STALKING IN JAPAN and True Stories

[@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan]

This was an important topic to cover and I'm glad we talked together about it 👍 Always great to hang out and film with you. Thank you for having me!

[@TheCyberMantis]

I saw your video where you talked about the guy in the cafe putting his leg near your leg. I think you said something to him, and he backed away, if I remember correctly. Which was good. Never be afraid to speak up.

[@pookyac42]

私が最も好きなKZbinrの2人がコラボしています💓😺。 : And just to make sure that I didn't mess up the translation... 😉😄 : Two of my most favourite KZbinrs make a collaboration 💓😺.

[@mr_ozzio5095]

What's the sex-education like in japanese mid/high schools, they really should teach the social/relationship side of the subject. I remember being taught about boundry's at about 12/13yrs old, like what's assault/rape/abuse and whats normal inter-action.

[@linyenchin6773]

Asagi, are you not allowed to use your Qi to blast away stalkers? Is Japan now a no-kamehameha zone? Why didn't you just summon Godzilla?

[@ronaldbentley7180]

Unfortunately stalking isn't a subject unique to Japan, it happens everywhere, however, I personally feel the more we talk about it and raise this issue the more the authorities will deal with stalkers in an appropriate way to make people feel safe on our streets

[@killertruth186]

And what would be great if we all could convince the stalkers of getting help.

[@KevinKaffy]

Stalking is on a whole new level in Japan and not only exclusively men stalking women but there are many crazy women stalkers also. Imagine getting your landline phone cut off and 6 months later the first phone call you get when your phone is reconnected is your ex that you already blocked months back on your mobile or another very romantic gesture was “I will kill myself if I can’t meet you again “ after only one date??. I don’t think this level of craziness can be matched anywhere else 😂

[@autohmae]

As a guy I honestly can't really relate, but I do want these things to stop. This shouldn't be happening

[@joechiasson8956]

Cathy a girl/woman should be able to go anywhere and not be harassed, thank you for your advice to them. Your a true influencer

[@TheVampireFreddo]

Had an instance in Vancouver of all places where something happened. A young pair of Korean girls were being closely followed by this *supremely shady* looking guy. They hadn’t noticed, but mine and my wife’s radar was pinging like crazy. We decided to keep an eye on them and sure enough, he would look around and scuttle closer whenever they happened to turn a corner or go somewhere else. It was almost comical how obvious he was being to anybody even remotely paying attention. We had enough though and decided to act. My wife went up to the girls and whispered to them that the creep was following them as I distracted him by pretending to ask for directions. It worked. They, suddenly terrified but thankful, pretended that my wife was their friend and were going to get lunch. When I joined them, I turned my head to look at the guy and glared at him, basically letting him know we were onto him. He booked it out of there. We actually did sit with them until a parent came to pick them up. The dad didn’t speak much English but was super thankful we stepped in to help. Also they had no idea who that guy was, never seen him before that which made it more creepy if that makes sense. It was like he had chosen them at random for whatever he was planning to do. Wherever you are Kimi and Dan Bi, best of luck

[@extrastout1741]

That's very nice, ty 💙🤍💙

[@oburii.92]

Thank you for covering this topic! I feel like this is such an important issue, but not too many people talk about it. Safety has always been #1 for me, but it's so easy to take it for granted. Let's do our best to be vigilant!

[@p.herrmann4538]

I think Japanese Guys need to improve on their self esteem and confidence. Not only will that allow them to step in in bad situations, maybe some will not become stalkers in the first place.

[@Pacific812]

We love this collaboration 😍

[@edwardjones6403]

I’ll never understand what goes through some peoples minds.

[@adora08phoenix]

