spend the week with me - deep talks & nights out

[@linaettalbi6454]

steph + security guy = romance book potential

[@ananyagoel9865]

lmaoooo😭

[@swetcheesex163]

Wait why do i kinda see it...

[@high.lady_3818]

Rhys Bridget potential

[@madisecrist9455]

THATS WHAT I THOUGHT😭😭

[@linaettalbi6454]

@@high.lady_3818 i lowkey didn't like that book lol

[@linamarasc]

It’s frustrating that as women we have to be careful not to piss creeps off but at the same time we’re not supposed to look scared or intimidated. I got stalked so much in college that I stopped doing errands by myself and always had a guy friend. I also became a massive liar to the uber creeps that felt entitled to ask intrusive questions.🙄

[@gina3148]

A few phrases I like to use when I’m approached my a man is “please leave me alone”, “I don’t want to talk”, “I’m not interested”. If that doesn’t work they tend to respect your wishes more if you say “I have a boyfriend” or “I’m in a happy and loving relationship”. It’s extremely unfortunate that women still can’t be left alone after they show clear signs of not being interested.

[@Isadoralook]

@CyrusDM Why would someone dream about harassment? That’s crazy 😂

[@c0ffeeghost]

@CyrusDM life must be pretty unfulfilling if you dream about harassment

[@valenasnowy778]

In the US, anyone can have a gun in their pocket, so it's logical to be careful about refusals. who knows what goes through his head.

[@rfanaccount]

the wait for the 50 minute video was worth it🥲

[@zebasiddique6233]

I didn’t realise it was 50 min long video until I saw this comment

[@xofatima.x]

i love listening to steph talk so much. she’s so real and raw about anything and everything and it just hits home. also the way she talks about the things she loves so passionately brings me so much joy. i love you steph thank you for being you 💕

[@evie9364]

I would love it if she made a podcast, i could listen to her talk for hours

[@Crazyfamily2007]

Hearing that story about the creepy man was just heartbreaking. Fictional men keep proving to us time and time again but really men would never compare ✨

[@malihakarim1696]

Y'all girls keep romanticizing toxic fictional men that's why

[@r.22r]

Coz most of them are written by women! Nothing like that exists in real life. Just like the bizzare women written by men...we are nothing like it😅

[@gia2525]

Steph being a drunk “look at the moon” girl is my favorite thing ever

[@shreyasatapathy]

Skincare is okay but I need a full bodycare/shower routine from steph. Her skin genuinely looks so smooth. Idk if she knows but she is literal perfection. Love you steph AND your vlogs ❤️

[@xofatima.x]

steph listening to music whilst making her breakfast is so main character coded of her as she should !

[@chloep583]

Ur bullying story really resonated with me. Even tho I just started college, stuff like that you never forget. But Taylor Swift did say in an interview once that you don't have to 'forgive and forget' to move on, u can just move on. And u did, and ur thriving ;) much love

[@xofatima.x]

steph i love u so much! please don’t ever let anyone make you feel shitty about yourself girl. we’re so proud of you and i love you

[@Sara-gc6uv]

50 MINUTES! we have been blessed by Steph rn omg 💗💗

[@gracynarnold]

the way you just spoke my mind 100 different times in this video. no one ever understands what I'm talking about when i say I'm nostalgic over every single thing and you literally just put it into words bro. idk why I'm so mind blown but we're literally the same person, you're my favorite person lol

[@Zaranelsonn]

13:37 This made me think of the lyrics 'Maybe one day you'll call me and tell me that you're sorry too, but you never do'

[@tismiagain]

Honestly didn't want this to end.

[@saiyara5119]

steph, you don't know how healing it is for me to hear you talk about these experiences on friendships and just life in general. it really is like talking to a friend, i feel so validated. thank you for this.

