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[@mihaelaclaudiap..2]

“Don't waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.” ― Paulo Coelho

[@racheljohnson7177]

This from the alchemist?

[@pantherman8719]

Yeah. It's not lying.

[@jaybae7315]

All the day everyday and TWICE ON SUNDAYS😂🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Matheus_Braz]

Brasil mentioned??

[@brazenzebra9581]

And sometimes people want to hear the whole story, and the truth, and are perfectly willing to accept what you say. So... Why avoid explaining, when the worst response possible is, they don't believe or respect your version of the truth? How will a response like that change the truth? If your comfortable with yourself, no response can hurt you, and no truth can scare you. So why not provide it to those who seem interested enough to listen? No need to shut everyone down before they've had a chance to prove themselves. Cause, you've got nothing to prove, and nothing to hide. Why not explain it?

[@SusannahPerri]

This quote has been attributed to many people, so I don’t know who originally said it, but it is one of my favorites. “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.“ (BTW, I am from a different generation, and I get it.) ❤️

[@silverplug]

Dr Seuss said it

[@kimtaeyeonismyeverything]

Yep Dr Seuss😍 “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”

[@Freakazoid12345]

You're very cool and hip. Ironically Kelly seems like an, "old soul" and maybe it's just the mushrooms kicking in but *now all I see is a 60 year old Kelly Stamps when I look at her now.

[@KellyStamps]

HI SUSANNAH

[@SusannahPerri]

@@KellyStamps Hi Kelly, I’m still here!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@jazmyne5186]

"Where do you see yourself in 10 years" my answer has always bee something along the lines of "hopefully alive somewhere. Preferably happy and motivated"

[@Socermom]

My ex asked me this question daily. When I replied being a teacher. My answer wasn't "Good" enough for him. 🙄

[@Kat-VT]

@@Socermomyou dodged a bullet girl!!!

[@KellyStamps]

Hopefully alive 😂 seriously leave me alone

[@mrs.quills7061]

@@Socermomglad he’s your ex. Like tf he want from you with that question?? Nothing wrong with being a teacher!

[@Aurora146]

​@@Socermomlmfao you should have told him maybe "hopefully happily separated from you for a long time"

[@Domo716]

“I am young, hot, and rich. I can do whatever I want.” This is the vibe. ❤

[@KellyStamps]

We all are!! Even if your bank account doesn't reflect it yet lol

[@frenchgirl5878]

Honestly yeah. I want to wake up and repeat this affirmation everyday. Kelly stamp is really an inspiration!

[@watermelonlover745]

Facts

[@avarichardson4439]

It's a darn lie. Try to do whatever you want, can have severe consequences. Being young is overrated. It is such a short time period in adulthood. 18 to29 &you are done with being young. The most time spent in life is the middle years of 30 to 65. Focus more so on what does years will entail and look like, instead of shunning those years. You can be rich today and poor tomorrow. No matter your income, try to multiply it, safeguard it, spend and give a little. Be happy & healthy, priority over being wealthy.

[@TheJazmineRose]

I love this❤

[@Veronicalva710]

Im 26 and had this realization just this year, all by myself, the hard way. Lol Having a narcissist father, you learn that some people just listen to respond, not to understand. And changing someone else's mind is not your job.

[@KellyStamps]

I need to write that down: they listen to RESPOND

[@CookWithStephh]

Yes same thing with me but with a narcissist mother

[@Veronicalva710]

@@CookWithStephh sorry babe, can't imagine how hard that must've been

[@marklouis1890]

Absolutely my friend. I've had this mindset for a few years now after a falling out with a couple of my relatives. I am just playing exhausted from explaining myself and trying to get them to see my point of view when they obviously do not want to see it. It is what it is

[@PhanyPacker]

“I don’t want to feel like I can’t travel somewhere because of my skin” amen ma’am.

[@reefread1234]

yes but bring protection nonetheless. snakes dont lose their fangs because your a good person

[@PhanyPacker]

@@reefread1234 no... not like that lol..

[@MixedChick1]

@@PhanyPacker LOL!

[@yujibell]

unlearning a lot of bad habits, including overexplaining. sometimes the truth doesn't matter when people's minds are made up. and that's on them. save yourselves the trouble and effort.

