Stephan Speaks Talks Women’s Expectations Today, Men Becoming Desired, Biggest Dating Problem + More

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[@SUPAassassin098]

Great talk! Love hearing from the roommates. I’m 23 and doing my best to reach my full potential so if I desire a wife/family/anything else I can thrive with her.

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We love this Brandon!

[@TynishaTalks]

We love to see it!!!

[@ewingaguasvivas8386]

awesone

[@conduitofthegospeldarrellb9154]

Better off together. Quite literally designed for one another. Men need to become LEADERS again.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Amen!

[@Quebert46]

The talk y’all had about Honesty and Acceptance was spot on 💎

[@halliewatson4207]

I know this is old but I liked that part too! I think honesty is healing and freedom, and it may hurt a little sometimes, but that’s honesty just making you some room to grow. 🙂 Acceptance is part of it too, it something someone says hurts, it’s time to dive deep (within yourself).

[@BraedenTheG]

Always a good one when Stephan is on🙏keep it up boys

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Always!!

[@FayesFood]

These Monday morning podcasts always help make the start of the workweek less stressful. Thanks guys!

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thank you! Enjoy!!

[@RobertThompsonEshun]

Man, this is definitely an episode that needs to be watched twice! Appreciate you guys!

[@user-ti6gz2pz4i]

Stephan is so right that before he started the conversation about healing I didn’t hear anyone else talking about it but him. Now, other people are starting to include it their conversations/coaching talks and communication. Stephan was the only one at first emphasizing and suggesting healing in life and relationships.

[@flymasterfunk]

This was an excellent discussion. Your guest is a very talented individual. I don't like the "men need to step up" crap most people talk about. Finally we have someone balanced to talk about the issues between men and women.

[@berrymckockiner5883]

Yes thank you, I hate this men need to step up narrative, W just need to lower their standards.

[@zukondis]

Just for the sake of accuracy when talking about these issues between men and women I would always distinguish between men or women with options or without. That makes all the difference in the world. Men with options have the same pride that makes them disrespect women, and women without options have the same fatigue of never being good enough to not be ghosted after sex. The older I've gotten and the more options available have allowed me to better see this, there's no such things as man's behavior or a woman's behavior. People just act based on opportunity, and limit themselves according to their character.

[@FreeAgent99]

100% 👍🏼

[@21nitsua]

Such a well articulated point. I love seeing this.

[@xmswayzemx]

Omg, story of my life. I cut off a situationship for ghosting and other disrespectful behavior, and he found another girl and married her. I can't win for losing 😕

[@zukondis]

@@xmswayzemx that's the situation we are all in right now really, usually wanting someone who doesn't like us back that much. Competition in today's world is insane. Not hopeless though, can always choose to date less attractive people (in both character and looks) OR working to improve our own character and physical looks drastically so we naturally become more attractive and pickier ourselves with the people we date. But trying the same bad idea over and over again and expecting a better outcome is no better than trying to win the lottery. Both are just gambling your life away.

[@xmswayzemx]

@0RACl3 crazy thing is the guy IS less attractive than what I would usually go for. I liked his character in the beginning, sweet and funny, but slowly, he became a bully. Like would say things out of pocket, and I'd say something about it, and he would get quiet on me. Then, he cursed and pushed me once, and I stopped dealing with him after that. He tried to convince me to come back, but I never would. Well, he moved on and got a gf and married her. 🙄 I think I'm gonna level up, work out, get my hair done @ the salon, and say a prayer. 🙏🤣

[@1goldenbutterfly]

This was such a great interview, you both asked great questions & Stephan always has the best wisdom and advice that are very insightful. I love the emphasis on self awareness & knowing your purpose; it's definitely key in choosing a life partner because if you choose the one wrong one, it can affect your destiny ❤.

[@shaec8498]

The conversations that men don’t have enough of these days! Amongst themselves AND WITH THE WOMEN IN THEIR LIVES. Don’t leave us to figure you out on our own. You see where that’s gotten us 🥴 thank you guys

[@Tamarah694]

Stephan, you are the antithesis of chaos! You clean up messes. God will bless you. Thats what i needed to hear. What an epiphany!

[@vahnni1]

I love the revamp of the show. Both perspectives is so important and it's so amazing to have. It feels like this is the missing piece to the puzzle tbh

[@marygranke204]

Stephan is always good to hear. Great information. I have read 5 of his books and on his sixth book, 40 prayers for my future husband. I am very busy woman, pursuing my Psychology Degree to be able to walk in my purpose once I finish this coming April. His message of healing is what everyone needs to do and yes, I went through the healing process and your eyes are very open once it is done. Great message. Thank you for a great message.

