How are SO MANY Black Women Quitting Their Jobs?✌🏾 w/ Roshida Dowe

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[@StephaniePerry]

Who's quitting? Download Roshida’s Sabbatical Planning Guide: roshidadowe.com/guide

[@NovemberReigne]

I hope to be next to quit and be free from working in a toxic workplace for the past 4 years.

[@StephaniePerry]

@@NovemberReigne You can do it.I hope you're working on your plan and taking good care of yourself in the meantime. 💗

[@IndigoWisdom1]

🙋🏾‍♀️ I quit from under a racist/abusive supervisor in mid November. Struggling financially but I was struggling spiritually/mentally working there. Looking for a new position but Not in a rush, thanks to the support of family. Back in school and working on me. 🙌🏽

[@JeffNoel-g8e]

Puccy popping

[@kemetichandyman3233]

Reaching out as a concern black man I'm wondering when are you black women are going to start talking about world war III 💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Are you all going to continue to act like it's not going to happen and just live in your own reality until you get shot in the back or blown up? I am not coming here to cause any problems I was trying to see the reason why black women are qutting their jobs but I'm not hearing any of the black women stating or preparing for what is coming to the WHOLE 🌎

[@willielenoyhampton8146]

Black men here too ladies. ❤

[@Roxy-qz4oh]

Hey ☺️

[@leadingbyxample]

We love you, Black man!

[@MR.B1004.]

There is nothing wrong with leaving your job but there should be something put in place to bring you cash flow each month!

[@LatreseJBraziel]

“Should” is a very strong word when associating it with another individual.

[@MR.B1004.]

@@LatreseJBraziel You can take it whatever way you want, but the bottom line is a person needs something in place that brings them cash flow! To say i'm leaving my job. You will need to be proactive with a plan. Trying to find a rich husband or wait until some money fall in your lap is unrealistic!

[@Blissful-es1kk]

@@MR.B1004. The best strategy is to have investments to draw from. A lot of people want to quit, but they should have savings/investments to fall back on.

[@MR.B1004.]

@@Blissful-es1kk In my response that, what I was referring too! This is what you need if your serious about getting off the plantation.

[@EE-zf1lw]

@@Blissful-es1kkExactly!

[@ericka76]

I left the federal government after 7 years of making 90K a year. I ignored the warning signs from my body for years, fast forward to COVID and working from home it became a choice between health or wealth. I went on FMLA for about 3 months, finally in 2022 I happily chose my health and submitted my resignation. Now I am a full time graduate student with one semester to go and excited about my career change! Our family knew this was coming so we amassed a sizable savings in preparation. In the beginning everyone thought I was absolutely out of my mind for leaving my good paying job, but at the end of the day if you drop dead tomorrow you will be replaced.

[@sharlapittman]

I left Fed government last year. Took a pay cut but loving life right now

[@ronaprescott4007]

Yes, because having life & health is more important than $.

[@Blissful-es1kk]

@Ericka77, Did you have a remote federal position? Mind sharing which agency you worked for???

[@ericka76]

@@Blissful-es1kk, I worked for the Social Security Administration. It became a remote position when Covid started. Left in early 2022 but last I heard they WFH two days and go to the field office the other three days a week.

[@Blissful-es1kk]

@@ericka76 Well it is great that you prioritized your health.

[@nataliejo336]

😮‍💨 This summer I went to the Middle East and I completely ran out of money. Same situation as you…flew in to JFK, needed to get near the Philadelphia region…I called everyone I knew to pick me up. No one came. I cut everyone off after that. This is the reason I learned to be self reliant. Support is so rare. God bless your parents. 💕

[@autobotdiva9268]

As you should have

[@marriejames01]

Sorry to hear that. Support is very rare and it’s a shame.

[@realbrownblackhuman1317]

WHAT IF BLACK WOMEN AND MEN CAN PROCREATE WITH ALL RACES AND WE HOLD NO LEGION TO EACH OTHER. WHAT IF WE ARE BOTH GOD AND WE’RE JUST MENTALLY BOXED IN (ENSLAVED) TO THINK THAT MAKING BROWN MORE PURE HAD ANY PURPOSE, LIKE COLORS OF PAINT, YOU JUST GET MORE BROWN. GOD (whoever he is to you should have unconditional love and is not racist if he is good) YOU GOD (if good) SHOULD NOT CARE WHO WE CHOOSE TO LOVE. IF YOUR GOD CARES ABOUT SKIN COLOR, YOUR GOD IS THE DEVIL. “SATAN IS THE AUTHOR OF CONFUSION.” DON’T BE WEAPONIZED BY WHITE PPL, THEY WILL STILL PLACE THEMSELVES BEFORE US ALL THE TIME, ALL THE CHANCE THEY GET. TRUE EMPOWERMENT COMES FROM GOD/FROM WITHIN. TRUE EMPOWERMENT COME FROM NOTHING. POWER IS A WEAPON AND ITS NOT IN OUT NATURE TO LOVE/WANT/NEED POWER. WE HAD SPEARE AND ARROWS. WE NEVER MADE “THE GUN” OR “NUCLEAR BOMBS”. THEY ARE GOING TO KILL US ALL WHEN WE FINALLY CHPOSE TO FULL DROWN THEM OUT AND WPRK TOGETHER. THEY ARE USING THE INTERNET TO MONITOR & MONETIZE OUR EVERY MOVE. SPEND TIME ALONE AND OFF THE WEB. ITS NOT FOR YOUR PERSONAL LIFE. THE INTERNET IS JUST ANOTHER REALM OF CONTROL.