[@mrs.quills7061]

Yup it’s not worth your time or energy to waste on them.

[@pantherman8719]

That's true.

[@wattw3900]

As a people pleaser type person I always feel like I need to explain myself. I’m going to try now to give people as straight forward answers as possible. If someone misunderstands me that’s not my problem

[@pantherman8719]

Yup. People get overwhelmed when you explain yourself.

[@lc-do5eo]

Agreed.

[@MitchMitchellStories]

As probably one of the few boomers on the channel, I like your response about not having to think about what you're going to do in 10 years or 30. In my early 20s I thought I had it all planned out. Decades later, none of what I thought would happen has come to pass; having to do it and having a way to find happiness along the path as you're aging is way more important in the long run. You keep doing whatever you want to do.

[@Michelle-pn9xt]

Someone who is a boomer would be 60 years old or older right now.

[@MitchMitchellStories]

@@Michelle-pn9xt True... and...?

[@mrs.quills7061]

@@Michelle-pn9xtjust because this person is older doesn’t invalidate their wisdom or their comment. I personally prefer comments like this than the ones that are hounding younger people for not doing more of x.

[@libra-beotch]

​@@mrs.quills7061💯💯💯

[@hilarygibson3150]

​@@Michelle-pn9xtI'm a boomer and 59. Just scraped in

[@Starfire34503]

I love this! This video resonates with me as a childfree BW. People can’t seem to wrap their head around it! My time is precious & I have no time to explain my personal choice. I can’t be bothered with people who are committed to purposely misunderstanding me or trying to place me in this stereotypical box they think I should fit in because of their preconceived notions of me.

[@KellyStamps]

I actually went on a rant about that towards the end but then my camera battery died! That’s why I had such an abrupt ending lol. I’m gonna do a second video dedicated to that topic along with other ones!! It’s that self-doubt thing again. When judgy people are nasty to you about that it’s like they DENY themselves the possibility of having fun instead of creating a huge responsibility.

[@VerleanHurd]

Actually, they're jealous of your child free life. They have kids, they're broke, and they wish they were child free. They wish they had your carefree life. Let's not talk about them having a baby with Pookie and Ray Ray.

[@Starfire34503]

@@VerleanHurd Actually, add the men trying to guilt trip me by using Manosphere talking points on to that list as well. So a combination of both men & women. People hate when you don’t fit the stereotype, makes it harder for them to justify disrespecting you.

[@fatcatontario]

I also LOVE when people try to convince you to rethink your lifestyle especially around having kids...😳😳😳 I am apparently a selfish witch of a woman responsible for the collapse of mankind because I decided not to procreate. 😆

[@VerleanHurd]

@ATLSTLCurls At least you know yourself, and what's for and not for you. Some of the ones who have kids shouldn't.

[@QueenKelleyz]

I enjoy their confusion, their curiosity, & their lack of understanding.I feel empowered that I get to actively choose my life and live it how I want , and they simply cant comprehend that. I feel pride and a confidence boost in these interactions. And if they are interested just to judge, I am reminded they're one of those people who hate their job and compete with others to feel better and I think they can sense me judging them for judging me.

[@kris7592]

💡

[@lalittl]

Same kelly! I follow your other channel. Im a black housewife with no kids and this is literally bliss. I love using my free time for my hubby, friends and family. Idk what the future holds regarding work going back to work but this is a beautiful choice for me currently. I graduated from a top 20 university and was a commercial property manager for years but i have never felt more accomplish and at peace then now. It makes people uncomfortable to see black women rest. Keep resting and traveling and enjoying this life, you only get one shot!

[@KellyStamps]

I totally see that happening in my future. I was in a relationship with that dynamic and interestingly enough the only people who had something negative to say were other women (working and going 50/50.) His parents approved. He approved. His friends girlfriends were also taken care of! Like you said, you only get one shot at life! I refuse to be tired of being taken care of is an option and taking care of my home in exchange

[@thepinksharkgirl9734]

Women might have been trying to look out for you, financial dependence leaves a lot of women trapped in scary situations@@KellyStamps

[@angel127_]

proud of u

[@lalittl]

@@angel127_ thanks queen, your profile picture is everything. I saw little mermaid three times 🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@rdsunshine34741]

Envious of u xoxo

[@SistahPunkStudios]