[@ScaryToRemarry]

Great episode! I have 3 boys at home and I’m teaching them to chase purpose not panties. The woman will be there. Just focus on your God given calling

[@ewingaguasvivas8386]

if, half of the boys in the world would have had such type of mom, we had been living in a whole different world.

[@Nickbronline]

Always love the Stephan podcasts

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Enjoy!!

[@akumacode]

I always learn or realize something new I can apply to my own life when Stephan is in the conversation

[@44standaman]

The amount of gems in the first 30 minutes is insane. Wow! Keep it up boys!

[@tyron878]

This conversation had me running all over the place. The gems were phenomenal. I had this same convo with my brother and delivered much of the same advice but he made me understand to a much higher degree what I was coming into realizing.

[@queenqueen1053]

It’s always a great time with Stephan ! I look forward to anything he guest speaks on. I love the roommates too always great content and great conversations . No beating around the bush but address real issues from men and women . I’m here for it !!

[@nicholaselsholz1958]

Keeping it brief today, just one word for when u guys bring Stephan on and go deep on this stuff. QUALITY! Always take away something new to think about and apply. Keep up the amazing content! 💯

[@newgenerationmanwithsegunbash]

Stephen. It's always great to have you back. Thank you for all the genes much love.

[@anisafrombreuklen406]

Right ! Learn & know what you want. Be careful with who you take advice from. A lot of older women give & gave me unsolicited advice. Thank God I already knew what I wanted & didn't want. Some people give advice to justify their decisions or try to live vicariously through you. It's your life, do what you want! You have to live with your decisions, choices & selections.

[@ewingaguasvivas8386]

thank you for your insightful comment

[@jessicaapaloo8049]

Great interview. I am here for annual appearances from Stephan 👌🏾🔥

[@leedaleo2407]

Always the best guest 💯

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

100%

[@samanthacruz5587]

I got to say as a woman I love this podcast! I have changed my outlook on men and find all of these men to actually have a similar mindset as myself. Self-awareness is key!

[@MayorBrownn]

Most of us just suffering in silence fr. I wish men and women could just get along better. Dating feels so weird these days.

[@anchorpoint3631]

lmao

[@anchorpoint3631]

And that's a bad thing?

[@ChrisC799]

Stephan…per usual… is SPITTIN 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@jimmyholloway6935]

Straight fire🔥🔥🔥 Steph saying some good stuff 💯

[@Jalenrs]

Used to have that motivation but women changed me and my perspective

[@halliewatson4207]

I like what Stephan said about pure love being blind, because he is right-if it is unconditional it would encompass everyone. Romantic love is a little different. ☺️

[@tristanburch1901]

Very well thought conversation from about people as whole. This is how progress can be made with just men and just women. Would love to see more women actually have these conversations and being HONEST with themselves instead of blaming men for most of the things that go bad with their life and relationships

[@chriscristah9178]

Right on, Stephan!!! Like you said... “Knowing our Purpose is an aspect of knowing ourselves...” OUR match not only has a similar Purpose but also inspires us along the journey of fulfilling our Purpose because they too understand the steps along the way and decisions needed to accomplish goals with our similar Purpose in mind. THE ascension of love and purpose only gets better and better where we feel we can accomplish anything and everything together because we KNOW intimately all the details and ways we are better together. MOTIVATED in the best ways to be our best... bringing out the full potential from one another in exciting ways. Not only do we become the best version of ourselves but we become the best version to others and the world around us. AS you said, “Dating someone with a different purpose in life IS a waste of time,” and only keeps us from meeting our match sooner than later. What a great conversation. Enjoyable listening.

[@jimisierra1243]

Hafeez's Mentor🔥🔥 Like the Video Guys

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Enjoy!!

[@lafayettehodge6395]

I have been listening to this podcast for years. I have noticed on several podcast that at some point it is determined that women lie about their lifestyles and other things. So the question I have is "Why is it accepted that women lie so much?" It seems like it is acceptable for them to do that. I would like to see an entire episode on that topic if possible.

[@marcusmiro2171]

Minute 29:00 hit hard, I’m passing through that and it’s a really complicated situation.

[@ebsss100]

This is one of my favorite talks, it was a God send! Added it to my favorites!

[@CameronJHannah]

I definitely feel like things have gotten better since the manosphere & everything

[@Mindsetolympics]

This is sooo good this is back to the content That made me love this channel!!!

[@fleezydoesit]

Great work bro. Commenting bc for some reason I have to search for your content and I been subscribed for over a year.

[@kyleflournoy7730]

"Society is in a constant state of overcorrection" That's my original. But you can use it if you want

[@ardencayetano2338]

Wonderful episode, definitely worth a rewatch!

