The Narcissist's New Relationship | Stephanie Lyn Coaching

[@cbbeach8628]

Everyone who has been discarded by a narcissist send them a thank you card. They have saved your life.

[@hannahscott6604]

Did tell mine thank you :)

[@busterslugdog]

@@victoriadorgu3207 i need help o2herwise someone migh2 die

[@soniangonwiekameni7488]

Am in the same situation

[@bozzekaka]

Actually don’t.

[@ericking4072]

@@victoriadorgu3207 IT IS A FELONY W/O A WARRANT SIGNED BY A JUDGE

[@crystinamarie1]

I can't believe there are so many of us who have been abused by these evil people. We need to band together and comfort one another. Thank you for this video.

[@crystinamarie1]

@@tweetybabyfreak69 hey tweety, let's make it happen. Same. Happened to me about 2 months ago now. He moved away thank God. And out of my life. I will be very careful next time.

[@jonesfredrick94]

Yes for sure

[@jonesfredrick94]

@@tweetybabyfreak69 How would you like to reach out? Heres my Gmail, [e-mail] 214-574-8342

[@vanessa0044]

Yeh we should . N share our stories. Mayb we can even help each other

[@priyaliknows8293]

MV M i understand.. I don’t know what to do now because that guy is still hoovering and doing such things that makes me angry

[@jewelmathewson2997]

Just remember... the narcissist's new person is just the next ex. Don't give it any more thought.

[@kellymead1139]

I never give this scenario anymore thought EVER, I already stated GOOD GOD DAMN RIDDEN'S to unhealthy DEMONIC CRIMINAL SCUM , I wish them all the luck in the world because trust me when I say this but unfortunately THEY BOTH are going to need it . Nothing but liars, thieves and bullies, they don't know what love means or honesty . 👋👋👋 Bye Bye Bye

[@D.Cunejo66]

Hahaha 😂😂😂

[@joannagabrieli6860]

I just hope she figures it out and leave him before he hurts her too

[@Barbara-ec9ox]

And remember….that spot she took over…leaves a spot open for the NEXT 😂

[@shebasongz8504]

I literally can cry. He made me feel like I was trash..

[@Seafoodmommy]

Girl he is trash , that’s why they want us to feel that way. You are a beautiful soul and he knows that.. it’s his lost not yours. What he thinks of you doesn’t define who you are. You will get through this.❤️💋💕

[@tashaadams8420]

Sorry he made u feel like trash aren't u glad the trash took his safe out let's someone else recycled him I took was going threw this with kids involved 2 little ones I cut the cookie off 6 months ago tried 2 co parent with this man but isn't possible because he has sex on the brain so for the new year I will be changing my # I can't do anything but leave him with what his already been doing stalking me telling me he no I am with someone which is true but u shouldn't be riding pass my house 4:00 N the morning periodt but always we have love ourselves more than we love them

[@AyeAsh444]

❤️

[@vivianejik2138]

You ain't trash. He needed you to feel like trash which is what he is

[@missindie4199]

😭😭😭😭😭

[@angelahamlett8249]

Your rejection, is God's protection! Thank You! ♡♡♡

[@mscalculated3218]

That is a good one!!!! AMEN

[@markviles852]

Thank you God.

[@xxxvibez9901]

Indeed this what it is.. God protecting u wisdom saves lives

[@kathasfaith7643]

Indeed! And I thank God daily because I did so much healing from my past wounds as a result of things he did to me during our relationship. I grew stronger and I ended the relationship. What a true blessing in disguise!

[@MsOnTop]

Angela Hamlett 🙌🏽

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

The narcissist is always looking for new person to give them a ego Boost.

[@donnaking3344]

UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS they’re weirdo rejects to a large degree. Scary kinda. So abnormal ya know.

[@jiggywititjiggywitit9247]

💩💬...so true the narcissist is typically an attention whore...and a control freak....male and female....by the way..🐨

[@dallasharris8753]

👍

[@bethwilson2286]

She is incredible

[@matthewweng8483]

@@jiggywititjiggywitit9247 absolutely.

[@andymath89]

"That new person is just another character in their show." Spot on!

[@jamesmuthiani5680]

Same script different cast!

[@acanarynamedrobyn4543]

James Muthiani like when they suddenly switched Darrins.

[@iniubongnkanga9390]

I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call [phone] or reach him on WhatsApp [phone] and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later...

[@josetorres6127]

andymath89 right on the money my brother

[@josetorres6127]

Kelli R. Morris How much did it cost

[@gracesanity6314]

They cant bare to be alone ever. Cause their lack of selfhood is unbearable. Your discarded cause another ( with low self worth) is ready. Poor in soul. Rejection is God's protection. Your blessed to be free.

[@tiayvette2048]

They will praise the person to everyone only to abuse them in private. So sad

[@priscahawinja2081]

Very true

[@pristinepaintworks7900]

Definitely

[@GoranZ1]

Yeah that's what my ex's rebound doesn't understand yet. Poor bastard.

[@manifestwisely]

Omg...constantly. My ex told me how he praised me to his coworkers etc...but yet somehow I was so horrible 🙄

[@urmomnightmarr3774]

Alot abuse

[@garyweston3269]

It isn't painful anymore. I am free. I am at peace. My narcissistic wife doesn't deserve me. I do not consider it a loss, as I gave her too many chances, chances that she squandered. She made her choice and chose her path. To abuse. To lie. To manipulate. I am happy. I will be happier. She will never, ever, find happiness. It is her curse, a curse of her disorder caused by her toxic upbringing. It is not my responsibility to fix an unfixable person. I cannot feel guilt, as it is not my guilt to bear. I did my best, tried my best. I tried too much frankly. I am now far stronger emotionally. Yes, I have PTSD. Yes, I was injured psychologically, emotionally, and physically by this person. However I know the cause. I know the solution. I am on a path to healing. Yes, it took time to reach this point. A lot of time. A lot of self reflection. A lot of education, time, and honesty with myself. My wife is fake. A false person who lives in a make believe world of her own. A toxic world. A world I am now free from.

[@ericking4072]

Gary Weston -GOOD for you.My wife of 13 years moved in w/her son(who I build houses with)about 200 feet away.She discarded about 7 mo.ago but said she's trying to work on"us".Last night was another night her car naver made it to the driveway...she's addicted to the bar scene again.The most painful part is the Grandson😔

[@Goldgirl1020]

i understand all of this ...grateful you are healed

[@bobhunley317]

Gary Weston That's where I'm at. I turn the tables and she ran scared.

"PRAISE GOD WE ARE FREE AND CAN HEAL NOW" 100%100%100%

[@andymath89]

I relate to your situation very much! Thank you for sharing those strong words

[@fallonrappaport5270]

Being discarded is actually a good thing, in hindsight!

[@MzShonuff123]

Yana Fallon it took me years to realize that. Getting away from him was the best thing that ever happened to me

[@angelac3788]

Yes!

[@Bailemos888]

am so happy I was discarded, I tried blocking on all social media and phone but it only triggered so much anger and threats and he would force me to friend him and unblock, finally one week he said he was going to block me and surprisingly he DID.

[@susancarr4783]

You were not really “discarded” - you actually did the “discarding” by not playing the game and taking the abuse anymore

[@jacquelinemeyers.churchoft1491]

In my case i 2as a spare. But in reality thete were 4 plays going on. 2 big er on and 3 smaller ones.

[@RHSSB]

Being married and discarded like I never existed and cheated on and physically abused...literally feels like, I am a piece of trash on the sidewalk, that everyone has walked past 100x. THE MOST PAINFUL FEELING IN MY 29 YEARS ON THIS EARTH!

[@troyannbladsacker1811]

RHSSB I feel the same way except I was married for 42 years. He abandoned me last year. I am 69 years old and not in the best of health. It is the most painful and cruelest thing I have ever gone through. The Bible says you reap what you sow. I wish no evil on him but this is a law that God has set in motion. God sees all the evil these monsters have done to us and eventually the dealings of God will begin in their lives. It is a fearful thing. We married as Christians. As their was no biblical reason to leave me unless he repents he will be living in adultery for the rest of his life. I was praying for him but after hearing a video from a Christian life coach I stopped because it made me dwell on him again. I pray for my son instead. God be with you. It is a nightmare that I never thought I would be going through.

[@mmommo10]

@@troyannbladsacker1811 survived 37 years....

[@troyannbladsacker1811]

@@mmommo10 God bless you.

[@meditation8905]

I know it's painful but you have to understand they never going to change ..it's difficult

[@deehyatt5173]

You have described me .. the pain and humiliation is so unbelievable.. seriously no one would believe this. I believe you.. I know others in my situation believe .. but anyone out of the path of one of these cruel humans won’t get how DEEP the abuse has gone 😓🥹😭

[@gregclark9733]

If they jump in a quick relationship if u ask me they been cheating with the person they got in a relationship with 🤷🏿‍♂️

[@winstonbanks1800]

That is true! That's why the narcissist can move on so fast. They are the prime example of having a plan B before leaving you.

[@gregclark9733]

@@winstonbanks1800 thats so true

[@randylee1721]

I've heard it put when she leaves the relationship if she isn't already riding a new pony, she's at least picked out the one shes going to cut out from the herd

[@dannystephenson4197]

I look back and she was running around behind my back. Working on 2 jobs and stayed focused on life. 24 years old and $30,00].00 in the bank. Almost told her, but didn't. I am happy in areas that she didn't know about. Thanks Jody !!!!!!!!