[@ellendebelon]

Hey babe- I work in the Anti-Trafficking world and I have some advice for you! 1. You have a voice. We don’t realize it because we are crippled by fear, but you are the safest when you are surrounded by people. 2. Clear boundaries save lives. Men like these are terrifying, and it can feel safest to comply. It really really does work to say “hey, you’re making me feel uncomfortable. Please leave me alone.” You are not being rude or uncomfy- you are standing your ground like a modern woman! I know it’s so so scary out there, but more people in that room would fight for you than you think. Please be safe, friend. I need your content!! 😉😂

[@Sleepingmely]

The way that this video and this pep talk is helping me so much with my recent breakup is all I needed ♥

[@xofatima.x]

steph’s vlogs feel like a big facetime call and you don’t understand how much i love it!

[@maree2673]

Your Highschool story really moved me and I’m so happy for you that you finally realized what really matters after having to deal with this kind of people! My last two years of Highschool were similar because one of my old best friends started to cut me out my group of friends and spent two years talking bad behind my back if I started hanging out with other people and she made hurtful jokes about me in front of everyone. Even friends of mine that I’ve known for 5+ years didn’t say anything. Your way of looking back to it really inspires me to do the same and let these people go! I wish you all the best on your healing journey

[@evewolam4160]

i love u steph! your vlogs are a slice of comfort in this crazy world

[@shelbylewis8722]

“I deserved so much better from my friends” resonates with me so hard. I had such terrible friends in high school, and they made me feel like i wasn’t enough and like i never would be. but that wasn’t true then and isn’t true now. i deserved better from them!! but i didn’t get what i deserved and I’ve learned to be ok with that. but i really needed that affirmation that i DID deserve better.

[@nishahemmesblog]

a 48 min vlog and deep talks from steph iam so here for thiss

[@durukiran525]

you definitely should open a podcast channel I'd listen to you 24/7 like I already do

[@balewahlberg]

she needs to do a podcast. like she is sooo amazing and confident

[@iqrauddin8814]

Omggg I’ve been waiting for this and it’s 48 minutes?! You just made my entire day

[@HaleyJeanASMR]

the stories about these men are making me so sad and angry for you. 😭 im so glad you talked to security at the bar. if any strange man ever approaches me in public, i just look them dead in the eye and say “sorry im actually busy with something” then i put my headphones back on and literally walk away even if its 10 feet away in the same building LOL or i just pretend i literally didn’t hear them at all i dont even recommend talking with them casually because weird men dont know what casual is. i totally agree that you don’t wanna be aggressive or “mean” out of fear of these men retaliating. its so scary even tho id rather be seen as rude or a bitch than have to deal with a man making me uncomfortable.

[@akraisaa]

8:08 why do i have a feeling that steph is finally starting to read shatter me? ahhh 💌

[@enasalz3632]

Same I just knowwww it’s shatter me

[@akraisaa]

@@enasalz3632 YES. i’m so so excited for the reading vlogg

[@tasneem2013]

I am so sorry that happened to you, literally as you were telling that story about the guy stalking you on your night out it made me tear up a little bit. It just sucks to be a woman sometimes

[@alyssamermaid9373]

having a really hard day & coming to this video to chill out is another level of comfort, thank you for being everyone’s bestie Steph ❤

[@dianamonroy710]

This vlog was EVERYTHING. Thank you for bringing us along, I live vicariously through you 🖤

[@brookeelizabeth681]

My natural response to men that approached me when I was younger was also to be nice and not make them mad. That completely changed when I had children. You gain a Mama Bear fierceness you've never known. Find your voice and speak up sweet girl..it could save your life. Be Safe ❤️

[@luciaramirez2693]

i admire how vulnerable you're with us and i wanna make sure you know we appreciate it. you genuinely deserve the best. i'm also proud of you for standing up for yourself! also, any advice on breaking up with a best friend? no drama, nothing awful happened but she's been pulling away and i wish her the best but i'd rather not be friends than never being sure of what our friendship means to her.

[@Lokmjjn54]

I’m living for these sort of vlogs I loved the dealing with disappointment one, keep it up!

