What the 16 Personalities Should KEEP PRIVATE

[@FrankJames]

Thanks for watching! Watch this video about the Variations of the 16 Personalities next! 👉 kzbin.info/www/bejne/eKLXomiOipp-bK8

[@sid9882]

I was first Frank

[@blueninja012]

I'm just replying because it's just been one person for over 20 minutes

[@lordoflollipops-memesandmo3833]

3RD

[@fovarberma752]

INTP. In my case you're straight on the money. Lost 2 players in a blossoming campaign because of it. Love stories. And they can take quite a bit of time because they're good explanations. And the worst part is that we love those stories from other people too and tend to encourage each others, so if two INTPs meet, can bog down a group a little bit. I am purposefully not telling that 2 players story tho.

[@shindig9000]

An idea for your comedy videos. The 16 personalities reviewing movies. I always like getting people's thoughts on movies from KZbin like Jeremy Jahns and the critical drinker. I thought it would be cool to see what you could come up with in terms of what the types focus on and movies that they think is important to talk about in their review 👌

[@nvox6538]

As an INFJ, I've had to literally stop myself from telling those around me my goals/plans because I've realized over the years that it does me no good lol

[@atrusfratedot7]

Apparently i still can't control.🤓✨

[@trinaq]

Agreed, since I'm mostly surrounded by sensors, there's a high chance that they would claim that I'm "unrealistic" or "impractical."

[@sahilgohel7954]

So accurate right...???

[@gisa.amorim]

Sometimes it's hard to keep my mouth shut and stop thinking about other people's validation 😅

[@figs449]

Yes!!! Every time I do I regret it for a multitude of reasons and end up being really upset but I want to share my goals/plans so it's so hard

[@adelina-805]

Dear ENFPs, No, PLEASE keep sharing your dark and disturbing ideas and observations. I absolutely LOVE them. -INTJ

[@moody_flowers2854]

Totally agreed!! I live for those conversations where someone tells me their dark thoughts. They give me an interesting aspect, from which I can understand the person's mind better. It's a part of getting to know each other, if you ask me. (Of course, make sure, that these kind of topics are welcome before sharing ;)) So yeah, please DON'T QUIT sharing this kind of stuff! -INFP

[@13vatra]

I was thinking the same thing! I love people's weird messed up takes on how reality works. I'm often guilty of deep diving on it so far that I actually exhaust their interest on the subject. - an INTJ

[@kellikakes81]

Yeah, INTJ (sometimes ENTJ but it depends on their mood), are a type that LOVES to go there with us. I love it!

[@cgecbea]

This is why I love INTJs! 🥰 You guys understand that our dark thoughts aren't completely random. Thanks for taking us seriously when needed, and please stay as you are!

[@potatowarrior747]

I originally was gonna keep this dark joke my mind conjured, to myself BUT I mentioned it's dark and asked my group of ppl for their permission to say it. It was that a poor person quite disheveled was asking for money then, with a hand outstretched and i thought it'd be funny to shake their hand. Thought. Yes, my friends laughed awkwardly, they couldn't digest it. Only one could laugh.

[@sundaypie2088]

My husband is an INTP and at age 32 he got this job interview. To the question "tells us about yourself" he proudly answered: well, my interest in Biology started at the age of 5. I still remember my long walks in the forest near my house where I could observe leaves and insects... When he told me this I knew he wouldn't get the job. The job was absolutely not related to Biology but he felt he couldn't answer this question without going 27 years back. He didn't get the job. Obviously. 10 years later it became a joke between us. Whenever there's the prospect of a job interview I tell him "make sure you talk about your childhood."

[@Multitudes_]

lol I've seen INTPs do this so many times and I love it. Go ahead, chronicle the history of your intellectual development :D

[@louisejoel]

@@Multitudes_ What type are you please? I feel this strange acceptance vibe

[@Multitudes_]

@@louisejoel INFP :)

[@louisejoel]

@@Multitudes_ yes, we're not so different

[@doke6057]

What does he do now ? Is he in cs/it ?

[@RM-ti8nf]

My INFP daughter tells the best stories with perfect imitations. There is never malice, she just recognizes all of our quirks, including her own. I love her generous non judgemental view of things.

[@carolinemeyer2062]

INFP here, people always tell me they like the way that I describe things, because they would never have noticed those details, but they’re accurate

[@robertjhoney9117]

@@carolinemeyer2062 Absolutely

[@yhalou4526]

This made me cry lol😅. Im so afraid of expressing myself bec i think im weird🥺. -infp

[@RM-ti8nf]

@@yhalou4526 haha be your gorgeous self. You'll be surprised, because people love authentic people!

[@whosminou]

@@carolinemeyer2062 same, as an INFP

[@aressanatapia2072]

Time stamps so you can just skip to yours :) 0:41 esfp 1:17 estp 2:01 esfj 2:54 enfj 4:23 istj 5:28 isfj 6:45 entj 8:07 estj 9:14 entp 10:36 enfp 11:57 istp 12:49 intp 13:54 isfp 15:14 infp 16:33 intj 18:11 infj

[@ameredelusion]

Why thank you :) Have a nice one, and thanks again for taking your time to make this.

[@YDuskyCricket]

Quick question: which Personality type are you pls? I find those who do these time stamps incredibly helpful. This ENFJ appreciates you!

[@RayPeng-07]

Love you for it thanks! IT ALWAYS HELP SO MUCH!

[@bodine219]

Instructions for INFP: You got comfortable enough to tell a story? You're being weird. INFP: Never talks again.

[@Limette454]

😂

[@helenwood8482]

Good to have it in a KZbin vid. It took me six years of being beaten up every day to realise that invisibility and silence are the only ways to survive.

[@erikadavis21]

@@helenwood8482 not in my case... I keep to myself and I'm still the target of many attacks because of it

[@helenwood8482]

@@erikadavis21 So am I, but less so when I avoid saying anything. We'll never be completely safe in a world full of EJ types who hate us.

[@olive4naito]

I know this isn't tarot, but I hear the best Tarot readers say "Take what resonates. Leave the rest." He seems to be describing an extrovert anyway.

[@MelodicQuest]

As an INFP, I've learned to filter the part of myself that sees people as caricatures. A person may have a high voice or a funny laugh, but I would never try to imitate it for fear of someone thinking that I'm trying to be mean.

[@Naomi-zv6ur]

I have a huge problem with thatttt One time I was on a bus with two of my friends and an old man got in. He was somewhat peculiar. He reminded me if an adventurer from Peru, with a big hat and a beard. I know, it's hella stereotypical 😂. Well I badly wanted to laugh and I did so, while looking indirectly to him. He got angry and shouted at me some bad things.... I felt bad cuz I didn't mean to insult him, but it felt so natural to me to laugh at the time 😅 (I was 12 and I know I was quite old to do that). Anyways, sorry to bother you! Have a niceee day

[@melon1590]

I think It has something to do with the fact that we're bad at explaining. I'm trying to make the other person understand what I'm thinking. It just ends up falling through T^T I also try not to imitate but I end up doing it sometimes and I feel bad because it comes off as mocking which wasn't my intention

[@Multitudes_]

Yeah, I think I did that sort of thing a lot more in, like, middle school than as an adult...

[@Fleetfulfoxing]

My mom does it, but she’d never admit it. I think I don’t really do it as much as she does, but I go between INTP and INFP. And both of those he alluded to them acting like they’re the center of the world. Greaaaattt.. lol

[@Hime.Gusano]

Yeah it's really hard to control that, at least I find it very difficult. At times I think I do it to lighten the mood, maybe just to myself, specially if its a story that was upsetting to me. Though it can also be due to my imagination mixed with a lot of movies and cartoons which I pop up in my head in real life situations, and that, maybe, helps me understand the world around me better ... Or both 😵‍💫 in any case, yeah, I'm not doing it to mock or insult anyone u.u

[@dpinchock]

I (ENFP) am married to an ISTP. You were so spot on about us both. This morning, I was showing our neighbor the awesome porch swing my hubby put up for me, and as everyone was cooing over the awesomeness of the finished product, Mr. ISTP started explaining in excruciating detail about the bushings he used to keep the chains from creating friction against the hooks... The sun rose and set and rose again... Birds migrated... We all aged about 20 years... I kept stabbing him with my eyeballs, yet he rambled on unfazed... Such is life with my beloved ISTP.

