Stop Being So Offended

[@999124999]

We are the generation of butthurts and the offended. This applies to males and females

[@lopezdecastilla]

OMG YOU ARE JUST SO RUDE!!!!!

[@youandijmh7998]

I wish we could take some of those people on trips to the 1920s and have them try to act offended among those people. That should be fun.

[@remichloegoyo]

I made a joke about Nun 2 (The sequel to the original movie) back around February on Instagram and someone got offended by comment and said “Stop with the cherry on top!” people are so butthurt nowadays!!!!! it’s time to grow up!!!!

[@lopezdecastilla]

@Ali mukhsin Mukhsin Very true! :D

[@DC-ep7he]

The newest generation is even more conservative than the baby boomer generation.

[@TheWayne8698673]

OFFENDED, DISLIKED..... just kidding man, great video.

[@dansogordon1010]

There's a will There's a Wei loll

[@sgt_malice4521]

There's a will There's a Wei 🙄

[@Misana]

Why does such an important video have so few views?

[@Misana]

+Enobmah Enomoto Shards What?

[@Misana]

+Enobmah Enomoto Shards You're a troll. Have a great day.

[@queenoflanadelhoneymoox7944]

+Enobmah Enomoto Shards lol you think people are offended by you 😂😂😂 imao carry on with your day 😆😂

[@Misana]

+Nancy Ortiz Yeah. it was weird. I left my comment 2 months ago.. so I didn't even know what he was talking about. I was confused..not offended. Lol.

[@Misana]

Possibly...

[@davidarbelaez4395]

I see so many people going way out of their way to be offended.

[@Orderofman]

It's true man!

[@mclovin2408]

Yeah when people do that shit i just make it my goal to piss them off more and more just to see how fucking retarded they are

[@Kutsushita_yukino]

Im freaking confused :/

[@clairecalitz4036]

True, it makes me think that they must be very ineffective in their lives because that's not an attitude that leads to success.

[@halogenn_]

THIS is such an issue. People get offended over EVERYTHING. I was just under a video where a bunch of teenage girls danced the hula choreo from Lilo and Stitch. It wasn´t perfect but it was a good attempt. They did it for international day...because thats what you do...( either pick your own country or another and research and do something about it ). People were butthurt AS HECK. So offended! I was livid to be honest. It seemed to go COMPLETELY over their head that there was no malicious intent. That they simply did this because they LOVED the movie and wanted to show love and appreciation for a culture. We stopped giving people the benefit of the doubt, granted : humans can be terrible, but we shouldn´t assume the worst right off the bat. Instead of people writing "I know this is a choreo based on a kids movie but its nowhere close to actual hula. I would´ve liked to see that! Good attempt! " They were absolutely VILE. Calling them all the names in the book. People stopped assuming that "Hey even though they may not be from my culture, they might just be interested in it...and even though its wrong and slightly cringey ( maybe even offensive ) I can appreciate their interest and effor". No, instead they cry cultural appropiation. Cause honey it ain´t. They tried to portray it accurately. They showed love and dedication. Its not like they completely dragged it and made some hip hop break dance hula out of it. People have gotten to comfortable and bored with day to day life that they search for thrill, or something to stir their emotions. Today it might be a movie. Tomorrow it might that person that had geniuine interest in their culture. The saddest part? Human relations, innovation and progressing is based on SHARING cultures and knowledge. But we are regressing. Regressing because SPECIAL SNOWFLAKES get offended over people showing interest in their culture. And because people are afraid of going beyond their own cultures. Scared of sharing their own. Humanity would not be where it would be now if everyone was such a whiny baby. Personally, I think anyone should be AVID to teach their culture to others. Heck, even though they are hailed as the devil by modern idiots ; When I lived in an arab - muslim country, even when I did things that were offensive, they would be absolutely thrilled to educate me and talk about their culture. They were THRILLED when you showed interest in their food, celebrations and past. And the saddest part is that we are unable to share all our wonderful cultures, to love them, appreciate them, preserve them and grow together. SImply becuase of some special snow flakes. Here is a news flash : No one cares if you are offended, if there is no legit base behind it. With legit base I don´t mean an accidentally wrong repesentation because of a kids movie choreo, but people with malicious intend...or simply out for a good laugh dragging cultures. I´m sorry this is long. But I´m absolutely livid.

