world and everything in it. I will be forever grateful for that.

[@sagebellic5466]

I agree I think we often make friends to cope with the difficulties in life when we are able to put a pause on that and work on ourselves that is self-love.

[@sadgrlhour3405]

@@sagebellic5466 definitely! I totally agree

[@sagebellic5466]

@@sadgrlhour3405

[@iliveinsideyourhouse3943]

Same. Being put in a vulnerable and hard situation makes you feels more awareness and more grateful.

[@jefketheboss4009]

@@sagebellic5466 The world we live in there is no pause ;) No time to even work on myself..... One day we will all go back to God and forget all the misery..

[@leeahdavis777]

I’m glad I came across this. I always felt the need to have company or friends to not feel alone, but in the end feeling even more empty and lonely. Not saying all friends make you feel lonely, but finding genuine real friends that are in a healthy mindset and have goals that you have can be such a blessing and it’s hard to find that these days. I find myself doing more productive positive things alone than I ever did hanging with my old friends.

[@x97s]

We are too busy scrolling and wasting time on social media

[@khanfinanceacademy7202]

As an immigrant and living in the south, boy it's hard finding people who even accept you, let alone be your friend!!!!

[@teeradactyl]

[@f.elenafinnegan1300]

Yeah that can be tough especially for someone from a different country. Keep going and don't mind the haters 💪

[@nataliehale7791]

I will be your friend

[@nor332]

It’s better to be alone than have friends who only need you when it benefits them and don’t value you or what you go through at times

[@ryanhinderliter6206]

“Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.”

[@thehapagirl92]

Exactly. I’ve always been told I’m different because I have certain views on life that most people don’t have. I think differently. People think I’m odd and just want a basic bitch.

[@janayjerez3962]

I have pretty horrible social anxiety, and only feel somewhat comfortable around a select few people, but only fully comfortable when I'm alone. I feel safe, and like I can be myself. I do wish I had a couple people I could really feel like myself with, though.

[@dominika8642]

social anxiety often is connected with self esteem and if you want to feel comfortable you have to work on yourself first. I have social anxiety too but now after therapy is better. I still have some thoughts and doubts but i'm able to be confident around people and feel good

[@janayjerez3962]

@@dominika8642 I've actually made it a goal this year to work on my self esteem :) I've been seeing a therapist about my anxiety for a while now so I'm hoping through some hard work I'll improve

[@ed199]

I also suffer from this problem, but i wouldnt say its my self esteem, ive been told I have a high ego before, and I do feel proud of myself and what Ive accomplished, Im fairly confident in myself, up until i go to talk to someone, but even though there isnt anything for me to be nervous about I still get anxious being around people, my conversational skills are what I feel I lack, but I have yet to find a solution to that problem.

[@lauradolann]

💓💓💓💓💓

[@dominika8642]

@@janayjerez3962 I'm proud of you, it's hard work but totally worth it

[@blunzn999]

Literally all throughout my life I have burned myself out in order to help others. I've taken care of people, I've nurtured them, held their hair for hours as they puked their hearts out, stuck up for them and protected them... and I've received very little in return. For my 20th birthday this year for instance, one of my best friends (who I have spent hundreds of hours consoling and soothing) actually ended up leaving the rented apartment before midnight, because she wanted to hang with her boyfriend and his friends. I was literally stood up on my 20th birthday, by someone I have spent the previous 4 years caring greatly for. It has really shown me one thing - I need to stop wasting my energy, my love, my care. I'm unusual in how I care for people, it's sad but it's the truth - people watching this video can probably relate. We're too soft, too timid, too kind in a lot of ways. I know it sounds like a cry for attention or like I'm trying to feel better than, but it's literally just my life experience. No one is gonna care about you or for you the way you care about others. And that's okay, that's something I need to accept. But I need to stop gifting my love to people who don't deserve it, point blank. Thank you for the video.

