Spectrum ft. Cryaotic & Minx

For everyone who has to hide their nature for their own safety.
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Directed By Mike Buonaiuto
Lyrics:
She loved her // like that
but telling her family? they might snap
So confined she couldn’t confide
She was playing girl games, offline
She had an answer, but she didn’t ask for this
Every little chit chat was a massive risk
If she discussed it they’d be disgusted
disown her and that’d be disastrous
She knew that it wasn’t their fault, They were brainwashed
They believed some crazy things
It’d cause her a smorgasbord of disorders
If she listened to what they would think
They thought that she was smiling, but they misidentified
because the clenching of her teeth was just her biting on the lie
And her logic said...
It’s gonna be ok, it’s gonna be ok
this issue is temporary so attempt to wait for one - more - day
There’s nothing wrong with you, it’s them - they’re just backwards
You’re in the future, they’re in the past
and they would abuse you if they knew the facts about it
It’s gonna be ok, it’s gonna be ok
this issue is temporary so attempt to wait until - you’re - safe
You love her, don’t ever feel you should apologise
can’t control your feelings or compromise,
i know it’s difficult to find a guiding a light now but you’ll come out alive
So
HOLD ON
Until you find the friends who’ll support you
Until you find a place you feel secure, you need to
HOLD ON
Until you’re independent
Wherever in the spectrum you are
It’s gonna be ok
It’s gonna be ok
They didn’t ask, he didn’t tell
If they found out, they’d give him hell
if they knew the lowdown that he fell for people
regardless of pronouns
he was already tormented every day
but it’d escalate if he couldn’t keep a straight
face // So what’ll crack first
the eggshells he treads on or himself
Online he was everything he wanted
But real life wouldn’t let him be as honest
it’d just bring violence his way like
“How do you like this attention you special snowflake?”
They had problems at home and had to vent their feelings
or an underdeveloped sense of empathy
but knowing that didn’t make it any easier
All he could do was breathe
til his logic said...
It’s gonna be ok, it’s gonna be ok
this issue is temporary so attempt to wait for one - more - day
step back from the situation // the world’s not a movie, it’s not fiction
you can’t think “say it, they’ll accept it”
Some people kick you down just because you’re different
It’s gonna be ok, it’s gonna be ok
this issue is temporary so attempt to wait until - you’re - safe
Be rational
Unless you think they won’t attack at all
You gotta keep it in man, be practical
And I know you feel trapped and small right now but you’ll come out alive
I CAN choose my friends
and I CAN choose my family
If they won’t accept me
then others will have me
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[@HowToBasic]

2:10 - Me too Dave, me too.

[@dompercy]

HowToBasic Could you teach us how to play world of warcraft at some point please? ;)

[@NeinTayles2434]

Eggshells

[@residentsleeper5678]

HowToBasic I love you

[@HireDeLune]

You always find anything with eggs, don't you?

[@phirdeline]

your channel is eggsellent

[@boyinaband]

I had to make this because it infuriated me how there are absolutely loads of people in this position - where coming out can actually be dangerous.

[@lucasharvie7051]

Thank you for this dave. I really mean that.

[@GeneralMrDeath]

Boyinaband who were the people in the music video?

[@theavaregewarlock5258]

Daam, no one is even cutting onions here. This was so beutifull

[@EmperorNero]

Boyinaband The thing is there are people of all types who sexuality is repressed by people in general. For instance in my area this guy actually killed his parents due to sexual repression and as far as I know he was straight. It is sad that we still can't express our sexuality in general when they just think it is unclean. I think we should honestly teach in general what sexual repression does to people. How it can literally drive people insane.

[@averyjessell9210]

True. I have nothing against homosexuals or homosexuality, but if you asked anyone else I knew, they would say they are weird or some bull like that.

[@Joak11037]

"I can choose my friends and I can choose my family, if they won't accept me then others will have me" This is a lyric that honestly really helped me. A lot.

[@moistymosas2900]

K

[@amurderofdrunkcrows2587]

Same

[@Imaloserbabysowhydontyoukillme]

Those lyrics were made for me (for a different reason) every time I hear that part I start tearing up and I listen to this song almost everyday.. I'm not gay but the lyrics to most his songs hit me hard..

[@elli1080]

Ikr

[@YM-vo6qi]

For a long time I thought it said I can’t choose because I thought my family wouldn’t accept me and when I told my sister and she accepted me i started to hear the actual lyrics even thought my mom didn’t accept

[@sophx9634]

“Online he was everything he wanted, but real life wouldn’t let him be as honest” That line hits home

[@ravenedwards6320]

Especially w everything going on right now

[@Racecar564]

So true...

[@alexhowes8778]

Agreed

[@cobalt757]

I HATE COPYCATS... create your own comment or at least don't copy word by word dumb npc

[@sophx9634]

Bulletproofvelociraptor not a copy cat 🥰 and you’re calling me dumb but clearly don’t know “npc” stands for “non player character” ☺️

[@mistuhjoestar]

"Online he was everything he wanted but real life wouldn't let him be as honest" hit very close to home

[@somethingcraft3148]

Mista Joestar yep

[@aretmis1000]

Yup

[@blue_lily7568]

yup...

[@baumxy1597]

@@blue_lily7568 yeet

[@goatmadej]

Same for me.

[@emzkinz]

This is oddly one of the most comforting things I've ever heard.

[@AlexB-lr2qp]

Yeah, even though there's screaming and rapping from someone we don't know personally, it's rather comforting.

[@venti7492]

Same, and I’m straight. Also I hate rap. And screaming. But I love this.

[@dianenox6755]

same... I'm not even LGBT.

[@kittenemmaplayz8814]

peepz straight hi..bi. I'm

[@prideofmanny2981]

@@venti7492 i was not a fan of rapping but then i found dave and his raps make sense and thet aint realy fast so ya can rap along

[@RoomieOfficial]

Loved this man! Keep doing songs about things that matter to you, I'll support you all the way.

[@alexmezny2554]

Not the real Kirito yes.

[@joe564338]

earned sub

[@sunsooo9360]

RoomieOfficial ya roomie lets supoprt dave! go dave

[@Oaticles]

RoomieOfficial His name is PEWDIEPIE anyone anyone??

[@user-xx5cw5de4b]

RoomieOfficial I will support him too

[@TINE-14-k4r]

Geez, with all the recent info about cry, this video is hitting different... but I still really enjoy this song and his part in it

[@somewhatcoconut3970]

What did Cry do?

[@sophisticatedPJs]

I also wanna know what happened with cry, I haven't heard anything till now

[@TINE-14-k4r]

@@somewhatcoconut3970 ah well... it's a lot to go over but basically he admitted to cheating on his former gf, and admitted that some of the girls he cheated on her with (emotionally cheated, not physically) were minors, but he wasn't aware they were minors at the time. And several girls came forward and said when he found out their ages, he backed off immediately, but he also cheated with Russ's gf and went after another person russ was interested in, honestly it's a lot, but there are videos on youtube that go over it in more detail. He tried to make an "apology" video, but it felt more like self victimizing and was really poorly done and we're a honestly just waiting for a proper response. I still really like this song tho

[@somewhatcoconut3970]

@Anna oh wow, well thanks for telling me

[@sh4dowveil749]

I don’t watch him but do understand the situation but I think people should at least let him redeem himself instead of just trying to boycott everything he’s ever done, if society didn’t allow redemption then why aren’t all prison sentence life/death sentences Also I’ve seen claims to pedophilia which is just preposterous given that he didn’t even know they were underage

[@ashenrose2262]

"I can choose my friends and i can choose my family if they wont accept me then others will have me" this gives me hope like you wouldn't beleive.

[@pridecat]

Ashen Rose Same. I’ve never suffered from homophobes or disapproval for my sexuality (thankfully), but honestly same. It fives me hope for those that do.

[@canolaoil3780]

Ashen Rose when I heard that line I started crying Bc it hit so close to home

[@dinofeino1811]

Ashen Rose That lyric alone makes me feel better

[@hmalark3822]

Ashen Rose same

[@YourCupofChii]

as soon as i scroll down and read this, this exact part played, well done

[@maxmoefoe]

Beautiful work Dave, very inspiring. This will surely go viral. XOXOXOX

[@Skylirux]

I really hope so this is something the world needs to see

[@Zen_200]

Omg max good yo see you again😀

[@kgh0010]

You two makes cute couple I ship so hard

[@darrenco8289]

Why don’t you and edupz fuck already?

[@loganb7277]

Idubbez X maxmoefoe

[@TheRPGMinx]

Pleasure to be part of this! A lot of people ask me for advice on coming out to homophobic parents, and my advice is not to do it in the first place. Not when your dependant on them.

[@jchob1235]

Was that you in the video

[@LeviCunt]

Love you minx

[@JiaS.]

