How a Man Builds More Confidence

[@Gabriel_the_Shemite]

I'm going to stand up for myself and I won't back down from a confrontation. Too many times I've been mistreated by others because I was too scared to speak up and I wanted others to be happy without considering my own wellbeing. God please lend me your strength and give me the courage for what I'm about to do.

[@DerykRonk]

This helps, but even when I did this (I still do) a few years back, I'm still not confident. I'm not scared to fight, but I'm not confident. This dude is right. Doing hard stuff, hard work, overcoming.... that is where it's at

[@Love-thyself]

same here my mate, and you are 100% right, stand up, its all about standing up, even though you don't have courage, still stand up as weak as you can be, stand up, its not easy, i have the same issue, but its worth it, may God strength your heart. and I've realized that it's been a year since this comment, so how did it go standing up for yourself mate.

[@Gabriel_the_Shemite]

@@Love-thyself I lost the battle, but I won the war. I was 17 when I posted this comment; I confronted the man who was causing me all my troubles, face to face, non of that internet malarkey. I was scared, my voice whimpered, my knees felt like noodles; when I look back at it, there was nothing to be afraid of. I don't think I got my point across in that confrontation, always you think to yourself, "I could have, should have, would have..." - but I did the best that I could in that very moment. That event tested my mettle, and is partially what made me the man today: the outcome is not what is to be praised, rather, the will to act when under pressure, I believe the latter is what separates Boys from Men. I'm 19, stronger, wiser, and bolder - all credit to Jesus. As for my adversary, he became obese and is in a path of self destruction. Many people like to say "you should forgive your enemies", but only those who ask for forgiveness deserve forgiveness, and I doubt my enemy will ever repent. The only way to achieve peace is through war; Negotiations are delays of the inevitable; Pacifists get pushed around; The victors are those who take action.

[@s.j.5810]

@@Gabriel_the_Shemite Damn straight. Proud of you, brother.

[@ashtrayyy]

You can do it bro , that’s the spirit 👍

[@aqvilifer]

Pushing for people to take responsibility for their lives? I like it damnit.

[@Orderofman]

I know, I know +aqvilifer-sometimes we wish we could just relax right?! :)

[@aqvilifer]

+Order of Man It's hard to relax though, too much stuff to do. But the question is... if it's hard to relax, does it count in doing hard stuff?

[@Orderofman]

aqvilifer Haha, great point! I guess I should have clarified hard stuff that will be productive :)

[@Liquidcadmus]

+aqvilifer i would say that anything that takes you out of your comfort zone counts as hard.

[@Erowens98]

Does the average guy even know how to relax? Or is he stressed out of his mind when he's "resting"? Is resting just sitting around doing nothing? Or is it clearing your mind an allowing it a break from daily stress. I personally believe it is the latter. And honestly, i haven't met many men capable of clearing their minds. Took me a bit to get the hang of it, but you can do it with meditation. Best part is, it only takes 10-15 minutes to meditate a bit and give your mind a rest. So you you end up with more usable time rather than less, as you no longer need to sit on the couch in front of the TV for 3 hours to relax.

[@flexingtwon]

I just did this before I watched this last week..I just got the confidence and ask my boss for a raise and he gave it to me 😆😊😊😊

[@Orderofman]

+flexingtwon Well done man! Congrats!

[@maxok3525]

Congrats man!

[@that1guy899]

Hey man that's awesome! 🤙

[@pran3220]

Confidence calls for action

[@Liquidcadmus]

This video motivates me to do things that are outside of my comfort zone. I always found that I acquire confidence through experience, like you said, it's the action that matters.

[@_jayarebee_9594]

As i am sitting here watching and listening to your words, i can heard my Grandfathers voice saying the very same thing in my youth. i lost him to soon and it has been a hard road since then. he was the great MANLY example for me. thank you for helping me look inward and find the answers i have been so in need of.

[@1971solear]

I want to thank you for taking the time to make this video. You opened my eyes. I realize now that the problem was me.. I didn't want to admit it.. I'm now focusing on me...