[@ΓεωργίαΧριστογιαννοπούλου]

Same here, with me ( infj) and my istp sister!

[@jingleroses]

Hahahhahaha

[@ViolaVioletVia]

wow I like Enfp Istp relationship.. adorable..

[@_shad3_71]

I'm the istp there XD

[@charisseadara]

Quick question. I am an ENFP married to ISTJ and it is quite interesting to see how we work through our differences. How does it work out with you being married to an ISTP? How do you work out your differences and find balance?

[@sanecatlady]

It's really interesting how you mentioned INFJs get the same satisfaction just by telling someone their ideas. I definitely relate to this as a writer because I have so many brainstorms and outlines but I can never find myself motivated enough to actually write the story. Coming up with these ideas is so exciting and fun, but give it a day or 2 and I'll lose all motivation to work on the project lol

[@terri2494]

Oh my gosh! I was thinking the same thing! I have so many worlds in my mind that I can visit it’s hard to deal with the real one. Getting chronic fatigue syndrome, with its attendant brain fog, when I was in my late twenties didn’t help. So here I am, sixty years old (still doesn’t seem possible) and I still am trying to make myself actually work towards my dream of being a successful writer. I would say that I mean just being able to make a modest income from a blog or at least finish one of the books I want to write and recoup the cost of self publishing, but in reality I want to be a bestselling author. That’s how it looks in my mind. I think part of my problem is that I overthink things. I have a few projects I want to do that were supposed to be simple descriptions of insights I had that I wanted to share with friends from my Bible study. But I want to do things right so I had to look up some info and that led to more things to look up and it all became an unwieldy mess of ideas that would be hard to explain to others. Then all the projects felt overwhelming, and if I can’t do them right so they find a sufficient audience, what’s the point of going through the trouble to tell myself something I already know? On a side note, I’m sort of an inadvertent cat lady myself. A few years back we agreed to feed our neighbors’ outdoor cats when they were moving and couldn’t afford the deposits for all their pets. The cats were fixed so it was no problem for two or three years. Then more cats made themselves at home here and started having kittens and took over the garage, which has a dog door to the backyard. They don’t let us touch them so we can’t get them fixed or find the kittens new homes. But kittens are just about the cutest things in the world. This is what people did before they had television.

[@justacat869]

As a fellow writer I relate to this but I often lose motivation because I'm too analytical and I obsess over plot holes and out of character moments to the point I have no idea how to continue because I'm stuck in an endless rewriting phase.

[@valerielinares2068]

Side note: I love your screen name cause I love kitties!

[@missiviee5933]

Same. I have this complete list of the books I'm really certain to write but after a day or two, I'd lose motivation and be like, "F*ck it."

[@sarahhamdan5470]

I am an ENFJ and I relate... I read abt this in the book Ego is The Enemy and it talked abt how we get the validation when we share an idea and then we don't execute it, and I realized how much I've done that in my life... I am an open book and I am not saying that I am now this secretive person, but try to at least get to working on smt and commit to it before I tell everyone abt it, and of course that also depends on how close those people are to you, like telling ur mother abt an idea is different from bringing it up in front of ur entire class, but ye lol it is interesting and I think any type could probably relate to this, but I can see how it's more prevalent for people with strong Ni

[@KingDeadMan]

As an INTP, I wholeheartedly agree. I realized this about myself a long time ago, but I feel like I can't do anything about it. I consciously put others before myself to go against this sort of bragging tendency, however, I get this icky feeling when I've not said anything to also relate to other's stories. I'm not trying to take your spotlight, I just want you to feel like you can say anything and not be judged, because I also want that for myself. 😭👍

[@anish8194]

Oh my god you literally read my mind. It's a form of validation for the other person but damn dint know it came across this way!

[@metalimangal1603]

Same here as well 🥲

[@stefanatarlea9230]

relatable

[@Rita_Arya]

Exactly, when people tell me their stories, i like to relay my own little stories to make them feel validated, but i do take away their spotlight sometimes which was totally not my intention! 😭

[@silverxpanda5852]

Lol my friend's an INTP and I know he's trying to be there to listen and relate to reassure me, but his stories are so out of context that sometimes I can't help but question their intention. But, I'm learning they don't mean anything bad, and I think that's nice of you to try to relate and not want the other person to feel judged.

[@trinaq]

After disclosing all of their personal issues to the INFJ: "So, let's hear about you next." INFJ: "No thanks, that's too personal for me."

[@grazynawolska8160]

Haha so true! 😆 - intj

[@quickgirl80]

😂😂😂🎯

[@hannahwatson265]

As an INFJ, I completely agree with needing to keep your goals and dreams to yourself. Even if it is something as simple as losing weight or being more active. I find myself reading into the person's reaction, tone, facial expression and if there is the slightest bit of doubt in any of those reactions from them, I find myself already giving up on that dream/goal. I have had other big dreams and plans that I have expressed to others and Frank is right, their validation makes you feel as accomplished as if you have already achieved said dreams or goals. So many complex emotions and feelings that you unnecessarily inflict on yourself rather than just keeping said plans to yourself. But he is also right when he said that if you really need to talk to someone about it, you should! Sometimes we get in our heads too much and need someone to talk to to help us through things! Another great video!

[@ngndnd]

i feel this exact same way. Sometimes i also feel like if i tell them and fail then it would be so upsetting. I’d rather succeed in private and surprise everyone

[@hannahwatson265]

@@ngndnd Oh my goodness, yes!! I took a course to get certified in the job I have now and I told like a handful of people in case I wasn't able to pass it! Then everyone was shell shocked - especially my old job when I turned in my notice, haha!

[@TheKarateKidd]

Very well said!! As an INFJ I've also noticed this happen with things like movies, shows, and music. If I like a song and someone else trashes it, I subconsciously start to like it less.

[@hannahwatson265]

@@TheKarateKidd Oh my goodness, yesss!! My husband loves to pick on me, so sometimes he will say something that I like isn't cool or catchy, just make it seem lame, and it's not that he really thinks it's lame, he just knows that it gets to me...but unintentionally on his part, I actually start disliking that song, movie, and even food sometimes, lol. I keep having to remind him that it makes me not like the things I once liked! Lol

[@emily812]

yes, I find that it's very difficult to share dreams with others, or anything personal really, and so it is great to practice this too

[@GiadTheShyCat]

As an INFP I related more to the ISFP, because I don't usually talk about other people and I try to understand their actions and point of view; however I tend to talk way too much about myself and the things I love whenever I have the chance lol.

[@warriorcatkitty]

Same, tbh tho I'm not exactly sure I completely understood what Frank was saying lol-

[@Multitudes_]

@@warriorcatkitty Yeah, it doesn't feel all that relatable, though I can see where it might be coming from, in that INFPs can sometimes feel like aliens in the world and therefore sometimes might see/portray others as alien. And also the tendency that some of us have towards acting.

[@belac4979]

Same

[@lilysherbet]

Same

[@Lizzo13]

I agree with you 100%. I didn't relate at all to what Frank said about INFPs, but the ISFP description sounds a lot more like me.

[@benlechner6352]

As an INTP that is so true, especially online. A lot of times when I want to tell something, in order for it to make sense I need to go back 2,3 years before and sometimes even my whole life. I want to tell them less but then they can misunderstand me

[@quackityj4587]

YEAHHHH SAME DUDE

[@TOKYODEATHLINE_8602_369]

relatable

[@sinceresir6950]

SAME

[@ls_waifu2789]

SAME!!

