Someone You Know ADDICTED To Porn?? HERE’S WHY

[@RussellBrand]

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[@stephenfiore9960]

KZbin keeps on unsubscribing me

[@Iamlearningtolove]

Thank you for this video....and for saying so many of the things that have needed to be said for a long time now. You're brilliant. Sincerely. 💖💖💖

[@mullcrumthesage6303]

Like second exodus status? Beam me up Christ!

[@kYA00h]

truely..what is porn? i can see someone in "real life", get home and create images in my mind in order to feel a sense of eroticism.

[@alaricpalaiologos665]

Coming around to Christianity? You'd be welcome

[@Not_A_Tourist]

My dad came into my room and said to me, son if you don't stop doing that you'll go blind. I said hey Dad I'm over here.

[@barneybiggles]

It’s okay dad I’ll wear a patch and risk one eye.

[@nickbacon8292]

Yeah unfortunately that's not the blind he was referring too.

[@chasleask8533]

That one is on the team . Good'un

[@billleontaritis7638]

Lmfao!!!!

[@markallen721]

So I said back, "can I do it until I need glasses?"

[@timwhatever1]

When it is free, you are the product

[@stagger9660]

Woah

[@RUBBER_BULLET]

What about pirating it? What about the amateurs who only seek exposure?

[@LastbutNotFirst]

@@RUBBER_BULLET these fuckers dont know how to pirate, they probably just watch free trials lol.. i remember my friend was asking my friend how much he pays for porn sites back in the day.. hes like oh i pay 25 bucks a month.. and my friend is like.. yeah youre suposed to cancel before your trial ends, then you get it for 3 dollars.. and my friend is like IVE BEEN PAYING 25 BUCKS A MONTH FOR YEARS..

[@Willowy13]

Exactly. Due to the US companies cancelling people I cancelled most of them. The worst is Google, which I am moving my emails for paid Protonmail.

[@gwillis01]

Your email address, your phone number, your mailing address, etc are data points that marketing agencies want to use to target advertising to you. Marketing executives always want to target advertisements to those most likely to buy the product.

[@ICEcoldJT]

“Only put your energy into things you have a future with.” ✨

[@ickleshouse]

IEC...well put,that is so simple but so true..

[@TheDoomWizard]

There is no future from abrupt & irreversible climate change.

[@findingtruth869]

Love this 😀 ❤

[@kindcolt2747]

By watching this video you are saying you have a future in porn

[@ianmcdonald3053]

I expect to spend the rest of my life with my right hand 🤚

[@TiestoElement]

I was addicted to porn since I was 9, now I’m 29. Glad to report I’ve been porn free for 8 months, and I’ve let go of most addictions in my life. Never been more productive and at peace.

[@PistolaLad]

I like reading comments like yours

[@tolloromassi99]

How do you fight those intense urges?

[@TiestoElement]

@@tolloromassi99 it was tricky for me to discover this but it’s all about the attitude. If you tell yourself you can’t do something because reason xyz mental health etc. and keep telling yourself that and use the words “I can’t” then your brain will rewire. Worked the same for smoking. I was fighting intense cravings but as soon as I drew the line in the sand for myself and I told myself “I can’t” the urges greatly diminished and subsequently vanished very quickly

[@nicholewilde4750]

Good work! Congratulations!

[@darionclub2158]

9 😢💔

[@PAppMundo]

Pornography is causing so much harm to an entire generation of young men. So few people are addressing the issues that the mass consumption of pornography are causing. From an ex porn addict, thank you for bringing attention to this Russell.

[@ciaranryan7303]

Also, an ex porn user and I completely agree. I used to have so much social anxiety when I used porn... and weird fetishes. Man, I'm never going back there again.

[@samanthab6642]

Even Pam Anderson speaks against it now and talks about how it is harmful.

[@invaderjet5946]

Haven't watched porn in almost a month Im glad I gave it up I hope the porn industry falls

[@LuminousDualities.]

I agree 100%

[@toobaffled_on_X_site]

Porn is also a sin. Ask God to wash your sins away with the blood of Jesus Christ. Your soul will then be pure and qualified for heaven. Not only for porn but any sins you deliberate into.

[@asafnisan]

I have quit watching porn 1.5 years ago. I have not looked back ever since. Best decision ever. I have felt a major increase in my life satisfaction.

[@diandirk3423]

Lol you just admitted to watching porn... Have fun in hell

[@xujprsmgibsonlopez2395]

@@diandirk3423 ah I get it, that was supposed to be funny, very nice sense of humor, you should be comedian you dry fuck lol

[@butzbach4149]

@@xujprsmgibsonlopez2395 😂

[@gonzalochocanoart]

@@xujprsmgibsonlopez2395 it made me laugh 😂

[@gabrielle-d1b]

@@diandirk3423 you sound like a child

[@daniellaw4200]

Its the loneliness that drives to porn. Its a brief window of distraction from the loneliness. And after, it leaves me more lonely

[@midnightsun2085]

Loneliness, procrastination and other things can contribute to porn addiction.

[@jaykay1848]

Damn you hit the nail on the head.

[@someonesomeone25]

Loneiness is one of the many forms of suffering caused by us being a swxually dimorphous mammalian species. The best cure for many is the combination of tulpas, dolls and tech. In the future immersive VR and companion bots will be even better.

[@kencur9690]

@@someonesomeone25 unless the bot is indistinguishable from a human, it will have the exact same result: a temporary placeholder and filler, which eventually leaves you lonelier at the realization of what it is substituting.

[@someonesomeone25]

@@kencur9690 What makes you believe that?

[@rottierumbles9451]

I'm glad you're addressing this , because no one EVER talks about how serious this addiction to porn is , many people just look at it as "well everyone watches it" and that it's just a big joke , but it's incredibly sad how many use it as a form of intimacy when it's just the opposite, there's nothing good about it.

[@jeshuayancey5264]

Definitely agree.

[@Pellagrah]

Porn isn't doing any more harm than video games or any other form of mindless consumption IMO. I feel it's wrong to single it out when the same critiques can be applied to video games as well as social media, television, Netflix, youtube, etc. Ends up sucking you in via hyperstimulation, and you end up sinking hours upon hours of your life into an activity without any constructive outcome. If you have any ambitions in life, directionless time sinks like porn are probably a bad idea unless you can keep a tight handle on them.

[@jjokinen8420]

100% agree, just bust a nut and move on with the day.

[@angelikastefoglo2478]

@@Pellagrah watch a few videos about the reality behind the porn industry. A lot of the women are sex traffic victims and are forced to preform. Research the statistics of how many porn stars commit suicide and how the others live a life of regret, rejection and depression. Research the effect porn has on the brain and it’s extremely negative effect on real relationships. It’s not the same thing as video games or Netflix.

[@jjgeoffphhcinkkllee]

There is MUCH good about the good stuff

[@1endlesssoul]

“In life we have a choice to suffer the pain of discipline of suffer the pain of regret.”

[@PeachesCourage]

Sex and human identity are a natural component of porn you know? We are treated very coldly by society and our identity is naturally going to suffer some at least Sex and your identity are totally normal making porn just evil is just not so for me Unless at the opposite end of it where the not so nice are you know?

[@lljusttry]

How about neither

[@baobo67]

Excellent. Put that in my diary with a few others I view regularly. Apply it to one of my biggest shortcomings, distraction.Thank-you.

[@annemariemahoney9464]

I see you in the comments on many videos I watch 👀 like 👍

[@gavink03]

@@PeachesCourage except we are the only animal with “morals”

[@adamgreen6225]

Discovering a fetish in my teens and I'm now completely addicted to it. Seeing things at an early age is harmful

[@skidllybopyeahhshdd1219]

I've watched it since I was in my teens and I'm 33. Just recently realized it's not normal and was a struggle for me to quit. My life has become so much better in so many ways since I have quit consuming porn. I feel sad when I look back and realize how much time and energy has been wasted. I wont get that time and energy back. Start working towards quitting and better things will appear in life.

[@NifDbzAvatarSpartan]

What was the fetish? I won't judge

[@skidllybopyeahhshdd1219]

@@NifDbzAvatarSpartan donkey show

[@NifDbzAvatarSpartan]

@@skidllybopyeahhshdd1219 what's that bud?

[@Theodore81547]

Diapers? Strap ons? Donkey show?

[@rmxlabs]

As part of my dopamine detox journey, I'm now into my 3rd week with no porn. I'm already seeing massive changes in my mental state. I appreciate the natural beauty in people and the world around me.

[@isanna6075]

Are you still clean Calum?

[@rmxlabs]

@@isanna6075 Yes, now on week 15!

[@isanna6075]

@@rmxlabs that is fantastic, well done. You give all the rest of us hope👍

[@SonniTheDog]

@@rmxlabs congrats, you’ve inspired me. Day one

[@kylevos8551]

I’m on day 3 I don’t ever want to watch it again

[@HarryJ10]

" we are being driven more and more to unnatural behaviours as we live in unnatural conditions " was fantastic. Sums it all up, how difficult it is to find natural solutions though.

