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[@danieldroukis5431]

I lost my wife of 37 years last year in January so I have lived alone in Japan for about 15 months. I don't mind being alone. The only problem I have is that I miss my wife so much.

[@miketheyunggod2534]

I lost my wife last May. Less than a year before her retirement. 😔.

[@tessnelson6059]

I miss my husband so much too.😢😢

[@julieburkhardt61]

Sending you all my condolences.❤

[@RetirementTransformed]

I am sorry for your loss. It must be hard.

[@debbiedebbie9473]

I'm sorry. ❤

[@suethomas5387]

I have lived alone for going on 6 years. I LOVE it. I do not get lonely, I did have a dog until last year. He passed away. That took awile to get used to, I still have my moments with that. I am going to be 63 this month, I retired from factory work when I was 60. I live comfortably. I also live in a 1-room cabin by choice. I really am enjoying being alone. I am divorced not widowed. So I do want to be alone.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Good for you for having this clarity in your life. Thanks for sharing this.

[@almoemason]

I wish I had the courage to downsize. Just go live on my boat full time..

[@sarahbryant3172]

I lost my husband 9 years ago, but since that time my life has evolved so much. I started traveling internationally after hubby died and have truly embraced it. I love the freedom of being alone, but sometimes hate not having someone to talk to. I just retired in Feb. and looking forward to traveling the world.

[@RetirementTransformed]

That sounds great!

[@jazziblack8676]

I'm 60, never married, never lived with anyone. So SOLO IS ALL I KNOW!! Unless my prince charming finds me real soon, living solo in retirement will be easy-peasy!

[@RetirementTransformed]

Good outlook and thank you for leaving this comment.

[@heidikamrath1951]

Sixty-two in a couple days and SAME!

[@johnnash4797]

I have been alone most of my life since 18. Married 7 years in my 30’s. Lots of friends. No children. Have traveled a lot already. Motorcycle touring for 50 years Canada, USA & Europe.Being independent the majority of my life so far & I don’t need to live with someone to be happy, I’m self sufficient.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Good for you! Thanks for sharing

[@susannegiesen2114]

I lost my love 9 years ago. I still miss him so much. Send all my best wishes and my deep condolences to all of you who have also to go through this. Prayers from Germany 🙏🍀

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you for this comment. Very heartfelt and much needed for many

[@curlingacs1]

I have been solo for almost 25 years since my husband died. I didn’t retire until December 31, 2023. Right before the pandemic shut everything down, I moved to the EL Paso area from Yuma, AZ. I love my independence. But when I moved , I had to create a whole new social network which was getting involved in church activities. My dog keeps me walking every day. I am 77 and realizing that I only have a few good years to travel so have signed up with Road Scholar for trips to Alaska , Costa Rica. Also looking at a cruise with them in January 2025 to Greece. I have been vegetarian for almost 50 years. See dentist every 6 months. See my primary physician and eye doctor every year. Maintaining my weight seems to be getting harder every year. I have thrived being solo. You have given lots of good info. I actually am a techie myself😊

[@RetirementTransformed]

This is great. Thank you for sharing this lifestyle with us. It may inspire others as well.

[@Jane5720]

It’s a mixed bag, it can be lonely. Two or three days alone is nothing because you know your partner is coming back when it runs into days and weeks and months and years. It’s a totally new ball game.

[@RetirementTransformed]

I can only imagine. Thank you for sharing.

[@MsLinda165]

We are whatever we make up our mind to be. Each day is a new day to choose.

[@cindyfreihofer2093]

Yes, your comment about the both of you in the future being alone for two or three days and comparing that to being alone, was an uninformed comment. Knowing your person will be back in no way compares to being alone on a permanent basis.

[@sueschoers4974]

My advise for anyone thats single is re-imagine of what a relationship is. I have been with my partner for 11years, we dont live together and will never marry but our families see us as a couple and we envisage being together until one of us passes away. We travel together but also each have our own friends and hobbies. We both enjoy our independence and but share the expenses of dating. When we travel we create a 'kitty' and put in equal money into it for our expenses, when we are together the outing comes out of the kitty, if we do things independently we pay for it out of our own pocket. At the end of the trip we divide any money thats left over. I call our relationship 'independent togetherness'. I get the best of him and he gets the best of me without any resentment for either of us.