Don't hate me for saying this but is that you Minx in the video?

[@BH-rh2bh]

Jchob123​ no if you would know cry or minx they don't show their real face in any video

[@TheScartoonstar]

TheRPGMinx It's sad that that even has to be your advice.... =\

[@alexanderhamilton9285]

This song really hits different after cry confessed. Goddamn, this song probably saved my life and then this has to happen.

[@chocopeach7517]

Same here...

[@1800basil]

thanks alexander hamilton

[@dustyrose192]

What did he do?

[@alieninahumanbody]

@@dustyrose192 stuff along the lines of pedophilia, I forget what happened exactly. He made a whole video talking about it with half an apology, but a bunch of people thought he glossed over the major issues. Look for the vid "We stopped being genuine a long time ago"

[@spooks2599]

Groomed fans, cheated on his girlfriend with said fans once they turned legal age, etc

[@avhelverum539]

I hope Congratulations gets this man the audience he deserves

[@userintent1475]

Agreed. I think we'll be waiting when he's ready.

[@nefeli_8025]

I think don’t stay in school took care of that for him, my school played it and almost my whole year subbed to him which is around 1000 people

[@PeachPlastic]

We can hope so, but I'm unsure. Appreciating his lyrics requires brains, which is practically the only barrier between Dave and mainstream success, I think. Also not sure if the additional pressure would further corrupt his health. But that's not to say I don't wish him success! He deserves way more recognition than he's getting.

[@amurderofdrunkcrows2587]

Yes!!!

[@vikassingh1717]

Really man after congratulations I know him and he is really awesome

[@maxmoefoe]

Are you taking over for Zayn? Because this is the right direction. Forward.

[@dottr8253]

xD #DaveForZayn

[@josephperson8168]

I'm dead.

[@bikinipuncake724]

Fuck PewDiePie replacing Zayn, Dave is where it's at.

[@cipaxo2234]

Well he is only going in "one direction" which as you said is forward :o

[@TheDustinDestruction]

BikiniPUNCAKE Dave is awesome! :)

[@johnwick9065]

"I Can Choose My Friends And Family" TRUE IF SOMEONE DONT ACCEPT YOU FIND ANOTHER ONE

[@leonlastname8070]

this helped thanks

[@starlightsystem4065]

Hell yeah. If they can’t accept us for who we are, BOI BYEEEE! :D

[@willgrahamirl]

Yeah I've tried to get friends but no one likes me

[@Alsyya]

but it hurts so much when you'd like that your blood related family understood and respected you for who you are, i mean sure i can get new people who like me but i want my family to be here too..

[@houwlingwoolf]

My reddit user is meme_flag same picture. No one has become offended yet

[@pridecat]

i never knew cryaotic nor watched his videos but i was introduced to him through this video 2-3 years ago when i first listened to it and many many times since. i love this song to death, it's a piece of art. i won't let one of the artists being a piece of shit stop me from enjoying it. but i'm sorry that this is where we ended up now. love the art, not the artist

[@press8704]

huh? did crysotic do something? i dont watch him either so I have no idea

[@press8704]

@@emstink oh god ok [gags]

[@ezekielshorizon6]

@@press8704 Wow your comment is directly below this comment you replied to.

[@jainasolo50]

press wait what did he do?

[@press8704]

@@jainasolo50 he preyed on underage fans of his

[@ChaoticMonki]

HAH! Gay.

[@Spiperiscool]

HAH! Cry.

[@Lolabuns]

You're a bootybutt.

[@MarioThaMonkey]

Dude that's disrespectful. You should listen to the lyrics...... lmao

[@soda_gt.]

MarioThaMonkey he wasnt being serious

[@Lolabuns]

MarioThaMonkey​ I really hope you're joking because he's literally in the song.

[@ironkook101]

i love how this song tells you actual facts instead of "it's okay, tell them, they're going to understand hah :)"

[@axie9797]

same, I know so many people who are disrespected (in the best case scenario) by their parents for being LGBTQ+. All said they were happy they were out but also wish they had waited.

[@grthorn3461]

Why? What happened since?

[@camelianagy1789]

Ashton Day Hi army, are you ok? Idk what to say...You already made the decision..now you have to wait until you will be on your on

[@지지-f8c]

yall 420 ikr

[@i8chocolatecake995]

@@ash.1353 Im sorry... I hope its better now.

[@morganmaynard8600]

Cry's voice when he says 'It's gonna be okay' was really calming for me. Anyone else?

[@Tiwwyb]

FLUFFY UNICORN it's sex

[@abb_undance]

FLUFFY UNICORN Literally Anything he says really

[@candyeyedprincess2456]

FLUFFY UNICORN I almost had a heart attack

[@vaguelyhumanshaped7972]

FLUFFY UNICORN yup

[@spookyboyo9530]

2017: "I love the lgbt comunity but I'm just an ally" 2020: W A I T

[@samich9010]

Gay

[@NebulousCreature]

Honestly

[@AspectRx]

Lmao literally me

[@blaise6553]

@@AspectRx same lmao

[@stako-5thetakencorruptedhu679]

"I'm an ally" Past me wasn't the brightest

[@squidinkNoodles]

Funny story: I accidentally let it slip to my cousin that I'm not straight and a-sexual (she was one if the people I was most scared to come out to as she's very religious) and then she came out to me and that was that. It was good. Her brother heard our conversation, hugged me and joined our conversation. It was the best thing in the world

[@lynx2019]

So proud of you :)

[@atlaswashere9110]

Lucky 😂

[@c.mat0]

GhostlyEcho I’m asexual too.

[@lennyluvr]

I don’t know what I am.

[@angelinaa676]

awwwwww

[@Enzar17]

I thought my father wouldn't accept me, but that my mother would. For years, I grew up confiding in her while my dad was away at work, never connecting with me, and I spent a great percentage of my teen years in a escalating feud with my father over a great deal of things. Eventually they split, and I could finally relax at home for a while. I thought it was finally over. He was finally out of my life. When in college I discovered that I was bisexual. I told my closest friends almost immediately, and the outpouring of love and support was the kindest thing I had ever experienced. It took 6 months to come out to my parents. I decided it was best to make a global announcement on social media, so I could include as many people as possible in the announcement. When I finally did it, it was the opposite of my expectation. My dad didn't understand... but he wanted to. We talked about it over beers when I visited for Christmas, had Thai takeout on Christmas day because the rest of the family had the flu and we were too lazy to cook, and to this day he still asks about it. Wanting to understand where I am, what I'm feeling, who I like. To give me advice on relationships and to be there for me when I need it. We still get Thai takeout on Christmas now, because that night was so good and we wanted to start a tradition. We've spent the last 4 years building the foundation for a real, trusting relationship out of the ashes of my teenage years, because he has been there to support me since. My mother had the opposite reaction. She told me I was wrong. She told me she didn't believe me. That when I was growing up I had never shown signs of that, that I was confused or just exploring, she felt betrayed that I hadn't pulled her aside to have a discussion about it beforehand. As if she was in charge of my sexuality. As if she could choose who I was. To this day, I have no idea if she has come to believe me or not. I couldn't be assed to ask, frankly. When I was 17, I thought my mom left my dad because he was a terrible person. Now at 23, I know for a fact that he left her. I can choose my family.

[@dominic8528]

I only realized my identity a year or two ago. I found out about sexualities and identities through Pinterest (probably not the most reliable source, but whatever) and then kept researching it until I knew about almost everything. I came out to my mom when we were in the car. I trapped myself and brought up how she had told me she had a crush on a girl in the fourth grade. She then asked me if I thought I liked girls or boys or both or neither and I said I’d be okay with any gender. Her not using any labels helped a lot. At that same moment, she told me she was also pansexual/bisexual (he didn’t fully see the difference even though she knew about nonbinary because she thought of bisexual as two or more, but now she does and identifies as pansexual). I got a therapist because I developed depression and anxiety. My dad was kind of not for it, but he dealt with it. So my therapist specialized in LGBTQ+. He found out, got mad at my mom for not telling him I was LGBTQ+ and I told him it wasn’t her choice to make and that it was mine and he had to deal with it. He was still mad, but not as mad. He got over it and didn’t care that I was pansexual. Then I realized that I did not conform with my gender identity. For a while I thought I was genderflux, then agender, and I kept telling my mom, but not my dad. Finally, when I realized I was genderfluid, I talked to him. And he was just kind of an asshole. He kept talking about transitioning and how it wasn’t a good idea for medical reasons no matter how many times I said I didn’t want to. He then said he thought it was not ok that having to respect people’s gender pronouns was a law in Canada and that he should have freedom of speech and I cried. He said the other day when I wore my pronoun pin that had male pronouns on it, he got kind of mad because what did I know about growing up as a boy. I told him people hurt and kill themselves over pronouns. He told me everyone hurts. He told me he would respect my pronouns in my house begrudgingly, but outside of the home, pronouns for other people were a case by case thing. I wanted to tell him what an asshole he was for saying that. But I know he loves and supports me and is trying. He’s just making this way more of a big deal than it has to be. And right when I was thinking about how much I hated him, he said he was scared to share his feelings because he thought I would hate him and that when I was 13 I could choose which home I lived at (my parents are divorced) and that he didn’t want to lose me and now I feel bad because I can’t decide if I hate him but don’t want to or if I don’t hate him but I want to. I’m just so spun into a web. At school, I have an LGBTQ+ club I’m a part of. All of my friends respect my pronouns and still love me. And online, it’s the same thing. Everyone accepts and loves me. Plot twist? I’m 12. I just feel lost...