Thank you for covering this important topic! First of all, I am sorry this has happened to both of you. National (in the US where I am from) estimates indicate that 1 in 5 women in the United States have experienced rape at some point in their lives. Ten million women report that they experienced rape or attempted rape before turning 18, and 1 in 3 girls have reported experiencing dating violence (physical, emotional, or verbal abuse from a dating partner). Most girls and women in the United States are given advice about rape prevention: never let your drink out of your sight, don’t walk alone at night, don’t wear revealing outfits or high heels, and so on. We live in a society where violence against women-both in action and in speech-is prevalent, and for that reason, it’s reasonable for those who care about women and girls to worry about their safety. But what are men and boys being taught, as girls are given this advice? Research confirms that parents talk more frequently with daughters than sons about these issues, and tend to frame conversations around reducing the risk of assault. Survey data have even revealed widespread confusion (more pronounced among men than women) over the mere concepts of consent and sexual assault. Frankly speaking, incidents like those described in these videos where people were being "sneaky" about it are just the start. Those individuals are just starting out, pushing boundaries, and will, over time, become more and more bold in their actions. Rape culture is pervasive. It’s embedded in the way we think, speak, and move in the world. While the contexts may differ, rape culture is always rooted in patriarchal beliefs, power, and control. Rape culture is the social environment that allows sexual violence to be normalized and justified, fueled by the persistent gender inequalities and attitudes about gender and sexuality. Every day we have the opportunity to examine our behaviors and beliefs for biases that permit rape culture to continue. From the attitudes we have about gender identities to the policies we support in our communities, we can all take action to stand against rape culture. There are so many things we can do from broadening our understanding and being an active bystander as described in the video, to taking a critical look at what masculinity means to you and how you embody it. Rape culture is allowed to continue when we buy into ideas of masculinity that see violence and dominance as “strong” and “male”, and when women and girls are less valued. It is also underpinned by victim-blaming-an attitude that suggests a victim rather than the perpetrator bears responsibility for an assault. When discussing cases of sexual violence, a victim’s sobriety, clothes, and sexuality are irrelevant. Instead, counter the idea that men and boys must obtain power through violence and question the notion of sex as an entitlement. Thanks again for the great collab vid on an important topic in Japan and around the world!

[@efnissien]

I've a few experiences with this A few years ago I worked in security at a US social media companies Dublin office and one new years day, I was approached by one of the female staff members who told me she'd been followed to work. I asked what time and she said about 06;30 in the morning (it was dark) and someone (she presumed it was a male) in dark clothing was a hundred or so metres behind following her to the office. As she told me this It dawned on me that what she'd seen was me heading into work. She got awfully embarrassed when I told her, but told her I'd bring it up with the US office and we'd have to come up with a strategy for such an eventuality. On another occasion, while at university in the UK, there had been a couple of attacks on females in a certain area. Several female friends were a little worried so I went to the local gunshop - I was friendly with the owners, and I asked if they had any butane powered 'personal attack alarms' which not only let out an ear bursting squeal, but also sprayed a permanent UV dye at an attacker. They said they did, but they couldn't sell them due to a flaw - when triggered while held upside down they would squirt a jet of liquid butane as they fired. If it hit an attacker in the face it would cause extremely painful cold burns that could cause permanent disfigurement (or blind if shot into the eyes). Being a lateral thinking type I asked how many they had (they said six), I asked if I was theoretically able to buy them how much would they cost (they said 20 pounds for the lot, because they couldn't sell them). I then asked "So if, and I mean theoretically 'if' I was to give you 20 pounds for a cardboard box and 'if' this box just happened to contain these alarms... would it cause too much trouble?" anyway after handing the owner a 20pound note in exchange for a cardboard box that just happened to contain 6 alarms I issued several of my friends these alarms. I also warned them "If you are in fear of serious harm turn the alarm upside-down aim for the face and fire - if the police ask questions, you were scared and didn't know this would happen..."

[@jerometsowinghuen]

Ooooo, so awesome to have Miss Asagi-san in this video, Miss Cathy. 💖 Always be careful and alert of your surroundings, so that you will be stalked.

[@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan]

Hi there Jerome!

[@jamesbromstead4949]

Two of my favorite Japan KZbinrs at once. Thank you.

[@andrewlopez1906]

Not being allowed even pepper spray or non lethal self defense items needs to change

[@steemlenn8797]

The thing with weapons is that they just step up the game. You have the same thing happening, just more dangerous. Just look at the US, where the good guys still have not enough guns to stop the bad guys.

[@andrewlopez1906]

@@steemlenn8797 Bad people don't follow laws, so to imply giving a woman a firearm, mace or similar for defense will lead to them randomly attacking others is ignorant. It doesn't help us in the US when we have people in positions of power that try to disarm and demonize law abiding citizens, and turn a blind eye to lawlessness as "protest". We are allowed to use and own guns but we are shamed or barred are from using them as it's turned against us. Look at Kyle Rittenhouse and others. Do you prefer woman not having any option to defend themselves when going out? An armed society is a polite society, and police can't be everywhere. Japan's social structure is different than ours, needs changes in the work environment and mental health aspect of it and guns aren't really a part of that society in the same way, but there needs to be change.