[@leesheister1887]

Would die for some bread There are a lot if us who feel the same way. The majority of us just don’t speak out about it. God bless.

[@clairecalitz4036]

You made so many great points, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I think we are being challenged by outrage culture into learning to prize our happiness and serenity and ironically that means learning not to be offended by people who thrive on being offended. I've been watching Owen Benjamin daily streams a lot because he makes me laugh at these ridiculous people which for me is a stress release but also because he just focuses on crushing and these people that are always offended are let's face it Losers!! They are for sure not crushing their mindset prevents it and I find it so easy to be triggered by them but I'm tired of them stealing my focus, focus I can use to keep crushing. I really liked what you had to say though it's very true.

[@chr1s5ophi3]

👏 excellent points👏

[@ballers9172]

Sometimes it's hard not to offend people and they get easily offended you know

[@teresaleite2892]

ESPECIALLY WITH RACISM FOR NO REASON!!!!! It gets to the point you can be accidentally racist! You call a black person anything and it’s racist

[@davidansty6450]

Taking offense always puts the offended in a weaker position. And effectively they lose every time they do it.

[@VictoriaMorganawesometori]

This is useful to me as a woman. Great advice!

[@Orderofman]

+Victoria Morgan I'm glad!

[@emilyl3952]

Yup

[@vincec4114]

Just found your channel. Thanks for the content. Very useful stuff. My father told me, when I was very young, that if someone says something that offends you it’s your problem. I didn’t understand it at the time, but now I see what he meant. People have the right to say whatever they want. If you allow yourself to be hurt by their words then it’s your problem. The are only words and opinions. They mean nothing unless you allow it. Being a man means being bigger then that. Let them say or think whatever, you should know the truth. So words shouldn’t bother you.

[@YumegakaMurakumo]

@Vince C your comment should be pinned to the top/have the most upvotes! It's so true. But God, why can't this be more easier to do?

[@brian1715]

This is good stuff !! This is one thing I’m actively working on is me taking offense so easily !! Every day I learn and get better ! Love yourself and love life !!

[@jessikanation7326]

Shared this. So many more people need to see it!

[@jeffcartwright4197]

Great job with being clear and precise! My favorite part is focusing on “considering the source” portion. Please keep the videos rolling out!

[@thelifescout8335]

I am so glad that I found your page recently. Everyday I’m working to become the best man I can be. Now this video hits a issue I’m going through myself with my coworkers. I am a automotive technician, I’ve been doing for 6 years so far. I started at a shop that was very high caliber. The owner was a very sharp tech, held many master certs and aided me to become the tech I am today. I become a very motivated tech, always wanting to learn new technology, diagnostic techniques and I practiced what I learned. Unfortunately I had I felt it was time part ways with my boss because of always working and it killed my social life with family and girlfriend. I have been at a new shop for 2 years so far and I dread it every day. I felt I went from very high skill level to now doing work that the kid a Jeffy lube does. This is not me I’m better then just general service but that’s what this shop does more of. Now the problem I have is my coworkers will come up to me and stare will I work and finally say “ what the hell are you doing?” Or your “why are you doing it like that?” Or they ask me “ do you need help? Are you sure?” In a tone that sounds like I don’t know or can’t do the task. I feel undervalued every time. Like you said I feel they see me as an idiot but yet my current boss will come to me to knock out jobs or take a look at a car before he asks them. It’s gotten to the point we’re I’ve bottled it up so much that I’m a bout to snap on the next person that says something. I don’t know how to handle this situation really. Maybe I’m getting offended to easily, maybe I need to speak up, maybe it’s a lake of confidence and insecurity with myself. Any of my fellow Order of Men have any advice on this situation or opinions (good or bad) ? Thanks for videos!