[@drmeam406]

Natural remedies: you mean like massage or crystals or reflexology?

[@bepishombre8999]

@@drmeam406 what's being referred to as unnatural has to do with the alienation of the self from oneself and the fear of confronting oneself, since our spiritual pillars in the west have been left completely in shambles. So natural remedies would be, I'd say getting away from materialism and that can be done by scientifically tested methods like psychotherapy.

[@acomedybyec1437]

@@bepishombre8999 I’ve been watching porn since what feels like forever ? sometimes I’m mad at myself, sometimes I just stay the fuck out of my way! I’m a human and finding balance is apart of our experience , just imagine when there wasn’t any porn! #aComedybyec Dating app

[@drmeam406]

@@bepishombre8999 not unreasonable. thank you

[@jjgeoffphhcinkkllee]

@@bepishombre8999 Gee, sorry that people realized finally that a magical Hebrew dude nailed to a tree was BULL SH1T. If being without that leaves a culture in shambles, then it was a garbage culture to start with.

[@VEE3RDEYE]

Your incredibly right, I find myself not turning to porn but to ASMR for that intimacy, feeling not alone & that there is someone there who cares for you. The internet was created to bring us together but it’s actually pushed so many of us into this sense of desperation to be loved and seen.

[@Bolter024]

Where are your parents or siblings ?

[@robertm2070]

i hear you dude. things will change for the better. always stay positive. ur not alone man we all feel the same things. just be true to u

[@JohnSmith-ns6dp]

@Egor Pretty girls whisper sweet things, and if you have good headphones, it feels like they’re whispering right in your ear and it sends good shivers down your back.

[@alexbrookner5331]

@Egor think of the school nurse checking your hair for knits. that good feeling

[@arkman2237]

@Egor not only females, though, you can see a lot of man doing this as well.

[@TruthQuest4700]

Porn, particularly live cam interaction is a superficial temporary fix that places a bandaid over the open wound of a loneliness "epidemic". Subconscious emotional voids and a longing for more depth in relationships drive porn consumption and possible porn addiction as a coping mechanism.

[@aloha_ohana]

"..."particularly live cam"?..... I completely disagree. Most of the porn consumed is NOT live cam interaction, but browsing free databases like pornhub, xnxx etc. But the rest of what you said is correct. ALL PORN is a superficial temporary "fix".

[@TruthQuest4700]

@@aloha_ohana I wasn't implying that live cams are the most consumed form of porn. I'm implying that live porn cams can be the most deceiving in terms of emotional investment because it is in real-time and the interaction between models and viewers who will likely never connect authentically face to face.

[@_VISION.]

Loneliness epidemic? Is loneliness a state of mind or something else?

[@TruthQuest4700]

@@_VISION. I think it mostly implies a lack of authentic connection and understanding of one another.

[@_VISION.]

@@TruthQuest4700 if you could pick a single source of loneliness what do you think it would be? I know it's not possible to only name one but I'm curious anyway and could be a thought experiment.

[@Brother_Nazarite]

Never thought I would ever be a fan of Russell Brand, but yet, here I am. And I have no regrets about that.

[@rvsteve583]

me too............................................................................................................

[@LuminousDualities.]

Same here

[@alaricpalaiologos665]

Amazing things happen when you get off drugs. I think he's on the path of becoming a Christian.

[@MinecraftMasterNo1]

@@alaricpalaiologos665 Judging on what he has revealed about his personal beliefs so far, I'd put him into the Christian Socialism camp.

[@Virtuous_Exile]

I second that. I used to think he was a doof. But Ive listened to some of his more recent stuff, and though I disagree with some of his ideas, he's rather intelligent and insightful.

[@thatrandomyoutubechannel]

Love what you're doing man. You're real, you're open minded, and you seek to understand things as they are and you are sharing all this with us. Thank you.

[@acomedybyec1437]

I’ve been watching porn since what feels like forever ? sometimes I’m mad at myself, sometimes I just stay the fuck out of my way! I’m a human and finding balance is apart of our experience , just imagine when there wasn’t any porn! #aComedybyec Dating app

[@AdrianGarciaMusic]

I was caught watching porn by my wife and that was enough for me to drop it. I was that ashamed and embarrassed that from one day to another I stopped it (5 years now without watching) and I can tell you, you're better without it 🙌🏽 it's energy badly spend

[@Test-of9sd]

Good on you stopping. Studies have shown it causes partners to have lower interest in their partner and a host of other issues. Really unhealthy habit like with other drug abuse.

[@immyanon]

good for you honestly. porn is now one of the leading causes of divorces, absolutely shatters peoples partners and their self-esteem to the point they need therapy post divorce/breakup. good for you, honestly it will do wonders for your relationship.

[@AdrianGarciaMusic]

@@surfxkitty wow, this is such a deep story. I know, it's a bit crazy how something 'so insignificant' can create such intense issues. Im glad you guys worked it up. Best of my wishes! :)

[@Pwwh0711]

@@immyanon You're right, porn vids were a big factor in my divorce...she wouldn't stop making them!

[@Clemsterful]

Congrates Adrian!! I'm in recovery too and am grateful

[@greentree730]

I started playing guitar at 42....that was a long time ago now...turning 57....writing music...about to start recording....invest in your self...healthy anything...

[@davidbagley1783]

Aloha.. I'm 57 too

[@gogego998]

... ... ...

[@AB-bc3vi]

Respect mate. That’s pretty inspirational.

[@cscheatum]

Everyone taking about his hair and clothes. Meanwhile, Im admiring the nice stack of split wood in the back.

[@andreacortez3952]

🤣 I was too. I usually look at how well his ivy is doing!!

[@the.communist]

Itll be nicer if that wood would still be in trees, dont u think?

[@bulletprooftiger5564]

He chose this spot to sit exactly so he could show it off!!

[@Littlelamb2023]

@@the.communist ya kidding right?

[@Waylami08]

Hahaha me too!

[@dopeybrew7006]

Porn is one of the worst things attacking the collective consciousness. It has become so normalized that it’s talked about all the time and has been pretty much completely socially acceptable until very recently. Thank you so much RB for making this video. The more we talk about it, the more we heal

[@acomedybyec1437]

I’ve been watching porn since what feels like forever ? sometimes I’m mad at myself, sometimes I just stay the fuck out of my way! I’m a human and finding balance is apart of our experience , just imagine when there wasn’t any porn! #aComedybyec Dating app

[@jonathanhenderson9422]

How is porn attacking or harming anyone?

[@dopeybrew7006]

@@jonathanhenderson9422 it’s creating an obsession within men who will later go out to commit rapes and sexual assaults on women. It’s changing the way women are viewed and treated. A lot of women do like the attention but there are women who have been sexually assaulted since childhood and that kind of attention from men can be traumatizing and make it where they no longer want to be out in public.

[@dopeybrew7006]

@@jonathanhenderson9422 there would still be rapes and sexual assault without porn being so huge and available but I think it would be reduced. All serial rapists that have been caught had huge porn addictions. I think people who commit those crimes were assaulted as children and instead of get help they found porn and used it as a way to escape, like drugs. It can create a sickness within people.

[@jonathanhenderson9422]

@@dopeybrew7006 Pretty much everything you said is the opposite of the truth. Rapes and sexual assault consistently go down in countries when porn is legalized. Rape has declined as P has become more readily available online. Rapists watch LESS P than the average guy (I have no idea where you got the "serial rapists have huge P addictions," that's a complete lie). I also have no idea where you're getting that most of them were assaulted as children, or use P or drugs to escape. You seem to have a complete myth circulating in your head about this topic. I'd advise you get more educated and stop spreading misinformation. Also, please realize that the vast majority of people watch P, yet the vast majority of people are not rapists. That right there is a clue that P has nothing to do with it. Likewise, drug problems can happen to pretty much anyone in any part of society, which is why we're in the midst of an opioid epidemic.

[@LukeT84]

If I asked ten of my friends to go one week or one month without watching porn, about eight of them wouldn't be able to do it. An alarming number of people are addicted to porn and they have no idea. They have no idea how much of a part it plays in making them unhappy. I am addicted and it's a battle I fight daily. Unfortunately, I think we are ten years away from most of the world realising just how big of a problem porn addiction is.

[@JeffCaplan313]

Less than 10 years. America will have a reckoning by the time of the 2028 elections when family life has been completely and utterly decimated. Unless they legislate and regulate porn before then.

[@LukeT84]

@@JeffCaplan313 here in the UK I remember seeing headlines about the government making it less accessible. Meaning you'd have to ring your broadband provider and tell them you want to have access to the sites. But nothing ever came of it. I hope most wake up to the disease that is pornography sooner rather than later because millions of lives are being ruined by it.