[@geenakayla]

steph you radiate such loving and comforting energy, your videos are my forever faves. i appreciate you and i just love you!! sending lots of love♥️

[@christellemurugan]

The way you express the beauty of life through your videos is what makes them great ❤ GOD BLESS YOU ✝️

[@erika7347]

steph is literally the biggest comfort someone could ever have shes so real about everything

[@Crazyfamily2007]

Wow that best friend did a totally bitchy move. It's frustrating that they never apologized to you, but you were able to move on and grow from that, and I'm so proud of you! Real friends stand up for it each other and you deserve so much better! I'm glad you're realizing your worth and standing up for yourself! 💕🎀

[@tuckscowboyhat]

you talking about your friendships and being in the position to know that letting people go is ok to do really came at a perfect time because as im graduating hs and most friends are leaving its starting to hit that most people i saw as friends have fucked me over plenty of times and “ forget” to invite me to things and what not and because of you i feel ok enough to let them go because they will make the effort to change and stay if they really wanted to in the end when i brought things up that they did. thanks steph

[@lilysbooknook23]

Genuinely I feel like who needs therapy when you have steph. She’s genuinely so so sweet and this video is everything

[@user-nd2wg2yr9y]

i love you steph 💖 you don't know how much you've helped me and your vlogs are everything

[@triniidadcastro]

makes my day every time you post💗

[@nouranbenkraiem7693]

The happiness i get just seeing the thumbnails of your videos is so real

[@melissajoyceortizhuerta8802]

This whole vlog made me so emotional. I feel so connected to you and I truly see as an inspiration ❤ this week has been really hard for me and this video mis exactly what I needed. I’ve seen you grow and heal and I’m so proud of you✨. Thank you for opening up about your thoughts, the make us feel less alone 🤎🤎🤎

[@ellafloral245]

i’ve felt so alone lately and i feel stuck. nothing ever goes right for me and it feels like nothing ever will. the guy i really liked isn’t available anymore and it sucks. seeing your video is what i needed thank you

[@-----cl8rk]

a friend to all is a friend to none, fr

[@helentecklenburg3405]

ur vids are so relaxed and comforting. when i am at a low and feel alone you make me feel so much better

[@untitledmanuscript]

Girl you gotta start setting boundaries with random men who approach you. You don’t owe them anything. You have to let them know that when they are making you feel uncomfortable in any way they need to stop. Not that it’s a game like “you hang up” “no you hang up”. Be straight forward and assertive and tell them to stop.

[@untitledmanuscript]

(To the person who replied to me then either blocked me or deleted their comment.) At least it’s better than doing nothing.

[@selena311lol]

The confidence and main character energy from the first outing clip I love it 🥹 Also the best revenge is to be happy and content 🥰

[@alyssamk07]

i get so excited when you upload…these kinds of chatty videos are my favorite

[@shelbyg19xx]

I love watching these videos while I do my makeup in the morning-makes me feel like we’re on a FaceTime call catching up haha. Love these vlogs bestie pls continue to do themmmm 🫶🏼☺️

[@stephaniedefreitas1292]

You are so right about learning to vocalize how you do and do not want to be treated as you get older. Wait until you are in your 30s! You get to the point of knowing what you want and can cut people off easily. Life is to short to spend it with people who make you feel like shit.

[@likusama8427]

I just absolutely freaking ADORE YOU steph . Thank you really for existing

[@melissagrindon9074]

You will always win when you rise above it and know you are a beautiful and good person inside and out! You are amazing - bet those bullies are kicking themselves now xxx

[@swetcheesex163]

Your vlogs are so chill and laidback steph! I so loveee

[@knotkitty0]

hey steph! i first found your channel by your greece vlog and I've gotten so hooked ever since. I also really related to literally everything that you talked about in this video and i just find it so inspiring that you're living a good life doing what you love. I'm a senior in highschool about to graduate and start uni in a few months and I've been honestly so anxious about the future. watching your videos really calms me down and i just wanted to share that!