[@piak78]

Ive been there man. These people who make comnents or remarks on our abilities are just random people on the street or new people in our line of work who do not know who we are and dont have any idea of our skill and abilities. Most of these people have mental issues like ADHD aspergers etc(even adults). So jus have an inner smile and know in your heart that most people are just effing idiot retards. Meditate everyday when u feel agravated when u have memories of these things. Dont let a bunch of random retards spoil your peace of mind. Life is a effing joke anywayz. Live it as a joke as well. See videos like this when u feel down. It will raise ur vibe instantly. Thats wat i do. I hope this helps.

[@freetobememe4358]

In the past I have been offended over little things. I pray I am making better choices now.

[@ugandanknucklesisntadeadme3060]

This was ahead of it's time. Everyone needs this video nowadays.

[@germanshep2008]

man every man should be watching you videos. you put so much light on to life

[@niasmith4939]

And women too.

[@124Outdoor]

Excellent! I've come to realise the resentment the easily offended show when they are offended is more fuel for their gutty egos.

[@adamcarlos9824]

Damn,today I had a bad day because I got offended by little things by my classmate simple jokes which make me almost change class which have a very good lecturer.Thank you for changing my mind

[@whit2642]

Your videos are so well done! I am a woman but still love them! They are actually pretty common sense and universal and things we all need to hear sometimes to remind us that life is always just a learning opportunity toward being full circle productive citizens of earth. Please don’t stop making these. Make some directed to us gals too! I enjoy having someone just tell me like it is.

[@sherminsherkat5617]

You have no idea how much this video made me feel better! Thank you

[@stephenrodriguez1670]

Oh, this is so good. I started laughing so hard and learned so much about myself. OOM is quickly becoming my go to source for recovery.

[@Chromestalkers]

The 16 dislikes must of got offended 😁

[@renaissancemarinetv3536]

good words. just the other day i got sucked into a nasty youtube comment war with idiots. it was a waste of my time and effort.

[@Orderofman]

I know what you mean Renaissance MarineTV! This lesson was more for me than anyone :)

[@korviscapetrova5269]

Social media and the constant back and forth arguments does make us bitter and take away our key energy.

[@corona9290]

So much truth to this video, I'll be the first to admit that I am offended easily, I left my job a month ago because I was so insecure about my performance and my ability to retain information. My coworkers were making me feel like a dumbass so I left. I now feel worse knowing I was a coward and couldn't just deal because I let my emotions get the best of me. I am really depressed thinking about all my stupid mistakes I made and ruminating alone with my thoughts thinking about my shit life doesn't help. I am currently searching for a job but, I've had little to no luck finding anything. I'm nearing 30 and I'm losing hope in myself with each passing day. I'm learning to be more confident by going to the gym and getting myself out of my comfort zone as often as I can but it's harder than I thought

[@Rajput36037]

keep it up man you are going in the right direction just believe in yourself and keep hustling 💯

[@e8blue]

Truly blessed to have learned that today. Time to live by it.

[@drewcarlson3395]

I needed to watch this cause a bunch of people got offended at me the other day because of sarcasm and the validation that im not crazy is so so satisfying

[@samj749]

It's so hard for me to get offended I thought it was a problem but now I see it's not a problem

[@slingtime9179]

I seriously appreciate a man speaking this!!! I wish more men were willing but this is much needed for both women and men. Good stuff!👍🏽

[@asdf7108]

I get the feeling the real reason people get offended is to virtue signal. Think about it when people get offended its often on behalf of others and they get loud and makes a big scene..

[@halogenn_]

I would say its because there is nothing else to do. Humans tend to seek conflict, some more than others. Especially if they are bored. Sometimes its because of that or because they had a bad day.