[@star_ruby_]

My husband is addicted and it ruined our marriage

[@LukeT84]

@@star_ruby_ Sorry to hear that. As a man, I can only say that I really didn't ask to be addicted to it. I feel a lot of shame and I have to be responsible for my actions but it has felt like something I just can't control. I struggle even now but I am trying. I am sure your husband feels the same. Just know that it is not your fault and he never wanted to be addicted to it.

[@elinope4745]

As an old man, I wonder if you may simply be young and experiencing the addiction of attraction to women, as addiction to porn. The majority of men were in essence born addicted to sexual desire for women. This is natural, it is part of what it is to be a human male heterosexual. It gets real strong in your teens and early twenties, and was probably the primary motivation behind damn near everything I did in a social sense as a teen. If you aren't obsessed with this one, you will be obsessed with that. I think young men may have filled the hole in their heart cut out for women, with porn. But that hole in your heart is natural, the porn didn't do that to you.

[@rizyasin4156]

I’m happy Russell Brand brought up the subject of Porn Addiction. It’s an addiction society doesn’t really talk about and pretend it doesn’t exit. I know married men who turn to porn to satisfy their needs. I think porn creates a false reality and has/will destroy a lot of relationships.

[@Tracydot3]

The problem isn't porn, it's the idea of monogamy which isn't natural and makes more people miserable than truly happy. There is nothing wrong with looking at porn. Forcing an intimate partner to only think of you sexually and only have sex with you and not look at anyone else is abusive and not realistic at all. Married sex is awful btw. I used to be married. Worst sex ever.

[@nevilleabbott2330]

I didn't even know porn addiction was a thing

[@Tracydot3]

@@nevilleabbott2330 It's not a thing. It's just another way to shit on sex work.

[@emmaq3250]

@@Tracydot3 lmao it just sounds like you’re in a crappy marriage

[@lightoftheworld417]

Look up Barry Long Tantra master to the west, one of the best souls that taught on woman and love also Tolle's mentor. He often speaks about man and his phantom lover.

[@GaryTurbo]

If you can't control your habbit, its an addiction

[@Pwwh0711]

He's fine, 'just quietly sits there in the hutch eating a carrot or lettuce leaf...oops my mistake

[@tracypointon123]

People are creatures of habit. It's only when your habits have a negative impact on your life or the lives of others, that's when addiction/obbsesion/habit becomes a problem.

[@MinecraftMasterNo1]

@@tracypointon123 I don't think I've ever met a single healthy porn addict. The only people who seem to have a healthy relationship with porn are those who watch it with their partner and/or discuss it with their partner so as to spice up their sex life. As the video said, lack of intimacy is the underlying ailment and porn is a terrible way of temporarily filling that hole.

[@just4dalaughters431]

Habit, with 1 B. This is what porn does to people. BUSTED!!!🤣

[@TheBayzent]

@@sm.9599 Onanism you mean? Apparently it's very healthy, preventing several types of cancer and so on.

[@life_behind_bars]

Thank you for talking about the connection between chemical addiction and the addiction to pornography. I was a methamphetamine addict for about 15 years of my life (been clean for 12 years now), but I know that meth, porn, and casual sex go hand in hand for me. To go back to any one of those things will lead me back down that path of addiction, and I refuse to allow that to happen. So because I understand that connection I haven't use drugs, watched porn, or had sex in the last 12 year. The next time I have sex will be when I meets someone who I share a real connection with and have love and respect for. Again thanks for sharing 👍

[@MyStarPeopleExperiences]

Wow, Brand. You cover deep difficult topics. In a sensitive, intelligent, and transcendental manner. Kudos, Brother.

[@acomedybyec1437]

I’ve been watching porn since what feels like forever ? sometimes I’m mad at myself, sometimes I just stay the fuck out of my way! I’m a human and finding balance is apart of our experience , just imagine when there wasn’t any porn! #aComedybyec Dating app

[@consciouslobster9310]

2020 was the year I began to heal from porn addiction . I'm still not fully out of the woods but I'm down to about maybe once a month . My efforts give me more energy and generally make me feel good about myself .

[@1970brenz]

Good for you!! Each day of filling your life with something else positive is a step in building a new life! :)

[@fatguyinalittlecoat9796]

Great stuff. Keep going brother. Like you, for me this last year has really been one for introspection and change. But there is still so much work for me to do

[@standingintheshadows9670]

@@jordanonyschuk3809 for me keeping my mind busy by working extra hours and other activities

[@ryandilegge297]

@@jordanonyschuk3809 just get a partner

[@Edrumachine]

I was addicted since I was about 15, I would try to go a week to a month without it but it was rare (i dont know if I ever made it a month). Its been at least 6 months since I've looked up anything remotely pornographic (not sure if I even did tbh), and about a year since I've gone to any pornographic websites. I still wish I had kicked the habit sooner, it not healthy for a developing mind. I still have a difficulties at times admitting the impact its had on my life.

[@TheHarisBotic]

nice man! have you felt any mental benefits?

[@Edrumachine]

@@TheHarisBotic I havent dwelled on it much but I suppose I've been less complacent to my laziness and shallow thinking. Plus a healthier view of women overall.

[@annemariemahoney9464]

Thanks for sharing

[@gavink03]

@@Edrumachine same with me...

[@greentree730]

So happy for you!!! Learn to play guitar or something rewarding. Join a jambae group....look for healthy joys

[@transilvaniatoken2277]

Listening to you it's like talking to a kind friend with a cup of tea. It always makes you feel good!! Thanks!!

[@xxLeCurexx]

How did you get over it ?

[@jucxox]

I’ve had to go through my sober journey alone, and I can’t tell you how much your videos have helped me. Thank you.

[@afvgdsfgeee7760]

It's a lot more than the pandemic that causes one to use pornography. As an ex-porn addict, I used it to numb myself and to not face my problems.

[@futavadumnezo]

Or in my case is I can't get a sexual partner so I'm basically stuck with this

[@kYA00h]

@@futavadumnezo ha ha ha..was that meant to be funny?

[@zah936]

True.

[@zuthorsup]

@@futavadumnezo porn is actually inhibiting you from getting a sexual partner. It changes your whole demeanor with women and if you actually manage to get a partner it may cause you to have difficulty being intimate with them. That's my experience anyway and from some of my own research I'm not alone.

[@zuthorsup]

@@acomedybyec1437 I'm married my guy but I was just giving my take whenever it was I posted this!

[@MayDay2018]

This is truly sad, we are being made to become more and more disconnected from each other and true, genuine intimacy. When young boys and girls watch this and get their sexual education from this it is incredibly damaging to respect, honour, love, mutual pleasure and intimacy 😔

[@julies9629]

Exactly.

[@Negativespace95]

Basically

[@keith8421]

After you're rejected for a certain amount of time in life, where do you expect ppl to go to? Drugs, alcohol and porn. This is definitely more for men than it is for women.

[@HonderdtachtigCC]

@@keith8421 i got rejected alot bro i still get it takes time to get over it but im now on almost 2 weeks porn free and now girls text me first and i can keep conversations going for ever if there wasn't a lock down in my country i would have already lost my v card Rejection is part of the game Learn from rejections know your worth know what league u are and stop chasing that girl that belong on the streets some girls are hard wired and wont change now im the one rejecting girls im not saying give up on pmo completely the key is moderation but my goal is to break my record of 51 days i know you have it in you too i have ups and downs too bro please dont give up dont matter how many times u failed i know one day u find some one only if you realy want it u gotta put some work in

[@keith8421]

@@HonderdtachtigCC I'm not gonna sit here and complain because I'm trying to learn to become more of an alpha male, but 28 straight years of rejection is very tough on the psyche, it drove me to where I almost signed up for a porn audition in Kentucky a couple months ago. Being alone is just the hardest life battle I'm facing, not my bills, not work, myself.

[@VangelisFilms]

Thanks so much for covering this topic...and with such grace, humility and compassion. We don’t talk about this enough.

[@acomedybyec1437]

I’ve been watching porn since what feels like forever ? sometimes I’m mad at myself, sometimes I just stay the fuck out of my way! I’m a human and finding balance is apart of our experience , just imagine when there wasn’t any porn! #aComedybyec Dating app

[@PamRecoveredPeace]

My heart goes out to people who can't break free - and even more so for the partners. As a partner, you can feel intense pain over your partner's sexual behavior outside of the relationship. It can destroy the emotional connection, and the sexual relationship. It doesn't make sex better, it makes sex isolating. Kind of defeats the best part of sex - connecting.

[@clairvoyant_af]

Soul crushing to say the least.

[@taradevine6026]

It's why I'm divorced

[@kingtrance6826]

@@taradevine6026 - Humans aren’t really wired for monogamy.

[@PamBlizzard]

@@kingtrance6826 There is zero scientific evidence for this, that's an emotional statement, not a logical one. There IS empirical evidence for longer life spans, and better physiological and neurobiological health when we have ONE primary attachment that is safe and secure from "thirds". It's called Attachment Theory based on the work of John Bowlby, Stan Tatkin, Susan Johnson and more. Sure, you can choose non-monogomy, but facts are facts. We do better as individuals and a society when monogamous.

