STOP Holding Onto a GRUDGE | Let It Go

[@laurawebb3835]

Great work JoJo

[@glen1742]

If a person said something I said bothers them don't they have the right to feel that way because their feelings are their own? But can't we say the same thing about ourselves when we are offended? That a part of ourselves is bothered by something. I feel we have to be careful if we constantly tell this part of ourselves that its interpretation is wrong. I think it can turn into resentment not to someone else but to ourselves and lead to a feeling of helplessness. I think it might be helpful to empower this part and say it might be right but to remind it that it's better for our whole self to move on and to thank it for trying to internally stand up for our self. I don't think it's binary, I think you can empower this part and at the same time reflect on our interpretation.

[@jomortonbrown]

Thank you so much for the truly insightful comment 💗

[@glen1742]

I actually find it's harder when the person doesn't have any malice or doesn't realize it bothers you.

[@glen1742]

I feel you can combine #1 and #2 into simply reflection and within that strategy ask a) Were they trying to hurt you? b) Determine if the actions of the person are actually mean or if our interpretation is skewed