Lessons From a Daughter of Drug Addicted Parents-October

[@fredrikbixo5316]

October is the wisest 21 year old woman I've ever heard speak.

[@AnthonyLoconte-u6w]

I agree

[@Tuxedo_Ma5k]

Simp

[@AnthonyLoconte-u6w]

@Tuxedo_Ma5k stupid reply.

[@Tuxedo_Ma5k]

@@AnthonyLoconte-u6w good one

[@SipsiBach]

I admire her clarity and understanding of the human condition.

[@susancuenin2137]

I’m a former high school teacher and it’s incredible how many kids told me about the things going on in their lives. Beatings, rapes, abuse from family and others. I hope she becomes a speaker! Kids will listen and relate.

[@audreygainsborough]

Can we just have a world-wide round of applause for October. At the ripe age of just 21-years-old, so much wisdom and maturity. I loved October's first video interview, and I love this one, too! Keep on keeping on, kid!!!

[@danyluk1]

Calm down

[@BecksssChannel]

The thing that hit me hardest was when she said her parents never forced her to do anything and allowed her the freedom of choice. It seems when we do this our children can make the right decisions for themselves. As a mother that’s my struggle. I was raised in such a strict household that I told myself I wouldn’t do that to my kids. But I also had a hard time letting go. In the end. I was super honest with them and trusted them to reciprocate that honesty. When you build that foundation of trust and understand everyone is their own person, it tends to work out well. I had drug addicted parents and I too could never say a bad word about them. They also were very honest. When you understand your parents were young just like you and are humans trying to figure out life it’s easy to give grace, forgiveness and especially respect. I wouldn’t be here without them. Same for October. She’s a true blessing. And her take away of wanting a simple life is truly the best. Wish her nothing but happiness and peace.

[@nateguy9818]

I went to school with her honestly one of the sweetest people you will meet

[@terrytownsend5583]

Liar

[@madhatter217]

There are two types of people who grow up with parents with problems, those that repeat their parents problems and those who learn from them , you are the latter so good on you , it's not easy I know, you should be proud of yourself.

[@orange222...]

I never understand that. My besties family saw their dad bleed out in front of them and they are still all alcoholics.

[@jeanroth159]

​@orange222... unfortunately sometimes children learn what they live. I followed my father's footsteps with alcohol myself. By the grace of God or my strength I was not going to put my children through the painful childhood I had and it's been years since I've drank.Its hard work but the cycle can be broken one day at a time...blessings and strength to your bestie and family ❤.

[@xXnostalgicXx]

@@orange222... It can be difficult to understand why other people make the choices that they do, people have a natural tendency to confine their perspectives inside of their own tailor made box; everything we view, our entire understanding of life is based on ourselves and our own lived experiences. The “I would never do that” mentality is a logical fallacy, considering our self, thoughts, feelings, values are simply our own, we may share common thoughts, feelings, or values as others but we are still limited by our own personal lens. “I don’t understand why” or “I would never do that” is rooted in an inability to see reality through someone else’s eyes. If I had been born into someone else’s life instead of my own, there is no possible way to know if I would have taken a different path. We only think we would because we are viewing the other person from our perspective. There are numerous internal and external factors that influence each individual person, there could be one singular event in someone’s life that completely changes their trajectory.

[@orange222...]

@@jeanroth159 thank you. Hope you continue to rise also.

[@charlottes111]

I had the same experience. (No drugs, but abuse and alcohol - both parents are/were addicted)And I’m the latter. Unfortunately my brother didn’t. His excuse was “I didn’t know any better” he died two years ago by Suicide

[@octoberhartline4849]

I feel very fortunate that Mark has created such a safe space with this channel. Thank you to everyone who took the time to listen to this and hopefully other SWU interviews as well. I appreciate y’all. ❤️

[@linajams]

Your wisdom, hope and joy is what this world needs. Hold on tight you are going to live a awesome and fulfilling life!