[@dannystephenson4197]

Thanks Jody, you are the greatest, after Jesus. Its a crying shame . I see these creature's out here and they are a dime a dozen. Stay focused and on your mission. If and when a good human comes along you will see their quality. Group outings are great ! Watch and study your desire. More group outings. Ask friends and associates is she or he worth the money, time and or effort.

[@diazrigau]

After 8 years of a loving relationship with a narcissist, I left. I left loving him, like I never loved another man. He went to a trip, I took him to the airport, we kissed, we made plans for me to pick him up days latter and I drove alone to my house. In my way home, something inside of me, bigger than me, said, this is it, I'm done. I never answered his phone calls, never gave him an explanation. The pain was horrible. I gosh him forever. Why so drastic? Because I was addicted to him and I knew if I talked to him, he would win me again. So I quit him, like I quit my addiction to cigarets, because I knew, they both will destroyed me at the end. I throw them to the garbage. Never looked back.

[@magalitellez4902]

I understand what you’re going through, I’m sending you so much love, you are so strong 🌸

[@koconutkirby4135]

Wish I could do this.. we have kids together and married

[@lonelyleo1883]

Very Nice, good for you. God Bless you.

[@seandavison266]

Omg I feel your pain. I walked away from my marriage still in love. But I couldn't do it anymore!!! She never apologized for anything. So I just walked

[@1blkbeauty79]

Amen! 🙏🏾

[@mayamassar4515]

It’s really a death. Yes. We actually had a funeral for the person I thought my ex was. This allowed me to mourn the loss of that fantasy person I loved, while maintaining the truth that I do NOT want anything to do with the actual human. It was very healing.

[@lorrainedcrus1417]

i think i need to do that

[@mayaandreaygrillomassar790]

@Claudia Vlahović thank you. It is something I offer participants in my workshops. But you can totally do this on your own. I have found it to be amazingly healing. Blessings to you.

[@ChinesewithRita]

Maya Massar waw. So true. All fantasy. Its fake

[@yaniaamber8600]

Love thé concept

[@michellebarnett5154]

So sadly very true

[@hydraulicz]

Was recently discarded by my wife for a guy she met through a dating app. It was the most painful feeling I've ever experienced. I'm so proud to have walked out on her. Took control of my own situation. She wanted me to stay home while she dates. How incredibly disrespectful. I'm on the road to recovery, made new friends, working out, and doing limited contact with her(we have children. I made a vow to take care of myself and children first, no one else. Despite her abusive remarks that are very painful, telling me she's happy with him and that I'm irresponsible. I've created a boundary that she couldn't possibly break. It's not easy on my end. I cry everytime. At the end of the day, I gained enough strength to finally leave the abusive person I really loved very much.

[@JorgeRodriguez-qi6lx]

May god bless you man. Or whatever you believe in.

[@josephmyatt7382]

Boy how I know your emotional pain and that deep hurt and believe me I have cried a many tears and even these days I still get emotional hurting and cry. I feel for you and want to let you know that you are not alone. Only thru a lot of prayer have I been able to get some sanity back. Believe me they love it and get off knowing the pain and hurt they caused us. These are cruel evil people and it’s sad to see who you loved like no tomorrow try to destroy you in anyway that they can. God bless you

[@90jagadish]

I will keep you in my prayers bro 🙏🙏🙏

[@abdoulas2326]

We've loved them sincerely, they don't deserve it, they let us down for somebody else, stranger else, thinking that's is for their own interests, but the reality of curse they work against their own interests by leaving us. That's the karma. We can find someone real and we can be happy and content. They never will. Trust me in that. We win exactly in the moment that we have been discarded. You are a good person, a loving one, me too. I was very very kind to her, i make her my world and she left me, she discarded my brother too, he was a good friend too her, she has no shame, she told him i have to unfriend you because i am with a new partner, i have to be serious in this relationshit hhhhhhhhhhhhh. When she was with me she had a 1000 friend on social media. They are sick people. I'm not angry, not hurt, they are not normal people, when you heal you gone have pity for her, we wish them peace, they are broken children, they are a victim of their mind (mechanisms defences). That's the reality. You have to take a step back and see the situation like this.

[@hairlessharescrambler56]

Same

[@rachaelcohens1512]

"A narcissist is an opportunist." Best, most simple description that says so much in not so many words! Thank you.

[@clairecole1736]

So bloody true

[@nicolebucell9276]

My God it just all made sense!!

[@aisakemucunabitu6088]

Totally agree. Narcassist always take advantage of any opportunity when they don't have to pay anything.

[@sherriflemming3218]

Indeed. Entitled and machevalian

[@casebycase_904]

You know what I realized? Even thinking that your narc is an opportunist and they could end up with something better is a residue of their gaslighting. They aren't that great of a catch, don't worry

[@DadTalksLive]

We live in a narcissistic society. Social media allows narcissistic people to get endless supply. All they have to do is post a new selfie and watch the supply pour in.

[@eolhc268]

Yep. Low on fuel

[@alexanderwalle3568]

People will say "pretty lady" because if you say nothing and scroll right past after they post themselves you're clearly disturbed.

[@matthewweng8483]

oh man, is that true... my ex is a covert narcissist, and Facebook is her primary mode of baiting in new supply... It's insane how the net creepers just crawl out and beg to be "chosen",,, The irony is she thinks she's an "empath" - Maladjusted INFJ more like it.

[@alexanderwalle3568]

They use social media and other platforms differently than the rest of us; I had little clue mine was using chat rooms when she mentioned them as we were splitting for her probably simply being unable to be alone, which made little sense, she is attractive and smart and can get anyone she wants, the trail of bodies making Stalin self-conscious.

[@Goldgirl1020]

Narcissism isn’t all about selfies though and there’s a difference between posting the occasional one and for self confidence purposes than posting frequently with your top half off etc very different. Especially if your single and no one around to take photos for you. Besides this a lot of narcissism does not relate to taking selfies. Look up covert / invert narcissism, my ex didn’t even like being photographed.

[@motowngirl5891]

They know exactly what they are doing, it's planned out the day they saw you, the new supply isn't new supply they were there all along

[@razasyeda6054]

Agreed

[@alizaquintanilla]

💯

[@d2svpcfp]

I believe this as well...

[@roryrichards9340]

@@johnnycivello362 Same boat. My ex wife did the same thing and recently have been spending more time together.

[@peterrakoma7613]

@@roryrichards9340 same here, infact my ex wife confessed that she was seeing her new supply way before our was born in 2018

[@Dustandfuzz]

That’s great. It’s a compliment if a narcissist leaves you. Never thought of it like that. Also if you have to leave the narcissist. You are giving yourself some value. It is painful either way.

[@jenlahr]

Two years after ending a narcissistic marriage with a child and being mostly healed from it. This is so true. I’ve saw my ex husband with his new wife at our child’s birthday and had a blast from the past and realized that he hadn’t changed at all. I realized that his very pregnant new wife looked the way I used to feel. It’s incredible. While I was shunned from his family at the party, I felt as though I was the happiest one there (next to a four year old with cake) and everyone knew it. The best part of all, I didn’t care at all.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Jen Lahr,you don't deserve to be with a narc 😈 cause you are too beautiful! 🌹🌷🌷

[@issavirgo6079]

You go girl 👍🏾

[@babyjdad]

Did his family turn on you and go cold? I had a 10 year relationship with one and caught her cheating. Her family turned cold really fast on me . Wanted to see if you had the same experience

[@jenlahr]

@@babyjdad I don’t know. I wasn’t close to his family and semi couldn’t stand them.

[@adrienebuford750]

The friends we had shunned me too. Even though they knew he was cheating and abusive. But thank God I know who they really are now.

[@threethrushes]

Reading these comments it is incredible how many hurt individuals are floating in a boundless sea of pain, misery, and suffering. I hope people find peace in their lives in 2019.

[@jamesmuthiani5680]

Maaaan I'm here in 2019...am the new kid on the block, hurt, broken and trying to pull myself back up!

[@jedi40loot28]

It's painful... Then finding out after years of struggling with these demons

[@selam12ful]

For me it is a great comfort to know so many others actually have gone through what im going through. At least im not going crazy as he often tells me. Thank You for speaking up.

[@robinmartin7835]

I’m a latecomer to this channel, and currently going through you-know-what. I hope all of you here are finding peace and moving forward, and away from the pain. Yes, we all deserve better. All of us. Maybe this is a gift to help us recognize this about ourselves. ❤️

[@wadecahill6001]

I'm new to this channel, I found it awesome, I went to hell and back after my ex dumped me after a 27 year relationship, you have no freaging idea what I've been thru, I wanted to die, however I have since found a partner who was meant for me and I didn't ever think I could say this but what that narcissist did to me was the best thing that ever happened to me, I wish anyone who is reading this would please believe me that things happen for a reason and you WILL find someone a million times better

[@hermosanenaxo10]

“You loved yourself enough to say ‘no matter how much i love you, i love me first and im not putting up with this anymore’ and no matter how many times you went back and forth you at some point stood your ground and said ‘i deserve better and im gona get better’” this really hit home for me.

