Stacy Chapin: The Boy Who Wore Blue

Today, we have the honor of sitting down with Stacy Chapin as she bravely shares her journey through the unimaginable loss of her son, Ethan Chapin, after the tragic University of Idaho murders. To begin, Stacy talks about Ethan’s beautiful personality and life, reflecting on what it was like raising triplets. She goes on to explain the current status of the trial a year and a half later and shares what it’s like not knowing anything more than the public knows about the investigation. Stacy then describes her grief journey and how her family is getting through it together, all while being the center of nationwide media coverage. She offers valuable insight on what to say and what not to say to someone grieving and describes some of the ways they have kept Ethan’s memory alive. Finally, Stacy shares the therapeutic process of writing her book “The Boy Who Wore Blue” and explains her hope for the Ethan's Smile Foundation. We want to thank Stacy for her openness, strength, and vulnerability in sharing Ethan’s and her family’s story with us all.
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[@Itskarlieann]

Her strength is so inspiring. Taylor, that question about still carrying Ethan under her arm took me out 😭 Sending Stacy all of the love and support. 🤍

[@Based_Gigachad_001]

🤖

[@zyniazynia-lg1db]

What? Did you watch the interview at all? She’s cold

[@evaleo2080]

Stacy Chapin may be forcing herself to put that away. I’m kind of like that but I will say that grief will come out……

[@sophied23.]

I walk my dog every day on the same route and today while doing so and listening to Stacey speak I see a hat with “ETHAN” on it in the park. What are the chances. Wishing continued strength and love for the Chapin family. Edit: finished the video and the fact that I saw his name walking- doing her favorite thing. Chills. An amazing woman. God bless her.

[@dangroz03]

What did you do with that hat you found at the park with Ethan on it you should send it to his mom get in contact with the news and say you found a hat in the park with the name Ethan on it near the Idaho murder house.

[@sophied23.]

@@dangroz03 that would have been a good idea but it was strapped onto someone’s bike so I couldn’t take it. And this was not near the idaho home. I’m in another state 😊

[@Rhonaroo]

Stacy is my Hero. She’s choosing love; she’s choosing peace…this is going to be difficult to watch, but I just love and appreciate the entire Chapin Family. How could we not? 🦋🦋🦋

[@shantelrougeau5230]

This woman shows such an astronomical amount of strength and wisdom. I am immensely sorry for the loss she, her loved ones and everyone who has been involved in this has endured. She truly is an amazing mother who talks with such grace. Rip Ethan, Xana, Maddie and Kaylee ❤️

[@taylorhaney-xd4bn]

Her strength is unmatched. The way she handles everything is amazing. Thank you Stacy Chapin, you’re truly an inspiration. Please keep sharing.

[@laurenrosenthal3431]

Goosebumps this whole episode. Thank you for sharing her voice and allowing Ethan to continue to be a shining light. This case is something I’ll never forget

[@oLrBeauty]

She exudes strength, understanding, and light! I know Ethan is up there looking down on his family and is proud of the way they have navigated this situation.

[@madilolitsme]

The manner of which y’all asked these questions to her was amazing and respectful. Mrs.Chapin wholeheartedly embodies compassion, wisdom, and integrity. Thank you for sharing your journey with this unimaginable experience.

[@cincy2017]

Just bought the book. I’m not a child, I don’t have one, but I have a nephew and I want to support this family and this cause. I’ve been following this story since the beginning and this interview really touched me.

[@LadyCrimson25]

My hand was automatically going to my ❤️ She is not only in her mind like she really practiced a lot of evolving all of her body as every sentence and every word as much as mind it’s down within heart❤

[@Based_Gigachad_001]

Why did you get the book?

[@user-wj5bg1rj6g]

I love how she says xana is with Ethan & that brings her some kind of comfort & says nothing but positive about her. 🥺

[@ngm12mnn]

The strength and grace exuded from Stacy and her family during a time of the most horrendous nightmare any parent could ever imagine is mind blowing. They are clearly such incredible people! Hoping they find justice 🩵

[@hermionepink96]

Awe Stacey you don't need to feel your grief is a "burden" to others. I lost my Dad in a tragic way very young and I pretended I didn't need help and I would figure it out on my own. Maybe it was my age, but all of a sudden, years later, the emotions all boiled over at once. I just started screaming and crying and panicking for 2 hours straight at the memory. I have found someone who walks this journey with me finally. Sometime I just need to scream and cry about "why me". Most of the time no one can tell I'm suffering.

