Solving Listener Dating Scenarios - Part 2

We’re back with more listener scenarios and ladies... I can’t believe some of the things you are going through! Let’s break down guys making excuses for us not to meet their friends, staging coincidental “run-ins”, living with someone before marriage, what you have to do to bag the musician, looking through their phone, how to ask out your gym crush, what to do when he flakes on you, your partner being friends with the opposite sex, and what to do if your boyfriend won’t post you on socials.
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[@juliahall4359]

“I don’t want this to come off the wrong way… but you sound fucking crazy.” 🤣🤣🤣 sent me

[@sydneywittmann8664]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Our_family_home]

Kristin is that honest friend everyone needs!!! Love this pod so much!! 😊

[@HH-gv8mx]

She gives excellent advice in this arena!

[@taylordiaz6653]

I’m living for Kristin’s advise. I love how brutally honest she is - funny thing is she’s 100% right! She would be such a good friend to have

[@hfm16]

I'm only halfway in, and I LOVE Kristin's advice. Girls, what are we doing???? She's right. Guys will chase us if they want us. Stop being so available to them!!! Stop letting men use you! Be confident and stand up for yourself. Don't let guys call all the shots!!

[@teramiddle3018]

We need more Kristin advice episodes to help all these women… lawd 😅

[@fishfooood]

Ive been married for 12 years (have 4 kids) & need no dating advice but we are so on the same frequency and i have no friends so just listening to you makes me feel like i just had some girl time..just wanted to say thank you for all you do ❤

[@katieeex]

I listen to your podcasts driving home from work every Tuesday…. it’s my weekly therapy session I never knew I needed 😂 please never stop 🙌

[@jennifer.velotta]

Please do more of these! you give the best advice!

[@sunflowersundays1399]

That made me laugh when you said, "Would you feel the same way about this guy if he worked at Ace Hardware?" 😂😂

[@shellypeebles9806]

On the floor 😂😂😂

[@shellypeebles9806]

Love her for trying to be relatable, but we know the pool of men Kristin is pulling from aren’t even the owners of Ace Hardware, let alone an employee. It was so fucking funny to me tho

[@HLTrds]

So true though!!

[@CarolineQuinn]

My jaw dropped at some of these submissions….lord

[@TashaSiera]

Kristin is the best friend or the big sister we all wish we had!

[@melodyloera4193]

"Stop putting guys on a pedestal" Mmm...youve been putting Mark on a pedestal since day one. LOL

[@michellew3441]

Shut up

[@HH-gv8mx]

Not in the same way. I’m sure she’s not gonna put up with shit from him like him deleting his social media apps when she wants to go through his phone or changing his passcode. Men are so shady and women put up with a lot of bullshit.

[@I.G.82]

I’m loving this!!! Kristin pleeease do a part III - please. please. please. Thank you sweet-face.

[@somethinggood-sy1ed]

Definitely don't buy a house together if not married

[@JeNn0mic0n]

Right??! Once the 2nd person is allowed through those doors and receives mail there, good luck getting them to leave without a court order if the relationship goes south 🤣 I’ve seen enough COPS episodes to know this rofl

[@princess121268]

I loved both parts of this and I especially love how you so real and honest about it. I think that’s why I am 55 and still single I don’t chase and I refuse to lower my standards.

[@ajbates0428]

Everything you say is 100 PERCENT TRUE!!

[@edsexton9836]

Kristin, you're really good at this!

[@noellegauthier3131]

the sigh at 26:46 HAHAHAHA kristin and i have the same bday so we're both capricorns and i was so brutally honest with a friend of mine the entire time she was in a narcissistic relationship.. and i was the only one saying anything... and the other day she told me "you actually SAVED MY LIFE because if i got married to that guy he would have RUINED ME" so seriously. this is a lesson for everyone to be more honest

[@tiffanyschuna3484]

Haha I love this so much!! Kristin is not having any of it!!

[@marydewitt6853]

Love her "realness" Tell it like it is

[@lindsaysaunders7346]

7:42… Kristen’s advice has me in TEARS👏🏽👏🏽😂😂😂😂 can WE PLEASE get this as a series!!👏🏽👏🏽 here 4 IT😜

[@JessicaMillerNashville]

I think your advice on the dj dude makes perfect sense! It's exactly what I was thinking!

[@pepettehousemusic999]

You are very good at this Kristin!!! Loving this episode and your way of seeing things ❤

[@melissaaustin8877]

If a guy made plans with me in advance, then the day comes, I expect a call or text from him confirming by noon. Otherwise, I'm making other plans. If we've hung out a cpl of times and he's been great, I'll give him until 4pm bc that's when I would start shutting everything down, tying up loose work ends and start getting ready thereafter. Idc how hot he is. Respect is more important

[@89Drmz]

These segments are life because the bluntness is so me lmao

[@nicoleorosco5530]

Omg! I loovee this! "Uhh were done" ..I need your pod cast more then just once a week girl! 😂

[@lookitzmiikeyy]

Honey when Kristen tells you He's Just Not that into You you listen if there's one person that knows how men think it's Kristen ❤❤