[@RetirementTransformed]

This is amazing! Thank you for sharing this concept with all of us!

[@almoemason]

What happens if you leave the toilet seat up?

[@Cappy609]

I’ve been alone for over 20 years. I’m 76 years old. I’m divorced twice and I have never met another woman who I wanted to be with long term. I haven’t dated anyone in over 10 years. Dating at this age is hard. I’m super active. But it’s very difficult to meet new friends. Jody is right. Mark, you don’t have a clue.

[@MeeMee-qt7ww]

Same as you.two very short term marriages, lived alone for 25 Years and actually love it, so true very hard to find a suitable friend of the opposite sex in your 70s. Concentrating on maintaining good health is so important though to stay happy. Living alone you learn not to be codependent.

[@Good-DaySunshine]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@RetirementTransformed]

I guess according to you and Jody I don’t have a clue. I’ll have to watch this again to see what I am missing.

[@Good-DaySunshine]

@@RetirementTransformed I don't think that, I was laughing at his bold statement. Hope he was just being humorous- that's the way I took it.

[@stevenoliver7120]

There's always Thailand. Just take your time when you meet someone, which you most definitely will. Many locals will think of you as rich and some will take advantage.

[@cherlgolja5402]

Men are so funny , they don’t like being alone ! Women are so much capable at this journey thank God 😊

[@RetirementTransformed]

Well I don’t like being alone for sure! Mark

[@sharonchristensen5753]

He doesn’t have a clue when you live a long time without your mate. He doesn’t get it. He said he can’t do it. He doesn’t get it. It’s hard it’s hard every day even if it’s been years it’s still hard don’t tell me to journal I don’t want to remember none of it.❤

[@RetirementTransformed]

You are right. I don’t get it. Right now I have Jody and frankly don’t know what I would do if I was alone. We have been asked to do more videos on solo retirement so we listened and made one. We will probably do more. And many solo retirees love it. I hope you were not offended!

[@eugeniebreida1583]

If you are not looking down the barrel of solo (til death) you two are not qualified to speak on this topic. Yes, you can/should interview Single seniors, esp those who were not recently/never married.

[@sharonchristensen5753]

@@RetirementTransformed No I’m not my friend lives in Sioux Falls. She didn’t understand anything of what I had gone through until she lost her own husband to cancer but mine wasn’t like that he went missing for over 2 1/2 months and we look for him every day and I wrote about it in a journal, so I won’t be writing about that anymore, my son tells me to leave it alone. It was a bad time and we got cheated. Hope to see him again when the Earth is being made new, I do appreciate your videos.

[@thecollegedean]

I've been single after being married twice and two co-habitations. It's taken me the past 7 years to realize that needed to be very happy with myself so that I could be a better partner. Now I'm finding nearing the age of 65 I'm at peace doing things by myself but I would be lying if I didn't tell you at certain times of the year when it's Christmas, New Year's Thanksgiving etc that one does not feel profoundly lonely when you're trying to do it by yourself. By the way I'm very active in my work and I even volunteer in several areas so finding groups to hang out with is not a problem. It's not having that significant other that it creates a hollowness that most of us, if we were honest, would agree is an issue.

[@RetirementTransformed]

I’m sorry you find yourself lonely at times. Make sure during these times you find people to be with. Family or close friends.

[@stephaniecampbell6811]

I have lived alone for the last 40 years. And I'm in my 60s. Wouldn't trade it for the world. I don't have to live up to others expectations daily. When I want to be around people I have many opportunities to do that.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Good for you and thank you for leaving this comment

[@acajudi100]

I LOVE LIVING ALONE. I AM AN ONLY CHILD. A friend is a gift, you give yourself. Alone is not lonely. I am the BOSS and I love it.

[@RetirementTransformed]

This is a great perspective. Thank you

[@lindadorman2869]

Malaysia's My Second Home Program (MM2H) changed in the last year and it's not as attractive for retirees anymore. The long-term visa is expensive and takes many months to get approved. Malaysia is still a great place to visit or live part-time...lots to see and do, easy to get around on your own, English-speaking, high quality healthcare, affordable housing and modern conveniences. Also, there is a strong expat community in Penang.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thanks for this update!

