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@ketoneconde24588 ай бұрын
Giving that negative voice a name that wasn’t mine gave me the power to ignore it. “You suck.” “Fuck you, Dave. I’m a damn rockstar.” Personify it, overcome it.
@nathanosterhaus8 ай бұрын
I like this and am going to try it.
@Andrew.baltazar8 ай бұрын
Similar process to Internal Family Systems except you talk to it with Compassion
@jonathanleach42513 ай бұрын
Imma name my voice greg
@M.S.1.53 ай бұрын
And then one day that repressed self comes out taking over half your body - totally different from Two face :p
@MalitubeeАй бұрын
@@M.S.1.5 😂
@dragonrider90518 ай бұрын
Absolutely in a never ending battle with that negative voice in my head, I come off as a nice guy, try to. But that voice in my head can be so evil. I hate feeding it any thoughts
@newuser6898 ай бұрын
Only way to stop it is meditation and/or other supportive people talking to you in a healthy way. Babies aren’t born thinking negative thoughts, so where did you learn to think yours?
@knowahnosenothing48628 ай бұрын
The subconscious is like a 4 year old child that believes anything you tell it, like believing in Santa for instance. It just absorbs anything you expose it to. I listen to soundscapes(no lyrics) these days (try Cloud Kicker) just so no one can take a psychic shit in the dark recess' of my mind.(like listening to too much of the band Tool for instance) brilliant band but the subconscious food isn't healthy. Hard to change programming. Other thing is heaps of us are chemically maimed these days so it's partially not our fault when performance is lacking. An active flow state is the best way to keep it quiet IMO, proactive distraction.
@itsyaboydanno71438 ай бұрын
@@newuser689 that's really not the ONLY way nor is it really effective. You can't meditate 24/7 or only be around supportive people 24/7
@newuser6898 ай бұрын
@@itsyaboydanno7143 Right, meditating 10-20 minutes a day for 8-12 weeks is good enough. No more needed than that, you will literally start to think in a different way. Negative thoughts become something you *listen* to rather than *identify* with.
@jB..33b8548 ай бұрын
It is called an introject
@Sir.DavidBruce8 ай бұрын
Treat yourself as if you are a good friend of yours when you have negative thoughts. Seems very difficult to do in the chaos of emotions but sounds very useful.
@bentationfunkiloglio8 ай бұрын
Our inner voice defines our reality, literally. It’s one of the best gifts or worst legacies we receive from our parents.
@MalitubeeАй бұрын
That background is insane !!! I love it
@winkeyface29338 ай бұрын
If I talked to people like I talk to myself, I'd be in jail.
@mike1101118 ай бұрын
This is amazing. I teared up when he started talking kindly to this angry person, to himself. I can totally relate. I get mad at myself too when I don't measure up, if I'm honest I actually hate myself, and here we see someone I admire show how they trained themselves to slow down in those moments and find a way of relating to themselves kindly in the midst of the pain of not feeling good enough.
@Sulidaire8 ай бұрын
I can attest to this. Its good to be introspective, but you have to apply it. When I have an off week (lack of sleep, too much social interaction, and heavy work loads), i have an inner rage voice. I dont want to be that way towards people, so I tell them Im not up for conversation right now. If they respect my space, then they'll leave me alone and then next week, we talk and resume normal conversation
@rafasiqueira2238 ай бұрын
This is something took me so long to figure it out only after I start meditating that was clear for me my mind powerfully
@BrockLanders8 ай бұрын
Generally speaking, it seems like the more obsessed we are with certain outcomes occurring in our lives the less happier and less present we tend to be and the more we struggle with the negative self talk. It reminds me of how in sports when an athlete is in a zone he/she is completely present, locked in, and not at all concerned about what will or won’t happen and ironically is when they are performing their best. This is in contrast to when they are slumping and there is performance anxiety and a complete focus on the outcome and past failures and potential future failures is circulating in their minds.
@00klaDaMok-w9k7 ай бұрын
Goggins welcomes the negative self-talk. I don't necessarily think it's always bad, if it brings change.