[@daryl399]

U are so beautiful ❤

[@daryl399]

U have Facebook??

[@jennifermesser3184]

We appreciate you so much October ❤thank you for existing & using your life to help others. The right opportunities for you will be aligning with you right about now 🙏🎈🥳

[@damjohanson]

Write. your. Book.👍 great follow up interview

[@murron20]

With her insight and wisdom, this young woman will do so much good during her lifetime!

[@lowlevelretro]

Yes.

[@OnyxBeGood]

Definitely an old soul. Introspective. Thoughtful. I like her. Dont say that much.

[@maryhaag732]

She is incredibly self aware for her young age. I believe she will have a wonderful future.

[@meganduryea6499]

I lost both parents to drugs and alcohol. Watching October’s video was sooooo helpful for me. I have learned SO MUCH from watching this channel and it’s made me a better human being. I know that I am not alone in my predicament. I am sincerely grateful for your content.

[@hillhaviland4319]

I have a very similar story and lucky for me, I also broke the cycle. I mentor young girls and live a fulfilling life. I have so much love for this girl! What a source of light and strength. An amazing young woman!

[@truesavings1988]

October kicks ass! I love her attitude and outlook on life. Very emotionally intelligent gorgeous young lady! Proud of her!

[@judytinker3392]

Her parents, no matter what they did wrong they also, raised a fantastic young woman

[@memyselfandi6303]

No. Drug addict and alcoholic parents only show you what not to be. That is it

[@letticiagonzales6657]

​@@memyselfandi6303 did you even watch the video?.. this one and her first video.

[@Abbygailbby]

She raised herself.

[@letticiagonzales6657]

i feel like the ones who replied didn't fully watch the video.. she was raised by ambitious, successful parents in a loving, albeit chaotic, environment. her parents love for her and each other was a constant presence.. there are countless videos here of people who grew up with parents and no dr*gs but also no love and they didn't fare well. all addicts are not the same just as much all squares are not the same 🤷🏽‍♀️..

[@memyselfandi6303]

@@letticiagonzales6657 yeah I admit I didn’t watch the whole video. The comment kind of triggered a response because of what I had gone through as a child.

[@priscillatellez2829]

I'm 51 and I just learned so much from a 21 year old woman. She's grace and wisdom in one ✨️

[@Destined2Recover]

I repeated the problem. My family all struggled with addiction and were in the lifestyle, but today, i'm over 3 years clean. I want to break the cycle! My kids will not be what I was or go through all the pain and suffering I went through. And continue to go through as the reprocosions of my actions in the past.

[@ivaloowilson3524]

October write your book. People not just young people need to know that there's a way to break generational trauma. You are a very insightful and inspiring young lady ✨️💜✨️

[@gabbylebrun8908]

yes I would 100% read October’s book! Such an interesting story and seemingly kind soul.

[@SugarFreeGt3]

Dang, she’s really wise for her age and looks so innocent. She is such a beautiful person!

[@xosmb]

Regardless of her parents faults and addictions, they raised an amazing human being. I know they’re looking down on October so proud of the woman she is becoming ❤

[@celticwarrior777]

Wjat you dont undersyand is its not because of what THEY DID thay makes us great people. but because of OURSELVES despite the disfunctional parents life gave us. All crrdit is on her noone else

[@NaynayOside1love]

Wise beyond words, the sweet most respectful person ever. October has a beautiful soul and I’m so blessed to call her my friend/sister.

[@octoberhartline4849]

Love you Nay❤️❤️

[@gloriamundi3906]

Oh how nice to see someone so composed and clever, taking her life in her own hands, a shining beautiful soul. May you succeed, October, whatever you decide to do in life. Very impressive.

[@jamillahbrooks597]

This Baby is So BLESSED!! She very muched needed in this WORLD 🌎 Keep going mama YOU GOT THIS!