[@backforthelasttime]

My goodness, that’s Crazy. Lessons suck but they help sooo much

[@Ongoingconcern]

You ran out of money?

[@mrs.stanley-bryant5605]

I am on a career break. Checking in from Illinois. I was tired of being worked to the bone for Pennie’s with all the responsibilities. I was overworked and underpaid and mistreated. I’m worth more. Been working independently now since Covid and doubled my income working for myself and have time and energy to RAISE my children. 😊

[@nicolem2877]

❤. 👏🏽

[@LadyLe-z7o]

Congratulations and all the best ❤

[@saniyyahhollingsworth7064]

Good morning Tribe from Chelem Yucatan, Mexico. HAPPY 2024 I moved to Mexico by myself 4 years ago. I did not speak Spanish & did not have a community. Now, I am studying Spanish and I have a community. So grateful for having the courage to leave the U.S.

[@NovemberReigne]

Congratulations to you!

[@sandraholmes4541]

Yes!! Some more proof of the power of possibility. I am going to do it too! :)

[@sandraholmes4541]

I am currently dealing with bowel issues too, for the same reason. Time to take bold, courageous, and decisive action.

[@yumyumkitty2104]

May I ask how you got residency?? They want me to get a letter from my employer, but I am leaving this employer l. 😩

[@findingmaitribe]

I'm making plans to travel to Mexico this year 🧳✈️🇲🇽!

[@tarawalton6778]

Yup, I quit my job on January 7, 2024. It appears that you posted this video on that date as well. A coincidence, I think NOT. NO more toxic work environments for me. I'm SICK of working HARDER for others than I do for myself & not being appreciated. I am looking forward to a WHOLE NEW world.🌍

[@choosetoshine2610]

Congratulations! You got this!! ❤🎉❤

[@TamikoRWhite]

2024 is going to be a great year for black women leaving the US, becoming Expatriates, buying property, starting a business, and finfing love with foreign non black men😊🎉 Thank you Stephanie and thank you Roshida 🥰😘😚

[@Honeyflowerrr]

Claiming this

[@TamikoRWhite]

@@Honeyflowerrr Girl, you better! US black ladies have been too long denied THE GOOD LIFE and now with so many of us taking advantage of all this technology and so many of us getting our US Passports, along with making the choice to walk off what I call THE PLANTATION OF PAIN, POVERTY, AND STRUGGLE LOVE, claiming it is our golden key to mental, emotional, financial, and physical freedom. 2024 must be the year black women globally adapt an international global mindset and walk with our head up high🥳

[@mekenziej7]

I like black men though….

[@TamikoRWhite]

@@mekenziej7 Much respect my fellow sister. Your happiness is important😔

[@gigiwisin]

We supposed to leave Babylon not try to make it work. It's Babylon. We're supposed to want to leave. Isaiah 24:15 Praise God in the Isles of the East.

[@ThisNuru]

I worked in Cameroon for 2.5 years. Returned to USA in 2013 with my eyes wide open. Haven’t worked full time in over half a decade. Any work I chose to do must be purposeful and flexible. Thank you for having this conversation!!

[@marlenenoubet4927]

Cameroon is indeed my home😊

[@nicolem2877]

How was work there?

[@oclaa5089]

I have always been so anxious about having financial security so I wouldn’t go on vacation nor buy myself nice things. Save! Save! Save! then I got sick and divorced. Lost all my hard earned $, my house, my self worth and almost my mind. Today I am grateful for it all because it has freed me. I am quitting in a few months to seek happiness and peace. Trust me: no amount of money is worth your health(physical & mental), peace and joy.

[@deannab9511]

How can one support themselves when they quit?

[@indigenoussoul4106]

​@@deannab9511I agree 👍💯 With all those people coming to America, it's not enough jobs and not a smart move...

[@robinsonrochelle7033]

Directly acknowledging that racism and white supremacy negatively impacts health for sisters (and brothers) is a thing. It needs to be directly voiced and addressed.

[@lavedadean]

Yes correct and so important to focus on self care and resilience skills.

[@robinsonrochelle7033]

@@lavedadean -yes practicing those are good, however, we have to go to the ROOT CAUSE of the racial harm that is caused that makes resilience necessary in the first place. The racial violence must be called out, acknowledged openly, and addressed.

[@divalocity]

I first quit working in 2015, took two years off and thought about volunteering at a local school and went traveling instead. Came back to the work force for two years doing PRN only, and decided I didn't want to work past the age of sixty. I quit at fifty-nine because the burnout and stress wasn't worth my sanity. I love my life of peace and doing nothing even more.

[@adrianaarthur]

Having an online business such as drop shipping, selling on Amazon or starting an online consulting firm are methods to earn income independently instead of working a job. Work stress tends to dissipate when we have more control over how we earn income.

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

Do you teach women how to do this online?

[@adrianaarthur]

@somebodycomelistentothispo7217 I'm working with a coach now during my free time and will document my journey as I go along. Eventually, I could coach other women through the process :)

[@dhd3491]

I weighed 180 befor stressors. Now I am 245. Ready for a change. Back went out twice and everyone depended on me to show them emotional and spiritual guidance and physically support them. About to divorce my husband and live the life I want. Thanks for the know how to do it. I refuse to live my life unhappy when freedom is readily available.