[@lauramoor7730]

I LOVE YOU !!! Do more videos like this !!!!!? Please 🙏🏽

[@elisabeth9934]

I love this series you give the best advice

[@miaromeo5522]

Hahahaha I’m dying at the tinder one 🤣, Crazy train. And agreed 100% have to live together before marriage. Rent a house together before buying

[@jazzyg530]

I love love love this series. I agree with everything Kristin has said. There's definitely a pattern of women not trusting their intuition, waisting time and energy going after the wrong guys and a whole lot of limerence displayed in these situations. As someone who has been there I will add that not only are these guys awful but we ladies also have unhealed wounds that have led us to put the awful guys on pedestals to begin with. Simply ending something that isn't right isn't necessarily easy and it doesn't address the larger issue at hand: if we don't heal we will repeat the behavior with someone else. And if you can't afford a good therapist or even find one even if you can afford it I would suggest searching for professionals or very astute individuals on KZbin who give wonderful advice for free. It has really helped me and there are so manybyo choose from. Just my two cents and it's not to take away from the advice Kristin has given, but rather to add to it. There are so many amazing women out there who grew up with poor examples of what love looks like and we deserve better! Someone whose videos I have appreciated is the Crappy Childhood Fairy. Thanks Kristin! I love the direct and humorous advice. That's how I deliver it to my friends as well.

[@Saure55]

I’m yelling with you. Like ladies get it to freaking gether.

[@lauramoor7730]

You’re like the ultimate girl meets power meets everything meets I’m numero uno and don’t u forget it!!! Love this !!!!

[@pistachiosandpopcorn7146]

So…the truth is you want a man that goes out of his way and possibly comfort zone just to ask you out. There’s not much to it except that” if he wanted to…he would “as the young people say. You just don’t want a guy that’s like “yeah sure I guess she’s alright”. Because in the end…he’s not the one for you if he’s non chalant (spelling ) about it. So it’s not that the woman shouldn’t ask because of a rule…it’s more in the way men think and how women think….it’s the flow of it all.

[@prakies75]

Great advice on all of these!!! I agree 100%!!!! ❤❤❤

[@khloe5288]

I’m so glad I found this bc I never knew she had a podcast and her advice is spot on ❤️

[@namitadsilva8230]

This is just GOLD.

[@ricardochambers9926]

Omg Kristin you’re legit hilarious, I love you 😭❤

[@Normal1282]

This was the best 👏 more of this!!

[@shellypeebles9806]

Too many good sound bites, & meme material here. Kristin you are funny girl 😂😂😂

[@staciso5708]

Kristin should start a new podcast called Fu** This Guy hahahaha

[@charlesbell5500]

Hey everyone and welcome to the Fu** This Guy podcast, where we try to be better cuz we already KNOW this sh!t! 🤣

[@SimsGirl4Ever]

Great advice! Really enjoyed this episode.

[@Dmarieyeeebb]

Wise woman ❤

[@marlenelopez4130]

I love your advice episodes!!!!! So fun to listen to! I really appreciate the honest advice 😅

[@lindatobin2123]

Kristin I’m 63 and have lived life experienced, I liked your advice 👏

[@irizarrylove4920]

I agree with everything you are saying.... I say this, all of this to my single girlfriends who are always coming to me for advice.

[@PJB52623]

To the first question, people will give you a hard time about moving on too soon after breaking up with just a boyfriend or girlfriend so I can only imagine after a divorce 😩 . It’s truly amazing how people insert themselves into a situation that doesn’t include them and to which they nothing about yet they’ll try to tell you what to do with YOUR life when you didn’t ask. I moved on really fast with my current husband after a bad breakup with a horrible ex boyfriend. I just knew he was the one almost right away, while everybody in my life tried to warn me and tell me this was “too fast”. But you know what, I didn’t listen because they don’t pay my bills, they aren’t living with my decisions, I am. Honestly, everyone could F off and now, 2.5 years later, we have a beautiful family together.

[@realtyrocker]

this is the best episode so far

[@m.canida96]

Kristin seems a little worked up today !! 🤣🤣🤬

[@annmarieaustin3371]

You are awesome!! Great advice and calling everyone’s BS!!

[@kristinaorido7606]

K Cav is for the girls loved this episode ❤

[@kristinaboozer4534]

Love your realness

[@triciaoquinn9238]

LOVE LOVE THIS SHOW!!❤

[@mackenzielawrence735]

Queen!!

[@alyssad7019]

LOVE THESE!!!!! :-)

[@MDLC03]

I feel like I got lectured the whole episode by my mom and I’m not even in these situations lol. I like the funny episodes more rather than these tips.

[@rainsies]

I never respected Kristin more for having morals and bring a girls girl ❤

[@murraylindsay6880]

There is this girl I like and we got along great. She almost looks just like Kristin. I’m 41 and she is 27 or 28.

[@sarahb_]

So much sense. Where were you when I was 18-23? Oh yes you were young like me 😂 wish I knew then what I know now. Though I don’t understand why both people’s names wouldn’t be on the house? If both are contributing to the payments.