[@kks821]

Her maturity is unmatched I just hope she makes good choices because she deserves a easy life

[@KimTulipFinlay]

Simple living high thinking. What a beautiful soul 🖤

[@SuperBruce53]

What an uplifting interview. Proud of her

[@bettelousnell6795]

I would love to read that book Advocacy would be great.

[@Mike-gd4zd]

I am the child of a drug addict too (ACOA’s). We are some of the most resilient young people you will ever meet. My dad was a heroin addict and I’ve been estranged from him for 5 years whilst also being the parent to my mother. It has had a very damaging impact on my intimacy and relationships however. A lot of praise should be allocated to grandparents for being surrogate parents too.

[@Freddybender123]

That’s me I’m the surrogate mother for my granddaughter my daughter is now in prison cause of drugs 😢

[@monkeypot7641]

October is just SO WISE for her age....love her❤

[@roel.vinckens]

A breath of fresh air. We will be waiting on that book. And get her talking to kids already!

[@adhdminister]

21 and so wise, she is a joy to watch and listen

[@dezaraewynn5990]

From stranger to stranger, she is one of the most kind hearted, wisest women I have ever heard speak, especially on a platform. I am so proud of how far she has come, she has so much ahead of her!

[@RachelTsTime]

I’m 33 and a RECOVERING alcoholic addict. I had undiagnosed depression and anxiety I was trying to handle alone, then started drinking at 19 and that just made the depression worse and started slowly. I was self medicating and didn’t realize then. Now I workout every morning -around brunch- after a coffee. I have structure and I’m fucking happy. Exercise was something I never felt I needed because I had an average body type and wasn’t overweight. I thought I was just lucky lmao 😅 quite the opposite it turns out. She’s so right about losing everything in this video. I had a house, I had multiple promotions, I was functioning. But addiction is a progressive disease and I highly recommend getting help (literally ask for help) because you deserve to be the best version of yourself ❤ excellent speaker ❤ I hope she gets to speak at schools

[@charliemiller1934]

A simpler life is the answer to everything. Mental health and just being still are very important. I have been to hell and back and what I have learned is that being your own best friend and care taker is the foundation we all need. You are strong and wise and careful, being mindful is your compass. Good Luck October (my birth month too).

[@wendy9629]

This young lady seems to have a good head on hef shoulders ! Ill pray she stays on this path of life , may god bless her ❤

[@diannh2894]

As a person about to be a mother, I love this girl.

[@jennifermesser3184]

21 going on 51 (maturity mentally) 😮 You’re an amazing person October!! You are doing and will continue to do life changing positive work for others , the world needs many more people like you ❤️🙏

[@sarahhayes861]

This you lady has such a good perspective. One hundred percent agree with a simple life is a best life.

[@nicolemackenzie9869]

I am just so taken by how mature and wise you are. Your parents would be proud of the young woman you have become. I think taking your life experience and speaking to youth in schools would be very cathartic and fulfilling. Again so glad to hear how you are getting on❤

[@r.a.4498]

So nice to see someone so young tap into the right vibe…. So very proud of you. You’ll always end up end up!

[@letticiagonzales6657]

i saw a comment on a different channel that said "we need to give our children a childhood they won't need to heal from" and that hit me square in the chest.. through and above all the shit, October was truly loved and that love is her solid ground. i'm so far from a perfect anything but i hope if nothing else that as a mother i'm giving my daughter that.. October write your book.. and tell your story to as many people as possible because there are so many people who need to hear it 🙏🏽💜.

[@andreahodge7430]

I’m so proud off the woman she has become. My daughter used to play with October at the tattoo shop . Her dad worked for her parents. Sadly he passed away as well this August.2024. She’s right her parents loved her more than they loved themselves. October…Keep bringing awareness into this world kiddo.You are on the right path.I really wish you and Madilyn could reconnect.Sending you good vibes 🤘🎸🎃❤

[@andreahodge7430]

Madi just told me that you guys have spoke and it meant the world to her. Thank you for reaching out to her!!!!