What do you do for a living Kelly: I live 🥰 Me: I’m funemployed ✨💖

[@blenyeneneh9450]

I’ve always felt rude to give short answers to people. But I also don’t like sharing information about myself that they don’t need to know. So you’ve started this line of reasons for me to think. Btw I’ve just discovered your channel. Thanks teacher 👩🏾‍🏫

[@KellyStamps]

You are most welcome young grasshopper

[@AnnaJiselle]

Just turned 30 and I can def say that not caring about what other ppl think about you is revolutionary. Glad to be here now. Let’s go class 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@aPeachWhoLovesYeshua]

I can’t wait to get to that point😅. Most definitely a work in progress.

[@Lemarlenne]

It’s so refreshing to hear someone say this out loud. I would alway try to explain to friends how people try to size you up. As an introvert i felt like people sometimes start conversations with me because i was never willing to give up personal info so freely. When you do share it’s followed by a why and judgment. Personally, when this happens i choose to not interact with that person again. Control the controllable 🎉

[@user-ip5fm3ck4p]

"I don't know what it's like to feel like I don't have infinite possibilities in this world" 🙌🏾

[@MARVINSBACKYARDGARAGE]

The less information u give them about your life(my mother n law)the more it makes their skin crawl with hatred!❤

[@msliberated3899]

😂😂THose women are mean, bitter and nasty on the inside. 🤢

[@MelitaRichardson]

So I completed the video, took my notes, said the mantra and I got this lesson out of it: WE ALL HAVE FREE WILL. That's it, that's the MAIN IDEA! Thank you once again Prof. Stamps, good lecture.

[@LearnSomaliWithMe]

I’m tired of explaining myself to people who clearly have underlying perceptions of me, based on what other people have told them. I’m tired of explaining myself to those who invalidate my feelings. I don’t need to explain and I validate Myself!

[@moniquenicole834]

I really stood up and raised my hand. LOL. Being a student at Stampede University is an honor. Haha. Seriously though, your messages are so needed. Thank you.

[@KellyStamps]

I saw you stand up! Thank you

[@FavouriteGalaxia]

Same sis!

[@Jerrilynrene]

My main goal is to be as unbothered as Kelly Stamps!

[@poppycalliope]

Exactly! People ask what do you do for a living in order to compare their life to yours, in order to figure out how much money you make and judge you based on that. I was at a party a few months back and a girl approached me, started making chit chat and suddenly asks "how much money do you make?" 🙃

[@soulspirationgoddess]

Wow.. how was she not embarrassed to even ask that question? 🙃 It’s just so low class to be intrusive like that. Wealthy people never ask that question I noticed.

[@poppycalliope]

@@soulspirationgoddess I completely agree!

[@sdelly19]

I will forever answer the "what do you do for a living" question with "i live". amazing. thank you. i also needed this video very badly.

[@asimplecadence]

Kelly should have been in the Barbie movie. She lives the traits that Barbie taught us. We have the opportunity to do whatever we want and we should be active in seizing those opportunities.

[@waitingpatiently]

Omg that would have been fire

[@KellyStamps]

I'D LOVE TO SLAY IN PINK HEELS

[@CookWithStephh]

I can definitely see her in a Barbie movie !

[@deeannaalyse]

wow. yes.

[@msblackbarbie1885]

Yeah the real barbie is do whatever you put your mind to. The movie seems to be a feminist trap 🪤

[@niyah3243]

I’m an ambivert too, in between introvert and extrovert. I do agree with not trying to make someone understand you. People have to be willing to be misunderstood in order to pursue the things they truly want. Many of us have to accept the fact that even family will not understand. There are so many stories of peoples children doing things that disappoint their parents at first like dropping out, but that drop out ended up being the answer to the family’s prayers. Be willing to be misunderstood and accept the fact not everyone is going to understand.