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

@@PamBlizzard pretty sure this person is some sort of MRA

[@danielbaldey7577]

Where are people supposed to find connection and intimacy when the standards for a mate are at an all time high?! The need for perfection creates a generation of single, lonely and depressed people.

[@PrestigeWorldWide179]

It's like not even possible it seems

[@stevenwilliams1805]

@@Reservist1695 perhaps, because many men will do anything but, do they find lasting relationships? I think women are beginning to find the ability to bag a man dosen't necessarily mean they will keep him.

[@sebastiancroft3759]

@@stevenwilliams1805 the growing use of Instagram, dating apps, and materialistic values/thinking certainly seems to have nurtured such a mentality in women, most often those with past relationship luggage, insecurities, or narcissistic patterns of behaviour and philosophy. I think Steve Bartlett said it best when most relationships nowadays are started for the wrong reasons! It's seems like once things get difficult or one partner becomes bored or unsatisfied (having not entered the relationship with a 100% commitment and conceptual understanding of what it constitutes) they dispose of it. Essentially good men have become expendable assets who have been reduced to a simple swipe on a phone by women seeking the validity of a relationship but unwilling, as you quite rightly pointed out, to commit to it!

[@agravery223]

@@Reservist1695 nah it applies to both sexes because females are held to the standard of being beautiful which as we all know, beauty fades... so this need for perfection is toxic to both genders. The "grass is greener" syndrome is hurting our society... people no longer want to work on themselves or their relationships 🙄.

[@valiantTruth4U]

@@agravery223 in reality true beauty isn't just outer appearances.. when in a relationship...we all know this deep down..or should lol

[@molly9796]

Someday I really hope that people make a return to their roots and realize that the feeling of intimacy and satisfaction they achieve through porn cannot even come close to matching that of a committed relationship between two people who make a daily choice to romantically focus solely on each other. Thanks for dealing with the topic Russell. My take: porn is a moral evil, in part because of its relationship with sex trafficking. If every porn user would only do their research into what that industry has enabled, I think there would be a few more quitters.

[@poland1230]

There are a lot of people addicted to porn that have difficulty meeting others and get their intimate needs through porn. Speaking for a friend...

[@Weird-City]

Relationships take a lot of effort though long-term and the stats are not good. Most relationships fizzle out over time. Until we advance our perspective on relationships I don't see the quick fix of porn going anywhere. Humans are not monogamous. May sound crazy today - but the future will regard monogamy as cruel on both parties. Marriages should be contractually renewed yearly and should allow three, four or more people to enter into contract. See you have to ask yourselves the key question - why is porn so popular?

[@badmorty5164]

@@poland1230 porn makes it more difficult to meet people, as it lowers you're confidence wastes valuable energy and minerals you're body could use to make you're skin nicer for instance. It also lowers you're sex hormones and pheromones which give you the drive to go out and meet people and that. It also makes you loose muscle mass to if you do it to much . And it gives you're brain an easy option which it will keep doing as meeting a girl or guy takes effort and usually gives you anxiety. Because it's a new thing and new things scare us sometimes but that's where growth takes place 🙏

[@molly9796]

@@Weird-City With respect, your comment makes it sound a bit like humans don’t have a free will of their own. Yes, for many people it’s difficult to be monogamous-for some it’s not as much. But I don’t think there’s quite an argument there that our species is simply “not monotonous.” The reason why is that something sets us apart from apes, dogs, cats, etc-the ability to choose what kind of life we want to live and the ability to *master our own basic impulses.* Making peace with these impulses is one of the things Russell deals most with on this channel, and it’s the reason why, thank goodness, humans can be what and who they want to be, whether it be monogamous or not.

[@badmorty5164]

Just to say when I've been addicted to porn or struggling with it. I've always found it extremely hard to find love or meaningful connections. Most my relationships/romantic encounters, like kissing someone or dating have always mostly happened when I've avoided porn and masterbation for a while 1 month to 2 months. I feel like people subconsciously pick up on more then we think. I feel like if I watched loads of porn a girl would pick up on my lack of hormones and lack of confidence, where as if I'm of that stuff everything feels easier, it's almost like there's an invisible energy that girls or guys can pick up on/tap into and the more you have the more meaningful interactions are/can be, just a little example I avoided porn for 2 months and masterbation, and usually I wouldn't have the confidence to go up to a girl and ask for her number. But after doing that and resetting, I was on the bus one afternoon loads of people on there to, and this girl was sitting a seat away from me she was beautiful alluring and looked really sweet, so I just made eye contact with her and when she did the same back, I just said we always seem to catch the same bus and I always find myself looking at you tbh. You have a such a gorgeous smile and I'd love to take you out sometime 🧡 then she got her phone out to give me her number :o we got the digits 😁 but what I'm staying is that process felt alot easier, while off porn 🧡

[@nicholascelia3692]

I was molested at 6 and 1/2 by a woman, and was privy to pornography when I was fourteen that my stepdad brought into the family home by way of an 8 millimeter projector. The one two punch of both really screwed me up, along with ongoing formative year violence and neglect. Struggled with mental health problems all my life. I'm starting a fast to get away from cigarettes, marijuana, emotional eating, and porn and to get spiritually connected. I appreciate you speaking on this subject.

[@righteoussavage1316]

Sorry to hear that brother that is awful what you have been through, you have my up most respect for having the strength to soldier on in the world, massive respect man.

[@jocelynnowen3078]

You are not alone. Hugs from AA😀

[@adamcotton9657]

Sorry to hear that

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

These pepple who watch it are in denial about what it does to your brain, to your self esteem, to your relationships, to your sex life, how you view people (especially women), and what it does to society. Gail Dines and Robert Jensen have Excellent books on the topic.

[@_VISION.]

Look up 'epistemic humility' and 'the psychology of dogmatism'

[@gingermarshy007]

Nah too simplistic.

[@MichaelForde521]

Yeah wayyy to simplistic .... we have built a society that doesn’t allow most men to follow their natural, hard wired instincts so porn ends up being their only outlet to waylay their urges that have kept humanity going all along while we continue to live in an increasingly sterile environment that is loosing its connection to our animal baseline.

[@MrCmon113]

You're making people feel guilty about their sexuality and then blame porn. You are the problem.

[@MrCmon113]

@@MichaelForde521 That's not society unless gorillas have the same society.

[@cherylklassen7500]

I have recently applied the same ideology to quitting smoking. (Distracting myself in more rewarding ways, making art, taking a walk, calling a friend...etc) its working very well so far

[@jappojappy]

Congratulations my friend! I wish you lasting success in this endeavour. I currently suffer from cigarette addiction, but I hope one day to get to where you are now. Cheers!

[@cherylklassen7500]

@@jappojappy it has now been nearly 2 months cigarette free and 6 weeks nicotine free (I used the patch for the first 2 weeks) I am starting to notice more energy, things smell better and taste better and I have more spending money. I am super happy I have done it finally!

[@Yeshua_is-Cool]

@@cherylklassen7500 good for you I'm trying to stop my porn addiction I was about to polish my one eyed gofer then I watched this video caught off guard and now I'm not going to master bait this is going to be hard hopefully I can pull through

[@lachlandouglas6656]

@@cherylklassen7500 that's really awesomeatw good on you! I quit for about 5 weeks (not cold Turkey, was having a couple smokes at socials). Used patches and came so close but then fell back in the hole.

[@jaegrant6441]

"bring awareness to that moment, & you'll learn something about yourself." -words that could solve the world's problems :)

[@laurendowns4894]

Finally, a man asking the probing questions respectfully and backed by data with a good grasp on psychology. It's obvious Russell Brand is a product of introspection who tries to better himself and the world through thoughtful discussions.

[@DrSpooglemon]

Probing, you say?!

[@AhmetKaan]

*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."*

[@adriancaldwell]

good call :)

[@theconversation9103]

Why the concern then?

[@adriancaldwell]

TheConversation ?

[@c-rlt730]

Not true if you're an entrepreneur, the people making it easy for the base of the pyramid to consume are focusing very much on the algorithms and demands of the consumers, thoughts etc. They're bringing in the cash and that creates ease.

[@TheBayzent]

@@_NightoftheComet Not all of us have relationships to conduct

[@awesomesauce980]

2 hours in 2 weeks. It's like they aren't even trying

[@thatrandomyoutubechannel]

It usually takes me 2 hours just to find a video I haven't seen.

[@andytimperman5823]

@@thatrandomyoutubechannel hahahahah

[@doggo6517]

Those are rookie numbers Unless you're more of a .gif person, and you're only counting file length. Then 2 hours would be a big boye move

[@CrypticSWLDN]

@@thatrandomyoutubechannel Everyone says that 😂 what has porn done to people Dayum

[@acomedybyec1437]

@@jim7576 I’ve been watching porn since what feels like forever ? sometimes I’m mad at myself, sometimes I just stay the fuck out of my way! I’m a human and finding balance is apart of our experience , just imagine when there wasn’t any porn! #aComedybyec Dating app

[@onamaehadanieru9600]

Thank you for always having thoughtful commentary, Russell. Listening to you makes me feel that there is hope in this world for us as humans to understand each other on a deeper, more meaningful level.