[@jigsawcom28]

I know nothing of this because I'm not like this but I have gay friends and their attitude towards people like this is Fucking deal with it I am who I am and if you're not happy oh fucking well. Don't lay down taking their fucking crap if they don't like it oh well. Friends are family just the family you create yourself find ones who you can absolutely trust. You two are not alone on this journey I promise hundreds of thousands of people feel exactly the same way you do. But I will tell you this the best people to surround yourself with are ones who stand out already. Make friends with Goths, metal heads, and Juggalos they never judge. I'm a juggalo metalhead MWCL. I accept you for who you are.

[@justamisunderstoodkidnamed9928]

I choose my friends as my family, we all don't have a good relationship with our families, so we made our own. I'll choose them every time, over my family, my family is very old valued. Ps. My girlfriend, she's bi and I am pan ftm, broke up with me 'cause she was scared of our old fashioned families finding out about us, our friendship now is getting back to how it was before, and now we can be ourselves around each other; we may get back together later on in high school. You never know...

[@scpgames5986]

i may not be gay or bi or anything like that, but i have many friends that are bi, pan, and lesbian. no matter who you are, be yourself and the right people will love you for who you are. there is no reason to hide, and i am glad you were able to come out to your parents, and if you are ever feeling sad or depressed, just remember that you have friends and family that care about you and want to help you. congrats to all the non-straight people out there, because you are special in your own ways and i hope you are able to confess like many others have.

[@hobissnakeu3487]

I'm still very young and in my young teenage years. Lately, I've been starting to question my sexuality, and I now identify as pansexual. My mom is extremely supportive of me no matter what, but unfortunately, my dad and I have never had a good relationship, and my grandparents are super homophobic. For now I'm not really telling anyone except my mom, but I really don't care what people think.

[@foxinefox2625]

Crys low voice... Minx beautifully voice... ehhh. I love them with his.

[@asapp3391]

Yeah, that was cool. :O Absolutely Love Dave's voice too!

[@LY-xg3gn]

It’s somehow ironic listening to this song five years later.....after all the things that have happened on Cryaotic...I dunno how to say and I don’t want to comment on this but I just kinda feel...disappointed or confused?

[@st.beatles7283]

What happened? I don’t know who he is besides from this song

[@Honning2023]

@@st.beatles7283 same

[@Marcuss99]

He was a twitch streamer and a youtuber for a long ass time with a loyal fan base. A month ago a bunch of his fans came forward saying he was very sexually inappropriate with them online over the years, some of them were underage at the time

[@Honning2023]

@@Marcuss99 oh shit...

[@addictofsasuke2897]

@@Honning2023 He made an apology where he was really vague, didn't bring up the allegations at all and instead focused on how people ain't real and how sad his life was... Pretty safe to assume he's a predator, especially in his unlisted vid which showed his stream and how sudden his changes in behavior are from mental breakdown to happy twitch persona

[@themusicalgeek4549]

I think youtube is broken, I can't seem to like this more than once.

[@Emma-fs7sz]

The Musical Geek I gave it another like for you :)

[@heli_hel]

I know... it is annoying

[@quixoticat7658]

I know. I wish the rating system was brought back. It would give a lot more depth than just a simple like or dislike.

[@kadienolan8826]

The Musical Geek me to

[@robertdowell6066]

your not ment to be able to

[@jonathanhouseholder1514]

Is it just just me or does cry have the sexiest voice ever

[@BlueFlameBird]

he has the sexiest voice ever, only Markiplier can compete

[@user-xv1cs9mm9d]

+NaruHinaLuver13 nah, cry sounds way better

[@kyaugustyn2803]

+NaruHinaLuver13 agreed

[@ellepenne6397]

His voice is so nice

[@funnygaming2672]

I think Cry sound more mysterious and Markiplier more manly ;3

[@TheMattShea]

This is excellent. Great job to everyone involved :)

[@joellee2442]

MattShea I nvr knew u liked Boyinaband's music Welcome... :O ;3

[@nonsensicaldreamer]

Oh hi!

[@RUBEN-jq5tt]

No u again

[@nyan0812nerd]

I like how Matt is on pretty much everything I watch :33

[@saniharuo]

Matt!!!!

[@mahelaniarektbb]

I remember being so excited that Cry was on this song. Now hearing his voice makes me want to break things.

[@eugenewaterslide7328]

What, because some random people (who never actually put forward the evidence they said they had) accused him of abuse? The only thing ever proven, was that when he was around 20, he dated a 17, maybe 16 yearold.

[@cypher4021]

I need to touch his hair before I die.

[@Milan-tp4wc]

Complete Trash I am going to pretend I never saw your comment

[@vagabondish6330]

Don't we all?

[@hayz691]

Complete Trash I want to have tons of separate streaks that are braided, he go to sleep with the braids in, wake up, untie the braids, and live as a curly-haired god of screamo-rap.

[@ireallyneedtosneezebutican3199]

same lmao (based from ur username and profile pic, i see that ur probably a phangirl?)

[@abigailhurst2768]

samesamesamesame

[@smileyy728]

The lyrics are so fucking sad and I'm indirectly affected just by thinking about what people have to go through to be themselves. For all of you that go through stuff, stay strong, it'll get better!

[@miroslavblagojevic6483]

+nobody knows I know its realy great thing to be just as most of people... from one side you are happy and thankfull that u are like most of people but still u are realy sad because hell that innocent people pass ...

[@Timetaken157]

+Kaneki ken You can choose your friends, and you can choose your family

[@mariejanssen6422]

+Kaneki ken i am so sorry. you shouldn't have to live with that feeling. so so so sorry!

[@that0neguy992]

+nobody knows I am a christian, so this is a very touch subject. However, even though I am straight, my advice to you if you are homophobic, think, If they cannot accept you for what you are, then screw them, and move on.

[@Timetaken157]

+Noah Zinn *homosexual?

[@danbull]

Good message. I think. I don't know because my parents are very accepting of my heterosexuality.

[@Flameandfireclan]

Well, at least you wont be killed for it in the middle-east Danny...

[@MrThebradon2001]

Danny boy it's you and not your annoying-ass imposter!

[@IEatSkrubsMyGrub]

Yh same

[@chevyyy6487]

Hi Dan

[@NekoIsGod]

Karadra Peterson het·er·o·sex·u·al ˌhedərəˈsekSH(əw)əl/ adjective adjective: heterosexual 1. (of a person) sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex. synonyms:straight; More

[@vkth3663]

man hearing cry's voice again after the drama... that voice i used to adore so much..

[@ObsidianDragon99]

I know exactly how you feel, that voice that i adored and the person it came from too.. it just hits different now..

[@ArcadiasPlanet]

@@ObsidianDragon99 what’s the tea

[@Ryleigh_XY]

@@ArcadiasPlanet Cry (and Dave as well recently) are in mad hot water over them having extremely inappropriate and abusive relationships with multiple women and underage girls.

[@starfiresreign]

@@Ryleigh_XY ik now it's cry and Dave:/ damn

[@remusdawley7173]

I like this A lot of LGBT people think you need to come out, no matter the consequences. But you need to keep your safety first

[@anitaremenarova6662]

Exactly. This is not a hollywood movie, it's real life. If you are born in the wrong country and you come out, you can easily be stoned to death. Sometimes I just hate this world...

[@XedofM]

@@anitaremenarova6662 Yes, humanity has fallen... they are just not how they were supposed to be... They have failed, and I... well We tried to save them but... no... they always choose the wrong path...

[@NarutoDivorceArcReal]

Xedof Morningstar what u mean. like did u mean to be dis vauge?

[@psychoseagull3104]

You should not come out until you are absolutely sure you are safe. If that's waiting until you're 18, like I did, or immigrating, be careful.

[@elizabethcabbage9817]

Hahahahahahaha yeah how stupid of them I'm glad I wasn't an idiot like that to come out before I was sure I'd be safe haha. :,) Granted I was lucky enough to not be arrested or hanged.