[@dayewalker9408]

Kelly, as a way of understanding the older guy in the supermarket; I too am an older male who watches your channel/show. Coming from a similar cultural context as you....I "get it" about your journey. What you might not get is that within and without the older experience is that the programming is readily taken to by many....it never did with me, so I understand /understood your take of things when you described it. Practically and personally speaking, you have a great sense of self and your spidey-sense was probably correct about getting away from this person. But this guy grew up thinking the robotic existence of having a house, white picket fence, 2.3 children, living in "good /right" neighborhoods...save till retirement...then kick the bucket.... Is totally embedded in the essence of his being. Then, here you come, totally turning over the paradigms he's religiously believed in all his life. If anything take this away from your interaction with him....you / your life / your lifestyle ...has given him a new view on the possibilities of his own existence and what it could/ can /might be(come). Keep on trucking, my Erstwhile Sprite....best regards as always.

[@macummings7818]

👏👏👏

[@yuhz1m1]

Aww! This is so sweet!

[@audreymo63]

I'm 59 and you ARE inspiring to me! Do what you want, when you want and how you want 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@lexj23]

Kelly, I’m in my 40s now. I tried to be like you in my younger years but couldn’t figure out my path to success for a long time. In some sense, I’m still figuring it out, but I’m extremely close to getting to my happy place. You are miles ahead of most people in your thinking and I know you know that. F the haters, they are just jealous! ILYSM and thank you for being you and sharing your ongoing story of bliss and success!

[@Liz-ic6jb]

FYI: There is no "Happy Place".

[@lexj23]

@@Liz-ic6jb My happy place is financial freedom and/or working for myself.

[@KellyStamps]

Thank you!!

[@thepragmatist]

Agree that we shouldn't have to over explain ourselves, especially to acquaintances or strangers who feel like they are owed an answer. I like your short replies. It must be jarring to have strangers approach you, act like they know you, and ask any type of question. I guess you get better at handling those situations with practice.

[@cassandraxpaz]

I love what you said about how you can do anything. In the world, you constantly hear people trying to place limitations on you. I find that this happens because people want to hold you back from reaching your full potential 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@katwells6278]

As an older Black American woman, you are on the right track- open minded, intelligent, beautiful, God loving , creative, talented. Don’t listen to the haters. And let a rich man find you so you can have some beautiful babies- don’t forget

[@KellyStamps]

Heavy on the *rich* man

[@jessicaaye3738]

​@@KellyStamps😂😂

[@libra-beotch]

​@@KellyStamps🤣🤣🤣🤣💯💯💯

[@Rosetta-gp9mk]

Be fruitful and multiply!

[@bodhisattva2348]

​@@KellyStampslight on the babies 😂

[@AlecBGood]

Man, I needed this. Whenever I find myself explaining myself to people (usually strangers?), it feels like all the life and joy is zapped right out of me. I got plans, yeah, but sometimes I wanna keep the lid on them so that they are still exciting and fresh TO ME. If they really wanna know what I'm doing, they can watch me.

[@gillustrative]

I'm tired of explaining to people that I'm not where I was anymore, and I really don't care to go back. Thank you Professor Stamps, this is my fav class.

[@victoriajoy7016]

I’m not religious myself, but your ability to live unapologetically in your own ethics and principles inspires me!! :) love your videos, as always

[@mrs.quills7061]

Same same. Not religious either, but I appreciate her passion, honesty and inspiration for us to live our truths.

[@Erica-BakingCutie]

I’m tired of explaining why I’m homeschooling my child, who was once in a private school. I believe that it’s the best situation for her and that’s the end of the story!

[@KellyStamps]

END OF STORY

[@beardeddragona210]

Hearing you say "Some people are committed to NOT understanding you," is so valuable. I often struggle with wording myself in a way that makes sense to others, but when I hear something that resonates as well as that does, I can't help but take note. TY for sharing your insights, I hope to better understand myself and others as well as you have. And continue to live well, love, and strive for better for the betterment of our global community. Have a beautiful day!

[@beardeddragona210]

I relate so heavily to the introverted extrovert, currently in a Sales position and it's energy zapping. TY for being a source of inspiration and introspection, you are truly a blessing.