[@opalstone1852]

I remember you saying some time ago that you hooked up with someone on a first date. Or maybe it was just a hookup that night. Whatever it was, it was the first night. Let's be honest...

[@donnatafoya1412]

lol this is amazing!!

[@gigglebubbles_]

Iconic

[@lalae2023]

Omg yes help these women Kristin😅 the best

[@dahnila05]

Part 3,4 and 5 🎉

[@julianaalvarez1741]

I think alot of women equate a "nice guy" for a boring guy. Also and this requires introspection, many women are attracted to the bad boy/emotionally unavailable b/c they grew up with men like that and that is what's comfortable to them b/c its what they know. Yes its toxic but breaking out of that habit takes WORK.

[@imkristinamarie]

Omg, thank you the person who wrote in about the dude sleeping in bc he was hungover and cancelled date an hour before! I went from Florida ALL THE WAY to Portugal to meet a guy I was talking to on Instagram and he stood me up MULTIPLE times while I was there. And THEN, when he KNEW my last day for WEEKS, he pulled this SAME THING on me! Got drunk the night before (not with me btw) and didn’t see me AT ALL on my last day there. Like WTF. P.S. I screen recorded Kristin’s reaction and sent it to him🤭

[@skurinski]

wow what are you doing girl? Lmao

[@soapyfankatie]

I need to watch this anytime I want to text my ex

[@edgalvan3820]

Kristin just be careful with your boy toy 🧸 at first it’s so FUN and exciting but then it’s like a flight ✈️ that can crash lands! Demi Moore and Jlo learned their lesson. Look out 👀

[@beardedham5983]

Cousin Kristen !!! 💜💜💜💜

[@namitadsilva8230]

Kristin can I also know what nailpolish you’re wearing. Gorggggggg AF

[@Nere311]

Not 100% sure, but I think it might be ‘wicked’ (Essie). I think I remember seeing her say somewhere that she only really wears the shades wicked & ballet slipper.

[@Unaminousverdict]

Sadly I know these stories are really what’s going on out there in dating 😂 it’s the Wild West and the dating advice about the gym crush only solidifies that Kristin totally shot her shot with Travis Kelce when he was on her podcast 😅

[@ShaylaShar]

❤❤❤

[@HLTrds]

We are so stupid!! Why are we all so weak as women??

[@opalstone1852]

Statistics show that shacking up before marriage has a higher divorce rate. Statistics also show the quality and happiness of that relationship is much lower if you shack up. If you have kids, what kind of an example are you setting!? If you have kids and you're shacking up with someone and they end up moving out it will still have the same emotional affect on them as a divorce. If a man truly loves you he will ask you to be his wife.

[@AdamMichael-jy6by]

SHADY FUCKIN BOOTS!

[@AdriannaMarkowitz]

😂😂😂 triggered much. I’m dead. I say it like you. Like NOOOOO like WHAT LIKE WE NEED TO DO BETTER Ummmm No Move on that’s what 😂😂😂

[@charlesbell5500]

Awesome advice, Kristen! Just throwing this out there, but I'm a really good guy who's looking for marriage. Name and profile pic are fake because I'm a private person, and not a wolf lol. If there are any SERIOUS girls here looking for a real relationship, let me know if you'd like to get to know me. I will only respond to one. A few descriptors: 26, Christian, Canadian, white (Greek), 6' (really 5'11.5"), don't smoke, drink, don't go to nightclubs, visual artist (I sell my realistic pencil drawings), love to workout but not really jacked (yet), no tattoos/piercings, live alone but no car (yet), really emotionally available (clingy and romantic but still masculine), HATE ALL ANIMALS, very honest (never lie even when it hurts), I love my parents (but not my brother), not very emotional/dramatic/loud but I have a very big heart (like the Grinch at the END of the movie). That's it, I'd hope to find a beautiful girl here who also has a good HEART! Your heart is my favourite part of your body honey! ❤😄And yes even if you look like Kristen! 🤣 (sorry for all the parentheses)

[@charlesbell5500]

I don't smoke, drink, OR go to nightclubs* that's how I should have said it. I'm a bit of a grammar cop as you can tell by my perfect spelling, and yes I have autocorrect disabled. 😄

[@skurinski]

hating animals is a red flag, sorry

[@charlesbell5500]

@@skurinski Listen, they're nice to look at from a distance, but I don't want to live with them. Pets are like strippers: they're beautiful, but they're dirty, expensive, and they'd get in the way of my future wife and kids. 😅

[@charlesbell5500]

@@skurinski Hating animals is not a red flag hon, that's a personal preference. A red flag is a guy who's scared to talk about marriage. You gotta grow up. I've encountered so many girls like you on dating sites. I honestly can't believe how many women would choose an animal over a good husband. Shows how much they know. LOL

[@charlesbell5500]

@@skurinski Am I going around kicking stray cats on the street? NO! Don't get thick on me. I just don't want some clueless canine to lick my face when I'm eating a sandwich. People who live with pets have got some screws loose, but I know my opinion's not popular.

[@marydewitt6853]

Too many adds at one time...