Steve Harvey Helps Million Dollar Matchmaker Patti Stanger Figure Out What Kind Of Man She Wants

Patti Stanger spends so much time finding love matches for others, she hasn't been able to find one herself! Let's see what Steve Harvey can do about this.
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[@nm6818]

I love that she's humble and honest enough to listen to him, not fake anyting, and just be real. It's a strong woman who can do that. It's not easy to be on national television as a Matchmaker, and be asked very uncomfortable questions. She takes it all in stride and is just herself, all the time. I love her. God bless you.

[@CaapriceTube1]

JUST HAVE TO SAY SHE LOOKS AMAZING AT 57. She can pass easily for being in her late-30s. ✌️

[@kinndah2519]

CaapriceTube Definitely not late 30s! But maybe late 40s

[@edwardchapel8036]

If your a woman of 57 and still single then there's something wrong with the woman,not men😈

[@hanselfam]

I wouldn’t say 30s but she does look great

[@69Fabulosity]

Surgery & money!!!

[@realtalktina]

CaapriceTube all these women discussing her age and there’s always a few that say no she looks older. She looks great end of story... crabs 🦀 in a bucket foreal

[@zaiville]

Thank you Steve for helping her. I've watched her for a little while now and I want her to have good things too not just her clients. Love you two talking!

[@pameladavis5948]

Dr Phil says you teach people how to treat you,man or woman,by the things YOU allow in your life,man or woman! Set boundaries for yourself, men and women, don't compromise on what's important to you,man or woman! That means don't settle for less and don't let anybody tell you you deserve less because....

[@newbeginnings1543]

Encourage a man to be a man. Traditional masculine and feminine roles. Thank you Steve!

[@kekef3620]

I kinda agree. When we had traditional gender roles things just seemed easier. Its cool that women have made huge strides but it seems as we continue to evolve, men have remained stagnant and now there is this weird imbalance.

[@ca8824]

We're past that in society. I've determined to not 'pay for' women anymore. After the first date -everything is 50/50- if you don't have it Ill go out with a woman who does. Once we get to the spot - you better be reaching for your phone to Venmo me your part for the gas. Im not even playing. The Trump era is about to be a lot colder.

[@tianamiller6820]

Stereotypical men dont need to be encouraged to be the man because he already knows his duties and plays his role accordingly without being told to do so. If you need to tell a man to be a traditional man then he clearly isnt that lol.

[@ladycatfish2896]

What are the traditional roles of a woman?

[@tianamiller6820]

Lady Catfish cooking, cleaning, being primarry caretaker of the kids, generally looking after the home

[@Jess-vp2wy]

I love Steve, I read his books, did what he said and now I’m happily married !! :) I let him be the man of the house and it’s all worked out so well!

[@25mrkeys]

Manipulate?? Really Steve? “....and for that reason, I’m out” Lol

[@19_lyla__9]

Can't wait how Steve finds a date for her. Can't wait to see how the matchmaker founder can b able to 'match' herself with a 'suitable' man that she is into it. Can she? We will see 🤔 💪🏼 👫

[@mickyunit]

That's true: men don't read. He should do a stand up that addresses this for men 👍

[@mickyunit]

What Not To Do At a Stoplight obviously men read...

[@ChiaraMarandellas]

That moment when Steve Harvey offers to match The Millionaire Matchmaker XD I'll be watching...

[@Noirmariposa]

My boo drove 3 hours (x2 =6 round trip) to have a 4 hour brunch and chill with me for our first date . But he is in his 50’s , I am almost 40 . I still had to set the tone with him . He recognized what I wanted and told me to be hard on him bc he wants someone that feels like she is worth it .

[@Noirmariposa]

Voice Of Reason 4U meaning : he’s willing to date with intention of long term or just hang out . I let him know what my expectations were .

[@valerielinares2068]

The comment Steve makes about, the woman does everything for herself and the guy's left asking himself, "well damn, what am I supposed to do?" I have a guy friend who takes initiative to do things. I never ask for him to carry my luggage, but he takes initiative. I don't always ask for him to get the thing on the high shelf, but, when he sees that's what I need, he takes initiative. Granted, he doesn't always take initiative. But, when he sees I need some help in some way, he takes initiative. I do tend to be the type that, "I can do it all myself." Mostly because I feel like I grew up in an environment where I had to do it all myself. But, I appreciate that my friend takes initiative to do those things, even to the point where he insists to do them for me when I'm being stubborn, thinking I can do it myself. He does it in a way that's authoritative but still respectful. I think more men should be that way.

