Social Media makes me feel ugly

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[@metanight788]

Everyone is potato. Find someone who likes your variety of potato.

[@bunn228]

I love this.

[@CoquetteKaraku]

🥔

[@imaginieiota6298]

Ramen 🙏🏽

[@juancarloscuaocastellanos8813]

Potato is life. 🎉

[@MBauer457]

​@@imaginieiota6298 That's what otakus say after praying to have the power of god and anime on their side

[@Momoko524]

This is why I only look at animals on social media. Don't need to compare myself to a cute kitten or puppy. Just enjoy the cuteness ❤

[@Acepilot8Gaming]

Exactly. Between animals, gaming, or pretty much any other non human related thing😂

[@short_cake4212]

Exactly!

[@shishkebab0.0]

“I’ve got Joey for that” 😭

[@Darur1308]

When did she say that? Can u put a timestamp

[@mbabubak]

0:47

[@Darur1308]

@@mbabubak ohh thx🤣

[@isnitfass6942]

That was a flex 😂

[@Mh-gq7rs]

"Actually no I got myself for that *blow raspberries* "

[@jaydedartsph]

Social Media is sometimes a mistake.

[@Felice_Enellen]

More like mostly. It's nice for people who were already introverted homebodies, but it's turned a lot of the population into something similar. Even when they're out, they're looking at their phones and not the world and people around them. You only have to look at random other human beings for a while to realize how ridiculously exaggerated the online vision of an "attractive" person is.

[@Felice_Enellen]

@@janchristianursuaaguilar7434 No it isn't. Jeez, what an oversimplification and overstatement. The world is not black and white like that.

[@ArgentumEmperio]

@@janchristianursuaaguilar7434 No, it is understanding the limitations that come with complete freedom for all. "The internet provides a voice for all people" is simultaneously it's greatest strength and greatest downside. Beauty standards being what they are on social media is such an example where you can find body positivity, but you also find body negativity. If you don't understand that one both can and _should_ hate that aspect of social media ... you ain't mature enough to be using social media.

[@888emm]

I definitely agree 100%.

[@zDToddy]

Sometimes?

[@racenturtlez]

socials make us all feel ruff

[@Foxhunter258]

Speaking of ruff I'm on top of the ruff

[@SemekiIzuio]

Yup we re all potatoes, if you ain't from status or money, you cant even pretend to be beautiful either

[@SodaPopBot]

@@Foxhunter258 Is Daigo with ya, Richardson?

[@JordanS-ww4eu]

@@SemekiIzuiomoney ain’t everything sista

[@Shane587]

To be fair in Japan the standards are also toxic

[@aliceDarts]

All of Asia... have you seen what the plus sized stores are called in China? Omfg...

[@carnifaxx]

What was particularly infuriating were pregnancy videos by Reina Scully, every time she went for an appointment, it sounded like bullying for her weight... and she is perfectly fine and healthy.

[@nishchayalimbu5946]

Not that toxic like korean standard. but, atleast they are good looking enough to have the standard. +kind & humble. from what i've observed.

[@justgado2772]

All over East Asia, in SEA too.

[@JackBlack-jv2wg]

​@@aliceDarts Dino Garments? 😂

[@c1nder909]

Reject Modernity embrace natural beauty

[@FabulousCooki]

🙌 Get this on a shirt 🙌

[@hanauzaki6264]

No such thing as natural or inner beauty. Stuipid

[@mokarokas-1727]

@@FabulousCooki It's been on shirts for decades, we've been pointing out warping lines and editing for decades, but people - contrary to what Aki stated - just aren't really that smart after all.

[@yuri_nori]

I thought you're gonna say return to monkey 😂

[@imveryanxious]

thing is, a lot of people dont know what is natural anymore because of the internet. people online might say natural but the viewers just cant know. it's safe to assume that everyone posting online edits their photos atp, so you can save yourself mentally

[@Manda_Panda000]

I had to take a large step back from social media and start evaluating the "why" for posting things on social media. Is it to share photos with family? Share photos I'm proud of? When I started thinking about what and why I was posting I noticed my approach to social media was healthier.

[@stormierbody8419]

I just never post because why? I don’t have any friends to see what I’m doing and I don’t need strangers to see wtf I’m doing.

[@PeanutStrawberry]

I never wanted social media. My girlfriend back in the day forced me into making a Facebook.... and I would share almost nothing anyway. Got rid of it ASAP when we broke up :/

[@syproductions456]

I have accounts to DM my friends but I never post, I'm just too lazy to take photos and upload them and I couldn't give a monkey's about getting 'likes'.

[@charliechaplin6049]

god I fucking hate how organ failure is "in" right now. Nothing is more beautiful than someone with meat on their bones and an immune system that works. I worry about these people starving themselves :(

[@spicybeantofu]

Starving has always been in it's just normalized

[@agent_star]

As someone in actual organ failure at the moment and skinny as a rake, let me tell you I still get a shit ton of hate and bullying. No one is treated well on the internet.