[@Maria-gd4vf]

exactly what I did!

[@marswmnwhoever1365]

I think the thing that haunts me the most is that he claimed he loved me the most, we had known each other long time, families knew each other all sorts of entanglements in life. Yet I know that he gave others in past things I wanted...I got dirt and crumbs. I know he wont change.

[@marymontez6658]

H

[@_justjazzii_]

😭😭😭

[@marymontez6658]

I dont love no o e

[@dannymcclure2891]

A Narc doesn't even have a healthy relationship with their self therefore it's impossible for them to have a healthy relationship with others. It starts with self. Thanks for helping to raise awareness 🙏

[@Taylorlynnhansen]

I’ve always felt the discard was the biggest favor he ever did me👍

[@kathasfaith7643]

I would venture to guess it is the ONLY favor he ever did for you. :) @Taylor Lynn Hansen

[@esiahyousocool3740]

I have said that exact same thing it was the biggest favor he ever did to me!

[@godsfavorite1623]

Me too I was dreaming about it

[@teresianaigulevu5623]

❤❤❤❤

[@PNBBikes1977]

Being discarded has been life changing. It has been the most difficult experience of my life. 18 years, a dream wedding, a dream house and two beautiful children only to be thrown away was heart breaking. HOWEVER, this experience has also been the catalyst for the life changing realizations that I really needed to connect with my true self. For those going through a similar experience with a selfish narcissistic please please keep watching these videos and maybe read a few books. But always learn and keep moving forward. Learn to find yourself once again and to love yourself once again. Heal your wounds from within.

[@phoenixrising5205]

Thanks Noel, I'm guessing that much like myself that you also had to walk away from your dream house and to somehow find the strength to start again alone?

[@retake1697]

We are in same boat buddy. Stay strong and love yourself first.

[@SR-qg7hw]

22 yrs of the same

[@narcsurvivorbygodsgrace827]

18 years , 5 children, 5 c-sections...discarded for a 24 year old vile woman. Now he wants me back, because hey! He is changed! Oh well, I am now Mrs A. FOREVER!!!!

[@starlingswallow]

YES!!! You hit the nail on the head! It was me finally living myself and seeing myself clearly that helped me leave!

[@susanmerry9689]

My heart goes out to his new partner .its sad to think she has no idea what’s coming . They end yoor joy in life .

[@malindaallen718]

Stop that thought train now! Stop thinking about him. Stop empathizing with her. Focus on building your own life.

[@susanmerry9689]

@@malindaallen718 thank you

[@debienright8642]

I agree 100% with you

[@susanmerry9689]

@@malindaallen718 I agree with you but after 14 yrs of being divorced he still tries to enter my life always in a negative manner

[@normarobinson5956]

Thank that Jezabel for taking your narcissist she will make him miserable n treat him like a puppet thank God I had a profetíc dream n I see him destroyed at the end miserable lonely n his eyes dried out and crusted from crying n the woman put to shame . God of vengeance n justice for all of you who been thru this pain God will Avenge you in his time he’s in control

[@YakobtoshiNakamoto]

When you said being discarded is like your partner has died that is so true! When I was discarded by my ex gf I was a wreck and a family member told me, “It’s not the end of the world, it’s not like someone has died” but to me it really did feel like that. Especially as I had the whole love bombing/soulmate/future faking show.

[@justxjxskmxjjdijdjdk8560]

honestly things happen for reasons. choices

[@tluangteiichhakchhuak2985]

.. Rest of us deal with the damage while they move on.. The worst part is when they don't even understand how much wound they could cause and would proclaim that we are just over sensitive.. After more than a year of him moving on.. He had the audacity to check out on me saying that he want the best for me.. And that he pray for me to have the best things in life.. While he gave me all worst abusive emotional and physical damage during thos years with him.. So manipulative don't you think so?.. I suffered.. It was PTSD purely.. A grief over someone dead.. Because tbh we are finally out of the relationship whether they dump us or we leave them.. It doesnt matter. What matter the most is that we don't want to be with them anymore, but cutting them out of our life and cleaning those messed up trauma bonds when we ourself are wounded is a whole different thing.. Being dumped by abusive narcissitic ex is painful than us dumping them because if you are the one leaving them, at least you have some strength/support left in you to leave them. But if you stayed till the end, the damage to the ego and self-esteem is there as well.

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Future faking and Gaslighting did it for me. 5 years...I left..

[@thomasgrabowski2202]

yeah I got that shit too. Like it sucks. awful I did everything for her mayb eI wasn't the wrong dude? I don't know....I really don't know. I can just feel teh toxicity even coming within her reach. It just oozes out of her, but she's young and immature so maybe she doesn't even know what she's doing. (I'm just giving her the benefit of the doubt ) but it's just weird being dumped LOL like I didn't see this coming. Felt VERY blindsided for sure VERY blindsided.....

[@JChristo1984]

It's the worst. I was discarded by my ex who monkey branched & overlapped. She was seeing another dude while still seeing me. Finally, just a ghost after still pretending everything was normal. Complete blindside with no closure. The thing that makes it the worst is she fell for a facebook orbiter that we have known for decades. He claims to be an empath, but he didn't have any empathy for me. Good luck orbiter. Get ready for the big show.

[@ladyfriend082]

This literally just hit my heart right where I needed it to, my narcissistic ex of 7 years just moved onto his new supply and is doing EVERYTHING YOU DESCRIBED.. flaunting her all over “she’s the one “ blah blah .. and my ego was hurt, but you are RIGHT, it never was love, or respect. It was all an act. And I am in this healing state where I’m really trying to be kind, and patient with myself, and KNOW I deserve so much more. Thank you again.

[@ladyfriend082]

They are diseased, but will never be able to identify that they have ISSUES. .. he was always right. Lol.. just crazy how eye opening this has been. Ignoring ted flags, dismissing my intuition.. NEVER AGAIN. Keep your videos coming, knowledge is power. Thank you, you are a light l.

[@huyter664]

Same situation! Ghosted me after almost 7 years for someone he says he met in county jail?! In all actuality im much better off without him but I have to co-parent with this man which makes this so much harder!! I was never given an explanation an apology nothing! He is 150% a narcissist!

[@denisecounts5381]

The new relationship won't last, it's a broken record or a never-ending story.

[@jiggywititjiggywitit9247]

💩💬...the new partner...is just a new victim....

[@twnkletoes5233]

Courtney Blake I’m right where you are right now. I’ve been screamed at I’m figuring out it was because she made him feel all this great emotional awesomeness that I made him feel bad for who he was or did when all I’ve ever done is love him I was a mom and wife I took care of them. But when he wanted to start his own business I got a job once then another time I started school to have money to pay the bills so he could continue his business. If he worked a factory job he couldn’t deal with someone who was over him and told him what to do. So I did whatever I needed to make him happen. I’m tired of the hurt I’ve prayed and prayed for God to be in control.

[@johnparadise3134]

8:14 “When a discard happens it is actually such a compliment to yourself…”

[@sarah_siki]

this was the boost i needed

[@ashikalanser9033]

That is genius!

[@eshadhanju4798]

John Paradise discard by a narc means that they know they will not be able to abuse you again after this. It means they acknowledge your intelligence and boundaries which are stronger than their initial tactics.

[@johnparadise3134]

@@eshadhanju4798 Then I am one of the happily discarded! 🙂❤️

[@eshadhanju4798]

John Paradise- me too.. feel so much relief that the mask is off but I question myself how could I let it happen at first place.

[@patmanchester8045]

Just remember, the new person is very apt to be jealous of YOU. They hear all about how bad you were, but also how good you were. Just as you learned everything about those who came before you the next one will learn about you.( "Oh she used to get me a cake at work for my birthday", She liked the ear rings I got for her, why don't you?") Give them time, they will hear how wonderful you were just as how awful you were.

[@aayonce4]

Sooo trueee

[@ilianam453]

Honestly very true!

[@deararee]

💯truth

[@GlambitiousGirlYT]

Pat Manchester this is so true

[@Thefitmarquee]

Pat Manchester wow!! I didn’t know that. The new woman told me all the awful things he said about me. She also threatened me not to talk to him anymore too. Two crazies lol

[@DoesItTho]

Was discarded by a covert narc. Was so hooked by that shell of a human’s charade that I nearly hit rock bottom. But I soon realized my life did not fall apart, it actually fell in to place. I can’t believe how much energy I have, how much clearer thinking I am and most importantly every day I look in the mirror I see a more beautiful, and healthier man than the previous day. Their endless selfishness actually did save my life. What a crazy paradox 🙌🏼

[@zarrayaya]

Don’t open their social media. Don’t even see your blocked list. They will flaunt their new supply. Self control is the key. Don’t ever look back until you fully emotionally detached. Understand more about NPD abuse and healing co-dependency. November was the 4th time I got hoovered back. I’ve learned so much from the previous discards. Burn the bridge. No contact forever!!!

[@SpyderBlackOfficial]

Same here Nov 3rd..

[@zarrayaya]

Sukhi Rai keep moving forward! 💪🏽💕

[@zarrayaya]

Beloved Royalty Yaz💪🏽💝

[@Incognitofrito1]

Even once you are emotionally healed, if you have zero reason to look at their social media (such as pictures of your child together, if that!) DON'T DO IT. Why put yourself through any of that...

