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@end45673 жыл бұрын
NO, I am not dealing with anxiety.
@justurlocalmicrowave96093 жыл бұрын
Hi
@justurlocalmicrowave96093 жыл бұрын
@@end4567 ok
@AlUsername3 жыл бұрын
@@end4567 good for you
@ClubENTP3 жыл бұрын
@ ENTP.......... No Worry, Scrow, My Tease Still Half Full..... See What I Did With The Pun? We Love To T’s.
@freefalltomars92853 жыл бұрын
"But before we start making people cry..." * evil laughing *
@palalba8823 жыл бұрын
In fact, that made laugh a lot 😂😂😂😂
@f.p17582 жыл бұрын
@@palalba882 same🤣
@stevethea52502 жыл бұрын
@@f.p1758 wait the up loader ISTJ NOW?
@stardustmar91312 жыл бұрын
@@f.p1758 right 😈
@luiiiandmovieee3 жыл бұрын
INFP is so true. I always talk so much about fandoms or movie music or storytelling or mbti etc. My mom is so bored, but I told her once she doesn't need to listen, I just must let go my thoughts (maybe that's extroverted thinking). Well, and sometimes I hurt my own feelings by thinking I did something embarrissing or hurted other people's feelings even tho that's probably not true. Life's hard Edit: Thank you for all these like! I've never had so many before
@tejavenkatthakare48053 жыл бұрын
True
@klee53183 жыл бұрын
True 😭
@vartikaindora59063 жыл бұрын
No it's not extraverted thinking. You generally don't share with people who are not close enough. But we tend to share things sometimes to people who we feel close to. And yes I agree to whatever you said 😪 struggle is real.
@miahan89883 жыл бұрын
I’m an ENFP (9w1) and I too talk out loud when thinking/processing/figuring things out 😄 in addition to that I pace around a room in circles, it drives my ISFP flatmate/cousin crazy 😄 luckily for me she’s a gem and learned that I need to do that in order to think clearly.
@ErikAdalbertvanNagel3 жыл бұрын
As an INFP I just don't really care if I hurt someone anymore (only those who are close to me), they do the same. Kickin' dirt in your eyes. Life is much easier since then let I it go instead of falling into a loop.
@DCBFD3 жыл бұрын
As an INFP I just take advantage of times where people will actually listen to me. I'm not blind to the fact that people aren't interested in what I'm saying, it hurts to look around mid sentence and see that everyone has checked out mentally, but it's easier to finish what I'm saying than confront others about not listening. I often feel like a ghost in group settings. I never usually want to be the centre of attention, but if I get a chance to converse about something I'm passionate about I'll take it...and then beat myself up about it later :p
@CigaretteCrayon3 жыл бұрын
As an ENTP guy dating an INFP girl, I was apprehensive about coaxing her out of her shell and sharing the spotlight. Definitely don't want to crush her confidence. 😬
@moomerz243 жыл бұрын
I feel like giving an INFP undivided attention, means so much to them. I know it does to me. It sucks when you're talking and people stop listening, so you just stop talking and no one seems to really notice.
@regularhuhhh3 жыл бұрын
ikr so true, it hurts that even after listening to everyone, no one gives a shit about us and it's terrible.
@regularhuhhh3 жыл бұрын
@@moomerz24 thanks :)) ikr the hardest part for is, even if we stop talking, no one doesn't even notice
@AdiSchwarz3 жыл бұрын
It's also tough whenever you have to discuss something (say, your Boss gave you an assignment/project) & you know no one is even listening to you no matter how lively you tried to communicate it. And it hurts more to see their interaction with the next speaker. Srsly, there is no need for a spotlight. Just listen to avoid miscommunication in the future. 😔
@6up5ohcopoutprocon2 жыл бұрын
As an INFP, thinking "They will all die anyway, no one will remember me so I should just say it now" has really helped me A LOT
@metalherolionboy2 жыл бұрын
"They:ll forget in a few months anyway" is a classic for infp me loll
@jdope8932 жыл бұрын
honestly, i tried telling that to my self but still doesn’t work (well for me LMAO). As long as they still exist, it will always bother me😭
@6up5ohcopoutprocon2 жыл бұрын
@@jdope893 It really depends on what that stress comes from. Personally I was actually not worried about them being here or seeing me, but worried about them remembering what I did in the future and laughing or something- you know that one random memory from years ago that pops in your head from time to time? I DON'T WANNA BE THAT. So thinking "They will die anyway, no one will remember" helped me.
@fireflieer24222 жыл бұрын
Lmaooo classic
@micke72 жыл бұрын
I trained my memory for every day over a year and realized how insignificant those particular things were.
@lazyday39843 жыл бұрын
As an INTP I can agree that I’m always hesitant to say anything in case it offends but it’s really hard to not contradict someone when I think they’re wrong. :p
@elnara12 жыл бұрын
say the same thing but use different words. 🤷🏻♀️or better yet don’t to say anything. control yourself. the less a person knows the better- speaking from experience
@christianakritikou52782 жыл бұрын
@@elnara1 yeah but sometimes we can't handle that kind of pressure that's why we feel the need to say it (also about the other words we do use other words and it makes the situation even worse😂 at least for some of us)
@halaalkiswane5772 жыл бұрын
@@christianakritikou5278 thanks , i agree with everything u wrote 😭
@bootywarrior694202 жыл бұрын
nah i dont hold back on my word
@gretagrotto58582 жыл бұрын
It's not that I think they're wrong, but rather that their argument is wrong. So we have to use fluffy soft cushion words around the evidence because they're attached to their argument like it has a straight line to the depths of their soul and any objection would shatter their very being. But as an Fe user, I really don't want them to shatter, so tact it is.
@ceilinh60043 жыл бұрын
When the worst thing Frank can say about your type is that you're bad at being mean, you know you're winning at life.
@mikeo78033 жыл бұрын
I try to leave "time bombs" that i imagine they'll only get when they're in the shower. Or something that is more subliminal. I never realised i came off like this. Im probably not gonna change though
@mist89863 жыл бұрын
most of the time its not even supposed to be mean. but then u realise how what was said may be interpreted as aaaand... yeah :D
@Error-gz3pp3 жыл бұрын
I don’t even know which type it is, but I think I’m winning at life too
@ceilinh60043 жыл бұрын
@@Error-gz3pp INTP
@nina35383 жыл бұрын
It’s not intended mean… it’s like we caught the words late.. and it’s too late to hit the brakes so it proceeds 😬 we hope to spin it better but it’s just left already… sorry 😬😬😬😏
@crazytornadoe70393 жыл бұрын
I enjoy that each personality type has an assigned tea
@chewsday57603 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I was kinda looking forward to see what kind of tea he has for my type
@djdragons694203 жыл бұрын
@@nerysghemor5781 she's a great ytuber
@greatwavefan3973 жыл бұрын
I'm an INTJ and like any tea with a color in its name.