[@leahg1424]

This discussion is so timely for me. Getting laid off from a job I hate and made me stressed and burned out trying to prove something to a manager that never saw it for me anyway (she's black too). I am gladly collecting a severance check and taking my notice period to rest. I declined an offer already and will only go back once I feel refreshed and I can see myself working with an employer, but not PROVING MYSELF to an employer.

[@Heat_Rush]

Can you start your own?

[@TANZIE39]

I don't blame you for going back when you are refreshed. I plan to do the same when I retire soon. I am scared to death but I will be doing the same.

[@brinamills]

I am 45 and quit my job of 18 years. Before I quit, I spent 2.5 years learning to trade options. That was my out. Now I can trade anywhere around the world and never plan on working for anyone other than myself ever again. Best decision of my life!

[@ggoodvibes23]

How did you learn to trade options? Do you teach others or have a course?

[@Fairy3376]

Oh my goodness this video is such a blessing to my spirit. My job gives you 80 days of sick time and doesn't allow you to use it. They say it's for scheduled appointments only. Who schedules being sick so you get written up or a verbal warning when you call out sick. It is so ridiculous out here on these jobs.

[@Krisnagirlz]

I retired in 2013 and stayed at home with my grandkids and got into real estate and taxes and it was the best decision for my financial future and I was also widowed for many years, I am living my best life and traveling to Africa

[@carpediem44]

That is wonderful! 💕💗💕

[@loyaltymatters]

This was an outstanding segment, my doctor put me out on FMLA due to my asthma and it was the best thing ever. I found myself, had time to travel, think, be healthy and revaluate myself.I finally resigned and have been out of work 16 months and love it. I traveled so much the last year. We have to do what makes us happy.

[@Ms.Bree8403]

I've been at my job for 14 yrs. Im quitting next month because i just got married, and my husband and i live in different states. Im nervous, but i prayed on it. This video was recommended to me, so im excited to fully watch and receive all the gems you ladies are sharing.

[@sunflower3167]

Key words…. You prayed about it. Now let go and let God!

[@Ms.Bree8403]

@@sunflower3167 thank you 😊

[@IndigoWisdom1]

A husband is way more worth committing to than a job! Congratulations on the new moves! 🎉

[@LoveJoy842]

Bless you, stay in prayer, keep pushin 🙏🏿

[@neneconner2915]

Girl go Live❤

[@ChelleInTheCity]

I’m returning this week after paid FMLA leave (due to stress, depression, anxiety). I’m already feeling physically ill again. I just don’t have ANY savings so I’m just not prepared to quit. Everyone says I’m too young to tap into my retirement. Ugh. I just hate this existence. I’ve been in the legal field for 20 years. I’m tired of working and “assisting” folks.

[@msbell221982]

Girl same here!!! I work for the state of Washington in HR. I’m lower level, a paper pusher and it sucks!!!!

[@DearEmpath]

How long were you on leave? I’m going in to see my doctor tomorrow to start the process for FMLA for those same reasons but mentally I’m done with Corporate America. Been at this job for 11 years and they had the nerve to try to send me back to the position I started in 11 years ago because I don’t code switch anymore & try to sound all white washed & I grew locs & wear head wraps.. I’m just over it, the timing couldn’t be more perfect to take a different path. I wish you the best on this journey of freedom! 🙏🏽💕💯🥰

[@kimb6900]

@chelleInTheCity try applying for disability

[@nicolem2877]

We really need to do a virtual group/book club/chat. We need support emotionally more than anything. Healthy, reciprocal inspiring relationships are invaluable for bw. We r all experiencing the same thing but soooo isolated.

[@ChelleInTheCity]

@@DearEmpath hey! So I was on leave for 7 weeks. I have a psychiatrist who signed the form for me. I didn’t use all my leave but she said she couldn’t extend it any further. I still feel empowered tho!

[@IsaacNYC212]

23:25 FACTS 27:50 This is exactly why I will never work a corporate job again. I'm freelance now, but even that is starting to stress me out. I'm learning stock trading so I can truly be independent, make money, and do what I love: travel.

[@itsquinisha]

"Sell the house" That part 👏🏾👏🏾 In my case: The car, clothes, furniture, etc. 🗣 SELL IT ALL!

[@lisamichelle5238]

I was almost relieved when you said "sell the house" because I've been back and forth about this for two years so thank you! I don't need this big house anymore anyway. 😅 My kids are grown and they don't want the responsibility of maintaining a house.

[@traceyfoster-butler5346]

I did this very thing and ultimately ended up selling my property: glad I did!

[@ambitiousbeauty1013]

You could put all your stuff in storage and rent it out as well.

[@lisamichelle5238]

​@ambitiousbeauty1013 Thank you. I thought about this option too so I'm weighing the lump sum of money versus the ongoing flow of money. I appreciate you

[@ashleym6765]

I wish my parents had a house that I could just maintain. ❤

[@samapples6722]

@@traceyfoster-butler5346where do you live now? I want to sell my home/property but I’ll need to live somewhere

[@MsTaiRenee]

Sitting here in tears!!! Thanks for sharing!! ❤❤ I am soooo over the US. I already teach abroad via virtually. I want to further my teaching and be in person teaching abroad. I attempted to get an ESOL instructor position here in the US and constantly turned down Or should I say "looked down" (catch that) regarding my 15+ years of skills and experience. Which is ok, it is not meant for me to work under these people! I work 3 jobs, just quit one. I kept getting sick and getting migraines. I never get sick. So, I had to go! I plan to work on my 2 businesses this year! I deserve more! Good luck to everyone 💓!!