[@youtubeintrovert5112]

Speaking with more confidence when standing up for myself …not letting things happen to me just because it’s easy to keep quiet rather than what I feel and actually want

[@RonaldRaiden]

Confidence is also important for a woman because if she's always saying "I'm fat or I'm ugly", it makes the man feel like he's looking at the bottom of the barrel. I always had to pick myself up so that's what I respect. You have confidence despite how you see yourself in a mirror. Personality speaks a hundred times louder than looks

[@Random-gk8do]

“It’s the action that builds confidence”

[@armytank65]

By standing in my true self with confidence and no longer lower myself to fit in with other lower men

[@steve6548]

Timely video for me. 55 years old. Started BJJ two months ago. I suck. Feel like I am going backwards, not forwards. I do have a fear, a fear that I will never improve. I will keep training. I know what people will say, "Just hang in there and you will get better". But it absolutely does not feel that way.

[@ujdd201]

Love the feeling weight that is lifted after you take care of a tough task. Thanks, Ryan.

[@darkghost6923]

I'm going to look into being a semi truck driver today @4pm ! It's been something I've always wanted to do! Thsnk you for this upload

[@incubus3069]

I expressed myself emotionally to my brother and sister. I buried my emotions for many years and would more often then not act tough or put on a mask. That made me feel very insecure about my looks and emotions. By expressing my emotions in a healthy way, I can then go through and assess my mental inventory to find what doesn't work for me in my life. In my opinion, it's all about balance. 🙂

[@ericweaver7233]

I'm gonna stand on my boundaries instead of pacifying people

[@landonkirby3700]

I grew up in a single parent household, and as a result I did most of the things my mom taught me to until I hit a certain age and started hanging out with the 'cool kids' (So I started smoking, drinking etc... just to get accepted). My father and I never were close enough to each other, today I feel uncomfortable with myself etc... So I'll talk to him about my struggles and get him to understand why I seem very distant and different from all my brothers that are so talkative while I just stay there like a wallflower.

[@lysander400]

I am going to study for my Certified Personal Trainers Certification. Thank you for everything that you inspire in me!! I also did the Spartan Sprint in April 19 in Atlanta. I'm 46 my son is 16, I struggled but we finished. Do hard things!!!

[@Quiettrouble843]

From this day forward I am gonna be more sociable and go after things I want. Thanks for the video

[@robertabrahams6188]

I will take Action in working out regularly, to find a routine and habit in bettering my fitness and health.

[@livinglikeahuman7918]

You still working out bro ? I hope so I’m out here 👀

[@HalzornPS3]

I tend to lose a lot of time playing videogames. But is a hobby that I love, I'm gonna buy a camera and create and streaming, so maybe I can make this time more profitable: 1st - as a side hustle 2nd - improve my confidence talking to strangers

[@ericlee1624]

Hey Ryan. I recently joined the fb group, which led me to your podcast and this channel.My actions to begin are resetting my physical fitness, starting now. I just did a set of bodyweight squats while I finished this video, and made a date with the wife to go for a long trail walk later today.The REAL challenge though, i'm going to make myself go back to school and finish my bs in engineering. Whether I do anything with it or not is no longer important, but I have absolutely made excuse after excuse, because I'm scared of failing. Thanks for all the content you put out. Take care

[@iwearredties1317]

Thanks man, it all makes so much more sense to me now. I took action a month ago and it catapulted me to a greater degree of confidence. Now I can go even higher thanks to your help. Keep up the good work. Cheers.

[@Orderofman]

+Philip Largas Glad it helped man!

[@bigchop111]

+Order of Man im going to do whatever it takes to be more confident in myself and become the man,father,husband im suppose to be to get my wife and 2 sons back. thank you alot for your videos, they are literally changing my life especially for the time ive done in jail...thank you for showing me that i have a chance to become a better man and that theres a chance for me to get them back in my life..... again thank you alot for your advice.

[@jonathangordon9911]

I'm gonna get back into working out regularly, build better dietary habits, talk to women more, and stand by my convictions instead of remaining silent.

[@WanderWisdomHive121]

Hitting the gym and locking in while learning new skills and posting content on KZbin.