@B1971F8 ай бұрын
😢❤💪🏻... such a powerful journey to share. I am 52 and live under the weight of intense suicidal ideations. This is one of the self talk tools I've procrastinated in using with the same discipline that Dex the Dick (my inner Bobby Knight) has in beating me down. Big takeway...1. "I didn't do it because I thought it would work" and 2. Biggest most profound example/experience of neuoplacitity he's ever seen/witnessed and...no pills. This clip moved me. A pillar of Self love is clearly, self talk. ❤
@marcosdenizatrailhiker20378 ай бұрын
I figured out for myself a long time ago that there is no one arguing on your behalf with that inner voice and that I would have to do it for myself using logical thinking and by talking to myself as though I was counseling my best friend. It worked. I also think psilocybin helped as well to re-wire things. It didn’t happen overnight, but one day I realized that the hyper-critical voice had stopped.
@gmosworld8 ай бұрын
Self compassion so powerful
@Plan13Tattoos7 ай бұрын
I watched something on Dr. Attia saying that “I have had rage issues since my first memories” And I never reflected on that part of myself and but I was exactly the same. Really had to work on how I speak to myself.
@HowlingFantods8 ай бұрын
Rage is often a positive thing. A strong, motivating force that is directed against an enemy. You should not try to ride yourself of rage but you should try to direct your rage towards an enemy in a productive manner.
@mikhail_fil8 ай бұрын
I literally just changed my mind on the final solution. Thank you.
@EcomCarl8 ай бұрын
What a raw and insightful discussion! 💭 Recognizing the link between self-talk and behavior, and using pain and pleasure to drive change, can truly empower individuals to overcome negative patterns and achieve their goals.
@RobBob-j7n8 ай бұрын
Thanks for asking good questions this 14min clip might top all of the insights you’ve generated from a personal development standpoint and you’ve posted a ton of good ones. Hope this goes viral
@dankelly8 ай бұрын
Tony Robins used to call that a "Dickens Pattern". Bring emotion to the impact in the past, present, and future... And for future, what will it be like if you don't change, what will it be like if you did change.
@JoeChop8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for providing a concrete step to take towards ridding yourself of negative self talk! This is something that I recently realized has a much bigger effect on my life than I thought. I'm going to try this!
@VasiliyKiryanov8 ай бұрын
Trevor Moawad in "Getting to Neutral" explained how to get from negative to neutral talk really well
@jaredmedina68228 ай бұрын
You're doing a great job at something important. Love your content.
@AlasdairAmour8 ай бұрын
In mental illnesses when people hear voices in their head, different monologues can be heard depending on culture. In the western world, things like 'you're stupid, they don't like you' etc can be heard. In places like India and within Australian aboriginals having voices come from within someones head can be a pleasant experience and be seen as a blessings. The result is they can manage their illness without treatments at home, but those who hear negative voices need to be prescribed medications, therapies and admission to psych wards etc. positive/negative internal talk is no joke
@alelectric27678 ай бұрын
What an odd comment. How do you know what’s going on in someone else’s head based on ethnicity.
@NicholasPalance8 ай бұрын
Starting this today 💯 nobody’s harder on me than me.
@richardknowles79548 ай бұрын
Amazing content, thank you gentlemen
@scottgilbert37657 ай бұрын
Meditation has helped me to make substantial progress in eliminating negative thoughts.
@DVBreen8 ай бұрын
Wanna ditch the negative self talk, anxiety, depression - Cultivate a meditation practice.
@HenningBjorn8 ай бұрын
This topic is highly relevant for me, if you would make more content about it Chris then that’d mean a difference
@LindaPagan-us4nk8 ай бұрын
I love this single most comforting experience
@KnowTheGoodGoodToKnowPodcast8 ай бұрын
Very interesting listen!
@0num48 ай бұрын
Outstanding segment.
@bozzhughes61018 ай бұрын
a lot of us struggle because we don't want to leave a negative mark on the world.
@simpleselfhelp8 ай бұрын
Thank you
@jsmithsemper48488 ай бұрын
Be nicest to yourself. Especially when you are in pain. ❤
@edgiles76488 ай бұрын
I used Mel Robbin’s 5 second rule to eliminate 40 years of this in only 3 days. When I realized how quiet it was internally, at first I thought I had a brain tumor….