[@autobotdiva9268]

Real talk. Have a # 💰. You cant quit your job & keep people in your life pulling you down LADIES

[@LeisurelyLorrie]

Stephanie when you said you bought the coat and quit the job I laughed so hard I had to watch the replay.

[@StephaniePerry]

😆 I do as little as possible. 😆

[@videostoviews2262]

😂

[@LeisurelyLorrie]

I love that so MUCH

[@EE-zf1lw]

@@StephaniePerry😂😂

[@Xtraterrestrial8112]

I have also been a serial job quitter during my 25 years working and each time, I've been able to build or rebuild. I appreciate the affirmation that there is nothing wrong with moving when it feels like it's time.

[@kimb6900]

I don't own expensive designer bags, I have 2 homes 1 in Atlanta & 1 in S. Florida, own a 1998 Ford Expedition, and a 2008 Nissan Altima with 224k miles (paid off in 2016) i sometimes desire a new car, but i am grateful/blessed for my car is still running great! My best friend and I discussed partnering to leave the workforce to start our own business & travel. Im really excited about it

[@flowerfunk]

not sure how this popped up in my feed, but this is so me. I took a corporate break in 2010 after my second divorce, lived and worked in the Caribbean writing grants for about 3 years, traveling back and forth. However, I did have young children at the time and went back into corporate America from advice from a lawyer friend. Now my youngest just turned 18 and is a freshman in college. Time to start again, I now have a travel business specializing in Caribbean travel and 6 acres of land to start developing. Thank you ladies for reminding me if it was done before it can definitely be done again.

[@brklyn2922]

Wow congratulations 🎉

[@miattamccrummady]

Self employment is necessary ❤

[@MCthespeaker]

I left in April 2023 my hair falling out toxic corporate work environment. Stress can kill you.

[@merrytunes8697]

I’m experiencing the same thing. How have you been since you made the change, and to what did you pivot?

[@genovasquez8361]

I need to do this as a black man. I never liked working

[@Ongoingconcern]

Don't do it. Only women can get away with this because when it fails, they can always find a man to bail them out. You, my friend, will be on your own!

[@ChakraZulu1]

I work in hospice 15 years now at my leisure through an agency. All them old folks told me TO LIVE MY LIFE! Trust and believe it ain’t no dress rehearsal to life and you only get one 👌🏾

[@TerriJoe4638]

I knew from the age of fetus I didn’t wanna work. So I thugged it out, went into the military for four years, went overseas. Recently just got back to the states medically retired and relaxing off of my VA disability. I’ll be using my gi bill soon but I am in no rush. I’m thankful to be 25 and can chill and enjoy my youth like I’ve always wanted. I hate working. But I wanna volunteer to help animals and learn to grow vegetables. The goal for me is to build a community of people and give the youth something to learn that’ll actual benefit them. I need help on how to do that. But I am still brainstorming. But if you ladies care to give any advice, I would so appreciate it. ❤

[@ericka76]

This is coming from a Navy veteran who was discharged and went to work for the federal government for 7 years. I left that toxic soul crushing job and went back to college, it has been good for my mental health. One more semester of grad school to go. You have the space and resources so do it! VA also offers entrepreneurship training, I know other veterans who have started community gardens and help train emotional support animals.

[@TerriJoe4638]

@@ericka76 I thought about doing another federal job but yeah I don’t believe my spirit can handle it again. People are so miserable and they try to put it on me. So I only want to pursue something I would do with my heart. The big goal is to do this overseas. But I want to go to a place where there’s a nice amount of black American women.

[@Loyaltee55]

I worked in my field for 23years and in the previous year, I have never been in a more toxic working environment where there were cliques, older women acting as juveniles, and just a cut throat atmosphere. I didn’t fit in and was forced out. I’m on a sabbatical currently . I’m just thinking about my next steps for being independent.

[@nataliejo336]

Biggest tip from Roshida - have a number.

[@MariasPOV365]

I know the phones are tapped - I literally just said to my husband 5 min before seeing this pop up on my KZbin feed that I want to retire and do my own thing@ 55. TY ❤

[@findingmaitribe]

👏🏾👏🏾Co-sign Roshida! I found out people in other countries don't slay away all day at their jobs in 2007... during my first international trip in France.

[@ChrisMartin-zf2ii]

Yep, I studied in France during college and it was a total culture shock when they took a two hour sieste in the middle of the day… I loved it!

[@Gullahbae-xm6ms]

America is the ghetto, ain’t it?

[@lindaAReign]

I recently quit my hostile toxic job in october. I experienced verbal abuse, bullying, macroaggressions and as a result I gained weight, suffered severe anxiety and depression and started having heart palpitations. After I left, I filed for unemployment for health reasons after taking 2 weeks of FMLA. I was granted unemployment benefits till the end of December but was just notified that they are denying me the benefits and to add insult to injury they are requiring me to pay it back. so the mental anguish has returned because this is like the gift (from that horror show of a job) that keeps giving!