[@Thelivelyone]

Russell is a good man . Peace and love to him and his family . And love to all that read this message.

[@melorgomolox6828]

I like artistic, female gaze oriented porn. Super rarely though. As a woman, it freaks me out that men get off to objectifying and disposing of women. It makes me feel scared to be sexual with men so much of the time. Theres no love or meaning behind some of the shit in porn, and life is too short to live like that to me. Its like junk food for the mind, and it makes people feel even more lonely/insecure about their bodies/sense of self worth, etc. It reinforces a lot of negative aspects of society too, like pedophilia, misogyny, racism, etc.

[@janetwestwood9194]

🍟🍔 👈👀👉 🧠

[@HeLpLOstGOdAny1]

So do you think men might have been made to feel disposable first? Most deaths at work are men not women, same with suicides, men die in war zones in greater numbers. Women initiate most divorces. Women are quicker to write off some men altogether, 80% of women aim at chasing the top 20% of men and a large percentage the top 5% along with many ad campaigns & films / TV series that point out men as being toxic, easy to replace etc.

[@greentree730]

Exactly...mind poison

[@ottosump3356]

Flying Carpet Exactly that , but despite western women being the most privileged group they are still so oppressed. 🙄

[@whoanellynelnel3874]

Christ any chance for incels to take their self loathing out on another woman, huh.

[@baumer2504]

I haven't seen a stranger smile in over a year. I miss that human connection.

[@baumer2504]

@@teejehoda9749 Thanks 😊

[@patmccall4647]

Jeez dude. Balance out the risk of the rona with your mental health man. Stay safe brother.

[@ThirdCoastNative]

@@patmccall4647 the risk of the flu? Sounds like you live in fear and that’s a problem on it’s own.

[@MsHiker100]

Wow Baumer, so true. I hadn't thought of that.

[@patmccall4647]

@@ThirdCoastNative I bet youre fun at parties

[@kirkjohnson9353]

Over a period of decades I have come to realize that one of the foundations of my addiction to porn was a fear of actual relationships. It is hard to convey to the average person how deep and all encompassing this fear is - they have not experienced it. Given the deep level of fear and then the shame that goes with porn use it was extremely difficult to even begin to realize what was going on. Like other kinds of fear I did not want to look at it. Fear is repulsive and not attractive in any way. Shame is deeply disabling of what ever small amount of courage that might be there. Society doesn't do a very good job of looking at these issues or dealing with them so there was no support or incentive to do it on my own except when it got so bad that I could no longer ignore it's destructive effects. Thank you Russel for your openness and willingness to shed light into this dark place.

[@electrolettuce5624]

It's not a fear of relationships, it's too easy for a woman to falsely accuse a man of rape if she isn't sexually satisfied, it's not worth it dude, masturbation is the best, it's a normal part of life anyway everyone does it despite what they tell you

[@mygirldarby]

You make a good point about fear and how repulsive it is. I think fear of women is the energy powering "incels." They are afraid of women, afraid to approach them, ask them out, do or say the wrong thing and it gets worse as time goes on. They become terrified of women but they repress that and use anger to cover up their insecurities. So now they're coming off as very angry and hard to approach or be around, which makes it nearly impossible for them to get a date. It's a vicious circle. Anger is a secondary emotion. It is used to cover over primary fear or sadness.

[@mygirldarby]

@@electrolettuce5624 That's crazy, bro. If you were even remotely right and women are commonly falsely accusing men of those things then most men would have been accused of this crime many times. And we know that is not true. I've never even met one man who has been accused of that! So your theory is just wacko. I've also never met a woman who has accused a man of that. If it were so common that men are running around terrified of false charges, I would know at least a few, lol. No, you aren't thinking right. I think you're an incel and you should see a therapist to help you. Someone in my family was this way and he thought crazy things about women. He went to therapy and fixed all the mental health issues and false beliefs he had. Two years later he got married! He could never even get dates before and now he's happily married. Best of luck to you. We all want to love and be loved and women aren't going around making random false accusations. That would be extremely traumatic thing to do for a woman and so it doesn't happen hardly at all. You're not thinking logically if you think women would go to the police and make up elaborate lies about some guy they dated...and do it over and over. It would be ridiculous. Did your mom do that? Any sisters? Do they do do that? Of course not.

[@electrolettuce5624]

@@mygirldarby and the men who are like that usually stay out of prison cuz they aren't falsely accused, you want to risk prison time? Knock yourself out, I'm staying safe and out of prison

[@Grand_Rizzard104]

"Its not a big deal" and "I have a problem." Two things I told myself hundreds if not thousands of times, after destroying relationships, hating myself, developing crippling ED, crying myself to sleep, wishing I was dead, having the same conversation with myself and about stopping over and over and over and over.

[@goldtiger9453]

Read the easy peasy method

[@HaseebKhan-on5zk]

Just something I want to add that I thought about yesterday before watching this video. I feel as though this pandemic has saved me in a way. From the age of 7 to 16 I was a fun person who did what I did cause that's who I was. Then from 16 to 20 I started listening to others I become anxious, afraid and angry. Those four years I lost, I cannot remember what I did and I don't even have any pictures of myself in that period. This pandemic forced me to be alone and confront myself, the constant death around me, and me visiting the graveyard every week changed me. It made me accept certain things about myself and the world. I feel for the first time in a long time like the old me, like a phoenix from the ashes.

[@johnd9357]

I was addicted to porn for years. Even though I was in a committed relationship and later on even married. One day I just stopped. I don’t know why, but I just stopped viewing porn at all. In a short time the sexual relationship with my wife improved dramatically. It has been years since I really looked at porn in earnest. I’ve tried, but I just can’t get into it. I’d rather have sex with my wife or even just use my imagination. Pornography now seems like an alien concept.

[@jamieyoho2310]

Good for u. It ruined my relationship. He chose porn for 12 years then escalated to live girls. But its manly right?

[@bsum8985]

@@jamieyoho2310 yes, this is the path for most. I am sorry.

[@moneymanflacko7206]

@@jamieyoho2310 how would that be ‚manly’?

[@jamieyoho2310]

@@moneymanflacko7206 men r pressured to watch porn bc to do otherwise would signal some malfunction of masculinity. Men r being brainwashed away from true masculinity.

[@kYA00h]

@@jamieyoho2310 i disagree... tons of women watch po_rn. what does that say about couples who watch together?

[@ChickenWings103]

When I get urges, I think back to that old Persian adage "This too shall pass."

[@futavadumnezo]

Ok Saruman

[@MADRUSSIAN720]

YOU SHALL NOT PASS

[@bikinibandit2398]

@Vic Timms I thought it was buddhist.

[@jamshidicompany419]

@@bikinibandit2398 nop its a persian adage and People use it when they have problems that cannot be solved The root of this proverb goes back to the story of a king(Shah) who when he was sad read this sentence from his ring and thought about fluency and the passage of time.

[@JaysonT1]

That's the Bible, dude

[@1satisfiedmind]

Russell, you hit the nail on the head. The mere fact that your mention of words like connection, intimacy, and authenticity, brought me to tears, served as a painful reminder of what it's missing in my life. I think it's interesting that porn hub use is up so high, but I would add so is Amazon, and there may be a link there as well, in the way people shop to fill an inner need. I live a fairly isolated life, in Colorado. Gone are the days of striking up conversation with strangers (how I have always made new friends). Its sad. During the pandemic, I found myself buying guitars and gear, from Amazon, Ebay, Reverb, etc, that are above my skill level. But man, seeing the UPS truck show up on my property, excited me. A moment's connection w a stranger, a chance to say, "hello" and "thank you" is a strangely satisfying thing, equal to the thrill of opening a bunch of packages. I have too much time alone w my smart phone. In the last year I bought 9 guitars (6 electric, 3 acoustic), guitar stands, guitar straps, capo's, 2 amps, effects pedals, etc, and I'm still empty. The high, same as porn and masturbatory activities, is illusory. One thing I know, I'd rather be with a human, than a room full of guitars. Thanks for the truth therapy

[@justjoe942]

I've never heard this addressed outside of a college course; good on you, Russell.

[@spaceskipster4412]

I said to a friend the other day, "Russell Brand has gone from a W@nker to a Sage in less than a decade. " This video proves it. Thanks Russell. 💗

[@farmingganja5277]

Well played sir, well played.

[@grandmastersreaction1267]

Lol I literally said the same thing to a mate the other day too

[@Sexybiblelover260196]

He’s now a married man 👨 with children 👶 and that lifestyle will make him a responsible person.

[@Tukayo69]

Hahaha, indeed sire.