[@samfogleman2337]

I had an issue with a very high production dairy. I drive truck-we pick up farm milk at dairies. I loaded this dairy the first time and it was a fiasco. I swore I would NEVER load it again! I finally did and, with the years of experience I now have, things went a lot better. Plus I started doin keto 3 weeks ago. My life is coming together.

[@tonytnlvsn6659]

Great advise. First step is going to be waking up at 5:30 am and working out.

[@williamfreire380]

Thanks for this energizing video. Recently I have found myself lacking motivation to do the things I need to do in order to finish well in my current job and not burn any bridges. You see; I have accepted a position in another school district. The thing is that I am so sick and tired of having to take work home; yet like you explain in your video, it helps tremendously to think about the fundamental reasons why we do things. Well this job has helped me acquire a comfortable house, and a solid life style, and I have met very good people here. I am going to, at this moment, open m laptop and write a couple of reports that I have been putting off. Why? Because I am thankful for my job, and it deserves my best effort.

[@SuperFightingmachine]

All truth and best advice you can give to anyone.

[@sambhaw77]

I needed Something to go up to my boss and tell her that i wanted to quit the project, coz it made me miserable. I am glad to tell you that I have finally quit that project an now I feel Awesome and full of positivity. I have a wall poster of 8 skill set i need to master in my room. Thanks #OrderOfMan

[@Orderofman]

Excellent! Glad this was helpful!

[@akumaali5798]

What are these 8 skills?

[@trevonhaygood6567]

I will take action with being honest with myself and other people no matter the circumstances

[@mitchnidey2453]

Today is my Sabbath. I will be actively engaged in prayer and ministry today while I rest.

[@bigbsoblunt2999]

I’m going take action in looking better in my appearance.

[@Viviianita79]

Thank you for posting all these videos! I’m a single mom watching all of these, so that I know what to teach my teenage son.

[@jeremywags]

Find him a male mentor

[@alikay3766]

Thanks for this. Very helpful. I appreciated that you started out with the content rather than waffling for ages

[@islamicthought206]

I’m going to take action and jump into my next semester of school in a new field I’ve never tried before. After losing my career due to Covid i have had to reroute.

[@philipcordington8598]

Very well spoken, simple and straight to the point. Prefer.

[@sergiosandoval1335]

I've taken on an Glazier apprenticeship at 40. I'm doing the hardest work I've ever done my whole life and conquering my fear of heights. I've only been doing it 2 months and not even consistently, but I walk a little taller now. DO hard shit!

[@samuelpetrowitsch5437]

You're breathtaking

[@MyJackel13]

Im working on music and programming and complained. I know i have a long way to go. Im more motivated now to put more time in.

[@popstargirl79]

Thanku x Taking action is what it's about, whether I bomb or don't..it's the action.. for me, it's making jokes again and saying the lines and thoughts I have..or speaking up in a group in certain situations..

[@tochukwumodebelu1920]

trying to improve when speaking in groups of ppl or crowds gonna take action by not shying away

[@nehalmahmudkhan1549]

I want to build confidence on my career. I am still a student but I want to have a good career. So I have been procrastinating till now but today I will install a software and make sure it runs because the skill from this software is very crucial for my career.

[@WithChrist7]

Making some debt relief calls been holding me back a lot and I've been hiding like its gonna go away tired of it love these videos motivates me to step it up more stop bitching and start doing dont backslide...was starting to get to weak and down, fighting over my baby in court and more bs takes a toll on your mind and it gets hard to face reality also gonna step up my workout and eating standards any advice would be helpful on drinks or weight gain good nutrition foods, thanks again and everyone here great vibes love it.

[@thenew4559]

As far as supplements for the gym you really don't need anything besides maybe some whey protein isolate powder and some basic creatine monohydrate. Real foods will always be the best source of protein and everything that you need, stuff like whey protein isolate only is necessary if you are having trouble getting enough protein or if you are on the go or something like that. You only need at most about 1 gram of protein per day per pound of your body weight for muscular growth, which really isn't too much unless you are a particularly big guy.

[@WithChrist7]

@@thenew4559 Thank you for the info man really appreciate it now i will study that now . Typical 6'1 178lbs now been eating spaghetti and others to help put on weight was at 135 but seems to be stopping, I'd like to get to 200- 235 ish range.

