Stop Lying To Yourself! - Master The Laws of Power To Turn Your Life Today | Robert Greene

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Robert Greene is an author and psychologist that is well known and respected for his best-selling books on strategies, power, and seduction. This episode is your go to for all things Robert Greene as he delves into everything from what to do with your dark side and how to leverage that dark energy to the power of self reflection and the nature of language and non verbal languages. Robert discusses with Tom the practical ways to source motivation for real change, and how to live with the joy and bliss of being intune with self and your own nature.
SHOW NOTES:
0:00 | Introduction to Robert Greene
0:14 | The Goal in Life for Success
22:31 | Master Your Primal Nature
43:39 | Train for Joy Instead of Hoping
1:14:00 | Why Power is Crucial
1:36:42 | Understand the Reality
2:00:11 | Understand Your Environment
2:21:22 | Live in the Sublime
2:44:44 | Be Okay With Change
3:03:01 | Overcome Your Obstacles
QUOTES:
“The brain is like a landscape. It's like a landscape out in the world that you see, [...] You create that landscape yourself, you create the brain that you have, by the degree of how you're open to experience…” [21:46]
“My worry is that people are so immersed in their smartphones and their technology that they don't understand people...” [27:15]
“Question yourself. Stop assuming that everything you do is so brilliant and smart, and so right.” [34:21]
“As people talk, and they use words to conceal what they're thinking, their bodies reveal what they're actually thinking behind the words…” [41:34]
“Usually the people who think power is a dirty word are the people who are the most manipulative and passive aggressive.” [1:14:54]
“I'm trying to tell people that dark side contains incredible creative energy, incredible motivating power [...] when you get up in the morning, and use it, don't be afraid of it.” [1:36:27]
“We're so embedded in language that we think everything in terms of what people say, but unconsciously without even realizing it. We're continually judging people on their nonverbal behavior.” [1:39:16]
“Social media, for all the good that it does makes it very hard to be self reflective.” [1:57:40]
“If you can't, you know, take Brett breaks from social media, from your Instagram account, from Facebook, from Twitter, then you're a prisoner of it.” [2:17:29]
“What seems to be anarchic and ugly and awful in the moment does end up serving a higher purpose, because we need dynamism in our culture, we need change.” [2:48:19]
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[@TomBilyeu]

Which of the 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene is your favorite? Why?

[@misguidedpearls7456]

Do not outshine the master.. I accidentally broke this rule a few times.. Until I read the book had no answers on the corporate issues i had.. I didn't even know it was possible to outdo someone. I knew very little about ego and insecurities outside of dating.. I thought money n power meant i could never b a threat to people above me.. I didn't know anything about corporate games or politics.

[@kingzion6636]

Never appear to perfect Don't say more than necessary Enter action with boldness Play the perfect courtier

[@True38]

@@kingzion6636 *Always say less than necessary

[@allinthemind2006]

My entire life ive been trying to explain to ppl that i feel first then thoughts arise out of that feeling state. Most people have argued that no the opposite is true. Thoughts create feelings. Its nice to finally hear someone validate what ive always known to be true.

[@justa_dude]

@@allinthemind2006 I've always felt the same way

[@dd81807]

There are people out there who will try to get under your skin and won’t stop till they do. My advice to younger people is become financially free, don’t get sucked into consumerism. Financial freedom will give you real freedom.

[@eze3572]

Good advice

[@thechancellor-]

To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️.

[@2flyty]

I miss her

[@Trog-nk2xr]

KZbin is now “the media” selling us all the answers

[@robertcantrell6814]

​@@2flyty Become the person that will be missed

[@joshgore8256]

You're preaching ro the choir, dwell constantly daily, it's become a part of my being, gotta kick that habit

[@laurenfinucci7305]

And I appreciate you ❣️

[@babysisdolls3336]

OMG it took me seven years to recover from a stroke....i lost everything house job and the ability to care of my child...starting over is the beginning of my blessings.