[@danieldunton5080]

Your wonderful ideas are great for the “younger” new retiree. Things are much different (which you have yet to discover) after one passes 70. Running groups? Boot camps? Not really. Classes and maintenance exercise at a gym, yes. Intense physical activity, not usually. Ten busy hours every day? Perhaps between 60 and 70, but after 75 not so much. These are not excuses. This is a reality you will face eventually. I am 83 now and still live independently in a 55+ community. However, every year or two there is another new limitation to adjust to. I am every bit and more as healthy as my doctor expects. In face, I far exceed my doctor’s expectations. But there is no way I can still accomplish at the level someone your age does.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you for your thoughts. And yes as we age we will slow down, but we are keeping as active as we can, as long as we can. I also notice changes in my body as I age, but I just keep pushing through as best as I can.

[@eusews]

I am currently 79 and lost my husband of almost 36 years 19 years ago. However I still had and was living with my parents, by my husband’s choice. I had to help Mom take care of my Dad who had Alzheimer’s. My church had a singles group which I joined in with activities and a couple of us would call and get together. I have changed my living situation and also towns, so my church has changed, but there too are some single that we have come together to do some things and trying to help in weaker areas of our lives. I also had youngsters who wanted a Grandparent close by so they adopted me. I love those 3 boys along with the others who just kind of adopted me, and I never had children. I do have nieces and great nieces and nephews. My advice is stay involved as much as you can along with finding the humor in life, never mind all the bad news these days. I have no telling how many years ahead of me so I am determined to enjoy them as much as I can, not putting myself into situations where I can knowingly catch something that can make me ill. Enjoy your day one at a time.

[@RetirementTransformed]

This is such a wonderful comment. Thank you for sharing, you touch on so many things we talk about in our videos.

[@almoemason]

After forty five years of noise and nagging I'm ready for some peace and quiet. If it's the box in the ground, or living alone, either way I'm ready.

[@RetirementTransformed]

I hope you don’t mean that! There must be some part of your life that brings a smile to your face.

[@almoemason]

@@RetirementTransformed Some times my wife goes to stay with her daughter from her first marriage for a couple of weeks.

[@donnaengland3629]

I’m solo because I lost my husband almost 3 years ago. I’ve been doing many of the things you suggested, and overall consider myself happy. The biggest challenge is finding a social network/friends. I’m only 65 so most everyone I know is still coupled up and I live in a rather rural area so there aren’t as many opportunities for any sort of social interaction. I love my location, but am considering a move at some point because of the isolation. I won’t lie, it’s lonely even though I stay active and as involved as I’ve figured out to be.

[@deded1057]

Yes, rural living has challenges that are difficult to understand if you haven't lived truly rural for any length of time. I getcha! My town is less than 100 ppl and 20+ miles to next town, which isn't much larger. I getcha!

[@julieburkhardt61]

I understand! my husband is still living and we live in a rural area. It's hard to find friends, let alone friends that are on a similar path. I'm readyto move somewhere with more amenities and the possibility of a larger friend pool.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Yes living in a rural area alone has its downside. Several others have commented that you may move where there are more people. That is not always an opinion but I guess worth investigating

[@donnaengland3629]

@@RetirementTransformed That is my plan within the next 10 years. I want to be somewhere that’s very walkable-shopping, restaurants, maybe even healthcare so as driving gets more challenging, I still have options.

[@JodyDube]

This topic goes hand in hand with the mistaken attitude (at any age) that a partner/spouse 'completes' you. At any age we are all whole and valid by ourselves.. Aside from the possible feelings of loss and mourning the loss of a loved one, however you may find yourself a solo act, a reasonable response to living alone is "woohoo! I'm free!!"

[@RetirementTransformed]

I agree that we must have a personal identity and not be too dependent on the other person. Having said that Jody and I are intertwined in many ways and it would be hard be be apart for a long time. We are long life companions

[@seanmccann2790]

I'm 63, I live alone and am at a point where I am so content being on my own. Luckily, I have a good social network, my kids all live with in 30 minutes, I'm in good health and I am also financially independent.. I don''t take any of this for granted, I really feel blessed. In saying that, I do have lonely moments, but I see too often, friends having to deal with emotional costs and financial costs when things don't work out.. I never want to be in that position, not at my age... Living alone is bliss.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Good for you. Thank you for sharing.