[@nataliereynolds5156]

She is amazing. So inspiring. Her strength is unfathomable.

[@LadyCrimson25]

She is the first one talking about his dead beloved son I have ever heard, not only inspiring its a whole other perspective she is learning me something completely new. Must be A true believer kind of awakening me to thoughts you can relate to but never thought you weren’t allowed or able to. “ you must cry” and only grief with teardrops not with sunshine. She is bringing the light to him and us🫶😊

[@stephaniecairo7335]

Thank you for having Stacy on the podcast!

[@charliej.meyers4523]

The reason why people criticize her response is because they haven't had such a major encounter with malevolence. Most of us go about our lives and never encounter true evil. Yes we run into bad people or have to deal with a narcisisst at work...but a cold-blooded psychopath who violently murders our kid? Only the most unlucky few have to process that kind of encounter. When she talks about the folder in her head labeled "things I don't understand", it's about her not being able to comprehend evil. And that is a real and normal response! There is no logic to what happened to her son. There is no logic to evil. We are taught to walk around believing everyone is good or can be rehabilitated, but that's just not true. Some people have the capacity to destroy our life. The only control she has left is to not let evil destroy her family. That is why she speaks like she does in this podcast. Don't criticize her, you have no idea how you'd respond after such an encounter with the dark underbelly of life.

[@LadyCrimson25]

Yes, I think people are most of the time too Judgemental something I think is so sadly. If we listen and try to understand how come would be much better. Why is it so hard to see the good with some of us, instead of just turn it to bad. I hear so many really good things with Stacy🙏

[@MelKat95]

i think about stacy chapin all the time i truly do, the way she speaks about her son and her family is like nothing i’ve seen before she has such a beautiful outlook. every time morgan wallen plays in my car i think about it. i’ll literally never forget this case and the victims it struck my soul so heavily.

[@LadyCrimson25]

Yes, to her he is still within her life, remembering all the beautiful of him…… As he is walking bye her side with everything she is doing, he is not cut off at all, that’s another way of keeping them instead

[@monicatill4450]

So glad she’s on the show!

[@Candiedmickey]

I can understand not wanting to relive this trauma at the whole trial, however I'd have to be there for the verdict to make sure my son got his justice!! No judgment for her or her family just couldn't imagine not hearing GUILTY for my son. ❤

[@colleen0229]

Is it justice if it’s not the actual perpetrator(s)???? I’m not saying it’s not bk but I’m not saying it is! I have some serious doubts! Sadly the police made some major mistakes!

[@mstea2234]

No way a single individual did this to two pairs of individuals on 2 separate floors and even more alarming is that the roommates heard talking and crying but didn’t hear the roomies getting killed? Don’t buy it. So, I don’t think they have the right person. Jmo

[@AmberOrtiz-sp3ti]

I’d be there every day

[@leahstorie993]

Every parent I know that has lost a child to murder can’t wait to go to trial & get justice for their child. I’ve buried two children (accidents) and I think Stacy is in denial & shock while being productive & determined to carry on. She’s in the denial shock stage in my opinion. You can function while grieving. You can work severely depressed. You can function! Stacy is amazing for that but it’s gruesome losing a child.

[@X3AmySarah]

⁠@@leahstorie993yes, that’s what I think too. I feel bad because he deserves justice as well and to have his family backing him up with that.

[@rosecamarillo]

What a beautiful interview! I admire the strength this woman has. I pray for her and the other families that are having to go through this. May God hold and bless them all.