[@rogerpbsmusic]

Even when a wanker, I knew he was a sage

[@obviousalias9506]

All I can add, anonymously, is that whenever I look at porn (and I went to great lengths to find so-called "ethical porn" for this) it's almost always because I'm feeling incredibly disconnected from emotional connection and emotional intimacy. Love seems so beyond reach at times; the sex is sort of a visual metaphor for the very basic human connection and mutual care whose absence often feels too acute.

[@annaarrowood9778]

💯

[@starsnstripesforever5601]

As an addict myself, it has affected my personal relationship, self esteem, job and my personal morals. I literally feel myself divided against itself, almost a self realization of yin and yang at war within my body and soul. I was introduced to porn by my older brother when I was in kindergarten and at the height of my struggles I would watch porn and engage in self release up to 8-10 times a day in addition to practically badger my wife every moment. My wife is fully aware of my struggles and supports me fully. I do read the Bible and it greatly conflicts with my faith. I know it boils down to self discipline but the feeling is so overwhelming my body literally shakes and I am no longer in control. Porn is a very real addiction and I almost feel there is no cure

[@vickielawson3114]

Good Lord, this guy is brilliant. I could listen to him every day and would probably learn an endless amount. I think I’ll do that. We need more people like him.

[@JaysonT1]

It's amazing he still hasn't figured out veganism is bullshit though.

[@acomedybyec1437]

I’ve been watching porn since what feels like forever ? sometimes I’m mad at myself, sometimes I just stay the fuck out of my way! I’m a human and finding balance is apart of our experience , just imagine when there wasn’t any porn! #aComedybyec Dating app

[@truthseeker9945]

Avoid porn as it will never fill the void you’re looking for. You’ll feel an incredible sense of self control and power the next time you close laptop and walk away. Try it.

[@eldenfindley186]

Nah bro it fills my void just fine

[@Mikamichae]

@@eldenfindley186 give it five years till you’re empty

[@Rand0m411]

All its taught me is that I should have got a job in porn.

[@fuerstmetternich1997]

Wrong. It just makes the horny feeling go away and I can attend more important matters with full focus which is great.

[@eldenfindley186]

@@Mikamichae that’s not how biology works.

[@carousel9325]

was about to relapse and this saved me. thanks

[@dijahtrump694]

RAH...AMEN

[@diandirk3423]

Lol..... How do you fap tho?

[@kYA00h]

i relapsed...and it was worth it

[@anarcho-communist11]

​@@diandirk3423 I'm a woman, I please myself sometimes, and I never look at porn. Do men not have imaginations?

[@MrCmon113]

@@anarcho-communist11 My imagination is too fucked up, so I use porn to reign it in.

[@MrJudeWanamaker]

really like the calmer videos you make. the 2022 stuff is loud and fast

[@bbob288]

The irony and beauty of being alone, temporarily dropping out to pursue contemplation and stillness is that you realise you can never be alone, theres always something, be it nature, or people, and that actually it is only in contrast with the other that you can even know or define yourself at all. There isnt any alone because there isn't really any individuals existing in isolation from the environment. Behind all veils, there is nothing but love and connectedness, this love, however, is sparse to almost everybody in our society because this society uses and popularises the "needy" and "individual" love... for profit. This society is not sustainable and there will be a conclusion to all the suffering it is causing, that's for dam sure.

[@GodofDisco]

wow this gave me butterflies

[@SJ-nh6kr]

My daughter is age 12 and her male friends who are the same age openly admits they watch porn. These sites should be held responsible. Also the tv have strict regulations to what they can show at certain times but the internet have none of that. It’s worrying!

[@rambomoore381]

It sucks but don't blame the TV, websites etc. Sure they are a part of the problem but the biggest problem is the individuals with the addiction and then the parents for not teaching values. Porn is horrible

[@Actias1974]

You could try parenting.

[@titus17]

the sites should most definitely not be held responsible for those kids having parents that don't know how to raise children. how does that make any sense to you? you want to end up like the UK where you need a government ID to look up things on the internet? no.

[@kevinapack]

ultimately parents need to be responsible as they are the ones who give their kids access to the internet

[@ShaneMcGrath.]

Do you also blame your car dealership when you get a speeding ticket? Don't blame the tool, Blame the person behind it! Like most things, It can be used for good or bad. Sounds more like a parenting issue, Boys hitting puberty around that age are of course wanting to see what it's all about, Nothing new there I bet your dad, Your grandad and all those before them did basically the same at that age any way they could, Be it playboy magazines in their time to websites in these times!

[@vegetarianninja]

Listened to so many videos from Russell now... Safe to say there's a man-crush developing. I admire the way he calmly approaches the subject, and uses his inner-most faculties to navigate through the real issues. Politicians on the other hand are VERY surface-level, essentially homogeneous beings. Thanks Russell for your amazing content.

[@Azure-88]

Russel, you're so good at putting this stuff into words. You do a really good job at capturing the essence of the situation in such a clear way that I believe anyone can see that what you're saying makes sense. You basically lay clear and exposure the situation for what it is. This is important to keep as a reference because it goes to the root of what motivates our behaviour as humans; this content is timeless and I hope we have access to it for the future.

[@RuggerDez]

Back in my day, we had to hide playboy magazines in the woods.

[@joeschmo1516]

Or under the seat of my truck

[@StayMadNobodycares]

I had the scrambled channel on basic cable, ironically it was channel 69, if you were lucky it would stay clear for half a minute.

[@OldQueer]

Thank you for your service. Finding woods porn was a highlight of my formative years. Seconded by the gents who'd leave their newspaper at the bus stop, page 3 and all.

[@juancaminante8078]

That’s who put them there. I’d always wondered. Thanks.

[@dobbsmill3676]

Porn in the woods was a right of passage. Same with a hairy bush. A good old fashioned panty escaping growler. Bring back the 80's!

[@jakecostanza802]

People are more addicted to social media than porn these days. You should make a video about that.

[@AmandaMG6]

.... he says defensively

[@rokok4856]

Both hand in hand

[@MicahMicahel]

I pity the new kids with parents that are barely there for them. Maybe boomer parents ignored us most of the time but the behaviour they modelled was highly social in real life... not a stupid screen

[@ocassionaljunkieforyou]

I think it's a 50-50.

[@nickibradbeer2815]

🤣 no

[@tingsomskjer5975]

"Nothing inherently wrong with porn"? Well, I disagree. First of all it´s easily available for kids and young people and likely do damage to their later sexual life in some ways. Secondly I believe a lot of abuse is taking place in the production of porn.

[@Animal_lives_matter]

So if P is easily available and harmful, then P is inherently wrong. Ok but lots of banal things satisfy this definition, and it doesn't factor in the concept of free will and responsibility for our actions. Heck, even sunlight is easily available and harmful, but I have free will and am responsible for not getting sunburn or skin cancer. I don't turn around and start blaming the sun. What I am trying to say is: take responsibility for your actions and stop trying to place the blame on other things for your own deficiencies. Yes, porn is dangerous, but life is dangerous so you better get used to dealing with danger.

[@ninjameihem]

Sunlight is a hormetic stressor tho. Porn is just harmful regardless lol

[@deanallen5567]

Porn is as old the human mind. It is not going to go away,. What is a problem is the industry which creates it and the way in which it may mold some young minds, thus deviating from the opportunity to form authentic sexual and romantic relationships. The lives of performers are in some cases negatively documented, but, as to whether their experiences are representative its hard to say for sure. The rise of consensual amateur porn refutes such concerns however. For informed, mature users of porn, who are not addicted, it serves a banal and necessary function.

[@davidbagley1783]

Treat yourself

[@pantherman8719]

Yes to both. Is correct.

[@mnixxon]

Such an important topic these days and so few people are willing to discuss it or approach a discussion in this way. Great video Russell. Thanks for bravely posting it.

[@wynandduplessis8630]

You have completely changed my view of addictions in general, the first practical insight I have ever got on the subject, thanks for this your videos really help people

[@creedymarks]

And like any other addiction, porn addicts will fight to defend their drug of choice

[@hArtyTruffle]

@@Thommaci not all make it out.

[@creedymarks]

@@Thommaci Yep, but you'd have to want it

[@TheFaro2011]

@@Thommaci clearly doesn't know how addiction works

[@hArtyTruffle]

@@Thommaci are you not aware that to have an addiction is to be a slave to it?

[@hArtyTruffle]

@@Thommaci But whilst a slave, the slave is not free. You’re talking about something you clearly don’t understand. Are you addicted to porn?

[@amvguerrero]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on pornography, Russell Brand. I know it can sometimes be hard for people to speak about because of the massive shame associated with it. I'm glad that you are a man speaking about it, because I don't feel that I see enough men willing to do so in an intellectual, self-reflective way. It feels like we live in such a pornography saturated environment, that it is impossible to escape its insidious effects. One example, it is especially difficult for women to live and work in this society, when they are constantly being undressed and objectified in another persons pornography-tarnished mind. But, if we can make a collective effort to overcome such a detrimental habit in each of our own minds, society could be so much better, especially for the children that are destroyed by its consequences. All the best!