[@octoberhartline4849]

Thank you so much for all the kindness and support ❤❤

[@celticwarrior777]

If hwr parents loved her more than themselves they epuldnt have been addicts its selfish

[@MariaEOD]

Living a simpler life will reduce stress, sometimes. Take care of yourself as best as you can, there is no second act!

[@edwardsisson3580]

i watched her interview a couple days ago, was very compelling. Glad to see her back. Good luck October, you got this !

[@1428monsterdrink]

This young lady is going to go FAR! Im 29 and her and I seem the same age. Im sorry her parents passed and they seemed like great people. October you inspire me ❤️

[@celticwarrior777]

Shes 21

[@rockzalt]

A marriage councilor once said there is a spectrum. You can have parents that are messed up drug addicts and their children seem to raise themselves up as responsible adults and you can have two stable well intentioned parents and their child is constantly in prison.

[@margo_gogo]

Very true.

[@demetriasalazar7915]

This is one of the better most inspiring stories that I've seen on SWU.. ❤.

[@noramay4954]

Someone help her with her book! I wish I could write a book as well but don't know where to start. Genuinely my story is almost the opposite of hers but led with drugs, alcohol, mental health issues, travel and losing my parents. I love what you're trying to do October. I have faith that you will get there. Speak in those schools. Write that book! You are a beautiful person, in and out.

[@maggiemolly111]

“October” suits her perfectly. She looks like a beautiful autumn day. ❤

[@Poemmasbyemma]

That was such a beautiful thing to say ❤️❤️❤️🥰

[@sugarsore]

She is stunning.

[@Princess-Jellyfish]

its such a cute name

[@mikoajmiklasz9689]

Wow, what a comment!

[@tataja011]

Love this!!! ❤

[@teokastelan2930]

This is important conversation. There is so many addictions today.

[@michelesabatello4783]

October is a wise, wonderful soul. I work the ACOA (Adult Children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families). It is teaching me much of what she speaks about.

[@suzannehatton8482]

Thank you. As a victim of child sexual abuse also and who didn’t tell anyone until I was 40, I would say this is absolutely correct!

[@susancole4687]

Meeee too!

[@emceestretch6087]

She is so smart. what a lovely soul. I feel like I'm listening to a replay of what I went throughthis week. second time in rehab..alcohol is poison. 30 yrs old and trying to get on a transplant list. best wishes to you young lady.

[@octoberhartline4849]

Rooting for you and your recovery❤

[@celticwarrior777]

Aw really a liver transplant you need? Your still drinking?

[@trialgoddess]

This young woman is remarkable. She is dealing with her childhood trauma and is evolving in such a healthy way. I applaud her willingness to transform herself, omitting the negative influences of her parents...yet she loves her parents and objectively recognizes that they struggled, too. I am confident she will attain her goals with great success 😊❤. Kudos to October!!!

[@JoyPaul-pe7ij]

Wise beyond her years, so well spoken. What a lovely young lady. I wish her the best ❤

[@tracysmith9884]

October, you are the best parts of your parents. They would be so proud of you. Please keep putting yourself first and achieving your goals. We are cheering you on from Tennessee! ❤️

[@octoberhartline4849]

Thank you so much❤️ means a lot to me

[@Jallmush]

What a delightful smart and strong young women. Great interviews!

[@surfer19541]

This young lady is so mature and such an inspiration. Her goal of wanting to go into schools is commendable. I really hope she pursues that goal because there is such a need for kids to hear what she has to say. I wish you the best. The world is a better place because of young people. like yourself.

[@ow3wells]

What an intelligent young woman, if more people take out time to focus on improving themselves, society as a whole would be a lot better.

[@disturbthesilenc6185]

You have wisdom beyond your years...community is number one for mental health but every one is very separated and isolated. You would be a great therapist to our society, with your experience.

[@gavinreynolds9216]

The best interview yet, prevention is better than cure! She's so awake!