[@lmiller1413]

God bless you in your recovery. Your child is more important than every material thing you lost. You'll get that back. You are showing your child the most important lesson in the world; how to make a comeback when the unexpected happens. That lesson will get passed down through the generations. It's valuable. You get bonus points if you do it with flair. ;) Research shows that children growing up in household where there is a disabling condition develop responsibility and compassion. Keep your eye on the ball. Slow and steady wins the race. You are ok.

[@camburley9723]

Robert Greene expresses himself so clearly and it makes it very easy to follow. A lot of these emotions aren’t super easy to describe but he adds so much color to them. Love how he communicates

[@alexzarey2579]

Mr green is full of knowledge I hop he get better

[@l.w.paradis2108]

Well, that's entirely up to him. /s

[@Bitsurf24]

Love Robert Greene. So grateful to him for sharing his immense wisdom

[@VladicaDjordjevic]

The source of your power is your attitude! I love it!

[@earthian3658]

Truer words have never been spoken.

[@Jilliberation]

CHERISH EVEREY MOMENT AFFORDED TO YOU. Its loads better than the regret.

[@user-og2gf7ou9y]

I had the same stroke at age 10. I was paralyzed for 12 years. I am still working on my book. I need motivation!

[@VokeVideo]

Great author, great storyteller, and on point. I love Robert Green, he is the world's alpha nerd ❤

[@marykinsella417]

Seems very down to earth ❤

[@RaviShankar-km1ym]

Alpha nerd😅

[@Maricel.from.antwerp]

thank you to this program,gave me good vibes to start my journey again....YOUNGS ARE YOU READY????

[@bjh8560]

Every year of my life the past 20 years i remember feeling how old I look. Now every time I look at pictures of myself a year ago i looked younger! Enjoy every day. Its the youngest you will ever be and the oldest you've ever been!

[@ISEEKSPACE]

I absolutely love Robert Greene--I love his honesty, his simplistic way of explaining things, his ability to project onto others a positive belief system. I love that he looks like an average guy. I love how human he is. He's really amazing. I love listening to him speak.

[@TheAgTeam]

My favourite author, inspired my mantra ‘discipline is the door, consistency is the key, success is self mastery’

[@johntitorii6676]

Great title caught my eye

[@limouzine1529]

"Understand the reality " is the best part

[@lilamnbdh967]

Always change for the better , rise up , keep moving forward , in the end all the pain will become the most wonderful dream you can achieve!!

[@janetmcbee]

💜Wow, I'm telling you ,, Please read my reaction. I'm here , in the present , and wanting to absorb knowledge with brilliant minds. Then, alone,, as I cry to myself about my situation up to now and realizing I have to move on after my husband died. (no pity please, I'm not weak) I can't help if I have emotions. I just know, that every time I listen to this man's words,,, your words , and a few other men I follow, it penetrates into the core of me,,, And reality of it all. With all that's gone on up to now in my own life,now 63yrs , I have to say I so much appreciate both of you!! Thank you! I truly need this from wise, strong in thought and mind from Men in my life. Thank you so much!!!

[@lmiller1413]

Good men are priceless. Good men come in many forms in our lives. Not just partners. They are knowledgeable, safe, comforting, and encouraging. No pity here. Enjoy the comfort that comes from knowledgeable people who can help.

[@thirtyyearstylist]

All I can say is thank you Mr.Greene.

[@janetmcbee]

O thank you so much. I left a comment and you just raised the bar. 👏👏👏 It's just confusing to start again.