[@Abyssalll]

Right. I'm sure no woman ever went out and was undressed and "objectified" by men before the age of porn.

[@dannieh9849]

@@Abyssalll She said constantly. Do you believe it happened constantly before? I sure don’t, and I know first hand what abstaining from porn did to my brain when it comes to my preception of women. I assume you’re watching porn as well. What’s your take on the consequences, if there are any?

[@poeticrockstarr6875]

@@Abyssalll Pornography has been around since BC times, have you not seen the cave paintings?

[@GrantFoxOfficial]

If it's consuming your life and you can't stop, get a psychologist and talk about adhd and trauma. Turns out I was undiagnosed ADD / ADHD (combined type) which was fueling lack of impulse control and people with ADHD are almost always addicted to something

[@jamesrobinson529]

Being alone is one of the greatest pleasures in life. Personally, there is no one on earth that I want to see and/or talk to every single day.

[@hgzmatt]

It's only a great pleasure if you feel in control and it is by choice or acceptance.

[@MicahMicahel]

some people are like you... some people fool themselves by telling themselves that. sometimes after you meet someone right you realize how much better it is. We're wired to procreate. Some people are wired for something different. If a person is trying to accomplish something, having no relationship can be really useful

[@hgzmatt]

@@MicahMicahel In the end you only have to justify it to yourself. Whether it's an ego defense to say you like being alone or the truth.. we will never know. But you will be miserable if you wished it was different.

[@jamesrobinson529]

@@bullbutter2931 ....ya know?

[@okaunis]

Things change. Only a fool thinks forever.

[@benneywenney]

Surely these covid restrictions must end this year... quite frankly their is more to life than simply surviving it seems as though the government have gone to task to remove all that makes life worth living, the closure of gyms, the measures introduced to completely remove quality human interaction...Gyms nightclubs jui jitsu travelling everything is gone...quite frankly if life was always gonna be like this their is no point in carrying on and I don't blame anyone for taking their own life, anything that resembles a dystopian future should not come to fruition, if you disagree with that then you're the enemy and in my opinion the blood of all the people who have taken their own lives due to the restricitions is on boris johnson matt hancock and the power's that be's hands

[@alexswarbrick984]

This resonates with me so much. Sport gives people purpose, improves well-being and is usually a great source of community. I've done alot of running over the last few months which has massively helped me to keep going, but its not the same. Tennis clubs have been closed despite tennis being one of the safest activites imaginable in a time like this. You can't replace the thrill of competion sport brings or the sense of community/ mutual respect that comes with it. Having said that, I do believe there is a light at the end of the tunnel and the best thing we can do is to focus on each day as it comes and try not to get too bogged down in everything thats happening as it is all too easy to become overwhelmed.

[@moritzr466]

alright relax mate

[@MrAndyballard]

You're bang on with that observation, I couldn't have put it better myself. The trouble is that most people are completely under the spell of the mass media that prolongs this fear and hysteria. Quite simply the majority are obeying whatever the Gov tell them without any critical thought involved. If one talks out and asks questions you're labelled an anti-vaxer and ‘conspiracy theorist’ which is a very dim witted thing to say said in order to shut anyone down. On the contrary, it means you have a functioning brain and still think - something that is considered dangerous by our Govs. They want dumbed down automatons willing to do anything they say. It works... look at the terrified masses in your local supermarket or even on the street wearing their muzzle and afraid of the person next to them. It's insane and has to stop. You'd appreciate Brendan O'Neill interviewed on talkRadio (YT channel) with Julia Hartley Brewer the other day, the man talks absolute sense about returning to a life worth living. You're not alone mate, there's plenty questioning this absurdity.

[@Willowy13]

It ain't ending if we don't stand up to it. Here in Brazil, two cities stood up to judges orders to close the cities down when the Mayor decided to open these cities. The order was cancelled by other judge.

[@kakayou546]

If they can do it for 1 yr they can do it for 7

[@KennyBoyd6]

i have been a fan ever since i first saw him but now for reasons i could’ve never imagined! But I really can’t get over his transformation and he’s on a constant trek of self improvement it would seem and I’m rooting for him 100% all the way and I think he’s doing a kick ass job great job, Russel Brand!! I admire you and look up to you and I want to learn from you!

[@oldschoolzen1579]

Got mad respect for you brother. Frank conversation without judgement is needed so badly right now. Keep charging forward.

[@doraymeandyou]

“If what you’re looking for is intimacy and authenticity...” (timely interruption from Stella Artois ad.

[@glowgirl8171]

An addiction to porn destroyed someone in my family. Normal sex became impossible for my brother-in-law{rip} and my poor sister put up with his addiction. I can't describe how he humiliated her. Trust me, I watched this man go down the rabbit hole into a sick, sick place. If you're reading this, I'm begging you to not even try it once. Especially today, as I've heard that violence is such a big part of it. I pray for the young minds that will be forever disfigured by early access to this.

[@justinbest9429]

I really appreciate these videos, I've rated Russell for awhile now but I'm enjoying these videos more and more. They are very genuine and honest.

[@johnr.21]

Being addicted to pornography is something I have never confided in anyone. I know it stems from years of abuse and childhood trauma that I somehow made an association with porn and an intense dopamine release. Constantly increasing the feel good feelings with smoking Marijuana and watching porn to elevate the experience. Finding something that makes you feel good when everything else makes you feel terrible and using it to cope with trauma ultimately ends up doing you a great deal of harm without you noticing at first. Sometimes I wish I would just drop dead and not have to feel like this anymore.

[@annaarrowood9778]

U don't really want to "drop dead", do u?🤚🏼😲

[@Sarcasmtomasksadness]

Hey I’m sorry you’ve had trauma that resulted in what your going through. I really hope your still around. I believe Jesus cares and loves you . Your not alone and it’s going to be okay.

[@michelevrey1127]

That's terrible dude. You should go see someone man. I too have had really bad childhood trauma and sometimes watch a bit. That shame is a demon dude. Let it go man. Find someone and love them. It's the best medicine for a bleeding soul. Promise

[@aaronpanesar]

I tried to kill myself ... 3 times. I can tell you, in the microsecond where you are ready to pass, you will find that meaning in your life. Suicide survivor ... to someone I pray never does what I did, and sometimes still think about ... You got this my brother.

[@Sarcasmtomasksadness]

@@aaronpanesar Idk you Aaron but I’m glad your still here! God bless

[@CarlVandenberg]

As someone with an addictive personality, I find porn does for me what any other mind altering substance does. It gives me a dopamine hit. And the more I use it the weaker the dopamine hit becomes so I use more. I've been clean from opiates for 15 years and sober from alcohol for 8 years. I can't say the same about porn, although I don't "use" it as often as I have in the past. But I've never been able to use any addictive substance in moderation, so I imagine I won't quit using porn until I cut it completely out of my life.

[@Jbayz]

I'm with ya. Just quit weed again after another 8 month stint AFTER not smoking for 4 years. I blame 2020. But now I've been looking at bs and I'm losing sleep and up at this time of fucking night when I shouldn't be.

[@acomedybyec1437]

@@Jbayz I’ve been watching porn since what feels like forever ? sometimes I’m mad at myself, sometimes I just stay the fuck out of my way! I’m a human and finding balance is apart of our experience , just imagine when there wasn’t any porn! #aComedybyec Dating app

[@ericreeves1981]

It becomes easier once you become open about it with someone. I attend a addiction recovery meeting every week.

[@lauriejanes6511]

I find myself addicted to romantic fantasies in my head when I need to distract myself or avoid feeling something I fear. I prefer to invent my own.

[@TheBayzent]

Do not deny yourself of what you like. If you make up fantasies in your head, indulge in them, you have enough people to fight against in your daily routine to have to fight against yourself as well.

[@futavadumnezo]

Yeah that's what most women do that's why women are the the ones that watch porn by a huge margin compared to men.

[@lauriejanes6511]

@@futavadumnezo You are so wrong! Look it up online. There have been dozens of studies which show that men watch porn at a huge rate compared to women, sometimes 90% compared to 10%. I don’t know where you got your stats. Perhaps out of your own head?

[@lauriejanes6511]

P.S. fantasizing about romance is not the same thing as watching porn. Romantic fantasies or actual stories that you live in your head which include all kinds of emotions and events, even artistic accomplishments. Porn is just icky. Two strangers doing nothing but copulating, etc. and it’s demeaning to women. I don’t think you have any idea what I’m talking about when I say romantic fantasy. It rarely includes sex. It’s ROMANTIC, which is different from, but which may sometimes include, sex.

[@ShadowRaven66669]

Romantic fantasies are the female equivalent of porn for men and are a lot easier to hide because it's in your head instead of on a computer screen. Men are visually stimulated. Women need mental stimulation. It's the same damn thing, it just looks different. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Also, stop avoiding. That's part of the problem.

