Stella O'Malley: Raising Children in the Culture Wars

[@jrsp6480]

As a Dad that’s taken one teenage daughter through and out the other side of her trans attempt (she’s still a girl and very happy that’s the case) and another about to become a teenager, this deserves a lot more views. Excellent conversation. The part about school teachers staying in their lane and the education system in general I couldn’t agree with more.

[@VOTENATIONALALLIANCE]

You need to teach your children conservative and Christian values, otherwise they will be subsumed by Liberal media

[@ingridbean]

Stella is a sweetheart and has such comforting energy. Her clients are very lucky to have her. I don't agree with her on everything but I can tell that her heart is in the right place and she genuinely cares about helping people. She's clearly a very deep thinker and I love her way of articulating things.

[@michelebence4308]

Nah, not to be trusted imho

[@y2ksurvivor]

​@@michelebence4308indeed.

[@ElishevaLe]

I have an earphone addiction. Listening to podcasts (like this) while doing chores or on long drives (I am 47). It makes cooking/cleaning/driving more tolerable. When driving, it's when I am alone or the whole family on a long drive. Just 1-2 other people, I don't. But long hours in the car where there is no agreement on what to listen to? Each to their own (my kids are teens). But yeah, it drives me batty to be talking to someone only to discover they can't hear me. Stella is such a voice of sanity. And brings much clarity to having teens in the house

[@John-kj7tv]

Me too. Dan Carlin is great for history stuff, his series on Genghis Kahn is fantastic.

[@SexRealityBites]

Stella you are so wonderful and well spoken. This interviewer was fantastic too.

[@jawaharsolai4303]

Fascinating conversation. Stella O’Malley’s insights from her patients interactions were so sharp that the message you make out is universal for most parts of the world. The way technology is permeating our lives, at home, at school is totally changing the way we live & interact with other people including our near & dear ones.

[@antonyliberopoulos933]

Stella, is an intelligent woman, who also has a deep knowledge of her profession. We are very lucky that she is helping and supporting our youth. Thank you beautiful Florence, for introducing her to us.

[@pseudonamed]

Great discussion, you can tell she really cares about the kids.

[@ianallardyce4222]

The social media companies have been given SUCH a free ride on children's health. And need to be held to account ASAP.

[@brianwolthers2762]

I think she is ahead of her time on the effects of tech. The thing about the earbuds is so true and i had not thought about it that way.

[@garretc6346]

Unherd’s great and that was one of their best. Stella was amazing 👊🙏

[@esc91]

She is so great - absolutely right about teachers. They are not therapists or friends to pupils - and their interventions to get kids to 'feel good' look like attempts to indoctrinate. Get back to teaching. Stop this entire effort of being pseudo counsellors - is exactly right. Use words like "triangulate" = yes. I have experienced this with teachers - total boundary crossing and forgetting they are just there to teach.

[@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals]

A forgotten cohort of children affected by this are the cases where a father suddenly identifies as female, often forcing them not to say "Dad." A new documentary demonstrates this trauma: Behind the Looking Glass at Lime Soda Films on yt

[@annak6918]

Thank you!

[@John-kj7tv]

That was excellent.

[@isabelltvedt-dahl2078]

Thank you ❤

[@hotdokete]

All social engineering seems to have an angle towards fewer people, more controlled and controllable, going forward.

[@glennmitchell9107]

It's the rare human who isn't a poseur. Life is faking it until you make it. Posing begins when we are teens. Some of us never stop posing.

[@Ivannah75]

This is a problem of us parents. We don't want to be the bad guys. Even this sweet conversation is childish in a sense.

[@Jules-Is-a-Guy]

The thing is, I sort of juxtapose the parts about how almost every 'supportive' institution is undermining parents, and how there's much less context and culture in which for young people to grow and develop normally - with the rest of the conversation, and I'm a little confused. Isn't the nature of the problem fairly clear? Isn't this the primary societal problem we're currently facing? Are we all still not really getting this? We're not going to have enough normal, healthy people and families, beginning in just a few years. It's sort of the total disintegration of the fabric of society. Requires greater attention paid, and increased understanding.

[@carissavisscher9648]

22:10 It’s so frustrating to hear adults comparing the use of phones to a libertarian and conservative view. It’s not that bloody simple. Reducing libertarian freedom as the ability to do whatever you want whenever you want and conservative as the reluctance of progression is non sense. True freedom should mean that you’re not enslaved, whether that means to your phone physically or enslaved to social norms that are being imposed on you. Taking phones away and this being labelled conservative is not helpful at all.

[@4362mont]

Deep distress being part of the human condition may be true for many, but anecdotally I see what seem to be a lot of Alfred E. Neuman-type humans out there. They don't worry, they are happy, and this seems to be due to vast incomprehension.

[@andreabell5724]

Stella 🙌🙌🙌❤️❤️❤️

[@glennmitchell9107]

Are some adolescents' conception of being uniquely troubled, attributable to some adolescents' lack of empathy, a lack of awareness of the troubles of their fellow teens?

[@tomgreene1843]

Beware ...of the incubators of discontent!

[@gaiustesla9324]

We dont want to be alone but we want to be left alone. This idea that "social media" which is the legal buzzword created to control internet discussion has caused all these problems is ridiculous when not including what school has and does and will do to childrens minds. Its not the childrens minds you wanna worry about anyway its how their parents think and what they've been manipulated by thats the problem and that happened before "social media". The issue is when there are so many lies and have been for so long, its quite difficult to tell what is what compared to living in a bubble of made up shit. Thats the predicament you're in when surrounded by 8 billion other strangers.

[@AndyJarman]

I'm in my 60s, since watching MGTOW channels I have come to realise most women have fundamental misunderstandings about what men are. Second wave feminism (starting with Simone De Beauvoir's "The Second Sex" in 1949) has paved the way for turning human coupling into a transaction that women and men now feel free to abuse. The dismantling of the family and relationships of commitment makes penalty's for betrayal and neglect inconsequential. I think psychotherapy and it's insistance upon prioritising self actualisation, is doing a lot to magnify incompatibility in the way it has enabled trans ideology to idealisr human relationships. Stella will know the church's insistance that "marriage for life" was similarly abusive - providing men with wives who were compelled to "perform" the prescribed role for them. Somewhere there is a mutually respectable AND complementary way that men and women can form a living "diode" like relationship.

[@GardenMichell-b5v]

Steuber Lakes

[@realrockvince]

16:22 If you think libertarianism is a parenting philosophy, then you don't understand what libertarianism is.

[@AndyJarman]

I'm in my 60s, since watching MGTOW channels I have come to realise most women have fundamental misunderstandings about what men are. Second wave feminism (starting with Simone De Beauvoir's "The Second Sex" in 1949) has paved the way for turning human coupling into a transaction that women and men now feel free to abuse. The dismantling of the family and relationships of commitment makes penalty's for betrayal and neglect inconsequential. I think psychotherapy and it's insurance of self actualisation is doing a lot to magnify incompatibility in the way it has enabled trans ideology. Stella will know the church's insistance that marriage for life was similarly abusive - providing men women who were compelled to "perform" the prescribed role for them. Somewhere there is a mutually respectable AND complementary way that men and women can form a living "diode" relationship.

[@janebennetto5655]

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