@crazytornadoe70392 жыл бұрын
@@greatwavefan397 YAY IM AN ENFP What's your favourite type of tea? (Earl Grey is my wife)
@roy.shrestha3 жыл бұрын
The INFP one is so accurate. I can’t stop talking about my favourite shows, books, typology, Skin care and other topics I am interested in even if I know that the person is bored and probably annoyed. Later on, I feel extremely embarrassed and beat myself on that
@warriorcatkitty2 жыл бұрын
sameee
@WindowOfFantasy2 жыл бұрын
wow INFP really can be big support XD
@a.syaqira3612 жыл бұрын
Thats how my siblings treat me 😆 They started to run away when they see im about to start 'story-telling' hahahha Since im used to it so i dont really feel hurt nor that i think i hurt them 😅
@emp94132 жыл бұрын
I get like that too not even INFP :) it's normal but learn to moderate yourself. Discipline is a muscle
@kiranalestari17153 жыл бұрын
Those tea you spilled about INFP are all true. People easily get bored when I talk a lot, that's why I learn how to shut up, like, most of the time. When I'm mad at someone and throw tantrums at them (because they do deserve it), five minutes later I'll feel sorry for being too harsh on them. Gosh, what's wrong with me? :'(
@Multitudes_3 жыл бұрын
It'll get better with age. With greater maturity comes the ability to express your grievances without necessarily throwing tantrums, as well as somewhat better social skills and awareness.
@kiranalestari17153 жыл бұрын
@@Multitudes_ I hope so 😔 I'm 23 y.o. and I think I'll get better with age when it comes to maturity or awareness, but I'm not really sure about my social skills as I'm a super awkward person 😅
@mikimousse5703 жыл бұрын
Don't worry about it, my sister's an infp and im an enfp. And we always like to just talk about everything even if it's the most useless crap ever. You'll definitely find someone who is willing to listen to what you say and find you interesting. I think the reason why i might get bored when i listen to my sister talk is because she BRINGS IN SO MUCH INFORMATION! And i just don't know how to respond to this buttload of information. Yeah, so dont worry about it too much. :]
@minsugageniusjjangjjangman93673 жыл бұрын
Just wanted to say you aren't alone I am an INFP too 😶
@minsugageniusjjangjjangman93673 жыл бұрын
@@Multitudes_ I think the tantrums thing changes by age is true cause I used to throw a lot of tantrums when I was younger but now if I am angry I'll just be silent and do things to make my anger go away without all of them bursting out on one person 😶💔
@JJMcCullough3 жыл бұрын
There's no way that video won any awards!
@chrystiafreelandscankles5483 жыл бұрын
Whoa whoa WHOA. J.J. is on here? Coooooool.
@chrystiafreelandscankles5483 жыл бұрын
J.J. = INTP?
@FrankJames3 жыл бұрын
i'm in an awards race with you, JJ, it's like an arms race for youtubers
@kierstenshadowens88342 жыл бұрын
I'm surprised to find you here 😂
@JJMcCullough2 жыл бұрын
@@kierstenshadowens8834 I’m as shocked as you are
@annabellemingyah68133 жыл бұрын
As an INTJ, it is most important to find a way to create a plan such that when things go wrong, almost no blame gets on you, but when things go very well, all of the credit goes to you. To me, this tea dos not feel bad to be spilled on. I LOVE THIS TEA
@delavidaebella3 жыл бұрын
If anything goes wrong, it's because people are not following my exact plan 🤪
@greatwavefan3973 жыл бұрын
Tea is good for the skin.
@gottachangenamecuzsomeonee60362 жыл бұрын
You're one of the truest INTJs... So many are faking their personality here with their atrocious INTJ immitation it's overwhelmingly disgusted me... 😕😕
@annabellemingyah68132 жыл бұрын
@@gottachangenamecuzsomeonee6036 I honestly don't get why people imitate my type. I was literally called a killjoy just because I said "MAKE A PROS AND CONS LIST!! DON'T FLIP THE FRICKING COIN!!!"
@gottachangenamecuzsomeonee60362 жыл бұрын
@@annabellemingyah6813 lol... Meanwhile I got called a narcissist for being honest about a video having lower quality than the previous one. 😂😂
@elizabethleach63463 жыл бұрын
FJ: 'Hit the like button, why?' INFJs on the channel: hits the like button, and gain satisfaction from helping out. 😁
@quirogatnonerrat32143 жыл бұрын
That's literally why I click the like button 🤭🤭
@charlotte-adams3 жыл бұрын
oh damn lmao I like it because I think its an interesting video haha - intp
@Totallyfine29_2 жыл бұрын
Feel you girl it’s hard for us
@darkirdaftersnow99852 жыл бұрын
I sometimes get so caught up in the vid and the comments section that I forget to click the like button -infp (I clicked for this one tho)
@aniahbutler89322 жыл бұрын
..... that's exactly what I did lol the accuracy
@helenwood84823 жыл бұрын
I'm British, so the hardest thing to hear was all the references to wasting tea.
@hudaifaka45352 жыл бұрын
😂
@ridirih98072 жыл бұрын
So funny because I was glad he wasn’t going to spill coffee.
@kenziemalling96972 жыл бұрын
Boy howdy do I have some news about Boston 😂 Jokes aside, does Britain have other flavors of tea outside of black and maybe green teas?
@joelstephenson80172 жыл бұрын
😂
@eejaypea2 жыл бұрын
@@kenziemalling9697 All the fruit teas! We enjoy quite the selection.
@ti9erlilly3 жыл бұрын
Me (INFJ): *giggling at and agreeing with the spilled tea of all my friends and family* Also me: *actually flinching at being called out about not following my own advice...* 😅
@srussifordwilliams3 жыл бұрын
Also INFJ. Love holding a mirror to other people because it keeps me from seeing my own reflection. Been working on this for years. Sometimes I have this vision in my head that tells me that once I achieve all my goals and become perfect, then everyone will have no choice but to listen to me 🤣
@SimoneEppler3 жыл бұрын
Ohhh, saaame ! That was painful 😣😂
@ti9erlilly3 жыл бұрын
@@srussifordwilliams You know, that sounds like a great motivator! I'm going to remember that! Lol though, probably, there will still be lots of people who don't listen to us. 😂
@ti9erlilly3 жыл бұрын
@@SimoneEppler Soooo painful!!!! 😬🤕
@srussifordwilliams3 жыл бұрын
@@ti9erlilly Lol! I honestly don't know how to motivate myself any other way. Truly a strange life as an INFJ
@andshesgone86853 жыл бұрын
INTJ "blames everyone else." After planning all of the logistics and accounting for every conceivable contingency, PEOPLE will always remain the unknown quantity. Forever. And ever.
@JK-yc9se3 жыл бұрын
this. when my plan include people, i would think it over again or make other new plan.
@eMpty_mEtal3 жыл бұрын
and that includes you... you are a people too.
@_Lyzzy_2 жыл бұрын
@@eMpty_mEtal yes but if you are the only person involved then you can make more guarantees and strategic plans because you know how you think, feel, and act. You know what you will do or not do. You know how you respond in certain situations. You know these things for sure. Other people = unknown variables unless somehow you’re inside their heads or you can see the future.
@lavenishere_2 жыл бұрын
Well you see, if something goes wrong in Intj's plan, it's mostly someone's fault and not ours lol
alternative title: fj profusely expresses his newfound knowledge of phrase: "spilling the tea"
@spiritualsnail15843 жыл бұрын
The boomer energy in this video is what gets me
@djdragons694203 жыл бұрын
@@spiritualsnail1584 ah boomer energy
@sheilaholcomb92013 жыл бұрын
I had to google “boomer energy”. I’m so old now (40) that this video didn’t strike me as boomer energy.