[@StelinaJustice]

The saddest part about someone addicted to porn, is that they somehow lose their ability to connect sexually with their partner. Or to flirt. Yes, what about flirting? 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

[@Smacks1]

So true! Sexual connection with my gf has faded so much smh horrible

[@StelinaJustice]

@@Smacks1 smack 2 then🤣

[@Smacks1]

@@StelinaJustice I’m done🤦🏽‍♂️😂😂

[@Smacks1]

@@StelinaJustice it could keep going lol

[@moorshound3243]

Look at it the other way. Maybe your partner can't for whatever reason connect with you, maybe they don't flirt with you maybe after years of no sex you feel empty & need to watch others enjoying themselves so you are at least happy for them, happy that someone is having fun. As we grow up we see everything we see people eating drinking sleeping we see fighting we see people being born people dieing people killing each other we see people do everything except the one act that actually makes people SEX! We hide it away & don't want to talk about it. Try living in England where most people still think like it's 1945 you cannot have a conversation that involves sex, madness.

[@bbisawake337]

It’s probs not your bag Russell but I think you’d make such a fantastic university lecturer/seminar leader I feel like I’m learning so much every time I watch your videos and you inspire me to read more and find out more about topics you’ve highlighted

[@paulcooper5748]

Loneliness and a false sense of intimacy.

[@TheBayzent]

Hey I take the false sense of intimacy over feeling none

[@paulcooper5748]

@@TheBayzent True.👍

[@philcudworth8491]

I dont get porn. It's like watching someone else eat. Doesn't satisfy hunger.

[@TomeRodrigo]

Try to get an orgasm by watching someone else eat..

[@pradamama84]

@@TomeRodrigo depends what they’re eating lmao

[@block4562]

Some people like to watch people eat

[@SyThco13]

@@block4562 yeah even lonelier people watch mukbangs...

[@SyThco13]

I fully agree with this

[@stevedriscoll2539]

Is Russel a "renaissance man"? Don't know what box he belongs in, but he's interesting, funny, and talented and I just love tuning in.

[@michaelblissett43]

Spot on Russell Brand. I combat my need for intimacy and authenticity by learning to play the ukulele and joining an online group that play together. A wholly positive interaction. Whereas pornography delivers 50% positivity and 50% guilt/shame. The reason it’s turned to is because it’s a quick fix to the need!

[@Jen.K]

Ultimately, all addictions limit our potential, for various positive opportunities. Weather its ruining our health, physical or emotional, relationships, or finances. Some addictions seem benign, but you have to wonder what opportunity for emotional growth is being lost through the use of an unconscious, addictive behavior. The most disturbing thing about porn addiction seems to be the way it numbs us to real and normal kinds of sexual activity and stimulation. It seems to encourage more and more extreme kinds of interests, in order to achieve the same levels of arousal. I guess this is the nature of addiction, it alters our brain chemistry, down regulating dopamine receptors so we need more and more of the substance or activity to get the effect. I was in a relationship with a porn addict once, it was miserable.

[@Edrumachine]

It becomes a crutch and a way to protect an unhealthy source of comfort. Proverbs 3:5-6 (New King James Version) Trust in the Lord with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. God is love, truth, and light, and is good all the time.

[@Mary-dk7mc]

Can you please share in what ways porn ruins relationships?

[@Jen.K]

@@Mary-dk7mc Loss of interest in human partner. Needing more and more extreme activities to achieve stimulation. Inability to respond and relate in normal sexual ways. Demands for activities partner may not be comfortable with. Loss of intimacy and respect as partner is viewed as an object. Brain chemistry and functioning is changed in unnatural ways because of the unnatural experiences available through porn, this re-wires the brain to then need these unnatural forms of stimulation, causes dopamine imbalances. All addictions make people narcissistic, as they focus on themselves and satisfying their needs rather than taking care of others.

[@general_electrics]

Another question is, why is porn essentially free? There's tons of high quality porn that doesn't require any money at all to access right at everyone's fingertips. This is strange. Very few things people desire are free. Of course, there is a hidden psychological cost. However, who benefits from that cost?

[@TheUndulyNoted]

The same reason KZbin and Facebook are free. They make money through other means, such as putting cookies onto your pc to watch your online behaviour and sell that data to advertisers

[@general_electrics]

@@TheUndulyNoted High quality, professionally filmed, high definition pornography is *much* more expensive than user generated KZbin and facebook content. See the mismatch? How much do advertisers interested in users choice of pornography pay for data compared to advertisers getting data from google and facebook? What's the market for porn user data? Another mismatch,

[@beanames9690]

Smartest comment i may have ever read.

[@Jimmybarth]

It's all about the demoralisation of society, a tactic used by Bolsheviks.

[@cruzgomes5660]

@@Jimmybarth something many people don't realize

[@colingreening711]

I've had an on-off addiction to porn since I was about 15. Four years. Four years of shame, deceit, and pain. I recently got back into it after going through a breakup, but this time my parents found out. I can't hide it anymore. I'm quitting this time, for good. I can't keep doing this to myself.

[@taylortalkstales8106]

I appreciate all that you do Russell, and the way you always do it is so eloquent and nonjudgmental. As a younger woman, I used to believe pornography and watching it was a sign of empowerment and sexual positivity, but as I matured I discovered it's really not. It lead to me not wanting intimacy with partners, with accepting unhealthy relationship and sexual concepts, it interfered with my sexual abilities and performance, and so much more. Cutting porn out of my life was a great step in my spiritual development and in learning how to have a healthy and physically intimate relationship with porn out of the equation. There's no shame in watching porn, but people do need to be informed about the negative aspects of it too. I don't think they really are informed about the negative consequences.

[@LostInTransit]

I have been finding your log stack backdrop weirly comforting over lockdown

[@dianevanderlinden3480]

Yes. I even notice that a bag or whatever it was that was up against the logs the other day is gone.

[@The.Contractor.416]

@@dianevanderlinden3480 lolllll

[@dignan193]

Hahahahaha, I've often wondered about that stack myself

[@oddachieve]

I used to knock your opinions on things a few of years ago and even more so when you were on C4 but the last year and a bit I feel you've made a lot of strong open points and good talking points where you don't actually need to be on the left/right to agree with you. Keep up the good work, all your recent uploads have been great

[@chiroh145]

"Well of course I know him...he's me"

[@jonniglover]

Obi wan lol

[@Garrett.1111]

General Kenobi?

[@ChrigiKro]

Lol.

[@Walters1]

Hey Dwight! 😂

[@ItApproaches]

You are a bold one.

[@marry9894]

Russell what you’re saying is very very wise and insightful, please keep it going, people need this information!!🙏🏽❤️

[@phenderson23451]

Another great and thought-provoking video, Russell! Thank you very much for taking the time and putting in the effort of studying to make these

[@jenniferbassfirstchannel]

sex isn’t meant to be dirty porn! It’s meant to be sacred a expression of love between two people! loving kind procreation etc. the way God made it in the Bible between man and woman male and female! meant to be a special thing not a chore not a pornography thing. It affects both men and women porn is bad yes can be addictive. be safe everyone guard your heart and eyes!

[@Mr_Nobody913]

I know your heart is in the right place but I wonder what your thoughts are on gay ppl. Seeing as you had to stress it’s between a man and woman.

[@badmorty5164]

@@Mr_Nobody913 me to :)

[@authorbhattacharjee4957]

But not everyone is Christian

[@HitTheBricks89]

sex doesn't necessarily have to have anything to do with love .

[@badmorty5164]

@Mario Canez it's because of media women and men have higher standards, as they have seen a higher level of beauty, but it's not there fault best thing you can do is go be social in groups, and someone will like you or fancy you from chatting and interacting. I use to complain all the time then I went clubbing and started spending time with different groups of people. Remember you stay with someone long term because they turn you're heart on. If you dated a guy or girl that was hot but there also a dikhead . You're not goner stay with them

[@shawnastarr3605]

My girls stayed the night with their big sister and I was home alone and I didn’t like it this time for some reason it felt really weird and lonely. I ended up watching movies on Netflix, i watched this movie I have never seen called (Eat Pray Love) and I really thoroughly enjoyed and loved watching this movie, I ate popcorn and dark chocolate and tea, it was lovely. If there wasn’t a pandemic I might be at a dance class, or meeting new people, or I might be doing something else I’m sure. I was talking to a Facebook friend, a male friend that said blow up dolls are sold out, lol. I think we are all living in such strange and confusing times. Personally I long for some kind of refreshing innocence about life that’s real and old fashioned, some kind of pure beautiful freedom to explore the world of love and romance that’s not from a computer screen, kind of like when your walking in the forest with nature where it’s natural like when you spot a wild flower for the first time and you instantly fall in love.

[@Yeshua_is-Cool]

I think that male friend wanted to fuck to be honest I've tried this route before with women does it work who knows women don't talk to me can't find out lol jk I'm joking nah but that's nice that other people are like that I love good romance