[@synctrox9679]

Obese is not healthy

[@doinkson]

​@@agent_star yeah it doesn't matter what size you are, there's always a group of ppl that'll say a woman is too big or too small

[@sleepymonsteraddict]

@@spicybeantofu One time I was meeting up with my male friends and a new girl we had befriended and she was constantly talking about how she is not going to eat in front of people, needless to say she looked like a stickbug. I struggle a lot with my self image and people like that make me so mad cause I know i have to harm myself to look like them, but that's the standard that they are portraying. Literally none of the guys took a moment to think that not eating all day is bad and that's why she looked the way she did. I've had girls shame me for eating breakfast, that's how far its come...

[@michaelhall736]

Yeah. We shouldn't be shaming people for their looks.

[@aliceDarts]

Yet sadly people do it so often that it has been normalized. Even in public...

[@VaporDreamCenter]

ill believe it when i see it

[@snickerswo1f519]

Okay? Then srop shaming people for their looks.

[@Showtimekasa]

yeah I agree :(

[@Ash_NuggTato]

We should if there plastic and fake, i am, i don't care

[@technosworld2]

We blame social media but magazines were doing this for decades, it's just now in the hands of "regular" people and more unrealistic expectations. Aki is natural beauty, the best kind 🙂

[@Ash_NuggTato]

To me it wasnt this bad back then

[@yumeironeko]

True! Before it was only models and celebrities who had the resources behind them to edit their pics for mass consumption. Now that ability is in the hands of everyone, and more and more people are using it, warping perceptions of what "normal" people look like.

[@TheImaginaryCat]

There are plenty of things you can do to pictures in the darkroom during development. I think editing photos has been around almost as long as there were cameras and pictures to alter. For example some of those old black and white crazy corset photos are edited/painted in, but it was pretty normal for the photographer to hide little imperfections like akne and the like. It's actually a really interesting topic to look into

[@yumeironeko]

@@TheImaginaryCat Excellent points. The same also applies if you go back to the medium of paint portraiture. Retouching acne in portraits I would argue has a negligible impact compared to altering body proportions, though. I wonder how many average people were getting black and white prints made showing off exaggerated body proportions. Gravure models are one thing, but would an average lady specify to her photographer that she wanted her waist nipped in/painted over? Or was that just a common service that they provided? Also, the fact that people's bodies were usually much more covered up by layers of clothing makes it more difficult to compare your body directly to someone else's since you can't see their actual body, just the effect of their corset and/or padding in their silhouette. Nowadays you can see basically everything, so altering body proportions has a much more visceral and immediate impact on the viewer. If the editing is done well, people can't tell that it's not someone's actual proportions (especially in still photography since angles help a lot).

[@shelley5449]

I mean, if we wanna go back far enough, 'portraits' that we're painted before camera's were 'edited' (painters would be asked to paint their subjects a certain way) when black and white photos were invented they were edited and cinched in at the waist too. For as long as we've had some form of 'selfie' we've had some form of editing. It is crazy, but yeah, it's fully deceptive too. And also beauty standards are always changing so there's no way to win. I think colour correction and anything like that to brighten and such, yeah that's all fine because cameras don't accurately capture colour anyway, but really anything else and we should avoid it. That being said, I do think it's easier said than done when we live in a ✨️society✨️ That being said, some people like to express themselves with colourful make up (me include) and dress and I think that's fine and we shouldn't shame them because it's not 'natural beauty' (because that can soon start getting toxic) but yeah, when it comes to pictures and the digital space, it has real impact when we're all editing and changing our body shapes and all the rest of it.

[@littleshedevl]

“She either edited this video or she has her own gravitational pull” 😂😂😂😂☠️

[@badrott8028]

That was diabolical lmao

[@numipinkpanda5486]

It is also highly subjective, so there will always be people loving how you look and people hating how you look, constantly, no matter what.

[@abadenoughdude300]

That, also there will always be people who want to bring themselves up by bringing others down, and will most often use looks because it's the easiest way.

[@shelley5449]

I agree so much with both of you here, absolutely fantastic points

[@Lovetsonmarq]

Body dysphoria and a warped view of how actual women look has been devastating I can't believe that nowadays plastic surgery is not a operation only for those who need but a expectation.women as young as 17 are getting nose jobs in my country it's mind-boggling. You'd think we'd push for more natural looking bodies than fake ass ones. Great video!

[@MABfan11]

body dysphoria and unrealistic body standards are more profitable, the problem is capitalism

[@otakugamispeaksofanime9167]

I've honestly gotten to a point where social media beauty standards make me scared to leave the house...😓

[@ryukiniko]

Haven't seen you yet but you sound beautiful already

[@otakugamispeaksofanime9167]

@@ryukiniko thanks, I really needed that❤

[@ryukiniko]

@@otakugamispeaksofanime9167 anytime fille

[@natigalindez1812]

Go to a walmart to boost your self confidence (I'm kidding)

[@wildflower62k]

The way I think of it is that trends come and go and suddenly someone's insecurity will be the new beauty standard. We will never win. We will also never be clones of each other, we're human beings.

