9 Things MEN Do That Are Huge RED FLAGS

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

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[@teresacroft7409]

Men treat you just how they feel about. No affection usually translates to he isn't really attracted to you or really doesn't love you. He really doesn't think that much about you.

[@Floreatmajestus]

Yep

[@peterpisspotty3052]

So true 👍

[@natnat_o3]

Yea yea

[@jov2172]

You are so right just walked away from the relationship because of this

[@kimmyleechin7834]

You deserve better ❤​@@jov2172

[@BeautiifulliMade]

The flag of ‘how he speaks to others’ hit extra hard. My ex-husband was always rude to service workers. I was always embarrassed to go out to eat because I knew how short and demeaning he would be. He never understood my frustrations so I stopped going out to eat with him. How you treat people who can’t do anything for you, is how you treat everyone.

[@natnat_o3]

The fact you even married him😂

[@rhondam4369]

sounds like he had narcisstic traits...the fact that he was rude to people is defintitely one of the traits

[@jennipheryogo9016]

Definitely

[@browniez73]

I’m in an early relationship, and I guess I have to end it. You mentioned so much red flags that I am seeing right now in my relationship. I thought I was just imagining it,but yes!! Now I know my instincts is correct. ☺️ Thank You.

[@Floreatmajestus]

You are right & so are your instincts

[@gemmaburns6407]

Listen to that gut feeling! Don’t make my mistake and put his feelings before yours, if something doesn’t feel right then it isn’t, take a step back think about where the feelings are coming from 😊x

[@HealthyGuitarPlayer]

Honestly thats real you feel that way but please consider communicating. I was dropped and it doesnt feel good with a lack of communication

[@browniez73]

@@HealthyGuitarPlayer I will for sure.

[@HealthyGuitarPlayer]

@@browniez73 nice, i hope all goes well

[@jlee888]

Yesss! Don’t ignore these flags. I married a man who had most of these behaviors and I ‘accepted’ him for who he was. It almost destroyed me. Wiser, stronger, and more trusting in myself today. God is good 💕

[@TiaraMo]

Sure you still with them? If not, what was the last straw?

[@BeenyKay]

Hope your doing okay❤

[@jlee888]

@@BeenyKay awww thanks and absolutely. Best thing the marriage ending. The betrayal and grief was significant, lots of healing and awareness. I’m much more mindful now, and have an incredible partner today - none of these red flags - it’s safe, open communication and he treats me with so much respect and love. How it should be 💕 all the best to you friend on your journey.

[@agathaunoma6980]

Selective frugality is very irritating and is a clear sign of selfishness.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Indeed

[@noneya-hv2vu]

😭😂

[@redonionsyummy]

'Take me as I am' ..'I am who I am' indicates a fixed kind of mindset..not a flexible, growth mindset ..Thank you for articulating and explaining these red flags.

[@smores8982]

Had a friend who said “I am who I am. Love me or leave me”….I left.

[@cindyvazquez4333]

Forgiveness, Ego dropping and attitude dropping goes a long ways. Prayer is key in all things and all relationships. 🙏🙏🙏❤❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

They absolutely are. 🙏

[@nofybn7794]

Not ego, SELF RSPECT is important

[@cindyvazquez4333]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks 🙏🙏🙏🧡🧡

[@aprilwilcox5065]

My ex husband would unload on me, but if I wanted to have a talk with him about things from my childhood or experiences in my adult life that troubled me, he would cut me off or literally walk away as I was speaking....yes, he is a narcissist and everything was all about him.... henceforth, he is my ex husband

[@gotrinigirl76]

Good for you, Queen!🎉

[@noneya-hv2vu]

EX is IMPORTANT for life now! HEALING✔ Goals and aspirations✔ Confidence✔ Need I go further?! 😏 thought not 😁😉

[@traceyniles8474]

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽​@@gotrinigirl76

[@danmeck5978]

My ex is a narc. He would willing listen...to everything...to use it against me.

[@hair399]

WOW, WOW, WOW!!! I wish I would have heard this 3 years ago when I entered into a relationship with a man who exhibited almost all of these red flags! Ending the relationship after alot of frustration, I now believe God allowed me to have this experience as a learning lesson and boy was it!!! I can totally relate to everything in this video and will never ignore red flags again. Thank you Stephan!!