[@zarrayaya]

GiGi You’re right😊

[@donnymitchell101]

I dated a narcissist on and off for 3 years. Lack of empathy they discard everyone . It was brutal They need a constant supply that's why they bounce from person to person.

[@marciachristina9513]

Very true

[@eyeoffthetiger2691]

My ex discarded me and went straight to his ex..The discard was a blessing.

[@hotrodbuddies7379]

Narc Alert my ex did the same thing

[@eyeoffthetiger2691]

@@hotrodbuddies7379 We are better off. The trash took itself out...

[@lisacota7914]

Mine too

[@deborraholiveri6202]

Narc Alert lol so did mine. I was his third wife..he discarded me to go back to his first wife. I'm sorry but I now understand and find it amusing and pathetic.

[@deborraholiveri6202]

Ron Krofta so did mine !!!

[@thatkatt_]

I’m not going to lie.. I know my pain is no different than anyone else who has been in this type of abusive relationship but this video has been the only thing that has helped me get through my darkest thoughts. The level of understanding she has helped me see is the closure I needed to really end the cycle I was in. I hope anyone reading this stays strong and I send you love.

[@eternalfaith4622]

Totally agree with you! 10 years 2 beautiful kids raised hers aswell. Still sees me as his dad ironic that and says he's moved out because he can't take her behaviour and I'm the bad one lol. Sleep deprivation. Anxiety depression loss etc etc. Stephanie's videos are soothing

[@debimary6812]

Thank you. This was the advice I needed. I am starting to wake up to the real facts now.

[@sha1485]

That part where you mentioned "Discard feels almost like a Death", I resonated with that a lot. I remember when it actually happened to me a year ago, I couldn't describe what I was feeling to a friend. But the word "death" felt so accurate and apt, so I just said "it feels like death". It was so painful. Something just snatched away from me.

[@mercedeswalker7819]

Exactlyyyyyyyyyy!!!!!

[@Karlien68]

The same here....8 months ago...still healing. The shock to my system was horrible...death indeed

[@YakobtoshiNakamoto]

Exactly the same here! Just made a comment about that actually

[@TheRebelCoach]

Yesss

[@joysynmonds9082]

In a way it is a death. Not only the assassination of a relationship, it leaves you to re-build an empty (but peaceful) life from the bottom up. I have harboured my love for him for 50+ years. But pointless!

[@sbcruiser2]

Keep an eye on someone that doesn't clap when you win a battle for them.

[@butterflyonapearl207]

sbcruiser2 Ong that's so true been there

[@sbcruiser2]

@@butterflyonapearl207 rapidnet.com/~jbeard/bdm/Psychology/pk/pk-fea.htm

[@sbcruiser2]

@@butterflyonapearl207 rapidnet.com/~jbeard/bdm/Psychology/pk/pk.htm

[@Bargains20xx]

Thats the greatest piece of advice

[@matthewweng8483]

really well said... bravo.

[@julielouks9360]

This is so true!! My heart was shattered. Almost 2 years later and I’m just starting to heal!

[@monah3477]

4 years still haven't heal and he got married to someone else.

[@tayadawn4161]

@@monah3477 just remember that won't last and good redden

[@deniseschweiss3949]

I want to break away in my head We do not live in same city.Every day I get stronger!

[@thea9307]

It's been almost 9 years. And I'm still healing from that abuse.

[@958342]

@@thea9307 wow! I am so sorry. How long were you with the beast for? Sending you mighty strength

[@amethystessence]

To anyone reading this, a narcissist does not need to stay in your life. Protect your self-confidence, self-worth and mental health. Thank you so much for this important video.

[@eaglespy72]

Contact Fred, EAGLE SPY Hacker Via text , call or Whatsapp : [phone] to help you out OR via Email : [e-mail] I am here to talk about my Experience, we were married for about 10 years with 4 kids ,to be honest no one really deserves to be cheated upon and I believe smartness is essential in any relationship, my worst experience was discovering my 7 years cheating Narcissist husband through the help of an hacker who helped cloned his cell and i got access to all his Call logs, Text messages, Whats-app, Facebook, Messenger, I-cloud, GPS location, Kik, Snap-chat, Instagram, Skype, Twitter, Email and Social media chat, i was able to read both his new and deleted messages without touching it. I was hurt when i saw a picture of my husband and his lover, i felt so bad about infidelity. I’m here in Califonia, USA and was able to access his phone anonymously while he was away cheating in canada and saw all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned . He also does hacking for child support / divorce evidences for court hearing or any other type of hacking and retrieval of data. His services are trusted and guaranteed and also affordable. Contact Fred, EAGLE SPY Hacker Via text , call or Whatsapp : [phone] to help you too OR [e-mail]. ,,]...]///

[@michelekawamura1357]

I can enjoy knowing he can’t feel. I can enjoy knowing he’s empty inside. I enjoy knowing he’s incapable of having a real relationship. Dear god, she can have him.

[@victoriagaray9041]

Going through it right now and I have to say it’s the most saddest thing I’ve ever felt.

[@rebeccalavoy6655]

Victoria, how are you doing now? Yes, the sadness can be overwhelming. Healing comes with it's ups and downs. My ex showed his true colors and it was quite ugly. Despite this, my heart is deeply saddened for him. No matter how much I think that I hate him, I just can't. My eyes are fully open but I see a lost, pathetic, and doomed man. He is responsible for his actions. How did I expect him to treat me well, when he has no self respect. I wanted to shake him, wake him up from this negative reality that he is in. They bring themselves down and try to take you with them. As the saying goes, misery likes company.

[@rebeccalavoy6655]

@Robert Drake...The support of caring people helps with the healing process.

[@aayonce4]

Are you okay sweetie it is tough!!! But you WILL get through it !

[@slaveofAllah919]

it heartsssssss

[@sheilaflores5473]

The most healing phrase was told to me by my ex's mother: "Baby, I know it hurts." Just acknowledging my feelings was more healing than people who would say "let me know if you need anything" but not actually do anything to help me.

[@henrymartyn]

3 yrs later she contacted me. Now with someone else, and he was the “perfect man” --but still wanted to connect. Narcissists don’t change.

[@NickRyanBayon]

Holy shit "no matter how weak you are they could never break you down." Mind blown

[@TheRebelCoach]

That’s what I said

[@logannichole_304]

I know it will get better, but at the moment, it is painful.

[@huyter664]

Same here, Logan! It is very painful. Getting no explanations or an "im sorry" or a sign that he is even hurting at all!! And i still have to see this man because we have a child together 💔

[@NamasteDivineFem4]

So very painful!! I'm currently 8 months pregnant by one and he recently got a new gf and he's flaunting her and looking so Happy and content. I'm second guessing myself so much. I hope things get better soon.

[@MrPsycd]

It hurts like nothing else. I've been cheated on, lied to, everything you've seen in romcom. nothing hurts like a covert female narc.

[@nursevee76]

prayers prayers and more its not you it them ........ as soon as you accept this you be fine I got over my narc husband of 5 years in 2 mos..... I loved him and still have a some love for him but I love GOD and ME more .... you are pretty ... MOVE ON..... Narcs hate positive strong people .....

[@logannichole_304]

@@nursevee76 Thank you for the encouragement :)

[@juliavega26]

I haven't been able to move forward. I take 1 step forward and then take 2 back. It's the most painful experience of my life

[@lioydwilliams1850]

Julia Vega, you deserve better

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Julia Vega,you deserve better 🙏🙏🙏

[@alij917]

its been 6 months since u posted this comment and im wondering how are u doing now?

[@danilosantos2217]

Como vc esta agora ??

[@beatricezamora1019]

You are a beautiful soul and you deserve better, seek God and he will help you. ♥️

[@sammyrheerhee3582]

I shutdown my narcissist before I even knew he was one. He almost broke me, had me confused and saying I need mental evaluation lol Whatever he thought of me, that's what he was. Thank God I'm a strong person. I'm not going to block him, I'm leaving him there for him to see how happy I am

[@lorrained9374]

Mine told me to get help too..and I actually thought I needed it and went!! How sad is that?

[@Goldgirl1020]

Exactly and they project themselves that way.

[@mzm2644]

Yep.. So did mine. He said I need medication. And that I have problems. They really want to plant seeds to make you believe you've lost your marbles. Thank GOD! he discarded me!! It hurt because no one has ever done that to me before. But a huge weight was lifted and I have my life back again. NO MORE NARCISSISTIC SUPPLY.

[@miaperez7964]

Sammy Rhee Rhee good for you

[@Bargains20xx]

Lol she said i needed a therapist and i was like - Really I need a therapist and i didnot say anything coz i knew if i told her that she is the crazy one as she had been told by others it would hurt her real bad. I stayed quiet . And then somehow i came over the subject of narcissism and i swear to god she matches almost all criterias , like 95% of all that i have read and heard.

[@edriley2703]

When the narcissist moves on to their new supply, thinking they've won the first place trophy, it's only to their own demise when they realize that their first place supply - turns out to be a "participation " medal.