[@Dancinglemon]

I got made fun of for freckles when I was little, now people are getting them tattooed on their face. I’m sad I had to go through being made to feel bad for my face but I’m glad people are finally seeing how beautiful freckles are.

[@GGVolter]

man i dont get ppl like: they either shame natural bodys cause they were "lucky" or are fake as heck. yes there is a point where your wieght becomes a health issue but we are FAR away from that. its natural to dislike anything that seems "unhealthy" to you, but can't they just keep thier opinions to them selves? its the same problem on the opposite side where some men just turn thier brain off whenever they see someone pretty and end up making girls uncomfortable that dont want that kind off attention.

[@wildflower62k]

@@GGVolter Exactly. It's especially prevalent online because people hide behind the screen. Also, the only person who should be making comments on someone's weight is their professional doctor.

[@MirandaWeaver]

Honestly because of how social media shows it’s standard of ‘beauty’ I flip flop between feeling cute some days to looking in the mirror and seeing every damn flaw, and wonder how anyone can find me attractive

[@kristaedwards5419]

I sometimes look in the mirror and see my pores and think "why do I have these?" Completely forgetting that they're essential to my health and EVERYONE has pores.

[@P0kieoopz]

I love when you make videos like this, so opened and genuine. I love to think that everyone on social media tend to look just slightly different than how they do in person. The editing and how the camera portrays us can be different than how we actually look, and it's kinda crazy. I hate that I learned you can edit your body even in videos, and it's made me self-conscious because so many people on social media have better bodies or physical appearances and I almost never see anyone actually out shopping looking like they do. Editing isn't bad and it can be very cool and look aesthetic but I think we all need to remember that we as humans are suppose to have flaws and our skin has texture and not soft as filters make it out to be, and it's okay to have a different body type.

[@Jootchy]

People in the Victorian era would edit their photos too. They would take a picture on a light background to be able to scratch some moles and weight off the picture, they would also blur their faces to hide wrinkles and other skin imperfections. This concept has been here since a VERY long time

[@Plarby]

I'm sorry people are butts. I'm of a mindset where I just...don't care what others think of my face. If I feel I look good, that's good enough for me.

[@mizu114]

exactly and that's all that matters ✊🏼

[@raixhatv6666]

W mindset Who cares what strangers think about you

[@me0101001000]

Maybe I'm just substituting one problem for another, but I've replaced my self-worth being tied to how I look with what I can do. I go, "I don't have tree trunk legs, but I can do a flip," and it's worked pretty well for me so far. Maybe I can't change how I look, but I can learn to do cool things.

[@battlegirljess]

I know I am just some random on the internet, but I would also have some caution about this too! I used to place most of my self-worth in what I could do and then I got sick and could no longer do any of it. It was quite a crisis for me growing up.

[@watashiwamosura]

This is super dangerous for those of us with disabilities or chronic illnesses. Our self worth shouldn't come from how we look, how productive we are or what we can do, it should come from who we are as people.

[@j_me]

​@@watashiwamosuradangerous-ish for anyone who could get into a car accident (ie everyone)

[@eileene8836]

I try to stay off my personal socials because of this. Being told from a really young age that "thin is the only way" and "no one likes big girls" really messes with your head and outlook on the world. It took getting diagnosed with chronic illness to realise it was all a load of gump and to ignore those scared of their real bodies.

[@ChillingDusselgurr]

And that's why I think we should redefine body positivity and take it back to its roots. Aka instead of acting like obesity is healthy and great, it should mean that anyone, no matter if they're average, conventionally attractive, has deformities, whatever, should accept their body and feel comfortable in their skin. Body positivity should lead to you accepting that sometimes you just look a bit like a potato. It should lead to you wanting to make positive changes, like sleep better to combat your eyebags or do some sports, eat better food to get to a healthy weight etc. I think another problem is also though that, even to this day, women are still largely reduced to their looks. As if the most important quality they gotta have still is just "looking pretty".

[@carnifaxx]

what I try to teach my daughters is to be kind and assertive/confident at the same time - you can appreciate that someone looks good without comparing or feeling envious you are not that person. And you don't need to say unkind words about anyone, esp. people who have not their day or are obviously unwell or whatever. I'm actually quite glad for AI, like from that point that I can just say "it's nice, but it's not real" :D

[@tdelioncourt1268]

I don't know where people got that body positivity was about praising obesity??? But obese people cannot change how they look in 5mn and they still need to dress up, go out, use public accomodations in the mean time so we should catter to them too. The point is they are citizen too, and that shaming people won't help them magically get thin. I agree with the rest of your comment, though !!

[@carnifaxx]

@@tdelioncourt1268 I mentioned somewhere that - aside from the fact that people just shouldn't say mean things about anyone - the obese person may actually go with their weight down and such remarks are can be seriously undermining their effort... and comments looked as if people genuinely thought that others can shapeshift, not only to look better overnight, but also to annoy others by deliberately choosing to look "unpleasant" or however you want to call it. Weird.