@SSNNPBCC3 жыл бұрын
What is you profile picture? It's super trippy
@dcs43943 жыл бұрын
As an INTJ, you got me. It’s taken a lot of work to realize, hey hold on, this could be my fault too. And while outwardly now I’m more willing to take the blame for things, I still struggle to convince myself of that wait maybe I didn’t handle that too well.
@soirema3 жыл бұрын
#same
@mrfordsclass3 жыл бұрын
But then after much consideration....we realize that no...it really was their fault. 😆😆😆
@kaydenbreak42833 жыл бұрын
Yeah man 😂
@delavidaebella3 жыл бұрын
Yeah nah... yeah, but...no.
@gottachangenamecuzsomeonee60362 жыл бұрын
@@mrfordsclass It is their fault. We plan so much the plans are already perfect, we give them solutions to everything in prior too, yet if nothing works it means they didn't carry what was told... It's all on them in the end.
@LLL.1433 жыл бұрын
imagine the happiness of us INFPs to finding someone who has genuine interest on us and every single thing we're passionate about and will listen and engage on a seemingly-never-ending conversation when we're talking about it, that we don't have to hold ourselves back or feel bad about it anymore. imagine that. yeah...i know. --- actually i don't, i'm still imagining up to this day xD hahahaha
@moonlightflame73 жыл бұрын
Im an INFP & two of my best friends are really creative people. So we've always been on the same wavelength. Even though our specific interests differ we still totally get each other. They let me rant about my favourite TV shows, art or music. I really love hearing about the play one is acting in or the hilarious fanfic the other is writing. I'm very thankful for them.
@melphillips16082 жыл бұрын
My info is always worried that he’s boring or being too indulgent in a topic he’s passionate about; but I sit there confused like, why? Go on, I love talking about anything and everything. LIke I get being considerate but this is to the nth degree. Speak on my friend!! I’ll have just as many ideas etc to add on anyway. XD
@warriorcatkitty2 жыл бұрын
I do online school so I can't even talk to people even if I wanted to- I mean I guess I can talk to people online but the problem is that if I'm not forced to talk to other people, I have a really hard time trying to do it myself lol
@emp94132 жыл бұрын
So you want a mirror? Your prayers have been answered! Lol perhaps realistic expectations better :D oh crap, I'm doing the INFJ thing 😂
@zerbstablackthunder3514 Жыл бұрын
Lucky for me I get to have deep conversations with my close friend who's an INTP. Though the beyond critical part can stay with me only.😂 She have no business with my too INFP stuff.
@miakraljev66343 жыл бұрын
ENFJ here! That tea was hot and indeed burning but really true. I guess because I am incredibly considerate by nature I expect others to be and often get disappointed when they aren’t. I also have trouble asking for help or asking for anything because it makes me uncomfortable, so there’s no way of people knowing what I actually want from them.
@mandarinadreux95722 жыл бұрын
I know exactly what you mean! I'm an ENFP but I have exactly the same "problem". My last relationship fell apart because I felt so neglected. I really have a problem voicing my needs... Also being aware of them at all in the first place. I tend so sponge up other people's emotions to the point that I don't feel my own anymore. Do you know that feeling?
@evashaw1242 жыл бұрын
lol same
@Gintoki8813 жыл бұрын
Someone: spills tea INTJ: kills with a single stare INFJ: smiles and says “don’t worry about that, I’m not mad” in a passive aggressive way ESTJ: “What have you done you f***in’ donkey?!!! ISTJ: “Don’t worry, my trousers and shirt are waterproof”
@alsatusmd1A133 жыл бұрын
ISFJ: “Don’t worry, that’s hardly the most offensive thing that could have happened“
@ausy59033 жыл бұрын
ENTP: *splash the tea back for fun
@rime44553 жыл бұрын
ISTP: Goddamn it.
@francescogiacovelli84683 жыл бұрын
ENTJ: you clean it now or I'll make you feel guilty about it for the whole week in order to use you for my purposes
@5idi3 жыл бұрын
ISFP: Oh what the f... No matter, it's not like I could expect anything better
@sunflowersyndrome3 жыл бұрын
I gotta say, FJ, you do the best ad transition. It doesn’t feel like an interruption because you let us know about it and it really just feels like a break. It’s annoying when on other channels it pops up out of nowhere unannounced right at the time that I’m focusing and zoning in on what I find the most interesting on a video.
@fpsproductions60733 жыл бұрын
Yes, he found a way to make ads less annoying. It gets me really mad when people have a countdown to a reveal we’ve been waiting for the entire time and then a 30 second ad pops up out of nowhere.
@Fikamar273 жыл бұрын
agreed, any youtuber who put the promotion ads at beginning or end of video are getting rare these days
@faicotone3 жыл бұрын
I personally think the cruelest part of an INTP's insult is the fact that we are correct.
@ximixez Жыл бұрын
🔥🔥🔥
@zoeorchid Жыл бұрын
Well, Frank roasted my type as he was attempting to roast yours, but I will say that I can respect an accurate/truthful insult.
@Anny-me9ny3 жыл бұрын
The infp tea for me is more like I’m too aware of how the other person is responding to what I’m talking about. I try to judge whether they are engaged and, in doing so, I forget how to talk about the thing I’m talking about and I just end up shutting up so they can talk 🤩
@m0nika2 жыл бұрын
This is painfully accurate 😔
@jessicakaul3 жыл бұрын
It's not being mean, it's tough love. INTPs don't let loved ones wallow in lies; that's mean.
@terig89743 жыл бұрын
Exactly. A lot of "nice" people are more concerned with appearing nice than benefitting other people in the long term.
@iamfirelust3 жыл бұрын
I have no friends left because accuracy and logical thinking is more important to me than feelings and niceties. People can’t take point blank honesty anymore. Thankfully I’m married to an INTJ, we’re the only friends we need lmfao.
@chewsday57603 жыл бұрын
Flashback to the moment I told my friend that her new hair color is bad on her. She asked for our opinions and I was the only one that didn't like it. She was obviously upset because I told her when she just got back from the salon... Had to ensure her that it's not a big deal because the color will fade at some point.
@valeriehart473 жыл бұрын
Preach it sister. Yes.
@jessicakaul3 жыл бұрын
@@iamfirelust it's taken decades, but intentionally working on my Fe has softened my approach. It's a bonus challenge to marry accurate, logical thinking with MBTI to find the most logical approach to communicate truth to person X's prime motivations.
@bluefirefist48953 жыл бұрын
Contrary to what some people may believe, ENTP personalities often do realize at some point that we have problems, we just collectively choose to ignore them until they come up in an argument. We intuitive types aren't just the tea in the cup, we're the whole friggin teapot.
@beanbandit69362 жыл бұрын
Shut up, don't make me think about it
@just_me19852 жыл бұрын
And then we debate about how what is true about us totally isn't true.
@bananagomm2 жыл бұрын
Hey thanks now I don't need to leave a more elaborated comment.
