speaking openly about my burnout, why I froze my eggs, my 7-year relationship & marriage (Q&A)

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@sarahpan Ай бұрын

happy weekend everyone 😊 I had a few questions about my recent life updates and things I wanted to talk openly about so this is a very long overdue Q&A! I promise we will be back with the regular (non-burnout, non-egg freezing) content next week ~ hope everyone's having a great week 💖

@Glassflowrrrs Ай бұрын

another reason why long form on KZbin has always been my favorite. you're able to share as much or as little as possible but it's also an opportunity to give yourself the space that you need as a h u m a n.

@emiliablaze Ай бұрын

thank you for sharing this with us, Sarah! For the longest time your channel’s primarily been a source of inspiration for me, because you are such an overachiever. Maybe you don’t believe that yourself but as far as i know, you went to an ivy league school, did various internships, already bought a house and you obviously have this well paying and very respected job. You said yourself you’ve never really not had a strict schedule eg proper time off, and that is absolutely unimaginable for me. I would have ended up with mental health issues much much sooner. For you to even last that long without mental health problems is a big achievement by itself. Give yourself a pat on the back for coming so far. A sick pet on top of an already really busy life is the absolute worst, super emotionally draining at the very least. And then you also froze your eggs, which is yet another physical and mental thing to deal with. It’s good to hear that you are doing better now! Continue to take it slow and take care of yourself! ❤️

@livestronger925 Ай бұрын

You’re one of the most genuine people I’ve ever seen on KZbin. Keep making great content.

@allthehui Ай бұрын

burn out is so real! and it can be incredibly hard to navigate working in tech since it's perceived as such a "chill" job. great q&a! love the transparency :)

@nyeduoth Ай бұрын

Hey girl, I found you through your podcast and watched your recent vlogs. You’re amazing and you’re doing awesome. Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability- KZbinrs like you are needed.

@ki.ri.creations Ай бұрын

thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable. i find your videos very comforting and relatable and am actually the same age, career, and relationship length as you so i find it very inspiring to see how you are navigating your journey

@OhReseT Ай бұрын

Just want to say thank you for sharing. I have chronic upper back, neck, and some leg pain. I've been trying my best to stretch and see a PT to help me. It's kept me so down mentally, but as someone whos older and wants to get a career in coding it has really held me back. I think hearing that you keep moving forward even after all these pains makes me want to push myself, so thank you Sarah.

@applepiez5607 Ай бұрын

Being engaged is def okay to do! Get engaged and you can def delay the wedding planning and decide when it’s time! Like Stephanie soo & her husband did!!! ahaha

@kenbhesng9749 Ай бұрын

like if im not suffering, im not working hard enough. if i have a good sleep schedule, I'm not busy enough. if I'm comfortable, I'm not passionate enough.

@Elizabeth-mf3dn Ай бұрын

This 😭

@angelica1269 Ай бұрын

Thanks for being so open about your life. Just reminds people that everyone is human and not everyone lives a perfect life but we try our best. ❤

@annareis9283 Ай бұрын

we all support you so so much!! thank you so much for this video!

@SparklingwithZhen Ай бұрын

Your voice sounds so cozy 😌 I love listening to you before I go to bed!

@miiiiyuuuukiiiii Ай бұрын

Thank you for openly sharing your vulnerability and sensitivity. This video will help many people who are struggling to survive in the corporate world.

@LindaThao Ай бұрын

I just wanna say, I love the microphone Sarah! We need more Q&A’s or just sit down videos like this 💖😭🫶🏼

@xStarlitee Ай бұрын

thank you for being so vulnerable! I recently discovered you through your podcast and I really enjoy these sit-down type videos with you (kinda like a podcast), because you are so genuine. your voice is also very soothing haha. thanks for opening up and sharing your story and experiences with us! 💛

@alondrafilpo4405 Ай бұрын

Start by taking day trips or looking for apartments in Jersey and see if you like the vibes. Totally recommend Jersey City, Metuchen, Edison, Hoboken, Ridgewood, and Edgewater. If you want some relaxation go to SOJO or Island Spa and Sauna. Amazing food around both places too.

@waggermama Ай бұрын

As someone who’s had many burnout cycles, can I just applaud you for taking care of yourself ❤ and can I also recommend getting a TENS machine for neck and shoulder pain 😊

@Snowdrop1144 Ай бұрын

I feel so seen, whenever I hear you talk about your child of immigrant duties, I can totally relate. love these long videos, Sarah!