[@eloiseprays]

I was really hoping for people in the comments to list the red flags 😂

[@user-mp4wg8lt6s]

Hahha me the same😂

[@tolanioyewale9510]

Me too😩😭

[@ji7635]

Me too. I stopped watching this video after a few minutes because the video doesn't have chapters. Lately I skip a lot of video's 😂😂

[@shannon9747]

These are red flags I’ve ignored in past relationships. I no longer accept any of these flags. I address anything that I feel can be or is an issue. Thanks for these kind of videos. I hope woman watching these videos will actually apply this valuable knowledge to real life situations… knowing is not enough. Know ur worth and don’t accept anything less. People tell me I’m not going to find a perfect man and I should just accept some red flags…smh I rather be single than to be with someone who doesn’t respect or value me enough to work with me.

[@claudettespence307]

Just like you, I've said I'd rather be single than settle with someone who doesn't treat me kindly. And so far, I'm still single. I do remain hopeful for a mutually attractive romantic and satisfying relationship

[@pamvancleave6722]

YOU are always so timely with information and counseling.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you so much 🙏

[@GoldenAngel-]

My husband like that he is to blunt, he acts like he never at fault he only blames me he can never take responsibility for his actions for his words He judges me gives me shame about my self image and my body when we fight argue I find myself thinking of someone elsec he acts warm thrn on the flip he acts arrogant like he superior to me he is very defensive and he is blunt when we talk he says I don't Listern to him When I do he belittles blames criticism me , he like I'm saying this to make your life better , he says if you can't submit and Listern to me you can find someone else , he is a hypocrite I wish I never married him if I knew what I knew now 😢

[@GoldenAngel-]

My husband like that he is to blunt, he acts like he never at fault he only blames me he can never take responsibility for his actions for his words he acts warm thrn on the flip he acts arrogant like he superior to me he is very defensive and he is blunt when we talk he says I don't Listern to him When I do he belittles blames criticism me , he like I'm saying this to make your life better , he says if you can't submit and Listern to me you can find someone else , he is a hypocrite I wish I never married him if I knew what I knew now 😢

[@GoldenAngel-]

Please Stephan make more videos on marriage and men 😢

[@Wonderwoman79G]

​@GoldenAngel- I am sorry to hear that.Have you thought about getting support and therapy?

[@LexiGailMusic]

The frugal point is sooooooo real. And a lot more common than I realized!

[@4EverGr8ful1]

LOL... Yes, a man being *"Overly Frugal"* is a deal breaker for sure!! 🙏❤👜

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

💯

[@zenawarrior7442]

True. How they treat $ directly correlates to their ability to give in other areas esp emotionally.

[@redonionsyummy]

It's so important to be able to talk about money and goals. I think having joint as well as separate accounts if you're married. I'm not ever getting married again though! lol...all in hindsight

[@tc_is_me]

Same ! It became a deal breaker from experience. I’ve found overly frugal men to be selfish. And that selfishness shows up in other areas of the relationship. Furthermore, they’re boring because they don’t want to spend money on activities (ie, hobbies, entertainment, etc). And they can also be controlling.

[@latinroxi]

The person can never “Overlook” Any Red Flags 🚩 Do that and you end up like he said “Ending Your Relationship because of the 🚩You Overlooked” and broken-hearted 💔

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Well said 🙏

[@Laoriginal718]

Exactly.

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

These are all nice points. An important red flag concerning men for me is the lack of self-accountability, lack of self-worth, unhealed from past wounds. It's just a precursor to many negative issues in the relationship/situationship. One thing I have wondered however is why does it take so long sometimes for just guys to just "show up" for the one they say they really love? It just seem like the right thing to do. After just losing a sister of mine in this physical plane at it reminds me even more of just how precious time is. She never married in this lifetime, but I am sure she may have at least wanted to. She was only 46 yrs old.

[@alice-hp7dh]

I ended up in a situationship for 4 years. I think he didn't felt nothing for me, because facts told me that but he continued to tell me different and reach out for me. And the funny/ creepy thing was the he usually said that "time flies" and we have to go with the flow, just to be able to take advantage of me. But I agree, life is a breath and I don't wanna never wait to shows my feelings and my willing. 🙏

[@Wonderwoman79G]

I am sorry for your loss.