@solviviflores29043 жыл бұрын
11:42 *I love how the first Frank is talking while the second frank behind him is talking on mute. Meanwhile the third Frank is having an existential crisis* 😂😂
@RandomDC1233 жыл бұрын
hahaha i missed that lol thank you! 😂😂😂
@solviviflores29043 жыл бұрын
@@RandomDC123 his editing skills are great ✨😂
@RandomDC1233 жыл бұрын
So, what I got from this is that INFPs are either annoying others OR we overthink so much it ruins our self-esteem. Annoying others is now another thing I have to worry about. Got it...I'm not sad, no really, I'm okay. **sniffles**
@emmsilver32473 жыл бұрын
I used to be an infp .....like 3 years ago...n at tht moment i never realized....but ya like infps are really smtimes annoying with their words ... especially when they cant explain properly what is on their minds.....i used to b like that....now i m a lot more open n like expressive... But my best friend is an infp n she has ths issue alot....she struggles alot...bless her💙
@RandomDC1233 жыл бұрын
@@GoblnHollow sadly 😅
@RandomDC1233 жыл бұрын
@@emmsilver3247 🥺 I try my best not to be annoying when explaining things, but you're right, sometimes words can't explain what's happening in our minds lol
@nectar3933 жыл бұрын
It's ok don't be hard on yourself
@emmsilver32473 жыл бұрын
@@RandomDC123 Oh its alright dude....💙💙💙 everyone struggles with smthing...its good when we realize things then we can work on ourselves.... personally its not that bad or smthing....its just one of things i hv seen infps struggle with....like my frnd ...she tries her best not to make smone feel bored....but like it gives the feeling is that alot of things are on her mind she just cant get them out or express them properly...but shes getting better n trying ...💜💜💜
@BananaGrace3 жыл бұрын
When INFJ came up I just laughed because my other INFJ friend and I were literally just talking about how we give everyone else great advice and then follow literally none of it. lol sounds pretty accurate. Also me: focusing on the china patterns in the background "Oh that's Blue Willow! my mom's favorite!" lol
@Alex-vj1yz3 жыл бұрын
I love how everyone thinks you’re an E type coz of your charisma/comedy factor, when infj’s are notorious for being able to understand any person, communicate effectively and therefore BE any person they want - in a sense. As well as just having confidence/utilising ‘Se’ once matured etc. Also you’re filming alone, probably when you’re your most energetic … Anyways, I relate to this. Apologies if not true and I’m just projecting my own personality on to you. Lewl.
@aloha32463 жыл бұрын
I agree with you! I am just 21, and I can see my Se forming and coming out now more. I even became the director of a big arts festival this year. - INFJ
@hynnow182 жыл бұрын
The way you got “you’re” and “your” spelling exactly right 🧑🍳😘
@Alex-vj1yz2 жыл бұрын
@@aloha3246 love that!
@Alex-vj1yz2 жыл бұрын
@@hynnow18 haha thank you 🙌🏼🥰
@maisiethebooklover90772 жыл бұрын
As an INFP, that happens to me all the time. It hurts quite a lot when you stop mid sentence to see that nobody's paying any attention to what you're saying. Especially since I listen to what everyone else is saying. Even if nobody is listening to what one person is saying I will listen to them because I know how it feels to be completely ignored. But that's just my sad life and I've learned to live with it.
@Prithvikalra6602 жыл бұрын
Same, I feel bad when a person is talking and nobody is listening so I listen to them. -INTP
@riveroverland59023 жыл бұрын
ENFJ one is so true, seriously I felt that deep in my soul
@nuharazia3 жыл бұрын
Exactly 😭. The fact that FJ reads me like an open book without even knowing I exist sometimes really scares me.
@laurengentry29273 жыл бұрын
Saaame!
@gulshandiwakar55163 жыл бұрын
"Expectations are often disappointing" ~An ISTP
@cosmo42883 жыл бұрын
FJ’s expressions on this thumbnails are so funny. If I knew about personality types without coming across at his channel or not knowing what his type was, I would have definitely mistaken him for an ESFP no kidding cause this is intellectual entertainment
@farhanasanjida44383 жыл бұрын
What's his MBTI type?
@zeph78293 жыл бұрын
Not completely sure but I think it's infj
@farhanasanjida44383 жыл бұрын
@@zeph7829 XP I thought so 2
@cosmo42883 жыл бұрын
@@farhanasanjida4438 it is infj the counsellor type like he counsell so well I cannot even describe how good he is and he is really that archetypical infj but he manipulated the test a few times and got istj on his personality test on google but he is an infj
@karenwalkersginglass3 жыл бұрын
ESFPs are intellectual??
@Lea-ov8vq3 жыл бұрын
INTP will not be super mean but when they're angry, they will sound like they secretely hated you all this time.. so idk which is worse
@L.l.I.ia_N3 жыл бұрын
When in reality INTP don't hate you. Like, I call people losers even when I like them...
@brandonm9493 жыл бұрын
I was going to say they probably did secretly hate you the whole time lol. We're not the best emotion maskers.
@Lea-ov8vq3 жыл бұрын
@@brandonm949 Nah, everyone has annoying things they do
@mist89863 жыл бұрын
true. don't make INTP go ballistic with words. Its not pretty :/
@freregregoire26853 жыл бұрын
They probably didn't secretly hate you all this time, but they are good at remembering everything you have ever done, so all kinds of things they actually were fine with (even while they found it somehow vexing) will be dragged up.
@rengingurel37443 жыл бұрын
Seeing Turkish tea as a background for INFP's is kinda priceless!
@the_mg43 жыл бұрын
Değil mi arkada görünce ben de şaşırdım 😄
@oceanacemafer3 жыл бұрын
ben INTP'yim ):
@fila87272 жыл бұрын
It is not Turkish tea, it is just tea
@jooheonshoneybal2 жыл бұрын
@@fila8727 no doubt, that's turkish tea dude, i can taste the bitterness of the "chai" leaves through the screen.
@rengingurel37442 жыл бұрын
Well that tea glass is Turkish, so...
@danielemaggio69993 жыл бұрын
Just imagine my dad, an ISTP, trying to help me, an ENTP, for a math test. The situation is so chaotic and desperate, I love it
@plsyeetme2 жыл бұрын
Same situation here and my mom being an esfp still trying to make the situation better when its just all going downhill😂
@QxKou3 жыл бұрын
Intj here Well i thought blaming people was a mechanism i created to protect my mental health since i used to put all the blame on me when i was young.... Now I don't take responsibility at all ( i still like taking leadership sometimes so i just be Vice President) And I don't blame people on the open (just between me and myself~) but if they tried to put it on me i just counit as 50 / 50 (even tho it's 99.999% their fault and i had nothing to do with it)
@JokerCrowe3 жыл бұрын
I've seen other people say that INFJ's judge people by their incredibly high standards, and I don't really feel that at all. I DO have high standards for myself, but I also recognize that other people are other people, and they don't have to live like I do. I do have like "rules" for what I consider to be a "good" living, but 1) I follow those rules for myself (otherwise what's the point of having them?), and 2) like I said, I don't really hold others to those standards. I'm definitely happy when they do follow them, but I'm not expecting it from anyone. (because I know the standards are often pretty unreasonable. x)
@silverlightroleplay16342 жыл бұрын
As an ISFP I can say this was very accurate and it killed me. I’ve done this plenty of times and the worst part about it is that it’s a subconscious action that I don’t realize I’ve done until someone has pointed it out to me
@Goniel Жыл бұрын
I think, as an esfp, I relate to this much more then the esfp one. I'm not superstitious at all
@eun5150 Жыл бұрын
yes same here. but 😉 it's uncontrollable to think of those funny stuff 🤔 but I guess we can a ct like our throat is itchy :D or a cough
@iloveGod11053 жыл бұрын
love you FJ!!! Just recently lost the love of my life, an ISTP. I watch your vids about my ENFJ personality and his ISTP one and they always make me smile bc they are so accurate. thanks for being an amazing human being!!