[@steemlenn8797]

@@andrewlopez1906 First I never said they would attack others. I implicitly even said the opposite. Second, an armed society is a polite society? Strange. When I compare US and Japan it seems to be the other way round. But yeah, don't let have facts come in the way of NRA indoctrination! Smoking does not kill cancer, the earth is flat and climate change is a communist hoax!

[@andrewlopez1906]

​@@steemlenn8797 wow, such a well thought out and factual articulated response without resorting to sarcasm..think what you like. I actually live here..

[@steemlenn8797]

@@andrewlopez1906 Yeah, I just wanted to write half of my answer like you did. Contrary to you, I did answer your arguments though.

[@neqproa]

Hello Cathy, this is an interesting topic!

[@philipcable7518]

I remember Asagi talking about her encounter with the pervert in the coffee shop. I think as Asagi said these people prey on people they deem as weak and are defeated by a loud firm voice.

[@Waterliliy1616]

i have a tip for defending yourself if it gets to dangerous, put your keys in between your fingers and you have an improvise brass knuckle. my mom learned this in defense class but check with your local authorities to see if this is ok first. i live in america and i don't know if its ok to do this in another country with stricter laws in place.

[@Lucygeno]

great video Cathy and Asagi, thanks for the advices, greetings from one of the most unsafe cities of the world, Mexico City :P

[@rhondacarter81]

I am glad you are both safe now

[@rinaapriyanti8712]

Don't forget the case in Japan that went viral because of stalkers in 2007, the Lindsay Ann Hawker case🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@raistormrs]

i do find the idea with those koban a nice one, problem around here would only be, they would be vandalized in no time...

[@Mrvanleeuwen]

Great video!

[@farrahnadiahmohamadkamal3128]

Omg its so dangerous..tq share sis.

[@jojoturambar]

Nice outfit!

[@NWOslave]

found this vid after watching a vid by Takishii from japan and reading comments about stalking in japan. call me crazy but it sounds like there is a business to be made being a chaparone for women that need a man to accompany her to avoid these situations.

[@garyjones5608]

I am actually shocked to hear of this going on in Japan! Japan is such an Honorable and Respected Country! I never really hear of any trouble in Japan! But I gather that there are Villains all over the World! Stay safe and Vigilant out there Ladies!

[@ernestestrada2461]

Although I am male, I understand about being followed and the fear that it creates. I live in the United States and was stalked in college by a gay man for nearly three years. The stalking affected my psyche in ways that I was not aware. I was going to the mall to meet some friends at night and in the parking garage I suddenly had a panic attack. It was the first time ever. My mind in a frenzy, heart pounding, difficulty breathing and my legs froze. I use the Zen meditation techniques and self-talk to keep taking deep breaths and place one foot foward, one foot forward, and kept telling myself just one more step, next step. I couldn't believe how much Inner Strength and fortitude it took to take those steps to get out of the parking garage. Once outside the parking garage I began to calm down but still had the feeling of dread. Sometime later, I was researching articles for a term paper in the library. In the search screen results an article about the psychological effects of those who have been assaulted and stalked. I have very close female friends, I read the article in case the subject was brought up I could help my girl-friends through their trauma events. Reading the article, I began crying I was suffering from these effects. Constantly checking my surroundings in New places. Going around corners taking the outside path and looking before going around. That's when I realized what I thought was a nuisance from a "barely a" student gay man was actually stalking. At one place I worked, when in a bathroom stall the man in the next stall slid his foot into my stall. When I told him to put his leg back, he reached under the wall with his fingers. I reported the incident to my supervisor and told him who was in the next stall. I didn't know him by name but knew which department he worked. My supervisor reported it to human resources. The man was a supervisor and trained on harassment. He was fired that same day for sexual harrasment. My panic attacks have decreased in frequency severity with the passage of time. Because of these incidents of stalking and sexual harrasment by gay men, I still on occasion have panic attacks. My last panic attack was 2 years ago in May.

[@AC-dd3rb]

It's pretty horrible that these weirdos think it's acceptable behaviour to do that to women definitely should be some severe punishments for it in any country.