[@elaynerc]

I can listen to this man talk for hours. The two together are amazing, so much insight back and forth. I can tell he likes Tom very much

[@jake4rking]

Agreed. I literally wake up with a Robert Greene interview and end my night with another. Constantly listen to his audiobooks as well. Obsessed is an understatement 😅

[@BlueskyDenver]

Robert Green is so correct about not knowing ourselves and being mystery to ourselves, but also our anger coming from deep within us from way back in our childhoods. I often asked myself why am I so angry or sensitive about what someone says? Often I realized that it has little to do with what someone says but rather with the wounds I have experienced as a child and I am working through to heal. People say very cruel and horrible things in anger designed to inflict harm and pain. I get triggered by those hurtful and cruel words because of my unhealed wounds. Over time when I am healed more whatever someone says won’t be able to hurt me anymore.Sometimes I wish people are not so selfish or inconsiderate and other times I see how my desire to want others to be different from what they are makes me suffer because majority of people who are abusive and selfish etc are people who are absolutely unaware of their behavior or how it impacts others around them. As I am certain I am also not aware of how my behavior impacts others at times as well even if I put greater effort into making sure that I am careful , caring, and understanding ultimately I am flawed human being just like everyone else. Of course I make sure I am aware of myself and my actions but it’s been very difficult to understand how to process my emotions and feelings.

[@l.w.paradis2108]

Judith Herman writes about trauma, as does her friend van der Kolk. To read about the treatment of the worst traumas that can happen is very useful, for me at least. Both are so compassionate.

[@taopaille-paille4992]

Nice and great comment. Only one thing can save us from our Daemon and from deep pain when hurt too much by life and others: work, dedicating us to a project, work again, and keep on progressing, and working again. For one goal, be better and surrounding ourselves from better people for a better life and lifestyle ... and beware of the narcissists. Very dangerous

[@BlueskyDenver]

@@l.w.paradis2108 Ooh I bought a book Called The Body keeps the score by Van Der Kolk..’ reading it now👌

[@bevshalts7020]

I think it can be beneficial to look inwards and effect change that way, but in my experience, sometimes you just have to find better people to be with, or take a job with less human interaction. If you spend too much time trying to fit yourself around people, you'll end up bent out of shape! Some people and places are better avoided!

[@PrathapRinKochi]

He's quite an inspiration. He truly expand our perspectives of things,places and people.He hasn't got the right acceptance from our Corporate ruled world of greed, Narcissism and distortion of our beliefs, thoughts and attitudes towards others or the humanity at large.I truly adore this man.

[@b-rare]

Everything is my fault . That’s what I say and preach . You always have the choice to act a certain way and then what follows next is direct result from your choices in life. That’s an amazing way to not be the victim all the time and take some initiative in your life. Life will throw challenges at you and it’s how you react to those challenges is what gives you the result

[@jzen1455]

I like to see the world as a complex video game with certain fixed actions/reactions, and I'm the protagonist--like Mario--navigating it. Yelling at the Goombas, wishing they'd move differently, or wishing they wouldn't kill me won't change the fact that they killed me. It was from my actions that led to the Goomba Goomba-ing in the way they Goomba to kill me; it was my fault. The world is going to operate just as it will operate, and you can only control how you react as you navigate it. Dwelling on how things aught to be is a recipe for frustration and a deep sense of hopelessness.

[@jlindsay]

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[@desi2031]

@@jzen1455 That was well put, excellent example.

[@WaldorfStatler]

Bur you don’t need to be a ”winner” or master for havin a fine life,. Good enough is enough to me anyway❤️

[@sammalekzai7798]

Dear Tom, It is a true blissing to have people like you. Please keep up the great work.❤❤❤

[@ChristianSoschner]

Amazing conversation. Love it

[@anettas.1751]

great and respectfull interviewer. 👍💐 lets person speak, listens, does not rush, explains why he asks a question when person needs explanation and asks wise questions.

[@sayusayme7729]

Love this man, learning so much. Thank you Tom. ✌️

[@jamirova]

This is such a profound talk, thank you for this

[@alexmorris3759]

Very good information, I didn't talk to people until I was 10. I definitely observed everyone and everything when I was a child. Non verbal communication is very deep and has impacted the way I react and communicate with people today. It is a blessing I didn't talk before I was 10 years old. It has shown me things I know I wouldn't have.

[@shadg8047]

Wow, I love where this conversation is going.. I really like this guys talk.