[@Amodernelder]

Ask for a review/ hearing re your unemployment benefits with the unemployment office. In my state the employer is required to attend the hearing since they denied the benefits. If they don’t show up it will be ruled in your favor. It’s worth a shot. Good Luck.

[@sharoncampbell860]

I hope everything works out for you.

[@zurijames9232]

You need to get a psychiatrist so you can get SSDI.Mental health is real in this Matrix.I hope everything goes well along your journey in life.

[@rondavis5413]

Get a free lawyer by calling your American bar association (aba) in your area. My friend just used the number for her local American bar association (aba) and she got out of jail . The crazy part is she was really stealing $400 worth of stuff and before that. They just caught her “that time”. The lawyer was free and cost her nothing and she was home in time for Christmas. She is a black single mom too.

[@LoveJoy842]

Bless you, wishing you the best. 🙏🏿 stay in prayer & believe in yourself 🙌🏿

[@Balanced3645]

It's alright to become so self reliant, to the point of growing your own foods, supplying your own energy (wood, sun, wind)...you'll be surprised how well you do. It's not about the quantity of life, but the quality of life.

[@patwilliams2563]

All I am hearing is save yourself by any means necessary!!! Love this....this is so validating 🙂

[@theofficialblackdirectory]

It is important to have a house & a paid for house as that leads to financial freedom, if you buy a house using the 1/4 method. Also, no one should be making rent or mortgage payments in retirement years!!! It's ok for the kids to sell the house. That's called generational wealth perhaps you didn't have $100k or $1 million to leave to your kids, but it is in the home's equity. Most wealthy families don't put their parents in a nursing home, but they keep them at home & have home care or put them in a living assistance home. They will live longer in their home opposed to a understaffed and underpaid nursing home workers. Ladies the goal is financial freedom. Live below your means. You don't have to buy a 3,000 sq ft home or a Lexus. Live like a college student while earning 6 figures, but invest like a pro so your money works harder for you. This is a great topic though.

[@goalsbegin3478]

I love your lives so much. Can you have more mothers or women juggling family life who quit their jobs? I need pointers on how to navigate that dynamic.

[@msbell221982]

Right, these women have careers, are high earners, and have the skills to quit. I am single, no kids, student loan debt and other debt, and need my income but hate my job.

[@MindYourOwn777]

None of my friends pay student loans. They decided to put themselves first. Govt eventually hit them all up and said all they want is at least $5/ month for them to avoid any penalties or garnishing their check. Another friend quit working and then applied for loan repayment based on their income. They pay nothing each month as the result and are in good standing with their govt student loan. ​@msbell221982

[@MindYourOwn777]

For moms if you married, work out something with the husband and buckle down on lowering living expenses. If single mom, start a business and sell products or reseller of popular used items online (through Amazon, eBay, etsy, PoshMark, etc). Do this while working though and once the money is good enough to quit -5 job then you can quit working a job.

[@OnyanaRosa]

20:46 for those who can’t quit their job yet and are dealing with major stress, learn to separate your job from your personal life as much as possible. Have boundaries. When the clock strikes 5, do something for yourself. Don’t answer emails, don’t take anymore calls. We cannot work as hard as the men do. We were not created that way. So we can’t carry that mental load all day after work. Disengage when you are off the clock… and even sometimes when you are on the clock… teehee!

[@brklyn2922]

Thank you. That's what I do. I plan my weeks in the morning at work. I create my list of things I need to do. Work is not as serious because they will move on when you are sick or dead lol.

[@patriciamharris5664]

YANA YES!! I am simply going through the motions...61 yrs old..raising twin grandchildren via adoption, since they were 2 1/2. I am ready to retire early. I am tired.

[@nataliejo336]

Stephanieeee! Honey you are the goat! Love the sobriety you bring to the table….the good, the bad, the ugly. You’re a visionary and a realist 💕

[@cmo12245]

Thank you ladies! I quit today. It was a long time coming!

[@StephaniePerry]

Wonderful! I hope you rest. 💗

[@elizabethking3614]

I took a long sabbatical in 2015-2018 came back to care for my dad who was sick at the time, later died a year ago and am ready to retire some place else.

[@lmpreston1]

So many people work because they feel like there is nothing else to do. They may hate that job, career, but work well past retirement because they haven't built an identity outside of working and build their connection with people through that job.

[@nicoletteanderson594]

The two of you are such an inspiration. I turned in my two weeks’ notice, and my last day will be May 15, 2024. A double standard was handed to me when I requested coverage to take a vacation. Okay, I’ll take a permanent vacation. Thank you poor management-see ya!

[@donnab3183]

This is not the martyr channel, that was so funny. Good video 😊

[@Balanced3645]

"Blackgirlmagic, burnedout/burningout & gettingout...Now blissingup for self-preservation, self-renewal!🔥🔥🔥Keep that divine fire blazin' princesses!!!

[@EE-zf1lw]

Physical things that happened to me was eye twitching, grinding my teeth, anxiety and heart palpitations. One day I looked in the mirror and my mouth looked twisted. It resembled a stroke but GOD healed me. Shortly after, I put in for retirement with a reduction. These jobs are not loyal. Now along with my pension I make money in my sleep🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾. I am happy for time, location and financial freedom as both of you always emphasize.