[@pogonarugeorge3504]

Yeah, but that is part of why he is your guy friend and not your boyfriend. He wants that, but because he is too nice to you you put him in the friendzone.

[@maryihezie1190]

Love it! :)

[@gemini022]

And when I ask for something to get done and a week later it’s still not done....I have to turn into Super Woman. It’s what I’m accustomed to.

[@godsgirl7201]

ayeikat Hellllllll no he gotta go

[@mariahansen9882]

Thank you, there’s plenty of space for them to be men. No one wants to wait 2 weeks for you to feel like taking out the trash. So instead of nagging, I’ll do it myself

[@Editer_perez5]

Omg exactly!!!!! Ughhhhh!!!!

[@godsgirl7201]

Vanessa Lopez hey

[@SontaLovely]

ayeikat is he your man or your son?

[@luanab6789]

Kill the spider, no, take it out😂😂

[@suzanneschulz8479]

You know all I'm about to turn 56 year old done woman and am content as a single lady. Its cool to not have a boyfriend.

[@kinndah2519]

suzanne schulz I just turned 30 and respect that. But if I want kids...then that won't work.

[@jsmum196]

At 56 you make all the rules! Every era in a woman's life is amazing. At 56 you can sit back and relax, kids are grown and time to be a grandma with some beautiful babies.

[@realdjtoddthunder1323]

@@kinndah2519 I just turn 35...I'm a single guy with no kids...I'm rdy

[@ecaldwell9]

FINALLY! Yes. This is what I have been saying all along when he keeps preaching to woman about us understanding them.

[@shantamiller5956]

"I want you to walk on this side. In case something happens, got you." I want that kind of man.

[@Sam_A_Sam]

She's 100x nicer in real life than on her show. Dang! The difference is amazing, a good difference.

[@MrsBungle78]

I watched a show or something once that used a “pickle jar” analogy- ie. let your man open the pickle jar for you occasionally. You may even be able to do it yourself, but on occasion, call for your man to do something for you. It makes them feel useful & needed. My boyfriend at the time watched this show with me so whenever I was in a situation where I had a jar that was hard to open or a dish was up too high I’d say “pickle jar” & we’d laugh & he’d do whatever it was that I needed & he’d thank me- half in a sarcastic, joking way but half seriously because he knew I was trying to let him feel needed! It was a simple, silly little thing but we both understood the concept & it’s value...& it was good for our relationship.

[@wnoelrobbins]

It seems that the epidemic of absent fatherhood and dysfunctional parenting relationships have dismantled the culture of coutship. I am interested in this very topic from an academic perspective. There is more to trends in dating behavior than meets the eye.

[@inthezonenews]

So many women have accepted this because if you don't you are almost in a lifetime of singleness. Finding that guy that really treats a woman with respect is like searching for a needle in a stack of needles.

[@colbalt95]

Correction: _Finding that guy at the *age of 30+ after playing with the disrespectful guys* is like finding a needle in a haystack.

[@lisalisa9085]

MzQueen G yeahz absolutely right

[@tianamiller6820]

Better to be single and unhappy than be in a relationship amd STILL be unhappy. Would rather be alone than settle for breadcrumbs. Men are not that important.

[@mitzkitty]

River Moon e

[@leslieangela9114]

Better to be single than a rag doll

[@ibnfaqir9223]

Never trust a skinny chef and never trust a single matchmaker.

[@RoyalMasterpiece]

ibn faqir She is very good at matchmaking.

[@iamthatiam3652]

ibn faqir true

[@humble166]

Its hard to be a Lady Boss and be married. Sometimes those qualities clash

[@phillygyrl34]

Jessica Fry very true...it is hard to turn it on and off, but I am learning.

[@myassessmentadres1349]

she is working too hard and too ambitious

[@Coolct]

I love Patti... wish I could have gone on her show!

[@aceocean9146]

Men are not dogs nor are we tools to be used

[@colbalt95]

xrcrx ftfghjg but only men are condemned for their actions.

[@FirstLadyG]

Mr Steve you are awesome. Great advise and love both you and your lovely wife. She is such a lady and you are a gentleman. Thanks so much for this great discussion. I really pray Patti finds her husband.

[@dejiraji9994]

She's hating on the young girls lol

[@acorntree404]

Shes right thou.

[@jsmum196]

She's trying to teach young girls as is Steve. Don't give it away! Make him treat you like a queen. You hold the key to the secret garden. Don't let anyone in. Get married first!

[@newjustice1]

These old broads were supposed to be married a long time ago

[@ThatGmoney]

Ya I know women who are in their 50s and trashed

[@dennaspradlin9777]

Amen brother harvey !