[@Nana77707]

Relate to this on a really deep level and as much as i love my alone time and basically just hanging out with myself and connecting with who i really am it gets really lonely when you see other people out there living your dream life and making fun memories when you're home overthinking your whole existense and wasting your teenage and adult years to anxiety

Yeah I feel you cuz it does get lonely and at one point you really wanna do something different or meet a really good friend. It can get pretty hard but it’s something we’re all working through

[@Nana77707]

@ hopefully we'll manage to make it out of this alive lol losing my sanity here

@@Nana77707 yeah 😅 but if we really want change we can make change

[@hungwithjewels]

literally same, I'm a senior in high school and I feel like i haven't done anything cool with my life yet, weekends are the worst because i never have anyone to hang out with

[@EagleEyez44]

Seriously 😭😭😭😭

[@MichaelDeLaRosa]

Yesterday I went out by myself, I think the part that sucks is you don’t have anyone to share the experience. The good thing is you do all you and learn a lot about to do/improve.

[@f.elenafinnegan1300]

Yeah I agree 👍🏻sometimes is good to have a "me time". Actually, I always wanted to went out by myself, for example, at the mall but I never have. I should try and enjoy the experience

[@annanicoleborgchavez4476]

Growing up I never had any friends since i got bullied a lot. I was able to make my first "real" friends in highschool. Now, at 22, after an entire pandemic i noticed i really don't have any true friends. My grandpa passed away a couple weeks ago, and not a single person has been there for me. Im honestly so grateful for having a family.

[@kingdaleclarke]

I'm sorry about your grandpa x

[@jewelchilaka4089]

Awwwww Soooo sorry ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@karaa7595]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. My fav grandpa died when I was 14 and I learned how immature my friends were. Death makes people uncomfortable either because they have unresolved issues with it or they simply don't know what to say to a person who has lost someone.

[@f.elenafinnegan1300]

Yeah sometimes is hard to realize that people you thought were friends show their true colors. Having people who love you like your family is really important

[@VivianaSilverback]

Ow i'm sorry for your loss. I know how it feels to lose your grandpa, I lost both of them at an early age. And it's sad that your "friends" weren't even there. I'm so sorry. I once was having a crisis and called my friends, asking them to talk a bit because I needed it, and they hung up on me pretending to be "busy with something else". Yeah. Again, I'm deeply sorry for your loss and hope you found some time to grieve. It hurts when a loved one leaves.

[@Jericko427]

Having friends is a nice addition to a whole, complete life -- kind of like cherries on a pie. However, becoming dependent on friends and their companionship leaves you open to instability, low self-confidence, and co-dependency. Sometimes when we're alone, it's for the best. When we're alone, the inner voice that was filtered out by social interactions and peer pressure becomes priority. If you're alone, be grateful. Having quality time to focus on yourself, is like finding a diamond in the rough. Now start grinding, and you'll have more "friends" than you can shake a stick at.

[@mirakings1867]

I so needed this comment!!

[@mandiecmcm9797]

Yes I can relate to what you are saying alot of these so called "friendships is just codependency. Very fake society is nothing more then plastic and yes people can be easily programmed if they allowed themselves to be most of these extroverts are scared of the truth. They rather stay in there social conditioned society.

[@parth8069]

I'm 19 and i never had friends. My so called friends were all mean, teasing me for being shy, even when i got into college,there people started to tease me again(those who i never saw in my life) because i never had a girlfriend, i never kissed a girl.This is horrific. I feel lonely sometimes. But what helps me to move forward in life is my self confidence.Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Thanks for sharing your story. I hope things get better with time and one day meet a real friend that truly supports you 💕

[@parth8069]

@ thank you

@@parth8069 ❤️

[@clint1285]

Same here. Always teased for being shy and not having a girlfriend. I'm happy alone. No drama

[@Noor-jw2tn]

It's not the end of the world of you haven't kissed a girl yet. Plenty of time to meet a nice girl who will appreciate you.

[@m.8065]

I lost my best friend my husband when he passed it was the most unbearable pain that ever experienced. I went through intense grieving. 3 years later I grieve but it's less intense. I have learned to be alone but very busy learning the things I love like gardening and being at peace.

[@maxmurph853]

I'm so sorry, I hope you're doing okay.