[@IndigoWisdom1]

I quit my job a month and a half ago, due to HR not reprimanding (enforcing change) in my abusive, racist Jewish Supervisor. As much as the finances are struggling right now there is NO PRICE for my sanity and health. Period! I have been told that he and the office have not been the same since I left. Oh well, they should have thought of that the Many times I asked for help with dealing with him. Now I'm reenrolled in school and working on Me and my own rejuvenation. Feeling MUCH clearer about my future. Even lost the 10 pounds of stress fat I gained when I started working there. 😅

[@carpediem44]

Congratulations on your positive change! 💕💗💕

[@LoveBeyondCapacity]

Not TMI - healthy bowel movements are incredibly important. I’m so glad I found this channel and conversation. After fibroid surgery I realized my job did NOT care about my health. It was a necessary wake up call call for me. Getting debt free this year and hopefully can fund a sabbatical next year!!

[@savaughndra]

This is a fascinating conversation that no one is talking about, I thought I was the only one experiencing this . I can relate on all levels

[@patriciamharris5664]

Yes my Sister. Ditto!!!

[@nefertitiWL9366]

I live in California for over 23 yrs. I was laid off 2009. I was one of the leading social programs in CA. The Rep. Gloria Malena took my info. I was barred from the summit on homeless problems. The Hispanics and Asian and others are the face of Cal. No matter where you go! Last time, I worked for 2018 for the county of Riverside. There was too much racial issues. I got injured. I went on disability. I'm 65 and looking forward to the new beginning.

[@chikFromMTL]

I am 20 minutes in and I love seeing Roshida being vulnerable and opening up more about her life,... And yes, stress will jam your bowel movement big time 😎 Thank you for the transparency

[@Ichosebetter]

I been unemployed since July 2023 accepted 2 jobs, quit 1 on the first day and the other after 3 weeks. l tried Live Ops but did not get hired for the project. I still have my apartment, but im willing to give it up home with my mother now. But, my parents are assisting with the bills until my lease is up. I just can't work any more. I been walking off jobs all my life because of the bullying and physical assaults.

[@carpediem44]

@Rhapsody09 Take your time and investigate online work. Love yourself. You deserve it.

[@BlackandBlessed100]

1:19:46 When I found out she had a husband and a Mama and she didn’t Quit that job I’m like no way I know the soft Life is living with ease and Not looking at them people You put yourself over that job every Time Save your money and Quit that job

[@insighttoincite172]

What goal did I have for myself? I didn't!!! I was conditioned to believe you work until this magical age (that keeps getting pushed out), then hope you had enough money to pay your bills. When I did the math, I discovered I have more than enough money NOW. I had to ask myself "why would you continue working, just to get an additional $500 from your pension plan?" I could easily find a part-time job I loved to cover that cost. It's true I would be "forfeiting" that bi-weekly paycheck, but to do what with it? Buy more stuff I need to maintain, thus keeping me in that constant state of needing to work. When I verbalized out load what my true to my core goal is -- having enough resources to pay my bills and extra to have some fun, I realized I had reached my goal (and had actually reached it sooner, but had not identified that goal.)

[@CelestialShaman44]

The UNIVERSE heard my request!! This channel came across 👏🏵💛🏵

[@beautedibango]

Thank to my hubby, I took a one year sabbatical after working for 15yrs straight (sometimes 2-3 jobs) and decided not to return to the workforce. You don’t “fight” white supremacy by taking a sabbatical, but you can fight most forms of supremacy by having your own successful business, financial literacy, and economic freedom.💪🏽🤑💅🏽

[@LadyDiva3]

I enjoyed this video immensely!!! I watched on a Sunday morning sipping my wine. Well done ladies, a lot of women NEED to hear this. Society and previous generations have told women to work, work, work, get married at certain age, have children, take care of family, do all the chores, do the cooking, nurture the children AND husband, work overtime, ...etc😢😢😢. When can or should a woman rest in her feminity??? This video tell us when. WHEN SHE PUTS HER FOOT DOWN and eliminate those soul sucking jobs, husbands and friends. When reassesses her life and DECIDES to make choices that will make her EASIER !!!!

[@officialjustlovelyb]

Exactly and totally agree! It's so refreshing hearing other black women have these feelings because I feel validated. It's time to rest for so many of us 🙂

[@mamayolanda4282]

My main stress isn’t work thankfully but I don’t want to be here anymore..marriage stress, grown children stress and I guess it’s self imposed but I know it’s time for a change!!

[@SunSpotGrasshoppa]

i'm a bookkeeper (i meant to say my skillset is bookkeeping/taxes/finance)and in the sea of mainstream bookkeeping 'businesses' i'm embarking on my own thang.. daunting!!!

[@brklyn2922]

Wow you have great skills! Embark on it. You have so many avenues!

[@wheeltolive1117]

Loved this podcast! Whew! I quit my job two years ago, and things have been a bit wonky lately. But this is giving me some energy to reevaluate and develop a new plan.

[@ashleycunningham751]

Roshida, your comment about working for people who told you that you didn't know anything, resonated with me. Thank you for the confirmation.

[@patwilliams2563]

I FOUND MY TRIBE!!!! I was doing all of this without knowing this community exist.....WOW!! God is good and is CLEARLY up to something.....