[@NWRJ]

I’ve learned that lesson already as I’ve gotten older. You’re right, Kelly! 👍🏻

[@lilcutie5082]

Im tired of explaining to people that i don't want to live to work. I want to buy my time and freedom back and just exist. Be a happy little free spirit and do whatever i like

[@gabby724]

this has made me realise that i probably subconsciously judge people’s life decisions a lot and provoke them to over explaining this is just because i feel the need to over explain and i’m insecure about my life decisions i will now let people do what they want to do, i don’t have to understand it, if it has nothing to do with me

[@fereil23]

After realizing how rough my high school experience was with letting people literally ruin my life in fear of coming across as mean, I truly do what to change and be able to identify how to stand up for myself. Love ya kelly

[@GoddessLaurel]

I love that you stick it to the self professed counselors.. I’m older than you and had many of those weird guys that wanted to ask me what I was going to do with my life. If I had your advice and confidence at the time I would’ve calmly shut them down before they got to me. Fortunately I stuck with my life choices, but you’re absolutely right.. they are trying to make your fit into their narrative as to how life is ‘supposed’ to be lived.

[@mercuriesinterlude]

im tired of explaining to people how much i just don't like talking to people lol, its a struggle because i come off very extroverted

[@daughterofthedivine]

Love you Kelly! Keep doing what you are doing little momma! So proud of you!

[@qis7527]

I find that it’s always hard for some people to understand that they don’t need to understand if they can’t respect the choices you make or the answers you give. Love your content Kelly, keep it up!!

[@AntonsClass]

Amen! Let's make ceasing to explain ourselves to people a self-care essential. Folks don't have to understand, and we don't owe them an explanation. We understand what we're doing, and that's enough.

[@Watermelanmartini]

"What do you do for a living?" "I LIVE." -Kelly Stamps I love that ❤❤ You should sell merchandise that says that!

[@rita_otong]

Love your energy

[@lexie5066]

This is such a good mentality, spot on. Sometimes you have to pause and ask yourself WHY someone is asking you something about yourself. Is it bc they truly want to know or do they just want an opening to tell you what to do or worse use the information against you? Lately have found a lot of peace in just saying IDK, or I haven't decided, or it's up to the Lord when questioned about certain private things. Had to learn the hard way that nobody is entitled to my private information!

[@coolchristiangirl190]

Thank you Prof. Stamps, I get sick of being ask what I plan to do with my degrees as one pursuing academics. I’m pursuing my studies because I enjoy learning, whether that leads me to becoming a professor, librarian, or etc. I have no clue and I don’t care. As you said, I have so much trust in God that I honestly don’t plan anything, though from others view it looks like I do😂

[@Sheisme120]

“I don’t want to relate to you.”🎤 Yesss!🙌🏻

[@jasminhabib5065]

I loved this. As for me, I'm sick of explaining to my family everything. Any other family would be so proud of me, but I'm belittled for wanting a degree and always written off in convo as "oh you're part of the system so you're brainwashed..." And they don't even know the 22 year old version of me. They are committed to seeing me as the 12 year old they knew. If they actually let me speak they'd hear how committed, passionate, and driven I am. I have a desire to actually really create change in others lives. But I will not be explaining that anymore. I had this realisation yesterday night too when I spoke to my brother for 30 seconds after not seeing him properly for months. He completely disregarded me and my words, put labels on me, and refused to hear me speak. It's funny to me. But yeah. I am confident in who I am enough now. *For context, my family are misogynistic, sexist, borderline narcissistic, mildly homophobic & transphobic, and refuse to hear anything that doesn't align with what they believe. Aka they are not open minded or willing to hear anything.

[@peachberrypie]

I've learnt so much from you Kelly, you're younger than I am, but that doesn't mean I can't gain value in a lot of what you say, thank you little big virtual sister.

[@ElySunday]

I hate explaining to ppl when they start asking me what do I want to do in my life. Most of them they asked u to judge u or put u in a box. So sad

[@one2inV]

Love you Kelly, i wish I would have learned the art of being unbothered a long time ago (I'm 46 learning it from a 20 something yr old). keep pushing girl, forget these haters.

[@TeaLeafProphecy]

Partner and I have gotten into the habit of talking about hobbies, what we’re watching, playing, reading, etc., whenever someone asks the dreaded “So what do you do?” Like that person is always referring to work and we both just do not care 😂

[@delphinesmusic2]

that is such a good point, Phd. Dr. Prof. Head of Unbothered Studoes Kelly Stamps! I normally explain for a minute and if they get it they get it, if they don’t they don’t. People’s minds are just waay to different from one another to ALWAYS find common ground. Also no one’s paying you for the time you spend explaining yourself so why bother😂

[@zbzannin]

me personally i take breaks from socials media from time to time and i am so tired of explaining why, and some point i just stopped explaining and just wouldn’t tell anybody when i decided to take a break. I think i’ve even heard Kelly once say that some people are honestly committed to misunderstanding you and your beliefs, i’ve had people get infuriated over me not answering my socials while i’m trying to figure out why they care so much lol and that’s why i don’t even explain myself anymore cus they’ll be mad either way.