[@ChillingDusselgurr]

@@tdelioncourt1268 It's mostly that a loud minority used the term to justify not putting in the work to become healthier. So much so that it affected the general public's knowledge of the term and many people now just associate it with morbidly obese people using it as an excuse to not make a change for the better. And to unfortunately even drag other obese people down with them by discouraging them to improve their health. I fully agree though that you shouldn't shame people for being obese either! I'm sorry if it came off that way. I think especially obese people that work to make a change and might even be actively losing weight are incredibly strong, because changing your lifestyle drastically for the better is so damn difficult. And especially a healthy, lifestyle based weight loss takes a long time. So yeah no, you are right of course, making body positivy represent everyone again doesn't mean suddenly excluding obese people instead.

[@hinkle3634]

There is always that unspoken angle and lighting combo that makes ANYONE look absolutely grotesque

[@wanderingjadah]

Drs removing ribs seems to go against the creed of do no harm. It's like uuuuum ribs are there for a purpose. (btw I am missing a rib- it was removed and ground up into a bone paste when i had spine surgeryin the 90's lol).

[@tdelioncourt1268]

also I love how we are "concerned" about people transitionning when Ozempic missuse and rib removing or giving a 16yo cis woman fake boobs are not questionned at all

[@abadenoughdude300]

Are plastic surgeons even included in the "do no harm" oath

[@wanderingjadah]

@@tdelioncourt1268 I’m in California and know a handful of women on Ozempic for weight loss and I guess there’s always a crooked Dr out there. Btw they’re not even ‘clinically obese’ either so it blows my mind.

[@kiowah231]

@@tdelioncourt1268 Meanwhile insurances will cover trans surgeries but does not cover the other procedures you just listed

[@_babymetal_]

aki you're beautiful, the internet and social media are just horrible dont let anyone put you or others down!

[@jentavar6581]

This topic makes me sad honestly, beauty standards change so quickly and they are so drastic, it's sometimes physically imposible to keep up with them. That's why everyone should just focus on what makes them feel confident and beautiful, the world is a much more beautiful place like that in my opinion, don't you think it would be boring for everyone to look the same?

[@jentavar6581]

I'm corny as hell bro

[@szarwi]

@@jentavar6581 I mean you're not wrong. What will they do in 5 years, and another 10 when their bodies go out of trend? Constantly do reversal surgeries till they look botched as all hell?

[@jentavar6581]

@@szarwi that's what i'm saying!

[@lacrossev]

You know what beauty standard doesn't change as often? Being a kind and caring person, that is ALWAYS attractive.

[@mellopi]

Those comments saying they wish they were that thin or asking themselves why they don't have a body like that are so sad to me 😭 I hope young girls especialy will see being unique is really what makes you beautiful ♥ Thanks for talking about this topic, Aki 🙏

[@bodhisattva9190]

Joey is very privileged to call you his girlfriend. Your smart, funny, an Otaku, and your unbelievably beautiful. Also your relationship compliments each other. I'm not Simping or anything stupid like that. Just telling the truth

[@rad1caIs]

Thank you so much for talking about this ❤ People on social media are rude as hell sometimes and think that just because they can hide behind their screens they think it's okay to poke fun at people that constantly struggle with their body image. I struggle with losing weight and I'm not a very petite girl. I'm 4'11 and I'm pretty chubby. Over time though, I've realized that people on social media that I don't even know, I shouldn't let their opinions get to me honestly. It's so comforting when a creator I love can be so open and easy to relate with. ❤I used to try and fit in with tons of other girls in my highschool and it got really bad around 9th grade. Our bodies aren't meant to adapt to trends that come and go, and I think that not fitting in with trends or following those hurtful ways are the most beneficial things to do for yourself because you will eventually heal! Anyways Aki, I love your videos so much and you are just the realest creator I'm so glad I've found! ❤ You are so awesome honestly ❤💝

[@PostalDudez]

3:29 companies like that make me so angry like bsfr 💀

[@atzidraws]

Im glad you touched this topic. I've had some body image issues and social media has made it even more difficult to accept myself and my body shape. Though it's comforting being reminded that some of the things we see is just editing magic. Im glad you made a video addressing this. We're all potatoes 💜✨

[@714ShyGirl]

I've felt this so hard. Completely hit the nail Aki ❤🎉 Thank you for this!

[@imveryanxious]

i know this probably won't mean much coming from a stranger on the internet but aki you are so so so beautiful, inside and out. you're always such a joy to watch and your energy never fails to make my day. beauty standards are awful especially for us women and internet has ruined everything with filters, facetune and editing. you are so gorgeous and never let anyone tell you otherwise

[@brittm1960]

I love seeing someone who looks like me on social media (asian) and that is you. It makes me happy and I love your content and realness.