[@barbarajennings4321]

Wow wow. My ex husband never wanted me to express myself. If I was hurt, I had no right to express those feelings. But he was so quick in expressing his pain😢😢😢

[@cherrellereed2088]

I agree with you on that i couldnt express my feelings at all cause they was pushed to the side and he will start talking bout himself and his feelings

[@annieanderson4952]

I just got out of a relationship just like that every time I wanted to talk about my feelings he would cut me off everything was all about him

[@barbarajennings4321]

@@annieanderson4952 the Lord is faithful honey. I am glad you out of the relationship

[@barbarajennings4321]

@@cherrellereed2088 well I am glad you are out of it. It’s not life at all living like that. God is faithful.

[@VanessaBurton-hb9pm]

I always say, pay attention to how they treat fa?ily and friends because when the newness wears off thats how you will be treated

[@user-bm3lv8xk8s]

But this confused me because he was good, generous and kind to friends and family. But there was an innability to love himself so it never ends. Mr nice guy

[@HelenaRobalo-r3z]

My own red flag Over confident due to my spiritual growth. Working on it. Thank you stephan. I will listen to this again. Very helpful ❤❤❤

[@kimreynolds5564]

Oh wow. Great comment. I been a bit to confident as well. Due to MY spiritual growth. I best take a look at that. TY 😁

[@HelenaRobalo-r3z]

@@kimreynolds5564 ur welcome ♥️♥️♥️

[@abbabee3957]

I had a husband like that, whenever I want/ask for something, he never has it, HOWEVER, whenever he needs a piece of tool or something he values, he finds the money.

[@tanitshkatanjusha]

Don't marry a person like that

[@gotrinigirl76]

Wow

[@movinonup1368]

This!!! Or when I needed the AC checked as he can easily do this. I asked if he could look at it or pay someone to. He told me to pay someone too. THIS made me realize some things... we ended.

[@GoldenAngel-]

I can relate , my husband only cares about being the head of the house regardless of his behavior he says I have to Listern to him or that I can find someone else

[@GoldenAngel-]

I'm so angry , I been in tears all day I'm so fed up with him

[@NwachukwuEmmanuel-p3u]

Sometimes i wonder how you went through this your healing journey, its evident in your body language, words, charisma etc. Thank you for being you and also great tips shared ❤❤

[@RealNatureSounds1]

I’ve dealt with this Narcissist who kept walking ahead of me in public and thought it was extremely rude . When I mentioned it to him he said that I walk slow . My thing is we are supposed to walk side by side , not behind me or ahead me . Also, he never complimented me other than my accessories like my purse or clothes . Very odd

[@kikiray8673]

Sounds like he was probably in the closet. Walking ahead of you like he's not with you in case he sees what he really wants. Complimenting your accessories and not you or your beauty......yeah, definitely gay. Sorry Sis. You deserve better.

[@gotrinigirl76]

Four points in, he has all these traits..dumped yesterday..had all traits ..😮👌🏻👑🙏🏼

[@noneya-hv2vu]

@@gotrinigirl76 😳🙊😉 #GOOD4u

[@LouiseCrawford-m3c]

This is one of your most helpful messages to me thus far. I finally had the courage and wisdom to make a change in my 3 year "Reunited" relationship with my Daughter's Father. I know longer consider our Relationship as "exclusive". I hope that we will always remain close Friends. He did not know how to respect Boundaries in our relationship and never said NO to assisting ANYONE, especially his Exes. You stated that this could well stem from him needing ACCEPTANCE. I lost respect and trust in him. When you lose TRUST in your Mate, the relationship diminishes....

[@smores8982]

Was briefly dating a handsome man in his early 50s. The attraction was there on both ends. However, I noticed during our dates, he was never affectionate with me (hand holding, hugging, quick kisses) but towards the end of the dates, we were passionately kissing. I knew exactly where it was headed and ended it. Ladies, if he’s not affectionate towards you except when he thinks he could get lucky, put an end to it.

[@motrcrosgrl]

And that's why it's best to stay single unless you truly are ready for another in life.