[@nia_challa]

THE QUEEN HAS POSTED!! omg I’m literally so excited to watch love u steph :))

[@itsbeamilas]

your vlogs really make my day, you radiate so much comfort ❤️‍🩹

[@mariakristensen5166]

Here a little over a year after the video was posted, and you can truly tell the difference from now to then. I’m so proud of how far you’ve come! you seem so much happier now and it’s really wonderful to see you do really well🫶🏻

[@despoinalouv]

Your vlogs are so healing and they make me feel so much better because of how much I relate with the topics you're bringing up

[@larabsm]

oh my god I related so much with all that you said about standing up for yourself, I´m passing through the same thing this year and I just realized this month that I deserve SO MUCH MORE, like, I know the type of friend that I am and I know now that I shouldn´t keep friendships that are not reciprocal. I feel like all this time I was trying so bad to fit in a friendship that does not fit me... it´s crazy bc at the same time it seems that I´ve always knew that, in teory, but only now I´m standing up for myself, I´m just so done

[@marwafarrukh1744]

i just feel so proud of u steph. also i love hearing u talk about random things. its so nice🤍🤍

[@joana1684]

steph's videos can always make my day better😭 i could listen to steph talking for hours, it's so conforting and satisfying hahaha 💘

[@bobbi0311]

I needed that speech about good friends so badly thank you so much

[@Phoebabyyy]

what did we do to deserve a 50 min video😭 thank u Steph

[@matissemae9741]

your vlogs are always the highlight of my day whenever you post one 🤍

[@alice951996]

long vlogs are my FAVORITE it literally feels like talking to a friend 🤍 even though the talks were deep (sending lots of hugs, i hate men so much lol), i felt like i was going to parties with you and i can’t wait for the cruise vlog!!

[@larrahhh]

i really relate to this 15:53 i'm not confrontational so when people do stuff that bother me or hurt me i don't say anything until all of the things they do/say pile up and i end up dropping them. confrontation gives me so much anxiety but i need to start standing up for myself more

[@helen-louise]

You talking apologies and past friendships really resonated with me and helped me look at the experiences I’ve had in a new light. It helped me realize what I deserve and how to look at painful situations. Thank you so much for posting this :) I know you said something about background noise KZbin videos, but I was completely entranced by that talk. Hope everything is amazing for you now

[@espicyaaliyah]

honestly i was the same way up until my senior year of college too. i think that specific time in your life is so transformative maybe bc you're like "entering the real world" and just realizing things but i def relate to everything you said.

[@ananyagoel9865]

literally one of the best vlogs ever made hands down💗💗💗

[@kashishbhatia6655]

I love these kind of vlogs I feel so closer to you now its like 50 mins of catching up with your close friend

[@jessicasheridan7]

watching you cook whilst jamming to music was so calming and relaxing idk why

[@juliawalton2527]

u have the most pure sunshiney soul ever i love your videos sm!

[@marilynm0403]

I’ve waited for this vlog omg. and it’s 50 mins?? this is perfect. Is Queen reading shatter me???

[@alejandranatal4144]

I totally can relate about the always being nostalgic about the past even when you know that you were actually miserable during that time. I think it’s something called the “golden age syndrome”. We tend to glamorize the past when we are unhappy with our present. Which i find interesting because, as someone with anxiety, I’m always thinking about the future, always wondering what it’s gonna be like, while at the same time feeling nostalgic for the past. Basically living anywhere but in the present.

[@sumaiyasamina]

your vlogs and personality are so captivating I didn't even notice 48 minutes go by. love you forever Steph. So sorry about the disgusting men I was so terrified for you because I have had that experience one too many times.