@Iui23456 ай бұрын
This video is about explosive anger and abusive self talk. The 5 second rule is about just acting without thinking too long so your brain can’t talk you into procrastinating. If you utilize the thought process of act don’t think with negative self talk and explosive behavior that could be disasterous. In fact with this it could be said to do the opposite of the 5 second rule and take 5 second to think before you blow up.
@The.Adam.D8 ай бұрын
Fantastic! 🙏
@x_avimimius32948 ай бұрын
Hi ! Chris I am watching this channel podcasts from the last one and half year this is a very very interesting and innovative provide this .
@mamandapanda1858 ай бұрын
I've found that cussing at it when it gets nasty works really well--coming into defense of myself. It's not even my voice, anyway. It's name is 'Gollum' and represents the poo childhood I had when no one was defending me and my boundaries. __ you, Gollum.
@rocketproductions14418 ай бұрын
I love you
@mamandapanda1858 ай бұрын
@@rocketproductions1441 "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" by Pete Walker
@rocketproductions14417 ай бұрын
@@mamandapanda185 dont take credit away from yourself! That shit is amazing :D :D
@rocketproductions14417 ай бұрын
@@mamandapanda185 My old counselor referred to the ADHD/Addictive personality in her head as her "squirrel" and it really is spot on. Addicts with ADHD in recovery, have a squirrel in their head and it requires upkeep to keep it contained! hahaha
@isaacjohnson70308 ай бұрын
Thank you for this
@classicalmechanic89148 ай бұрын
The easiest way to reprogramme yourself is to accept the past and look into the future. You cannot change your past but you can change your future.
@Uc000f8 ай бұрын
I trust in God
@GarrettPreston8 ай бұрын
Excellent advice!
@randomness20198 ай бұрын
Attia is 51 ! Wow I am 27 and he looks younger than me
@varshadeshmukh67918 ай бұрын
Bro read Bhagwat Gita I promise that it will change your life in positive way you will be the best version of yourself(you are but you'll be more better)
@robertdargan11138 ай бұрын
Who can immediately start voicing their kind thoughts to themselves wherever they are without it being completely inappropriate? The very reason you're having the "inner critic" thoughts is because you're already in a stressful situation.
@coreytreverson7408 ай бұрын
Lets get kurt caz next
@RyanSaplanPT8 ай бұрын
8:11 I would have low compassion for my brother for burning the steak. I want to change that.
@elizidele29168 ай бұрын
What should I do if I don’t know what I would say to that friend
@jamegumm8 ай бұрын
Surprised Chris didn’t ask who Bobby Knight was….
@rollyknevels35708 ай бұрын
Chris!
@piglice45858 ай бұрын
there is no way theyre actually in that dinosaur palace no way
@roscopeco20008 ай бұрын
These backgrounds, look like someone whose just found a green screen
@bobbybobman30738 ай бұрын
Didn't even notice they had a background till I saw this comment.
@mikedowd6620 күн бұрын
I’m really struggling to imagine how a 50 year old doctor can get so frustrated over a glorified video game.
@Michael-ce7ij8 ай бұрын
❤️
@ThomasJones-sz3sx7 ай бұрын
"Blast Radius"!!!!
@AFGSp1ck8 ай бұрын
so people who became successful with negative self talk are saying don't do it.....sounds like the women who call each others 10s. non of these people really did anything different from us. they just got lucky and i'm done playcating this crap
@Iui23456 ай бұрын
The negative self talk may have propelled his success at times…but he was miserable. Coming from someone who is successful and who also has terrible negative self talk I’d give up success for a normal internal dialogue
@mohamadsudani36897 ай бұрын
Beat someone else? 😂
@stevecatanio85327 ай бұрын
Why do you guys think you're celebrities?😂 Do you do any real 9 to 5
@JaimeBlanco6667 ай бұрын
We’ve at least heard of them. Unlike you. LOL
@raphaelantoine73318 ай бұрын
Feel like everyone forgot how to be their own best friend 🥲