[@CyberNeo-Taoist]

7 years ago I deleted any and all of my social media accounts with exception of KZbin cause I use it for global news and long form educational deep dives and, frankly, I've never been more mentally and emotionally relaxed and at peace with myself. I wish I could go back in time and tell the younger me to not create a Facebook/Twitter/Instagram etc etc it really isn't worth it, it'll create a net negative in your life. No matter how many positives you think there are the negatives outweigh those by a pretty substantial margin

[@jesusfistus3183]

I still have social media but i never use it, so itˋs kinda the same 😂and yeah i can agree, life is so much better without the toxicity what is going on there

[@reexe.24]

EVERYONE HEAR ME OUT, Aki sounds like NARUTO WTF watch this video without looking at the screen and just listen 😳😳😳crazy I was multitasking and was like that voice sounds so familiar now I can’t unhear it😭😭😭😭

[@Kradonzorgata]

This is probably my 2n'd comment ever on any of your videos but I must say this.... "We're all potatoes" This resonated with me more than I thought it would. My Ex would call me "Her little potato" because she loved potatoes for the reason that you can literally enjoy potatoes in all kinds of ways. So in reflection, she loved me in all those different ways as well. So as us being potatoes, we're all different and delicious and unique in our own potato way. Be it french fries, chips, mashed, scalloped, twice baked or whichever other ways that a potato can be cooked. We're all special. We're all delicious. We're all unique. And we're all awesome in our own way. Thank you Aki.

[@cassandraowen9719]

Socal media is stupid. I've been watching you on and off for a year and I always thought that you were the absolute cutest and incredibly articulate. Now I am only one person, but the fact is YOU GLOW!! Like, EXTREMELY. BTW, your eyeliner is always flawless and your hair makes me swoon. Keep it up!!!

[@indiecrowarts]

Anyone who grew up seeing tumblr girls in the 2010s knows how dangerous this is, an0rexia was spiking hard and a lot of people talked about their experiences being hospitalized. I feel sad and worried that these- already pretty skinny people- feel the need to edit their bodies even thinner. I knew so many people including myself who saw these photos and felt insecure because of them, going on to develop EDs EDs destroy your health and can kill you, and I worry this will just prolong the current beauty trend we’re going downhill on. So many people are fooled by ai-art now, it’s only a matter of time before filters get so good they can roto their subjects and liquify bodies without distorting the background. With the rising desire of surgeries we may start thinking that natural bodies are unnatural and unattractive even though this trend was exacerbated by digital alteration Remember y’all, you do not exist to be attractive. Your looks do not determine your worth. Your body is built to live out your desires and nothing more. You can exist without purpose. And most of all you are loved more than you know ❤

[@fruityfroot4413]

Social media free for years now, best decision ever. I can only shake my head, but i know what body dysmorphia and peer pressure feels like, so really I just feel bad for ppl who experience that.

[@Tinyflower1]

i noped out like 10 years ago now, and most of my friends have as well (millenials, idk if its commong for us) but when i see what it turned to i am just grossed out. Its even worse now and idk how that happened, and how there is no counter culture against it like there used to be pre 2000s to everything

[@quietusplus1221]

I'm genuinely concerned about young people, and I say that as a 33 year old. Constantly having social media in their face (from the age of 10 and lower), constantly on their phone having to prove their existence.

[@ceufrscio707]

Your not alone & don't listen to them. If u compare to others you'll never win

[@dddaaa6965]

however, you should keep in mind that they might have a point.

[@imahumanperson361]

@@dddaaa6965 Depends on what the point is. I'd say a good 90% of what people say about others on social media is complete crap.

[@dddaaa6965]

@@imahumanperson361 I'm specifically talking about the girl in this video

[@imahumanperson361]

@@dddaaa6965 And what is that *point* ? Way to perpetuate the cycle, jerk. Aki literally said she does CrossFit at least three times a week. Not everyone naturally looks like a damn supermodel. She's perfectly fine the way she is. So, it seems you fall into the "90% of complete crap" category...

[@imahumanperson361]

@@dddaaa6965 Annd thus you fall under the "90% of it is complete crap" umbrella. 🤣

[@TFKNOWLSY]

Social media is just a complete cesspit. It is just full of people that have nothing better to do other than make others feel rubbish about themselves. Aki you are beautiful inside and out. Don't let how social media is make you feel otherwise! You are awesome!

[@Aemilius_Roswell]

Gonna add this bit of info I found a couple years ago doing research on social media and mental health. TikTok had a virality filter that pushed certain content depending on specific characteristics, and if someone has these, they get boosted. So, yeah, TikTok did some shitty stuff to promote body image issues with the way they even programmed their platform. This is one of the reasons I was fine with the idea of it being banned - it literally chose genetics over talent and originality. (NOTE: I don't know if this is still a thing or not - regardless it's disturbing.)

[@talzyxo]

Girl you're "not bad"... you're pretty! And each person has their different view on beauty and social media does it way too much.

[@newbie4789]

Oh. This is a relatable Aki video. My favourite 😭 I subscribed to Aki for the rare moments she posts these relatable videos. Not a lot of people can give me this much confidence for some reason.

[@misake]

I am currently ashamed of my body... postpartum... planning to get fit when I can. But yeah, these images look pretty unrealistic, it's sad that people want to look like that. If people want to go back to the 1800's clothing style of looking like tiny waist, that would be healthier because you can fake it with clothing. But at that time, apparently ads women were really edited to have a tiny waistline

[@tdelioncourt1268]

Hi! give yourself time and love, something as lifechanging as bearing life will leave marks and it's unrealistic to deny it. Keep in mind that fitness/Influencers/actresses "post partum bodies" most times involve plastic surgery (the surgery package is even called the "mommy makeover", Stephanie Lange made several videos about this).