[@SuperT]

Like the pewdiepie thing? Most people who are offended weren’t even Jewish

[@NoName-mm6gh]

Bulletproof Chiminchanga right on, 👌

[@NoName-mm6gh]

SuperT lol

[@djohra]

👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 Im really impressed about how you explain this in a logical way and your video don’t just show us how to not get offended but it also helps me to know how to respond 😘😘😘

[@laurahernandez5745]

this is for anyone who is offended maybe i just have a lot of masculine energy but needed to hear all of it thanks!

[@phoebecatgirl933]

Very good advice for men AND for women! How did we ever get in such a predicament?

[@alyssamayle477]

I'm offended by this video 😂😂 no I'm kidding, yes people are easily offended and so am I but sometimes the reason I get offended is because I feel like I really can't trust anyone. I mean every time I think someone is a nice person or they really just wanna be friends they turn out to be jerks and users. So sometimes I get offended and defensive is because I wanna make sure the person I'm talking to is not like the others but sadly they are. Sometimes I talk about people when they aren't around but I'm not gonna say downright mean things unless they have done me or someone wrong. But I've learned to forgive and move on and I do feel better 😃

[@ClaudioAnthony]

We need more videos like this. Thank you.

[@akbaer60]

This will be really useful to my everyday life. Thank you man.

[@rontocknell3592]

No one has a “right” not to be offended. I get that and I agree with that point. Being offended is a fact of life. But to say “stop being offended” is pretty much the same as saying “stop offending me”. Freedom of speech must include the right to offend. However, it must also include the right of those who do take offence to say as much and to explain why they find it offensive (“learning something” goes both ways). Many things offend me. I have a right to object and I have a right to voice my objection. However, I do recognise that freedom of speech is far more important than my... or anyone else's... subjective sensibilities. What I don't have the right to do is silence those who offend me. Furthermore, I strongly oppose any attempt to silence those whose views offend me. I accept that there are occasions when I will feel offended and, by the same token, you must accept that there will be those who will be offended and voice their concerns. Such is life.

[@gtdadof10]

So, you really missed the entire point, huh?

[@yesyes105]

TRIGGERED!!!!

[@marcomartini9239]

lol

[@bariohuli145]

Lol

[@bariohuli145]

Lol

[@martinvanschalk5973]

Well said man.

[@Therealvashneyy]

I thought I was wrong in some way when I had a squabble with my older sister she got so easily offended it was so disappointing .. you said it best.

[@JNRix1]

Can anyone imagine there Dad saying they where offended by something growing up 😂

[@Taolonn]

so, in short: getting offended points that the others and what they think about us is important for us , which is letting others control us. right?

[@jasoncalicaveman]

Such a great video brotha! “consider the source” Spot on man!

[@jameshunt2905]

Ryan........ is the content of this video intended to be delivered including speed and without breathing or on some level of pushing experience and the ideas that come from experience at the pace of thought? Perhaps a quality of value to add here is the “Idea” of holding the space and the tone in which others can hear and take in what is intended. Please consider how what you’d intended here would best be received. On another level or oder of things I’d offer the appreciation and quality outreach you are representing here........ great work! Finally...... Thank you!

[@ChemEDragon]

Just watched this. I'm impressed.

[@Orderofman]

Thanks brother!

[@3DSTakemaruEX]

I agree with you 100%. When I voiced my opinion on a protest that happened in Chicago two months ago, I was accused of being a sympathizer for corrupt cops. All I was saying that destroying something the city wouldn't fix the bad situation. I still think someone or something is manipulating these SJWs. How is the way they react to stuff justice?

[@jamesrandles6514]

+ShamanOmega They just want attention. And there overreacting yea a guy got unfairly killed for no reason oh but then you realize that happens everyday all over the world. Death happens and rioting around and breaking shit is not gonna bring that person back or help the problem.