[@TheRushandrews]

I'm going to dedicate my day in continuing to learn all I can from Order of Man.

[@rjmacready8830]

I am writing a letter to the love of my life and trying to win her back. This is very hard for me, and she could say no, but I am willing to fight for her. I am also leaving my newspaper gig, which pays crap, and pursuing a technical position that pays a lot more. Prayers.

[@B-loud-Gaming]

I’m going to read a couple chapters of a book I’ve been putting off, because I’m a master procrastinator and hate doing things that benefit myself! I’m changing it tho!!!

[@alexander_666]

I want to talk to girls I like without sounding/looking insecure, I want everyone to think that I'm man enough to do what I want the way I want

[@markquazar5135]

I'm going to take my programming courses more seriously and focus on my target of making a program/update to a website every week or two.

[@markquazar5135]

OK, so I'll be honest I haven't done jack shit since. I'm going to keep trying to carve out time in my day where there are no distractions/or at least try and eliminate distractions. When I do, I'll use this comment chain to update my progress.

[@benjamingoulet8059]

I’m going to quit the drinking beer after work like I’ve been doing the past couple years and get back to reading and exercising again. I also need to keep working on developing my property (building the barbed wire perimeter fence to start). Maybe also talk to a pretty girl

[@abbeypropertycare8081]

My action step is I'm going to work on being both mentally and physically strong

[@nickfinns8162]

Always wanted to learn to fight well, tried bun and it was ok but not my thing however I’m leaving this comment to hold myself accountable to go and learn how and train in some martial/combat art

[@bluffcity4975]

I'm taking action by commenting on your video 😁

[@HeadFirstFishing]

I'm building confidence through perseverence.

[@jacobryan4210]

Going to show some people my music I recorded. I’ve made some killer music but that stupid fear of judgement and rejection has held me back from living my dreams and making them a reality.

[@luizl5556]

I'll finish my courser course. thank you

[@gvickerschtick]

Amen... Thanks for posting! Glad I found your channel!

[@GirlDad252]

Really appreciated this video! New to KZbin and can say this has helped me! Keep em' coming.

[@aaroninaspen5974]

I love this video man. Totally spot on, just push yourself into the situation & do the hard thing

[@AsurendrasOrder]

Interesting channel I actually found this via Instagram. The action I plan to take will be taking charge of a role. As active duty military there's always an opportunity. Rather than going with the flow I'll volunteer to take the lead on a project.

[@Orderofman]

Glad you're enjoying the channel Roberto Morales! Glad you're hear!

[@akelahollenblitz1069]

5:30 uh i will do all of the things you said, your video is really motivational.

[@SamuraiRyosuke]

I'm going to push myself every day from here on out 100 push ups / 25 minute gratitude meditation/ read a chapter a day. / Stop thinking about chasing women.

[@geobeard3804]

I'd also say it's a fear of giving up. If it seems above my head I tend to avoid it so I don't just flat out give up or take so many shortcuts that I don't get result I want I wont jump in. That's a horrible attitude to have. Go ahead and fail, go ahead and give up when you know it's not going right... Just make sure you restart!

[@jakubpodesva5033]

Start and finish the project for which I've used this video as a procrastination method. Anyway, thanks for motivation man.

[@seankeck3643]

Thank you. These videos are so powerful.

[@Malachi-Rhodes]

Well even though this video is old, I am going to go and ask out this girl that I have been crushing on at work. Wish me luck guys!

[@daberes]

I will write that article I am pushing infront of me in the last couple of days... thanks for the motivation :)

[@atastyspamwich]

Youre right, just now while watching this, i called the cops and made a noise complaint on the bar a few hundred feet from my house that has been making my wall VIBRATE every weekend from 9pm to 12pm. City noise ordinance is at 10pm. Im in my 20's. I like loud music. Not that loud.

[@thenew4559]

Good for you. You definitely have to stand up for yourself with shit like that.

[@D0land0_94]

I need to meet someone, the fear of rejection is what keeps me from approaching and speaking to women. I know that I need to speak more with women to get better at it. But it feels as if rejection will actually lower my confidence. I have good conversation skills, but the issue is how actual conversation is initiated.