[@ladeedaa1419]

I mean it when I say how appreciative I am of your videos, I’ll give u an example. I followed your advice and stopped sharing with my girls, our business. It’s helps tremendously but sometimes I have to get outta my head. This video has helped me make a decision about my 9mth relationship. Thank you

[@Yvie451]

Just left relationship.. embarrassed..I saw all the red flags ..He was a charmer...never again..love your videos very uplifting and straightforward

[@yanamoore3028]

This was one of the best videos for me - very specific points, helpful 🏆❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I’m glad you found it helpful ❤

[@melindasipes4364]

Yes Stephan. I used to call my ex-husband, Captain Save A Hoe bc he was always running to help someone or save someone. I appreciated it in the beginning, but he let me run all over him. It created a dynamic where I made all the decisions and ran everything which led to resentment on both sides.

[@enjieelk1684]

Im sorry but captain save-a-hoe has me rolling 😭😭

[@MsPlaced_]

Had I known about this so many years ago; I would of saved a lot of red flags, but that deflection on was a big one especially when I tried to communicate; it really caused me to close down and then realized that i need to let that stay in the past. Thank you these are very helpful.

[@TawandaClark-ii9ps]

I've been told only by one person that "They hope I die." This year exactly, and that was from my children's dad that I spent 15 yrs of my life with in the past and had 6 children with. Had I done anything that bad to deserve to hear such hateful words? I can honestly say absolutely not. However, I do hold myself accountable for putting myself through that again. Unfortunately some people do not grow up to be what is needed for you to deal with them... if at all for the sake of the need to grow up in general. So I give a hearty congradulations to any person, and especially a man who do excel spiritually in life.

[@Memookie]

Great information you shared today-spot on and insightful. The one thing about Brutal Honesty that's always true is it Brutal and self serving.

[@malmckenna]

C'mon! Preach! Holding ourselves accountable to the words we speak is necessary. We are called higher but it's a daily choice. It takes humility, and self-sacrifice. Great wisdom in this video @meetstephanspeaks

[@Holistichart868]

You are spot on Marriage #1 ⛳️ was with another woman when he got with me. I thought he was and did not question. End marriage cause he was a cheater. For no reason. Marriage #2 ⛳️ lack of personality not very social no emotional connection. Ending with all the same after 10 years. You CANNOT change anyone. If you’re whole wait for a whole man or woman this is evolved.

[@VictoriaQuitane]

Last guy I dated for two months was blunt and also defended his bluntness. It made me ill after a while. Glad we went our separate ways.

[@SmittyTra-tra]

Ohwow 10:44 when you said that know that if he says take me for what I am and you decide to enter the relationship anyway. That hit me like a ton of bricks. I was in 20 yr relationship ,married for 13 years, with a man who fell asleep like clockwork at 830 every night. Didn't want to leave the house to party once he got comfortable in the relationship (which was quick, within a few months) and we were in our mid twenties when we met! You can imagine what the sex life was like too. He would leave the bed at 5 am due to his natural alarm clock, to drink coffee, read etc. After a while, I had so much sarcasm in my voice when the subject of evenings in general came up. I resented it so much. I tried to discuss other times we could have sex and just connect, but we both worked full time, had a child (through adoption due to chronic illness on my part carrying risks in pregnancy), and it never was resolved. I can't believe it went on for most of my adult life. Here I am divorced and sexually inexperienced trying to date again. Suffice it to say, this a great red flag warning to heed!

[@KR-kr3pj]

Interesting choice to call out just the frugal person. I think a better way to put it is just someone who has different money psychology. Also being frugal is just what you said - you save so that you CAN spend on the things that you value. If you’re just always pinching pennies you’re either poor or cheap. If the person spends on himself but not his partner then it’s a signal of how he values the partner. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being frugal. It’s about compatibility and respect.

[@afinyaku1097]

Hi Stephan, your advises are so helpfull, thank you!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're very welcome 🙏

[@barbarajennings4321]

Learning. I really appreciate this.

[@rosamoreno4794]

Being blunt is selfish 💯 and most of us do it in our teens, 20s and 30s unfortunately. Most of us do t learn until after 40 even some of us who are of faith. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ You get humbled after 40 and almost every year after that, BUT you do get stronger and better and become more peaceful. Having a faith and reading and knowing the word and reflecting on the word helps 💯. A huge red flag and turn off for me are average men and below average men who want 10s 😳 Worst is a man with poor oral health and poor grooming. Like get to the damn dentist and have a good daily routine. 🤮

[@Wonderwoman79G]

Preach

[@mimiaquariusharris6244]

This isn’t about relationships, but when I first gave my life to Christ I took a deep look into myself and recognized attitudes that I didn’t in my life anymore. There were at eight to twelve I wrote down prayed to be delivered from them. Being blunt was top of the list if we are truly honest with ourselves we know when we’re being jerks it’s we want everyone to except our mess. Some of us will listen and some will not. It’s like you are the top and everyone else is beneath you.