[@karensmith4991]

I’m struggling with this video and the credibility. Like Jody said it’s hard when you don’t walk in our shoes. I live alone and I am 63. I ended up in divorce 10 years ago … first 5 years absolutely hard. However now I love my life .. I had to go through the grief and pain but I’ve come out the other side. I agree you need to establish trusted advisors and yes establish your community. Those two things are the building blocks of your life!!! Enjoy it … a great road!

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you for your comment. We do not have the experience of living alone. Based on the comments everyone does their own way. We hoped by doing this video it may give some people ideas on wha they can do if they feel stuck. Many of our subscribers are solo retirees and ask us to do more in this area. We appreciate you being here and letting all of us know your thoughts.

[@lindadorman2869]

Also with regard to Malaysia, there are several immigration programs - 1) MM2H for peninsular (Western) Malaysia, 2) Sarawak MM2H and 3) Sabah MM2H. Each has different features and criteria. If anyone is interested in moving to Malaysia, I recommend contacting a local agent who can explain the programs and manage the process for you.

[@MrWaterbugdesign]

Moving in 2025 to SE Asia. Many choices. Malaysia looks good to me.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you for leaving this comment

[@barbarasummers280]

I wanted to live alone, yet my son needed a roommate, so I came here to live with him and his 2 buddies, it has been unique, wonderful and a bit of a pain, but I still would like my own place.

[@RetirementTransformed]

That sounds like fun. Make sure you take care of your needs too.

[@debbiedorsey2371]

Excellent video! Thank you so much for all the advice!

[@RetirementTransformed]

Glad it was helpful!

[@raypreis]

I love you guys. You are like that favorite aunt and uncle that we all enjoy sitting with as they tell us about life in general!

[@RetirementTransformed]

That is so sweet of you to say. Thank you

[@raypreis]

@@RetirementTransformed You are very welcome!

[@sharonchristensen5753]

Yes if I can do it and live by myself anybody can so my husband passed away in a bad accident and I was 53 he was 56 and I’m drawn his Social Security and his other benefits. I miss him all the time but in honor of his memory, I’ve always been moving on every day I don’t quit moving, my kids are grounded. I’ve gotten used to let me by myself now I eat when I want I get up early I go for a walk do my stretches make something to eat eat two meals a day I try not to go down that road feel like I got cheatedbecause we kind of did but I can’t go back and do anything over. I go out to eat by myself or go with my friend I go to the show by myself I promised him might go on if anything ever happened and I am love your channel.❤

[@RetirementTransformed]

What a lovely way to honor your husband! Thank you for sharing this.

[@wilmapinela182]

Im 63 and I must say I do enjoy my space and privacy however many times I feel lonely and come to realize it would be nice to have a companion to have dinners with, outdoor activities, movies etc. Tired of being alone.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Keep looking for a companion and friends. You never know when that new friendship can blossom into something more.

[@Sunshine-fy4fz]

Found myself living alone after 35 years of marriage - midlife crisis (not mine) ended our marriage. Then covid hit and my adult son came to live with me when they closed the college dorms and so now I'm not alone but don't feel I have the freedom to explore my newfound-single status. And it's hard to find time with friends, old and new, who are all married and don't want to take time away from their SO in the evenings or weekends. I get it, but it adds to my loneliness and feeling valued when I'm "second best" in their lives now. I did live alone for a year while kids were away at college, and just when I was getting used to finding a new routine (hiking, reading, painting...) covid hit and changed everything. Feeling defeated.

[@RetirementTransformed]

I’m sorry that you feel defeated. I don’t know enough about your situation but maybe some boundaries at home with your son so you can have some privacy. But more importantly, try and ease back into the life you led pre Covid. Hiking, reading and painting. Building a community is so important.