[@myeattanosike4918]

This is pretty deep, and I'm only in 31 minutes of this conversation!

[@ryanjackson8898]

Great insightful conversation👍🏾

[@rosecheeks12]

I would love if Stephan interviewed couples who got exactly what they wanted on every level that matters to them. I wonder if the love stays strong as life happens and beauty/health/physical attributes diminish. It begs me to wonder if we are advocating for conditional love. Does anyone else feel like this?

[@berrymckockiner5883]

I'm the complete opposite, I reckon love doesn't matter. Men and W just need to give the other person what they want, regardless of their feelings. Relationships are about sacrifice, not feelings.

[@yarahb.5014]

@@berrymckockiner5883 Facts, I want women to understand that you gotta separate the feelings from reality. Before any talk about love comes into play, RESPECT COMES FIRST for each other. That's the long-term foundation before any feelings get involved. Not doing so will always bring issues regardless of how you "feel"

[@berrymckockiner5883]

@@yarahb.5014 Facts

[@ewingaguasvivas8386]

i do not know what words to use to answer that question, but it's certainly a good question.

[@Nah-ah]

I agree with bringing in couples to hear their side!

[@FromTheBlinds]

Where guys are afraid of the reaction to their honesty is where a lot of these relationship card games come into play. These cards are playing a CRUCIAL role in providing a sort of 3rd party buffer to alleviate that tension. "I'm not asking this question, the card is..." And so using tools to aid in developing emotional maturity (with rules of engagement) can help people make better decisions from insight instead of fear.

[@anissaferringer4965]

Love what you say about not settling! And I would add to the explanation of the women's perspective on it: being in an exclusive relationship with a woman you aren't wanting to stay with is wrong because she is wasting her pretty years on you. You tied her up when she was at peek market value, and if you do that in bad faith (knowing she isn't the one) then you are a jerk.

[@Bohoempress1031]

I personally believe that even if you say that you are not interested in pursuing a relationship your actions should match your words. This applies to both men and women. Its very misleading and quite honestly a waste of everyone's time to "pretend" that you want to be in a relationship whenever you know it's not what you truly desire. If you arent going to step up and do what is required to be in a healthy and committed relationship then you dont get the benefits (intimacy, time, effort etc) of being in one. Too many people out here like the idea of a relationship but dont want the accountability and responsibility of one.

[@db2ez]

Stephan preaching nothing but facts on this one

[@CookedGames281]

33:00 🔥🔥🔥 Hit the nail on the head🔥🔥🔥

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thank you!

[@brentonkerr8636]

This session is right up my alley

[@BreeLynice]

Finally a man that makes sense with great context and sentiments that aren’t toxic. Thanks for giving multiple perspectives with each topic 💯

[@obinnaezebuiroh7911]

Stephan is talking that real 💯💯

[@Jalenrs]

Good video conversation

[@TheLastIrritant]

Top tier content right here! Keep it up!

[@lubnan08]

Always quality content. Thank you.

[@rishymars89]

Great talk! Very enlightening!

[@soniagonzalez1462]

Unfortunately Men have conditioned women from Experiences to build the tough exterior but agree let’s all work together to make things better

[@joemahma3017]

Take responsibility for your actions.

[@TomikaKelly]

​@joemahma3017 She IS taking responsibility by agreeing to work together to improve things. It's quite evident that women shouldn't have been invested in nor pouring into men to the point where they would even need to build a tough exterior.

[@TomikaKelly]

Agreed. This is why I believe in women being VERY cautious about investing in men and who they pour into.

[@myeattanosike4918]

This was Excellent! All facts!

[@NK12432]

Great show. I always enjoy the shows with Stephan

[@heyli7]

This was really good . ❤️

[@prekcop]

I heard that men see the woman that is there during his “ come up” as a trauma therapist, and when the “ trauma” is over, that woman’s role is done , and she is replaced …!!!

[@TomikaKelly]

Yes. i.e. Dwayne Wade's 1st wife. This is why I ALWAYS tell women to never build a man up, never hold a man down, and never accept the bare minimum from a man.

[@talicia18]

❤️❤️❤️❤️great podcast!! Facts being spoken

[@curtisgodfrey9452]

These guys are on point.

[@Jalenrs]

Damn this facts

[@solomonmurphy142]

Stephan speak 🗣🗣🗣🗣🗣 this video sword ⚔️ the average guy here

[@samuelntim-addae2843]

Love this episode. You should try to get Mike Tyson on the show. He would be a great episode

[@shellyb.8387]

Actions and words should align.

[@wtvhthis2336]

The expectations on both male and female is just way to high.And also there are to many difference in the same value system and structures that become the foundation for a so called successful relationship

[@oliviajonale]

When he said fatigue, I immediately thought of Will Smith and Chris Rock😂😂😂

[@Theeglowgetter34]

Really liked that you guys brought up knowing your purpose and seeking your purpose first.