[@lenorawallace982]

With all due respect, the video doesn’t actually share how the travelers will survive after quitting their job. Where will permanent income come from, still work, I am guessing, but somewhere else. Everyone doesn’t have homes and cars to sell or money saved up to survive a career break. And after the career break, what will happen then for survival mode? Another job, right. I love the sound of this, but it’s not making sense. Needed questions have not yet been answered.

[@MCthespeaker]

Dividend stocks, have investments, save have a business , save two years of salary

A suggestion is to start a plan to move out of the US in general. Other countries like in Mexico, South or Central America have better healthcare options. You can go to school at an International University, get a student visa and study a program in medicine, nursing, accounting, or economics. You could possibly get a job in one of those countries or pick a university in Europe either way it is an opportunity to leave the US find another way to live and eventual gain work residency in another country. The point is to escape the never ending grind in the US.

[@candiced2138]

Honestly, taking a career sabbatical will mostly work for women who have a job that pays significantly well with a good employer match 401k plan, along with investments and a good savings account (preferably that earns compound interest). Not everyone can pull it off however it is possible if planned accordingly with intent.

[@LyndaPuryear]

I never GO to sleep; I just FALL asleep while I'm working on something. I wake up still on the couch with the laptop still open too many mornings. Too much work, but I'm executing my exit plan right now, so no (more) worries. . .

[@leadingbyxample]

Whew...I resonate with this. So often I wake up feeling tired after sleeping 8 hours. My mind is always working. We have to do better, sis. I'm planning my exodus as we speak. I'm over this. I wish you success in your healing journey.

[@ieeshatibby1349]

This hits the nail on the head .. Heart racing , stress Contipation🤦🏾‍♀️

[@JadeW1111]

I walked away from a toxic environment with the thought of working at another place, however the “new” job was revoked. I struggled slightly with the thought of paying bills, debt etc… but at the same time I was relieved because of so much that I’ve been through while moving to my current location. I was truly burnout and looking for what is best for me. Thank you for your content

[@professlch6347]

Maybe I'm in a more pensive, moody space. But? This was some good 'n' grown stuff. SHEESH. Happy New Year, indeed.

[@djari3s412]

Stress in toxic work environments has definitely affected my periods. I work in a more flexible environment now, periods have calmed down, no anxiety and I’m able to make work ‘work’ around my timetable. Though I still want to be fully remote!

[@pinkladyEle7487]

I must also add, you Ladies have glowing skin looking light hearted speaking life, amen we win we love we give we give life we win

[@MrsSparkle]

You have do live the life you want and love. I retired early last May when my last child graduated and I'm loving it. The problem for many people is that their job is their entire identity.

[@nzalitakesafrica]

Hello watching the replay! I’ve been abroad since 2015! South Africa and now Ghana. I’m never going back 🎉

[@imasummergirl]

That's awesome. That's my dream to go to Africa. Is there anyway I can stay in contact with you?

[@kristennicolemann]

Omg this convo has helped me find my calling!!!!

[@trafficjam.]

I've head of better Healthcare elsewhere, as well as other countries allowing breaks from work FAR longer than USA without there having to be a medical reason... Recently I went to 4 days on 4 days off, and started a business to work from home so I can quit outside work in 6 months or so. I have 2 degrees and i just dont care anymore. Too much time is spent at work. I've thought that for years. I'm glad I found this channel, I thought I might be crazy!

[@wordsofcheer]

I'm nervous and excited that I've decided to take a career break for a year. I'm preparing to leave in May. 🎉 I can't believe I'm doing this because I'm a single mother and thought I would retire from my job, etc. I won't be able to travel out of the country but will do a little domestically. I'm just looking forward to self exploration, time with family, and rest. Sending 2024 blessings to you all 🎉

[@theresalucas9477]

This was an enlightening conversation 😊❤. I wish I knew this information earlier, before my cousin pasted 😢. She was working so much and taking care of so many that she had cancer and didn’t know it. She worked so much she ignored herself. However, she did repeatedly mentioned to her doctor that her leg was swollen, but the doctor kept down playing it. Then she died 😢. Thank you for encouraging black women to not let these jobs and the stress of life kill them. Quit before it does!

[@tzengoddess]

This talk is giving me life this morning. I’d escaped work at 35 and moved to France in 2005. It was a dream. I was a nanny and taught English to make money but I was free! I did what I wanted mostly until money got hard. Then I moved to the states in 2011 and was given a small van. A year later I was on the road again on tour producing my own music and teaching healing arts. I was free for a long time and then long story short through a series of events. I’m back to work and I have to leave because I’ve tasted freedom. I’ve got to free myself. I do want to leave the states no sure where I want to go tho.

[@Mari-Ama7]

I caught the live but signed off because the comments stopped. Still i have been on SSI for over 10 years. I feel so blessed to have found this channel because i need all the reassurance offered from Stephanie & guests about a life of ease. It helps with feelings of guilt from not working. You have taught me that we have many purposes & i probably did them or it. Thank you for those words i pray for many more years of this channel ❤ & the black women it reaches !

[@Ogalleria]

What is SSI?