[@emilymckim4740]

I don’t live too far from Moscow and I remember when this all happened, it rocked people’s and cities world and I just have always been so admired by this families strength and the way they share positivity and love through this whole thing admist the circumstances. Thank you for sharing her story 🤍

[@sidneykesler5673]

This woman has a heart of gold and deserves the world. Bless her

[@LadyCrimson25]

At least she got one here all the way from south of Sweden

[@Dawn388]

This interview was very good. The couple interviewing Stacy are so relaxed and caring. I enjoyed the family time memories that Stacy shared. I also am in awe of her sharing her personal walk with grief. I am so sorry for the family’s loss. Thank you Stacy for being strong and as positive as you are able to be.

[@mstea2234]

Sending love and positive vibes to the Chapins. Rip Ethan! 🕊️

[@Rhonaroo]

I’m sitting here nodding, bawling, agreeing and awwwwwwing like crazy 😇🥹😭🤩🥰

[@jeanjacobson8911]

Stacy, Thank you for coming on and sharing pieces of your families story with all of us! Blessings for prace and lots of love for all of you!

[@citrus6379]

So much positivity in such an awful tragedy her kids are so lucky to have such a strong women helping them through it. What an amazing mother.

[@Lenore65]

Stacy, you've helped me so much about grief. Listening to you helped me understand why im reacting the way i am about the loss of my mother. Yes, I walk it off too. Because if i dont... You, Ethan, and your family are in my heart. Thank you❤

[@X3AmySarah]

Same! I lost my mom a year ago june 22nd and she has helped me realize I need to keep pushing through life.. I’ve gone months where I basically stopped living.. it’s hard to explain. I also have a 5 year old I need to take care of and I don’t want him seeing me in a puddle forever. It’s not fair to him. I hope you’re finding peace, and I’m sending you love too ❤️🙏🏼

[@elizabethschannel7568]

she is so intelligent and you can tell shes an absolutely incredible mother

[@yahboyee28]

So touching to hear Stacy talk about her children. They are such strong parents and families to have to deal with this tragedy. I truly hope they get the justice they all deserve. I know it will never bring their loved ones back but I hope it brings some peace.

[@Happy_Little_Vegemite]

What an inspiring woman and mom. My heart breaks for her and her family. Her strength is amazing!

[@rebekahployhar2377]

I am truly amazed with how she has handled all of this so beautifully. She has so much wisdom and sounds like such an incredible mom ❤

[@kayisreading]

Thank you for sharing this ❤️ Shes soooo strong & such an inspiring momma!

[@denswa91]

Stacy is a very classy lady. I love that she’s so protective over Ethan & his memory ❤️

[@stacyscooby8488]

this is heartwarming amazing video . sending lots of Love to Stacy and her Lovely family and friends.

[@jackierobinson6547]

Prior to watching this interview, i can admit i had some judgments about her. However, my opinions have completely changed. This is a strong woman who has been an incredible mom and understands that life throws us curve balls and sometimes we get knocked down. She is teaching her children to be resilient, strong, confident. She’s teaching them to confront the challenges head on and to keep moving forward. We can dwell on the past. We can dwell in the things we can’t change or we can keep moving forward and be overcomes of life circumstances that are beyond our control. Wow!!! I would love to have coffee with her. I’ve learned so much and have been so inspired by this interview.

[@mermaidFl]

Thank you so much for having her on it was wonderful hearing her story and her memories and just wish for healing for all the families and Justice in the end

[@dopesoul3004]

Amazing interview… thank you. 🙏🏻 Stacy you’re an incredible mother, and have handled yourself with such grace. Ethan would be proud. Sending so love to your family. 😢🙏🏻🤍

[@monicatill4450]

This was such a tragic loss 💔

[@DocTerry777]

Just came across this ! I’ve followed the Idaho4 tragic event from day one. I have to say Mrs. Chapin is an amazing woman ! I absolutely listened intently to every word she spoke. Thank you for having her on your show ! Mrs. Chapin it was such an honor to see you and hear your words. Ethan was a very special young man and he came from very wonderful family. Thank you for sharing your stories about Ethan. 🩵🕊️🕊️

[@ellabongi]

Wow her strength is so inspiring

[@problemedwalrus]

Her strength is inspiring.

[@collette5410]

Wow Stacy I think your amazing such a tower of strength. Ive just lost my mum and she has really helped me to know how to deal with my grief ❤

[@bettychurchill5545]

I really enjoyed listening to this interview as also lost a child and was interested in what she had to say about dealing with grief. We all handle differently and I respect what is most helpful to her and her family.