[@custardkitten]

"If he couldn't keep a straight face" omg i thought i was the pun master

[@jacoblangedijk3577]

holy shit

[@BorisBingle]

Fall Far fuckin hell thats funny

[@emeraldgreen4964]

Fall Far 0o0

[@katrina_SJD]

Fall Far Have you seen his Facebook, every year he posts a picture of him holding burnt toast with the year left unburnt and says "a toast to_" and it is every year

[@custardkitten]

Katrina Jackson OMG

[@dangreen3868]

I've come back to this song completely out as trans, having my hair cut, getting a binder, seeing a psychiatrist, and having my name and pronouns all figured out. Feels good. I've been feeling really euphoric recently. My friends have switched to calling me Dan, my sister is really interested in learning about it, and my parents are doing their best to help me, in their own ways. My dad started picking up on my dysphoria more, and has been doing really well with my name and using the masculine in Hebrew. Overall, I'm doing good. Being me. I feel like I'm getting somewhere. Happy pride!

[@yourboijason9576]

I'm half-out to a few close friends. I go to an all girl school so its kind of annoying when the teachers always saying things like, "Okay, girls/ladies/women." I can't do anything about it because I'm not sure I'll be supported and people will say I'm "too young." A few people who I thought I could trust have stopped talking to me because of it. I told my mum but I can't get my hair cut or wear trousers to school yet. She supports me but I'm not sure all of my family will so I can't come out. I accidentally let it slip to a girl in my class who stayed quiet about it but she let me know she supports me and my gender won't matter to her. I'm so lucky to know her. I want to tell my dad but I can't just go do it and don't understand why its so difficult or what I can do. This is so hard to figure out and I'm sorry for saying this all here. I just needed to get it out.

[@kuninkaanmurhaaj888]

Dan Green I’m also completely out and have gotten a hair cut, binder and figured my name and pronouns out and it really does feel amazing and my parents support me but they haven’t really started using the name and pronouns I want yet and it’s fine because I understand how hard it is to them but my mom has started getting used to it a bit so things are looking up

[@rockercaterrorencountered4924]

Congrats, Dan! I hope everything has been going well for you over the past few months.

[@boogiebong420]

I'm really happy for you! I hope things continue going well for you

[@AlfaLightBearer]

you were really lucky. my parents still misgender me and refuse to acknowledge my gender ID. my dad even admitted he will still deadname me once i change my name.

[@totallynotzokix11_mc21]

This did not age well with the Cry situation.

[@TR33J]

Wait what happened?

[@totallynotzokix11_mc21]

@@TR33J Cryaotic recently admitted that he was cheating on his partner and flirting with underage people.

[@TR33J]

@@totallynotzokix11_mc21 oh...that's fucked up

[@chanellebuyo213]

Bruh i missed Cry but man when i came back to his channel...this is just sad

[@xWinterstarex7]

@@chanellebuyo213 Same..like I didn't know about this mess until I went to his channel and saw that lame ass " apology" vid...I used to watch him when I was younger with my brothers so to hear all this shit...it feels like losing a piece of your childhood tbh. I think that's why i've been just wandering through vids like this one just remembering a simpler time i guess

[@salierisneighbor9736]

"She was playing girl games offline" smmmmooooothh 👌

[@camscendants3096]

@smith shady actually 👉👌 does make sense in this case just add another finger or two

[@kodywise8152]

@@camscendants3096 👊👌

[@kiwakiwarin]

👅🐱

[@sadsworth4605]

🍌🍑 wait thats illegal

[@resarious6225]

THIS COMMENT SECTION AKFKJSDHLS

[@mandagrammy]

My Granddaughter, who is gay, shared the link to your video with me and I'm super impressed. The message is clear and extremely important for young people to hear. When my Granddaughter came out to us, it was a non-issue. She is still the same child I have loved from day one, and who she is attracted to is not what defines her as a person. That is her business and her right to her feelings. And I will always be proud of her. I just wish more parents, grandparents, family, and friends accepted their children as they are, without judgement or the need to mold them into what they want them to be. Thank you for speaking up for those who need to hear your message.

[@rekishimasemi1214]

mandagrammy I wish more people were more like you

[@HyakuyaFutaba]

You're amazing! Your granddaughter is lucky to have such an accepting and positive grandmother ^^

[@lisafischer5040]

You are truly amazing, i want more people like you in humanity

[@colixnaia6512]

Wow, this brought me to tears hah. This is probably weird to say, but thank you for being such an amazing person.

[@lomouche]

She is really lucky to have an accepting grandma like yourself

[@ts6984]

3:04 this is the best quote. I can choose my friends and i can choose my family if they won't except me then others will have me!.

[@midnightcosplay7313]

Yep just It's just like the actual saying blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb

[@KonbiniBento]

after listening to this song countless time. I just realized the "hold on" could mean both "hold on and endure until you can be free" and "hold on and think, don't do anything rash (such as self harm). The lyrics of this song is absolutely powerful and impactful, it is how human should be like, thinking and caring for each other despite the difference between every single one of us. It is a huge step, but together, we can make that huge step a reality.

[@twigtoyoulater]

If you’re struggling with coming out, remember Dave screaming “Hold on.”

[@fckingawful]

hey im four years late, I was binging your videos and i found this one and started crying halfway through. even if dave doesn't see this, even if nobody sees it, im still putting this out there. when this video came out i was questioning my gender and sexuality at the same time, when I lived in a small primarily religious town with my very religious parents and every day was some new form of hell for me. even if I was never physically hurt, like many other lgbt people are, it was still there, nagging at the edges of my vision every moment and it just wore me down so badly. I wish I would've seen this video back then. but I know someone else out there saw it when they needed to, and even if this isn't the point when I needed it the most, I'm currently out as a transgender, bisexual man. I can't transition medically speaking until I'm 18, but that's not very far away, and I guess this is just the last push. with this song as the thing I needed to get me through it. so thank you dave from boyinaband, thank you to cry and minx and dwain whose name really is satisfying to say. if you ever see this, just know you made a trans kid somewhere really fucking happy. thanks.

[@emmarb4609]

I hope you’re okay

[@markelley9710]

Hey. I hope you’re happy whenever you are. Wherever you are, please stay strong and know that you are both loved and cherished. I’m so proud of you for staying true to yourself! 🧡🧡

[@ntmyknight9996]

nice comment hope your okay really but ewww bing really

[@randomnameforarandomnerd8400]

I got a couple friends in similar situations and I've seen them hurt so much so reading this comment reminded me of many nights I spent with them trying to sort themselves out. Assuming you went through even just some of what they did, I'm proud that you're holding firm in yourself and coming to terms with who you are. Hopefully your family and peers realise how important and amazing you are because nobody deserves to be hurt for this stuff. Good luck with whatever comes your way, take care.

[@prideofmanny2981]

@@ntmyknight9996 could you be anymore fucking insensitive

[@Luna]

The meaning behind this song is amazing and it's so nice to listen to. Well done Dave!

[@HalcyonLifeStories]

Woah Austin heyyy

[@samlittle4424]

Luna Sup dude nice seeing you here ;)

[@xxiZombie]

Luna LUNA

[@danielmhfu]

+Luna the tuna

[@1C3CR34M]

HOLY CHRIST BRO

[@hollycow234]

6 years later... Just coming to say I HELD ON.... IT WAS SO WORTH IT

[@turtlesarefantastic9620]

I'm glad it was worth it : )

[@eliijahjames]

so did I I'm glad we both did 🤍

[@nbae1106]

good for you, that's awesome

[@abbycardus6018]

" he couldn't keep a straight face " " they had to bend the feelings " I feel like a pun genius. Luv the song tho :3

[@lanekxng247]

Abby Cardus :3 I get it

[@thijshaakma1789]

he said "they had to *vent* the feelings"

[@etherium8017]

While this song is about the LGBT community and yknow, coming out and that I know everyones said this, the line about "choosing your friends and your family, if they wont accept me, others will have me," This line has helped me so much I fucking love you dave.

[@anitaremenarova6662]

Well it's universal, it can apply to religion, views etc. I think Dave doesn't really care who it helps as long as it helps someone :)

[@houwlingwoolf]

Sort I’m late but I have a running joke- Are you *davesexual*

[@etherium8017]

@@houwlingwoolf Yes

[@z3rocool]

i read this comment at the same time they said the line

[@darlalathan6143]

It's so true!

[@TwentyPaphonies]

I'm literally sobbing because you just described my situation. I needed this. Thank you.

[@Hannah-xc9zm]

Same

[@glowinthedarkzombie]

Twenty Paphonies SAMEEE

[@d3monicwolf]

I don't know how you feel personally but i hope that you feel better and i hope that you have found someone who will except you and helps you through any situation you may be in.