[@GavinsMarineMom]

Last night was a sleepless nightmare, imagining him with his new supply, living happily ever after. All the while convincing myself that I must have been the problem. This video was a God-send, a reminder that I am concocting an unrealistic fantasy about how things are with him in his new life without me. Thank you, Stephanie. I feel so much more at peace after listening to what you had to say. ❤

[@GavinsMarineMom]

@Robert Drake thank you

[@narcsurvivorbygodsgrace827]

You are not the problem. Pain is just weaknesses leaving the soul. Watch Rc Blakes on KZbin. Watch Narcology unscripted and become a Mrs. A... You got this. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

[@lioydwilliams1850]

Melanie G, you deserve better

[@Edifyudig123]

Especially when they didnt take any time to heal in between they just immediately move on.

[@deborahsunflower939]

Yes! I felt like the women in his life just had different faces.

[@lioydwilliams1850]

Edifyudig123, you look stunning

[@Edifyudig123]

@@lioydwilliams1850 Thank you.

[@lioydwilliams1850]

@@Edifyudig123 you are welcome my dear.I am Lioyd from the States.You?

[@lioydwilliams1850]

@@Edifyudig123 which country are you from?

[@agonz1979]

I'm so glad that I found you on here! I was recently discarded from my narcissistic husband of almost 2 years. He is currently seeing someone. It happened as soon as he kicked me out. The past few months have been like a nightmare dealing with all the temper tantrums. Being discarded did hurt but it is a blessing in disguise. I am still struggling but I have supportive family and friends, and even his family that are helping me get through it. When I first started watching your videos I was so shocked to hear you. It was like you were living with me and knew my husband. It's sad and nice to know I'm not alone. Your words are very encouraging. 💜

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

We are not alone… We have all experienced the same thing.. or perhaps similar to what you have.

[@stevebaxter1302]

I was discarded after 31 years together (25 married, 2 kids), the supply was someone she met at work and knew a few weeks. He has he of 2 relationships with married women, but both eventually dumped him. It’s a very long story but the lies, the emotional, psychological and in the end physical attacks on my son and myself was enough. She stood in court and refused the judges orders to have shared custody of daughter. When she left the final time on her own ( I had kicked her out twice) she screamed that WE , the kids and I ruined her life. She filed for divorce, I countered and she paid me 2.5 yrs of child support. Anyway there is a lot more details but the point I want to make is I found a forum back in 2009 ( the nightmare started in 2008) run by a life coach that saved my sanity. I listen to many narc videos but especially like Stephanie. I am almost 10 yrs post discard, 8.5 yrs post divorce, remarried, dug out of the financial pot she left me with, my kids have graduated college and have great careers, and are on their own, and in hindsight her dumping me was the best thing for us. My son has not seen nor have any contact with his mother for 8.5 yrs. Her mental status is worsening and lives in a concocted fantasy land. She married the jerk 3 yrs ago, has moved 6x, lives in a rental house, works 2 jobs, he works for minimum wage, he is broke, lives off her, and she finances fantasy land with 17 credit cards. Her mother and younger sister are both similar but they are not financially abusive. I did a lot of counseling with therapists, but the best info was from the forum I found and videos from folks like Stephanie. I have been no contact for almost 6 yrs, but hear about her thru grapevine. There is hope and life after the nightmare

[@Louie_777]

We're on the same situation. . It's really painful, until now I can't move on. ..

[@carolnolen1671]

Steve Baxter story of my life too. My ex husband eventually took his own life last year. He was on wife #6 at the time. I was #2. We divorced in 1992 but the pain he inflicted, not only to me was monumental. Financially he owed me back child support, lost his parents home to a loan he received and never even tried paying back, hurt many people in different ways through out the years and blamed #6 for his death. Never apologized to his kids or said he loved them. Matter of fact, didn’t even mention them in his suicide letter. Anyway, best of luck to you. It’s not so bad being dumped by a narcissist. 😃

[@Siennaceb77]

Im currently going through separation from my narc husband. He was having an affair with this woman for over 2 months and he only told me he was finished with me just over 2 weeks ago. I had to find out for myself about this other woman and the truth of their relationship. the amount of lies were unbelievable! To my face! Repeatedly! After giving him chance after chance to just be honest! He has since kicked me out of our home, I've got our 2yr old daughter with me at my dad's house and he has moved his new girlfriend and her daughter into our home straight away! Now he is demanding that i give him our daughter. It's like he has worked it so he has everything he told me he wanted to leave but now has only replaced me... and left me out with nothing and blames me for being at fault Im still struggling with how to cope. I haven't even seen a lawyer yet and I'm so scared of what lies he is going to come up with in court. Right now, all i can think about is keeping my daughter safe. I could care less about the house right now but im still scared of what is yet to happen.

[@michellem.8705]

Just got discarded after 9 years of up and downs in my narcissist relationship. I feel like I gave my all but in the end it still wasn’t enough. Thank you for these videos. ❤️

[@laverdadesmejor]

WOW! Mine was only a year & one half. From so many I have heard about, I was one of the luckier ones. I hope you are now doing well and don't fall back into their "trap". Watching these videos has helped me immensely!

[@TheRebelCoach]

It was enough for you and for the right person but for the narc never

[@nicolekulikowski2401]

omg girl SAME. tried literally everything. Wasn't enough.

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

Michelle, 15 years with my Toxic Ex Narc Girlfriend.The more I gave the Less I got. Guess what its there LOSS. Believe and Move on. They don't deserve Us.

[@eternalfaith4622]

Pray you find you! And stay smiling trooper!

[@lja1229]

I can't let go of the fact I was so stupid to fall in love with such a heartless, soulless human being. I can't let go that he is this way... fml

[@lioydwilliams1850]

Lindsey Fette, you deserve better

[@nanat9178]

They pretended to be kind empathetic, in order to get you to love them, before they showed their true self....

[@dmarie11385]

I am so thankful for these videos. I had my first discard and serial narc, didn't know I have a pattern of attracting narcs! At least I'm not alone and it is making me stronger. 💪

[@lja1229]

@@dmarie11385 it was the hardest thing I've ever been through, loving a narcissist. They are pure evil...

[@_Febi19]

I'm suffering for 6 years from my monster evil narc. He walked away from me many times but I still wanna be with him. I love him so deeply😭

[@nekodaphillips382]

I'm shattered and crushed. Somehow I will survive this.

[@michaelheinz8888]

Stay strong and keep your head up

[@swsuno2880]

Time is your best friend, you'll come out wiser and stronger. The worlds full of not so good people, your eyes are open now.

[@noufabuljadayel720]

Nekoda Phillips you will just know ur worth u deserve the best and much more than them u deserve love .. bless up rebuild ur self you can do it I believe in you :)

[@aayonce4]

You are sooo much better than that narc!!! They brainwashed you and now you have to clean your system out!!! Meditation and spoiling yourself are great things i used to get over my thoughts of inadequacy

[@carriedillmann4455]

Of course you will survive It does take time Take one day at a time and heal with these videos and knowing you are not alone !!!!!!!!!!! Look forward Be strong

[@daunkintzer5212]

God please give me the strength to walk away & heal. This is so true and makes me so sick.

[@soniamart937]

I discard my narcissistic almost a year ago, I hate him, when I see him it triggers me , the ptsd is so strong , us I have Bpd, he has a new gf I know her , she has a lot of problems, I feel heart broken all over again, why , I want to heal .

[@anhthai7550]

Me too

[@yathome5596]

EXACTLY! We get to a place where we are no longer with them. It’s brutal to cut the cord because it’s almost like an addiction. Once I was done I was DONE.

[@alyssawoodman]

It is a addiction. Look into this. The chemicals released in your brain during a abusive relationship are as potent as heroin and cocaine.

[@erinpaton0112]

Exactly

[@flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel]

Yesssss

[@briziliohall38]

Because I’m an empath and I’m always forgiving, I continuously watch these videos , so I do not forget the evil the CN Ex GF bestowed upon me. Thank you Stephanie for all that you do!!!

[@lilibethestrella3355]

ify

[@ArtandKitchen_]

I dont know how to move on from the trauma. Its like half of me is dead. He destroyed my life. 💔😭

[@lovejonez7286]

It will get better trust the process in time you will heal it may take a while but fully feel the pain so you can find the love you deserve

[@SuperCookie011]

You are alive. He missed out on a beautiful person and you did not have children or waste your life with someone who would never appreciate you without deliverance. Pray and ask for God’s help. One day at a time. Be thankful!

[@renep7008]

Been there, just keep living, in time your pain will be manageable.

[@ArtandKitchen_]

@TV Eyes Salvy why for him its still my fault. He did this and that because of me.

[@ArtandKitchen_]

@TV Eyes Salvy until n ow he keeps on coming back... how can I stop being kind to him

[@sandrachavez2447]

Rejection then become a BLESSING....🙏

[@qjust4340]

@@victoriadorgu3207 That's great! all these past 4 years..my ex narcs and accomplices kept hacking my docs WA etc and libel n blocked my ip.thnx

[@edhead54]

I saved a lot of money and stress being discarded.. If you can get over the separation anxiety quickly you are definitely going to appreciate having your peace and sanity back.. I pray y’all are fortunate to get out before having kids or getting married like I did.. From the nightmare I experienced I can only imagine how much worse it could of gotten for me.. I dodged a huge bullet and I am more than thankful and blessed to have.. Let them go and allow them to find someone else to do it to.. Karma will find them but I will not be there to see it..