[@Humanity4ALL]

Most everything, thus far and excited to hear the rest of this video; learned that self awareness is something required before anyone there is realization, reflection and introspection. I’m 52 and love that I can still learn life.

[@azyfoley960]

Two of my favorite people!

[@dean9463]

Just love these two, sir Robert Greene is such a genius when it comes to revealing Harsh yet reality of human Nature, and Tom is such a fascinating guy when it comes to processing and asking the right questions ✨❤️, there's is so much I've learnt in this 3 hour video. So fascinating and amazing.

[@kimobush2287]

He articulates very well practical every day problems, in a deep way. Incorporating power elements in thinking and feeling

[@chineduafoama3494]

I usually don't leave comments... But I have to put this out there; the reason I love Tom's interviews is that he is willing to get vulnerable and be put on the spot Look how Robert is now dissecting Tom's insecurities on screen and he is fearless sharing it with me. Thank you Tom. You make content like no other ...

[@MLEPOS1]

Imagine seeing the way all things are! Got to be a super power!

[@TrietLyCuocSongGSH]

You are one of the most inspiring people I have ever met, you are as real as can be and it's hard to find words to say how much I appreciate your work. it's amazing

[@Lovebuzz11-11]

I have been focusing on this , perfect timing. ❤❤❤

[@lenayoung1497]

This discussion is clear that we talk more then we know how to listen, thinking is the abstract process of what the Will can do not a fundamental bases of the only way to do a thing. Expression start in the womb, most people feel disconnected, and lost because growing in an environment that foresters limited ideas cripples expectation to be formula.

[@SCruz-ec9hi]

He’s the type of guy who might be an absent father (due to the his work) but he would certainly become the best Grandfather in the entire world. His grandkids would look at him , like a real life Jedi

[@jypseamoon930]

I understand, I had a heart attack and three days later a stroke, with physical therapy, I got better, I have a pacemaker now.and imagine myself as super human.

[@barrypascoe960]

Welcome to the world of Cyborgs, I also have a pacemaker, along with mechanical parts, (knee replacement, 9 pins between both shoulders and a Bolt holding my L/ Elbow together). When I walk into a surgical ward, I can hear the welcome calls from all my relatives (Machines around the ward, I feel I have a whole new family of support)

[@benjaminford1863]

Thanks for sharing.

[@susancampbell6282]

Love Robert Green you are so clear unbelievably wise. Great great man and Teacher

[@pia2021]

Tom you are a great interviewer! I love your follow up questions.

[@fourinthamornin]

Sheeeeesh 3 hours with two legends? Tuning in now🤞🏼 thank you Tom!!!

[@drshems]

Wow. I really enjoy this great guys. Thank you both!

[@andreannecaron2114]

Thank you SO much to you both! 🙌 The part on the cosmos made me think about Michael Singer course; it is amazing, thank you

[@marieduhart3168]

I needed to hear this today

[@ZACKY-FLY]

Always be carefull not to tap in our dark side stay good people but protect yourselves at all times 😅

[@joshuatrott193]

Robert Green laid out a number of my patterns. From the abandonment, narcissistic mother-patterns to list a couple

[@montgomeryscottys8213]

Yup mothers live through their sons to an extent, because their the only man that they’ll be able to control

[@HOMAKiNGh7k]

O my god Robert became my new master, love you guys so much!!!! Thank you Tom for that video!!! I want cry from the happiness what kind knowledge I could heard here… I N C R E D I B L E ! ! ! !. We are mirycle please believe in that!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Donnaerobicover40Fitness]

Thanks for doing this video. As I was watching and listening to your video I thought, I think like this guest, and then I heard you mention his stroke, I had a major stroke and it can be debilitating if you let it, I’m sorry I truly believe that. If you believe you’re finished after the stroke then you are. I’m so glad I never gave up and acceptance is key for everything it’s not like you’re giving up but you have to accept in order to move forward. Thank you Tom for this interview. 😊

[@dogie1070]

Yes! Thank you! 🎉

[@zainaraza9585]

Perhaps you are right and there literally could be something wrong with the people we are dealing with but in the end we gotta accept the fact we can't change other people but we can only change and control our attitude.