@queendio75203 жыл бұрын
Damn he really used us infps for his sponsor😂😂
@klee53183 жыл бұрын
Aw no, INFPs don’t always have anxiety. That’s just a stereotype or personal thing
@queendio75203 жыл бұрын
@@klee5318 I know I know I just thought it was funny that we were the opportunity for his joke 😂😂
@_Colie3 жыл бұрын
Maaan, I seen that coming from the accentuation of the P @ the beginning of the video, shoot 😿
@ADeeSHUPA2 жыл бұрын
@@queendio7520 퀸 ぢオ
@Toast.273 жыл бұрын
INFP here: yep mhm all the tea you spilled is absolutely true 😂
@karynwallace85563 жыл бұрын
I really ENJOY Frank’s presentation and humour 😊 As a INFJ I have learned a lot about myself ! I have never met anyone else like my personality especially as in a partner. So I’m happy to be self partnered and have true friends. Yes I do have very high standards and door slam anyone who is toxic to me but I don’t have these high expectations from all I meet as you will be disappointed. I do get very anxious in new situations but usually find it’s not as bad as I thought lol 😂 love quiet alone time but enjoy association in small groups though prefer one on one with meaningful discussions. I’ve learnt to put my empathic qualities to use in wise ways, where it counts not just use it willy nilly on every person I meet. I have to conserve the precious energy I have as I easily get drained by people and social situations. Sometimes I just want to hide away within the four walls to stop getting hurt from people in general . You get that feeling of going off the grid , getting away from it all ! Lol 😂 But Thank You Frank for putting things into Perspective ! ☺️🌸
@ankitbansal20242 жыл бұрын
Yeah and thanks to you for putting down in words
@benjaminharmon65413 жыл бұрын
Absolute gold in this video. ISTP is spot on. Currently doing an online degree and trying very hard not to crash and burn lmao. I can DEFINITELY do it.
@rargiyeok52502 жыл бұрын
Well me too I changed to engineering major to psychology and everyone were saying it's not gonna work but i did that anyway now I'm just trying to not crash
@Barry_ibeh2 жыл бұрын
@@rargiyeok5250 you’re definitely going to crash. Talking about feelings is not logical - ISTP here
@derncii2 жыл бұрын
@@Barry_ibeh psychology is more than just feelings it’s the study of the human mind
@samiraaparazita14202 ай бұрын
@@dernciihe could crash as psychology is full of very abstract concepts, they are very hard to grasp imo
@L.l.I.ia_N3 жыл бұрын
As an INTP I approve. I actually have this weird thing, you described very well how I feel as I need to be mean when I have to say something mean and I understand that I will be mean but I have to say it, this exactly how it is.
@LadyPragmatic3 жыл бұрын
When my boyfriend (INTP) tries to be (passive) agressive, it IS in fact very awkward. The way he does that reminds me of a previous FJ's video : How the 16 Personalities Can Confront their Shadow (check it out, very insightful). INTPs, though being a very rational type, can sometimes make absolutely no sense and lose all rationality, especially in heated arguments, all the while feeling unconfortable about being mean. The result is the weirdest thing I've ever seen... And makes me cry (cause I'm an INFP ;) )
@BanjoBitty Жыл бұрын
As an INTP I never heard this about my type before. I'm analyzing the hell out of myself now.
@elenamura78563 жыл бұрын
INFP is very accurate.. A while ago I realized that on myself and it got me a lot of thinking.. yet, when I am passionately into something, I still notice too late people's actual intrest in it (or more rarely I ignore it), and at same time once I do notice I can't stop projecting. Most of those projections are actually more exaggerated in my mind than what they are feeling or thinking in their mind.
@jeromeur86363 жыл бұрын
I'm an infp too, and i am very aware of this situation. When i feel like i'm not listened, i would always think "why would everyone just listen when someone is talking? Is it that hard just to respect others by listening?" That's why now i don't open myself up to almost anyone except my closest friends and gf haha
@elenamura78562 жыл бұрын
@@jeromeur8636 yeah I understand what you mean haha I am good at listening when people talk (not about me) and I am intrested even based on how much it means to them. Different mentality and care, I guess
@carlosserafin1183 жыл бұрын
Video ideas: 16 personalities... Procrastinating Plagiarizing In the military In a battle royale Getting kidnapped Writing their college essay In a horror movie
@Ipomoea_Alba3 жыл бұрын
As much as I enjoy tea, I would rather not have it spilled on me, literally or figuratively.
@jay50103 жыл бұрын
INTPs see through your bs and try to help you do the same. Problem is that when we are telling tough truths saviour Ti and inferior Fe are engaged in a mortal combat for the wheel. Ti still gets it's way, but Fe adds awkward detours.
@user-wr2uy9pj4m3 жыл бұрын
The INFP one is 100% true!!! one of your most accurate one yet, I'm so glad I can hear it phrased, thank you so much for that
@christopherwillson3 жыл бұрын
I admire your ability to come up with so many video ideas. Sometimes I think "Ok, now there are no more videos to make" but you just keep going and I keep watching lol
@joshuaelias.caswell50033 жыл бұрын
I am a INTJ “Fun”! I am right about everything and nothing is ever my fault! I also hold people at a high standard.
@AwkwardMelody3 жыл бұрын
Man this is the most relatable thing I've ever heard about myself and this is the second time someone asked me to see a therapist today. Edit: INFP here
@Kate-is5mz2 жыл бұрын
As an INFP, it's not that we don't see you're not interested and are bored, it's that we get consumed very easily once we start thinking out loud. Like, I'm going to continue to speak while I can clearly tell that no one cares, because other people become a medium that I translate my thoughts over out loud. What we're doing at that point is basically the same as talking to our selves while alone, but with extra steps: out loud and, instead of the alone part, there's another person to materialize who you're talking to in your head. I agree that it doesn't make it better (and probably doesn't even make sense lol), I just wanted to make it clear - we are fully aware that you don't care. And don't worry, we will overthink this if you're a stranger and die from irrational shame of having ''revealed too much'', or having ''embarrassed'' ourselves after that. While the other person will continue to not care and completely forget our monologue moment as soon as it is over and they are free to live their life again, lol. Man, I hope this comment made any sense...
@dotiemodanza65633 жыл бұрын
INTP: I have tasted the tea, and the tea is bitter. (Proceeds to add more tea leaves and mixes copious amounts of milk and sugar to mask the bitterness) INTP: (sips tea) this is fine (INTP here)
@louisejoel3 жыл бұрын
I like a delicate Lady Grey with a touch of barista coconut milk. Now you have me wondering if I am an INFJ again.
@astridgalactic9336 Жыл бұрын
We INTPs learn the hard way (if ever) that most people really don't want to hear the truth.
@mr.romaro34223 жыл бұрын
In defense of my fellow ENFJs We deserve a world where more people like us take a little thing called INITIATIVE!
@beanieful2043 жыл бұрын
Yes!! I feel like ENFJs tend to be very empathetic compared to other types, very generous too
@shaggyd00kale583 жыл бұрын
Oof, I feel called out.
@kimjj4932 жыл бұрын
So true..