[@ILikeMyOwnComments26]

To be fair our tendency to overexplain usually stems from a fear of not being understood, because let's be honest, when we don't overexplain, most people tend to have no idea why we say/do certain things, if I'm making sense

[@gisa.amorim]

I feel that INFJ part hits really close to home.. I already realized that talking about things I wanted to do with other people drained a bit of my energy of doing it.. just because I feel that I already get the validation... FJ, I know you are in a different lifetime, but I think that some people would love to hear some of your spiritual thoughts... Specially now that you are in a more healthy mental structure. Pandemic hits really hard to many people and perhaps your unique way of thinking should help somebody to get out of painful processes. I don't know, but I think you could do it without looks like pure self help without quality

[@queencess93]

I’m Muslim and we consider that evil eye, where people may be envious/jealous of you and it stops your blessings. We have certain prayers to protect ourselves from it

[@suhailaridzuan2588]

The “Some” is rare germ only found 2 person in my life time (in 39yrs).. both not that closed enough to me.. so i just keep it to myself .. 😂😂😂

[@ElinaBenado]

As an ENFP, I can confirm that we can swing from being wacky jokers to dark philosophers disturbingly quick. For example, one time I decided to write a whole freakin' essay about the benevolent and evil capabilities of mankind and the urgency we should feel to preserve our humanity while jamming to some dramatic operatic music just because I could. Oh, and I did this while "doing school" AKA procrastinating. Oh, and if you're a fellow ENFP reading this, congrats on making it to the end. I know that long comments are difficult for us sometimes. Keep being loveably weird! Lots of love, An ENFP 🥰🤡❤

[@cytrynkacytrynka8366]

+111

[@kamelia-antoniamorong6635]

Thanks for the congratulations! However, jokes on you, i jumped over the middle and read the end and nobody can stop me

[@ros.an.]

that essay with the operatic music sounds exactly like smth i'd do, i love that youtube rabbit hole of orchestral/classical/dramatic playlists with hyper specific titles, especially if 'philosopher' is somewhere in it

[@peridunn9245]

The congratulations lolllll SO true

[@Matcha.cookie]

enfp here. I only read the first and 2 last sentence hihihiihi

[@nightmarefury9308]

That INTJ one is so accurate. I am preoccupied in my own thoughts so passing time isn't a difficult task for me. Infact it's the lack of time that is. I understand the struggle with giving some examples. I really do wish I had done more things but trying something new without sponging out the entire info about it and knowing all the fundamentals, I think it is a fear rooted deep inside to venture out into the unknown. It sometimes really affects other aspects of my life. Hence I came to realise this fear.

[@MigGa-yu5xv]

Same here. I sometimes have conversations with people who go on and on about pop culture, which I have little interest in nowadays. The Kardashians, Cardi B, Post Malone, etc., I couldn't care less.

[@fovarberma752]

@@MigGa-yu5xv INTP, those things are a form of torture for us as well. It's not just that negative fun I get on the spot, but now I got that much time less for me to enjoy life, plus the fact that THAT free time needed sleep, food and thus work to allow for it. You take an hour off of my life, but an hour of work and an hour of sleep went to support it at least. Let me waste my own damned time.

[@thomashammerheart3915]

I am infamous for not seeing movies/television that everyone else has seen.

[@Chrome166]

Same, I eventually had to realize that it kills conversations before they start and just leads to awkward silences. Although I do get a little kick with my Gen X friends out of being oblivious to every famous song that came out before I was born.

[@aimee5259]

So much this. I'm also an INTJ who's not on Facebook or Twitter. Also female, which seems to really confuse people as my personality & interests aren't feminine.

[@mysteriousmask8847]

You know as a Intj, Your not wrong. Though I don't really feel insecure about it I just really haven't heard or done it before. Like for example: I've never been to a party before when I was a teenager. But that didn't bother me.

[@herbanAlaska]

Fellow INTJ. Same. Homeschooled too, so even more excuse for the weird. I also did not often watch tv, and when I did it was documentaries, so everyone else in my age in talking about some weird cartoon they all watched growing up, while I'm just like "Ah, yes. My brothers watched those." "Well did you see when-" "I said my brothers watched those. I, on the other hand left the room when they came on." *Awkward silence.*.

[@arfelt1837]

​​@@herbanAlaskawell also an INTJ here, i also think cartoons were a stupid and corporate way to advertise their merchandise. But i still watched it anyway, but my concern is more like "what the meaning or what they try to imply with this scene" so yeah if the cartoon is slapstick or just plainly dumb I don't want to waste my time on it.

[@arfelt1837]

So about the thing is, general convo topics about sports or even something that viral right now. I'm completely clueless and they asked "how do you not know about that?" And i reply "is that important?" Which I am not meant to be rude consciously and only reply for the sake of that question. And again partially i think generally INTJ not thinking that not knowing something is an embarrassing thing, it's more embarrassing to stay not knowing or acting knowing something while clueless about it.

[@Ladybug2100]

Infj- I also realized that people will often say what works for them, or what they would do. I'm easily influenced by simplfying, but what suits others usually screws me over in my own plans. So, listening to myself and only sharing my achievements, not plans, really helped me.

[@june-uni]

Thanks for the tip fellow INFJ :)

[@ladytakarazuka]

Thank you for your words here ! We came to the same conclusion. Most people won't be able to help us because they won't be able to envision the plan from our perspective. They will see it through their own lens... I I got totally mistaken about my professional path for years because I lacked confidence in myself/my feelings/thoughts and listened too much what other people had to tell. Dear fellow INFJs, if you can avoid that (sometimes very costly) mistake, please do. For yourself and your own sake. It doesn't mean becoming deaf to what others can say, but don't value their judgment over yours.

[@ccpr15]

Yes 🙌🏻

[@seacrest73]

Omg saaaaaaaaaaaame. I didn't know other INFJs were like that too!

[@audreyhowler]

This ISTP keeps EVERYTHING to herself, by default. A lifetime of observation has led me to believe that speaking is an inefficient use of energy. Unless real listening is happening at the other end, that is.

[@mikesmith1181]

very few types listen. they usually are just waiting for their turn to talk.

[@grys9245]

That last sentence is absolute gold. Most of my friends are introverts, mbti-wise, and we do conversations well, everyone takes turns automatically and we all have a good time. When i finally got to know people who weren’t like that…well. I never thought that i (istp as well) would ever feel that i didn’t get to say what i wanted to. Was proven wrong lol.

[@Shadow-zf5uc]

May I ask what your interests are?

[@mikesmith1181]

@@Shadow-zf5uc who are you asking Shadow?

[@aaronburdon221]

Amen sister. It took me into my 20's the learn that lesson but I finally learned it. If they aren't gonna listen, i'm wasting my time, energy, and knowledge on something that could be used elsewhere.

[@kaylaisawesome9952]

I’m an INTJ but definitely got called out from that INFJ one as well (the dominant Ni/inferior Se called me out). I love to plan, plan, plan and live mostly in the abstract world that I just can’t seem to get the motivation to bring it to the sensory world and start enacting everything. I just love to share my ideas but don’t usually have the motivation to do anything

[@n.j.1894]

I have an INFJ friend, and she is the only one (besides myself) to call me out

[@kaydenbreak4283]

True af

[@anthonyl_2032]

As an INTJ too, it be like that. Even me sharing my ideas into the real world…people wonder what is my point or what I am doing

[@e.h.buchmann23]

I've never met a fellow INFP who didn't think of themselves as the alien. I, in fact, regularly ask my friends when the mother ship is coming to pick us up. 🤣 Also, dear ENFPs, please don't censor the "crazy train", just choose your audience wisely 😉

[@hayleynichols8578]

Fellow INFP here, add me to the mothership newsletter I've been waiting for it to return 🤣

[@ok4551]

Me too

[@aMereHooman]

I'm one of the rare ones that 'think of themselves as humans'

[@gandalf_thegrey]

Mothership? Pfff ... In just going to built a hut in the woods. I do not belong here, but nature is fcking awesome lol

[@rachelwalden8838]

Wow. I never thought about how when I share my grand ideas as an INFJ, then the person doesn’t share the excitement or approve of my goal, it totally takes the wind out of my sails and I don’t ever go for it. So many ideas and so few follow through because of this! Spot on advice man.

[@EMichaelBall]

“That’s never been done before.” “You could have said that about both Tesla the man and the company.”

[@KT-lt4fy]

I feel like someone who is an Ne user would get really excited and start throwing a million ideas at you… might exhaust and annoy you lol. I have a gathering addiction to people’s goals and dreams and love understanding the why’s.