[@Vitamincontrol1]

Great info

[@CHRISJRDN]

Excellent episode fellas! Love the message and discussion.

[@user-cf8ii5bz6p]

Wow he's a blessing. Keep it up!

[@stuhector3511]

Intelligent conversation gents 👊🏽

[@Samahsings]

100k is pretty good.

[@MayorBrownn]

It’s very good

[@Thatbul]

Some places

[@jahmesiahkeys9597]

Loved it

[@monathomas1777]

My expectations? I'm looking into a man who is my Best friend on earth. 1) who loves and walks with God 2) he takes care of himself and his business 3) when he co-habitates he also helps take care of the habitation 4) he wants me to be a part of his life and makes plenty of room for me.

[@truthshetold]

I love!!! That book!! I read it 3x!

[@ohbaby3151]

We need a definition of what “provide” means. Is it me paying all the bills? Or paying for all dates ? And when do this? First date? 5th date? . This provide language is vague and leads to lots of confusion.

[@claudiaclaudia8599]

Provide=man paying all the bills basically.

[@ewingaguasvivas8386]

i do not know, maybe he''s refering to when you are already marry.

[@ruseangirl]

Provide is to take care of things financially. If a man cannot or will not provide, he has no right to a woman, her body, her womb. Why create families you can’t or won’t support? Providing for and protecting your family is the bare minimum a man should be doing to fulfil his role.

[@teerex893]

Sound advice for all ages.

[@God-cm5xs]

32:15 is that kinda like the McDonald’s documentary actor? Like an example

[@hellobreakthrough]

Love the conversation!

[@Antfleezy1111]

This is good.

[@brentonkerr8636]

I'm in a relationship that's not working for me at all . A real mismatch.

[@youngboydanny1326]

These niggas spittin facts whole video

[@gethisbookslindasconierslegacy]

HOT TOPIC 🔥🔥🔥 MEN OF GOD EVERY WORD GREATLY RESPECTED ❤️ GREATLY APPRECIATED ❤️ GREATLY UNDERSTOOD 🙌🙌❤️💯 GREATLY BELOVED ❤️💯🙏 GOD BLESS YOU KINGS 👑👑👑

[@anisafrombreuklen406]

This conversation is a great happy median. Educate to make a choice!

[@robertlorenz2492]

Keep going the IG let me know you posted Stephan

[@kojoboateng6755]

These guys sit there and say "I FEEL like there are more women in careers than men". Do you know how to dig up data and use it to explain your point? These are the "masculine" men you'all listen to? Go to the oil rigs, go to the mechanics shops, go the municipal offices and see men sorting rubbish...I wonder if these guys on the panel know how to tighten screws on a piece of equipment.

[@teamdcsold6682]

Yess!!!

[@thisismystone9658]

He can be honest about being polygamous and then later in his life he realises it was just age and he can't really keep up with all these different women and then he starts neglecting them and zeroing on one or two .. Basically the whole situation is messed up if the person doesn't really know themselves yet.

[@berrymckockiner5883]

That's cap about the man losing half his stuff because of infidelity. Most lawyers day that divorce is amicable but lawyers get into other person's ear and gets the two parties to become greedy.

[@donnabrady7498]

I have liked this guy for years and I finally got the nerve to tell him and he told me that there will never be anything between us I thought this was so blunt and mean but he sends me mixed signals he flirts with me then he ignores me what is going on with him and this behavior

[@bills7235]

Do you recommend using my 9-5 money to buy/fund marketing services for my purpose. How else would i get to the millions without marketing to get my brand out there. Not everyone meets the right connect with little to no money. Even posting on social media it’s harder to get a message out

[@angellorenzoa]

What do I want❓If I had all the money 💰 in the world 🌎 , what would I do❓ -I would do what I do , but on a larger scale. I am a gym owner right now. I just have to find a way to expand. Think big 🧐

[@adreil007]

Stephan made a statement that I have been thinking about for a while majority of women in this day and age want a man making six figures or more. This requirement by women strikes out majority of men so a men like myself who is not making six figures yet feels like what’s the point of even trying anymore if women disqualify me based off that alone.

[@TomikaKelly]

Lots of women get disqualified based on appearance alone. Life is unfair and it can suck sometimes. 🤷

[@shimmy2708]

Men are fatigued? I can see that but women have BEEN fatigued. For ages! Now men know how it feels.

[@girlthattalkstoomuch9425]

what war?????

[@thegoonist]

30:00 if thats not jeff bezos then i dont know who else theyre talking about lmao