[@dance4life1208]

she dnt got a man but a matchmaker?

[@TJAP404]

dance4life1208 I think she was married before

[@robinlight]

dance4life1208 she can't keep one

[@elijameson471]

dance4life1208 "those who teach can't do"

[@luckycamachopapaleo324]

It takes 2 to make it work. She could be doing things right and it still doesn't work out. We are all humans ,even psychiatrist goes to a psychiatrist.

[@luckycamachopapaleo324]

@Brown Moscato everybody will age, even you.

[@elenarotestan5823]

Tough society nowadays but never lower your values, beleives and yourself. The right person eventually comes along. Be patient and kind. 😃

[@godsgirl7201]

Damn Steve always got the full package guys😍😍😍

[@msvanessaceo]

Make a video for men to watch so they will be encouraged to be the man they were designed to be. The men who don't watch are not ready to be encouraged. Come on men I believe in you!

[@msvanessaceo]

Voice of Reason 4U Sounds like you took something personal, it was just a comment to the video. Be safe!

[@jazzyjay9417]

I'm looking forward to see the quality of men Steve Harvey has lined up Patty! This should be interesting

[@MrRedragon64]

I had a girlfriend last year and I discovered that at my age now, (I'm 56) a relationship is not for me. I like having my freedom. No responsibilities to anyone. No one asking me or telling me what to do. I prefer to just pay when I need company. The best part....I get to keep everything I worked hard for, it all goes to my daughter

[@saltycat662]

Well that's all well and good for you but what happens when you're old, sick and alone. You won't have the love of a partner to hold your hand and help you through the hard times.

[@magdalinemwangi7056]

You can reconsider. God bless you

[@Shaara1]

There are 2 types of men novadays. The one who is intimidated and/or put off by independent strong women and the other who likes to take advantage of an independent woman. They don't want to look after that woman so it's a basic requirement novadays from a woman to be financially and otherwise independent and not to bring any baggage to the table.

[@CaliKrazyTV]

The cape is on heavy..lol

[@antmagor]

A lot of people have criticized her as not being qualified to be a matchmaker because she’s yet to have a relationship that’s lasted the course. I disagree completely with that criticism. I disagree with it because the whole point of having a matchmaker is having an objective person who is not emotionally invested in the relationship, take a look at what you’re doing wrong and what you’re doing right and give you some tools while finding somebody who is actually compatible on a myriad of levels. When you’re looking for a relationship for yourself, it’s different because you’re not an objective party. You’re very much invested in the other person. So if you ever see a matchmaker, who’s not married, all that means is either they like their independence so they chose not to or, they like their clients might need an objective to help them make the connection.

[@dearkaelsman5408]

Go, Steve Harvey. ☆, ☆, ☆, ☆, ☆.

[@jenniferhill8776]

Id love to find the process Patti finds a man. Im gonna love this

[@cindyasters]

Guys also today have to always be right.

[@Martin-zr2tb]

I like the way she conducts herself , very sexy 😁 And she knows what’s up, trying to help everyone out and still be boss enough to mediate an approach people respect and will listen to Nothing goods happens after 11 😂everybody’s grandmothers told them that, too true

[@MathyMath]

i can't write book to men cuz men don't read 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣

[@anjelaanjel7933]

i need a million dollar man lol

[@terencesims366]

Patti a nice person

[@JuanitaMichelle]

His first point though!?!? WOW. I’ve been singing this song so loudly. I don’t blame the men. I blame the women that came before me for allowing men to treat them the way they try to treat me.

[@highrawvegan]

But why the spider has to die tho?

[@myownlittleworld9216]

She looks so much like the indian actress Katrina kaif.......wow!!!!

[@ChiaraMarandellas]

I'm not Patti's age, nor am I 18-23, but since online dating has become so easily accessible over the years... let's face it, we didn't have tinder ten years ago, so it was more over facebook or several messy websites... Probably the most contact you can get without your phone would be a club or at a bar (and let's face it, most people aren't sober there.) You just don't meet people at the library, a park or at the supermarket anymore. I met my guy five years ago, just when Tinder was becoming a thing, but to be honest, if I was single tomorrow I would be totally clueless. It isn't going to change anytime soon, so we just have to live with it. It has its perks for sure, safety (?sometimes) and you can weed through the partners you don't find attractive but you could also miss a partner who might be the right guy for you mentally. On the other hand, not everybody is look for "THE ONE" online. I wouldn't even blame it on young girls ruining the game, it's just technology these days. I guess you just have to date more... and be clear one what you want to find... :-)

[@darthvader3910]

Im pretty sure Patti was not happy with this segment, cuz the irony here is so strong, How a matchmaker needs somebody else to help her find her match.