[@hantor4]

You are so right .and sometimes you froced to deal with wrong or bad people .life has tough choices .no matter how wisely you choose you can end up with wrong choice

[@nunusameera1523]

Thanks a lot for letting us hear from him

[@n3m4ra]

"everything is my fault" attitude can be very self-destructive if you're not careful. Also, it can instill a false sense of total control of the outcome or that your part in anything has a much bigger impact on the scenario than it actually has. Personally, I've had to learn to apply the opposite mantra "I've done what I can the rest is up to the other person" because I don't know how much sleep I've lost in my life due to overthinking things I could have done differently.

[@n3m4ra]

"My life is an exact reflection of choices that I've made" yeah sure, maybe helps some people sleep at night thinking like this but remember that people don't choose to become severely ill for example. Diseases don't care about your "ownership" of choices. No one has the exact same options when it comes to choices in everyday life, there are many boundaries depending on your resources and your health for example. Some people just have to do with trying their best with what they have in that moment and leave it at that.

[@n3m4ra]

What I'm trying to say is that this attitude that if you want to be different you make different choices is flawed. Sometimes the change we yearn is outside our control due to limitations such as health, or money for the matter. What's easy to change for some people may be near impossible for others for complex reasons.

[@l.w.paradis2108]

You are totally right. Greene is agreeing with the host here. No idea why.

[@l.w.paradis2108]

Was any abused child asking for the abuser who did that to them? I'm reading a book by a woman who treated Holocaust survivors. You know where I'm going with fault here . . .

[@l.w.paradis2108]

Copy of my OP in another thread: "Everything is my fault?" LOL, that's the ultimate megalomania. Suppose you are a passenger in a car and out of the blue, you are broadsided by a drunk driver. Broad daylight, your driver is perfectly sober and has never been in a crash. Is it your fault? No, but rehab (and a fat lawsuit to pay for it) --- 100% your responsibility. You think you'll win if you tell the drunk's lawyer that it was your fault? Or that you'll make better progress in your rehab by blaming yourself? So twisted!

[@lilamnbdh967]

Thank you so much for sharing this amazing conversation Tom 🙏❤️..

[@jlindsay]

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[@kingzion6636]

I love Robert Greene his books have helped me alot

[@misguidedpearls7456]

Yessss I'm so thankful for this guy

[@Mario_Life_Capitan]

Which one the most?

[@kingzion6636]

@@Mario_Life_Capitan 48 laws

[@dugknndy]

Great stuff, thanks for putting this out

[@visionvixxen]

Problem is so hard to know what went wrong. And harder if youhave add and asd and whatever other layers of thought and perception have been messed up through years

[@stanleykania7184]

Good talk

[@carlosbecerra4189]

Loved it thank you!

[@TheAnonyte]

Thank you.

[@soojinkim7979]

놀라운 강의 감사합니다

[@justa_dude]

Phew.. Thank you for posting such powerful content, he hit me when he mentioned we depended heavily on our emotions prior to complex language, our emotions served as a way for the group to communicate. Thank you

[@jlindsay]

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[@juleendickson1079]

I am still getting things back from my stroke after 10 years. I can do things now that I never dreamed that I would be able to do again. There is always hope after a stroke, it just takes orders of magnitude longer than you think. Hang in there!

[@THEGPROJEK]

Thanks for your encouragement! I had a stroke two years ago where I had to relearn to my abc’s, count, write, and read again. It’s humbling as a lawyer to start over, but I’m having trouble with changing my stories about my patterns in recovery.

[@ketonesnotglucose4978]

Change the diet to a ketogenic diet and intermittent fasting lifestyle!

[@AronAblelom]

Legend person🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤

[@michaelz2525]

This was excellent time spent. Many times I lose hours listening to idiots on KZbin and by time I realize it’s too late!! Well done this guy was great and you are good interviewer

[@tariqmahmood2081]

Law No 1 is the most powerful It always works

[@charmainelumangyao]

This man is amazing! Such an inspiration! I hope to meet him "ONE DAY". Been listening to his podcasts and watching his interviews.