[@jon462005]

I am 77 my wife passed away 2 years ago. this last winter i traveled to Florida in my Camper. i have found out traveling pulling my home is not the same without my partner next to me. Did this winter got into a rental cottage at a 55 community. can leave belongings in the cottage during the summer and can return without my camper. then i can just drive my truck back and forth and also take the Auto train. will leave the camper up north, Last summer i stayed in my camp that my wife loved, but it is 2 hours from my kids. too far for them to come down to see me so i am going to park the camper at a campground closer to where they live. And sell my camp. just to get my camper back up north.

[@MrWaterbugdesign]

If you want to travel with a partner it's easy to find a partner in SE Asia.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you for this comment. There are lots of campers down here in Florida and we know a few that leave the camper here and fly back up north for the summer.

[@karendavis491]

@@MrWaterbugdesign There are plenty of partners here in the US, no need to go to Asia!

[@momentswithmitch5053]

Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought I would be living alone at age 58 my I've been alone for 16 years.

[@RetirementTransformed]

I hope you are doing well and have a community for friends to support you.

[@susansmith9318]

I just found this channel ! Im enjoying all the different topics! Jody sorry for the loss of your mother. I lost my husband from Pancreatic cancer and it's a nasty cancer as well as all cancers. We were married 33 years he was 56. Im 6 years out and have learned a lot about myself in these 6 years. You have wonderful ideas to get back out there and meeting new people. Thanks for the great content.

[@RetirementTransformed]

We are sorry about your loss as well and appreciate that you are here.

[@amywatson7125]

being alone is great for me. No one else making messes or demands. I do what I want, when I want. The down sides? Sometimes nice to have dinner with someone or to bounce ideas off of. Remember, you always have time. If something is truly important, you will make time for it

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you @amywatson7125 for this comment.

[@superman9772]

solo living... that's me... i live in a hollar out past the last briar patch in nowhere usa... i really like it but realize my lifestyle is not for everyone... there are pros and cons to it... one thing is kinda important is financial planning, the pro side is that you can adjust your own risk with your investments without a partner's concerns and the con side is that you can adjust your financial risk without another's input... study your variables carefully... anyway, plan your retirement BEFORE you retire and prepare yourself for a culture shock (partnered or solo) ... waking up one day without a career or job is kinda different... plan it and follow your plan.... and no matter what your circumstances are make the best of every day... remember that happiness comes from inside of you (i think Jesus said that best so maybe read a famous book that's about Him)...

[@RetirementTransformed]

Great comment. Thank you. And yes what a great book!

[@masterlee4370]

I absolutely love Florida. In my younger days I would go as many as 3 times in a summer. I also believe if you love something just do it regardless of whether you are single or not, like painting. Now some people will also get a pet for some companionship. A dog for instance will love you unconditionally. I have 3, all rescues. They become a part of your family, like I am sure Ruby has. Don't forget to give her lots of love too. "Great Video" The Cajun Ninja's Dad.

[@RetirementTransformed]

I totally agree! We love our Ruby and as you said she gives us unconditional love all day

[@MarkGraham-rd5td]

I have been living alone for about 30 years. One thing that,I have a problem ,is I'm very hard of hearing SoIhave problem making friends Now that I'm 66 years old .I found a church that I really like. Three always stuff going on. Like Wednesday there dinner and Bible study . And we have alot of fun.Now ,I do alot of canning and dehydration thru the summer .plus I grow alot of berry's and other vegetables. Now I'm cleaning out the things that I don't want. Thru out the house . Less is more. I trying to buy things I need .Not want. Plus I'm trying not to buy throw away items ,like paper towels are other stuff. I'm Mark. Have a good day

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you for sharing this!

[@deded1057]

I like Mark's suggestion if throwing the anchor overboard and living your best life 🤣😂 😉

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you!

[@tammyjacobs2407]

come back when you are alone . you both seem nice, do you have another subject you actually live ?

[@RetirementTransformed]

Not sure what you mean. But we are happy you are here.

[@barbiec4312]

“What’s for dinner?” Is a forbidden question in our house. I do all the cooking and you’ll get something good. I just didn’t want to have to answer that question for the rest of my life. 23 years in and we’re both happy.

[@RetirementTransformed]

lol. I’m sure you are a good cook and prepare great meals.