[@halogenn_]

Its like a bunch of weightlifter 3 year olds throwing a tantrum because their favorite toy is in the washing machine because they spilled milk on it.

[@NoName-mm6gh]

Trueblade Kikoutei people are so outraged with people's opinions it's getting redundant

[@novamaster1269]

Men and women today need to get thicker skin.

[@jflores85]

the last part, thats me. people give me crap about my situation and it just makes me feel worse and second guess everything

[@Max-pu9es]

That was kind of helpful but I guess I still need more clarification on this topic if possible! How can anyone communicate with you and get more personalized information? Thanks!

[@theden-jimdill7037]

We have such fragile egos, and it’s true for the strongest among us.

[@PunkMusicIs4Real]

Thank God someone agrees on not being offended

[@gregdos2625]

Thank you.

[@Thinkonthesethings77]

I would love to share this but I can't with the curse word. It isn't that offends me -see what I did there- it's just that I have the conviction that all words we as believers use should be wholesome. I haven't heard any 'curse' words in any of your other vids so that's great...is there any way you could edit and repost this so I can share? I ask this because we ourselves don't use 'curse words' and council the youth in our lives against it so it would be hard to share this as it is. Thank you for your efforts to help males, growing and grown, be better.

[@Orderofman]

+Tara Wright I'm glad the message resonated with you! I will be doing more videos and articles on this topic in the near future that I think you'll be able to share. Make sure to stay tuned!

[@nortesur9504]

You are feeling offended every time because you are taking life so seriously..Nice video... Believe it or not you have a new fan from Colombia south America..

[@ShroneJohnson]

I know this vid was for men but I'm better off for seeing it, listening and taking it in. Timeless video for sure

[@parley1994]

Most people did not intend to cause offense. So we should not act like they did. If they did mean to cause offense, the last thing we want to do is give them what they want.

[@usef997]

Your perspective of seeing stuff is really amazing and useful bro keep it up !

[@Orderofman]

+uSef 997 Appreciate that!

[@niallcurran7894]

Brilliant video, broken down so well in plain English. Praise the Lord!!🙋

[@captainspaulding4777]

Four words, Live and let live. Why is that so hard?

[@levelzanimations]

Thanks

[@davidstone281]

I'm not in any way shape or form a easily offended snowflake, but I thought I'd comment this quote from Nostalgia Critic The Lion King Review This line is more relevant now than it ever was before. Mufasa: "Simba, being brave doesn't mean you go looking for trouble." Simba: "But the internet says otherwise." Mufasa: "Oh christ!" Simba: "Twitter says I should always be offended." Mufasa: "What did I tell you about them?" Simba: "They need to see more physical people?" Mufasa: "And the sun! They need to see the sun!"

[@mikeemejoo9805]

I know I am late on this. Great info, great content. Order of man is the shit...

[@deltasolar2985]

Brazilian Olavo de Carvalho always says: "never feel offended, even when you are". Feeling offended is a sign of baseness.

[@batman66ism]

Thank You For this.

[@michaelking4578]

STOP TELLING ME WHAT TO DO BEARD MAN!! Or were you just telling people in general? I'm sorry. Been paranoid lately. But if this was for me then SHUT UP! If not then keep it up man!

[@chumblesthecheese8580]

Awesome video... listening on repeat until I get it.

[@mrorbit2u]

I thumbed you up on your first few sentences. I hate it and need to work on it. Damn, I'M AN IDIOT!!!

[@anonymous-od1gv]

Those who gets offended never take responsibility

[@MeeNuFer]

I clicked this for myself (a female) & pleasantly surprised that there are men out there in the world who try to be better human beings. Thanks for the content - it truly helps to keep my head in gear. No. 3 reason is hilarious 😂 & true 🫣

[@fortuneokonta8187]

Thank you for this wonderful video. Be focus and move forward.