[@JudyChilds-fu4em]

I'm so guilty, of giving too much, but I'm going to work hard to stop it❣️✌️🥰

[@Wonderwoman79G]

Excellent advice Stephan. I have not dated certain men based on observing them and seeing some of the red flags you spoke about.

[@hortencia6345]

My husband has always been too busy for me. After 3 years of being retired, and husband still being busy x i found my own life. I started going to Senior Center and have made many friends, both men and women. Now he is jealous of my friendships and is suddenly given me lots of attention. He has a fear of losing me and i think he's manipulating me by telling me to stsy home more often.

[@woah_millie9931]

Whew! That last red flag was a common thing in my past relationship.

[@angeliquegrove7873]

Hi stephan can you please make a video about long distance relationships what are the key factors to that . Thanks for a great video tonight. I appericiate it....

[@mcleo9935]

@angelquegrove7873,my two cents,for me as a female ,the first time am doing this it's hard 4 me,trust issues is my no.1 factor,it's now 3months and we argue,and none if us gas been to each other destination to see each other,he wanted me to come to see him but at a hotel,and I refuse ,because he say he was single,and for a minute I doubt it so I started to shift focus, and came to a mini conclusion that he is lying,I really like the guy but🤔

[@Sunlightsam24]

My 2 cents, it hardly ever works, it sets up women for anxiety and eventual heartbreak, can’t really get to observe and get to know someone, relationships are built in person, a lot of investment for unknown reward, high risk

[@joemincer8882]

🙋🏾‍♀️I'll admit it, I'm a runner.🤭 Avoids red flags without deep discussion. If the big pic looks bleak...🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🤸🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

[@brendawilliams6741]

Yes but in many cases some folks need to have someone to be blunt with them because their attitude are not considerate and mindful of other's feelings, sometimes bluntness is necessary...😊

[@latinroxi]

Stephan You made it make SENSE 🎉❤ Love your Vibe 😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I appreciate that 🙏

[@findtimethymellc5211]

Me being outspoken did not come from any brokenness. It came from me not understanding why people do the things that they do, so I speak on it. My outspokenness comes from, I don't want to be fake, so I'mma call it out for what it really is. I'm a Scorpio, so bluntness is kind of in us no matter what we do. Nowadays, I just keep my mouth closed even when I want to speak on something that makes perfect sense, but I don't want it to hurt anyone's feelings, even though it's the truth what I will say. I'll just keep my mouth closed. That has actually been working for me. Because when I am outspoken, or blunt, people get mad, Or they feel some type of way. So since my realness makes some people feel some type of way, I'll just prefer to keep my mouth closed, and not speak on anything.

[@bettybezabih564]

Respect and love from Ethiopia 😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Thank you very much 🙂❤

[@denanikiawilliams]

Thank you Labossiere. Keep going💙💜💛

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I most certainly will.🙏

[@denanikiawilliams]

@@MeetStephanSpeaks 💙💜💛

[@JerseyNurse78]

Stephan, You are very wise. You really know your stuff. I love listening to you. ❤😊

[@TOYAspoppinFabbling]

Exactly 💯 THATS WHAT THE PROBLEM WAS he took his female friends his military co workers to the hospital when they were pregnant and left me to take myself to the hospital #divorced Could not balance never saw a problem with it.

[@rosecouch7343]

Thank you, thank you 😊🙏 Great topic and I'm going to have a clear discussion with my NEW partner about each point you've mentioned. I see a few 😮 Red flags.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

I’m glad to hear that 🙌

[@TanyaOden]

Noted! Another great video! Thank you!

[@brend3887]

Thank you nobody is perfect 👌 but being to blunt can hurt others. It hurts me so bad I felt his intention was never to be my dream gentlemen I just knew he could be.

[@Cindy_Love_2025]

Excellent video 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 I love it❤️💯👍🏼

[@oar-N-oasis]

Hindi talaga madali ang pumasok at mag commit sa isang relationship, kapag hindi ka mentally prepared, maaaring ikaw ay maabuso o maaaring ikaw din ang mang abuso.