@HereIAm247 Жыл бұрын
As an INFJ, I do understand where you are coming from - BUT!! This is not about initiative. :) Initiative is what you take to solve a problem. But in order for someone to take initiative, you have to consider it enough of a problem to take action. Or the potential reward worth initiating the task for. And just because you see something as a problem/reward, doesn't mean everyone else does. :) You can't expect people to see the world the same way that you do, or be motivated by the same things. (or be as fast to take action - maybe they would take the initiative, if you had a little more patience, lol)
@jennywiltse3392 Жыл бұрын
For reals!
@thevegetablequeen3 жыл бұрын
INFJ here, and the tea is so accurate. I'm a champion advice giver - I do it on my blog and on a more personal level in groups I'm in. I get lots of ideas, and I like to brainstorm to genuinely help others. Of course, it's easy to be objective when it comes to someone else's issues and much more difficult when it's your own. I try pretty hard to not be judgmental of others if they choose not to follow my advice, but it sure can be frustrating!
@educationalbrowsing89132 жыл бұрын
True about INFJ 🥴 This is because it is very easy for us to understand others and their situations but not easy for us to sort through the maze of our own emotions and issues.
@tasinyt50773 жыл бұрын
the way he put intj, infp and infj on the thumbnail I can assure that I am going to have an existential crisis after watching this
@emanuelmayer3 жыл бұрын
INFJ here: I stopped try to "get the diamond out of the raw diamond" of every person I knew, this kind of overly cringy "you must change, become better, you could be totally successful, if you just ... change everything". I was preachy. And I hate that. especially, as you said: I don't change so much about my life, because I am always so disappointed, when my life does not get better in mere MINUTES!
@thatinfjgirl3 жыл бұрын
Same. Working on just focusing on myself & accepting others journey with compassion instead of 'I gotta help them'. It's like a knee jerk reaction sometimes.
@SimoneEppler3 жыл бұрын
Same. 😣😂
@lilleilei1693 жыл бұрын
same when i got to that part i laughed but also cringed bc i recognized it in myself
@melphillips16082 жыл бұрын
I had a freind write a 10 page ‘dissertation’ on what and how I could change about myself in order to be a ‘better friend’ to her. I responded with minimal text back saying; ya that’s not gonna happen. What good is a friend that can’t accept me. It was a strange experience no doubt. Btw, still don’t talk to her years later only bc I moved on instantly after that incident, though I was hurt at that moment.
@thatinfjgirl2 жыл бұрын
@@melphillips1608 well, that's excessive
@stephanie46982 жыл бұрын
I feel like I'm almost an even split between INTP and INFP. I have the emotional nature of the INFP, and the tendency to analyze of the INTP. I think I started out in my earlier years more INFP; I had the tendency to talk nonstop about my interests, but rejections (and the realization that no one wanted to listen) have caused me to keep most of my thoughts to myself. Overtime my T traits have grown a lot, while my F traits have become mostly suppressed. It's only when I'm with people who I am truly comfortable around that I tend to ramble. Since there are few of those, it doesn't happen often. To most people in my life I'm pretty quiet and rarely speak.
@chxbir05472 жыл бұрын
Frank: "Do I make the INFP cry?" Me being a INFP: *laughing so hard because it's so relatable and cry in the inside*
@Alex-wm5jq3 жыл бұрын
the editing is great i laughed more times then i probably should’ve
@florallee87793 жыл бұрын
These series of videos about INFP really comforts me in a sense as an INFP myself. I really appreciate all the comments that I can relate to, makes me feel that I'm not a weird bean in the crowd. I'm really too hard on myself 😭. Plus can someone help me how to control my daydreaming/imaginations, it really hinders me to do things because I think of all the consequences up to the branch to the twigs and leaves AAHHHHH, I'm goin crazy yeah🙈
@MiiTina3 жыл бұрын
I'm INFJ and everything you said was true. There was a time, I've done nothing helpful to improve my health/happiness, because there was a kind of cage I build myself emotionally around me (to show that I'm okay), to be there for everyone else (or being a listener), while my self esteem was shrinking even more. I put myself down and always had the feeling that I'm not good enough and everyone else is stronger etc. I'm still afraid to disappoint everyone. My sister who is an ENFP helped me the whole time out of this circle, when I couldn't hide how bad I was feeling. At the beginning I felt absolutely ashamed of myself and I was worried to worry others or be a burden. I'm still working very hard on myself (it is not easy and a long process) But I can already see health benefits and I hope that my happiness will rise.
@joanaborrellsanchez92252 жыл бұрын
A girl in my class is INFJ. She always seems sad. She told me that she's struggling with anxiety since last year. I've proposed meditation routines and guidance to improve her mental health. I feel broken when I see sadness in her face... I'm also ENFP :)
@pieterlindeque77983 жыл бұрын
ENTJ here, can confirm when I get in my feelings I will stay there and absolutely seethe about it. Like just sheer anger. Not even at the thing or person that made me feel that way but the fact that I feel that way in the first place. I can get over whatever sent me relatively quickly but the fact that I'm stuck in my emotions and don't know what to do with them in that moment really, really pisses me off. I just want to be done with it and move on. I absolutely hate being emotionally high strung.
@starrygirl12123 жыл бұрын
OMG Frank I'm an ENFJ and what you said about us was so true! When we give out all our effort to help someone and we don't get the same amount of effort back from them we will be disappointed hahahaha
@Rebecca-tm8eq2 жыл бұрын
haha same here, enfj club :)
@likemycomment65923 жыл бұрын
Yeah, being mean is not my cup of _TEA_ ~INTP
@shinnyshinshin6038 Жыл бұрын
As an INFJ, I don’t give other people life advice but I really really want to, and I feel doing that makes me more relaxed and happier even though I have rarely done it before
@zeye-_-2 жыл бұрын
I'm istp. You spilled your tea and what I'm here to say is that yes, I'm obsessed with doing things my way and I try to blame everyone when I mess up, but to be clear, we learn soon after. We'll just never admit it unless ABSOLUTELY necessary
@Averageyoutubenjoyer3 жыл бұрын
Infp criying here... Thanks When I really like something I talk a lot about it and in midway i'm like "they obviously hates me, they look so bored, what am i doing? Should I stop? But I haven't say the best part yet"
@Tiara_Princess73 жыл бұрын
Wow! You saying that ISFJs are gullible and it being extremely true. lol. I was always in honors classes and got good grades, but I am still too quick to believe what someone tells me. My much younger brother gets so much joy out of tricking me.
@kuli_narrisch3 жыл бұрын
True. I am an ESTJ. What bad about getting things done? Most important, hm? 😂 It's not about anything else than logical order and getting things done. Nothing personal in it, so please do not feel bad.
@s1b0r602 жыл бұрын
As an INTJ this is so true! Today I had an essay to write for english and after I finished it I gave it to a few of my frends who are good at writing to read it and give me their opinions. They said that it was really good but when our gades came I had gotten a 89/100 and i was kinda sad because I'm used on getting 95+. In the end I "came to the conclusion" that it's not only my fault for getting a 89 but also my friends since they were the ones who gave me tips and told me to submit it like that. I am aware that it is not good to blame the others for your things but what can I do, it is what it is.(BTW english is not my first or second language so sorry if there are any mistakes.)
@freon_bale Жыл бұрын
You picked the wrong friends to judge your work. So really, a double failure on your part. Own it.