[@misguidedpearls7456]

Yaaaaaay Robert greene

[@PatricioMilad]

Great interview, Tom. Thanks!

[@fulol]

amazing channel wealth of knowledge here

[@chrischacon7814]

Got Lisa's book on Audible. Thanks Tom! I am using your insights to get me through some tough times.

[@sweetbabyem]

Watch Andrew tate if you want insights, Lisa is just as troubled as you lol don’t take advice from someone who doesn’t follow there own advice

[@fulol]

it's sad that society is set up to make us all feel miserable and influences us to be obsessed with wealth profit and materialism instead of teaching ppl that true wealth begins with self improvement so in that sense im very grateful to come across educational videos like this.

[@steeleheroesmedia4699]

Accurate thinking matters.

[@steventran1057]

Thank you so much for doing this wonderful interview. I shared it to all my friends and family. I wish I can put more like into this video to show more support! thank you and wish you always in good health!

[@jadedshy6831]

This is a powerful video! Such profound knowledge in these 3 hours, took me three days to see it through to the end and I’m proud to say I’m walking out enlightened for sure :)

[@kimobush2287]

Wow this guy is so interesting and intelligent

[@elvisrodriguez2239]

Very powerful information!👍🌴✨

[@rhondabritt3086]

thank u

[@creativeminds613]

Love this.

[@williamholleman8673]

Thanks

[@lisaariottiart]

I dated a brilliant Cambridge educated scientist who married very wrong and handicapped his entire career trajectory. Robert's comments on marrying the wrong person and the envy of scientists is very true--- I barely escaped with my sanity.

[@williamkreth]

Such a good episode

[@AbundanceRun]

Rob provides helpful perspectives! His content has changed my life

[@bahmustapha407]

I think law 16 is my favorite one.

[@magichourbyjerricawalker4922]

I am overjoyed listening to this. A few weeks ago this would not have provoked joy and gratitude. I am wondering if you interact with fans? Are you interested in testimonies via email? Please share if so!🙃

[@virtusmindset]

I absolutely love this interview! Very smart on both sides, brilliant. I am just not sure if we are animals who need to become humans as the writer said, at least I never felt like an animal.

[@wolfesound]

I believe in taking full responsibility of our lives and bottom line, however, just like everything else, nothing is without exceptions. I do not believe those living in warzones, kidnapped, murdered, or raped are at fault. Those who were born into circumstances and environments that will overpower any strength they have are at fault. If you are starving, there is little chance to be healthy enough to get up and do something. We are often responsible for our response to life, and just as often not. No need for extreme or finite thinking as it compromises those under dire situations who end up being blamed by those who take on this belief without fully understanding it. Where you come from is clear to me, but not to everyone, Tom. Not those who victim shame anyway.

[@deaglefly4338]

I love his philosophy’s

[@fukkenell]

I totally agree with you gents - Something bad or someone does bad, it is MY fault, I am the Captain of my own Ship!

[@tarax8410]

That is my favourite saying but I do include that some times I need a few more lighthouse to help show me my way .. 😊...

[@scramblendan]

I love Robert's passion for living!

[@brandy24]

Oh wow that's exactly what iv been thinking just everyone else thinks I'm crazy half the time but it's true.. woah I'm seriously in a woooaaahbh moment.

[@shadg8047]

Omg, I had a stroke too. Yoga and body building will help so much, seriously.

[@jackieburton7065]

This is such an enlightening collaboration, thank you so much Tom 💚💜

[@WaltBabeLuv2008]

❤

[@nextgenjest3637]

I am wowed by those better than myself too. Great statement, XXX But even the best need help. XXX

[@IngeniousDimensions369]

Collective right thinking must be achieved.

[@jordandelfino]

Look at yourself instead of blaming others... And do not blame yourself as well...