[@Kai-uj5go]

It will get better ❤

[@somebodystolemygoddamncarr520]

DUDE EVER SINCE I SUBSCRIBED TO YOU YOURE LITERALLY EVERYWHERE IN KZbin

[@nyxion786]

I'm safe. I left my homophobic and transphobic family. It wasn't terrible but it wasn't healthy and didn't allow me to be me. But I've had a taste of not feeling free. I consider myself lucky but I know people who can't come out or people who did who really shouldn't have. If you feel trapped, my heart breaks for you. The moment you get to breath freedom is worth the wait. I know it's tough but you are strong and can get through this. And to everyone who put their effort into making this amazing song, it's on my playlist and I listen to it every week. Almost every day. I love it! Especially the line, "I can choose my friends and I can choose my family, if they won't accept me then others will have me!" I yell it out every damn time. Thank you so much for making this. This idea that "you should come out" can be dangerous and I'm so glad this song tackles that because sometimes it is dangerous to come out. Some people just don't understand us and will hurt us. That is reality. But it's not forever. The wait is tough. It's so tough but as someone who is surrounded by people trying to get my pronouns right, respecting me and now a wonderful bf who I cherish so much, it's so fucking worth it. Don't come out to people who will harm you. Stay safe this holiday season and thank you to everyone who made this video.

[@evieaddy9580]

this should be played on the pride festivals its very true and well written!

[@evieaddy9580]

If 2pac were alive and he saw this he'd be major proud

[@chrissabry7529]

+Evie Addy no the fuck he would not. shut the fuck up

[@evieaddy9580]

Geometry Dash Intrix [ES] why not he used to rap about this type of shit all the time difference is it had more to do with racism than homophobia

[@urbanaminoa]

"You never know how strong you can be until being strong is the only choice you have left." - Tupac Shakur

[@fusiondew]

Because you personally knew him didn't you? i bet he was a great friend, mind sharing what you know about who and what he himself would be proud of?

[@totallynotphoenixwright]

I analyzed this song for my English class. I had to choose an activist piece and I did this piece. Amazing.

[@DanielJohnNicholson]

Totally Not Phoenix Wright It's interesting that you analysed a song in an English class.

[@totallynotphoenixwright]

@@DanielJohnNicholson Yeah, well, we analyze anything. Song is just another form of literature. We did Coming of Age by Foster the People and connected it to Catcher in the Rye.

[@Pistolemaster]

Totally Not Phoenix Wright Since when does a Lawyer analyse a song for his English class?

[@totallynotphoenixwright]

@@Pistolemaster Sometimes lawyers have to retake classes, y'know?

[@OBM22]

Ima do dont stay is school for mine lol

[@cultofdi0nysus]

is cry the other male singing voice other than dave? if he is, his voice is amazing! 😍😍

[@fayeallen-miles2420]

Yup

[@ahenchman8656]

cryotic

[@psychologyingames]

not to be mean ot anything, but its 99% autotune, I mean if you watch his karaoke vids you'll know what i mean xD

[@buttmuffin8152]

Abby Hardy yep... it's cry!

[@fayeallen-miles2420]

DeDammetje He's actually not singing he's just talking

[@kaylastar9314]

minx being the only survivor is why she was always the best ❤

[@pukemaid54]

How do you know minx isn't uh y'know

[@kaylastar9314]

@@pukemaid54 i guess i dont know definitively but shes remained unproblematic for this long so fingers crossed 🤞

[@TheCourtsOfLove]

Minx is the best.

[@Mrfuzz1999]

i swear hearing 3 of my favorite youtubers in the world say its gonna be okay is the most soothing thing ever

[@raventherebel2996]

Jess Madigan 1. who's ur other two favorites 2. to me hearing 3 of my favorite singers say its gonna be OK is soothing my favorite singers who have said it is Andy biersack, boyinaband, skillet

[@KoWakashi]

Dare Devil Fallen Angel yh Andy Biersack's voice calms me too, he is my favourite singer and but then i cant choose any more favourite singers cuz im such band trash and i love too many bands/singers i have no hope. But i would love to hear Andy cover this song

[@dandelionprince]

It's funny how I can think everything is fine, but almost burst out in tears just by hearing the words "It's gonna be okay" and "Hold on" So many people can resonate with this song.. It's what we needed to hear for the a long time.

[@rinjiedits7329]

Lady Cerberus Same though. And the next words being "this issue is temporary, so attempt to wait until your safe" Well I already fucked that up so I'll continue to listen to this song until I'm FINALLY free and do whatever I wish

[@ellab6188]

I accidentally fast forwarded to the end as soon as I started the video so it sounded like She loved h- AAAAAAAAAAAaAAAaaGGGGGGHHHHHH

[@neverxnice3577]

Rebel_ Thorn713 big mood

[@user-dq7fl3xk3t]

Rebel_ Thorn713 incredible xD

[@rayden8405]

Rebel_ Thorn713 most of these comments were uplifting and sad at the same time, then i saw this one and couldn't stop laughing

[@spomshi]

That’s beautiful

[@gabrielf342]

Rebel_ Thorn713 this is my favourite comment on the Internet

[@ghostgremlinbaby9056]

I’m having a lot of trouble listening to this since it was revealed they cry grooms underage girls. this song helped me for many years. I think it’s time to say goodbye. I just can’t listen with his voice in it. Thank you for helping for so many years. If you are being groomed or assaulted in any way, please seek help. There will be people out there for you.

[@roisinbarry3506]

"The worlds not a movie, it's not fiction. You can't think 'say it, they'll accept it' Some people kick you down just because your different" this line hit me so hard. I live in an abusive family and they all hate me for no reason. I had to grow up way to quickly, now whenever I am with my friends it feels like they think it's all fake. I wish I could yell this line to my friends everyday...

[@roisinbarry3506]

@Penelope McCusker Thank you so much for this message. I am starting to receive help and my friends are getting better at understanding. I can't describe in words how much this comment means to me, thank you so so much!

[@senza4591]

I obviously don't know about the situation, but my opinion (which you can ignore if you want) is that friends who dont belive and try to understand you aren't real friends. But then again, i don't know everything.

[@roisinbarry3506]

@@senza4591 Yeah, I ended up leaving them. I now have much better friends. They still don't really understand but they are trying!

[@brak1615]

I am sending you much love and healing to where ever you are right now. Please know that you are not alone and there are people who love you just the way you are. No matter how you identify or what label (if you even want one) you go by that you are loved. You are worth it. It will get better. ❤

[@jaydeyakovich9573]

i under stand my stepmom is so mentally abusive to me this song hit me

[@fhernachingerzwerg]

Crys voice just gave me goosebumps.

[@fhernachingerzwerg]

***** Probably :D

[@lezdu95370]

Alena H To me, Cry has the best voice on YT, even when he reads a text.

[@wystfulacedia3864]

This was the first time I heard his voice, and it was the exact moment that I broke down.

[@CullanAndTravis]

we miss you dave.

[@ruralasteroid3066]

What Happened?

[@CullanAndTravis]

+RuralAsteroid he has stopped uploading in til a later basis, if you watch "I hate myself" on his channel it kind of explains

[@ruralasteroid3066]

CullanAndTravis okay

[@heather4619]

Ahhh this comment hit me

[@CullanAndTravis]

+Heather Fitzmaurice im sure he's fine. and if he's not he'll tell us. because we're all friends

[@musicalifornia49]

My lifelong friend came out to me last night. His parents haven't been the most supportive and I instantly knew I had to show him this song. He cried, and he NEVER cries, or shows any emotions. Thank you so much Dave!

[@teklaolivares9980]

Me with headphones: Boy in a band: HOOOOLD OOOON me: AAA MY EARS

[@DarkClarity]

Triple A sounds

[@MaskTheDwarf]

My ears oddly loved it 😅

[@samlemons8053]

it aint that loud

[@MaskTheDwarf]

@Esther Syvanen I always use earphones or headphones when listening to songs, including this one and I apparently love my ears being torn open XD

[@amurderofdrunkcrows2587]

Same

[@zeyshadows81]

"If they won't accept me, others will have me"

[@FluffyUnicornEX]

Zey Shadows i use this quote on a daily basis

[@connienoland8400]

it's a good thing to chant to yourself. "I can choose my friends and I can choose my family."

[@whitetrash5821]

X0The Artist0X Literally no one accepts me, so I just told them it was a fucked up dare. They still hate me though

[@alexisemmalynjaydenumlevia1859]

That's really horrible I'm sorry you had to lie about it :(

[@mihajlogaborovic2111]

Easier said than done, especially while in the shackles of not being independent.

[@rylandssandbox557]

I'm bisexual, but I cannot come out to my parents because they will kick me out. This song helps me through so much. I finally know that there are people out there who will accept me no matter who I am, or how I feel.

[@amour644]

Yes..