@bostonterrier29763 жыл бұрын
Enjoyed this vid! like the ones with (mild) critiques of what each type can do when being negative or unthinking - so much of the personality content out there is about how special and unique an gifted we all are but I like thinking about the challenges that come with our unique gifts as well
@vanessavalentin43042 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh the ENTP one was embarrassingly accurate. Literally today I got up to make pasta at like 3:00pm, and I went to the cabinet and there was no FREAKING PASTA, so I was like…Pft fine I’ll just make cereal… and there was NO MILK so I was like “😐🤚 guess I’m not eating today lmao”
@CharlyDeamen3 жыл бұрын
My mother is an ISTJ, and that's pretty much what she does. Just... she seems to have the empathic range of a teaspoon. Me being an INFP... yea, sometimes I wonder if she's actually a robot. Your description of INFP is bang on. Don't get me started talking on stuff I like, I do zone out and lose people. I could talk about writing techniques and astronomy for HOURS. But yea, there are those times when I just say nothing because I know no one is interested in anything I do.
@Brighid453 жыл бұрын
Older INFJ here . . . Frank is right. In my experience, it's been demonstrated over and over that 1) most people don't want to hear the truth, even if you ***KNOW*** what's wrong in six foot tall flaming red letters dammit, and 2) it really ain't our job to fix any of that or judge people for not taking our advice. Seriously. Yeah, we tend to be counselor/advocate types, but we have plenty of work taking care of our own messed-up inferior-sensing heads. Two things to remember when you are tempted to observe and record and then interfere: no good deed goes unpunished, and expecting other people to live by your standards will doom you to endless disappointment. Really enjoyed this vid Frank, along with all the others you've made. Thanks for the insights and the laughter too, much appreciated. :) x
@gocha17023 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 I had that crisis 2 weeks ago disappointed with everyone except 1 person. There was no need to call us out so loudly Frank hehe Greetings from ENFJ!
@markwright31613 жыл бұрын
I feel like I have that as a general feeling about the world, only I then retreat into my virtual world where I have a hand in every area of business to set things straight, is that just an INFJ thing :) The following is probably NF stuff going a bit wild (deep mental stuff/'thought dump'); I'm very passionate for driving and when I witnessed friends' driving for the first time I too regularly felt inwardly disappointed in the perceived lack of capability.... of the newly qualified driver that they were at the time. I feel I'm better at understanding others not reaching the ideals I wish everyone was at, but I hold myself to what could logically be described as impossibly high standards but even with this explanation/understanding and the input from others to support that as somewhat fact, as you can probably see from that wording, I still irrationally cling to needing to achieve things at those levels. For example, I've been driving for only 5 years from the second it was legal for me to be behind the wheel of a car, but I seem to expect to match the ability of an advanced UK pursuit (or TPAC) trained police officer and when something happens to suggest to me that I'm not at that level I end up viewing myself as 'incompetent', even though I'm probably a bit above average as I've looked into advanced civilian driving courses/training videos and aim to apply those techniques whenever I drive. As another INFJ comment mentioned, because I don't see improvements in literal minutes I end up disappointed in my performance. Yeah, probably not the best.
@ria84653 жыл бұрын
ENFP: I deserve to get margaritas served by fairies in heaven while I prepare for my Paris trip.
@alessandraolmi42133 жыл бұрын
Ahahahah yes
@simplykathrynrebeca2 жыл бұрын
Girl I wish 😭😭😭
@juliemay92953 жыл бұрын
I love that INFP duality that describes me perfectly!
@phoquenahol72453 жыл бұрын
As a INTJ, this tea reminds me of a socials group project I did once. I was grouped with 3 boneheads that cared about nothing other than sports, so I had a difficult choice of letting them work with me and potentially ruin the entire project or just do all the work myself. I imagined 3 hypothetical poeple like my groupmates and decided to complete 95% of the project myself and the other 3 members in my group would help out here and there. However, I made sure there was no chance they could change the project in any significant way. Even though my project achieved 95% of full marks, I was deducted 10% for not incorparating my group more and the other 3 members actually got the 95%. This project turned out to be worth 50% of the entire course so I ended up getting an B+ in socials while the 3 other members got ridiculously high grades that they don't deserve. The 3 other members even ended up calling me dumb, even though I essentially gave them those high grades and they along with the teacher messed up mine. I had blamed that group of peers for a long time, but eventually I accepted that it was because I cannot come to a comprimise of what I want and what they want.
@sarahr30763 жыл бұрын
You're close, but saying that your group members and the teacher messed up your mark shows you're still not all the way there. The teacher is the one who set the goals of the assignment, so the teacher didn't "mess up your mark;" he/she determined that you hadn't adequately understood and fulfilled their goals for the assignment they designed. You were docked those points because you didn't understand that your learning to collaborate (and, as you said, compromise) effectively in groups, which is an essential soft skill for many jobs, was as much the point in the teacher's mind as the final product, but also that everyone in the group was supposed to learn by doing a significant part of the work. What you still think of as "giving" your partners high marks was actually also you deliberately blocking your group members from part of the learning process, so you were duly punished for it. The point of courses in school is for *every* student in the courses to learn the material to the best of their ability, not for any one student to get close to perfect marks. P.S. Those particular kids might not have been as smart as you, but there's no conflict between liking sports and being highly intelligent. I went to a science and tech magnet high school with competitive admissions, and sports participation was actually very high among the student body. Never make the mistake of thinking that other people having interests that you don't personally find intellectually stimulating is, in and of itself, a sign of their lower intelligence. P.P.S. FWIW, this is coming from an adult INTP who also did about 90% of a paired project once and also got a slap on the wrist for that despite the final product being the best in the class and highly praised.
@KristalCherelle2 жыл бұрын
I can understand how frustrating that must have been for you. I’m glad you figured out the importance of learning to compromise and collaborate with others-even if you can’t always trust them with the same quality of work you would’ve done. ENFP here who’s been married to INTJ for 10yrs. You guys are exceptional at most things you do. The best way to collaborate and still get quality is to lead but allow and delegate fairly and quality check afterwards! I think in future situations like that-you’d get better results that way!
@mairasann3 жыл бұрын
lol I thought the video would be about how each personality would react to someone spilling tea on them
@CaveyMoth3 жыл бұрын
I keep talking about MBTI at work, and everyone's bored of it. But it's finally a hobby that's lasted me longer than a month! It's worth celebrating!
@isabelleventuradesa58173 жыл бұрын
as an ENTP, I was watching this video while I was giving up previous activities. Now I'm ready to be back, thanks
@elisabethbsellers3 жыл бұрын
Me, an ENFP, watching this video instead of doing my readings for class tomorrow😅😅😅 Me, an ENFP, doesn't finish the end of the video out of feeling guilt for the procrastination Me, an ENFP, inevitably won't finish the reading because I never finish any projects
@lorrieannfernandez2 жыл бұрын
The moment I clicked the video I was looking for the timestamps comment because I can't watch the entire video 😂😂
@Roozyj2 жыл бұрын
The idea that things that aren't fun or interesting have to get done anyway is extremely boring to me. And the idea that some people don't feel that way and will do the things without being extremely bored is alien to me xD
@kymelatejasi3 жыл бұрын
If what Frank has to say here about INTJs and my typing of my brother is right, this makes so much sense about what is going on with us right now and it actually makes me depressed. I don't know how to fix something like that. 😞 As an INFJ, I have learnt how to take my own advice. It can be hard, but it helps so much. I hope other INFJs can learn to do the same.