[@jsmum196]

California men, "Lazy Lions" they don't want to get off the couch and get the girl. East coast!!!

[@montgal53]

Many women keep selling themselves short is because, often, (a) they set the bar low; and (b) they pay attention to the wrong attribute when deciding to choose a mate. This is the bad habit of women Steve is talking about. According the guest, it is 'age'. No. It is not age. A 35 year old woman can fall prey like a 19 year old woman (who is actually still a child). .

[@MnM412614]

I had to tell a guy about walking code.. Some men just don’t care to be gentleman

[@ginorusselwilliams9461]

MnM412614 A walking code?

[@zeez9650]

GINO WILLIAMS she wants you closer to the road so if an accident happens her ass can survive to find a new man while your 6 feet under

[@ginorusselwilliams9461]

ze ez That's why it's best to leave her ass to walk on the side towards the road.

[@zora99ny]

GINO WILLIAMS you're the type of man women should avoid. I hope you're alone

[@1luvlylola]

I loooove PATTI!!!!

[@szaef2897]

I really hope she finds love.. partnership is important

[@montgal53]

What Patti said was BS. The first thing she is looking for, as with many women, is "looks". "Smart" comes in at a distant fourth. You can be dumb as a rock and good-looking, and have women drool over you. Patti was not being honest with herself.

[@stormgray708]

it would be nice if it isn't always about the dynamic between woman and man... there are also same sex relationships and it would be nice to also get advice and get more blueprints for people in same sex relationships

[@robinlight]

My father reads and holds a Bachelors and Masters so he reads. Ok Steve

[@bettysmith4747]

Steve is right in a lot of things but the man should have already been on the ladder and fixed things. if you're looking to get married please let him be already be set up with everything youll need his own everything if he doesn't want anything you'll never have anything .unless you do it for yourself and that's very hard. if he doesn't treat his mom like a queen and dad like a king whole family with love and respect neither will he you either all that comes along with him or her let me tell you a secret God has the spouse and he will find you if God see you mean business with him

[@thrilla72]

Can't respond to problems that we don't know about

[@simplylyzzie4210]

I miss her show ughhhh

She's not mate material...end of story Young or old has nothing to do with it, it's feminism that's changed everything

[@jsmum196]

There's a lid for every pot. A Jewish man likes an alpha female.

[@SuziJacuzzie]

Mmmmmm🤔🤔🤔😏 I do hope that Steve can find Patti a parther, ooh well🤔, the jury is still out on that one for now.

[@dennaspradlin9777]

Can we see a update on pattis love life...

[@tammilynnhenderson1621]

I so agree with these two💪🏽

[@suesalisbury6847]

Did they do the follow up -dating segment for Patty?

[@nellan6930]

How does Steve know where the guys Are? Is there an app that these men are signing up to just waiting for him to click on?

[@maureenikwueme6251]

Steve makes sense

[@lizxu322]

she looks like an older lana del rey

[@wendyknox-leet1034]

She will die lonely and childless. Her work is her life, fame is her lover. I think she does not really want a relationship. I do not think she is willing to compromise for anyone. I have had children and husbands, now at 68 I enjoy my family and friends and I have no need for a man. In my old age, with my own money I do not need a man anymore. The last thing I want is a man and all his baggage. Friends are great, but a lover? No more. As an elder, I rely on my own resources.

[@michelelanham]

You are very judgmental.

[@ladycatfish2896]

"husbands".... Yes, I think I have a feeling where all that "independent money" comes from.

[@zeez9650]

Lady Catfish 50% of each husbands assist she better be set for life

[@ladycatfish2896]

+ze ez Perhaps, but it would be nice to confirm... +Wendy Knox-Leet Can you clarify how many husbands you had and what happened to each marriage? Husbands is plural, so that means at least 2... And that word usage in that sentence tells me it is not just 2, but likely 3 or maybe even 4. I find it hard to believe a person could have had 5+ marriages, so my guess is 3. Sound about right?

[@michelelanham]

I don't judge people. It's hard enough out there trying to find the right person.

[@21burnettburnettgang52]

Not a spider tho!! Not me...... but Anything else

[@LadyAngela678]

I have a house, but I would love a better one. 😘

[@denissealmonte8664]

So to be loved you have to stroke his ego basically.

[@gloriamutoni5137]

I heard that men fear to approach relationship bloggers and match makers..it's a mystery really

[@corianne2099]

The problem is parents are not teaching their boys to be men and their girls to be ladies

[@braylonlee1924]

I would like to read the book for men.