[@AnimaljamAmyRose]

Analex Draws I'll support u even if u are hated u will know there will be people put there like u and I that support lgbtq!

[@rylandssandbox557]

Amy rose5545 Thank you so much

[@AnimaljamAmyRose]

+Analex Draws yea ur welcome u are loved by others and whatever u family says is a lie bi isn't bad it is cool and awesome

[@AnimaljamAmyRose]

+Analex Draws yea ur welcome u are loved by others and whatever u family says is a lie bi isn't bad it is cool and awesome

[@alicetheaxolotl]

I've listened to this song a lot in the past 5 years. It's gotten me through a lot of rough times. As a trans lesbian living in the Bible Belt, I've had to hide who I am from anyone that isn't LGBTQ+. It used to give me hope that things would be okay one day. But it's not the same after learning about Cry. I was groomed for 4 years, and was eventually r*ped by the man grooming me. I just can't listen to this song anymore, knowing Cry is in it, after everything he's done. EDIT: Welp, this comment aged like milk. Fuck Dave.

[@nocturnecz3965]

@@ezra2749 Check out the Cryaotic Accusations megathread on Reddit, all the necessary links and summaries are there. There's a lot of them, this whole clusterfuck went on for a month and a half straight.

[@Gggrrrg]

Yep understand it really helped me deal with being bi but with cry not as good anymore

[@kendeeks]

I hope you feel okay and safe

[@qatwithaq4275]

I'm so sorry for what you had to go through. I hope you've gotten out of your situation and that you're feeling better

[@LucyBebee]

Goddamn, I hope ur ok

[@shadowthedaydream98]

Listening Cryotic voice....lord heaven ! O_O That's a cool voice!!

[@dariogutierrez6716]

yep

[@iamsosorry9024]

I was searching everywhere to find this comment tbh

[@nicknull3942]

Yen yem some lesbain action

[@lisafischer5040]

Listening *to* cryaotic *'s* voice Not being mean, just trying to help out ! :)

[@dariogutierrez6716]

It could be also without the "to" ;D

[@sp00kymoss]

i like listening to this and mouthing "its gonna be okay" to myself when im down

[@minticecream810]

Me too.

[@yogirlsayvi666]

I do the Same, i know its gonna be okay

[@xarealpersonx]

Saaaaame totally my hard times song

[@breadddie]

This is one of the first thing that made me realize that I wasn't straight. Damn

[@stellath1537]

What do you mean ?

[@breadddie]

She, and I'm not gay, but I'm definitely not straight lmao.(bi, pan,etc.)

[@katrina9877]

To realise I wasn't bi and I'm a lesbian, I'm so confused please help

[@TallMist]

People learn their sexualities in different ways. There is no "right" or "wrong" way to learn what your sexuality is.

[@ordranist.4547]

+Touch My Ice Cream And I'll Cut You It makes ya really think about what you are and how you feel. Take me for example, I never really minded the idea of dating another guy but I didn't really think I was gay until I stoped to think about the label of my sexuality. I wasn't ignoring it I was just not paying much attention to what I "was" until I decided to put some thought into it.

[@annonymous-pr3ky]

"i can choose my friends, and i can choose my family, if they wont accept me then others will have me" never fails to make me tear up.

[@allychaos933]

DAMN DAVE I DIDN’T KNOW YOU SCREAMED, I LOVE IT

[@roboticshaft1340]

sign these balls I fucking love your icon

[@deeraredear]

He screams specially for equality :)

[@_x3o_]

Ikr, it's like if Brendon Urie and Tyjo screamed together... It's amazing!

[@brosephlyon]

Its actually Cry doing the screaming

[@charlottebuxton2066]

namjoonietoon armmmyyyy

[@jacobmayer8916]

I’m a straight guy and a Christian. I absolutely love the message in this song, it hurts me that people are casted out of families because they’re differently. And then Christians refuse to accept and love the LGBT community even tho the Bible says to love one another no matter who they are. It’s a shitty world we live in where things like this happen on a consistent basis

[@jacobmayer8916]

Jackson Smith Exactly. It’s also negative when people say God hates gay people when it’s the complete opposite and it’s just a case of extremists using the Bible for their own use.

[@ragingrainbow6151]

@@jacobmayer8916 that's the problem with a book written over the span of many years by many different authors.. they all interpreted the message differently and ended up with contradictions.. so really you could use the bible to justify pretty much anything.. I just wish people could see the love in that book and focus on that rather than the negative parts

[@arby7316]

I'm glad my friends who are christian like me accept my bi sister

[@CarbibourNeil]

pretty much, God loves the people, It's the sin that he hates.

[@flamethatsings-witchcraft5893]

I'm not a Christian, but I believe your God smiling upon you. Blessed be.

[@kylethurmeier2795]

Does anyone else just wanna sit down with this guy and just talk about everything. Like. Gaming. His videos. Friends. Jokes. All that kinda stuff. Cuz I’m not gonna lie Dave. You seem like a really smart guy. And when I’m legal drinking age, I wanna buy you a beer.

[@chiary.is.not.amazing5760]

Kyle Thurmeier no, it's on me. I would like to talk to him too, so beers for everyone! :D

[@bleh8227]

I call being the bar tender! I can make a mean tequila, extra rainbow ;)

[@chiary.is.not.amazing5760]

Sam ah! Perfect. I love extra rainbow.

[@somebody2806]

BEER ALL AROUND!!

[@Xaervai]

cheers to dave.

[@Purfunxion]

The lyrics "Online he was everything he wanted. But real life wouldn’t let him be as honest" hit pretty well. Being a transgender woman in a home where I can't express or reveal my true self due to fear of abuse

[@BethanyMisty]

:(( I hope you get to move out soon!

[@Purfunxion]

@@BethanyMisty Thank you. At the moment I'm about to finish my apprenticeship and I've got to find some steady work somwhere so that I can move closer to that

[@BethanyMisty]

Oh nice!! Congratulations on finishing your apprenticeship! Coincidentally I’ve just finished a level of an apprenticeship I’m doing and am moving on to the next level soon o:,, good luck finding somewhere to move out to!! I’ve wanted to move out for ages but I’m too scared to do it alone lol

[@thisisauniquename]

Good luck getting out of there!! I believe in you!!

[@Purfunxion]

@@BethanyMisty Totally get it. I'm pretty scared myself on a lot of levels. As things have it I'm working on my apprentice exam now and hopefully I'll be offered at least some work after in the same place, or so I've been told!

[@wedsies]

I'm bisexual, but my family is Christian. When I told my sister that the USA had legalized same-sex marriage, my mom overheard and got super upset. (Though we live in Canada) I really think that it would be really bad if I came out... So I probably won't ever get to. Nobody knows, except anybody who reads this. I really need to talk with someone about this. Help?

[@shawnahuminston6393]

Just come out if they don't like it screw them you are you.

[@iduntrelecur7004]

Liliana Flower Just come out when you're old enough to support yourself, and if they don't except then at least you wouldn't have gotten kicked out unable to support yourself, or you could just not, because there really is no need. I mean, straight people don't have to come out that they're straight, right?

[@bethyb.8978]

Idunt Relecur The question at the end is true I suppose, but being straight is accepted WAY more than being gay, even though it's an acceptable lifestyle according to the government.

[@iduntrelecur7004]

Beth B. True, but still, why should anyone care who someone is comfortabe with getting it on with? :D

[@TheBellaBubbles]

It might be different. I was surprised when I told my mom I am Bisexual. I thought she would be accepting because she is an advocate at her school for LGBT and has a lot of gay TA's. But she wasn't accepting really at all. She said she doesn't want to know if I like a girl, date a girl, have sex with a girl, and she said I should choose to be straight because it would be easier. But then my dad who I thought would be the same way, was extremely accepting. He told me I could bring girls home to meet him, talk to him about it, he said he would introduce me to some Lesbians, and he said he knows a Lesbian couple who have been together for 20 years that I could talk to if I wanted, and he said he would like to fully understand so he could help his students. Moral of the story: you think you know someone, they may surprise you.

[@CassyBug]

"if they knew the lowdown that he fell for people regardless of pronouns" I'm so glad you included a Pan guy in this one. Sometimes coming out as Pan can be more difficult than coming out as gay. To take an example from my own life: My brother was gay, when he came out, my mother's reaction was "This is news?" When I came out as bi (I didn't know Pan was a thing back then, I'm definitely Pan though) My mom said, "You'll find a guy and forget this whole thing" Like somehow because I wasn't set on one gender I was somehow less valid than my brother who was. It hurt, and I never really got to tell her that before she passed. It still kinda hurts. Dad seems to accept it more, but I don't really date much anyway.

[@kidsinthekitchen1923]

was this one after the other? if it was, then you could/should have pointed out that hypocrisy of that.