[@luvingmerevivedandblessed8520]

They can be affectionate alright when they're after something. Smh

[@Doohopper_Grandma]

I Love You ! You are so Real! Blunt people turn me off , so do people who tell the same Jokes over and over. I can’t stand Rude people either! This is a good explanation of how it will eventually wear on you! Also overly frugal people bothers me as I believe in Generosity with my resources!

[@3rdCoastHippie]

25:26 you’re right… this one SHOULD be unsurprising to everyone but unfortunately that would suggest a basic human decency that is few and far between these days 😅😢 Just wanted to take a second and say thank you for your content a D thank you for being completely honest with us about your recovered journey as an ex asshole and third this video was incredibly clarifying for me. Probably the most helpful video of yours that I’ve come across recently since I’ve started loosely “seeing someone” after taking a long dating break , I would love to see a follow up video to this that walk us through how to handle some of these hard discussions early on❤ GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR HUMILITY - spread the word yall!! ❤❤

[@hansdearie0051]

Thanks for the advice ❤❤

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Always my pleasure

[@stephaniemmesoma2671]

1 Too accommodating 2 That's how I am,I can't change or be teachable 3 Too blunt or rude to you or others 4 Overly or selectively frugal to you.what's the view on spending and saving 5 Unwillingness to take accountability without deflection . Address the issues in a calm and sensible way ,don't attack him 6 His not affectionate at all If his not willing to work on them that's when you walk away Being emotionally selfish.

[@user-fh1tr9zp3l]

Is it alright to say that tons of men are laced with red flags ? The last guy i dated had 8 of the red flags you listed except He was super affectionate Stephan you are suh an experienced coach , This video left me thinking that this guy visited you at some point 😊

[@DaPhlyymamee]

Great info! I need to share this one!

[@alice-hp7dh]

You are right and wise but to me, it seems that man ( or people in general) are walking around full of red flag in themselves. Are people outhere not broken in some ways?! Maybe is just my reality of a broken woman but I swear that I don't see nothing valuable around. After my dad, my brother and my grandad who were/ are not healthy man, I encountered for the most part of my life, only broken man. Now my goal is to start recover myself first and then will see.

[@Morvana1]

This is SUPER AWESOME. I love your work. I was looking for the final two points, but unless my maths is superbad there are only seven points. "Too Accommodating" and "Selectively Frugal", yes, Ouch. Not affectionate and emotionally selfish - sadly yes I've experienced this. HARD FACTS. Thank you for educating us, I appreciate it.

[@Laoriginal718]

Nah see the red flag and 🗣️RUN!

[@geebee4166]

Remember you have red flags as well!

[@kimreynolds5564]

🏃‍♀️🚩s Rejection is God's protection 🙏..think about that!😁

[@PP-mj2io]

​​​@@geebee4166Sure, but it's more life threatening for women (including her kids if she has any) when she misses those red flags in men.

[@geebee4166]

@@PP-mj2io says you why is there always an excuse like a man dealing with a woman is always safe for him. Seriously bad example

[@user-bm3lv8xk8s]

So spot on !! I didn’t realize that a very helpful, kind man was a issue. He never said no to his friends asking for help. He worried about dissapointing them. Eventually one friend asked and took such advantage of him I had to mention it. But..he wasn’t able to break that issue with in and she needed to have that becon call cuz her husband didn’t pay attention. Eventually I had to say bye, I can’t do this and they said I had the issue. He didn’t want her sexually it was more they helped him when he was down so he felt obligated and never grew up from their help.

[@user-bm3lv8xk8s]

Oh yeah,…I thought that him sharing his thoughts or problems was commuicating. But he felt relief and was able to keep it up. If I had an issue…he couldn’t hear it for more than a very brief time and would be overwhelmed.

[@kathywalker7778]

Take me as I am...yeah, no! I accept people where they are, but only if they recognize it's not their final destination of being. Growing is necessary, anything stagnant becomes foul.

[@Buhnayify]

I don’t mean to nitpick because I really do like to take notes of these, but you actually only said 7 red flags😅

[@JStig12]

I just want to take a moment to appreciate that none of the fake Stephan profiles are at this comment section yet.