[@angel_cat]

INFP: let's not tell people about other people's villain story. Let's write a book and change their names. 😅

[@Heli-draws]

And change the setting too.

[@wilmadutoit3002]

🤣

[@angel_cat]

@@Heli-draws absolutely. 😅

[@njish1109]

LMAO

[@honestync4608]

I’m game!!

[@marcydawn0_o]

man as an infp that was so true😭😭 like whenever im explaining stories abt other people on text i tend to put stuff in quotes instead of elaborating on what they said because writing specifically what another person said makes more sense to me and is more easier, and i hadn't realized that until now bwhahaha. same when im talking irl, i mock other people but i only mock them if they're someone i dont like, so like how i always vent to my friends about my brother i mock him with a deep and dumb sounding voice, or if its someone i actually like then i'll act them out playfully, lol.

[@MaxPower-kx4rp]

for me as INTJ it is not like i missed experiences. i watch and read about people that already have had those experiences and then i decide if its worth it or beneficial to me making my life better, easier, etc. some people say that you have to experience it your own in order to find that out but i say that is exactly the trap they fell for.

[@maryjane6990]

As an infp I totally agree with your words. I admit I tend to turn a person to a movie/novel character to make my story sound better. But I do it subconsciously, can't help myself ! Thank you Frank, I'll try to do better and not to make people into cartoons😅

[@roberthadley8783]

As an INFP, this is extremely accurate. I've felt horrible after conversations because later on I realized when I was talking about someone, I puffed up their faults/quirks way more than what I should have. I would end up regretting the conversations thinking to myself, "Man, they're actually not nearly as bad as what I made them out to be." The person I confided in probably thinks I'm a major gossiper when in reality I'm just expressing my feelings about how someone didn't measure up to be this perfect person I saw them as in my head. I also relate a lot to the INFJ, though. I'm definitely a validation seeker and will tell everyone all of my goals and plans for my life and then get sad/confused when people don't like the idea or "have a better idea." Then I start to question whether I should actually have these goals/plans because they didn't get the okay from everyone else. I've been trying hard to learn to: 1) Bite my tongue (not literally) when someone doesn't measure up to my standards and learn to accept/get to know them better and why they do the things they do. 2) Not tell everyone my ideas/goals/plans and just go for it. It's hard because I want the validation, but not having twenty different opinions on what THEY think I should do has been a lot more peaceful in my already jumbled up mind. *Edit* I can also relate some to the ISFP because I'll also tend to turn conversations onto myself and talk about myself.

[@deannascorner8112]

Omg! The call out of the INFP’s using different voices when sharing stories involving other people - my husband and my son have called me out on this before … I need to put that in check obviously

[@hope-.]

0:28 looks like Frank finally knows that people skip to their own type and don't watch the complete video so he came up with this trick. Lol

[@annaburns2865]

It’s not a trick. I’m an INFP but for a long time I thought I was an INFJ because of all the videos about it being the rarest type. Also, I like realism like ISFP. So we definitely can relate. Don’t really think I can relate to any of the personality types that start with an E but I watch the whole video anyway, because I know people who might have that personality type.

[@annaburns2865]

Honestly, I could relate to the ISFP thing the most. Is there way that I can find out what my personality type is?

[@ecliqse5993]

as an infj, i've been doing this like 'keeping lowkey' vibe bc i know in myself that i will have a hard time accomplishing my goals. and honestly i accomplish more whenever i dont share it to people lmao.

[@qlly]

as an infp, my solution to saying things nobody wants to hear is to just not talk 🤠

[@gisa.amorim]

Don't say that, INFP have a lot of interesting things inside... Just keep aware when people start to be uncomfortable...😉❤️

[@C0SM1CH0RR0R]

That is literally my exact method

[@Limette454]

Thats sad and I'm not sure if that's the right method. It's just avoiding conflict at any cost and that rarely solves anything. But ok on the other hand I get that you don't want to waste your breath in situations where your opinion probably won't be appreciated.

[@helenwood8482]

INFP here too. I'll talk if necessary to defend someone else or whatever, but if life has taught me anything, it's that I am very hard to like and very easy to hate, so I stay as quiet as possible and avoid interaction whenever I can. Only other INFPs understand me and a few other people. My few friends are precious, but I don't go looking for more.

[@helenwood8482]

@@gisa.amorim The moment we say anything other than "Hello." Which is why many of us don't

[@kerferschultz]

INTJ examples of never bothering with Facebook or Twitter were perfect, At least for me. I do get momentarily embarrassed when I don't know a function, but not really, because it's a waste of time. I only feel awkward because I'm used to being an expert, and its weird to feel otherwise.

[@riagreen9294]

I felt this way when I had to ask one of my content creator friends how to make an Instagram reel and they were shocked that I had never made one before 😂

[@kdcadenza4170]

I have an intj friend and that is so true. I'm sometimes in shock at the basic stuff they don't know

[@13vatra]

For the INTJ one I usually don't really have a choice. Whether I want to share or not people tend to pull it out of me. What ends up happening is someone will mention something and want my opinion on it. Most people aren't satisfied with the answer of "oh I've actually never done that." Most give incredulous looks and try to figure out if I'm messing with them or not. Then when they do accept that I'm being honest they often turn that to pity. It's really annoying. For example back in highschool I got asked what my favorite energy drink was. "I've never had one" earned me a "oh you poor deprived child!" And she bought me a monster. Like, what? Why does it matter to other people so much if I've experienced things.

[@ankhmorporkgirl5317]

I get that same response from people as well when I say "I never tried it" or state "I'm not interested in doing it". It's irritating.

[@rubberman409]

I know exactly what you mean. It begins to wear on you after so many times.

[@ok4551]

I feel this

[@ok4551]

@@ankhmorporkgirl5317 That’s why I stopped telling my interests with my classmates. I only tell my friends now

[@Scarletcroft]

bleh just the sickly sweet smell of engergy drinks makes me gag.

[@Wonderbread91]

As an INFP even at a young age I learned to act my stories out like you said, but I always try to make the story funny or have some comical relief. That way people know not to take my stories so serious and hopefully realize I mean no ill intent.

[@dammyomisore1408]

As an ENFP, this is true. I literally think of theories and possibilities and say it to random people on a normal day at school 💀

[@missmaxinethompson7407]

I grew up to be a risk manager and now I get paid to help people think about all the possible ways things could go wrong in a project so they can put plans in place to prevent them from happening, and they can achieve their goals; have a look into it, you might love it! - ENFP

[@whitneyd6827]

ENFJ - I really thought I was going to get some lecture on keeping my advice to myself but frank really pulled the "no hun, believe in yourself!" card and it really threw me off Everything he said is 100% accurate Edit: love that we got Timmy's backstory for the ESTJs lol

[@saracachinhos]

same here!

[@mackeylin9387]

I needed this SO much. I’ve been stuck in that vicious cycle, and sensing that others may be tired of me coming back for support. I come to others, because I DOUBT I know how others truly feel. I just need to believe in myself!

[@bunny_0288]

As an INFP, I have completely stopped caring about what other people think about me lol. I mostly tell stories and jokes to amuse myself because I know most people don't share my sense of humor, but if I think something is funny then I'll say it regardless of whether or not the other person will find it funny. It's too exhausting to try to sensor myself for the benefit of other people. If people don't like me or how I tell stories, then they are free not to talk to me 😂. Luckily, my INTJ husband is amused by my weird jokes and sometimes morbid sense of humor. So that's good enough for me. I just have zero interest in being some inauthentic made up version of myself. It just feels wrong, and I tried and failed to do it for years in my teens and early twenties. So no more. I'm just me. Take it or leave it 😂

[@RendaJane]

Oh, isn’t it a relief to be there? I was so hyper miserable in Junior and High school. Corny jokes make me laugh really hard, and I love it!

[@bunny_0288]

@@RendaJane It really is! I honestly love being in my thirties! I'm just so over all that garbage that used to bother me and trying to be someone that I'm just not. It's so freeing to just be myself.

[@RendaJane]

@@bunny_0288 It keeps getting better. 40s and 50s are great. Except for arthritis, I am really digging my 60s too!

[@bunny_0288]

@@RendaJane That's great to hear!