[@justicecurran3114]

my heart hurts for her and all the families. it is time for justice to be served

[@beverlyward2570]

What a beautiful testimony. I admire her strength and the will to remain as positive as possible and to focus on family. I love the analogy of tucking Ethan under her arm and just carrying him with her. Great interview!

[@user-hd9fl5kg7s]

Such an excellent and inspirational segment! I love the strength, courage, transparency, and love that is Stacy Chapin. What an amazing family! Prayers for continued peace and comfort as Ethan's family moves forward with their lives, honoring his memory every step of the way.

[@dopesoul3004]

Amazing interview… thank you. 🙏🏻 Stacy you’re an incredible mother, and have handled yourself with such grace. Ethan would be proud. Sending so love love to your family. 😢🙏🏻🤍

[@braiannahaynes8536]

Good for Taylor and Taylor. Great podcast. I’ll tell you what’s amazing. That is monsters who think they “ended” someone’s soul. They have not. Physically that person may be gone but his legacy will leave on. This mom is an amazing mom. I hope nothing but the best.

[@kmaldo4138]

This woman is strength. 💛

[@otiliarachieriu1357]

Such a strong woman. ❤️‍🩹

[@jenniferevans3850]

Having this happen in my home town and still waiting for justice for these poor victims is awful. Thank you for giving this mama the chance to speak❤

[@Karinissharin]

I watched all of it, i love listening to her !

[@larac.8797]

Really enjoyed this have no idea how she was able to get this mindset but it proves how amazing her kids must all be. I'm surprised she is not attending any of the trial but i get that. Will watch it for her to ensure proper justice is done. Hopefully they have so much to prove all then what's given. Prayers to all families.

[@myshellartproductions]

Thank you.

[@marysage7960]

Such a strong woman in every way

[@vivkeenan6965]

This is such a heartwarming interview. God bless all the families and may their children rest in peace. Sending love and prayers 🙏 to all ❤ Always remember Ethan, Xana, Kaylee and Maddie xxxx

[@Momofmany74]

Wow thank you for this interview

[@momoffour7785]

What a great interview. Thamk you.

[@LamoniGreen]

Thank you for sharing Stacy story

[@goodjuju0]

Stacy, you and your family do what is right for all of you! Don't worry about the haters. Good luck and hugs and love to you guys.🤗💗

[@christinakoch2738]

Morning Taylor and Tay! Great episode!

[@joannetracey7438]

When she talked about 7 days that took me, god love her ❤️

[@joannetracey7438]

Omg I listened to that song she spoke about was walking around crying but so fitting ❤ 🇮🇪

[@Mrs.JimMorrison]

The host said: “Nobody should judge parents on how they raise their children.” On April 2024 James and Jennifer Crumbley were convicted to 10 to 15 years by a community of their peers for neglecting their parental duty by not averting the obvious danger their son presented - and were directly responsible for the deaths of four teenagers, the injuries of seven, and the trauma of the town. I’d like to know his thoughts on that case.

[@michaelahuizar3861]

Stacy I'm inspired by your grace & ability to move on. When you said you've acknowledged that's he's not tucked under your arm anymore-but safe… made me tear up. You are a wonderful mother & I’ll be praying for you, Jim, & the kids ✨💫💛🌷

[@rumbi007]

It’s easy to judge when you haven’t been in this kind of situation. It’s easy to say if I were in her situation I would have done this or said that, but you don’t know until you know. She’s living every parents nightmare and she’s trying her best to live with an impossibly difficult situation.

[@beckywilson8761]

I loved this podcast!

[@Anna-ym5mh]

Hug from Germany, we hear you Mum 💙❤️💙

[@ashleydvorak8207]

Stacy sounds absolutely amazing --- I could NOT do it! I'd be raging! Her kids are so lucky to have her

[@camillajrgensen9761]

Stacy god bless you and your family i am so sorry

[@madisonbruno7788]

god bless her heart❤

[@lukelond]

❤❤❤ she gets it

[@gingerpeoples8970]

Great interview! Thank you. On behalf of the entire crime investigators, what are her thoughts on these so called frat boys that may have murdered her precious son and his loving gf? What if kohberger is actually innocent?