[@pamle1]

I don't get lonely, but 2 wk ago my mother passed away. It's been very painful, not having her and her energy there. I miss the little jokes and laughs we had. She can't be replaced.

[@pamle1]

@Our Spiritual Journey Thank you

[@Србомбоница86]

@@pamle1 my mother died in January ,I know how you feel

[@pamle1]

@@Србомбоница86 Yes... so much emptiness... I wrote down a list of 7 things so far that I think she would want me to do... & I'll try to accomplish them..

[@Ali08]

I had a friend or two in the past and now have none. Actually, I’m content hanging out with myself. Alone, yes, but not lonely. The problem is society judges people who are friendless because it’s not common but I refuse to let it bring me down. I live my life exactly how it is, out the norm. 😀

[@jasongates-]

"You are your own best friend." True.

[@louiseleite3866]

I'm an introvert and being around people makes me feel drained. I think subconsciously people pick up on that and avoid me altogether.

[@mustaki7620]

I want to make friends but it’s really hard during a pandemic 😔

Yeah I feel you, doing more things online has helped me but I haven’t meet any new people either

[@myapeachtree89]

Same I have no friends

[@MR-nl8xr]

Riiiiiight.

[@humptydumptysatonawall4100]

Fr 😞

[@marcellabarends6393]

Snap me : Marcellabarends

[@Ancel7]

Two common definitions of what a friend is, is 'someone who's always there for you'. They equate a friend to a utility. The other one, is 'someone who loves you for who you are'. That's an excuse for abusive people, to stay abusive. In reality, friendship is about the mind-to-mind / soul connection (Sharing experiences, feelings about things, knowledge etc.). It's very risky to try to have that connection, when there's sadistic, exploitative people roaming the earth.

I really like that definition you gave, very trueeee. And yeah you have to be careful with who you open up to as they might expect it to be a friendship like the first two definitions you said. I’ll remember this definition, thank you 🥰

[@_boof]

I won't say I like being alone. Have I come to terms with it? Yes. But the older you get, the more awkward it feels to put yourself out there. I'm in my late 20's and it feels like my world is closing in. The only thing that's helped me is letting go of ideas and expectations. It's not easy, but Mary Jane helps. She's loyal.

[@jetfoolishness1288]

I can relate... Went cold turkey for a month or two then I realised how much loneliness can be hard to handle without it. Though it's sad telling yourself you need drugs to maintain in this messy world.

[@_boof]

@@jetfoolishness1288 It's a cold world as is. The last thing you should be doing is feeling bad about it. Own it because it really do be that warm arm around your shoulder, when there isn't one there.

[@Hiraimomoooo]

@@jetfoolishness1288 can we be friends?

[@Filthy_Larry]

@@jetfoolishness1288but weed isn’t a drug. Or at least not all drugs are bad. We need to get the taboo out of the word drugs. Pot is good. Lsd is for spiritual enlightenment once a year. Toxic people are bad.

[@KyRoD_]

I like being alone because I get to do what I want whenever I decide to do it.

[@5cule58]

SAME

[@ed199]

Literally my thought process. Ive been asked why i'm always alone. Its for this exact reason. Once you are committed to a friendship/relationship, then you have to take the extra initiative (always feels like im going out of my way to hang out) to see them. I like just setting up my day exactly how I want, no asking if anyone can make it or not, just do it. Way more efficient, and satisfying.

[@Србомбоница86]

It's good ,but it all comes with a price

[@neonrose89yearsago23]

@@Србомбоница86 ?

[@ed199]

@@Србомбоница86 I've thought about this before. That price is being one without little to none. I've accepted that price, it's a small debt to pay.

[@Tempus0ptic]

Embrace your loneliness, it's not as bad as everybody thinks it is. You'll eventually discover how strong you really are.

[@arshaprakash4141]

In the end most of our life we meet many people who we call as' friends' but it's gets harder when they disrespect us,don't value us, or keep us feel overwhelmed every time when we stays with them..,at the end they stab us back and when we understand there true colours it gets too late and it hurts soo bad..then we realise being alone is the best option..