[@person7896]

exactly, I just want stay truth to myself

[@olessia1790]

as an INFJ, i found that it is best for me to keep my head down and work behind the scenes, out of sight for things to come to fruition. you're 100% on point with our fragility to criticism to our extravagant ideas and us verbalizing things devaluing the ideas for ourselves :')

[@deannascorner8112]

Ahh the INFJ one is so accurate too! It’s why it’s really hard to talk about my plans or interests because once I talk about it with anyone and get that feedback it’s like - welp! On to the next interest/activity!

[@helenwood8482]

This was a very interesting one. I never regret watching your videos. I was right that INFP weirdness was the issue, but never thought about telling stories involving other people was a problem for us. You probably have a point. I don't think we see ourselves as the main character. I think that's what Fe types do. The problem with INFPs is that we feel as if we are outside the story, looking in. Consider us more of an omniscient narrator. People feel uncomfortable about that because we tend to notice the things they haven't consciously put out there. In general, I've come to the conclusion that life is a lot easier if we just don't say anything.

[@reynaldacontreras9165]

i really resonated with that. I do tend to talk about others than myself because I don't see myself as a main character in my own life. I however (playfully) reject your conclusion. I think we should learn to talk about ourselves just a little more than others. Maybe then we'll become the main character in our own lives :)

[@Ria-qu1vl]

@@reynaldacontreras9165 but when we talk abt ourselves little bit more i tend to see people around me feels bore and i always think that they are getting the wrong idea that I'm always talking great abt myself that's why I love to listen to others which helps me how they have a look at life ig it's really our problem tho😭🤣

[@hayleynichols8578]

Love this perspective! I think I fluctuate between the two viewpoints

[@larissabarros9793]

Reading those comments i noticed how much INFPs have a hard time overthinking and just accepting what other said to them as "wow x told me that it sucks i will never do it again, i don't want to be a bad person" or it goes like "oh so many people told me what to do you know what!? I won't do anything, no try no warm" Looks like we flee from any harm we could get, and we stop to have fun or live our lives just because "someone told me so" No one even thinks "wow you know what? Whatever what this or those people said, this person is not the whole world and the words they said aren't godlike. This person can be wrong and we should have fun, they can do anything they want and we can't? Why? Because they told us to?? I feel like both of those people will end being trapped inside themselves, without the courage nor/or the patience to being judged.

[@aMereHooman]

ah, that makes sense.

[@melodyforsoul8240]

You are absolutely right. whenever I discuss anything about my goals with someone else I start loosing motivation. And start doubt myself a lot . Right now I was thinking why and from where this doubt is crippling inside. Thanks for your video.

[@animatorireenie8319]

(First of all checking your own type) The INTJ thing is certainly accurate to me. For a while I had been using the lockdown as an excuse, but after everyone went back to... living life (and me having to converse with them again), I realized how far away I'm from quite a lot of stuff. Sometimes it can get a bit weird, but I do find my interests engaging, hence I end up not trying other, seemingly common, things. At this point it doesn't even really bother me.

[@sawahtb]

I'm an INTJ, and I tried those social media things, and mostly got kicked off for being too blunt. I can't do Facebook because... I don't care about stupid stuff. I tried Book Clubs. Nope. Sadly, my honestly is not appreciated so I tend to shut up. Yes, I have some social relationships but few and those people do understand me.

[@ShwetaSingh-co4gv]

I admire u guys so much honestly u people are great achievers...I really need tips on how to become an intj from an infj

[@Jooney91]

@@sawahtb I have very similar experience and thoughts. The older I am, the less I actually care about what others think anyway. I don't want to miss out in life what I find interesting. Since I quit facebook I have more time for reading. I don't know what's going on in the world but who cares? I found so many great fictional stories instead 🙂

[@anniefarrell9907]

Yeah, I dont mind the missing out. I suffer from anxiety so less the better. The Twitters/FB etc etc...not for me. And I am better for it

[@mothergoose3582]

Dude same, We went back to in person school and there was an entire base of memes and references that I just completely missed. I caught up eventually but i don’t understand how I could have been so disconnected, it’s kind of impressive actually, I how completely missed like 2 years of teenage existence.

[@cyrilmaelstrom41]

INFJ here, and I actually REALLY relate to what you said about the "validation which cut off the motivation". I hadn't completely realised it yet... It will be helpful ! Thank you !

[@lisamueller7318]

INFP here. So insightful

[@micke7]

I Know Right???

[@skippyjonjones23]

Meh, I don’t know why it would bother people for someone to use funny voices and sound effects to make a story more interesting. Seems like they gave a stick up their butt. Life sucks so ya gotta spice it up somehow and what better way to do that then to tell an epic story.

[@skyIiaan]

THE INTJ ONE HAHAHAHA never been too accurate. thank you for the advice! i suddenly remembered myself with my cousins and they were all talking about their boyfriends, enemies at school, friends that became their rivals, and stuff and when it’s my turn i’m like “oh, yeah so i studied for the whole year” and never tells stories abt the one like them bc i never had been in those situations. my life is just as straight as how i planned it 🥲 so yeah, i really think i missed many things in life.

[@Rita_Arya]

As an Intp, i felt kinda bad for the istp one. Like i somewhat relate to it, i have my own passionate thingys and mini projects and i want everyone around me to be interested in but when they don't, i just feel sad and rejected. I also somewhat relate to intj, like I'm not planning my life (duh!🙄) but just busy in my own weird world that i miss big events, and then I'm like, "yeah I didn't do/know it, and I don't care". One of the biggest examples is not having seen the most historically important places and other famous places in my own city! Oh and ofc, i totally relate to the intp one! I totally want people to know about the stories of my life but when i realise it that people are NOT INTERESTED, i just avoid talking about myself altogether 🤷

[@_shad3_71]

I agree so much! I'm an ISTP and my closest friend is like an INFP of sorts and I like talking about things I'm passionate about. Things that interest me. But most of those things, my friend finds boring and confusing. I like to think WHY while she doesn't like to dig deep. So in my friend group I give advice; ironically enough, and no one wants to hear what I have to say about myself. So I just keep quiet about it cause no one cares.

[@Rita_Arya]

@@_shad3_71 ooh same about the advice one! Though my best friend is Infp too and we share a lot of interests, so she does listen to my crazy talks sometimes 😂

[@_shad3_71]

@@Rita_Arya I'm trying to find out why people are hurting her or the cause of their actions while she just wants comfort...

[@freregregoire2685]

As INTP, I recognize this, sharing some stories that happened to me or some thing I read which to me are certainly connected to the topic at hand, but admittedly the connections are not always easy to notice... And I do recognize some of ISTP as well. But I have kind of recognized them already before, and have already learned to keep private about them...but then I will keep private about, well, everything, which is also a very problematic behaviour INTPs and ISTPs are prone to... (incidentally, I also have been wondering about someone I know if he's ESFJ, and the behaviour mentioned in the video is exactly what I have been finding him doing...)

[@MildlyPerturbed]

Great video! I had a suggestion for a video idea. You should do mbti types on a date with their opposite type! Such as… INFJ with ESTP, ENFP with ISTJ, etc.

[@Fieshs]

At first I was like "wait other INFJs have goals in life?" so I couldn't relate. But it's true that if I tell people even just small plans, I don't really feel like doing them anymore!

[@TurtleNinjaFan]

I’m an ISTP and this is extremely accurate, I also have a best friend who’s an INTP and she does the INTP one, this a very accurate video

[@somewildseal]

As an ENFP I can confirm that making things up and talking about whatever comes to my mind really does annoy people sometimes. When I went up to them and told them that TikTok was owned by the Chinese government to plan a world overtake I didn't get very positive reactions Turns out that 3 months later half of my theory was actually proven right, but that's beside the point :))

[@erikavaleries]

ALWAYS

[@erikavaleries]

Are you ADHD too and a systems thinker or pattern recognizer?

[@MiizuFr]

Hahaha GG brother! ENFPs will rule the world !! 😂🎉🎉

[@fikretdemir4818]

Stop recognizing patterns, that's racist/bigoted/...phobic etc.