[@dillonbrady3435]

Great video!! Great advice!! Thank you for the video and all your hard work. Please keep it up and keep the videos coming. Great job!!!

[@kostas9006]

Don't tell me what to do I'm offended

[@MrRaph543]

Fill up with Spirit - Great video. Thank you

[@niranmojo]

Great points from start to finish

[@sagenelsen5551]

I Think this is good for anybody! Great video

[@luckaugustin5123]

That's easier said than done.

[@AlvinCwk]

its 11 more days until 2020!!! Are y'all ready to enter the new era where things like this get worse and worse??

[@solocomics1820]

I don't it's much of a bad year. We see lot a bad things that are happening in the news and the media but I don't it's a bad year to honest. I'm feeling really positive for this year.

[@SonictheHedgehog1st]

This video needs way more views

[@UnderseaCaveman]

I am literally shaking

[@fereshteha8501]

I liked the first two parts but i didn't like the solutions for overcoming getting offended.

[@thecatserole245]

This is gonna be so useful

[@spiritlake9]

What I don't get is why do some people have to be offensive. Saying some stupid shit just to start shit. Some people should learn respect and learn to mind there own business.

[@carissaj3560]

Can you speak on people getting offended when they are triggered or jump to conclusions, like think people are being condescending when they aren't even trying to be

[@shi-o8434]

And there's people still offended about this video

[@wazza0011]

AS A 40+ YEAR OLD SEEING PEOPLE BEING OFFENDED THESE DAYS MAKES FOR GREAT ENTERTAINMENT . MY QUESTION THOUGH IS WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU GET OFFENDED . CRACK A FIT, START A WAR, ZITS POP UP, MIGHT EVEN GROW A TAIL AND EVOLVE WHHHHAAAATTTFFS

[@cephalonia5001]

12 people were offended

[@nicholasbecker644]

Amazing video brother!!

[@syramanryohani3647]

This video is so much better in 0.75 speed

[@Bobby_S.S.]

Great! This applies to women too.

[@dandimit5104]

...before it was cool

[@LeviSlaton]

Great video man. Just found your channel.

[@MohamedAbditheabdi]

very logical, thanks!

[@pdikshya]

Is this video just for MEN?

[@alestra85]

DON'T GET OFFENDED: 1. LEARN SOMETHING | 2. BECOME LESS DEFENSIVE | 3. MAKE SMART DECISIONS WHY WE GET OFFENDED: 1. YOU'RE INSECURE | 2. YOU'RE GUILTY | 3. YOU'RE AN IDIOT OVERCOME BEING OFFENDED: 1. CONSIDER THE SOURCE | 2. TUNE OUT | 3. GET GROUNDED (PS: 26 SJWs, to this day ;) )

[@Dsy4iana]

While i do believe life is too short to be offended by the little things, that doesn't mean you let anyone talk to you any kind of way. To be honest without getting offended how would we stand up for ourselves? Say somebody punches you in the face and that doesn't make you mad or say somebody tries to even kill you and you're still for whatever reason calm (Probably extremely unrealistic but lol). It may sound like a very redundant concern but, if you hit someone back then that obviously meant that it offended you for them to hit you. And if you don't get offended (Not over little things like "Fuck you" or racial slurs) but by actual physical contact then you'll just end up getting bullied tbh. So its OK to get a little offended, don't let these people try to tell you different.

[@theelectricorigins846]

The reputability of the sourde has nothing to do here... That means dogmatism or believe in others and leads to bias. Just research and become your own master.

[@davidarbelaez4395]

Great video man.

[@Orderofman]

Thank you sir!

[@Kuriocity]

*Words!*

[@underpantswedgy]

I am offended that my laptop fan is so loud

[@eristotle2380]

very valuable information, but you're talking a little too fast...

[@salteengamer4799]

.75 speed

[@Thewhiiiterabbit]

It offends me that you're offended by how fast he's talking. :|

[@clairecalitz4036]

Awesome video.