[@מעין-צ9ג]

@@kidsinthekitchen1923 you're not helping...

[@eliijahjames]

Omg same I identified as bi for a while and then learned about being pan ya know?

[@thisisauniquename]

That's so stupid. I'm so sorry. You ARE valid!

[@kiyokoshimizu3437]

That’s why it’s hard to come out and say you like more then one gender because some people don’t understand and think less of you about it (coming from a bi girl how came out to my sisters)

[@dgsparrow8288]

I realized I was homosexual on Mother’s day of 2015. I came out to my friends, only one of them stayed because she was a Lesbian, now a transgender. I came out to my parents, both biological and step parents, and none of them believe me. I was at a very low point, considering running away or “leaving”, then I found BoyInABand and more specifically this song. Thank you Dave, And everyone else who helped make this. You pulled me out of the dark place, and it feels so good to know there are people, that there are more people who will except me. I need to meet my friends. I need to meet my family. Wish me luck. I love you all!

[@purpleapron4603]

DGSparrow you’re never alone ❤️

[@dgsparrow8288]

Classifying13 thanks. It helps a lot to know that now.

[@oDM0o]

You got this, I wish you the best hon :))

[@dgsparrow8288]

Donna Ortega Thanks. I’m doing a lot better nowadays

[@oDM0o]

@@dgsparrow8288 , that's great to hear! I'm glad you're doing well

[@ermweezer]

Rest in peace to this banger, rest in peace to my childhood. Dave and Minx keep up the good shit. Nothing else about anything else.

[@prideofmanny2981]

Yes man.... fuck him

[@marjanmartinov9607]

what happened

[@Mortal209]

@@marjanmartinov9607 Cry was accused of grooming an underage girl and then later admitted to it. He's now being "cancelled". He deserves it though. I'm learning a lot about the people I used to watch videos of years ago thanks to Reddit as of recent.

[@marjanmartinov9607]

@@Mortal209 damn man okay thanks

[@broflovskiz]

this aged badly

[@oldaccounttwo9794]

*When you're in the bathroom and someone pounds on the door* "HOOOOLLLD OOOONN!"

[@souldanny.]

PixelPeter _ This is way funnier than it should be lmao

[@nivu4550]

PixelPeter _ The memes oh the memes!!

[@softntired7082]

*I feel like in all of his music videos he bounces because his hair is cooler than ours and he wants us to know that*

[@rekishimasemi1214]

Max The Insomniac oh MA GAH

[@obsydian_jay]

Max The Insomniac True!

[@skyblueraccoon]

It is though :O

[@softntired7082]

*yES*

[@aaronjasper5813]

Max The Insomniac True tho

[@drew2dee2]

I WISH I COULD PRESS LIKE MORE THAN ONCE

[@logandaugherty492]

Drewith DON'T IT WILL UNLIKE

[@itsjay1323]

WHAT IF I PRESS LIKE 3 TIMES THEN

[@xd_liz6391]

So annoying

[@freddiejones6253]

If you have an older version on mobile there's a glitch that'll let you-

[@drflannelxd904]

This song got me through a lot. Cry's parts helped me ground myself and what I was feeling, helped me realize I was pansexual and nonbinary. Now I feel that it's been tainted. It's been about 2 weeks, since what he did surfaced, and, it's honestly hard to come back to this song for me. As an abuse survivor, it makes me feel so.. confused and sick to come back to a song that used to make me feel so safe. I mainly wanted to say this to get some thoughts out, and help anyone else coming back to this song know that they aren't alone. It's normal to feel this way. "It'll be okay."

[@BleachedBlackSocks]

Wait what did he do

[@splats9671]

@@BleachedBlackSocks I didn't properly watch his video but the gist of it is he saying "I dated underage girls online to cheat on my irl GF BUT I didn't know they were underage and its in the past and I've changed!" I think To be honest? You should go watch it yourself

[@Glitchvrbros]

@@splats9671 holy fuck thats messed up

[@anaionescu8913]

Try looking at it as Dave's song. He did most of the work and, as someone else put it in this comment section, it's not fair to let Cry's disgusting actions taint such a beautiful song

[@Laiser]

@@anaionescu8913 Lol. Now you can't look at it as Dave's song

[@dylanvandever4107]

Watching in 2019? Did anyone else die a little inside when Minx cried out "You love her!" Just me? Ok

[@anitaremenarova6662]

Yeah, I love how powerful and full of emotion it is.

[@bananarat894]

I thought that when the door opens Dave would stepbin

[@Imaloserbabysowhydontyoukillme]

Love this whole song... it makes me tear up every time and I'm not even gay..

[@dylanvandever4107]

Kelly Benson Same. I have a lot of LGBTQ+ friends who haven’t had the easiest journeys and my heart goes out to all of them

[@maiak.3588]

Me too.

[@bunoassruns]

It’s mad that your not a global super star by now, your amazing

[@Yoshomay]

*you're

[@prideofmanny2981]

@@Yoshomay nobody gives a crap

[@Yoshomay]

@@prideofmanny2981 i had to

[@prideofmanny2981]

@@Yoshomay its fuking annoying

[@Yoshomay]

@@prideofmanny2981 and that's why it's funny. If you find it annoying, learn Grammer rules

[@hackedtalecreation2182]

Sappy BI story: I listened to this song an unanswerable about of times when I was struggling with coming out to my family and friends as Bisexual. I've now been out and proud for more then a year. This song aloud me to be honest with myself, Thanks reading my nonsensical comment and make sure to like the song and be calm. Peace

[@demonicartist1920]

You got this. Come out whenever you feel ready.

[@mouse5637]

You are freaking awesome

[@sarahsmiles4155]

It's not a sappy story, it's really short and I find it nice. This was made for people to connect so share your story whenever you want :)

[@lowhums2345]

okay well i absolutely adored this song a few years ago. now cry makes me feel sick. i supported him so hard.

[@Aidensan11]

My mom: What are you listening to? Me: homosexual death metal Edit: i’m happy this was able to make a few of you smile

[@superspark3257]

I wouldn't call it metal

[@nubiedubie1651]

@@superspark3257 , no this is fucking metalll

[@superspark3257]

@@nubiedubie1651 but not death metal, too mellow for death metal

[@superspark3257]

@@nubiedubie1651 but it is a fucking banger

[@wintershock]

Aidensan it’s more rap.

[@kat-kalamity]

"Stop looking at her like that" "Are you okay? You're spacing out." "You wouldn't look feminine" "You don't love her, your hormones just make you think you do." Yeah I don't know who I look up to who accepts me who I love sure you can choose that based on gender. Little do you know we've secretly been dating for about one and a half years now.

[@jaychen9917]

congrats :D im so glad you two got a happy ending

[@anattempttomakecontent776]

Thats great! Hope ur happy😁

[@leonlastname8070]

Im so glad for you

[@rivviegobrr714]

I'm so happy for you 😁 I'm bi and have a crush on a girl...I'm a girl... They aren't gay or bi... FML. I love her, she just doesn't love me

[@meagan4722]

I was told that I just chose to like her. You just closed your eyes and spun around and chose. I didn't. I still love her.

[@bootsyswan6291]

Cry's voice in this made me feel 1000 times better about the fact that I like girls

[@TheDemodicIceDemon]

I'm personally straight but I'd understand why people felt more comfortable by Cry because Minx is just a lesbian, Cry is a pansexual so its a tad harder for him (Not that its any different I'm more then sure its hard as hell to come out despite what you are.) ^-^

[@imhereimqueer6427]

Cry is pan? never knew that

[@whitneysimpson6057]

+Lawrie Passmore I didn't either o:

[@hamgobbler9160]

I always thought I was bisexual but if I like shemales would that make me pansexual

[@charakey2741]

+Dominick Kennedy Unless you're attracted to all genders (Pansexual), I believe you may be Polysexual, which is an attraction to some, but not all genders.

[@roshanfey]

dave's presence is so comforting for me.

[@ensaladaas]

"Online he was everything he wanted but real life wouldn't let him be as honest." This really hit close to home, considering that I only feel safe in social medias and have made many online friends that I can talk to and relate to my problems. Though, being honest in the real world for me is torture and I can barely say anything, fearing that I might let something slip out. Really, this song is my cure for any depressing mood I'm in or the situation im dealing with. A huge masterpiece these guys made. Literally deserve the whole world's attention. Thanks for making us LGBTQ+ members feel like this song is a coping strategy for being insecure about their sexuality and fears about telling their parents.