[@MiizuFr]

@Tsuki - Chan and we're glad you're existing, THANK YOU

[@affinity266]

The best phrase I learned from Brian Tracy is " I am responsible". Maturity is a good thing, pointing the finger and blaming won't change a thing, and we all make mistakes, it's just a waste of time and energy that could have been used to find a solution and solve the problem. Easy to say than to do when you are in the heart of the crisis, but you get there when you keep training your lovely neural pathways on making a different response " I am responsible". ENTJ

[@louisejoel]

this is so good (intp trying to be more like entj)

[@SickAcousticCovers]

My INFJ friend used to tell everyone about his grand vision and the problem he noticed was that everyone thought he was looking down on them because his future vision was so grandiose that it made everyone else feel bad about their less ambitious goals.

[@windingstars]

This has been my experience rather than not following through. It's become a point of contention with all my friends to various extents and the worst part is that I feel as though I haven't done much and my goals aren't even that ambitious or grand. Rather isolating overall.

[@SickAcousticCovers]

@@windingstars Yeah, I always knew my friend was never intending on making people feel bad. He was just very intent on his plans so he thought about them all the time and therefore also talked about them a lot. But I quess I was one of the few that "got it". I'm an ENFJ, so I guess that makes sense. I'm sorry you're having troubles with your friends. Just stay true to yourself and keep the plan going wherever you want to take it.

[@windingstars]

@@SickAcousticCovers 🥲 Your INFJ is lucky to have you. I hope I find an ENFJ of my own one day.

[@hosanna3803]

Intj- I agree there are things I haven't done that people are shocked by and when I tell them, I am shocked by their response because I honestly don't think I missed out on anything. So, to me, it seems like the people's reaction to us not doing what is considered a normal thing has kept me from telling people very much. They have told me how I am sad that I missed out on it or whatever, and, no, I'm really not. So the prideful thing about it being something we're proud of not partaking in is kind of true too.

[@JuSophieRene]

As an ENFP I freaking love when INFP is acting out another person, it’s so much fun

[@Vapourwear]

Lifting the INTP veil on this, (at least from my own experience 🤣)this usually comes from one of the following places: 1. A show of understanding and, somewhat, solidarity: it’s a way of trying to show someone, empirically, that you have some understanding of what they’re going through, and can relate, and may be able to help. 2. A desire for intellectual honesty: Often, the only frame of reference we would have for a particular topic is our own experience; especially when trying to communicate to someone that you’ve already made the mistake you see them about to make. 3. A misguided attempt at avoiding gossip: reach for the low-hanging fruit and talk about people, not ideas, and we probably want to keep the subject to public figures or ourselves. 4. We honestly think it’s just a good/cool/funny story that we happen to be at the center of (we are all at the center of our own perception, are we not?). 5. Rarely: Thinking “screw it, I’m going to brag a little bit.” Not our best Fe moments. In almost any event, I found that it’s helpful after making oneself the topic of conversation (especially after referring to oneself as one) to bounce it back to the other person with something like “but what do you think”.

[@Nicronomicon_The]

#1 is 100% on point ~ INTP

[@Vapourwear]

@@Nicronomicon_The They are in my order of frequency, and the relationship is...geometric.

[@eclipse10664]

yes this is accurate

[@FutureNihilist]

I think you hit the nail on the head when you mentioned empiricism. INTP are obsessed with finding the Truth in objective reality but we are also keenly aware that subjective belief in things "untrue" is necessary for a person's sanity. I am constantly being pulled between the opposing views of empiricism and rationalism and find myself sometimes being accused of flip flopping on my principles. But what do you think?

[@Vapourwear]

@@FutureNihilist absolutely. I still remember being driven nuts in elementary school by them telling me o couldn’t subtract 7 from 6, or the arguments in high school with the music theory kids insisting there is no such thing as Cb. I eventually realized their misconceptions were necessary for them to maintain some semblance of a working worldview, even if in both cases they were desperately “wrong.”

[@Goofycontrast]

As a INTP, I can proudly tell you this man is spitting facts.

[@louisejoel]

yes, sadly this has confirmed to me that I am possibly an INTP (I'm not going to vomit further words that are not of interest to others)

[@ls_waifu2789]

@@louisejoel Lol From now on I'm gonna get a little obsessed with this Do Nots haha

[@nina3538]

@@louisejoel Buuuuuuut like… we too listen to a lot of uninteresting shit from others.. sometimes… often. I wouldn’t dwell on censoring myself too much lol

[@johannesaskehov]

Your point on us INTJs was oddly accurate. There are indeed a lot of common activities, experiences and such that I've never engaged with as a consequence of being so focused on my specific interests and vision.

[@mirandapoh9198]

yes, but at the end of the day I suppose it isn't say an outright good or bad thing that we're like that, honestly I feel this kind of behavior helps me a lot to complete goals, but sometimes when I look back I do realize I may have missed many things. And honestly what's even more accurate is that fact that I'll be like, "whatever, I don't need that" to whatever I've missed out on. AKA one of my joys in life is being absolutely clueless about social media and social media trends. It's really interesting insight and I'm glad I decided to take the 16 personalities test

[@johannesaskehov]

@@mirandapoh9198 I agree (which is why I don't necessarily agree with his conclusion of suggesting we ought to keep it private).

[@mirandapoh9198]

@@johannesaskehov That's an interesting point, I'm not sure if it's architect behavior or just me but is there a point in a social interaction if you kind of try to fit in with the rest of the crowd and hide these things? I mean I guess don't keep on focusing on this one thread and don't make people feel too awkward, but if you keep masking your insecurities and this part of your personality you aren't really letting the other person get to know you that well?

[@koi4446]

As an ISFP, this is scarily accurate. Minus the sharing everywhere and someone have a bad taste part, I just share it to my best friend and spam random things they don't know about everyday :)

[@Idellphany]

I do this to my partner all day. >.< I also share stuff on FB for myself to find again after I forgot I liked it. :)

[@killuazoldyck_ii]

omg i didn’t expect the INTP one to be SO spot on 💀 it’s actually something i’m trying to work on now

[@detectiveemilio3416]

Im an INTJ who’s 14 and my INFJ dad recently scolded me for not knowing how to tie a knot. This is pretty accurate lmao

[@mothergoose3582]

Painfully accurate. I’m 15 and also an intj, my mother is an intp and I swear anytime I share any sort of opinion with her she argues with me about how it’s wrong.

[@snap.-_-]

I'm an INFJ and I relate to that too. I just realized that I don't know how to tie a knot.

[@adelina-805]

lmfao I still struggle with my Left from Right

[@blep_mep9307]

This is most likely the same reason as to why I am always last to hear about news or event at my school...

[@wisteria1739]

@@adelina-805 exactly my INTP sister😂😂

[@irene404]

I like how FJ explains to each type using the mindset of that type, so it makes each type feel more comfortable and convincing when listening their part.

[@MelanieHooks]

Yes! I feel like this is a huge FJ superpower 😎

[@oliverheatly6461]

I am an ENTJ and I have NEVER felt so absolutely called out. Both the ENFJ and ENTJ segments really made me question and face things that I halfway knew about myself but didn't really fully realize. I knew that I tended to try to find every cause of failures, oftentimes trying to avoid blame for myself, and I've tried to stop doing that, but this video really made me stop and *think* about it. Plus, I really felt the INTJ segment. I've been homeschooled for most of my life so there are so many *really basic* things that I have no idea about. Wow FJ, I think this is one of the best videos you've made!

[@Anu-jh1ue]

I have Also Seen That, How we used to say that INTJ Are Usually Robots Despite Tert Fi, In that way also We ENTJs Also Can Be deprived of Se, But We Could Have More Experiences Compared To INTJ And INTJs Could Have More EQ than us. Respected Bothwise

[@Katewir]

As an entj idk but if we don’t do that. We would be the only one who always take the blame when it is a teamwork not even solo.