[@debimary6812]

I think they'll get worse. We'll probably see them in a news report.

[@edhead54]

@@debimary6812 At this point if she ends up on the news I most likely won’t see it.. I don’t even watch TV.. The thought of her still come to mind everyday but I finds ways to shake it off because all it is now is just a day dream and all I would be doing is hurting myself by selling myself false hope..

[@millwallfan06]

What I’m Intrigued about, is if (us) genuinely was a extremely nice person to them and gave them everything and said all the right things. Will they see it one day and go F*ck!! ? And by then it’ll be too late

[@millwallfan06]

@@Rodderz1 yeah I agree. I believe she’ll regret the loving I gave her. The shoulder to cry on. The money, the kids I have her. The stability. Future plans, the security. The genuine honesty. I just plan on having some satisfaction later down the line on her agreeing she regrets

[@millwallfan06]

@@Rodderz1 thank you so much for these replies! You didn’t need to spend your time messaging a stranger but you did! It means a lot.

[@Sash_SHA]

Being discarded hurts like crazy. I like that you shared a perspective that I had been feeling. That I was discarded because I'm NOT weak, but stood in my true self and couldn't be "broken". Thank you, Stephanie. Your channel has become a part of my gaining the wisdom I need to continue growing, loving, and filling myself with the love I deserve!

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

❤️

[@lioydwilliams1850]

Christina Door, you deserve better

[@petronelazilik4342]

God Bless you and thank you for your life God is using you very well Praying for you

[@michellesorenson1292]

"Kick me when I down" is his favorite. Well, hurting me in ANYWAY, and EVERY WAY, He has told me "He gets off on making me suffer."

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

You see to these people when someone suffering and they caused it it really makes him feel important. That sounds so sick and twisted but that really is the reality. Are you reacting in anyway with that anger or pain or suffering that feeds into the ego that they matter and they exist.

[@artisticwhistleblower1756]

DUMP. HIM.

[@MzShonuff123]

Mine used to come home and tell me the details of his cheating just to see me get upset, which he would then later say was proof I was too emotional and clingy.

[@ericking4072]

Michelle Bourdon WOW.....AND U R DROP DEAD GORGEOUS!

[@carolloraine223]

Lose the Loser and never look back!! The pain will be in the past....leave it behind and focus on YOU! 😉

[@JamieMarie23]

Sounds about right. He got with someone a few days literally after our "breakup" and my gut was telling me something was off.

[@TheRebelCoach]

Mine too

[@Yoshibelle615]

but they been there my ex had to gfs i didn’t know about lol now i know and i’m cool with it he says you acting different you gonna fight etc. i said nope i am different this is after he cheated on her with me before i knew he had a gf

[@EwinDuck]

Mine too 😭

[@dnlperth8243]

Always always trust your intuition. My intuition radar is so freaky accurate...never wrong. When my gut says something is off...YEP!!!

[@debimary6812]

Mine was 3 weeks later. I think he wanted to make me jealous. I showed no reaction.

[@mariahernadez9702]

“I deserved better!” Grieving the death of my ex relationship is very difficult 😥 thank you 🙏🏼 for your channel & this amazing supportive community 🦋

[@carriedillmann4455]

I was cruelly discarded by my ex narc for his ex wife ( they were married and divorced twice) whose name is Stephanie. It is difficult to see your name however I continue to watch you because your information is more important than your name. This alone shows how far I have come in my healing process .

[@katv8407]

Same. Was discarded for his wife that he kept hidden from me for a while. She had the audacity to try to come at me tho 😒

[@katv8407]

Same. Was discarded for his wife that he kept hidden from me for a while. She had the audacity to try to come at me tho 😒

[@shaniecegullison]

Love this comment You are getting through this Absaloutely understand That probably is a trigger for you But recognizing it is key and your already there

[@vintagebabyseventythree6244]

Isn’t that weird. I now detest the name Olivia because that’s who I was discarded for. No offence to any Olivia’s reading this, I’m sure you’re lovely. It’s just one of the many f’d up things that happens to us as a result of toxic people. I’m sure my exes ex detests my name to.

[@D.Cunejo66]

Narcissism should be a mental disease! I am living a nightmare, praying for peace, through Psam 91.

[@adamwigginss]

when you said " you loved yourself enough to say 'no matter how much I love you I love me first and I'm not putting up with this anymore" That hit home. The day I finally called her out on her emotionally abusive tactics and told her something has to change because this can't continue that was the day I got discarded.

[@shatabditamang9814]

They're inconsiderate when it comes to your feeling...i had an ex that kept on keeping me in the grey area where nothing was clear...when I asked what was it that was going on, He either lied down and slept or started organising his room...and it followed by me crying and him coming up to say "you're mine, don't worry, give me some space".... I know what giving space feels like... This was the guy I had given my everything to and I needed assurance ... I never got any.... Been through all the verbal and emotional abuse when I tried to stand for myself.... He discarded me told me that I was the problem, I caused him trauma, that I was there with him for benefits, that I was the one harassing him ...He got into a new relationship, and yes not only he discarded me for standing for myself he kicked and spat my emotional spot... It took so much of time for me to come back for I had lost my connection with myself... I have cried for months day and night with blue and greens on my body.... Now with each day I feel like I am being saved by God as I've walked away, blocked him and moving on

[@jessejanssennavarro6211]

I just came out of a very abusive narcissistic relationship. When you said that they will move on and stay in a longer relationship to show the outside world it's not their fault something clicked: he always wanted to hide me/the relation from everyone, even mutual friends and he said it's because he has had many relationships and wanted to see where it goes before making it public. This never made sense to me but now I see that it's because he didn't want anyone to know for when he'd discard me, just as he did with his many previous relationships. Luckily, I started setting those boundaries really fast and let him go.

[@worldmeta_beatz8094]

Exactly to the T of what my ex did and said to me. Always keeping me on a distance string. Well let’s see where it goes and every time I pushed for counseling she would pull away and before you knew it she was saying you want a divorce you want a divorce. It was the most hellish relationship I’ve ever experienced.

[@zoestallone9582]

🌼🌿God Gave Me The Strength To Walk Away 🙏

[@Live4GOD724]

Me too, but I ran like HELL🏃‍♀️💨💨💨💨💨💨

[@transformationalhealingthe4405]

Same x

[@michaeljackson7361]

Congratulations

[@kangarookisses5046]

Same here.

[@natureandphysics403]

"Worship me or burn in pain forever" is the ultimate narcissist.

[@johnnoschese7194]

I was the new person at one point for her. When we met she was 2 months out of a "toxic and abusive" relationship. We lasted 8 years, engaged for less than 1, she discarded me. She'll keep the cycle going though, what Stephanie is saying is 100% true!

[@carolloraine223]

THEY REPEAT THEIR CRAP TO THE NEXT VICTIM AND THE NEXT......NO Loyalty to ANYONE. What a very good thing to be away from all of it!! Their soulmate??... is with themselves... and the Mirror. Lol

[@bxndo5ive]

Carol Loraine My ex always preached on how he wanted someone loyal like constantly and he couldn’t be further from it. When he had it in me he didn’t want it and took advantage of it.

[@adelaidameza-fowler9535]

Kelli R. Morris This is a COMPLETE SCAM, they will ask you to send money, DO NOT contact these fake people

[@jonesfredrick94]

@@victoriadorgu3207 get the fuck off the channels, y'all fake asses ain't nobody giving y'all no money

[@averythebutterfly]

Apple don't fall straight from the tree

[@Thefitmarquee]

Carol Loraine why do they use that word- soulmate. That’s what he insisted the new person was and I was a nightmare.

[@barnetthejosh]

One of the hardest things is lack of closure. The discard from you or them was the closure. Don’t wait around

[@84IG]

I been waiting around and pleading for a month after he discarded me the day before Christmas. I am in shock and disbelief still, so many emotions, anger . Depression , sadness I feel so betrayed and lost. I can’t trust myself , other people , the ability to relate and trust people is lost. I find myself dissecting people’s words and trying to figure out the intentions. Instead of listening. My world is cloudy . I pray to God for clarity and for him to be completely erased from my heart and soul

[@ericaruth3879]

You 100% described my exhusband. The more I learn about this, the more clarity and closure I have. Thanks for sharing!

[@judithmoran2085]

I’ve left an emotional abuse relationship after 31 years. The narcissist spouse is with “the other one” and pretends he’s not. I was discarded, rejected and abandoned by him. Your KZbin channel has helped more than words can say. So grateful I found topics that I’m experiencing and have lived through. I will continue to learn so I can move on into healthier relationships and to NEVER repeat the same mistake of thinking I found my soulmate. Thanks Stephanie 🙏

[@princessjones34]

I truly know that he had a new supply because of the way he talk to me and the demands that were way off the charts he was love bombing his new supply prepping her while he was gaslighting hovering and discarding me! Listening to these videos help me daily 🙏🏾

[@vannarongbo6464]

I like the fact that when you give advice, men can relate to it too. I feel like men don’t get enough mental health attention because we are under the expectation that we are supposed to just be strong and stomach everything.

[@aliyahsk2866]

SO ironic seeing this video, perfect timing..i'm currently going through this and kept questioning and blaming myself over and over! Your videos have honestly been a life saver for me and i'm not even exaggerating. Thank you!