@peaceandcupcakes Ай бұрын

Thank you so much for your vulnerability, Sarah! You are so, so lovely and one of my favorite KZbinrs. Please continue to take care of your mental health and be kind to yourself 💜

@dtduong Ай бұрын

hi sarah! not sure if you would ever get to read this, but you’ve been one of my favorite creators on youtube for the past year. you actually helped me a lot when i was moving to nyc because i saw how much time you’ve invested into your hobbies, self care, content creation, and career. you really reignited my creative side by just showcasing your life here. anyways, i just wanted you to know that your genuine self inspires me sm and i’m excited to see where life takes you. wishing you the best!!

@RichardCant13 Ай бұрын

Ive been wanting to take a break from work for years now. Working in the human services field, COVID took a number on my own mental health but we aren't usually given paid mental health leave at all. So its either I get stressed out at work and burn myself out for the paycheck, or take time off and stress about not bringing home any income. I am happy you were able to take some time for yourself. I have enjoyed your content because its a break from every day life and its nice to see what NYC is like as someone who grew up there and has since moved away. Wishing you and your mental health all the best Sarah.

@Elizabeth-mf3dn Ай бұрын

Same burnout is crazy but there are still lovely moments where I get to enjoy the fruits of my labor or just feel proud of how far I’ve come. Though having insomnia and intense brain fog is not fun

@moonshin3jay Ай бұрын

The Queen is back 🙌🏻

@Annahamu Ай бұрын

Hi Sarah! Looking forward to your career Q&A whenever you decide to upload it 😉 Also wanted to share: Yahy! I found a job in tech as a graduate student ♡ Felt like sharing because you have always been one of my North Star as a woman in tech with many creative hobbies on the side ♡

@Hagar_yub Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing, you are an inspiration 🙏🏻

@savagefridays Ай бұрын

Love the moment with your parents and the mail. Thanks for sharing

@stunningtina5466 Ай бұрын

your gorgeous omg

@rukiakuckiki3980 Ай бұрын

I'm so glad you took that break from work. I've been going through very similar issues at work. I've been pulling consecutive back to back all-nighters and have been needing to take a nap in my car before I drive home because I'm scared of falling asleep at the wheel. It's gotten to the point where I think I'm just going to throw in the towel. It's just really not worth it to me anymore. It's just not.

@luvfitt Ай бұрын

The fertility part is relatable, and I lived in LA for so long that I want to live in NYC lol

@kerenduque6619 Ай бұрын

Hi!! I work at Google too and switched teams 3 months ago and our team just got reorged :o totally feel you on not having clear directive on what exactly to own/do - but hang in there!! You got this!

@BlakeSiegfried Ай бұрын

What a coincident, im in my 20s and thinking about it too. I have no plan nor feeling like im in the aptitude for rasing kids in at least 10 years. But I still thinking about freezing eggs just so I have option in the future. The only obstabcle for me is financial means to sustain the egg freezing.

@AimForMusiq Ай бұрын

consider moving to chicago! brooklyn and chicago remind me of each other

@naturallynobay5850 Ай бұрын

Sarah, you’re so sweet and I relate to you in a lot of ways. I hope you take care of yourself and I hope to one day share my KZbin with you also. Be well! 💜

@space_david Ай бұрын

Hi Sarah! thank you so much for sharing your story about taking mental health leave. Did you experience any friction or pushback when going towards that path? Or have issues getting support from psychiatrist/therapists? How did you determine how much time away was the correct amount?

@lexig15 Ай бұрын

I live in NJ so if you start seriously considering moving here, I can recommend some areas for you and James to check out! I work in NJ but have occasional site visits in NYC so if commute factors into your decision, I can try and recommend areas with a relatively easy commute :)

@santsikupponen Ай бұрын

your glasses are always so beautiful! where do you buy them?

@curtiswa6407 Ай бұрын

its really nice hearing from someone else who suffers from depression. i was really scared about taking medication in the beginning but in the end its one of the best decisions i've ever made. to all those that have been apprehensive i really recommend you just try it. i was super worried about it changing my personality but it didn't change me at all. it just removed a lot of my depressive thoughts.