[@redacted5795]

Well me too

[@TIKIKOO48]

I'm a guy that suffers from gender dysphoria and I like guys, which make me technically gei. This is exactly what I fear from my father. I don't know him, he doesn't know me. He has been a heavy drinker since the last 20 years, and he never took care of his kids. I don't know what hobbies he has, but I know his favourite drink. When I told my best friend, he basically shrugged it off as a "eh, you know, you do you." and we're still very good friends. When I told my mom, she basically told me (rough translation) "I felt that you were a bit different" and she's aknowledged it. We talked about it maybe twice afterwards, and she was very supportive. She taught me something important through it : "if you truly love someone, you want them to be happy, especially your kids. If they aren't happy the way they are, it's on you, the parent, to be the shoulder they need." Remember dat. Cuz true dat. Edit : It's been about a year. My relationship with my mother has devolved into the biggest fuel to my depression. I learned a lot about her and it turns out that she's a liar of incredible scale and has thrown my dysphoria in my face and has become an overall awful person, but only to me and my big sister. Also, she's trying to extort the little money I have/make. Too many things to put here.

[@steliastarlight]

Ok

[@yogirlsayvi666]

TeaZR Damn,you have such a great mom

[@notadev1590]

Your mother is absolutely amazing. I don't mean to tell you what to do with your life but, to me, it sounds like your father barely deserves to get to know the real you. I hope that you have or you will mend the fences between you both but if not, that is on him, not you.

[@Shadowseer333]

I know how that feels, I'm a male who is bisexual and yesterday I finally found the courage to tell my mom and brother, it was the first time I'd ever admitted it out loud, never even said it when I was alone. My brother's reaction was basically "Neat, wanna watch some memes on KZbin?" And my mom said she always had a feeling, I can't be happier at the fact that it wasn't a big thing for them, they were happy I trusted them enough to tell them, but the problem for me is my dad and my grandma, she was the one who taught me how to cook, one of the few things I am truly great at, and one of the few things I truly enjoy, we have long conversations where we trade recipes and talk about different methods for cooking certain things, and it hurts so damn bad when she starts talking about gay people. More times than I can count she's said she wishes surgeons would go in and perform a brain operation on gay people to "Fix what's wrong with them" and gets aggravated whenever there's a gay kiss in a movie or game, I love her and cherish the things she's taught me but I'm too afraid of what her reaction might be if I ever told her, and my dad doesn't have strong feelings one way or the other but he always supports her side of things. I have decided to content myself with the acceptance from the few people I have it from, those few who care to see me for who I really am, and to those of you in similar situations I pray you find those few who love and support you, not despite who you are, but truly accepting who you are.

[@aliciathistle2397]

Why is this my life story 😔. I really hope it gets better

[@twoshillings7292]

Two years later and I'm still hooked 🤷‍♂️

[@yetanotheryoutubechannel6290]

Da da da da da

[@socalledvandal1015]

Twenty Øne Phantastic Johnlocked Destiels omg it is 2 years

[@sharpshotyt4622]

ur a bit gay

[@techcamisado4058]

same

[@CPiz321]

McMcMcMc run back to britain george

[@kurokasteele4830]

Man.... To think, five years ago I gave this song a listen and then just passed it by without another thought. Not even the whole thing I think, just wasn't my kind of song. And then here I am, back again after randomly remembering it, when both the message resonates on another whole level, as well as my taste in music shifting. This song has helped a ton of people, I'm sure of it, in so many ways. You all did great work with this song, both with the song itself being great and also to convey an important message that I don't think I've actually ever heard outside of this song, besides individual advice in passing. Thank you.

[@inutogegoogoogaga]

am i one of those comments that wrote a paragraph about their experience with LGBTQ+ but deletes the entire thing and just wrote a sweet comment about how nice the song was? PS: Goddamn Cry's voice is deep

[@kidsinthekitchen1923]

what does Q stand for

[@khxlia1V]

@@kidsinthekitchen1923 It stands for queer

[@seanlegumes8580]

@@kidsinthekitchen1923 Or questioning

[@boobear9944]

I'm not personally in the LGBT community. But I have chronic depression and anxiety. I have panic attacks a lot. Them screaming "It's going to be okay.", "hold on", "this issue is temporary" and "You'll come out ALIVE" is so calming to me. It really helps.

[@dawson4218]

Haven Valentine I hope this doesn't come off the wrong way, but it's kind of funny to me that you're calmed by screaming :p

[@victoriaanderson2378]

I know I'm very late for this but it's nice to hear that you are getting calm feelings from this song. This song can help anyone regarding of the context. :) I hope you're doing okay and I wish you the best time of your life. Hugs from me (つ・▽・)つ

[@youngsterj4y]

Yeah I'm in a similar situation, although not exactly as serious. Tough times happen, hearing those words being screamed is really helpful :)

[@Roitame]

Same here (w/ regards to... pretty much all of your comment Haven, not being LGBT but having depression/anxiety and finding this song helpful) Also helpful was the "You CAN choose your friends, you CAN choose you family". I'm in a safe and supportive place now, but my family was emotionally abusive towards me growing up, and that part just made me literally burst into tears (of the cathartic sort). I'm still struggling to come to terms with all that and get away from the scars it left behind, and stuff like that helps so much.

[@s0upkitten]

Thank you so much, all three of you. I'm crying right now because of how emotionally evocative this song was. I have fallen in love with young women the way I am expected to fall in love with young men, and sometimes it is extremely difficult to convince myself that I will be okay. The world that you three have exposed to me is what makes me feel the only sense of acceptance I have. Please never forget how much this song will help me, my friends and so many other people in this world.

[@alexmezny2554]

The last verse of the song is true to me and im sure plenty of others to. I hope that one day this song wont be needed, but until then remember there are millions like us.

[@NevermoreRMG]

I was crying too.

[@shadowmushroom1138]

I wish you luck.

[@tynj6816]

eric lou It made you cry? Suprising... Something must be wrong with you, it made me break out with rage that my favorite KZbinr supports this crap. You should maybe see a doctor.

[@thefutureisnow6882]

Its so hard to enjoy this after what happened with cry, luckily dave and minx's parts help cover up the pain

[@gjmeggs]

What happened with cry in the video or irl

[@TSHandle6324]

Irl probably

[@Seven-vn6qi]

@@gjmeggs he cheated on his gf with online girls who were minors

[@Megawaps]

@@Seven-vn6qi Except he didn't knew that they're minors.

[@newon2014]

This guy has earned my respect, ever since the iddubz diss track I've been watching all of his songs and they're awesome.

[@totallynamed8979]

Ha I actually found iddubz content cop on threw dave (and him threw cry)

[@knees_and_spleens]

It's honestly so comforting being told that it'll be okay and to hold on. I listen to this song frequently and it's 2018! I came out to my mom over three times. First it was Bisexual: It was 2015, I was in 5th grade, newly introduced to the LGBT Community. I told her, and she brushed me off saying "You're only in 5th grade, you can't know that." I agreed with her. I came out to her again here there, too insignificant for me to remember... Then, 2017, 8th grade. I told her I was Queer, I was constantly switching from Pan to Ace over and over... And she said "You're only 14, you can't possibly know that. I thought I had a crush on a girl in middleschool... And besides if you've never had a crush before how could you know? You're Just Confused." My heart shattered that day. Now I believe I'm Asexual, currently with a girlfriend, scared out of my mind because today was my last day of 8th grade and in my yearbook my friends called me gay, I know for a fact my mother will want to see my yearbook... And with those on the inside of the cover? And I have to brush it off and say something like "Oh no my friends just call me gay for the fun of it." I've come out more than enough times for her to not believe a word of that. I Am Terrified.

[@mikuwatkins198]

TheDoorMatt Its gonna be okay 💝💝💝

[@clawchette2622]

You know, whether she believes it or not doesn't change much. Just because she doesn't believe it doesn't make it unreal. If she refuses to listen, then don't tell her. You don't have to. All that matters is you. Be safe, and I promise you that one day you won't have to hide and be scared anymore.

[@knees_and_spleens]

Thank you guys so much 💝

[@gerbius]

pisses me off that if some people under 15 come out to their siblings, they just brush it off like 'oh come on youre too young, you cant decide yet' despite age, people have feelings about their sexualities.

[@chayek6008]

its ok

[@jamesmccormick1333]

I remember when I was sitting in the women's bathroom at school, listening to this and crying because I knew I could never tell that I'm not a girl. I had reached the end of my rope, I couldn't hold on, but for some reason this song wouldn't allow me to let go. Four years later, I'm able to be out and open with my chosen family. I found myself again. I've been able to help others do the same. I'm an entirely different person. Someone who is happy and confident and has incredibly thick skin. I'm so glad I held on.

[@moonbook12]

Good 4 you ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[@מעין-צ9ג]

I'm so happy for you❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@kidsinthekitchen1923]

good for you 👍😊

[@moebius5396]

Happy for you, James! Sending love

[@zaidkhan6296]

Sending love as a lonely mtf girl

[@coni429]

listening after what finding out what cry did. my heart hurts.