[@dbc.ash.]

DBC..Daily Blessings Coming! .. Thank You ALL for Everything Everyday!! ... The GOOD, the Bad, Happy & Sad. I BELIEVE EVERYTHING Happens for a Reason and we're BLESSED EVERYDAY!! ... Lost my Mother to Murder, Lost my Cousin to suic...Lost my Uncle, Aunt and GF to ALCOHOL and Haven't Lost my Grandparents Yet, but the TIME is Coming SOON! I'M NOT READY TO BE ALONE!..... PRAY FOR ME! I PRAY FOR Y'all.... WE ALL Hurting in PAIN and Don't Want to be ALONE! ...

[@duggadugga6435]

It's good to see you doing well, October. Your parents were incredible people, despite their struggles. I miss them very much.

[@kelleennordquist5697]

October you're such an awesome young woman. Your outlook on life is inspiring. You're forgiving, brave, loving, ambitious, and i wish you so much luck and blessings for your future. You're the epitome of what it means to THRIVE.

[@fleurcoremans9828]

Such a bright, intelligent and humble soul.....thanks girl! And Mark of course ❤

[@chuchaftw]

Great to see her again! I remember so clearly what I was doing the day I heard her video. She’s a total badass!!

[@JenniferBarrie]

i have two parents who died from addiction.. as well as a brother struggling with active addiction. i had a mental break feeling so alone… fell off a bit with mental health but was able to seek help and build myself back up. october is a perfect reminder no matter what you’ve been through or going through… as long as you put your best effort in you will succeed. i so needed to hear the gym/sport outlet!! wishing you all the success in life october, i know for a fact just because of the head on your shoulders the opportunities are endless!

[@Thehonestruth]

What a wise young lady. Best of luck with your life. You deserve so much happiness and steadiness in your life ❤

[@annette9150]

Remarkable self awareness, October you’re a Godsend ! I’m happy Mark and you crossed paths!

[@Nessa_97]

Thank you for this interview Mark. I really needed to hear this message tonight. God bless you

[@bethe.2489]

She’s Gorgeous and so so smart. I am so grateful to God that somehow I stumbled across this video. Myself and my ex-husband were in active addiction for approximately 4 years (our sons were in 8th grade and a Sophmore in H.S. when we started using) and they were seriously hurt and heartbroken. Eventually we both got clean and sober and gave both been clean & sober for 24years now….even though they have grown up with families of their own and have forgiven us both it breaks my heart that these innocent children are subjected to have to endure the he** they’ve been put through. I am so thrilled that this beautiful young lady has made great choices for herself and can have the life she’s always deserved…….Shes incredibly smart.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@celticwarrior777]

Yes its hell for those kids

[@Madisson-p3y]

went to high school with October and it has been beautiful watching her grow and thrive through all of these obstacles that have been thrown at her. We are all rooting for you back home October!! 💜💜

[@StubbyBoardman-h5e]

October’s first interview has been a story that’s stuck in my head since I first watched it. Thank you for following up with this amazing woman! ❤️

[@baileesanders9057]

Such a genuine amazing person she is. Gives me chills and makes me so emotional

[@brooke.so.scorpio5266]

I relate to this so much. I also seriously want to write a book on my parent’s addiction. I always said I learned from their mistakes. They never told me I can’t do something (unless it involved them giving me money). I was blind to what was happening around me and when I found out I simply didn’t know what to do. My parents suffer from mental health issues. I told my mother I forgive her for what she did because I know she was suffering and only wanted to escape their trauma. We have to break the cycle.

[@brooke.so.scorpio5266]

Even to this day I still don’t feel 100% loved and supported and it only makes life harder. My parents are great people but the drugs took them away.