[@Nike-jz3oi]

9 out of 9. Jeez 😂😂😂 wish I was this good at bowling

[@annieanderson4952]

@STEPHAN i am new to your channel I love your speech i have learn a lot from your teaching

[@NikkiEdmunds]

If a man can’t say no, trust me, that will cause many problems in the relationship. If a woman starts hitting on him, he will give in and cheat on his partner, maybe regretting it later. There are many men who are desperate for others approval, forgetting how dangerous that can be. There are things that are not acceptable in a relationship, one of them being a man not being able to say no. Lastly, there are men who go all out to help others, especially women but he doesn’t help out his girlfriend/wife. How cool is that?

[@loveslife11]

That is so TRUE!!!!

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

💯❤️

[@7spiritprayerwarrior-sf9he]

You can be honest, without being rude or blunt, Yah totally refunded me 😂❤❤

[@staceydeloach-jackson475]

Thank you for sharing.

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

Always my pleasure 🙂

[@RoseRose-ow5zy]

Im seeing someone now whos is not overly affectionate but he is here and there. He said I’m not affectionate! 😂 i did tell him i hold back a-lot and so does he.

[@Sunlightsam24]

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[@cbrown123422]

This is great! Thanks

[@sandysandy9275]

Thank you ❤

[@woodsshayla5146]

That’s why he’s my ex after two family members wrecked vehicles. He still continued to be the yes man to his family and blamed me for his financial struggles…

[@CarolynBryant-x7j]

I said that I accepted him as he is. I thought he would change. He never did and didn't see anything wrong with himself.

[@h8h215]

But you accepted him....i am probably missing something here from what your own statement the logic is A = A which you accept, why would you expect A to turn into B in time? For example, if we were together and i started beating on you and you didnt leave you accepted my behavior, why would i change if its acceptable by you?

[@itsSash29]

When you come to learn about others …. And find out a lot about yourself 😩 I’m appalled

[@GoldenAngel-]

Women put up with so much , we deal with some much with some men, have no change in their action

[@h8h215]

I find it interesting when women talk about wanting men to change, ever heard the phrase women get into relationships with men in hopes they will change and men get in relationships with women in hopes they never change? Most of womens complaints regarding men changing is what i cal the beauty and the beast concept, you know the dude is wrong for you at the start but rather then running out of the castle and leave the beast alone you would prefer to try to change the beast into a prince, they are who they are leave them alone and stop trying to make excuses to cover up your bad decisions in picking bad boy men.

[@AmandaJeoboam-iq3eq]

We need more videos like this one is so true

[@gwendolyngibson1834]

Hit Like 👍 if you were looking for this comment lol and a comment if it was helpful lol You’re welcome 😊 Red Flags 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 1. (1:25) Too Accommodating 2. (7:13) Take Me As I Am 3. (11:20) Too Blunt 4. (19:00) Excessively/Overly/Selectively Frugal 5. (25:25) Unwillingness To Take Accountability w/o Deflection 6. (29:13) He’s Not Affectionate 7. (33:33) He’s Emotionally Selfish

[@tamibless9990]

I am enjoying this class pls 🙏 😊

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

🙏

[@ReverendSue]

I am an older woman now! Stayed with my husband for over 25 years. God showed me every red flag before we got married. I thought he would change. He did not! I finally left him. Thank you Stephan Speaks!!!

[@karincarozza381]

Identifying these matters is a gift! Excessively frugal is a turn off IMO. Could you also add dismissiveness especially tone of voice. Occasional instances happen, however often is nasty in criticizing moments. Everyone have their moments, but a way of speaking that way is too much.

[@rebeccawynn9497]

My brother 🙌🙌🙌💯🔥👏👏👏

[@joannaking2043]

I don't get it. We went on two dates, spoke every day and then bam, he isn't ready for a relationship. I didn't know 2 dates equated to a relationship.

[@h8h215]

Did you guys have s3x in those meet ups?

[@cindypabst9293]

Thank you

[@MeetStephanSpeaks]

You're welcome 🙏

[@maybe9299]

Stephan, I wish that I heard your advice 50 years ago (probably before you were born!)

[@Floreatmajestus]

Aggressively affectionate is a big one for me. Slowly the firm butt grabs fade away to shoulder checks in the hall

[@claraht.6999]

Why come you don't call me anymore -Prince Masterpiece 😂

[@beckypolanski3894]

I don't see the link for The Best relationship advice. Thanks