[@mariarutz9842]

Steph, friend take a self-defense class to help yourself and feel stronger and kick their ass. I love it that you take us with you and Zoe!! Have fun and be safe. 💕💕

[@efficircus]

One of my favourite vlogs 'til date! 🥰

[@Shaye208]

Girl I can relate to shitty friends who will never apologize. It is hard to get closure knowing they will never understand how they made you feel. I am a year out of college & still think of a shitty high school situation. I never heard someone put this in the exact way I feel too. Love you girly

[@asthaparashar5511]

Steph I can't express how much your vlogs ease my mind it's like free therapy . Love from India ❤️❤️

[@meera6365]

this is exactly what i needed today :) tysm steph

[@abigailz.4817]

omg i could literally listen to steph talk for hours! She should start a podcast!

[@carolinanunes7110]

I swear your vlogs are my favorite thing to watch. You're literally my comfort person and I love you sm!! ❤

[@mia_aaa_]

50 MINUTES OMG YOU MADE MY DAY I HAVE BEING WAITING FOR THIS FOR SO LONG

[@valentinagrosso1271]

I love these vlogs with my entire heart, thank you🫶🏻

[@ewajedynasty4222]

Your vlogs are such a comfort place 🥰❤

[@toriaalaree]

love these vlogs, like listening to Steph talk or rant is so therapeutic and I relate so much 😂 thank you for these!!!!

[@byefelisha8883]

hey hun i listened to your story about what happened to you in high school, and as a sophomore in college right now i can relate super hard to your struggles with moving on and having those comments still affect you to this day. PLEASE know that what happened to you WAS bullying and possibly sexual harassment. i went through something kind of similar for two years, where i was dehumanized and degraded in one of my classes. this class happened to be all boys except for me, and the three boys that were sexually harassing me got away with EVERYTHING. part of the reason why they did was because no one in that class stood up for me and said anything. so when you said you don’t know if it’s your friends responsibility to stand up for you, YES YES YES it is. those people weren’t real friends, and I’m super glad you’re in a better place now. i know you might not see this, but i hope you do and feel validated and know that you didn’t deserve ANY OF THAT. us women shouldn’t ever have to put up with insecure men projecting their self hatred onto us. What you went through was horrible and traumatic, and you are valid in still needing time to recover even all these years later. I wish you all best❤❤

[@ananyagoel9865]

i hope you're doing better now

[@katrineserop5500]

YOUR VLOGS ARE THE LITERAL BEST❤

[@sophiaisabelle027]

Good to see you back, Steph. We hope you're doing well. Always take care of yourself.

[@JayleenGalindo]

i love your vlogs sm and ur like the only youtuber that doesn't bore me when they do long vlogs

[@lokithecatofmischief3389]

Steph, you are wonderful! I've seen many of your videos but this was the first long vlog and I absolutely adored it! Love from India ❤

[@ellie5596]

I can absolutely relate to you in your high school bully situation especially that best friend that you'd expected to defend you and support you but ended up supporting your bully is shit and that's when we realize that if people are ass to you or to anyone the universe will give them shit in the end and I swear that is true so treat people with kindness.

[@hawazenalazemi9051]

Steph is like the older sister I never had thank u sm steph love u 🫶🏻💗

[@annaye8667]

thank you for being real w us and sharing your stories ❤

[@Sara-gc6uv]

OMG IM SO EXCITED IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THE VLOG. love u so much Steph I hope your having a great time since you’ve graduated 🎉🎉🎉 ❤

[@brianaportell2301]

50 min video of Steph YES PLZ!!

[@sarahweber2347]

It may end friendships to stick up for yourself and express your feelings, but friendships also end when you let too much slide and DON'T express yourself

[@oxfordscomma]

watching this video as a high school senior makes me already feel so nostalgic

[@soap8045]

Steph your courage and vulnerability is truly touching my soul🥹 I had experienced a lifelong friendship, we were both like security blankets in a way. We were like peanut butter and jelly. But she did something that destroyed my family, and I was waiting for an apology or acknowledgment from her actions. I dwelled on the situation for almost two years. It placed in a dark hole; struggling to do simply things like getting out of bed or brushing my teeth or showering, ect. I am doing better but I still think about it to this day because I get flashbacks from it. So, thanks for that advice and please continue to have that light shine on this world Love you🥹🫶🏻