[@cruisecon2073]

There are masculine girls and feminine guys too 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@carlitabonita]

Great video

[@the_one1001]

The PROBLEM STEVE is that..... If SOME men get a Good deal...then Good on them

[@divinerae4966]

I thought she was engaged back in the start of her show?

[@kingconscience.1597]

Interesting that she can't find a man but yet her profession is based upon finding love and matching people. It's her niche yet she can't do it for herself. She's the female version of "Hitch" lol...and she has lots going for her so it actually should be easier than someone else who may not have all that she has, on paper. She's attractive, she has an extremely profitable business that makes her millions and yet she can't seem to find and keep a man to marry him??? Hmmm.....🤔

[@amazonjunglez1188]

LaDiva DeJour. I think,it's the same as,a doctor can't heal himself. He need another doctor to heal him. Yet,he heals thousands of people. A therapist needs another therapist to help her, solve her problems. Yet,she help solving other people's problems. That kind of thing.

[@karlay455]

But she still have never get married - she got the run but nothing after that

[@stefeno372]

Yes

[@everydayrants663]

If you have $$$$ your in. Woman ask too much of us men nowadays

[@realtalktina]

I want to see who she was hooked up with where are the other videos

[@Pachi4026]

Give a man a purpose.

[@ashleybraxton4355]

Look woman dont talk for all of us...

[@daisyrivera3053]

Tisk tisk 🤔

[@valerielinares2068]

Steve, men like YOU don't read. I definitely know men that read. My dad was an avid reader, and I know other men who enjoy reading as well.

[@jsmum196]

But they do not read self help books!

[@ipsitasen9569]

@@jsmum196 Real man would prefer calls instead of reading and sending you texts.

[@aceocean9146]

MGTOW

[@leonardodakimchi]

Lol she is looking for smart men....yet she's single and giving advice and matching other single women? RED FLAG.

[@MrJimmy3459]

If you can't even maintain a relationship yourself you have not business giving or setting up people.....................

[@heliaalves9062]

We usually give good advice but struggle to follow it ourselves. She is a nice matchmaker even if she is single.

[@lightofall]

Has she found anyone?

[@apmgaming6854]

That y she old😂😂😂....(steve Harvey grammer)

[@marto256]

Walk on the curb lil bih, cars kills #MeToo

[@Lczzy]

Steve find her a man!

[@kim6234]

What in the @#$& did she do to her face? 😶

[@god563616]

I thought Patty was engaged???

[@rosej5029]

god563616 the engagement was broken.

[@dexkato7329]

When a man finds a woman that he considers wife material, for example, she is easy to have a conversation with, she takes care of her health, by keeping her weight under control, has common sense, embraces her God given natural beauty, doesn't have any STD'S, has good hygiene, can cook healthy food and make it taste great, is not overly religious, keeps a clean house, and she has feminine energy, a husband will appear to sweep her off of her.

[@kekef3620]

Just curious...what type of man is husband material?

[@dexkato7329]

I can only speak on what a lot of successful black men are looking for in a wife.

[@kekef3620]

+Dex Kato - Fair enough. I personally know many women who are married to successful men and they don't have all those qualities you listed. Not even half to be honest. I think if a woman is attractive and the man is ready and has decided to settle down..he will wife her. I always tell my single friends...just be hot and decent lol.

[@M0chaJ0J0]

Having your weight under control doesn’t mean you’re healthy. 🙄

[@thrilla72]

Femme Fatale so both sides are lowerong their standards eh?

[@ProtocolsMaster]

The Beta-male Harvey Show

[@travelguide10124]

Stop blaming the younger generation for going over guys houses at “11 at night”. Stop blaming the younger generation for EVERYTHING. that’s so annoying people don’t know better if they aren’t taught better. That’s facts. Teach us how to work hard and not settle. And she acting like women her age got it all together. Yeah right divorce rate still high. Women doing stuff by themselves. Some women that age settle for any type of man too especially cause they older. And tired of waiting so idk wtf she talking bout.

[@BeautyBeauty-di8xq]

Yes you should be listening to Steve who’s married not single. Js

[@eshesimua]

Steve is an old man stuck in the past. He only speaks what he knows, no shade just outdated advice. Women are not "traditional" anymore and men are evolving as well. If you want a solid relationship in 2018 you need to be open minded and ready to collaborate

[@froggybug]

eshesimua then those are not women...those are girls. Steve is talking about grown folks....not folks that want to teeth and offer their bodies to the first dude that says “hey beautiful”