[@kimwill3420]

You are the best ,the truth about us victims and why this happened to all of us so now we are angels with broken wings,although with the knowledge we get from you ,im sure wel all be flying again in time ❤thank you so much x and we are the champions😊

[@kimwill3420]

The truth is to some degree we was made to feel like vermin although its there fked up body and brains that make them forever sewer rats ,god love em👺

[@kimwill3420]

Play the queen song ,death on two legs its there song ,so listen to the lyrics and enjoy

[@sabreena1khalick]

Being discarded means at some point I got healthier. A blessing really. I'm a recovering codependent, I got manipulated, lied n deceived then discarded. The Narc had options, I made a stand after finding out about the other woman, then walked away. Narc didn't like it, he started harassing me, I got the backbone to assert myself, didn't take his BS n tried to talk to him. He didn't want to know cos he got his "primary supply". It hurt me that he didn't give me closure but I made a stand anyway.

[@sabreena1khalick]

@ Thank you, bless you. 😊

[@GameCreatorOfGod]

Fall in love with God first, then, God will send you some one good for you.

[@beckyj6977]

Bless you!!

[@StaggerLee68]

Then why did God make all of these Narcissist vampires and why does he let them do this to his children? Maybe there is no God because if there is he wouldn't create them. Maybe he wouldn't let his priests rape children either. hmmm.

[@puffdebi]

God didn’t make narcissists. God made human beings. Humans made narcissists.

[@michaeljackson7361]

True. The ones I know fear christians

[@matthewsullivan9598]

Yes, God will always bring the perfect mate into the faithful believers life. Just like He did for Paul... no, wait. Just like He did for John the Baptist... dang it. I mean just like he did for Mary Magdalene... arrrrgghhh darn! Sometimes it sucks to be a Christian who actually READS the Bible.

[@lungiexulu9037]

The fact that I'm getting this brand new information now when I am in the middle of leaving a toxic person is so overwhelming for me. I didn't even know there is a name for this type of behavior even though i knew thus had to be some form of mental illness. Oh my God. I cannot express to you how much this new information kind of just makes sense and it's putting everything into perspective and you are helping me heal. God bless your channel.

[@dianeparks8948]

43 yrs of abuse. last 7 years hell. I had no idea he was gas lighting narcissistic sociopath. He attacked me for last time and finally pressed charges. He has MY Family and children believing I attacked him. This would have been thrown out of court cuz of he said she said. BUT I AUDIO TAPED the attack. ur videos are amazing and have helped so much. I am a survivor

[@senayarbery4998]

I wasnt that smart. Instead he would push me to da point untill i snaped than he would recourd me defending myself n going crazy. Fucking psycho. I do wish i can just disappear from him.

[@theSpiritofTamzin]

So your family still believes YOU attacked HIM, even after you audio recorded the attack?...

[@tuneintruckingwithmr5016]

I’m glad I married a narcissist, she showed me how much I should love her ❤️ JUST FROM A DISTANCE!!

[@shannonfarmer1402]

Finally, after 5 years, figured out what I was up against!! Can't believe I didn't figure it out sooner!!! Thank you for the huge eye opener!!! She was the narcissist in our relationship and it was HORRIBLE

[@malikvanrheede4151]

It took me a year after my toxic relationship shit with my ex which she left me tho, finding out that she recently started dating someone else kinda made me feel sad tho, but I'm at peace now, the thing about being empathic damn, I guess it's both a blessing an curse to see the best in people

[@lisayeary4256]

It took me 23 years

[@Kimberly-wt8fb]

You just saved my life by the words you said. I just got it! I am a winner for not being good enough for him because I am worth SO MUCH BETTER! I had my husband locked up after 29 years of marriage. I am alone, scared, but free. I am slowly putting my BEST life in motion. One step, another step, it's been 3 weeks, I am working, making plans to move to another state that I have been dreaming of doing. House searching, past one job interview with amazing corporation with 2nd interview tomorrow. Dear Lord I pray to keep making progress. Going for mental help tomorrow to help reinforce healing. ❤yea me!

[@michellesorenson1292]

You are to sweet. I love the wisdom you have. I find you to be one of my life's greatest blessing God has placed in my life. You have helped me personally more than you will EVER know. I have no support system, so I'm addicted to your channel. I'm so happy I found you!

[@horsefly1435]

My narc made sure I cut my best friends out of my life so I’m in a similar situation with nobody to talk to!

[@bethwilson2286]

Michelle Bourdon how do you deal with no support system

[@blazeone5682]

Michelle Bourdon you are very beautiful ❤❤❤⚘⚘⚘⚘🌹

[@Rayray_kad]

No support system either 🙋🏾‍♀️

[@debbiewright8246]

You have been a tremendous help to me. I just ended a 33 year marriage that seemed to be fine but then turned horribly bad the last 4 years. Hard thing is we work in the same office, it was supposed to be a temporary job for him.

[@artisticwhistleblower1756]

Debbie Wright, so sorry to hear about your situation. You are a very strong woman obviously. God bless you. Remember your strength of character. I'm dealing with a narcissist as well, by distancing myself as much as possible (yet I also have to deal with this person in daily life).

[@soniameccage6498]

Debbie, your comment caught my attention. I am so sorry you are going through this. I, too, have left a 37-year marriage. It is extremely painful at this stage in life, but with the Lord’s guidance, we will get through it. God be with you.

[@TheFaro2011]

My parents ended their relationship same length as yours and honestly in hindsight it was the best thing for them

Should of told him to work somewhere else, you just saw too much of eachother

[@busdowkee]

I discarded my narc after 7 years and never realized how severe he had control. I got demoted from girlfriend to "friend" and now has new supply in less than 2 weeks

[@TiffTheTyrant]

Excuse me?? Two weeks???

[@catlover6750]

Less than 3 days in my case 😔

[@TiffTheTyrant]

Cat lover I can’t...even...what?!?

[@catlover6750]

Yes.. we were together for 5 years. He just ran into this girl. His dog died he couldn't bare that pain so he just went to this girl. I avoided him in hope he'll get a better job to settle but he did this to me. He's a drug addict. @TiffanyZoe

[@nadooshj7616]

Mine was already cheating 😂😭😭

[@centpushups]

Empathy. Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. Be of the same mind toward one another.

[@tinkerlove5319]

I was never weak he was I walked away after almost 4 years i got tired of the back and forth childish acting confused being

[@jamesmcginn8874]

Good for you--i did the same and never looked back .

[@melissaberman3252]

I can't stop crying while watching these videos! I lost 8 years of my life and 4 years of battling over kids. Our kids have no clue what a "happy healthy family" should look like

[@vanessatejeda8678]

Melissa Berman I don’t think my kids will ever see a happy healthy family as to he rush into a new relationship quick his words he loves her and it’s deep love loved that I never felt my God when I read them words and he talking about her makes me think, but I slowly start being positive.. I can’t believe how he’s so in love like he says with only knowing her a few months do you actually think this girl gonna take him seriously she too has kids and she looks young once he no longer has the money to take her out to dates because that’s what she is in for he certainly not taking her and her kids just her so once he gets tired paying all the concerts, dinner and hotel she gonna discard him..

[@therevenant320]

Melissa Berman 6 years of my life!

[@nativewarrior7542]

I'm so sorry for your pain, I understand, I'm going through it right now and I have an 8 month old with him and just like that, a day after we broke up cause I said I'm done too, he's already with his new supply and I'm left her trying to pick up the pieces. He was so sick, after the love bombing, it all went down hill, he was verbally and emotionally abusive, so cruel to me for no reason at all but would blame it all on me! I fell prey and started to lose my self-esteem and self confidence, everything! But I went to counseling because he kept saying it was me, that's when I started to open my eyes, he was awful to my 4 year old daughter and I just couldn't do it anymore, he was nothing but misery and anger under that mask he wore! After him stonewalling me so many times, and him breaking up with me, but then not, so many times, I finally told him I was done! He physically hit me twice when I was pregnant, it was the most horrible experience! They do things to confuse u, one min it seems like they love u, the next min. They treat you like shit on a stick...it's better this way though, I don't need to raise my child with him having control over me, I can always be the one of strength and reason! Keep strong, keep learning about this, so u know what to do when he comes around cause u have kids together, get some outside help for yourself and your kids! Your not alone!