[@neuroversse]

I feel so seen now.. I gradually let the relationships in my life become more and more distant over the past couple of years.. my friends were more like an escape from my family and I was never truly myself with them. I need to know who I am because I’m lost on what direction my life is headed. But this video really helped know I’m not alone in that... thank you.

[@lianat8879]

In recent years, I've come to realize that most friends tend to be companions who are by your side for a few years, maybe even 10 or 20 years, but at some point the friendship ends. In fact, very few friendships really last a lifetime until one of them dies. Ask a 70- or 80-year-old which of the friends he was friends with in his 20s or 30s is still his friend today. Probably not a single one. That's just the way life is: people come and people go.

[@diksharai955]

True

[@realTrissMerigold]

My mom always pushed having a big friend group on me. When I was a kid I actually was very extroverted and liked being the centre of attention. But the older I got the more alone I wanted to be. And I think Im so much better mentally now. I have few people in my life who are very valuable to me and I'd never go back to how it was before

[@SparklSeoul]

I am 20 years old. I stopped making friends in real life because I always used to get backstabbed and some stopped talking to me when I stopped messaging first. this pandemic really showed whose not my friends anymore.... idk if online counts since it's not face to face interaction, everyone is busy so I don't have anyone to talk with that much. I don’t know if I’m wrong doing this but there’s a small amount I stopped talking to because I have bad social anxiety and I just can’t anymore.... This year I have to improve myself which I am working on. It's so hard. Thank you LALA for this upload, watching this I felt like you were actually talking to me 😊 sorry for the long comment here.

[@doc2590]

I'm single and don't have any friends, and most of the time I'm fine with that. But every now and again I think it would be nice to have company.

[@fortminorproject]

I always have part time friends and nobody really sticks around . Its hard finding someone that will stay and not leave . Iam shy and socially awkward and that is what makes it hard. I needed to hear this.

[@sagasumomo]

Preach girl! Down to a T. Lets be alone together. Im 30 and I had a complete awakening in my 20s, dropping almost everyone was one of the best things ive ever done. Done trying to get invited places, no invitation to the party? No problem! Im glad i dont have to lie to get away from going.

😂Its so good you could realize that in your 20s, so many people continue the fake and needy friendships. And yes no party or place to hang with people its allll good, you can have so much fun doing things alone

[@LukeMackie]

I moved from Scotland to England for a fresh start, cutting out everyone I knew there who didn't take it well.. But that's their problem, not mine. I did this for myself, your friends are a direct representation of yourself and you pick up on their habits, bad or good. I left with the quote "You’ll Never Be Happy With Someone Until You’re Happy Alone" stuck in my head, and the more time I spent alone and working on myself, the more I realized that I really don't need anyone else. A lot of people don't understand, but they don't have to. You do, and that's all that matters. Finding a true friend in this day and age is a very hard thing to find, if you have any you are very lucky.

[@martin6123]

Good on you mate! I wish I had the same courage as you.

[@f.elenafinnegan1300]

@luke mackie yeah sometimes you have to do what's best for you, not what's best for everyone else. I'm glad you find the courage to change your environment and start again. Some of us need to do the same

[@jonasbsj1]

i had some high school "friends" from wich i grew apart from, for a couple of reasons, the main one being the fact that i moved, but not too far away from where i lived. I still had them on social media(always me having to find them there, nobody ever reached out to me), i was always trying to engage, sending birthday messenges, commenting some posts, etc... And they only replyed one or two times. No invitation to parties/any social thing, no "How are you doing?", no "Do you need to talk?", NOTHING. Just cold, inpersonal shit. And then i was always seeing them hanging out with each other, interacting on social media,etc... My last birthday was the turning point for me, because none of them reached out, even those who i had more interactions with, dispite them seeing my birthday post. I realized i was never important to these people, and that i was investing way too much time and energy trying to connect with others, to the point where i forgot to connect with MYSELF, i was losing myself in this useless process of pleasing and chasing others. I felt so stupid afterwards, mostly because i realized that i never even LIKED any of those people to begin with, we had too little in common to justify this obssession i had for them, not to mention the fact that they just kinda used me in high school, so i was never really close to them. The thing was, i was SO lonely at the time(and continued to be) that i got emotionally invested with anyone who showed me some atention. I finally decided to get those people out of my life for good, i took them out of all my social media apps, and i hope i never see any of them in real life again. I realized that if i continued to have them in my life, in anyway, their shadows would keep haunting me, i would always remmenber those sad high school days, and i would ALWAYS worry about what would they think or say every time i post something, or do something, or go somewhere. I realized that i would be better off if i simply try to focus on myself and at the same time try to stay open to new people, because i don't want to repeat the same mistake of trying too hard to connect with people that don't have alot of things in common with me, because after all, im better off without people that don't really want to be around me, the right people will come naturally, i don't need to try SO hard. I hope anyone who sees this comment relates to it and feels enlighted in some way. Don't be closed to people, but don't expect much from them either, always expect the important things from YOU and only you. Live your life for you, and enjoy the company of whom truly wants yours.