[@kimberlyhumphrey4408]

The #1 thing I've learned that I SHOULD NOT tell people, and it took me so long to learn even with years of examples: Telling the truth, or 'my' truth, to someone new in my life when we are both trying to establish a connection with each other. Example, just this morning, dating this new guy, we had a really deep conversation last night. This morning I avoided texting him back, because too deep too quick is weird for me. I shouldn't have told him 'I just needed a little space to process everything, I know I'm a little weird, but when things speed up too fast I need to slow them down some to continue feeling comfortable." I should have said, "oh I'm sorry, I just ended up sleeping in pretty late today because we were up so late last night"😂 People almost always misinterpret my honesty as having an ulterior motive, think there is something wrong with them, or start thinking I'm weird. People NEVER believe me until they REALLY know me. I don't get it lol

[@lale4699]

the way you said that infjs' sometimes lose motivation when they already get the validation they were yearning for is so true. as an infj writer and reader, i like to tell people my ideas and the path i would like my story to walk on, and hearing them agree and say that my idea is good, makes me feel things. then, things would change drastically. like, i'm so excited yesterday, but all of those already died down days later. the first point was also true, that sometimes, infjs' are really scared of rejection, and doubting ourselves are so usual that we're scared to tell other people our plans for the future, because, what if we fail? what if something would not work out? what if that path is not really for us? inferiority sometimes really stood dominant, and that makes our lives harder.

[@heavenity8171]

as an istp this is very accurate. i like to share what ive been obsessed with or working on atm, but after a few discussions about it i guess its not interesting to everyone. so i just end up keeping it to myself

[@callmesummon]

Yeah I’ve milked a lot of stories dry so I hardly tell any anymore bc no one’s interested lol

[@loba49]

ENFP here and my wild and crazy theories have been pretty spot on in the last few years, much to the chagrin of many who told me I was crazy or way off … Just sayin’. Some of our stuff might be way out there, but Ne is also about connecting dots- dots that actually exist and which are seemingly isolated… but aren’t actually isolated at all… That being said- as any true ENFP has learned- it’s not always advisable to share that kind of stuff until you’re in the right setting with the right people.

[@louisejoel]

That time is now... INTP 🕛

[@danika9411]

@@louisejoel Ok, so this is a bit stupid maybe, but I read up on trauma ect a lot. There is a way of dealing with emotional pain body and how to regulate it ( basically you draw on a very warm memory and use that to imagine yourself as light. Then you sit with your pain. The brain can't hold a single emotion for too long and it starts to fade in less than 30 seconds. That's it in veeeeery short ) Now I was thinking about how similar it sounds to the feeling of love ( not being in love ). We are almost all born with the ability to love. So in that case we are saved from pain by love. But not by others but by ourselfs, our own love. Now I thought religion is really just a very fancy way/ possibility of dealing with trauma that people came up with. It basically teaches things that are also taught f.e. in traumatherapy like trauma integration by giving it meaning and a place in your biography ( God has a plan, it all makes sense in the end ). Learning to feel our own ability to love ( God loves you unconditionally ). Praying and be thankful ( writing down 3 things you're grateful for and 3 things you got done ) and so on. Religion is just a very ancient way of psychotherapy!!! I wonder if an INFJ came up with it 🤔 and what that person would feel knowing how many died from it.

[@valerielinares2068]

As an INFJ I absolutely relate to the idea of telling someone my hopes and dreams, then feeling satisfied as though I accomplished the task, so I lose the motivation to actually do it. That's why, when I actually want to do something in real life, I don't talk about it. I'm more likely to accomplish a task if I don't talk about it. Also, I absolutely relate to the extroverted sensing as an infiror function. I often forget to eat, or generally take care of myself. I suck at taking care of myself. Practical life is hard for an INFJ, or, at least for _this_ INFJ

[@soldierofgod4210]

Yeah, as an ISTP, I've definitely found that if I really like something I'll try to tell people all about it but they seem to change the subject because I'm rambling on about it, they have said the stuff I like is boring, so I just shut up and let them talk about their favorite things instead.

[@ellencoleman4604]

As an INTJ, I'd disagree (surprise) in a situation where people get annoyed or confused by someone else for not knowing something. I find it's very effective to go 'oh that's actually not something I do / know about either', and watch them reconsider their opinion in real-time. Obviously it helps if they like / respect you first though. Also though in the right circumstances I find it's a good way to get a more interesting conversation going, if instead of just saying 'I don't know about that thing.' you ask them about their opinion of it (reduced small talk, you can get info to add to your databank and they get to feel like an interesting expert 😘)

[@er6730]

I think it's more that he's saying to avoid being that person who shoves a stick into the spokes of the conversation by saying "I never heard of that". Like, everyone is talking about the Xman movies, and one person says "what's that? Never heard of it and I don't care to." And then the others don't know what to do. Are they offending this person by continuing the conversation? Should they explain so that this person can participate? Is this person judging them for caring about frivolous things?

[@suzihoude]

Yeah, i got the same vibe as @ER -- that he's not really referring to modesty in not knowing about a subject so much as that weirdness that comes when you openly reveal that you've never played tag as a kid, owned a radio, cleaned a toilet, [insert random thing that every normal human has experienced].

[@TheNitr01]

Pretty insightful things you mentioned for INTJ. At university I was too focused on my studies and whilst I went to a handful of societies like the uni concert band, I never took much time to socialise with the people there because I thought it was a waste of time. The covid lockdown definitely made me reconsider how important it can be to build some kind of connection that isn't career-related with other people. As a 24-year old PhD student I'm still at uni but now I take every opportunity I get to go to social events like spending time with the band at the bar after rehearsals, even if I'm not really talking much and am just there listening. I'm still an INTJ at heart but I do feel like I'm slowly becoming more outgoing and living in the present more, and this year I've been making a lot of progress in things I didn't even think were possible to make progress in!

[@TheLovelymix]

What a great video, you dig all the characters right! As an INTJ I want to say that what you said is accurate for me, I would like to add that for me I skip doing somethings because I feel they will literally consume my overworked tired brain so I just skip doing it. I will just learn about it (like what it is exactly) then just shove it way. I actually related to INFJ & ENTP a bit also is that weird?

[@johnny_roots]

Brilliant! I'm ESFJ and yes, I've been doing this in my life and sometimes I ended up making my friends and family dislike someone that was hurting me at the time, and then later on I moved on and forgave the person and even went back to being friends, but for others close to me, that person was DEAD. I really learned to be more careful. And of course, what you mentioned about all EJ types needing validation, I've got to work on that lol

[@ceciliabaldi5636]

I (INFP) defenetely fall into the oversharer category, specifically when it comes to weird scenarios that I create in my mind - and that usually creep everyone out - or inappropriate jokes that I just can't keep to myself whenever I'm in a serious setting. There are also time in which I just start talking about feelings, past experiences and traumas until I realize that the conversation has become way too deep for me and the people I'm talking to. And that's why I live in regret🙂... And yes, I defenetely imitate other people's voices and expressions when I tell stories that involve them.😬😂

[@chiarabraun2636]

Fellow INFP here! I can relate to all of this 😂

[@YozoraYue]

No no, the problem with us INFPs are, when we talk about other people to our friends (which makes happens quite often), we tend to tell them about what the situation or the punctuations that the other person used made us feel. Like, the screenshot of the conversation might look completely normal to other people who doesn’t know that person or know what our relationship is, but at the time of the conversation, we tend to READ everything, like the time in which the person takes to reply, punctuations that they use, the reactions that they give back (ex: a simple “okay” is not okay, even an “okay!” is not okay, try use more words so I can understand your emotions better)… ahhhhhhhhhh so frustrating; Anyway, the point is, we should hold back on some of the “they are so mean to me” part when the screenshot of the conversation we send to our friends look kinda… normal (BUT IT IS NOT AT ALL NORMAL 😭😭😭) *sighs*

[@eval4495]

Yes, it's so frustrating explaining that to someone else. 😩

[@エルたま]

OMG THIS!!

[@infinity8982]

Ohh i can relate as well, when i write something long and i am expecting a long reply but they just reply with "oh" 😐 it hurts, also use of emoji is must for me, many people don't use emojis😭.