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

@@Ogalleriasocial security benefits

[@robbincompton7468]

@@OgalleriaSupplemental Security Income

[@ms.rivera7898]

I used to live in Asia, and my life was much more relaxed. Yes, we worked but we also had long breaks. And I was teaching, so had plenty of breaks to travel. I am back in the US, and although I am underpaid at my current position, I have just switched to this new role and it is MUCH slower paced than my previous position. It is like night and day. I finally have time to meal prep, spend some time doing other things besides working, like studying, and just plan my life out. This culture of work work work in the US needs to stop. We need longer breaks, more time to spend with family, and more time to just be away from work for our mental health.

[@mar-linaustell7505]

I need more of a break! I just came back from a month long vac to Europe. I want to leave my job, so I'm looking into self-employment options. I already have a cleaning business on the side. I'm having difficulty finding workers.

[@againstthegraingolf301]

What state are you in

[@moniquehinkson3661]

Are you in NY

[@patriciamharris5664]

Girl...I will work for you. Ok??

[@khg3235]

OVERWORKED, MISTREATED, AND UNDERPAID ... EXACTLY! I saw this in another comment, and I was like, wow, do we work at the same place? SMH. This is sad and true. They'll replace you like quick, fast and hurry.

[@ssd2930]

Interesting how you go to school, accumulate debt, graduate with the idea of making a lot of money only to come to the realization that the demand is just not there eg. Lawyers. I know people that graduated from Harvard and struggling to find a job that will pay them what their degree say they should be making. Interestingly enough, I have 3 degrees in science, yet I have to take orders from a person with some college but no degrees, and she makes more than I...that part. It's like once you are done with school, you still in a rat race since there are so many others that have the same license, degree and skill set as you. It is very cut throat with these companies too, they clearly cater to their own and we as BP need to really understand how and why they are able to do this. However, I am so happy BW are having discussions about life challenges and to know that we are not naive about the difficulties in navigating to these challenges. We are considering other ventures, and this tells me that we are going to be fine.

[@shellzearthsangel8040]

I love you guys!! I'm always dreaming of a treatment plan. I'm going to make it happen 2024!! Thanks for sharing your story and information.

[@IndigoWisdom1]

This conversation reminds me of Katt Williams' warnings to Not sell your Soul for some dollars. Many of us may not have $50mil on the table but we have yearly salaries and piecemeal paychecks that degrade our spirits on a daily due to the toxicity and negativity such companies and work environments perpetuate in this world. When women retract our energy, the world listens to our demands for healthy/positive change. 💯

[@officialjustlovelyb]

Love this!! Your channel has been so encouraging for me and even inspired me to start my own channel. ✨✨💕

[@SeanMcauliffe-ot8sn]

Your dreams are just one repeated boring cycle

[@demi5378]

This didn't sit well with me. Speak for yourself...& yourself only.

[@jaegee3716]

I was in my 20s and at my 2nd job ever(after HS) and they tried to play me with the Vacation trick of well you cant have these days because someone else is going on that vacation at the same time. I looked at them I said ok thats cool I guess I have to work because youre not giving me a choice. I quit the day before my start of the vacation. and still came in after I came back to shop I have NEVER CARED EVER. If I asked in weeks ahead I am going especially a month or 2 before and u wanna decline it. Ive quit several jobs for my days off i try to ask 2 months ahead.

[@tashad2201]

Edit: i do want to add if anyone needs to do this and stay in the states but you are able to move to a different state look into the healthcare in that state because i have seen these horrible stories of healthcare but the state im origianlly from has excellent healthcare programs imo. I also have great insirance thru my employer but years ago i had to be on state medicaid and still had some good doctors. And not waiting hours. I love this. I have been telling my husband for years that i need a break, to get away. And not for few days or weeks but more like many many months or forever. Everyone including doctors just keep saying im stressed. Well the wrong stress is a killer. I have wanted to get a motor home and travel the country and this has made me start putting my plan in motion. I feel like after a year of travel maybe it will guide me where i truly should be. Thank you so much for this. Prayers for everyone.

[@nelliehyder8303]

What a delightful, positive video. Thanks for sharing. You and Roshida looks overjoyed not living in the US. 😂😂😂😂😂 I'm so happy for you guys. 😊😊😊

[@shundrachamberliss9352]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this topic and being transparent. I am preparing to move to Kenya this summer and i cant wait to quit my job. One of the eye openers for me is the fact that we here in America will work until retirement at 65 and die at 70 never even get a chance to enjoy the retirement because of these stressful corporate jobs that simply do not appreciate you. No more will I stand for this life I choose to live free and my daughters will follow. Staying in this environment is like being in an abusive relationship. Get Out!

[@farian2183]

Im preparing to leave my job in 6 months! Ive been in IT for over 30 years and I just don't want to do this any longer. I'm learning how to Day trade and loving it!

[@IMAN-hc3fz]

Can u please provide the program and/or training aids you are using to learn day trading?

[@iamedey1232]

thank you women for being so awesome; this is music to my ears 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@olaoluwapopoola4222]

I love this conversation. I recently did this. I had stressful jobs when I was employed. I am now working less and choosing my own hours in my own business - no nights, weekends, or traveling for work, actively saying NO to anything/anyone that wants to stress me out... and enjoying the soft, happy and peaceful life!

[@MsIcollins]

I have FMLA for my health issues an work from home it’s the only way I’m working full time an actually enjoying it which I’m grateful for . Remote it’s a life saver working in your pajamas not commuting an rushing out the door ida been fired 1st month this the only way I can do this . Especially in corporate culture