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

honestly I don't even care about having "real" friends anymore, I just want people to spend time doing my hobbies with

[@josephl447]

Ive found that as I became alone, I actually become more whole. I cut out useless practices and habits. Worked on my self. I eliminated the distractions of the world to find peace. And that's okay

[@christopherl1480]

Currently have no friends but im on my spiritual journey and figuring out what my true purpose is.Its gonna take some time and im sure theres going to be bumps along the way but im ready 🤙🏼

🙌🏼💕☺️you got this

[@wonkatraveler6794]

I've had lots of friends. Other times I've hardly had any. Jesus, he's my friend. He always gets me. He's always willing to connect with me, and reminds me to try and be the best, warmest person I can be.

[@lionelh7217]

@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus Maybe one day you'll be confronted with the truth in a way you wont be able to deny.AMEN

[@damienscott6561]

@@lionelh7217 what truth? That Allah is great and Muhammad is his prophet?

[@Србомбоница86]

@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus you can't !your soul is dark ,empty and cold ,people like you can and will NEVER feel Christ ,He doesn't connect with you 😊

[@Србомбоница86]

@@lionelh7217 He won't ,he will go to hell ,no Christ there 😊

[@Србомбоница86]

@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus He got nothing to lose ,you already lost

[@Boingpot]

I honestly really needed this, thanks so much!

[@landofchristina7380]

I doubt anyone will read this but... As a 16 year old soon to be 17, I catch myself some days wishing I would be able to hang out with a bunch of friends and just do teenage things while I can. I've been homeschooled my whole life and I know this has contributed to me having little to no friends, but there have been times when I was given the opportunity to make friends yet I declined... I simply have very strong morals and beliefs and refuse to act fake just to "fit in" with others. I wouldn't say I'm awkward, but I'm the type of person that takes a while to reveal my true self once I trust someone. I'm very blessed to have one friend, and she and I have deep conversations which is really what I want in a friendship. I just don't see her as often due to distance. It's honestly embarrassing sometimes when people know you have no friends, but why is it that way? Can I not just be happy by myself? Does society make us feel like we're inferior if we don't have a huge friend group? I would 100% rather be alone than with people who I can't be my true self with. Anyway, I can't honestly express how grateful and relieved I am to be able to see that others have this same issue. Learn to be your best friend, and know that even people with many friends may only have one true friend or none at all. Praying for everyone that you find the right people 💖 and thank you for taking the time to read this

I think you are really strong, not many people at your age understand the importance of having a REAL friend. Never change to fit in with others, it’s draining and you’ll never be happy when you force a relationship. And at first yeah it can be hard to be happy by yourself cuz society also makes us compare ourselves to everyone. But more good people, real friends like the one you mentioned, will come into yourself when you’re ready and you’ll know they’re genuine and that you guys are destined to be friends. I wish you the best 🙏🏼💕

[@landofchristina7380]

@ Thank you so much for your kind comment.. it means a lot. And thank you for making this video, I really admire your bravery for that. Wishing you all the best 💕

[@masa4376]

I feel like I'm reading my life story

[@landofchristina7380]

Glad to know there are similar people out there 💖 hope you find the right people!

[@masa4376]

@@landofchristina7380 thank you