[@peterkim5956]

I retired at 47 in 2014 and moved to Baja Mexico, alone. The move tripled my retirement savings, figuratively speaking, because the cost of living is about a third of the cost in San Diego, CA, where I had moved from. I bought a house outright in a resort community that hugs the Pacific coast with 27 hole golf course and 24 hour security. (A similar home would set me back USD 3M in San Diego) My fixed expenses are just under USD 300 a month, relieving me of any financial concerns. It is an enclave of American expats with many community activities throughout the year to bring the people together. I live alone and enjoy my company. I stay pretty busy by running a small business in town. I enjoy my aloneness and totally embrace the benefits/costs that come with it!!! I am not seeking out friends/companion quite yet, although I may in the future. I am planning on traveling extensively alone for several months out of the year while I have my youth and health. As a CPA, I tend to quantify everything, including relationships, and I have not found someone who can provide me with benefits that exceed the costs.😢

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you for this. Sounds like a fun life. I hope you can find that someone one day. Don't give up!

[@maryjoan4128]

Having Faith is HUGE and time to work on your faith,, I think its important to go through the grief process too, greif support is huge to,, and getting a strong team of support for your faith your relationships, your finances,,, build a team of trusted advisors,,, I LOVE SO LO TRAVEL,,, I have met so many amazing people,, Also, if you are on a budget,, find support and advice ,,, solo travel is not just for the rich! Volunteer Abroad,, house sit,,,also there is co housing if you are on a budget

[@RetirementTransformed]

I feel great energy and passion in your comment. Thank you for sharing this

[@cazola247]

I'm somewhat amused by the assumption that living alone means to have more time. I've been alone all my life and find I could fill 4 concurrent lives with all the things I want to do. Time to paint because you're alone? I don't think so! I do find it quite exhausting having to make ALL decisions myself and on my own - from buying a home (and learning all the legalities around that), to insurance, investment decisions, maintaining a car, keeping fit (the neighbourhood where I live is not safe for a woman to walk alone, so it takes planning and going out somewhere safe), shopping and cooking, socialising, etc etc And any travel, apart from being doubly expensive because of crazy single supplements, means an awful lot of planning without someone to share those decisions and chores with. All that said, I generally enjoy the freedom of being alone and not having to coordinate with someone else and accommodate their preferences all the time.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you for this perspective. It’s helpful to Jody and I to hear from our subscribers who are live a solo life.

[@Good-DaySunshine]

Madison, Wi is awesome- a lot of retired folks who don't mind snow move up to Door County on the Peninsula. It has a satellite university, and there is so much to do and see it would take half a lifetime to get it all done. Very low crime rate, nice housing- lots of perks. The hospital has a cancer center and they keep everyhing up to date.

[@RetirementTransformed]

That sounds like a wonderful place to visit!

[@mikebodner1812]

Great video, thanks! I'm in my early 60s, retired, live alone, and enjoy it. Something to consider for those going it alone are pets. I have a wonderful dog who keeps me physically active by walking 3-4 miles a day in addition to my other workouts. As I get older, I need to work on my support network. Rochester, MN is a location I'm considering as the cost of rent and housing is a little less expensive than Madison and Ann Arbor. Since Mayo is there, Rochester has doctors and researchers from all over the world, so it's very diverse for a smaller city.

[@RetirementTransformed]

We recently met a couple moving to Rochester as well. All for the same reasons as you

[@nancyalaeddin8447]

Thank you for another great useful videos. I am sorry to learn that your son Marco is sick, I hope he is better now.

[@RetirementTransformed]

We are so glad you are enjoying our videos and thanks for your kind words. It is greatly appreciated.

[@nata3467]

I think the difference is if you are single by choice or by loss. I am single by choice and I love it. I have my family,son, friends,dog,sassy cat ... retirement in next 2 years.

[@RetirementTransformed]

That is a valid point. Thank you. We are going to bring on an expert to talk about grief when losing a loved on in retirement on a future video.

[@RetiredLovingIt]

My Dad passed one year ago today. It has been quite an adjustment for my Mom. They were married 70 years…….she is learning a whole new normal. She has never lived alone.