[@YozoraYue]

@@infinity8982 😭😭😭 Also when I sent them like seven messages and they reply with only one or two QAQ

[@infinity8982]

@@YozoraYue i can feel it😭, sometimes i just find something so interesting and knowledgeable so i share it with them and as i can't speak properly(i get stuck in between the sentences or i just keep forgetting what i should say) i have to type 4-5 long paragraphs but nobody reads it😭😭

[@mariatzolisdunbarDC]

Yikes! As an INFJ myself, everything you said pertaining to my personality type literally hits the nail on the head. I really do need to cease and desist on telling people on where I want to go in my life, and as well as letting them know of the projects that I have dabbled on. I really need to work on those. It's seems so easy to get carried away with those types of things, especially when trying to bedazzle them at that point in time. 😬

[@pinkbunnyskyedoesthings7762]

I may be an ENFP, but I relate to the ISFP thing because I often have a lot of enthusiasm for things I get into and want to share it with people, but often they won't be as interested as getting into my thing as I am getting into theirs so I can just feel disappointed.

[@ΓεωργίαΧριστογιαννοπούλου]

As Frank rightly put it, we may sometimes relate to what he said about our similar types. Definitely true for my infj self and intjs. I soooooo often have no idea about stuff everybody else seems to know ( tv shows, celebrities of the moment, current affairs) or have done at some point (ride a bike)...painfully true and absolutely spot on!

[@catwannabe506]

As an INFP I kinda relate to almost all of these and now I gotta go over think everything.

[@jeffrey-825]

The steps I took in personal development is indeed going out in life and try things. It is amazing how some things enriches your thoughts. Additionally, once you are in that zone during that thing, the Introverted Intuition and Extroverted Thinking combo quickly help you get this new experience under control. It becomes easy to pick up what you're doing and honing that into a skill. Additionally, many people with knowledge may be met and you can get more insights with real life examples.

[@cep22724]

I just found this channel a few months ago, and have been learning so much! This video was especially good. I appreciate that you told us to watch for the similar types too because I can see some similarities. I was blown away by your comments about INFJ. It is so true that I do much better sticking to my goals when I don't talk about my ideas first. Every time I talk about them, I have to circle back and gather my energy to actually take action!

[@iwashere583]

I related a lot with what you said about ENFJs, like I tend to keep doubting myself and chalk it up to me trying to be vulnerable with someone. But there definitely is a point where I should just let me figure out my doubts alone and not burden everyone else lol

[@kensears5099]

From an INFP: you know, "those" stories...where other people turn into caricatures? I save them for my best friend who enjoys the humor and kind of gets it, i.e., I'm not really diminishing those people in my mind as two-dimensional, but the caricatural portrayal does, at the same time, point out things that are really going on there. But if I'm not with an extremely trusted friend, no, I keep the satire to myself.

[@Ahmad-um2zr]

I like how INFJs aren’t so most common irl, but they’re everywhere in Frank’s comments section on practically every video (coming from an INFJ)

[@Nate_L_Holmes]

I am an intj And I think it's good thing to experience a lot of things to have that data for later situations, analyzing things based on what you have experienced already it gives u another perspective already, it develops Se, Te I suppose, so it's good for ((most)) of the intjs

[@letsalllovelain16]

As an Esfp,I understand ya :)!

[@AlexanderGieg]

INTP here. I learned a lot in my segment and related ones. Yes, I do this, and I never noticed it was a pattern (I noticed people reacted negatively to some of my sharing, but no idea why). This was really informative, and I'll try and start doing less of that. Thank you very much!

[@danabrumbelow2621]

Funny!!! ENTP here... I'm glad to report I've been taking the advice you had to give here for years...and working on it...for years....even if I don't execute the advice perfectly every time. It's a process... My sister still tells me I am the only person she knows who can walk into a room, say absolutely nothing, and still piss everyone off. Working on that!! I don't mean it!!! 🙂

[@blueninja012]

I have totally watched all of this video and 100% have the right to comment on it

[@GizelleSchaffnerr]

As an INTJ, I can confirm that in a whole area of my life I missed learning how to do simple math, I did it on purpose.

[@nataliiaperesada7550]

As an INTJ I feel the same way as INFJ about telling the plans and about motivation, so I'm trying to keep my plans to myself, because losing motivation after telling the plan to someone happens to me too. But sometimes I still tell about my plans haha.

[@DaveTexas]

I’m an INTJ. I’m a music lover. (I’m actually a professional musician.) I’ve never used a music-streaming service. I honestly don’t understand the appeal. I own something like 13,000 CDs and 2,000 LPs. Why would I pay a monthly subscription fee to hear music I already own? Of course, I’m also on the autism spectrum, so I don’t say anything to strangers but I’ll talk endlessly to my friends about my special interests and plans. In that sense, I seem to fit almost all the introverted characteristics, I can never tell when someone is or isn’t interested in what I’m telling them, and they SHOULD be interested because everything I like is the best!

[@blubbldi3245]

So right. I feel you. INTJ

[@timefliesaway999]

Not an INTJ, but man could I relate to that. I’ve “missed out” on so many basic things or basically never learned it and I really wonder *how* I managed to have missed that. Literally everyone else might’ve learned that one thing when they were a kid, then there’s me, full grown adult, not knowing how to do/use that. So embarrassing 😐

[@littlelady9801]

Same here. I'm that one ISTP who can't do anything 🤦‍♀️ ...yet.

[@iamtiisetso4996]

Guys, my Friend decided to tell my crush that I like her and told her about me being introverted and being socially being inexperienced,she responded by saying he should give me her numbers n he did n now were texting. That's something my Friend who is an extrovert should kept private but decided to open his mouth. That also all just happened today. So if you have the kindness please pray for me, I don't know what you going to tell God but please pray for ne🙈

[@scabbarae]

INTJ one is accurate. I've never had a relationship, and at 32 that strikes people as really really weird, so I just kinda dodge those conversations. Do I regularly meet women? Yeah. Do I feel attracted to certain women? Yeah, occasionally. Have any of them been more interesting than any of the half-dozen projects I have going on at a given time? Nope.

[@grazynawolska8160]

Intjs tend to be low in play energy... hence low on socializing and flirting. It occasionally comes out around other N doms like entp or enfp but normally we forget time exists and are focused on what we wanna do.

[@LooneyTiksCrap]

We all have different priorities. I really dislike when people get judgmental about it. When I hear, "Omg, why don't you [thing]?" It's like, "OMG, why don't _you_ stfu and leave me alone?!" Perhaps you will eventually meet someone that fits in with your plans/projects/whatever. Until then, don't sweat it. Relationships are not a thing you just jump into because other people expect you to. You have to want it or it's not fair to yourself or the other person.

[@barbzdukane]

Same 27 intj & single since birth...and when people ask me why, i honestly dont know what to say. While i didnt used to care, at this point in life, i am embarassed about it, thinking sonething is seriously wrong with me.

[@mikesmith1181]

I didn't find my INTJ female spouse until I was in my 40's. 100% worth the wait! Oh the stories I have about dating other (incompatible) types!!!!! You're on the right track.

[@bearclaw5115]

@@mikesmith1181 You don't know that he's on the right track just because things worked out for you. For one thing, you were trying to date, he is not so he's not even in the game.

[@haleyhaze]

Oh wow.. the INFJ one about not sharing your plans/goals really hits me hard!! I've been struggling to work up the motivation and actually get past the planning/organizing stages and its made me sad and disappointed in myself...nice to know its just another part of who I am that I have to work through ! :') idk but this gave me a huge comfort since as a true INFJ I've been aware of this behavior for a while now lmao thanks FJ!

[@Orangeee24]

For the infj one I think it’s really accurate tbh but I don’t really do this as much. Now if I’m working on something or just experimenting with something I enjoy I will literally keep it to my self so intensely as if I’m a fricking FBI agent, I get so annoyed when people find out about it because then it feels like I’m being judged off this incomplete thing that I haven’t even mastered or completed. I’ve learned that I just really can’t handle being judged by others people and that embarrassment is probably one of my greatest fears. Not sure if any of this is healthy or not tho lol.

[@ciarainthebeloved]

As an esfp not only were you accurate in your assessment but also the reasoning behind it! It truly does feel wrong not to say something to someone when it feels like information someone should know. I think the problem we esfps have is diserning when that is truly the case. I have felt bad after the fact sometimes and getting this outside perspective was helpful. This was a lightbulb moment for me, thanks for sharing!