[@lisawashington1117]

Melissa Berman 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@karaokelvis]

Narcissist lacks both two greatest virtues: 'Empathy' and 'Compassion'. Therefore, anyone can never have serious relationships. A person who has empathy will gradually progress into a compassionate consideration.👫❤️

[@dsheff7705]

Stephanie, I know this video is old. But I wanted to make a comment. My ex discarded my 4 years ago, because he said "we argued too much". After watching your videos, I now realize he was a narcissist and i was his narcissistic supply. Although we had some good times, the mask came off slowly, but quickly. He always blamed me for everything, and until this very day, refuses to take any accountability or responsibility for any of his actions or part in the relationship. Although I go though the normal stages of grief and mourning the relationship I thought I had, and the person I thought he was, I realize that I was a people-pleaser and co-dependent to him. In addition, your videos have taught me that he will never be able to be empathetic and sit in a space for me, to be able to see the things that he could have worked on, that would've made our relationship better. Ever since he left, I've been trying to get back with him, knowing in the back of my mind, that despite how good the beginning of our relationship was, that the person I first met in our relationship is gone and this is the real him, as the mask came off long ago, again, slowly but quickly. Like you''ve mentioned many times, I had left the door open for 4 years, because I loved him, really hoped that he would change to be the person who I met at the beginning of our relationship, but that will never happen because of his narcissitc personality disorder, and his inability to be an empath, and sit in a space for me, or for himself, to deal with his own feelings. As I stated I left the door open for 4 years, in hopes of us getting back together, and with that, he would call every now and again. He call randomly, we talk for a few weeks or months, (we'd argue or not argue), he'd disappear, and then the same thing would happen months later, and I was truly on a hampter wheel merry go round. Because I loved him and had hope that we would get back togerher, I stayed celibate and did not have relations with anyone one else for the 4 year period, because I only wanted to be intimate with him, and be with him. He said several times that there was no one else. However, my intuition and the Holy Ghost reported unto me, that there was in fact someone else, and that my ex started talking to him while he and I were together. He didn't start talking to the person after he discarded me like yesterdays trash, he was talking to this person, during the same time he was talking to me, which means he was cheating and having an emotional, and probably physical affair with the person. To add, without getting graphic, he would text me sometimes and tell me the XXX rated stuff he wanted to do with me. And I think about that now. He was trying to have sex with me, while he left me to talk to someone else. And he had the audacity to say in converaation during one of the hamster wheel merry go round moments of us talking where, as I mentioned, he would contact me every few months or so, he stated in a particular conversation, (also this is he conversation where I thought it would lead to us getting back together, now, I am glad it didn't), "Maybe we need to wear condoms", after I started multiple times to him that I was not looking to be with anyone else, or be intimate with anyone else, except him. Now looking back on the conversation, I see that he was really deflecting, he he was the one using condoms, and having sex with someone else, but wanted to make it seem like I was the one out here really just being a hoe. And, that's the gaslightings and manipulation tactics he would use all of the time. As today is Saturday, December 31, 2022, I am not waiting until midnight to close and lock this door and chapter of my life, I am starting right now. Again, although I grieve and mourn the relationship I thought I had, and the person I thought he was, because at one point, I really wanted to marry him, I realize that he is definately a narcissist (and he had the audacity to call me a sociopath one day when we were arguing), that is unhealthy and doesn't know how to be an empath, and sit in a space for me, and take a look in the mirror at the things that he needs to fix, and the things that he needs to start taking acccountability and responsibility for. Your videos have brought clarity, new beginnings, hope and comfort during a dark time of trasformation and healing! Please continue the great work of your practice! I hope to be able to have a session with you one day! Thank you and Gods Blessings to you and your family in 2023! -D

[@neferov]

I hope that you will find your happiness! It took a long time, but you are finally closing the door that should be closed. You will be fine. Great, even! Good luck to you, and God bless you.

[@anital5020]

So glad I saw this video. My ex is a narcissist. We were married 30 years. I allowed him to get by with things because he was abused as a child. I knew he had issues. So I gave in to much of his needs. After 30 years I said enough you will never get better. Main issue was keeping us covered in debt. My goals were to get the house paid off, save money for retirement. He would never stop buying. Around our 30th anniversary he said being out of debt has never been my life goal. I said what?? So he had been just going along with me through all those years pretending he was in agreement. So finally the light bulb moment happened for me. I planned leaving and while he was out of town I took my half of everything in the house and left. There is more to it. But I knew he would never let me go. When divorce had come up in the past he always told me I would never get anything out of the house. He would bust it all up first. So the only way was to sneak out like a thief in the night as he put it. Anyway, it took 2 years to get the divorce. He did not want a divorce yet he moved in with his girlfriend. So for me once he moved in with her that said it was completely over. Still would not sign. Finally the morning we were to he in court he signed. That was 6 years ago. This past June he married the girlfriend. They moved into our old house and remodeled it. But his getting married for some reason was very upsetting. Even though they lived together 7 years the actual marriage upset me. I am finally over it. Because as you said you wonder if they have changed?? Is she being treated better? Is he pulling the same tricks on her. He was always the victim. He was always jealous of my parents and my relationship with them. He was even jealous of our child. Anyway you video has been reassuring that he will never change. This poor woman is probably getting all the same victim stories plus how bad I was as a wife for 30 years. Thank you for helping me see that I was an addict. I took the flattery as truth like a fool. Perhaps that is some of my problem is knowing he made a fool of me. But that is ok, I am free to sleep as long as I like, go where I want to without reporting in. Ha ha It was worse than being a child and having to get permission from parents to go places.

[@mike_js2936]

I wish I could save the new supply because the new supply isn’t my enemy.

[@rulezer0withak]

Mike_J S i have felt the same way often- but they won’t believe you. Think about if you would’ve believed someone who was with them before... you might think it was simply lies based on jealousy even if it wasn’t. The narc has convinced them you don’t want them to be happy and you’ll only prove them right. It’s not your job to save them. The new supply won’t be the last one they destroy the way they destroyed you- you can’t save everyone.

[@truthexposed839]

Lol save yourself

[@PJ-cu4cl]

Well, I did try. Proved her he lied. But, at the end she said "I love him, he's still my boyfriend. I'll give him a second chance." I mean without even confronting him or seeing it he even deserves a second chance. lol!!! This was just a month relation for her with him and I've been with him for a year and told why he was trash. Trust me the new supply is always dumb. Her answer to me was ....."My ex was a terrible boyfriend to me but to his current girl he's the best, so you never know" I actually feel good that she took away the trash out my door. Ain't my problem anymore.

[@courtneysmith5395]

Completely understand this feeling. My ex is now married and has a baby with his new wife. I just wish she would understand what is to come. She is not my enemy. I fear for her.

[@profonicsgaming7870]

You can't save them mfs, they think they found their soulmate. He's actually going through stage 2 rn lol he needs it to become better

[@shortstop789]

I was discarded by my ex and I was thinking I was in such a dark place. It didn't help that she found someone so quickly after and kept making me feel bad for being sad. Saying things like I wasn't there for her or that I didn't take her out enough. Thank you for all of your videos, they are helping me understand the situation I was in and I'm making sure I don't fall for this kind of stuff ever again. I just feel sorry for her new "toy" and I hope she never tries to come back to me. I won't and don't hold any grudges but she ain't gonna find the same person that she controlled for so long, so thanks again ^^

[@Friesnchicken]

9:56 I literally told her “I feel like you died” and didn’t realize what was happening. That is the most spot on explanation.

[@chrissemenko628]

I was imagining him dead last night as I was falling asleep. I had a funeral in my mind

[@MrJairusW]

This video is spot on! Quickly moving into a new fantasy to show the world! Yes remember the person was not healthy and balanced enough to be in a relationship.

[@jessruhl24]

Such a good point about narcs not being able to empathize even at movies. My ex narc is a celebrity comedian who gets teased by his friends bc he cried at a children’s movie but even he articulated that it wasn’t because of th movie, it was because he was watching it with his son when he had watched it as a kid with his abusive mother so it made him reflect on what a GREAT dad and person he is. All about him

[@thenotitfactor4871]

My ex has had two since me. The first they got matching tatoos, they had professional sexy photos done that they plastered all over social media, he moved in with her very very early they started a buisness together. Then she had enough and confronted him about a few things suddenly he was telling everyone she is crazy and needs to be locked up suddenly the most amazing woman in the whole world was a loon etc. His second played out the exact same way rigt down to being buisness partners except she's 100 percent co dependant so they are still together. I spoke to the first girl and everything she told me was exactly how he treated me we gave each other closure cos we were never going to get it from him.

[@Wexscapethematrix]

What is it with these narcs that they want to be your business partner?! My ex narc, thank God he found a new victim, tried desperately to reap the benefits of my business but I wasn't having it. He wanted me to give him my products for free while he profited from it and not offer me a thing. My business will never be shared with anyone because I started it from the ground up and I'll be damn if someone is going to come in after all of the hard work has been done. Crazy thing is....he pushed ideas on me so hard like he was deranged. It was oddly weird and such a turn off.

[@snezanakohlbacher9089]

so basiclly you re the one following him, sad.

[@LuckyLetty777]

❤

[@thenotitfactor4871]

@@snezanakohlbacher9089 no he stalked me for 4 years on social media and email. He kept changing his email to write to me just to tell me all about his new life. I found out my sister was feeding him information about me and even tho i changed my number he managed to get it it was her the whole time giving him my info. I met one girl he dated after me she lives in the same town as me and contacted me after he discarded her and we got closure through speaking to each other about our experiences. It's easy for you to judge but you didn't live it, I did. What's sas is ppl judging others by assuming they know it all.

[@thechristianpsychologer3865]

@@Wexscapethematrix my ex narc I saw also wanted to be a business partner. I think because there is so much riding on a business you can't just nix them out of a business plan once they are in

[@kimberlylewis4196]

Thank you for this video. It was very enlightening.The narcissist that I was involved with Is now sleeping with my neighbor who has no boundaries and has slept with 3 other guys in the neighborhood. I would not sleep with him without a commitment which he could not give. I'm so grateful that God showed me who he really is.