[@claremonea872]

Learn to live again. 💝 💛

[@taylorchameleon]

what a remarkable woman. so much wisdom & tenderness ❤️ thank you for this conversation.

[@suzmik]

I’ve always been curious as to why she never mentions her husband’s children from his first marriage? Are they not considered part of their family? I honestly would love to know. 1:17:36

[@AmberOrtiz-sp3ti]

My heart bleeds for the Chapin family. I can not imagine.she seems to be healing well.. but, I’m sorry, but how can Stacy say if she had it to do over again- knowing the outcome- her son being in Alice’s- she would change nothing? I would change everything I could to keep my son alive. I just don’t understand. Why would she say that.

[@hermionepink96]

She is a role model for the kind of woman i want to grow up to be❤

[@lisasmith9877]

well, lets just hope you don't have kids then cuz she clearly doesn't give two shits about Ethan

[@rumbi007]

@@lisasmith9877 what do you mean ?

[@hermionepink96]

@@lisasmith9877 WTF is wrong with you? Have you spoken to her personally like I have? Even briefly, you can tell she is so strong and well grounded. To say she doesn't love Ethan when she dedicates her LIFE to his memory is nuts

[@zyniazynia-lg1db]

Wow you really are so off! Re watch this interview and others she’s moved on far too quickly!

[@rumbi007]

@@zyniazynia-lg1db I don’t think it’s possible to “move on” from something like this.

[@dangroz03]

GREAT EPISODE Maybe you should have the parents of Xana, Kaylee and Maddie on the show.

[@SocialMediaxSpecialist]

I loved her book from makemomentos!

[@allybooks0606]

Hello I’m new to your channel and I subscribed and today is my bday too

[@noreneKlinger]

Good morning

[@Rhonaroo]

Yep. I’ve had the high-five moment.

[@aaronmurdoch7362]

She is a bad ass ❤

[@kimberlycsehek7809]

She is such an amazing woman and mother. I’m sure that Ethan is so proud and smiling down.

[@BarWatch]

Tell me that Stacy Chapin doesn't look near identical to Eve Best, the actress who portrays Carole Middleton in the Netflix series, The Crown.

[@monkeemamajo]

❤❤❤

[@livingdeeply15]

I see a Mother first, one who has endured incredible pain,(and will likely endure more) the pain of loosing one of your children, this is NOT a Normal Life Experience!!! I think their family have done what they as a family decided what was Best to do for their family-they know much better what they need in order to continue on with LIFE, while still memorialize their beautiful Ethan as a; sister, brother & his two parents.

[@tonixfay]

Her strength is beyond inspiring. I would LOVE to see the Goncalves family on your podcast if they're okay with it of course :)

[@kayydee5811]

♥️

[@superagentsunshinejoy]

"Ya know" in excess

[@Rhonaroo]

Ethan is like a big puppy waving his tail wildly!!!!!!! 😂😂

[@lukelond]

❤❤❤ 59:29 and you let her goo !!!

[@aliciaanne]

Taylor should seriously consider becoming a licensed therapist. He has such a nice way of speaking, very personable and empathetic.

[@allybooks0606]

Taylor ❤❤❤

[@SteebeeWeebee]

You had to google: Kramer. You didn’t know Seinfeld.…

[@crystalheck4077]

To be fair taylor is 32 (im the same age) and tay is 27 It was on 1989 to 1997 so taylor was 5 when it ended and tay was born that year.

[@Molibs1]

22:00

[@djory6084]

I love her she is so strong ❤

[@lukelond]

Here's my one and only last cheaper by the dozen Smallville...,,, ❤❤❤

[@santanacinalli228]

Are you guys going to interview kristi and steve too?;

[@idiaridiNADecio]

since the day of the massacre they have done nothing but appear and speak in interviews and podcasts. I'm not saying their word isn't important, but I'd rather hear from Maddie's or Xana's parents

[@superagentsunshinejoy]

329 you kmows in one interview