[@officialsen-sae9780]

I'm going to practice on talking to girls and having a confident and abundant mindset

[@redboy411]

Being self disciplined

[@rebajafacilfitnesstv4784]

Be a better father & Husband one action is listening to try to understand better how i can serve them the best that i can

[@deli256]

I am going to start learning about economics 💪🏾

[@amanbhargava1904]

I’m going put myself at work for 4 + planned hours today !

[@mihabrilj152]

do hard things, take action

[@zaidazmy]

I'm going to start a youtube channel despite any difficulties which are my passion. I'll also gain weight and become fit from now.

[@cruzadier]

Thank you, today I’m going to work on my public speaking.

[@kidkudi6697]

I'm going to workout for my health and want to gain more confidence

[@DerykRonk]

You're so right

[@Marco-ti5bk]

Im going to make a workout in My house right now , thanks man

[@j32degrees]

I know this is an old video, but i just saw it. recently at 55 years old, I started Jiu Jitsu. Wish I had started 35 years ago.

[@calebddunn4417]

Thank you for this and today I'm going to go to CrossFit.

[@heckdylan]

Crossfit sucks ass you should get a good Gym Membership that's already better then Crossfit in itself. You should also try Mixed Martial Arts you will see more improvement faster then you would doing crossfit.

[@Bobby_S.S.]

Hello! Your videos are great (and by the way, I am not a male) - I had to subscribe to this channel (although I never subscribe on anything on KZbin). Just keep going with these videos - thanks! P.S: In your videos you are like a musician without a guitar - reminding me on David Gilmour's "Rattle That Lock".

[@Aaron1111ify]

Make my needs a priority.

[@RocketVet]

I know its an old video but... my action I'm going to take on something I've been putting off for days: Tomorrow (when it's daylight outside) I'm going to record my first video and get it up on my new YT channel (not this channel I'm commenting from).

[@applesaucerno.2843]

I need the confidence that I can take care of all of my responsibilities. I’m finally going to clean my damn hoarded mess I made of my house. I don’t give a damn if it takes me till midnight tomorrow. I’m starting it now and I’ll comment again when I’m done!

[@ItsRaitisLV]

Did you do it?

[@applesaucerno.2843]

I did! Have it spotless, I’m glad I did because my fiancée went into labor that night. So we’ll have a clean house to go home to when our daughter gets out of the NICU

[@kylelassiter1044]

Bro, I recommend you drive your audio a little higher/harder when you are recording, At 100 % your audio is still low on my computer.

[@truenorth669]

I will go to my new job tomorrow and give it my best shot.

[@joshuathompson1357]

Confident men seem to have a clear perspective on right and wrong and what their boundaries are. I feel like the more I've learned the less I know and the less confident I feel. Anyone else have this conundrum?

[@cherylwade264]

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[@sivabliss]

This is a damn good channel.

[@coriepeterson6799]

I'm exercising "first" thing tomorrow

[@livinglikeahuman7918]

I will be a stronger man by taking better care of my loved ones around me.

[@carpo719]

I dig your channel..maybe one day we can do a collaboration

[@timothynapier1536]

Be on consistent with my body weight training.

[@chrishammers3175]

I will not let things get to me, I will not let jealousy and lack of self esteem ruin my relationship because I feel inferior to other men I am who I am and she chose me not them...

[@steventrypuc7909]

Keep it up sir

[@jcastrocia]

I'm going to make sure I actually get quality study time daily 😎👍🙌 I'm gonna study right now! CONFIDENCE!

[@cindyannafreeman3105]

I just did the 100push up. Never believed I could, never done 20 before

[@Acbdc82]

Step one: Hit the like and Subscription...thus far enjoyed the content. Step two: "The what am I Doing to build confidence" seize some Opportunities.... And remember step 3 Step Three: if it was easy everyone would do it...Hard roads build confidence...confidence is mental strength...

[@_Diggler]

Put myself out front and lead. Because that’s where I belong. It’s where I’m comfortably uncomfortable. Find the big problem and go after it.

[@sheldonwright9826]

I appreciate seeing that you have been at this for a long time. Public Speaking is how I will take action and encourage others to do the same.