[@peacelife]

Wow!! Thank you for sharing. Peper spray ok??

[@Stevepaul1968]

this goes to something that i believe, all women should know some sort of self defence, in the event of someone harassing or more importantly attacking you

[@bublebuble2004]

A torch is a great item to carry, would hurt if was used for defence and light up dark areas too

[@zaneivy]

...Japanese women (at least in my experience) can do some pretty pervish things on crowded trains as well. It's not just the men. I also experienced Japanese women stalkers.

[@orandachildren1051]

When a pervert sees Cathy with her lolita dress they think, "man, this one's too freaky."

[@Kirarah]

Educate boys for having normal behaviour!!! Educating girls for protecting themselves is not a solution!! This goes for all countries around the world!!! Patriarchy and sexism are a plague!! 😣 Thank you for the video!! 🙏

[@ThePursuitofHappiness]

I think that cultures who have submissive women and very macho men lead to this behaviour. Mother´s need to be strong and bring up their boy and girls correctly.

[@The_Cloth_Surgeon]

The more I hear about how Japan deal with crime, especially violence against women, the less I would agree thar Japan is a “safe country “ sure they have strict laws against petty and corporate crimes, but that seems inconsequential when the rates of stalking abuse and domestic violence are not only really high but continue to be ignored by the police and authorities.

[@aajohnsoutube]

Keep those borders closed and watch this stuff fester

[@D0Gist]

Fight stalking.....My privacy has been compromised for 9 years using technology and devices. Since I have no way to prove it, the bastards continue to do so with impunity. ( Czech rep. )

[@maralisil]

Many gutsy American women (myself included) will yell loudly and very publicly, "BACK OFF!!!", or "DID YOU JUST TOUCH ME?!!!"

[@lj0727]

There are gutsy Japanese women as well. American women aren't the only ones who can stand up for themselves.

[@moon_0207]

I plan on visiting Japan sometime in the future and I plan to go with my friend group. Im literally the only girl in my friend group of 12 guys so I think I’d feel pretty safe there because I’d have a bunch of guys watching my back. Just gotta make sure I always stay with them tho.

[@rogue8903]

It's good that you have male friends coming with you... Being a girl is dangerous in Japan because the stalking and sexual harassment cases are very common in the place. Don't go out alone or ride public trains alone. Ask at least one of your male friends to accompany you or pose as your lover.

[@maestro_gato_negro7739]

be safe cat! hi asagi 🤓

[@AsagisLifeNoBSJapan]

Hey hey 👋

[@DoomyRei]

Verry scary 😭😱😱😱

[@maxdout564]

Girls can legally carry pepper spray in Japan with valid reasoning otherwise you could kick it old school and carry a brick in your purse. Just make sure the purse's straps are strong enough before you start swinging it around and your all Gucci.

[@ReavinBlue]

Punching out content like never before guys

[@DomGFlover]

yes ms cathy cat i once was walking in street and suddenly a girl asked for my help from a stalker and i myself was not a fighting guy so i stepped in at the girl was really that i am her protecter i feel really girls in that situations are really need help not just a gun i myself got stalked before from a girl girls are hard to prove on them that they stalking you but if my jp gf saw her now again i am not responsible what would happen 😂😂😂😂

[@gurragurt]

Asagi is cool

[@jennglow4647]

😲

[@nelsontan8178]

cathy cat....

[@Saphir2]

Schon heftig

[@skullmanalejandro8395]

Princesa te siguen molestando ? Esos nipones?

[@danielessex2162]

What if they are just really shy guys....not stalkers?

[@flinx]

That's unfortunate for them, but if the guys are making people uncomfortable and don't want want to make people uncomfortable, they still need to change their behavior.

[@danielessex2162]

@@flinx yeah I'd agree..... But some of them might not know thier behavior is weird..... Like a really socially awkward person. Like they are probably sitting there looking like an idiot wondering to themselves if "I should say hi or just wait to see if she says hi"..."maybe a wave or maybe she's too busy filming and it'd be rude wait till shes done".... I have known a few people like that

[@Sharkuterie327]

Stalkers display “sneaky” behavior, not shy behavior. They know they’re doing something inappropriate. If you’ve been stalked before, you quickly learn the difference. 😥

[@Zero-ft3sf]

it's sad world we live in nowadays but one thing i know for sure men caused most of society issues lol