[@celticwarrior777]

Sadly many do it becauae they self meducate to numb their lifr because they cant cope

[@onlinedanielle]

she is so incredibly emotionally intelligent and self aware 🤍

[@agev8016]

She is an inspiration and I was wondering when you were going to have her back. So wonderful to see a success. She will be amazing at whatever she choses to do in her life. Such a great role model when we are living in a world with so few of them any more.

[@octoberhartline4849]

This means a lot thank you❤

[@judynorman9497]

She is wise beyond her years, good for her!

[@mwhite6226]

Sadly in my law enforcement career I’ve seen lifetimes affected by addiction & kids growing up sooner than they had to at the cost of their childhood. Some themselves fell into addiction & others remained steadfast in their goals & betterment of their lives. Glad to see October learned & grew for the mistakes of her parents & her own mistakes. Onward & Upward.

[@Joshualuv13]

This young lady is a child her parents would be so proud of..Wise beyond her years ,of course.Shes going to go on to help a lot of people on a broader scale ,we could all take a lesson from her..Please keep going with your book..I know I will be buying a copy .

[@TTXX455]

Wow. October, you impress me with your wisdom and insight. ❤

[@sistersincharge]

Thank you for your channel Mark Laita. This young girl is amazing her parents must be so proud in their spirit form.

[@JamesCalhoun777]

October has a great outlook on life, and very inspirational.

[@carolyn1439ll]

I’m so glad to see her. Her story is one that stuck with me❤

[@briannatramm3818]

You are AMAZING and a true inspiration! Thank you for sharing your story and being an advocate - we need more pure souls like you in this world.

[@mylifecap]

She's going to be just fine,❤❤❤ thank you, Mark.

[@ElisabethEriksen63]

I was the first to press like. I knew it will be good after hear her first sentence. It was sincere and genuine. 🤗 Greetings from Oslo, Norway🇳🇴

[@Sweptaway1976]

Octobre is a wise, young human being. Good luck to you!

[@sarahf76]

Keep going October. One day at a time. I watched your first interview and it blew me away - powerful on a lot of levels. You are going to be just fine.

[@celticwarrior777]

Ill need to go watch

[@KimmyGibson]

What a beautiful, confident, self aware young lady. I'd be interested to know how much she'd be 'allowed' to speak about in a school ... how much would she be censored.

[@KimTulipFinlay]

Love and light from Cape Town South Africa 🌍

[@chicovicente2845]

Awe

[@limagudgeon4654]

You guys still have light over there? I heard rats keep chewing through the wiring

[@chicovicente2845]

@@limagudgeon4654 Maybe it's time to check your sources mate, not even close

[@murderycatdoll1380]

She would be a super great edition to soft white underbelly...she is so lovely, and her way of seeing things...what a GEM! She is perfect for the road she wants to go!!! She WILL help people ❤❤

[@darbydavenport]

I love her message! Thank You

[@TaterTots380]

What a smart and beautiful young lady.

[@ginahall5805]

October in wise beyond her years! She is meant to help others 🙏🏽

[@1011-s7d]

Writing a book....just write and if it becomes a book that's good. If it doesn't that's good. No pressure. Just write, it's cathartic.

[@midlyinteresting]

What a Gem she is. We need more young people like her. I'm so sorry you lost your parents darling. You keep your head up and I know you will be doing great things.

[@mamalovetarot777]

Bruhhhh! The community she's talking about was like Dreamcatcher. It was a youth center for ages 13-18 free beds, food, resources, counseling, gardening art and baking activities. It was a wellness center open from noon to 7pm. I was a shelter counselor.

[@HottSundae]

I wish I had that growing up seriously

[@hammernails7393]

You nailed it Mark. I remember being 13 and thinking “if I ever have children I would never make them feel this” and I didn’t. Not saying I was perfect, but I made her feel love.

[@farrell44]

So great seeing her back! So happy she’s doing well and things are working out perfectly for her! Keep on killin it October 🙌🏽

[@BarberShoes47]

I appreciated the grace that she extended to her parents...I believe most addict parents would want their child/ren to view them this way