[@RetirementTransformed]

I am sorry to hear about your loss. And I hope your mom finds her way. It must be hard for sure.

[@RetiredLovingIt]

@@RetirementTransformed Thank you

[@applebomb4091]

I live alone all my life and wouldn't have it any other way!

[@RetirementTransformed]

Good for you

[@TheLiberty1999]

Lucky me. Born and raised in Sarasota. Never left. Now widowed almost three years. As long as I remain single, I'm staying.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Yes we love the warm weather. Even the hot weather

[@wing7789]

‘Been Alone since 2011 and loved it so much. My Freedom, to do lots of things. I, Traveled to 💯 one -hundred countries already. I only need GOD and sooo happy with my Life. Enjoying Life while I could 😊

[@RetirementTransformed]

Good for you! Thanks for sharing.

[@patriciaschmitt6448]

I love my independence which is so strong. I'm not certain I could live with anyone even if the opportunity came along. You definitely get set in your ways living alone forever. Thinking about the divorce rate, 50%, is just plain and simply not worth the marriage route. I've known tooooo many friends, work colleagues and people in general that had extremely expensive (waste of money) weddings and are divorced. Please note that this is just my opinion and not to influence anyone.

[@RetirementTransformed]

We appreciate you sharing your opinion.

[@peggypeyton7912]

I love it❤❤

[@marybethcaputo3605]

I divorced 22 yrs ago , dating gentlemen are just a joke, I love my single life ! I am a social gal at 58yrsold, camping in my Jeep on the weekends living in Arizona ! Enjoying my grown children ! Life is Good !! Life is what you make it , so make it good ❤️👍🎉

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you. Sounds like you have it figured out.

[@barbarafallin2038]

I retired 14 years ago and have been divorced since 1982, don't mine being single, I do have a friend and he and I keeps each other busy,he has his house and I have mine and are happy

[@RetirementTransformed]

That sounds like a nice arrangement. Good for you and thanks for commenting.

[@marks.3798]

lol I also enjoyed your real life banter.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you

[@MrT-uo1ss]

Been married and solo. Being solo is easier.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you!

[@heatherfling7820]

I Lost my husband 6 years ago and Live happily in my beautiful 55+ and my children are all grown up and Loving freedom. Trying to make my own life better and be happy. Love living alone. I’ll be 60 the end of the year. I do miss my husband. I am very happy to know that I set goals for myself and to fix up my home.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you Heather. We are sorry for your loss and encourage you to try and keep your positive attitude. You are inspirational.

[@jasperburchfield2028]

I'm nearing age 60 and have lived alone for most of my life. I enjoy my independence but I worry about who will help me when I have health issues or need to go to the hospital, etc.

[@RetirementTransformed]

That is a valid concern. It's also the reason why building a strong network of friends and family is important. Offering to help others with the same concern might be a way to start.

[@pnoon43]

Money goes twice as far if not more :-) No more arguments ? No more waiting for someone to call back when you were waiting. Not hanging with married couples - someone trying to set you up all the time. No more hanging around married friends that didn`t prepare for retirement and seem to be short on the $. I found traveling in a mini van and camping - always meeting people on the road or state parks. Did a 5000 mile trip end of last year and really enjoyed it -learned how to travel and make the best of living in a small space but economical way of boon docking. People on the road are way more relaxed and are easy to approach. You learn how to adapt ! Electric bike and kayaking are great to do also. Make a reason to move on.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thanks so much for sharing your experience! We love to hear from our community about what retirement is like for them.

[@delayedgratification581]

I'm 38 and you scared me with the colon cancer thing. Sorry to hear it's a problem for your family. Can I ask if there were any symptoms before the official diagnosis? My doctor isn't likely to green light any test without reasoning, because there would be so many things to test for!

[@RetirementTransformed]

Yes there were symptoms. If you look through the comments many people had symptoms such as stomach cramps or problems going to the bathroom. It’s best to always push your doctor.

[@delayedgratification581]

Pushing doctors is great advice, thanks!

[@susanne1756]

I think we could all embrace our own independent passions even if we have a partner. Motivation to go out and have to talk to people can be uncomfortable at times. I like being alone, but it would be nice to have a boyfriend on the weekends.