[@misake]

@tdelioncourt1268 Thanks! I know that. I'm just comparing to other mothers. But I know it's unfair to myself as they were able to exercise pretty much right away. My baby had sleeping issues so I couldn't do much. It's been 2 years... I have PPD PPA and gained more weight because of it too. I know my issues and I know where I want to go into my weight loss journey... back to what I was. 😅 it's not super skinny, but more comfortable and more healthy self.

[@fokdit6008]

Be proud! Ur body did the most amazing thing! And every body develops differently afterwards. Don't compare urself to others for ur own happines. It took me 2 yrs to get into pre pregnant clothes. Did it in my own sweet time and in a happy state of mind. You can too! ❤

[@kadenlol3439]

there should be an obligation to put in the caption ‘fake body’ or ‘edited body’

[@straykidsfl]

i honestly think you are gorgeous! beauty standards, social media, people. now days are the problem not you or anyone else!

[@Jessiiealvarez]

Thank for this video, it’s so refreshing seeing someone talk about this

[@SeriousGamer753]

As a guy I'll give my two cents for what it's worth. Girls have it tougher because looks are so emphasized for them. But as long as you are healthy and not let yourself get disheveled, you're perfect. And you'll eventually find someone who will like you just exactly as you are. Even to this day when I look at the mirror I think to myself wtf is wrong with my girlfriend for liking THIS. But hey I'm glad she does, crazy as she is for it. Edit: Personality is so much more important as well, and you learn this as you grow older more and more. It's important you have similar goals, dreams and share similar morals. Because no matter how the other person looks good to you if at the end of the day you're constantly bickering with each other you won't last.

[@theamazingcake9690]

Definitely feel the same way-lot of degrading stuff. Wish the world (or at least the internet) was different. :(

[@mishiak]

I watched your videos when I was growing up, I've been watching your videos again recently and i'm glad you've always been down to earth 😭 so many people put unrealistic expectations on themselves and others because of these edited images, its gone WAY too far!

[@rerai5996]

Even when you look at your artwork for too long you start finding flaws. I think it's a given nothing stays perfect in our eyes and it's ok. We are forever changing. We are not paintings stuck in time

[@JulesM434]

I actively stay off social media, other than KZbin. I can say from my experience that it definitely helped me realize how much of a rabbit hole the internet really is, and outside of research, fact-checking, etc it's very limiting to the overall experience life has to offer. It's crazy that what I consider "Chronically Online" is not even close to the actual definition, it's just the norm for our generation, unfortunately. I'm sure you probably don't need to hear this but you are a very naturally beautiful person in my opinion and I appreciate your candidness in a day and age where it's dying out.

[@Tenken89]

Owning who you really are is better than editing photos to the point that they are so different to who you actually are that you basically are showing someone who doesn't exist to represent you.

[@abadenoughdude300]

Also doing this sort of thing for an internet persona is one thing but when you do it for irl purposes then you're opening yourself to some really unpleasant reactions when the cat eventually gets out of the bag. People are already mean to eachother without setting up unrealistic expectations.

[@tsumiproductions]

I've had enough men tell me I look like a man in bad casual drag. And if it wasn't for my height people would think I'm actually a dude. Social media sucks. How I got married I'll never know.

[@mattiismouse1086]

I hate that people think being skelator is peak beauty.

[@malachiroper7872]

It's not just social media. It's all media, movies, tv shows, all of it is toxic. False expectations on how everyone should or needs to look.

[@Acepilot8Gaming]

All of these reasons is why I'm glad I've started not giving a shit about social media one way or another

[@ririchannn0997]

aghhh a little bit late to this, and prob wont get seen, but thank u aki for this 🥲 social media has taken a huge toll on me for beauty standards. with the meds im on, they caused me to get weight put on and after seeing so many of these posts, it just torn down my way of viewing myself. it has taken a huge toll of mental health too and feel awful everyday because of it lol. been bullied a lot so that contributes to it too but damn its hard lol. but thank u aki for this, and ur so pretty fr mwah

[@magnetjarnlund3806]

honestly you don't change for someone else you change because you want it for yourself. If someone tells you to do something you really don't need to do it you can just state that you like to eat good food and you care more about having fun and personality than aesthetics. ofc it shouldn't be used as a excuse but for being unhealthy but you still look healthy so don't worry about it. you also have a nice personality from what I've seen online and that's the main thing that matters.

[@patty0135]

It’s like they’re trying to make anime in real life, but can’t happen without hurting yourself right

[@marilee8063]

Gurl ur so beautiful and it’s crazy to me that someone so pretty to me can feel the same way that social media makes me feel.

[@EffingFox]

I've spent a good portion of my life being told that I'm an attractive person. I've also spent a good potion of my life looking at myself and either being, way overconfident in how I look, or absolutely hating what I look like. Beauty standards are bullshit, and confidence in yourself soulsent be based on what other people think of your appearance.