@kymelatejasi3 жыл бұрын
@DannyGirl What's your point exactly? I was wondering about the communication between two people, so I don't understand what exactly you're trying to say here. I wasn't using the labels to say this is absolutely us, just as a guideline to noticing patterns to understand someone better.
@kymelatejasi3 жыл бұрын
I said I didn't understand the point. And that's really because it isn't clear at all. I'm still confused as to what the point was.
@kymelatejasi3 жыл бұрын
I don't feel restricted by the labels. I simply said I don't know how to fix the problem we are in. I didn't say it was because of the typing, just that I don't know what to do.
@srussifordwilliams3 жыл бұрын
@@kymelatejasi @Kymela Tejasi Hey, I am an INFJ and have been working with my INTJ twin brother on our differences for 28 years (not a lot of time). But from what I have learned so far it seems you are very close to a breakthrough. You are seeking others advise, HUGE step for INFJ (at least in an truly open minded way). For me and my brother, I waisted a lot of time thinking it was up to me to fix something-as it seems you are also doing. You used the words "don't know how to fix something like that". Perhaps it is because the real conflict is not that you are not doing something essential, rather, the problem may need to be resolved with a less direct approach, perhaps you are trying too hard. I do not know your situation, but you could try re-evaluating the conflict entirely. Remove the vision you have of there being a conflict and actually go to your brother with nothing but pure curiosity and respect. Perhaps what you see as something in need of fixing is not just something outside of your influence, but is not something that actually must be fixed in order for you to enjoy and appreciate that person. Overall, the biggest realization I had recently about being and INFJ is that I want all my relationships to work on my own terms. So that I can understand them number one, and number two, so I can know that what I value most about myself--my overwhelming and constant ability to critique all weaknesses--is appreciated and taken up by others. But to really enjoy and impact others, and not just the manufactured vision of them our INFJ brain naturally produces, the judgment must must be dropped. It is painful to do this because that is our greatest defense mechanism and to really stop judging things as an INFJ you open yourself up to be actually influenced by others. If you can do this, and not fear becoming someone else you may see things that were once problems as blessings or at least simply things that exist and have no business being judged. So the advise DannyGirl gave may be better than you think. I simply elaborated on thier point. Relax and look for things to appreciate, do not get depressed or exited about a problem that your brain told you existed. And be willing to be influenced by others in a way that you do not fully understand. Embrace the confusion of real life and things will change.
@kymelatejasi3 жыл бұрын
@@srussifordwilliams Perhaps that was the wrong wording on my part, but that is great advice all the same. When he comes over to watch anime with family once a week, he doesn't even try to say anything to me, so for now I am trying hard to just wait until he seems ready to listen to why I have purposely not looked for jobs and purposely left them (I was extremely ill and burnt out). Thank you for trying to help. I will keep everything you said in mind. ❤️
@lindseyauburn89683 жыл бұрын
I relate to INFP on this one...overthinking conversations from the day and worried I offended someone 😌
@azarishiba25593 жыл бұрын
Others: "Wash dishes, it helps to relax, to stay in the present moment". Me, an ENFP: "It actually will make me feel stressed, so, nope. I have more fun stuff to do that this" XD XD XD FJ just nailed it, and I don't think feel offended at all XD XD XD
@KristalCherelle2 жыл бұрын
I totally laughed out loud when he got to our part! Adulting can be hard-the ONLY way I’m washing dishes is if I’m watching KZbin videos, dancing, and playing my favorite music while doing it.
@geanbean13052 жыл бұрын
Yeah, doing the dishes is awful 🙁 it gives me time to stop and let my mind wander to all of the awful things that I'm feeling, experiencing, and going through at the moment, instead of keeping that thought for when I get in bed at night 😥 which we all know how awful that is. That's why I'm always listening to music, it keeps my mind focused on other things and not things I don't want to think about 😓 ~ENFP-T
@Lola-zy2vs2 жыл бұрын
As an ISTP, I am not overconfident. I can just do everything I want to do when I want to do it.
@rargiyeok52502 жыл бұрын
That really nice cause I always make decisions being overconfident and regret it later
@Yes_this_is_my_cat3 жыл бұрын
We all know FJ is an INFJ who knows the MB test so wel, he can perpousefully type himself as something he isn't at all, wich is a very INFJ thing to do
@lunade133 жыл бұрын
He's not an INFJ at all
@srussifordwilliams3 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@srussifordwilliams3 жыл бұрын
@@lunade13 maybe you do not know INFJ'S well enough. We are capable of moving mountain to appear as anything other than ourselves. Not saying he is, just saying actually typing an INFJ correctly is tricky because we are shape shifters.
@AndreaCrisp3 жыл бұрын
He was an INFJ in earlier videos, so I'll have to watch the one where he typed differently. I must have missed that one...
@joaostcgomes3 жыл бұрын
@@srussifordwilliams and we are also social chameleons, that's why we struggle trying to know who we really are
@zacharykropidlowski1722 жыл бұрын
As an ENTJ this is accurate. A coworker once told me that they noticed I started to show an emotion for once and only a few seconds later I was like the hulk just getting pissed for no reason...😬😬😬
@katzeshi3 жыл бұрын
i feel like the isfp "no-filter-dont think bef u talk" thing is also similar to smthing esfps would do but esfps are slightly better in that they will usually b considerate of the situation (if they read it correctly) and will rectify it if they realise they hav done smthing inappropriate but isfps wont necessarily do much cos they dont wanna invalidate their reaction/feelings (which may b genuine to them) but they usually know they shouldnt have expressed it in front of everyone aft theyve done it and do feel bad ;-; also this whole thing kinda feels like an estp stereotype XD
@CK-wv9pp3 жыл бұрын
As a middle-aged INFJ, i just tell other people and myself: “You do you, if you can be at peace with your choices and outcomes.”
@hollyvincentart3 жыл бұрын
Cool video 😎 I definitely feel like I'm mostly second kind of INFP you talked about. I wonder if the difference between them has something to do with the big 5 traits (maybe high neuroticism?) of each individual INFP?
@arimakosei15173 жыл бұрын
I'm an xNTP so rn I'm scared, cuz ik both ENTP's and INTP's stereotypes and none is good 😭 XD
@damanpreetkaur6353 жыл бұрын
as an ESTJ you have noooo idea
@labolsadepapel46093 жыл бұрын
XNTP myself I had an ESTJ math teacher, I just say that the stereotypes are true sometimes
@CheneyChen10013 жыл бұрын
In my country you XNTP stereotype are actually very charming and attractive
@mershadmajeed22463 жыл бұрын
I think u are an into🧐
@louisejoel3 жыл бұрын
@@CheneyChen1001 Which country are you in? I must know.
@sakhilepadi35013 жыл бұрын
INFJ, I'm hardest on myself. If I advise you to do it to improve yourself, I've already tried it myself and I do it for sure! It can take a while, but I eventually give up on people who seek my help/advice but don't use it.
@terig89743 жыл бұрын
The Truth > your feelings I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, partially because I don't want to deal with any potential emotional fallout and somewhat out of empathy. But at the end of the day I think getting down to the underlying principles of the structure of reality is much more important than preserving someone's comfort. It's also kind of painful when someone says something that I'm almost certain is factually incorrect. Social interaction is difficult enough without being distracted by some glaring logical inconsistency or bit of misinformation.