[@BlackDaffodils]

This video really resonates with me something hard. I am constantly being questioned and sized up by people because I don't act the way they THINK I should act. I've gotten to the point where I do not dull myself to make people feel better about being around me. I always encourage people to embrace the parts of them that they are afraid of showing because thats what liberated me.

[@gionnamaduro3707]

YOU ARE LITERALLY AMAZING, BLESSED AND MY NOW MOST FAVORITE PERSON ON EARTH!

[@TheMirandalorian]

i have unlocked the super power of not caring and it has changed my life!

[@bethc4984]

Thanks for your vid Kelly, it was really nice to hear your perspective. I’m a 17 girl in NZ. Tired of explaining to people where I’m from. I know it’s misleading, me being brown and living in NZ but when they ask where I’m from I often say ‘NZ’ (where I was born and have lived my entire life). Some may say, ‘oh you were born here?’ And such but I’ve had people say ‘then why are you brown’ or ‘you look Indian though’. Like girly, you asked where I’m from, not my ethnicity- and frankly I can’t tell you anything about India having been an NZ girl my whole life. that was a bit long but I’m just tired of people invalidating how I view myself. Thanks again for your vid ❤

[@JimiSunsets]

currently sitting in my en suite rolling a joint on my loo and i am a great example of what not giving a heck does for your life. i am happy to say i love ya proffesor kelly

[@KellyStamps]

LOVE YOU MY CHILD

[@jimenarivera7512]

I live in a different country from where I was born and I think that here people have a very square-minded way of doing things, they cannot and do not want to understand different things and they often asked me things that are not their business or assume things about me just because of my appearance or my nationality. At my parents' house I lived for a long time under the expectations they had of me and for this reason I did not realize how much people meddled in my affairs. I came to think that they knew better than me, at that point was my self-esteem! Now I'm in my 30s and I think I'm doing better... but I know I'm just at the beginning, thinking that I don't have to explain anything to anyone and that I can do what makes me feel better about myself and it's liberating.

[@awildclinton]

your videos always come at the right time for me because i am too, at this point in life where other's people's narrative of you has no hold over your life AT ALL. I've found more peace than ever by not arguing and trying to over explain myself to people who just want to view me a certain way anyways

[@Momo-po5tn]

Protect your energy 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 overexplaining and oversharing not worth it!!

[@TatyanaValdaBelindaHill]

The man who stopped you and tried to 'pick your brain' may have tried to make you question yourself, but not because you didn't fit his approval or he was struggling with understanding you... That was just his 'hook' to get you into bed. Same as the mover guy you mentioned. My older me looks back at my younger me, whowas burdened by all these similar issues my whole life, and realises those weird encounters, at least when it was from men, were simply about sex. I'm still trying to navigate the jealousy from insecure women of all ages, but at least that's one pain solved.

[@therealuniquenichelle]

I’m living for all of the comments under this video. I feel so seen & heard, & a bit of relief. You all articulate your feelings and experiences so well and I can definitely resonate. Thanks, Kelly girl🥰

[@cheyenneallenbaugh3889]

I’m tired of explaining I’m never going to want to buy a grocery bag 😂

[@LoisLeonora]

You’re absolutely correct. People will hear and believe what they want. Might as well just be yourself. I’m so happy you figure all of this out early. Your life is cool and will continue to be.

[@stoicfreediver]

Thank you, Kelly! ✨

[@Elan2026]

Totally get it. Lived in five different cities this year alone. I feel at home where ever I go. People are always going to say something about good or bad. It only counts what yourself makes it to be.

[@Ginza92]

Alot of people want to know how much a person makes because they want to see what is possible for themselves and not just to size you up. Also giving a person respect should not be tied solely to how much money they make. A person that bases their personal worth on how much money they make comes across as materialistic and unhappy deep down.