[@catcaruso]

Objectively, I'm not the best looking guy. I look at these social media creatures and I feel a lot better about myself.

[@lambasted6886]

Another way to tell is to be a character artist or animator in which life drawing and anatomy is very important. You realize no one really looks like this 'acuz bones.

[@marley7659]

The internet and social media has irrevocably destroyed our brains. Our social intelligence and general intelligence has taken a major hit. Our insecurities have been elevated on social media norms and trends. Everyone should quit social media if possible.

[@pokelover02]

KZbin is technically social media

[@OwlskiTV]

This is why I practically got rid of majority of my social media during the mid-to-late 2010's, and I've been a lot better for it. For anyone struggling; What's important is for you to feel comfortable and happy in your own skin. Be the best that *you* can be, and don't try and compare yourself to unrealistic body standards. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and I can guarantee you that anyone who actually loves you will care more about you as a person, than simply just how you look.

[@KiahRenamae]

Thank you for this video Aki! Also I know you said you’re not fishing for compliments but I genuinely find you very attractive! We have similar body types and while I see you and think you’re beautiful I myself have been struggling with self acceptance. I’ve gained weight as I’ve gotten older but I reached a point where I accepted my body for what it is. It takes a lot of work to untrain those negative thoughts. And seeing someone like you helps me appreciate my own body more. Being on social media and seeing all of this stuff can put you in that mindset that you aren’t beautiful enough if you don’t look a certain way. And you MUST be beautiful! This mindset can get really dangerous. I’ve always tried to avoid those parts of social media. It’s not good for anyone’s mental health. Btw because I feel like I need to say this or else someone will misconstrue, just because I am more accepting of my body doesn’t mean I am not doing anything about it. It just means that I am not so hard on myself anymore. You can accept things as a they are and still put in work to make things for the better for yourself.

[@user-eu1rh2nm8j]

We don't live in social media world, its just 1 big anime. When I step outside, the real life characters resemble me so I don't see the problem. However, this video drips of insecurity to me ... actually never considered her to be insecure before...

[@garys5540]

Please correct me if I am wrong, but talking to my Korean friends they told me that plastic surgery is so common that many wonder how the baby is going to look when its born.

[@clichepuffoodie]

After being on social media scrolling through so many beautiful people with beautiful bodies and figure , i think this video was what i needed before i started to starve myself to get skinny ! Videos like these are so important! Thankyou for this!

[@Sydberry]

It's a scary line between editing it to make yourself feel better and to make others feel bad about their bodies... Whether people want to edit their photos or not, I just want people to keep in mind that a lot of social media is fake and they shouldn't have to feel bad about not looking like unreal people

[@sarasantos41288]

Aki thank you so much for this video! I feel the same and you bring it to the point of what's wrong with our society! 😭

[@IceBGaming]

Yesss, definitely. I feel you aki❤️ you are beautiful

[@senmeii]

I can't believe these people genuinely think this is what a human looks like ? Do they even go outside ???

[@notoriousalien]

isn't it sad how the male gaze has effected women until today? even from the beginning of film women were seen as objects. now it's just gotten worse with the rise of technology. i hate how we can try to do everything to remove these harmful expectations, barbie did amazing with that, but it just never fckin stops. these standards were literally the reason of my body dysmorphia growing up. those comments are just so sad. i remember when men were complaining that emily rudd didn't have a big enough chest to act as nami for the live action. actual bs

[@tdelioncourt1268]

That and people feeling free to comment on bodies like it is nothing, how impolite (at best) !

[@rebeccasjodal9769]

Social media is both a blessing and a curse! You are beautiful Aki❤

[@brookelynn3567]

Long before social media there's been moms and relatives telling girls they're not "photogenic" and shouldn't be in the family photos etc... self editing photos became a way to take back control of your image and participate in photo culture like everyone else.

[@WhiteWingsnBlueSkys]

Aki I love that you're revisiting that "beautify me/edit me" topic you did in the past, but trying a different angle. it is totally a relevant topic, certainly to our generation too where we grew up through the tech development and transfomation of social norms. I went through several phases of subtle body dysmorphia. I didnt credit it to online / social media when I was in highschool but now that I am almost 30 and I've looked back and now see how some of it infiltrates into one's consciousness. EDIT: I think the important thing is for us to be self-aware about what we are seeing and know that it's a lot of fake shit AND/OR BEAUTY TREATMENTS (fillers, botox, surgery etc). Don't need to hate or be bitter as it's just a waste of emotional energy.

[@f4kef4ngs]

as much as I've always been an advocate for letting people do whatever they want and whatever makes them feel good as long as it hurts no one, this stuff just isn't acceptable because it DOES hurt people and it also looks completely ridiculous. women online are demeaning themselves by falling into these standards and it's sad to see because I know it often comes from body dysmorphia created by society's horrible standards and the way that men want women to basically look like s*x dolls at all times, and then it in turn influences more women to view themselves poorly and feed into this cycle of self hatred and self objectification

[@Bloxxertildeath]

Having no standards and letting women eat as much as they want without working out because they cry about standards is also hurting them by reducing their lifespan and ability to live longer lives for their children. I agree that the surgical and medical routes to this extreme skinniness is also really unhealthy, but plenty of women who are natural and workout get bashed by unfit women.