[@RetirementTransformed]

Well said! I hope you can friend your boyfriend. That sounds like a nice plan

[@prancer4743]

Not alone not good always have a partner 😉👍😁

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you

[@leticiahansen4814]

You guys are cute! Love your interaction with each other!

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you!! 😊

[@user-fv6ke8vv2z]

Financially easier / Emotionally - very empty 😢

[@RetirementTransformed]

I bet it is. Thank you for being here and sharing your feelings.

[@patriciaschmitt6448]

You have one helluva handsome husband!!

[@RetirementTransformed]

😊 thank you

[@pyrochickhop8339]

I think cohousing or shared housing gives you company, but no real obligations. Why do i need so much?

[@RetirementTransformed]

We are going to do a video on this in the near future.

[@polskigirl8547]

I have embraced my singleness…..I am not lonely, depressed or unhappy……the only one I am accountable to is God… I can do and go whatever I want….i don’t have to “ask permission” to make a purchase…… I used to believe I needed to have a man in my life……NOT!

[@RetirementTransformed]

Thank you for sharing your experience. We love hearing from our community!

[@catherinejohnson6676]

Love the woman's advice. Dude tone it down - be more empathic. "deal with it?? """ Really.. That is advice. I would say each day try to rebuild your life!

[@RetirementTransformed]

So sorry I offended you. I’ll have to go back and watch in what context I said that. I by no means meant to be insensitive. Thank you for letting me know.

[@davesmith9188]

My complaint is that retirement coaches assume reasonable health. I find myself having to Self Advocate in the Healthcare system. Healthcare can be a brick wall. Lots of retirees need coaching/help addressing their medical problems. Bad health is a retirement killer.

[@davesmith9188]

Oldsters are known for their Osteoporosis. Endocrinology is supposed to treat Osteoporosis. I don't know any retiree getting Osteoporosis treatment. From my prospective retirees sorely need Neurologist and Endocrinologist treatments.

[@MrWaterbugdesign]

Yup. I'm 67 and healthy but I can read a calendar. I am preparing for aging out. Seems most (all) retirement talk is like the fun part lasts forever. Unlikely. I'm moving to SE Asia where caregiving is better than in the US and very affordable.

[@RetirementTransformed]

You are right. Health is good until it isn’t and yes you must advocate for yourself.

[@teresaf221]

I was widowed 2yrs ago and I’m am living my life now. I was very dedicated to my husbands medical and social life. Now I am so social. I first joined a FB walking group. From there an other Walker told me about another FB social club, I joined that. I joined a +60 coffee group. I have so many directions to go and I put exercise in every morning schedule. A purpose and being socially involved and the freedom to do what I want when I want. But…my evenings are long and can be an empty feeling. Volunteering is a source of purpose.

[@Good-DaySunshine]

@@davesmith9188 TRUTH!

[@anniesretirementjourney8969]

I have lived alone for over 25 years and I prefer it. Might be a good idea to interview someone that is solo instead of speculating as a couple. Single people are looking for single people to give them good info. I clicked on your video and had to laugh that you are doing this.

[@RetirementTransformed]

We plan on interviewing a few people on this topic who are living a solo retirement. Thank you.

[@darlenestokes2507]

Seems to me a couple who appear to be happily married aren't capable of giving advice on living alone. You can do all the interviews you want but until you've experienced it there's no way you know what it's like. You video's are ridiculous and at times even appear to be poking fun at people who are living alone due to circumstances that put them there!!!

[@RetirementTransformed]

Hi @darlenestokes2507. Yes you are right we have not experienced being retired alone or living alone. I did live alone for a few years after I was divorced but I don’t have the experience that you refer to. Nor does Jody. We make these specific videos on solo retirement because many of our subscribers ask for them because they do live alone. We are sorry that you feel we are poking fun at people who live alone due to circumstances that out them there. We in now way want to give that impression. We will continue to create content to help all retirees and be as sensitive as possible. That you for your comment and feedback.

[@kathleenrosado6949]

He’s not nice to her.

[@RetirementTransformed]

I think I am more than nice to Jody. What did I say that made you think of this? If I was out of line or rude to her I want to fix that.