[@graydashonda8266]

Heavy on the “trying to decide how much respect to give you”

[@eirinstevenson7738]

Thank you for being you. Currently transitioning out of the dusty life, I need this content and information. 😂👏🏾🙌🏾👸🏾

[@Imtoobusyslayingrn111]

5 months later u helped me with my growth queen. ILYSMMM ❤❤❤

[@sierraodessa]

Liking this before even watching it, just because you have my life motto in your title.

[@chloemonroe.]

I heard someone say recently that a big reason the older generation "doesn't get us" or push their values, beliefs, lifestyles, etc on us is because by acknowledging our "unconventional" successes, it makes them question themselves and their own lives. Like, well I had to work and go to school and got married and started a family to get where I am, but you want none of that, yet you're just as successful AND free

[@chloemonroe.]

Probably happier too... and I am indeed adopting a rabbit very soon😂😂

[@hellosavije1888]

Hello 👋🏾, I totally agree, let God lead the way. I’m glad I’ve learned this sooner than before it’s too late ⏰ My life is so much more peaceful and I am becoming stronger in my walk of Faith in Jesus . It’s a wonderful time to be alive and free to do what I was created for. 😊 Peace and blessings to you as well 🙏🏾

[@desireesdvds]

This is the rich auntie energy im looking 4, thank uuuuuu ❤🎉🎉

[@kylebaldos3677]

Being okay about being misunderstood was something I had to learn this year. You being an extroverted introvert resonates with me as well 😂 thank you for todays lecture professor Kelly 😌🫶🏻💖

[@LuLu-7802]

You're always a breath of fresh air. Thank you for telling us what we needed to hear. Trust in God's plan. ❤

[@skaio.5279]

I wish I knew this earlier in life because I was EXHAUSTED from CONSTANTLY explaining everything to everyone who had no good interest in me at all, I was so naive and thought people would be open minded enough to understand.

[@sophiaisabelle01]

Having to explain to other people could exhaust you. Seems like you couldn't take time for yourself to breathe and even think properly.

[@Kellybellyhomevideos]

"I don't want to relate to you" - YES

[@cleo9297]

Yes! I don’t know what it’s like to play victim in life. Especially in regards to things like my skin. It’s idiotic and self depreciating

[@VSDV2013]

I'm 45 & still struggling to learn this! Totally agree, but lots of work still going on to achieve it. Haha commented too soon before I finished the whole video, I love that you openly state you don't know what you want to do in the further and you're ok with it!

[@sage416]

This video really spoke to me, truly helping me with my late teen years. How people feel about me is not my problem nor should I feel the need to explain myself anymore!

[@ashleylala4293]

I’ve only seen a few of your videos and I’ve liked your messages but I’m not so sure about this one. The last thing the world needs is MORE self absorbed, egotistical, entitled narcissists. Look around, they’re everywhere and they aren’t that great. There is something beautifully balanced about life though. The universe has a way of evening things out. Be humble and grateful or the universe will find a way to humble you and take away the things that you didn’t appreciate.

[@interlude33]

whenever i need that confident and abundant energy, I watch you. Thank you for being you

[@beccaa7638]

you’re my ‘thewizardliz’

[@Rensheppy]

I’m tired of people wanting to know why I’m so “weird,” which I’m pretty sure means bubbly & comfortable with myself. That really makes some people uncomfortable for some reason. I wish more people could be okay with being “weird.”

[@julissaemile1954]

You're like a brain masseuse. It feels so good to tune in to your frequency.

[@abbya5341]

You’re so real. I’m honored to be a student at stampede university 🙏🏾

[@yasminh]

I need to learn this to protect my safety, im subbing w notifs on to make sure I come back to this and reflect

[@voidrunner.]

3:40 "You literally can do anything you want." Good luck with that kid.

[@SlaeJay]

I needed that lil "hey" thank you

[@Mary-lb3lv]

When I was in my 20 and 30's I used to feel that I could not say no to someone and needed to explain why if I did.

[@casink722]

I just found your channel and at first it was because I was thinking of a JHS myself lol but then watching this video it made me realize that I too want to live for a living lowkey the thought overwhelms me but I’ll just take it one day at a time.

[@imperialchalice]

No, that is so true. They could not trust themselves with that kind of freedom. Love this ❤