[@f4kef4ngs]

@@Bloxxertildeath wow way to completely misinterpret my comment and show how evil and vitriolic you are! I was saying that these online beauty standards of having a freakishly unachievable body are hurting young girls and women and making them believe they have no value if they don't fit an unrealistic standard, and you somehow found a way to make it about how misogynistic and rude you are! not once did I say anything about actual health, just commented on the self image issues that lead people to be incredibly unhealthy due to depression, dysmorphia, eating disorders, anxiety, etc. absolutely incredible stuff. get some help, you sound really bitter yourself.

[@f4kef4ngs]

@@Bloxxertildeath in the same breath as supposedly "defending" fit women, you are putting down other women you made up in your head to have a strawman argument towards people you don't find attractive. go to therapy 💖

[@maisie3252]

You have always been the epitome of beauty to me. I remember I used to watch all your videos, back when you made manga and anime reviews and your wikihow tutorials. I was wayy to young to be watching you, but I truly wanted to look like you. You are so pretty to me, id used to do everything to try and look more like you. I'm older now and I still think your gorgeous ❤❤❤

[@1983simi]

The worst thing is that this development in society makes both women and men unhappy. Women because they can't realistically achieve those looks, and men because they just never meet a woman who looks like this in real life. It's an expectation that can't be fulfilled for anybody. Luckily it only really affects people who are terminally online... but sadly that's just a lot of young people.

[@zDToddy]

Most men couldn't care less

[@keynobi9258]

As a woman that spends too much on the internet, I know what beauty standars can make you feel like sometimes, but god Aki, you are just so pretty. You literally are one of the reasons I came to the realisation that I was bisexual

[@Bigfoot_With_Internet_Access]

Same, but also I'm a hairy monster living in the forest so maybe I am

[@RoryValintine]

Imma say it and Twitch as a platform has SUCH HIGH beauty standards and it's so toxic. I don't post as many selfies as a result because I'm not pretty enough on twitch for female standards that are so high up there on there.....

[@winterphuntasm]

This is exactly why I never want to show my face nor identity in social media

[@keichxn]

The consecutive laughs at around 12:13 were so funny lol

[@johnnypollack3243]

Love the video Aki keep up the awesome work and videos

[@meadowsweetstudios444]

I used to watch you all the time when I was younger (even though I probably shouldn’t have 😭), you’re the reason I discovered vocaloid and fell in love with it. I got made fun of for liking anime and vocaloid, and you made me feel a little better about it. I always thought you were so cool and I wanted to be more like you. You’re a funny person, you do a lot of cool stuff and you made a community based off what you love where people can enjoy what they like without having to worry about stupid people. I just saw this video in my recommended and your quality has improved so much since I last watched you, I’m gonna watch some of your old videos for the nostalgia after this one. I’m really proud of how far you’ve come, you’re a great content creator I’m really happy that you were the one who introduced me to vocaloid and made me appreciate who I am even if other people think I’m weird for stuff I enjoy. Keep doing what you’re doing 🫶

[@jenna-5123]

Wanted to look like u when I was a kid lol

[@zDToddy]

Now you are calling her old

[@quandaIedingIe]

@@zDToddy Everyone is old as a kid.

[@itsjuank]

Thought she knew that already

[@zamijaster]

The biggest problem is people care about social media

[@bliissade]

I don't do much social media these days but I've been feeling the pressure of just not looking conventionally attractive or pretty or anything of the sort. I take care of myself but I don't think I've ever been or felt beautiful in my life. Videos like these do remind me that the 'standard' really is an unachievable goal via editing and I really appreciate bringing more light to it. Need more of this out there. Also you're beautiful too, Aki, and there's nothing wrong with you. Everyone loves potatoes.

[@EasyCheesy233]

It's like photoshop drag

[@funkthat]

I faking hate the facetuning epidemic of japanese and korean girls. The girls i date actually look bettter in person than face tune.

[@Dancinglemon]

Drag, at least, has a long and interesting history and is full of beauty and self expression. This is if all the life and soul got sucked out of it by capitalism and left it to die twitching on the floor.

[@wesmcinerny4524]

Social media needs to die down back to its original seldom-used state.

[@JulianRodriguez-xn3uo]

we all do but its ok social media nowadays is just ads

[@Crownedkitty]

Thank you Mama Aki! As a woman who has had a kiddo, my body is not the best shape but that's because I've just birthed a child! And it's something I have to remind myself of and be kind to myself about. Social media makes it harder to do so. While some of those were obvious edits to me, half of them weren't. So thank you for pointing these out. Really helped my mental state. And incase Joey is slacking you're beautiful inside and out ❤. To anyone reading you're beautiful! 🩷🧡💛💚💙🩵💜🤎